Its funny how anyone who talks about men's issues feels the need to put a huge disclaimer about how they also care about women before daring to say anything. It really speaks to our current social climate.

@Joe-ku1ko

2 ай бұрын

It's called gynocentrism. If you say something that doesn't uplift women, its obviously misogynist.

@Jester375

2 ай бұрын

Yes!

@monkeytime9851

2 ай бұрын

@@Jester375 Yes, and notice how the reverse is not true. It is a form of sexism that rarely gets addressed.

@SongsoftheEons

Ай бұрын

Right, you have to couch it in "I know you don't give a damn about men, but hurting men also hurts women!"

Really appreciate the work being done by Richard Reeves. We need to work together for the common good of our youth and to restore social capital in our communities....

I’m an army vet currently student teaching in a 7th grade ELA classroom in Hawaii. I hear this message deeply, hence my choice of profession. I also see the stories Richard points to in painful detail. Thanks for the discussion!

@Iamhere829

Ай бұрын

Aww, as a feminist woman, i say..keep up the good work, Sarge We need more parental figures like you..🥰❤

Great talk, thank you! Of all the things Richard says the one that we should list to most is (paraphrased) "if we don't listen to young mens problems, they'll go to the online manospehere and find someone who will, and that person is probably going to be toxic."

I didn't see Dr. Niobe Way's book "Deep Secrets: Boys’ Friendships and the Crisis of Connection" in the reference list. She has been working in the space of boyhood, friendship, and masculinity for decades. Highly recommend her work if you enjoy Richard's ideas here.

Finally, someone who isn't afraid to say what needs to be said.

2500 views and 6 comments on this important talk is a stark reminder on how much people care.

One word: local. Think of 5 boys you know right now and spend time with them regularly. Your own children, their friends, your nephews, godchildren, or neighborhood kids. Yes, National policy matters, but the biggest impact you and I can make is in people who are physically near us. Coach a team, plant a garden, read a book, take a walk, go to church, fix a broken pipe, get an ice cream and bring some kids along with you. ✌️

@markkleiner157

19 күн бұрын

I think 'local' is a good point -- just not a one word point. Because structural policies do so much to constrain or open up opportunities to think and act locally with those in (or not in) our midst. You mention children -- while Richard doesn't go directly into this much in this particular talk, when policies constrain fathers from being in their children's lives, for example, they/we cannot invest in children who aren't physically near us. So I would say it is definitely a both/and -- local presence/national (as well as regional) policy

Who cares about the struggles of Boys and Men ? Mr Reeves Thank You for your work it matters. The tipping point of confusion needs to be addressed truthfully. Please start now .

In Christina Sommer's book The War Against Boys, the author mentions segregated schools along the lines of male and female. She cites how some federal policy title 8, 9, or 10 I do not remember exactly, but blocks this type of education. Regardless she shows how this type of education benefits both boys and girls. I often think on how the scientific renaissance as well as economic boom were born out of this type of education. It seems to me Mr. Reeves is fearful of mentioning this.

@Iamhere829

Ай бұрын

Yes as a student from all girls school from kindergarten to high school I do see a huge benefit of gender segregated school.. More girls were able to focus on more education , openly laugh and be loud without worrying about some guy finding them unattractive.. Girls also participated in sports as all of the sports were specifically aimed at girls and we were much more comfortable running and jumping around in sports shorts without the fear of harrasment... Meanwhile boys in the boys school are also able to focus more on their studies without being in competition with their friends for the most beautiful girl in the class and able to focus more on studies, and hobbies.. But my only problem is that then there also needs to be a healthy form of socialisation between boys and girls beyond the opposite gender being a sex partner.. Like challenging based on healthy differences and normal platonic friendships.. In our region the single gender schools do exist and they're fun but usually we're taught from an early age that being with the opposite gender is bad because s*x and also that opposite gender is a 'distraction' from a successful future or friendships with same gender friends.. Our school really had some awful misconceptions about boys and vice versa.. Our schools were Catholic convents and boys only so hating on the opposite gender was actually considered a 'good' thing as it kept us all away from 'sin' (s*x).. Even teachers would encourage girls to be cruel to the opposite gender.. Alot of which we're unlearning now..

Reeves proposal could be interpreted as a "DEI" type of solution, where he wants to equalize the outcome. But, given the Neuroscience behind the differences in mental development between boys and girls, he really is proposing an "equality of opportunity" solution which will probably help balance the outcomes between boys and girls but not necessarily exactly equate the end result. No doubt that it is a problem, and solutions are needed.

@terraneaux

Ай бұрын

You can't extract the differences in neurodevelopment from the fact that mothers emotionally neglect their sons compared to their daughters from basically birth. And primarily female teachers in K-12 education discriminate against boys from the start. We need to focus on getting rid of that anti-boy discrimination before we try anything stupid like this which may disenfranchise boys more.

I want there to be an Opera, "Richrd Reev" with a ballet corps, an artists troupe, an meldey of musicians and some film people.

What no-one gets is making better boys will make things better for girls. Making better girls will make things better for boys. We should be trying to create the best boys and girls...humans, we can. And if that involves different approaches for sexes then so be it. We consider this for boys and girls on the spectrum or with learning difficulties...we teach differently, we give them different things. Yet....we standardize learning for both sexes. It's daft. And anyone that says well we don't have to worry about boys and need to focus on girls is incredibly ignorant and discriminatory. Zero sum for girls is beyond stupid. Just as zero sum for boys was...once. One would think in searching for equality we don't tilt the complete opposite way.

Not just a imbalance in teachers, but psychology also. The lack of support networks and systems. When the statistics show they are needed. Also prison statistics and populations. Male vs female populations and abuse statistics. Lesbian vs gay abuse rates. Also the disparity in male vs female sentences for the same crimes. Child care to probability of problems later on like prison. Couples do best, single males next, single females had the highest probability of a kid getting into trouble later on. Also things like abuse shelters need to be made. The statistics support such.

Get an improved worth for male teaching education in college to increase male teachers!

Public policy problem = culturral probklem

Jenner delivered a first ballot Hall of Fame performance for most antagonistic and utterly obnoxious interview in 2023 of a speaker trying to share finding, problems and potential solutions at a conference designed to share findings, problems and potential solutions. My wife and I did laundry, baked a cake and knitted a sweater in the time it took Jenner to stop talking about herself and deliver each question, making sure to insult the speak on a regular basis.

Indifference concerning the struggles of Boys and Men is not acceptable nor helpful because the government does not have the political will to change the situation on the grounds of no data of suicide, educational struggles and more .

The fact that he has to spend a few minutes telling us that women still have problems is ridiculous. "It's OK! Women are still more important!"

The reality is that Mr. Reeves sees the correct data and extrapolates a correct outcome in isolation, however, the reality is that all the progress and catering to women does in fact come at the expense of men. The restructuring of the world to cater to female success and sensitivities has resulted in the destruction of Men's historic and desired roles as providers and protector while simultaneously destroying the relationship paradigm between the sexes that our species has had throughout essentially all of time. Boys don't try to become Men because it is no longer worth the attempt for the vast majority when they do the hard math on the cost-benefit analysis of building a family, especially with the quality of women now available. Add to that the loss of Christian principles that undergird the entire system and the incentive structure for Men to act well and the entire system is headed for a catastrophic break. He is right about the most important thing though if the problem doesn't get fixed then eventually you will get a movement of disaffected men who see that they have nothing to lose by breaking the whole society (likely through violence) and if that group is large enough then there will be no stopping them and everyone will have to live in the new and likely worse world they will build.

@danx1216

2 ай бұрын

exactly

@Joe-ku1ko

2 ай бұрын

I think it could be a lot more balanced, but women would have to voluntarily give up the benefits they are receiving, which is not going to happen. There is a snowball's chance in hell that women vote to help men succeed like men voted to help women succeed. Its not how women work.

@ianl5882

2 ай бұрын

Wow well said

5 minutes of apologizing to women before he even starts