Read the full guide at: www.grayingwithgrace.com/elderly-clean-after-bowel-movement/

You buy an add on bidet for less than $100 called “Tushy”. I love ours as it does the job for disabled folks. It’s worth every penny and easy to install.

@pauladrennan4223

18 сағат бұрын

I have the Luxe 320 bidet. So easy to install! I can't believe how clean it leaves you!

You do not have to be old or disabled to use possibly a cleaner way to clean after toileting. The use of water helps ensure all soiling is removed.

Im 65, have severe full body osteoarthritis.. I had moved in with a friend a couple years ago and discovered she had a simple budet attachment on the toilet. Thats when O discovered the utter joy if bidetsand the cleansing ability. I eventually moved out a couple years later . I bought a portable bidet. I niw live in my mini van and depend on wet wipes,that bidet, And fast food bathrooms for alot of my hygiene.

@Julia-xf5ps

Күн бұрын

Yes!! Good for you😄

@marydesiree2638

10 сағат бұрын

Sad

And tips, but I would add that the open front toilet seat allows for better access of certain hygiene tasks, too. 👍

If you’re in Long Term Care and ring the bell for an aide, good luck! My Dad got out of bed and fell! He died 3 weeks after, guess he doesn’t have to be in pain anymore!!

@sharondoan1447

11 сағат бұрын

Guarding against residents falling while trying to get to the bathroom is an ongoing concern in hospitals and residential facilities. The need to go can come up suddenly ! The staff member is in the bathroom with another resident and cannot come at a moment’s notice. Or, a resident is having an emergency that has all the staff trying to manage the situation. There is never going to be enough staff to assist all residents to the bathroom at the same time, especially at night. I could offer a dozen scenarios on this subject. Elderly people also fall at home when attempting to get to the bathroom and safely on and off the toilet, especially at night. Recently, I met an injured lady at physical therapy who had gotten up at night to use the toilet. She has no memory of what happened, but she ended up in her cat’s kitty litter box! She said she hit her head and shoulder on the wall and tub. Yes, she did relieve herself right there in the kitty litter box. The dear lady was injured but lived to tell her story.

Right across from the toilet is my bathtub which has a wide sill and a vertical grab bar attached to it. This enables me to use the tub as a bidet. I place a washcloth on the wide sill (for comfort) then sit on the cloth with my "exit" hanging into the tub area. I use the handheld shower device to clean the area. I pat myself dry then rinse the tub thoroughly. This arrangement works well for me, takes only a minute... and costs nothing. PS - another plus is that I can use WARM water if I wish.

This is a really informative and caring video to put out. Nice.

Seven years ago I fell down some stairs and broke both ankles. I remembered back when I had a caesarean section and the hospital sent me home with a " Personal Spray Bottle", and was thankful to have one, and a donated commode. Since my home was built in 1927 and doorway to the bathroom was to narrow for my wheelchair. I'm healed now and still use a personal spray bottle

We have 2 bidets. They spray warm water-and temperature is adjustable. We spray soap water in a plastic bottle . They are awesome.

@letabranch7459

20 сағат бұрын

I wish my bidet had warm water. My bathroom isn’t installation friendly. But, I’ve gotten use to the cold water. I still love it especially after back surgery.

A lidded container with a little bleach in water is the better way for storing used cloths to clean/dry . Storing dry could cause bacteria to spread and permanent stains. I use this method and wash the cloths every 2nd or 3rd day. They are sanitised clean and never have stains

Accident or debilitating illness can make this you, too. Thank you. 🙏

We got an Omega toilet seat. Actually you keep your old toilet seat and the Omega is a thin hose that fits underneath the seat. It hooks into the shutoff valve by the toilet. It comes with a dial to squirt the water. We can use it in the apartment, no plumbing issues.

Mu tip....fill an old washing up liquid bottle with water and use to help wash clean after wiping. I keep a small bar of soap handy and a stack of flannels to dry, my toilet is next to sink so can easily fill my bottle.

Thank you for discussing this subject

I have a My Buddy toilet Tissue wand works well for me. I have short arms and have 4 lowest vertebrae are fused together. I have learned how to use My Buddy. It took a bit to learn just how much to use and I am getting better at it and it uses less toilet paper too.

My bidet was only about $60, and i installed it myself with a broken thumb. It fits right on the rim, under the seat. It has temperature control and cleans the "undercarriage' so thoroughly! I dry with baby washcloths, which go into their own dedicated waste bin for weekly washing.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Thanks for sharing how beneficial and easy bidets can be!

Thanks for the video. I got alot of info to pass on to a friend.

Very useful straightforward information. Thank you.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

Thank you for this information.

Very helpful information for anyone that has a sudden on set of disability. Some of these options can benefit women during pregnancy. I am a care giver, and one of my clients is morbidly obese and struggled with cleaning himself after a bowl movement. We opted for the shower wand. Had grab bars mounted in his shower, and purchased a bariatric shower chair. Hi uses the chair to stabilize himself while rinsing off. As to the first comment about ‘water alone isn’t good enough’ there is some truth to it, but not to that degree. The difficulty in removing feces because it’s stuck to their skin, comes not with people that defecate in the toilet, then use water alone, but this pertains mostly to patients that are wearing adult diapers. If the feces is stuck to the skin, it’s because it’s been there, most likely while the patient is in bed, laying on it, or sitting in it. If it’s there for a little while, just like a baby, it’s going to take wiping and cleansers. I am grateful videos like this exist. Sometimes when trying to convince a patient to try something different, and they are skeptical, I validate the idea by sharing KZread videos, this one will be very helpful. I find it helps them realize that this isn’t weird, they aren’t the only one experiencing this issue, it’s normal, and nothing to be embarrassed about.

@GrayingWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for your validation and kind words. This is an unfortunate but necessary part of life for many disabled people and older adults. So, the best thing to do is find a viable, workable solution like you and your client did!

Retired nurse of 40 years. Worked in nursing homes 4 years. Skin on elderly is thin and prone to chafing or bleeding from wiping to remove feces. And the concentrated urine in the dehydrated is very difficult to remove the odor from diaper area. We used a non rinse spray cleanser and I insisted on warm water ( in bath basin) with soft washcloths ( oh, how much resistance from nurse assistants!) but this technique was the best way ( and of course clean clothes and sheets/ protective pads under patient, every time. Long term care facilities are known for unpleasant odors. But, a great nurse manager or Director of facility won’t tolerate poor care. His/ Her pay depends on it

@Julia-xf5ps

Күн бұрын

I’m so sorry you work with idiots! Bless yiu.. 😊

@SpeakTruthBeKind

22 сағат бұрын

Thank you for caring for your people and training the others.❤

For water conscious folks: It takes 37 gallons of water to make one roll of toilet paper. Bidets are better hygiene and less water. Also.... butt sweat is the smelliest part of your body. You get to clean all with a bidet. Much better. Personally, I used 'TP until covid hit. I had one roll of TP. Went to 3 stores, NO TP anywhere. So I bought a simple squirt bottle with a tilted spout as I refused to be forced to pay the price that scalpers wanted. Now I have a rechargeable battery one, its wonderful. 4 years (?) later and the only TP I have is for company. I am glad to know I'm much cleaner without it.

Bidets work

Bidets are life changing. They do such an amazing job. Just had spinal fusion and this thing saved me. Easy peasy and only paid $15 on Amazon. Caught it on sale but normally only like $22

@GrayingWithGrace

4 ай бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing your personal experience!

@BeanCounter86

2 күн бұрын

I came to say the same thing. Bidets can cost a lot less than $500 and are indeed life changing.

❤ Thank you very good information to know as I am getting older.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

You are so welcome!

Thank you for the tips. This video was very helpful. TIP I make family wipes for urine. I cut 8x8 inch squares from older soft shirts, t-shirts, and undershirts. I just throw in with the wash. I have very sensitive skin so these are so much better and free. Also, I put a tiny dab of Organic Coconut Oil in Vagina and Rectom. It really cuts down on yeast infections and dryness. Plus it helps prevent rectum irritation. (I do this daily after I shower and dry off thoroughly)

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Thanks for sharing your tips !

I stopped getting fissures when I got bidet. $70 bidet toilet seat with soft close for the win.

An interesting and instructive video for elderly people. But why the background noise? Many old folks have hearing loss and the "music" makes understanding difficult.

Hi I have some tips. As I have suffered with IBS for almost 40 years I tried everything to help and yes wet wipes do help but are phenomenally bad for the environment. I just wet my toilet paper initially so it is semi saturated. I use 2-3 sheets each time until I can see the paper becoming less dirty with faeces. Sometimes it takes many attempts to clean myself up adequately but this is far easier than having a huge pile of dirty wet wipes or cotton cloths to deal with. You can flush the toilet paper regularly whilst you’re cleaning yourself so you don’t clog up the plumbing! Also I find if I have a particularly sore anus then I use some sudocrem on the toilet paper as it soothes the butt hole from the rubbing to get it clean. Please try these simple and cheap alternatives to using wet wipes if you can. It helps save the planet and also won’t cost you as much.

@monicas2269

3 күн бұрын

I do exactly the same. My toilet is right next door to my bath so it's easy to moisten the tissue without having to get up.

@elainebrockhaus649

3 күн бұрын

I do the same with the addition of a couple pumps (foaming dispenser) of water diluted with a few drops (Just a FEW in the dispenser) of feminine wash soap on a damp bit of toilet paper. I then gently pat dry with a few squares of dry tissue. I find this really helps prevent musty smells as well.

@jjkatichjjkatich5626

18 сағат бұрын

You're a genious!!! This is such a great and practicle idea. Thank you so much. I can even do this when away from home.

Very useful video,explains well

@GrayingWithGrace

10 күн бұрын

Thanks a lot

We don't risk flushing kleenex but discard in waste basket.

Well done thank you ,!,

@GrayingWithGrace

6 ай бұрын

Our pleasure!

👍👍Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️

It should be mandatory for all nursing homes to have a bidets

@jayaCatLvr-ys5ix

3 күн бұрын

Nursing homes r too cheap to get it.

@ahill4642

2 күн бұрын

I agree

@debraclogston9379

2 күн бұрын

Other tha , yes nursing homes are for profit. Plumbing is a nightmare in those settings.​@@jayaCatLvr-ys5ix

I cant reach all the way down there so I installed a bidet adapter to both my toilets but they dont remove it all so I follow up w a silicone bottle brush dipped in the clean water of the flushed toilet-then swish the brush to rinse. Works great. HOWEVER, when I am away from home... !

@kathym6603

17 сағат бұрын

Oh heavens, I have a silicone bottle brush. You may have hit on something here!!

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Traveling is a problem! You can get disposable periwash bottles to carry with you when traveling that might be helpful. They are made of a soft plastic and you fill them then squeeze the water through a small hole so that it comes out with some pressure.

I'm not exactly skinny but I can manage to stand on one foot with the other foot up on the toilet. (This requires something to lean on like a vanity or a wall or whatever can be arranged). This position allows access from behind (pun intended). So I WET a piece of Viva Signature Wipe and continue to fold and wipe until it comes out clean . . . tossing the used paper in a plastic bag for disposal with the regular trash. Wash hands when done.

Kleenx tissues work well. A layer of three, no folding required so minimizes the risk of contamination as with TP,minimizing the risk of infection. Just more expensive than TP.

@margareth1504

2 күн бұрын

I hear that even tissues do not disintegrate like toilet paper does and may not be suitable for flushing. You can test this by placing a few clean tissues in a bowl of water to see if they break up into pieces or stay in one sheet which can be caught up inside the plumbing pipes, and build up to a blockage eventually. Might be worth checking up on.

Basically, get the bidet adapter for your current toilet. I did. Now I need longer seat bolts and a thicker stopper under the toilet seat, so the seat won't break due to its elevation because of the insert of the bidet attachment. Off to the store...

@GrayingWithGrace

Жыл бұрын

Every brand's installation is different but you are doing the right thing to make sure there you have a stable connection. I have personally used and recommend the Bemis bidet attachments. They have a low profile mounting system and some even work with raised toilet seats. Learn more about them here: www.grayingwithgrace.com/best-bidet-for-elderly/

I do wish someone would invent something for over weight elderly people. I have a hard time reaching to clean the bowel movement area.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Sorry to hear about your trouble! Are none of these methods suitable? Have you considered a bidet?

Doesn’t the water send E. coli to the front . I was taught you must wipe,front to back?

@marieliza858

Күн бұрын

I’ve actually thought that myself. If we had a bidet I would probably use toilet paper first and then the bidet. I can’t imagine using a bidet without wiping first. 😬

@annahgibbus8

Күн бұрын

Very good question. I've never seen or used a bidet or bidet attachment, but I assumed you inserted from the front so the water is going from front to back. Hopefully someone will comment & tell us how its done LoL 🤭

@rosierose3257

17 сағат бұрын

Use small amount toilet paper first, then wash from the back, then do a second wash from the front. Only takes a few seconds and your question is solved.

I find a spray bottle works just as well

Our apartment wont let us install a bidet. Is there a rule in ontario on that

@rosierose3257

17 сағат бұрын

You can get a bidet spray hose (similar to shower spray hose) that attaches to the tap at the side of the toilet. No separate bidet required. A plumber can install a double-use attachment on the tap - one link for the toilet water supply and one for the bidet spray hose.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

Great idea.

@GrayingWithGrace

17 сағат бұрын

I used to own some rental property in the US and I allowed tenants to do things like that as long as they left it as it was when they moved in. Bidet attachments are easy to remove should you move. Just unscrew the connection and the seat attachment !

I meant the advertisement

Dry, wet, dry.

I burn our wipes … after use… yep.. we have a diaper pail to collect them then set them outside to dry out then burn them.

@josephclanin4590

12 сағат бұрын

I do the very same thing

Once you've used a bum gun the thought of ever using toilet paper again is sickening.

Wet hand towels, just washing them...

I installed a bidet for my parents, but rather than helping, it made things worse. My dad gets freaked out by it, tries to stand up to see the wand, and poop gets on the ground, leaving my mother to clean up after him. Frustrating.

@Julia-xf5ps

Күн бұрын

Well that really sounds like you’ve tried your BEST and your dad has dementia! I mean c’mon……😢 Bidets are really not that complicated….. did you tell him how to use it correctly….

@pamelaf.2776

Күн бұрын

@@Julia-xf5ps yes he has dementia. My mom showed him how to use it but I think the noise it makes bothers him she said. But I did try my best, and we ended up removing it altogether so now when he has the “accident” my mom has to help clean him up in the shower which he seems to prefer. It’s so sad and frustrating. Won’t wear adult diaper either.

Get a Toto toilet!

@Adogslife54

Күн бұрын

Ya took the words right out of my mouth. I bought a Toto. My next move (pardon the pun), will be to buy the washlet attachment. Best solution yet!

Gee whiz, can hardly understand you.