I wanna express my thanks to you Anna. You help me approaching my love interest. I dont create scenarios anymore, I create the reality of interacting with them. Even though it's not cupcake and rainbow everytime, I think I'm getting healthier. Yeay.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Great job!

What you're describing not only exists in what you term a 'relationship' but exists in friendships as well. Either trying to create friendship with people who aren't available (because of their own wounds), emotionally avoidant, users, or disinterested in authentic committed friendship.

@yehmen29

8 ай бұрын

I am very good at accepting 'friendship' from people who only want to use me, especially men who just want to use me for sex but aren't upfront about it.

@pipwhitefeather5768

8 ай бұрын

I have a problem with friendships too.

@timothyammons9011

8 ай бұрын

Recognizing that it’s something you’d rather not do… But also, see the inherent benefits and needs that are getting met, or the FAMilarity comfortableness. I wish you well! 💗

@timothyammons9011

8 ай бұрын

Hey there… want to have a problematic friendship with me? 🤗

@Sweet_Hart

8 ай бұрын

@@timothyammons9011 lol

She needs to be very careful. Ive done the same thing to a regular, non-incarcerated dude and it resulted in stalking and threats to my safety and employment. I highly recommend she change her address, phone number, ect. This guy is in prison, a pressure cooker for violent men and her letters are probably the only thing he looks forward to, take they away, he might become vengeful.

Learning about limerance changed my entire life…most of my connections have been limerant with the exception of just a few.

@loricasto8470

8 ай бұрын

Same

@roralyn

8 ай бұрын

It was very painful for me, but it's also freeing. We don't have to crapfit anymore ) :)

@yehmen29

8 ай бұрын

Same thing here. I was so frustrated when I stumbled upon it, a couple of months ago. The concept was around 3 decades ago, and if I had learnt about it (for example through one of the rubbish 'therapists' I saw in my early 20s) I would have had a completely different life. Well, tomorrow (it's over 10pm right now, I'm headed to bed) is the first day of the rest of my life.

This was me. It became too painful to live like this. Now I work on my healing and only allow relationships of all kinds in my life that are mutually beneficial on all levels. This was and still is not easy, but it's the only way to live.

It makes so much sense. I was neglected and abused since just after I was born. Before I had words. Before I could form memories. I was conditioned to accept that neglect and abuse was normal. Since it happened so early in my life, my brain was literally hardwired to feel comfortable with being devalued and ignored. Now I'm becoming aware of this and attempting to rewire my brain and "upgrade my firmware" so to speak. The past few weeks have been extremely difficult. But there will always be ups and downs. After many weeks of "thriving" I'm finding myself in a "surviving" phase. Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

It sounds like you have a great mentality and are putting in the work to heal! Thank you for sharing, we're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@demian8439

8 ай бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you for the encouraging words. As I'm going through this very difficult phase your kindness is really appreciated. 🤍

@gelliebeane6789

8 ай бұрын

​@demian8439 I really like your analogy of upgrading your firmware. I looked up the definition and I was like "Yes! That's it!!!"

A psychotherapist told me when I was almost exactly your age that when I find myself in a bad state don't be dating at all because even the nice men will treat me crappy. Plus it draws predators when you are in that very depressed state also.

@NinaDreams81

8 ай бұрын

That's interesting. I refused to date because I feared that I was too vunerable in that state. My name therapist would encourage me to date anyway. It turns out that therapist was abusive to me. I started to do real healing when I got rid of him.

@vickiwilliams5069

8 ай бұрын

Exactly 😢

@meganromano9582

7 ай бұрын

@@NinaDreams81OMG! I’m so glad you got rid of that therapist!

Friendship where you please people to make them stay with you despite of their toxicity is worst thing .

It's a miracle from God that I ended up with such a wonderful perfect husband despite how traumatized I am. Every man before my husband was unavailable and never would have married me. I thank Jesus.

@Just...Peachy

7 ай бұрын

You're so lucky!

@dolcepescas6153

7 ай бұрын

@@Just...Peachy Nope, no luck, I'm just blessed by the Lord, and He wants to bless you too

@Just...Peachy

7 ай бұрын

@@dolcepescas6153 that's amazing. I hope you're right. I really need a blessing right now to restore my faith.

The best thing about the YT platform is people can learn stuff about neurotic behavior that took some of us a lifetime to understand.

Anna, I would LOVE IT if you could do some shows on parenting with CPTSD. I know a lot of the relationship advice out there is geared towards romantic relationships, but many of us, such as myself, aren't even looking to get into a romantic relationship ATM, but are struggling with our role as parent. I know you as a fellow parent have some amazing tips to share for those of us trying to heal ourselves and make sure we don't ALSO traumatize the next generation. Thanks for all you do!

This is the story of my life, always feeling attracted to unavailable MEN. But this time it's worse because I have feelings for a WOMAN I met recently and I have an incredible chemistry and deep connection with her. Even though I know it's just fantasy and nothing is possible between us, I can't get her out of my mind. It's been so painful to acknowledge my feelings for her as well as the same pattern of attraction to unavailable people 😢

I am now in this spiral. I also have cptsd. Same recurring issues and I thank god for you. I need help. I dont even have the strength to share. All I know is that Im in a mess. Pray for me. Thank you

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling, you're in the right place and we're all here for you. If you haven't already, try Anna's Daily Practice. It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy

I think I had a revelation listening to you. I truly need to stop being so critical and harsh on myself about where I am in life. I am 36 and I feel I wasted my whole life. Just one wrong decision after another brought me to a point where I just feel crippling shame about how far behind by societies standards I am. It's not that I didn't try I just had no idea who I am or how to make a life for myself and no body to help me out. I won't forget how my therapist said I am an ambicious person. I thought it was ridiculus. But in reality I have discovored I am, I am also so traumatised I get exhausted by interacions with people most of the time. Just the pure frustration of working in an office with random people is so hard, it lead to a total burnout for me. In society it doesn't really count how much time, energy and all of my savings I spent to work on myself. Just to make some sense of who I am and what I want. And I am very proud of myself. But I followed my heart and went for what I see myslef doing in the future but at the moment it's not looking good. I just feel like instead of starting a new life I am totally stuck. Things going wrong, not really having options. Knowing exactly what I want but just not managing getting there. And the frustration is really triggering for me. I have just been crying and feeling like my life is indangered. It is so hard and after all this time I still doubt myself so much. I hate how deeply traumatised I am. But I think I will try to have more compasion and love for myslef.

At the age of 55 I slowly start to understand myself. This is good, a fairy indeed

This resonates with me. I had a crappy childhood and a crappy marriage. Keeping meaningless relationships is a form of control. I know I’m not going to get attached and he isn’t so I can say I have a sexual partner but without all the other day to day annoyances of working out an actual relationship.

@branalobeee3867

8 ай бұрын

That's what I'm dealing with too. Feels so good to know that I'm not alone with this. Sometimes I thought I'm just a horrible person who likes to take advantage of others when I'm feeling that lonely.

@auntievenom9619

8 ай бұрын

@@branalobeee3867 if you are honest and both feel the same way I don’t see the harm. If the other person has other ideas then it can get complicated. I used to think I could use sex to make someone fall for me and ended up hurting myself. Now, it’s just a biological thing. Nothing more, nothing less.

This is my life. 40 and single but because of my own actions. I want someone but don’t think that person exists.

I like the idea of a "trothe". I also like the way you said, "Mismanaged my trothe," and the way in which trauma women struggle to become healthy and whole enough for a relationship. I am struggling with this now, too, the way in which I could have truly waited to become the best version of myself, before joining my life to another. It sucks to be that girl that just "isn't there yet."

@CarrieMHB222

8 ай бұрын

I hear that. Same here.

So much love for the woman who wrote the letter. Feeling so lonely is terrible and not deserved. Not knowing where you belong is hard. Find people who appreciate you enough for the person you are, would be my advice. People who have shown that they are worth your time and energy. You deserve this. You are worthy, because you are you. And: no, you are not alone. I recognize your way of living. It hurts.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing this with the letter-writer. I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

I can say this with love because i lived it...get a dog or cat. Learn how to love yourself, first! Learn what you love and what you don't love. Work on being your best self. Until then no relationship is going to meet your needs or be what you think you want. My favorite quote, from who i don't know, is 'you attract what you are not what you need or want'. When you are what you need and want then that other person will fit right in. It took me a long time to realize this.

To survive our traumatic childhoods we find ways to cope with the pain. In her case she found a way to feel significant by engaging in flirtatious situations. Unfortunately what works for us in our youth can be bad for us today. It is like needing an Arctic jacket in our youth but when we moved to Florida wearing an Arctic jacket when temperatures are near 100° will kill you today.

Heal your picker, have faith in yourself. It took me a long time but I'm happier since I did it.

@Freedom_Prof

8 ай бұрын

Heal your picker. This right there!! ❤🎉😂

I don’t know if you have a video on this, but I’m a late in life Mom and trying so hard NOT to pass on my poor family dynamics. I find that I can’t maintain relationships, no energy for anything except parenting, because I just love my daughter so so much. My resentment to my Mom crept up when my daughter was born, and the more she grows the resentment towards my Mom builds. That feeling of not understanding why she was so distant and unaware. The more and more I love being a Mom, the angrier I get at my Mom. 😢

This woman sounds very articulate, wide, and Full of Potential !! Emphasis on the last one !!! Truly. Sadly our traumas can obviously have negative repercussions, but can also cause an individual to have a deeper, more authentic/real personality.. soul/spirit. That you just cant duplicate when superficial. What I'm trying to say is while you feel broken in some way, in actuality you have rare beautiful qualities that when healed and whole authentic to your true self, are a diamond!! Embrace your true beauty and qualities

Thank you for these videos! I am literally choking the life out of the old me . The part of me who wants to attach to a man who has shown me that we could not work but my recent grief of my grandmother makes me want to reach for him, I have that old desire to just want attention and hugs and connection. But it won’t be real. It will be abuse he is abrasive and vulgar when he talks. I do appreciate how intellectual and comical he is, I like those things. However, I know that who I need is not found in this guy and I keep him at arms length and fight myself choking the life out of that perfect idealizing princess that is growing up and working on herself daily. I feel less shame more and more hearing you speak and reach out to those of us hidden in the shadows. Thank you.☺️

I am disappointed in relationships so much, that now I think I have to be skeptic of everything. I lost that fully trusting individual I once was... I thought I have friends, I thought I have support, I thought I was loved. All of these I thought I have were just created in my head: I cared so much for them, but no one cares for me back. I am in a phase now that I felt that I am doomed to be alone eternally, and love is transactional for me: nothing's free for me.

@EnliveningJustice

8 ай бұрын

Stay a skeptic.. it will protect your heart! And moving on in the future: don't ever give more than what you get in return.

I can generally count on your videos to have top notch content. Thank you for what you do! Anyway, been there (not a situation exactly like this one but with enough similar qualities). I have CPTSD but not from childhood and I won't get into any more than stating that it was the year after I graduated high school--the most horrible year of my life. I had all kinds of problems after (friendships, relationships, roommates, work-life)... I took no breaks between relationships until after my mid thirties when I started feeling okay with myself. It became much easier to handle rejection or leave a toxic situation myself after that. I'm not saying break-ups (from romantic or platonic relationships/friendships) don't hurt, but I don't feel destroyed. I can move forward and be mostly okay within a couple of days. The hurt still lingers for some time, but it is quieter and only minimally distracting rather than feeling overwhelmed with emotional anguish and unable to function. After losing the love of my life 8 years ago, I noticed this shift and even with sadness, I also felt very liberated from my own previously toxic abandonment melange and self-loathing because "no one could love me." It's not true. Also, my ex still loves me but was unhappy and I couldn't begrudge that. Additionally, multiple currently in my life people DO love me (not all love is romantic and it isn't as needed or important as my own cultural environment). My mother always used to say that I didn't need a partner to "be whole" and it's true; I'm whole all by myself and I like it. This is what healing looks like (although I still have more healing to do and that's okay too).

Tanisha, best of luck to you sweetie. I got chills when Anna was talking about the power that you hold! Hoping to hear a positive update from you in the future ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your encouragement for the letter-writer! -Calista@TeamFairy

How did this video come up right in the middle of my dealing with exactly what you are talking about?! I mean EXACTLY. Especially the pain of understanding what's happening while trying to heal / in healing. (I've been writing to you in my head for three years, Anna, but my background and issues are SO complex, it would be too long & involved.) Every bit here helps. Of course things from the daily practice have been great but it sure is a sloooooow process. Thanks Anna 🙏💕 p.s. I've watched almost every video you have made and this is seriously one of the best.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you enjoyed the video and are a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

I was attracted to people who did not try to control & smother me like my narcissistic parents. But this led to choosing independent and narcissistic people who could not attach.

Going through similar stuff right now. I met a guy from across the border. He's disabled, in a wheelchair, and his life expectancy is maybe another 10 years. He abrasive, and doesn't appreciate the things I do for him. Looks at other women, and is very selfish. Yet, I stick around. WTH am I doing? He also crushes my self esteem, cause I'm not really his type. What else does he need to do for me to stay away!? I fly to see him every month for a week or so 😮 I'm so drawn to him. Maybe it's the familiar humiliation? Attention? I guess it goes without saying that my childhood was horrible, too. Help 🆘

@smoothtruth

8 ай бұрын

❤

5:09 ... This is so good. Ty AR/CCF .

it’s self sabotage. i walked out on a man who genuinely loved me. i hate myself for it. it’s so stupid i did that. after that i dated guys who were in relationships so that i couldn’t end happily. also self sabotage.

Spot on with the “wherever you go there you are”… I feel I am hobbling thru life… at age 60 I still carry all of the EFFECTS of the trauma. Your videos along with many others help but… it is still present.. and NOT the 🎁 sort. ☹️

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

23 күн бұрын

Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. If you haven't already, try Daily Practice (free course). It is the technique that led to Anna’s own healing, and she uses it to this day. Here’s a link if you’re interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

I can so much relate with Tanisha..Thank you Anna for speaking about these topics..I feel seen and validated! More love and support to her!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing these kind words for the letter-writer, I'm so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy

your work is great. Thank you very much.

I have learned so much from your videos. No one ever hit the nail right on the head like you do, as far as understanding and teaching us the WHYs about ourselves. Regardless of my grasp on things and improving myself for the last several years, reading the titles to videos like today makes my tummy lurch a little. The truth is so raw. But it's good for me to remind myself to check in as to how I am doing in my relationships with other people. I realize that some childhood trauma comes from siblings who, in an effort to feel connected to a parent, side with and further the abuses parents inflict. I think a lot of your topics can address this, too.

Thank you so on much for your honesty and being real with us!!!!

Oh my god the unbelievable energy I used to try to have a man!! Terrible violence growing up!! Absolutely felt unwanted!! Married for 22 years to a alcoholic who did not give a damn about me!! As a older woman now living alone and very very much at peace!! Oh my god what I WENT THROUGH I WAS NOT MENTALLY STABLE FOR SURE!! The pain the hurt never ever was my marriage any good but I CLUNG JUST SO AFRAID OF ABANDONMENT I ABSOLUTELY RUINED THE BEST PART OF MY LIFE!! I have come to terms with it all!! At have peace with it all now!! But my god talk about blind and pretty stupid to not see things!! I forgive myself !! THE BIGGEST RELIEF IN MY LIFE WAS WHEN I COULD SAY. IM OK,!

Thank you for this topic. I'm about to get a new coach, after my last one retired. So looking forward to a new perspective, along with my ongoing meditation, prayer, therapeutic writing, and yoga.

I got it and thank you for your help 🙏

Love your videos, thank you so much 💓

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

I'm so happy to hear that :) -Calista@TeamFairy

Thank you so much for this video, and for talking about your feelings early in your relationship. I finally have a wonderful man, but I push him away and it's been hard. At the same time, it feels healthy and good. It's confusing, but your videos help so much.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

6 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching and for your comment. I encourage you to try the Daily Practice. It can help sort through things that feel confusing. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy

Omg @ heavy smoking on the back porch. Help! I got to stop. Boredom & Isolation is driving this behavior. How did you finally quit Anna?! Everyday I break up with cigarettes throw them on the Trash and go back to them or reach out to a hurtful inappropriate relationship.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Anna made a video on this! Here's a link: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nYFnq7ukor3OmbQ.html :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@Allthingscheri

8 ай бұрын

Thank you! This one slipped past me.

Even though this is for woman I still find a lot of tools in here for myself as a male. I resonate with what you have said. Thank you.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

7 ай бұрын

All the material is for men and women!

She's so me, sending lots of love❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

7 ай бұрын

Glad you're here! -Calista@TeamFairy

It would be nice if the LO understood your trauma but they don't. They just see you as something horrible that happened to _them_ .

@kikki2012

8 ай бұрын

Can you explain LO, please? Limerent object?

@fakhrialsyaban3318

8 ай бұрын

​@@kikki2012limerent other

Hey Anna! I try to access your daily practice course. I live in Turkey and your website says that my country is blocked. I feel confused and discouraged. Can you please resolve the issue with your team? It would be much appreciated. Thanks.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Sorry about that. Our course platform and many others block certain countries due to hacking risks; we don't have a say in it. But if you e-mail my team at hello@crappychildhoodfairy.com, they can send you (via e-mail) the basic materials so you can get started. Once you're on our e-mail list, we can also invite you to the free Zoom calls where we do the techniques together.

Thank you very much Anna, that was very relevant for me. I get the exact opposite advice from other women, especially women from Romania and India. 'You just need to find love', 'You just need to find the right man' etc. I got it from 'therapists' (psychoanalysts and the kind) when I was younger, i.e. in the 1990s. Some of them were marriage therapists too (i.e. trying to 'keep the family together', usually because the wife had found out that her husband had been having affairs or seeing prostitutes, and wanted a divorce), they should have known better. I do blame Disney, and Hollywood/Bollywood, and pop music, and the stupid TV series that 'normal' people seem to be so fond of watching. I have never understood the appeal, except to learn another language. The plot, the dialogues and the acting are so rubbish... and among other things it paints a complete irrealistic picture of what men are really are (you don't see conjugal violence or conjugal rape). As a result, I just cannot make female friends. I have 0 interest in shopping for clothes and don't use cosmetics or make up either, I don't have the money anyway, and I don't have the time to follow them on Facebook, Instagram and whatever and gossip and badmouth other people... I also get way too much offers of sex, i.e. these women think that because I am single, I must be craving sex, and they try to introduce me to totally unsuitable 'boyfriends'. As I've probably mentioned earlier, one of my colleagues tried to play matchmaker between me and a friend of her husband and her, an older guy who was divorced several times. Her idea was that since I would be struggling to pay for rental housing, I would just move in in his 1-bed flat, split the bills with him, and, well... have sex (there's no way I could have lived in a flat with him and nothing would have happened). I quickly worked out that the guy was a wife/partner beater, I told my colleague that I wouldn't consider him because of this, and you know what she said? 'Well, I thought it would be all right for you as you are used to it', i.e. used to being beaten up (I had told her I was physically abused throughout my chilldhood, I didn't tell her about the sexual abuse, as people almost always label me a liar, or mentally sick, or a nymphomaniac/erotomaniac, or all of these at the same time). To me, it is incredible that a woman who knows that a guy is a wife beater would try to arrange a match between him and a female 'friend' of hers. It made me wonder whether her husband sometimes hit her, he was the kind, however she was so in love with him (after 25 years of marriage) that it wasn't likely, i.e. he might have snapped from time to time, because of his temper, but most of the tme she would have been jumping at his every command... Definitely not the type of relationship I would want though... Thank you again, it is good to get advice like yours once in a while.

@thenewyorkcitizen

8 ай бұрын

Sounds like you are good at avoiding problem people like that. Her behavior to try to pair you up with the abuser is outrageous. ❤

@difficulttofindauniqueusername

8 ай бұрын

You deserve better friends. She isn't only a horrible friend (under the disguise of well-wisher), but also a horrible person for trying to endanger your life like that. I really hope that you find better friends.

same

Thank you feel the same ❤so isolede d so go to crapfit even i dont what to .toxic lonlyness..i dont know how to break it .

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

7 ай бұрын

If you’re interested, Anna has a whole course on connecting with people, Connection Bootcamp. bit.ly/CCF_Connection Nika@TeamFairy

Whoa I relate so much to the girl who has the penpal in jail

People are my problem. I need to sign up for the course again. I still can’t tell if I’m trauma bonding or having a true authentic connection

God I needed this.

Just in time

Sounds like some BPD going on. "I hate you...don't leave me." My question would be "what can you do for yourself instead of attempting to put on this bandage made of fake relationships and avoidance." Find a good DBT program and take responsibility for your own care and well-being rather than waiting for the external to fix it.

@pauladuncanadams1750

8 ай бұрын

BINGO! DBT can really help in these circumstances. Not your fault, but you owe it to yourself. Not your fault, but your responsibility to yourself. I wish the writer all the love and kindness in the world.

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Even ppl who are amazing to hang with trigger me.

Men in prison for years, they can not deal with life in the regular world. So within a year or so he would probably do something to go back in again. I have know people in this position before. Also even if he is a straight man they get use to being taken care of other men in there. That comes with lots of problems

Yes

Can this apply to gay guys in their early 20s as well? Or at least someone like myself whose identified this way my whole life? Christianity is simultaneous appealing to my spirit and detrimental to the person I’ve always been due to what the Bible says. Now despite my attractions and behavior I do still stand for certain moral principles when it comes to anything sexual, although my same sex attraction seems to be more emotional or spiritual in nature and not simply a manifestation of my carnality. I find it difficult to believe when people say it’s ok to be the way I am, because they are clearly trying to feed my ego but I am smarter than that, and so I feel restless in myself. I’ve always felt one way and am now being asked by God, if you will, to renounce this behavior. I hear many Christians say it is not the feeling that God sees as wrong but the acting on it. This gives me simultaneous feelings of intense relief and despair. I don’t believe I’m strong enough to let go of my desire for someday having a healthy monogamous relationship with another man. It’s killing me slowly. I’ve met a few guys in my life that were genuinely into me and who treated me with so much love, though of course there were unhealthy dynamics involved with one or two of them as individuals but other than that, it still seems possible in my eyes. I’m just not sure anymore what to think. I feel weak and immaculated as a man because I feel most powerful when I show up as a man comfortable with himself being attracted to other men, and now I see the inherent wrongness of it all yet still crave it so hard

@ashketchup1238

8 ай бұрын

As someone who has struggled with this in the past, you need to reframe your problem. I understand you're abstaining because of your beliefs, but acknowledge that it's still a decision you made, reasons or not. You've already recognized your religion is hurting you. A lot of people like to throw out that "you can't pick and choose" which parts of the Bible to follow, but I disagree. It's a large collection of many books written by many different people across history; not everything in it is that great. If you're already "picking and choosing" to live your life by what some specific books say, why not take one more step and forego the bad parts? I don't know how it is where you live, but I know that there are churches that accept gay people in their ranks and don't demand celibacy in exchange. If your faith is that strong, I won't try to talk you out of it, but please consider the amount of pain you're in and if God really hates you so much he would confine you to a life of such suffering. There are ways to reconcile your faith and who you are, plenty of people have done it. My partner of 9 years grew up religious and still reads his Bible, but I assure you we have still been very, very gay together. It's up to you. Is this one aspect of your faith worth depriving yourself of human connection?

@DeJaVuNous

8 ай бұрын

God loves you and wants a personal relationship with you. Pray to God and ask Him for help with your questions. Ask God for what you need. Maybe this guilt makes you feel rejected….You are so loved by Him. My thoughts… Your heart speaks the truth always. When you love someone your heart has that undeniable feeling. Being gay is an opportunity for you to love your partner and build a beautiful happy life supporting one another. I can’t think of ANY other sins that have good long term consequences to them…

@christopheryannatone4406

7 ай бұрын

My experience is such that I subconsciously believe that anyone affirming my homosexuality is encouraging me to walk in sin, knowingly or unknowingly. I say this as someone who does not consider himself religious, all I know is I believe in a higher power and all people everywhere talk about nowadays is fearing the lord. I’ve certainly done some questionable things and learned from them and experienced deep remorse but this aspect of myself I have never wanted to change. I’m so sick and tired of feeling demonized and only half-loved by everyone around me

@christopheryannatone4406

7 ай бұрын

And though I am not “religious” I do have moments of genuine prayer. The pain is so deep I don’t believe I can reconcile any sort of peace with myself. I’ve always been openly gay and defended others who were as well, the hate we receive is sickening and only furthers any developmental “sickness” we are perceived to have. It’s one giant divine misunderstanding

Thank you, Anna. You talked about power. Can you please make a video on harnessing and recognizing it? So many people derive it from external factors.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Here's one I really like: kzread.info/dash/bejne/g3t8q7GKoa7ddJs.html

Another resource for our community might be "Celebrate Recovery"...a 12-step program that is Christ-centered, Bible-based, 8-principled. Hope this is helpful! 😊❤

Are you a registered psychologist

@erikavaleries

8 ай бұрын

She is a coach not a therapist

Omg love you're advice. I must ask do you have a vid on how you managed to quit the smoking part? I'm thoroughly addicted to cigs and so disgusted with it😢..I truly want to quit and I truly don't all at once. Bit I MUST try😅. Tysm!. P.s. I've considered hypnosis, does that work for ppl. Do you know anything on that subject?. 🫶✌️.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Here's my video on how I stopped smoking: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nYFnq7ukor3OmbQ.html

@nunya6592

8 ай бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I Thank you and APPRECIATE THAT!! 😃 😊 🫶

@truelenscanada

8 ай бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy that link is not the smoking one, I think. It was about an apology

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

You're right. Edited the link.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy

8 ай бұрын

Actual link: kzread.info/dash/bejne/nYFnq7ukor3OmbQ.html