Kristin, I think your son Camden can give better advice than this guy..

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

This “coach” is telling her what she wants to hear instead of what she needs to hear. This is pandering at its finest.

I disagree with so much of this 1. a man doing the vacuuming ABSOLUTELY impacts my attraction to them. I’ve broken up with 2 men now after living with them due to their lack of effort and leaving chores for me to do around the house. It’s a turn off and shows you’re not a team. 2. as someone living in Australia what planet is he living on with activities plus dinner dates once a week? Mini golf etc is extremely expensive plus dinner, for someone you’re not actually sure you’ll like or not? We’re in an economic crisis there’s plenty of ways to create a nice date without doing all that. 3. for a woman to be fearful or holding back isn’t always a bad thing. the right man can be patient with you and work through it especially if you’ve just been in a difficult relationship. 4. if he cheats he doesn’t like or love you. this is such a blanket statement, men can cheat due to feelings of inadequacy, feeling invisible, depression, mid life crisis..

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

Well said.

I hate dating coaches. Dating really isn’t that complicated. Be respectful, know your boundaries, ask questions, trust your gut

@Ayin07

5 ай бұрын

To be fair, you have to know what questions to ask. Or have the self esteem to ask really direct questions. Some naive women need some help.

@tulipchic34

5 ай бұрын

@@Ayin07 don’t overthink it. People reveal so much in general conversation. You just have to listen

@Ayin07

5 ай бұрын

@@tulipchic34 I’m not saying for me. There are a lot of young women who are very naïve about relationships. Not everyone has a ton of life experience in general. If you just graduated high school, chances are you don’t know how to do your own laundry well, much less talk to men with any confidence.

@tulipchic34

5 ай бұрын

@@Ayin07 agree. I tell my daughters. If your not onto it 100% then it’s not right for you

@kschoeck

5 ай бұрын

Dang maybe you should be a dating coach then

One minute in, I just can't listen to this dude.

I love kristin and i love her podcast but did not like this guy at all. Would much rather have had Justin on again than listened to this guy.

@Katheg28

5 ай бұрын

Justin is a Gem. This man is not lol

Love your podcasts ! Such great topics!

Loved this episode; this guy is super knowledgeable and I could listen to that accent all day lol BUT I must say that I didn’t necessarily agree with him saying a guy who’s 40 who’s never been married or had kids is a “little weird” or “a touch bizarre” …I don’t like the stigma this carries tbh….I’m 36 and have never been married or had kids and I ideally want to meet someone my age or a few years older who hasn’t either so who’s to say he’s just not willing to settle and hasn’t met the right person…I think back in our parents age, sure this would’ve been a “red flag” per say but the dating game is so different these days

When he said we have to wear short skirts, long eyelashes and red lipstick to try to be more attractive to our partner, made me want to barf. If your partner isn't showing interest in you even just wearing sweats, then you are wasting your time because they'll most likely always be like that 🤷🏼‍♀️

@nicky7610

5 ай бұрын

yeah that comment was disgusting tbh

@Katheg28

5 ай бұрын

That comment made me turn inside out. Imagine us telling the worlds younger generations of females.... girlssss get your short skirts out! I have literally been objectified by men since I was 13. I am 42 now and still get cat called no matter what I am wearing. The things he said are RIDICULOUS. The comments are not passing the vibe check for us women in 2024 lol. Thank you, Kyra. Your comment is appreciated!

@dkd24

4 ай бұрын

I understand this response. I think sometimes, it's the delivery of this type of advice. I think it is natural for someone to sit up and take notice when we put a different type of effort into our looks. So when we do our hair, makeup, put on a flattering outfit, that is very exciting for the man (and for me too) just like we would get excited for a man who cleans up, fresh hair cut, trim beard, cologne, etc

@isabellesender

3 ай бұрын

Oh, for the love of God, just take his advice and trust me. Taking care of your looks and flirting will go way further than complaining about it.

Kristin your podcast is so top tier. I really enjoy it, and want to thank you for this! Such a great idea!

He doesn't seem to understand the "acts of service" love language. If my man isn't doing anything to help the household, there is zero attraction and I'm disgusted by him.

@JeNn0mic0n

5 ай бұрын

If a man is out there busting his ass and slaying dragons, he wants to come home to peace and comfort, not a mess that he has to tiredly pitch in for too. Occasionally of course, yes he can help, esp if he helped make the mess. But if it’s a situation where both parents are working, kids are in daycare because neither one of the spouses is making solid really good money nor has a stable foundation, sounds like they weren’t ready to get married or have kids to begins with.

@notcountingsheep3361

5 ай бұрын

@@JeNn0mic0n Yeah many variables. Personally I also slay dragons full time with no kids.

@oooh19

5 ай бұрын

hey as a woman i hate these princess-y women who don't lift a finger but men should help. that's why you'd have a partner! like for instance shoveling snow. you both should shovel. it's a lot for one person. and if i come home after work like why shouldnt we all pitch in the household@@JeNn0mic0n

@sarahb_

5 ай бұрын

He’s not saying a man shouldn’t do anything in the home. He’s saying it just won’t make it him more attractive. Just like women doing cleaning/cooking doesn’t make them more attractive. More helpful, yes. A man should still do 50/50 of what needs to be done at that point in the home when he’s home. Whether that’s dishes or putting to kids to bed. A woman isn’t a full time maid/servant/slave just because she is a SAHM or works part-time or earns less.

@notcountingsheep3361

5 ай бұрын

@@sarahb_ Hun, people who receive love in the way of acts of service do in fact find their partner more attractive when they fulfill their needs, which is acts of service...

This guy is mostly garbage but I still watch because of Kristin 😂

@BetterDays_

5 ай бұрын

Same!

@JeNn0mic0n

5 ай бұрын

And how’s your relationship status going? 🙃

@BetterDays_

5 ай бұрын

@@JeNn0mic0n Happily married for 16 years and counting. You?

@roxanne3047

5 ай бұрын

@@JeNn0mic0n happily married for 10 years to the best husband ever and we have two kids. I can 100% tell you’re not 🤣

@HH-gv8mx

5 ай бұрын

Yeah, I started to question some of the things he was saying. I don’t wanna put on fake eyelashes and mini skirts to make a man chase me around. Also, I think there is something to be said for a woman who cooks for a man.

I’ve been married now for 10 years with him for 12 , this is my second marriage and this is so good. I mean I know this stuff but just a refresher and trying to dissect after 10 years why we aren’t able to effectively communicate it’s probably because I am not doing a couple other things that I usually used to do all the time !!! So good, thank you.😊 ❤!!!!!!!

Not sure that Jake is entirely right. I make more than my husband so he can't always pay for all our meals. More importantly, when he can he does and that isn't less than half the times we go out to eat. He's always there for me, STILL gets me flowers all the time, is suuuuper thoughtful in the gifts he gives me and shows up for me ALL the time. Obviously if he could pay for everything he would but right now, he doesn't. It would be different if he made less or made more than me and did not want or didn't pay for our dates at all. I think that is key. One of the things Jake DID get right is to not to date a guy who has a short ___ complex. Often times they project that insecurity onto you. Truuuuuust!

Not all advice is one size fits all. I think he has a lot of great points but it’s not the only way to have a 10/10 in my experience.

‘Be a sunflower. Wear short skirts. Long eyelashes. Red lipstick’. Really? Really? If ‘real’ men are so clever and protective and strong as he says they are why does every move of the ‘the feminine’ seem to need to coaxing, manoeuvring and persuading him? Being indirect rather than direct. And yet we’re supposed to be ‘joyous’ and ‘always in the present’. What the heck kind of warped view is this? I’m sorry but it’s so condescending and contradictory. On the one hand we’re meant to receive and be ‘high value’ (so sick of that phrase) but the way he paints men is as simplistic creatures. This is painful to listen to

I adore Jake, he has great content, advice, and books, great guest Kristin!!

I don't agree with someone picking you up, too dangerous!

The problem is most guys don’t plan elaborate dates. If they did you know they’re likely already higher quality men. There’s so few of them.

@MsJen_GZ

5 ай бұрын

Exactly!!!! He's basically describing an IDEAL partner and there's no such thing as a guy checking every single box!!!! That is perfection and never exists.

@jazzyg530

5 ай бұрын

He says himself that only 1% of men are high quality or high caliber (can't remember how he phrased it). Why even bother if that's the case?

Mature, anti-douche advice. He doesn’t flinch but he’s not arrogant about it. That’s the energy needed in the search for love. Be open, brave, kind, honest, wholesome and…have fun ❤

I feel like he’s talking what not to do but and describing Kristin 😅

Too many ads!!

Let me dumb down my success really quick since I am a woman haha... this man needs to go straight to jail. I have to laugh so I dont break my computer. I CANNOT

Love this and I agree with it

I loved this episode and hearing Jake’s advice!!

Amazing advice and insight.

When he said dating is harder for women, i strongly disagree. My take was hes a man who shares his own male ideals

I totally disagree with the woman not picking up some tabs. Feminine energy? Today, you need both people chipping in to pay for things. This shouldn’t always be on the man to support a women financially that he is dating.

@novakali9885

5 ай бұрын

It doesn't work. If he wants you to pay, he is not a man, but a boy and it won't work

I love this!! I needed to hear this ❤

hey kristin have a wonderful week your so beautiful

Relationships are like balancing on a tightrope. Like why even get on it in the first place? Being single is not a lonely life. It’s a liberating one. Happiness is sharing your life with someone and with yourself but why does it have to be something beyond a friendship? If it’s because you want kids or lots of sex with one person, why put a label on it?

Loved this

Kristin, get Tony Gaskins on your podcast...trust me on this one.

@VowToBeFierce

5 ай бұрын

Love Tony Gaskins.

Such a great episode!😊😊

Watching this after she went official with her younger man ✨️

I did nothing wrong and he ended up not falling for me.I need to know what am I doing wrong.

@ramonamulligan

5 ай бұрын

Just not the right person for you! Rejection is redirection! The right person will fall for you ❤

Can we get a part 2 with him? The last few topics could be entire podcasts

@sarac181

5 ай бұрын

YESSSSSSSSS!!!!! I agree! Part 2 please!

Don’t let a guy you’ve never met pick you up from your house. So dangerous! Terrible advice.

@MsJen_GZ

5 ай бұрын

Omg there is a new Netflix documentary where the woman the guy met online was stalking the guy and harassing him to no end!!!

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

@@MsJen_GZwhat’s the name of the documentary?

Wow this advice is all incredibly toxic. What year did I just get transported to? Ick.

@Katheg28

5 ай бұрын

YES OMG. Thats what I thought. Smh so toxic and gross. I hope Australia doesnt claim him lol

He is not lying about scent. I can recall two men that I dated that had everything checked off on paper. Even my friends and my family were pushing me towards getting serious with these two guys that I dated at different times but I clearly remember one, the doctor I didn’t even want to kiss him. And I didn’t like the way he smelled.. The other guy, 10 years later, was very handsome and came with An entourage of friends. But that was the problem I felt like I was dating a girl, anything that happened in our relationship he would announce to his friend group, and he had a large social media presence. I don’t like that in a man also wasn’t a fan of the way he smelled.

a lot of ppl dont have kids though

Short skirts and red lipstick in one sentence....sexy outfits and sexy profile photos don't work and only attract the wrong guy in another sentence... I SMELL BULLSHIIIIIT!

@NKL2222

5 ай бұрын

There's a difference between portraying that altogether for everyone to see publicly on a dating app versus doing that for your man's eyes. It's more about attention/access when he was speaking on profile. If you're doing the sexy stuff for just him, it's different. Similar to how I'll swipe next on dating profiles with men who have their shirts off etc..bc to me its screaming attention and I don't need that for husband material.. but if we dated, I'd enjoy that at home obviously.

@Katheg28

5 ай бұрын

No bikini pics ladies. Cause we all know men dont want a woman/wife that wears one. lol This man is delulu

@ell4875

5 ай бұрын

​@NKL2222 This us soooo misogynistic. I can wear jimjams and sweats and my partner still thinks I'm hot!!! Bullshit

@NKL2222

5 ай бұрын

@@ell4875 I agree with that too. He was answering a specific question so I think there's a misunderstanding.

I thought tinder is for hookups

he said piranha lol i know it went through your head kristin

Ive loved him forever, hes Aussie and he gives it straight. I say this every time but Ive been an OG Kristin fan. The only thing is I am a bit scared of getting in a car with a stranger and they turn out to be a weirdo and then they know where I live.

This was a great episode.

Him making fun of guys whining was hilarious

I love the people in this chat who don’t have great relationships critiquing this guy hahahah.

@jasminema

5 ай бұрын

and you know that how exactly I dont follow any of his advice my husband and I have been together 26 years in March celebrated 19 years of marriage late last year and couldnot be more happier

Love him 😍 loved this episode please have him on again I felt like this could have been twice as long!

I feel like if you want the foundation of your relationship to be rooted in antiquated and capitalistic ideals, this is the coach for you. Love the podcast, but wow, I couldn’t disagree more with so many of his ideas.

wow your best guest kristin! please keep the more realistic and not politically correct guest coming!!

K CAVVVVV -- you've always been a hot girl but I can see like some very subtle and natural looking enhancements...like the lips and botox are givinggg!! gorge, per usual.

@SumanSridhar1023

5 ай бұрын

She definitely has botox brow.

I don’t hate all of it by any means, but It’s all a bit old fashioned and heteronormative. I wonder what advice he’d give gay couples? And why is he reminding me of Andrew Tate? It’s all the ‘high value’ talk I think

@JeNn0mic0n

5 ай бұрын

“Heteronormative” 😆 Oh here we go. When it comes to same sex couples, you’re almost always going to have one with more submissive and “feminine” energy than the other because the male/female dynamic still translates to giver/receiver just as it does with most standard relationships. Also old-fashioned relationships lasted longer and most are still going strong today. Modern relationships don’t work because men wanna act like women and women want to act like men. Kristin even says that she has a very masculine mindset, which happens easily when you’ve had to fend for yourself for a long time, trauma, feel stronger and more confident than most men out there, etc. It’s why she like most women are having a hard time finding a true guy who checks off most boxes; most out there are whiney, broke, uninspiring and confused babies with mommy/daddy issues. Same can be said for a lot of women out there. Unfortunately lots of movies, songs and shows have disillusioned people into what a healthy relationship is, and what they want vs what they need.

@natashagravill6334

5 ай бұрын

So you’re the guy in the video? Jake? Sounds like the same voice coming through. I don’t buy it I’m afraid, relationships are not this simple and formulaic and different things work for different folks. Good for you if this all works for you. To me it sounds like a pretty rigid and prescriptive ideology that’s kinda off putting and doesn’t allow for the complexity of human interactions. Grand statements like ‘modern relationships don’t work’ or ‘most old fashioned relationships are still going strong’ - where’s your evidence for any of these claims? It’s all a bit silly

@TrumpsEarBandage

5 ай бұрын

Gay couples don’t matter, they don’t propagate the species

@TrumpsEarBandage

5 ай бұрын

Gay couples don’t matter, they don’t propagate the species

im obsessed with him, all these "relationship experts" out there trying to teach us pretty much the opposite and I would never agree with them. this is finally a coach worth listening too.

@HH-gv8mx

5 ай бұрын

Yes, there’s a Doctor Who is an Indian lady who’s on all of the podcast talking about dating and relationship advice, and she definitely preaches the opposite. She said it’s important to cook for a man..

❤

Who has time for intimacy 3 times a week? When conversing with your male partner, have feminine energy i.e. get walked all over and be submissive and demure. Nope. If there is respect there, you both should be able to speak freely.

@jasminema

5 ай бұрын

yes and no one should be telling anyone how many times to be intimate with their partner,,, things can happen I can tell you now that things like Cancer chemo therapy and menopause bring your libido right down. i listened to a podcast called the parenting hang over which has 2 dads and one episode they had a sexologist on and one of the dads asked what is a normal amount of sex for a parent to have.her answer,there is no normal...each couple works that out for themselves.

This started out good, but went downhill fast. Awful, cringey advice

I wish more guys could listen to his advice… 🙌🏻

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

Why? So you can be someone’s sugar baby lol?

He looks like Blake Shelton

PART 2

I dont care what anyone says - kristen is the reason why shes single - on this pod cast ive heard her state different dating stories for at least 10 plus men. She so beautiful- she is picky afff

@jazzyg530

5 ай бұрын

I am picky AF as well. But the reason is that I'm not conventional and my relationships thrive when they are with people who are on a similar wavelength as myself and who have a compatible lifestyle. The more unique you are the more picky you have to be. Unless you want to date someone and invest energy into the connection only for it to fail because you have different schedules, love languages, diets, hobbies, etc. Also, the more you value yourself the more you seek a healthy and valuable partner. I enjoy a clean space so I don't do well with messy partners. I love to cook but I don't eat meat and won't be cooking any for someone else. I want children and most men I've met already have them or don't want them (because of my age group perhaps). I think it's okay to be picky. Because the alternative is to settle, and that doesn't end well for either party.

This guy talks so much sense. Straight up, no BS.

@cababeachside

5 ай бұрын

Totally agree!! I’m married and he had great advice I can take on board. Thanks Kristin, I’ve started following him on insta for more tips

He lost me at "acts of service" sir you have no idea.

Jake is a awesome guy, he’s taught me so much and I’ve learned great things from him

I think one of the issues is that the “male perspective” advice Kristin is getting comes from Justin, who’s gay and ultimately isn’t out to date, marry, reproduce or sleep with her. Most of all, he wouldn’t know much about what a straight guy is thinking nor is he the best person to get advice from since he comes from a more feminine best friend state of mind, not a masculine one. This is counterproductive and not helpful to Kristin at all, so she needs to hear things that may sound harsh or brutal, but is more realistic.

This guy make so much sense!! Loved it!! thank you

This episode was my absolute fav so far!! I learned SO MUCH!! Basically, I have been doing everything wrong! haha Please do more episodes like this one. I really liked it!

Food prepping and survival skills is more your speed..start talking bought that...

This is toxic advice and I can’t take this conversation seriously. If you have to jump through all these hoops to make someone attracted to you, then they are NOT the one.

This is the worst advice ever. There is actually science behind all this. and I have become attracted to someone after working with them for several months. This is shallow and stupid. And people wonder why divorce rates are so high. Most of this advice is to get something temporarily. The only thing I heard was to flirt daily, a man always pays...and never date anyone younger. Not all men want kids.

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

Exactly! People are actually eating advice like this on social media and wonder why they’re still single 😂

great video!!!

Who is this guy?? He is funny joke. Seriously some things are correct but most of the advice is so funny and a joke. I think he mabe bisexual or Noo spiritual awareness

I need this guy in my life lol

@tmbrad1288

5 ай бұрын

😂😂😂

I hate how he makes these blanket statements as though every man and every woman is the same. What a load of nonsense, couldn't finish the episode.

@jasminema

4 ай бұрын

exactly and not every relationship is the same...he goes on about going on dates every 2nd weekend...which is apparently dinner and activity,,....um not everyone can afford to that every 2n weekend...especially if you have to pay a babysitter and some of us dont want to go out every 2nd weekend. some couples are quite happy just hanging out at home :)

this stuff about masculinity and femininity is really outdated and sexist IMO

Eeek this guy, something about him and the advice he is espewing is cringey. I loved her episode with Nick Viall I thought he was endearing, himself, casual like talking to a friend. This guy is just so full of himself. He maybe great at what he does but his delivery is off. There are times even Kristin seems taken aback yet is a pro and keeps going. A female has to downplay her success for a man what kind of advice is that. This guy please don't have him back.

@Benhamin2002

5 ай бұрын

28:17

@TrumpsEarBandage

5 ай бұрын

“It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it” this is why women can’t handle the truth

He really missed the point about it being expensive and stuff. Buy a cat and sit at home….? not everyone has 100’s of dollars to be taking randoms on possible wasted dates lol.

@JeNn0mic0n

5 ай бұрын

That’s why his whole point is to ditch a lot of the randoms who are losers, insecure, don’t take care of themselves, have mommy/daddy issues, and are broke, and go for higher quality people while casting a wider net for them.

This man is delulu. Every couple in America argues. It's inevitable

I feel like if you want the foundation of your relationship to be rooted in antiquated and capitalistic ideals, this is the coach for you. Love the podcast, but wow, I couldn’t disagree more with so many of his ideas.

I feel like if you want the foundation of your relationship to be rooted in antiquated and capitalistic ideals, this is the coach for you. Love the podcast, but wow, I couldn’t disagree more with so many of his ideas.

I feel like if you want the foundation of your relationship to be rooted in antiquated and capitalistic ideals, this is the coach for you. Love the podcast, but wow, I couldn’t disagree more with so many of his ideas.