If You're the Only One Initiating... That's a Problem
Dating coach Matthew Hussey joins me to discuss why people are having such a hard time finding a successful relationship, why we get obsessed with someone when they don't text for 2 days, how to figure out if you're compatible with someone, qualities for a long-lasting relationship, why having tough conversations is a necessity, attention vs intention, and having FU Confidence.
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This is by far the best speaker she’s had on the show
@kelseyk530
3 ай бұрын
Can't believe he's slumming it on her "show."
@meganplante3293
3 ай бұрын
@@kelseyk530 ? It is a “show” and it is hers so not sure what you meant with the quotations lol. If that’s how you feel than why watch and leave hate?
@kylalee8358
3 ай бұрын
By far!! Such a great episode!
@ania5038
Ай бұрын
@@kelseyk530 What do you mean by slumming it lol he just repeats the same stories over and over again wherever he goes like the 4 'levels' of a relationship and the story about how his wife 'raised the standards' and his 3 'layers' of confidence (which I actually like) lol
Not me crying when Matthew Hussey mentions "you only have one job!" - that really hit my spirit! ♥
@sydniexmachina
3 ай бұрын
omg me too!!! that exact moment
Compatbility >>>>> chemistry. Chemistry can fade but compatibility is everlasting
MATTHEW HUSSEY IS THE BEST!!!! BEEN FOLLOWING HIM FOR YEARS NOW; SO KNOWLEDGABLE!!!
@ninawoods5985
3 ай бұрын
he must have brainwashed you then because he is in bad shttt as the credit card scam he is in comes to light. Scamming vulnerable women thousands of pounds and ran away to LA with his stolen monies
@ic8bl
3 ай бұрын
he is a scammer, check it credit card scam and ran away with the monies lol LAWSUIT COMING
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, the 24/7 access to PORN and dating apps have ruined men when it comes to dating. It has made them lazy and perfectly fine sitting at home talking to thousands of girls not just in their area, but across the world wherever they want to look for a girl. Before guys actually had to go out and make an effort they are no longer making that effort and they are too easily swiping left looking for the next best thing.
Kristin has the best guests! I’ve learned so much from her💕
@ninawoods5985
3 ай бұрын
nah Kritsin is done as well bringing this scammer on the show.
Love Matthew's ability to walk into any environment and make it his own.
The self love comparison to how we love our children!!! 🤯🤯
the side part looks so good on you kristin!
@Bob-wr1mn
3 ай бұрын
I love the side part too!
I was not expecting to get so emotional. What a special episode and wonderful guest thank you
Thank you Matthew for being vulnerable about your own relationship and showing us that the course of love never does run smooth, even if you're an expert in it! We all have such high and unrealistic expectations on 'forever love', when actually it's all about how well we manage the inevitable ruptures and disappointments.
Loved this ep! He's so nice and mellow. Thank you!
Excellent guest!! Love the episode! Keep it up!
Love Matthew Hussey! Thank you for having him on the podcast ❤
Loved this podcast! The part about loving yourself was eye opening!
My power is in my humanity. I LOVE that!
That. Was. Fantastic. Especially the part about loving ourselves! Looking to buy his book now!!
This was an incredible episode!!!!!!
Loved this n went to buy the book! He’s such an intelligent man. I also felt like i had hope listening to him speak about self love. It’s such a journey n i love the way he put it. You have one job n that’s to take care of you!!
Really good advice here ! Thank you ❤
Wow, Matt’s version of why we should love ourselves is the best response to that question I’ve heard. God gave us life and our job is to give us the best lives we can!
Loved Matt for ages.... good work x Ps You look fantastic
This was excellent! Ordered his book
I’m wondering if Kristin is having seconds thoughts about Montana Mark ????? Hopefully Not !! In Her last couple vlogs, I haven’t seen the excitement she had at the beginning with Hot Montana Man ! 🤔 Hmmmmm. Let us know Kristin if you are still crushing on your guy ?? Btw this was a great interview and talk !! This guy makes A LOT OF SENSE!!
@annhr2581
3 ай бұрын
I completely agree with you! Last episode she seemed really off.
@littlejewels1
3 ай бұрын
His boyish looks can only go so far.
@PJ-px1le
3 ай бұрын
Not to sound like a dick, but my thoughts were the longer the relationship went the more she was gonna see the age difference in the way that him not having the same amount of experiences and time to know himself is going to catch up to her and turn her off
@littlejewels1
3 ай бұрын
@@PJ-px1le I agree.
@tj-htx
3 ай бұрын
Mark is fresh out of college & trying to kickstart this Montana Boyz thing and Kristin is a mom of 3 with a successful business and podcast. I never thought the age gap could be a factor but more maturity and the fact that their lives are in very different stages. Also, I’ve seen TikToks about a Reddit post on Mark’s very recent past that’s pretty awful if true.
was waiting for him to join your podcast!
I wonder if she knows she's solely gone after looks with her dating history, and not good qualities. Love the pod❤
@jeann2264
3 ай бұрын
Let me insult you on your personal life and try to play it off by complimenting your professional life. Girl!
He is So good. Its incredible
wow this was fantastic!!!
GREAT EPISODE ❤❤❤
So many great wisdoms here
This man knows his stuff!
He’s so accurate.
I feel like this is the kind of podcast kristen intended on starting and it went a bit off course but this is exactly what everyone’s clearly receptacle to and seeking. It’s actually useful and healthy
Good episode…she is asking him great questions
Twice the ads of any other podcast
@ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ_9
3 ай бұрын
I always skip past them.
Oh my gosh. The power of indifference …or so many think that’s a good thing nowadays. That resonated with me. I know I have learned something very important. Lose the ego and let someone know if they upset you. If they like you enough..they won’t find it weird at all. If they don’t…you’ll be a stalker. Go ahead and find where you fit so you can move on immediately if they don’t like you enough. Be ready to suck it up and find someone else ! I totally judged my man to be someone who needed space in the beginning. And truthfully…he did a little bit for a short period. But when I let him know finally after a year…I wanted more time. You know what he did? He gave me every day of the week! Because he loved me. If he didn’t love me…I’d be a psycho bitch to him and he would have dumped me. You get it.
That's easy heal your trauma. Until you are healed and your energy frequency is at a high then you can find it with something who is at your frequency and is healed. Like attracts like, low energy vibration only attracts low energy vibration.
She is in the “ahhmmmm” stage with M. Realize the people she has as guests are fully for her own purposes and needs. There is a reason behind her every move regardless if she wants us to know it or not. Just her personality
Love Matthew's insights🔥🔥🔥
Kristin, I love your shirt - can you share info for it? TIA!
Attraction is not a choice but I heard for men the way they fall in love is when the woman they're interested in stresses them out. Guys get addicted to the stress hormone and all they want to do is love you ❤️ 😉
hey beautiful happy tuesday have a wonderful week
Does he seem slightly annoyed ?
@sarahb_
2 ай бұрын
It’s just the British way. We’re just always slightly annoyed.
You said, “bonkers” during The Farmer’s Dog ad….😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
40:00 that response to the I miss you text was harsh AF!
@christina80997
3 ай бұрын
I wish I had had this to reference in the past 😂 honestly tho, it’s proof to me that she’s the perfect woman for him - imagine stumping a man who has a huge following giving dating advice! I looooove them together and their podcast 🔥
Loves it
get Jax Taylor on your podcast! lol
@h7ndrx
3 ай бұрын
Omg i'd die to see this. That would be funny, he's such an open book
I’m English and have never heard of this guy however he talks a lot of sense
@paulababula9621
3 ай бұрын
He's world famous for decades
@sarahb_
3 ай бұрын
@@paulababula9621 and yet I still haven’t heard of him and I’m English and I’ve been alive nearly four decades. Are you English? Maybe he’s only famous in the US? I can’t speak for other countries as to whether he’s famous there as I don’t know. (Newsflash: America isn’t the world)
@MyChannel-ul3tm
3 ай бұрын
He hasnt been famous for decades 😂 he’s only 36 and started his dating coach thing like 10 years ago. He’s been living in the US since he got on KZread so he’s def more known here than in UK. Even so, he has 3 million subscribers so hes not ‘world famous’, he’s mostly just known by American women with dating issues 😊
Where is her top from?
Isn’t he Camila Cabello’s ex? Broke up with him when Shawn was actively pursuing her.
@christina80997
3 ай бұрын
Yep lol, I remember being excited cause I was following him before they got together. Camilla kinda lost her marbles tho, I’ve put together through comments that that relationship made him very anxious. The woman he has now is PERFECT for him, he has met his match in emotional intelligence and the text/podcast shows it
kristins shirt looks sooo nice on her !!! Shes so pretty
“Hmmmm” …..“mmmhmm” ….“hmmm”… “yeah” -Kristen
@annhr2581
3 ай бұрын
Right!! Ruined the interview for me. Couldn't get past it. The camera would pan to him and then her so much that I was getting dizzy
@pb.j.1753
3 ай бұрын
I didn't even notice that.
@AmandaC-hp1po
3 ай бұрын
It's so annoying, just let him finish....He's got some good points so it's a shame.
Kristin you look phenomenal in this video. I do like what the guest was saying in the most part… but it’s not really mind blowing revelations, I feel like he’s trying to make it seem like they were.
❤
Keep in mind people this was prerecorded… It doesn’t mean this happened TODAY. yeeeesh
The mmm hmmm fillers while the guest are speaking are a bit distracting..
@MsJen_GZ
3 ай бұрын
Maybe you're just distracting yourself by focusing on the wrong things :)
@michelletripp3701
3 ай бұрын
Seriously its driving me nuts
@monique6451
3 ай бұрын
I noticed that too, but it’s probably hard to avoid because she’s just interacting with her guest. What’s wrong with that ya know lol….
@Gorun4theroses
3 ай бұрын
“Let’s be honest”….the filler mmhmms and words are distracting.
@e4126
3 ай бұрын
I could not finish the episode because of it. There’s one part where he’s talking and in just ten seconds she says yeah or yes FOUR TIMES
The guy is trying hard but Lord God something ain't right.
@nicky7610
3 ай бұрын
in what way?
Stop the mm hmmm, so annoying. Love the guest, can't listen to her
I want you to have Rachel Leviss from Vanderpump Rules on your podcast, so you can teach her and other women how to not care about what people say, write and dealing with toxic relationships. I feel like the poor girl really needs to take a leaf out of your book on learning how not to give a fuck about other people’s opinions! That would be awesome 🤩
@maybe4003
3 ай бұрын
She’s a scammer and does not know how to take accountability. That’s what she needs to learn.
Terrible interviewer!!! I couldn’t finish…! Her constant interjections make it sound SO FAKE!
Love love love Matthew!!! But, I have to say on the reaching out to a man after a good date, when he doesn't for days, is crazy! He has zero issues reaching out before, so why after the date should you think he's not capable of reaching out? If you don't hear from a guy after your great date and they had no issues reaching out before, why would you even feel comfy reaching out to them to see why they haven't reached out to you? If they wanted to, THEY WOULD! Just like they were fully capable of doing beforehand!
@CWG-op9td
2 ай бұрын
I agree! Never chase ❤
I wish you would talk about things other than relationships and sex. There's so much more to life than that. You could talk about history, different cultures, science, religion, food, different types of diverse people from all over the world
@JeNn0mic0n
3 ай бұрын
Then you make a podcast and maybe talk about whatever you want on it 🙃
@sydeezy17
3 ай бұрын
From the very beginning this has been her focused topics… maybe you need to find something else to listen to 😂
@Extraordinaryee
3 ай бұрын
lol go to another podcast. So weird to say as I’m sure there are tons of podcasts that fit that description for you
@pb.j.1753
3 ай бұрын
Yes, cause we all need Kristen Cavallari's podcast episode about Agriculture in Ancient Rome. CLOWN.
She should be arrested for dating a kid 😅😂😂😂 When Kristin was 21 her “BF” was EIGHT YEARS OLD ! 🤯
Umm, I’m about to listen to this but Kristin, thank you for being consistent with these every Tuesday. I know they’re not a guarantee, so whenever I see you uploaded one I’m ALWAYS extremely grateful ❤ Enjoy livin life 🫶🏽