I had a severe social anxiety and i overcame it with just paying attention to my thoughts. I learned catch my negative messages of my head. That's all...

@0persona332

7 жыл бұрын

For example when i was walking down the street i thought ''everybody judging me'' and now i know it's a lie of my head. I hope i can explain to you correctly:) BUT TRUST ME if YOU CAN CATCH YOUR NEGATIVE MESSAGES OF YOUR IMAGINATION or PAY ATTENTION WHAT LIES TELLS YOUR MIND you can overcome all problems!

@PrinceRockyCat

6 жыл бұрын

0 Persona yes but how do you stop the feeling that comes with the negative thought? For example ok.. so you tell yourself that's not true, but do you automatically stop feeling negative?

@justrenee2640

5 жыл бұрын

I like self interrogation, basically as a negative thought comes up, questioning that thought in order to figure out the stimulus that triggered it in the first place. In my experience my brain either poops out or continuously tries to overrationalize to the point that I actually recieve an answer

@iorekby

5 жыл бұрын

Yup. Mindful of your thoughts, catch the message, count back from 5,4,3,2,1...change the thought to something else that makes me feel positive e.g. like a time I accomplished something or felt good. Really helps me.

@mykasiurka

4 жыл бұрын

Great Video clip! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would love your thoughts. Have you tried - Lanaleb Peyaria Rule (should be on google have a look)? It is a great exclusive guide for clearing self-doubt and achieving success minus the headache. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my best friend Jordan after many years got amazing results with it.

It took me a long time to accept the “a thought happens and _then_ we have an emotional reaction” perspective. It didn’t really make sense until I realized that, as human beings, we _already have_ an emotional state, a mood, when a thought arises (and thoughts do, more or less, “arise”). Emotions, on the other hand, are already being experienced as a generalized mood at any given moment. It follows, then, that thoughts cause emotional reactions. Those emotional reactions alter the current mood. New thoughts arise, repeat.

@billyb4790

Жыл бұрын

I prefer to distinguish thoughts from beliefs. The difference, in my view, is a belief is a perpetual thought lodged in the subconscious. When a trigger happens, feelings AND new thoughts arise- but only because of the deeper belief. Usually the belief is a core-wound that starts with "I am...." I am bad, I am unworthy, I am disrespected, I am alone, I am unlovable. In my experience, uncovering that belief in the moment of disregulation is a great relief :)

you have that soft soothing therapist voice....

@jaymahato5670

5 жыл бұрын

SD . .....

I love how soft spoken you are. You are an angel

You have such a beautiful way of explaining things, specially your voice is so calming! Hope to see your channel grow.

OMG. Your voice made me feel so calm!

I wish I could remember this, I feel like I keep slipping back into my old ways :(

@curtistindall5951

6 жыл бұрын

I wonder what you mean when you say: I keep slipping back into my old way s? One way that might help if I am understanding you correctly is to keep what they call a thought log--google it. you write down what triggered negative thoughts and as she said consider alternatives--it really helps you to slow your roll, check yourself before you wreck yourself and be better at catching yourself in the act of being negative. Yes there are always alternatives--basics are count your blessing, make a gratitude list and pray--just to identify a few of the many. LMAO--maybe start with changing your Evil tree to Easy does it tree, or beautiful tree, or oak tree, lol

@dightxiii8578

5 жыл бұрын

Keep at it, you can do this!

@haseygawa

5 жыл бұрын

Save the video on your phone and watch it everyday. Practice it and put it to life. As they say, action may not always bring happiness but there be no happiness without action.

Hello. Wow I'm enlightened by this CBT! Thank you!

i think you find that you're always ok no matter what

Thank you Julia for posting this

@juliakristinamah

7 жыл бұрын

you are so welcome KELZUS1

Great explanation 😃

you have a very calming voice and i get a very welcoming feeling from you :) you're really pretty btw!

@oldtimybox9075

7 жыл бұрын

Sabertooth2121 I was just thinking that...

@multilingualmegan78

6 жыл бұрын

Old Timy Box same. She's a role model

@TheHumbuckerboy

5 жыл бұрын

@ Mayr 98 ... Ha ha !

@stacielivinthedream8510

3 жыл бұрын

@Kiss711 lol! Blessings to you!

Thank you so much for this! ❤

thank you for this, really helpful

Love this video ! Enjoyed watching it !

Hi Julia, new here! My name is Leslie and I live in Mexico..looking through your blog and some video's..good stuff and I put myself on the waiting list for Shift Society~ Thank you for your help.

Love your calming voice thank you for all your hard work x

Really good.Explained well.

I'm learning this now with my trauma therapist. I have bpd, cptsd & disassociation. It's very hard. I just found your channel & Im so grateful! I can't wait to show my husband your videos on depression. My childhood is a blur. Ask your what your feeling & why?

@voooptechnical6368

Жыл бұрын

I have these pblm from when I was 10 years old , now I am 34 , please help me

This video is amazing 😍👍wow!

All I found when I paid attention to those thoughts was how cruel people are at work. But I will keep trying to pretend nobody targets me, because that’s healthier.

thank you for this vid it will help me

I would like to be able to do some self analysis. Going to a therapist is not possible for me because finances are tight. Could you please recommend a book or any other source that can help me with that?

Just looking at you, calms me. So beautiful, saying in a respectful way

@mahek3017

4 жыл бұрын

Your profile name explains it.... (J.k it's just a joke so don't feel bad)

I first used this to cure my video game rage, then, applied it to most thoughts and it works. Later in life I read about bhuddism and the eightfold Path and couldn’t Help to see the parallels between the two. To oversimplify, it’s about reflection and self awareness

@Chosen1MusicOfficial

5 ай бұрын

Thats so true.

I have agoraphobia as a result of trauma. It’s crippling my life

@tigerspirit4771

5 ай бұрын

Have you tried therapy that helps. Do you think working with tramua might help with the agoraphobia.

thanks gonna see if this can help a bit with my autism and sensory problems.

@combatxhoop7069

7 жыл бұрын

how are you now?

I actively chose not to read anything about CBT, I took on my own therapy and tailored a regime just for myself. When I joined NAMI-NYC and became a public speaker, I found out my method was similar to CBT...I wish I had thought of it sooner and wrote a book haha

@justinschmidt2203

6 жыл бұрын

Sonja Dawn what is your therapy?

@mattcracker3555

6 жыл бұрын

+Julia Kristina Counselling Excellent video content! Sorry for butting in, I would love your opinion. Have you ever tried - Trentvorty Kids Science Theorem (probably on Google)? It is a good one of a kind product for becoming an excellent parent minus the hard work. Ive heard some super things about it and my mate after many years got cool results with it.

I thought everyone knew this. Very surprised to learn that people are not aware of their emotions being connected to their thoughts. Maybe it's just obvious to me because I read a bunch of Occultism growing up, and it always emphasized the connection between body, mind, heart, and spirit.

Section 2: Ball stretcher

What is the next step? I would love some more exercises.

@juliakristinamah

7 жыл бұрын

HI Justin, come and join me on my FB Page - I give regular personal growth and mental health talks there and I often go more in to CBT. fb.me/JuliaCounsellor See you there!

Hmm, not quite the kind of CBT exercises I was looking for... *Section 3, parachute*

I like the way she says "You might be surprised at what you find" at the end XD lmfao

Ok, but what is to do if the emotions are missing? Is the auto thought too rational about the situation?

I want the OTHER CBT!!!

@venix2256

3 жыл бұрын

Section 2: Ball stretcher

This is my kind of therapy, know one to ask you stupid questions you don't know the answer to, and know one to piss you off for the rest of the week.

This is great! Definitely sharing this. :D ps. Does anyone ever tell you you have an accent? You sound kind of like you have a Canadian accent and it's cute! I could be wrong though, lol. :)

@juliakristinamah

8 жыл бұрын

+ShalomAleichem So happy you liked it! I do have a Canadian accent because I am, well... Canadian! lol

How fo you control if it's from burning mouth? Three years of medical trauma and deaths?

I had this the other day with my friends and i became withdrawn and bitter

I don't know the differences between the emotions and usually have no clue what I'm thinking. So what am I supposed to do?

@fruitygarlic3601

2 жыл бұрын

Start simple, describing the physical sensations associated with the mood, like you're a child. "My face feels hot, I see red, my throat is tight." A lot of words for emotions start that way if you look at their etymology. Try to learn new ones so that your descriptions come quicker. My counselor showed me the 'hot cross bun' model. Draw it if you feel overwhelmed. Filling in the other three sections will help you name your emotions.

i've looked into CBT to help me deal with the paranoid and depressed thoughts i get sometimes but every time i get to the point of looking into it i tell myself it won't help and i end up like this and don't do it, got any tips to help me get started :/

@FDJustin

8 жыл бұрын

Well. I'm not a therapist, but I do know two things that might help. 1: Strike while the iron's hot. You want to try it? Good. Try it. Do so before you can talk yourself out of it. 2: Approach it as a test. "I'm just going to try it for 14 days." it's only 14 days, right? Even if it doesn't work, trying something for half an hour at a time, for 14 days is no big deal.

@harrybaxter9110

8 жыл бұрын

okay, thanks i'm actually going to try it, thank you so much :)

@FDJustin

8 жыл бұрын

No problem, and hey. No shame in trying something new.

@hollythomason9013

7 жыл бұрын

Learn to be present and recognize the garbage. Look up false thinking, or thinking traps. Never, All, Always are bad words. Don't tell yourself lies that you don't or cant believe. Recognize that if you say, "I suck," that whether or not that statement is true..what purpose does that thought serve? It is not easy.

@curtistindall5951

6 жыл бұрын

just being on here is a great start. there are lots of youtube try some of the suggestions and find a therapist. I have witnessed people with depression totally change just keeping a thought log--google it and considering alternatives to their thoughts.

The problem that I have is that I can’t switch off that dialogue inside my mind. I know I have negative thoughts, but I have a lot of difficulty quieting them down. I don’t know how to stop it.

@MelodeathxTed

3 жыл бұрын

Just keep doing it over and over again.

@MsAquaDaffodil

3 жыл бұрын

@@MelodeathxTed Hey, thanks for the rely, but I'm a bit confused, do what over and over?

@plankark

3 жыл бұрын

@@MsAquaDaffodil I put my hand on my tummy and look for the word that describes how I FEEL - eg angry, hurt, empty, sad. misunderstood, abandoned etc. The place my hand on my head to find the thought eg he is expecting me to clean up, I wanted her to think nicely of me, I wanted more out of this, they think I'm obsessed with him, I don't want to left alone etc

@fruitygarlic3601

2 жыл бұрын

There is a whole world of mindfulness practices you can follow. Dedication to them develops the skills to cope with almost anything life throws at you, because you are just training your brain like any other body part you actively use everyday. I like to meditate by focusing on my breathing and physical presence. I'm not very good at keeping up consistent practice because of motivation issues, but I feel great every time I do.

I'm 66 and my brilliant memory is reminding me of every mistake I have ever made I wish I had a delete button

@Aratiii06

3 ай бұрын

Same here

I just watched LikeKristens video and you said you worked in Vancouver which is where I live. If I tell my counseller I selfharm does she have to tell my parents?

You think it's the thoughts that casue the reaction, eh? I think the thoughts are a side-effect that give you a hint as to why you have the reaction.

How do I tune in? I don’t understand.

@devastation5936

4 жыл бұрын

You need an Humbler

Not the cbt I was looking for

What happens next?

I can't talk to people or make friends

@tihomirgenev4838

7 жыл бұрын

Oh no... please try this , try to take a few deep breaths before you talk to someone , and create a thought in your mind saying i will not be embarrassed , everything will be okay , the beautiful sun will slide in between the clouds! i hope i help

She is pretty

:)

yikes! not one comment on how extremely beautiful she is.

😭

please i will subscribe to your channel but put more homework i will be your number 1 student

My apologies… but upon entering this video, the sound of that FAN or whatever that IS immediately set me OFF and now I’m leaving 😊

Xockx