Coach Craig and Coach Victoria, I just wanna say thanks. I started watching your channel five years ago. The workbooks got me through a bad breakup at that time and helped me to escape from an unhealthy relationship. But even more than that, I’m a better parent now than I was five years ago. Studying the books, articles and research that you, Victoria and the late coach Margaret shared over the years led me to behavioral therapy and improving ALL my relationships! Please keep doing what you’re doing and thank you for helping people like me who thought it was all over. -Brad

@CoachCraigKenneth

2 ай бұрын

Thanks for the inspiring message! 😊

The harsh, brutal reality of dating is that if you don’t work on your attachment issues, your insecurities are going to make your partners wanna leave…

@Wildanimal864.

2 ай бұрын

The reality is That’s not love…..it’s chance and opportunism. Lol

@lorip4087

2 ай бұрын

On the other hand, don't assume they are always worth keeping!

@marytaylor9504

2 ай бұрын

Just one disrespecting act or state ment and I'm gone Out of the relationship .No joking including in ways of insulting or devaluing!!!!

I think when people start having doubts when they needs are not being meet.

I was shocked to find out she had thought about leaving me 5 times , and when she left i was in a rut, treated her badly, was complsininf, negative selfish... i hated myself and i could not recognise myself, when she left my life shatered, its 8 month ago now. But tbh atill sometimes feels like yesterday, i know in my heart she will not come back, we have had contact, but no more. I truly know i will never have what i had with her again, i lost my future wife because i did not get help and realise i had issues, i miss her smile, her laugh, her kisses, just the way we had stupid childish fun, never had that before, i am 35 and dating after 30 is horrible! I am gonna get a tattoo to remind myself its okay to be not oka, and remember to communicate! Rather bother your partner a lottle than build up redentment, i hope you all will be happy again, i try but i feel stuck in limbo, take care

Communication is the key, and be in agreement.

What made me consider leaving (shortly before being brutally dumped via text) was watching my ex work the room, clearly looking for a side piece while pretending we weren't there together. Also flirtatious texts coming through on my ex's phone while we were out to dinner, etc. I got played!!

My partner had actually told me verbatim on a couple of occasions, after my repetitive crazy-making ( manipulation, accusations, cursing her, etc.), that she was going to leave me if I didn't change. I didn't take her seriously. Now she's gone.

Know the signs of the incoming storm. They show signs but you choose to ignore it.

I thought about leaving, too... because of his issues as well, because he refused to discuss my ongoing discomfort. I tried to hold it in and make him happy and my anxiety and depression overtook me, and he left, without taking any blame. And then he ran right back to the reason for my discomfort. I think there is no salvaging this, and my heart is quickly going cold to him.

Chances are if you’re thinking it, they’re thinking it. 😅

Pour into your relationship and they'll leave you anyways. Last thing she said to me was that i didnt neglect her. So.... ya. 🙃 Oh. If they come back. Its been over a year now.

Broke no cantact today to meet her for the last time but she never responded i waited for her near the place i told her i will be at but she never came broke no contact back in December too but that too she never responded damn i really loved her truly ( you are a villain in there heads im sorry no matter how improve you get yourself to but ill try moving on now which im doing although its taking some time to get over it but im still trying anyways good night guys stay safe PS she broke up frist

I never thought about it.

@CoachCraigKenneth - I’ve been watching your channel for a few weeks and after going through the playlists I ended up having a question. In some of your videos you mention to not talk about the issues when they reach back out initially, but how and when do you mention that it’s important to talk about the issues that caused the split if your person is a dismissive avoidant who hates conflict and in person hard conversations

In my case, I thought about leaving more than a couple of times. The situation varied a little from case to case, but the bottom line was: she has BPD.

I owe my ex money. should i send it to her in the mail with no message and just my name attached? theres like 5 other venmos with her exact name and no pic. is this considered breaking contact ? i feel like its me doing the mature thing. i thought about reaching out and asking her for the venmo but i dont want to break the progress ive made not talking to her

I rarely think about breaking up, I'm kinda impulsive in this regard. I usually just break up when the thought cross my head. I had 4 long term relationships, the last one lasted for 6 years and we never talked about breaking up until the day we did broke up. After that, I got into a pattern of brraking up when i feel things aren't progressing. Even if I still like/love the person

@lorip4087

2 ай бұрын

That must have hurt your partners very deeply.

@henrique.campos

2 ай бұрын

@@lorip4087 yeah...most of them just blocked me and never talked to me again. Tbh I'm at this point where I can't take it anymore, I need to change that.

I need your help

My ex had depression the hole relationship of 6.5 years and would not work on it.. But i loved her and wanted to make it work. She dumped me for a woman, but still in depression 😮. Her new wife suffers also because of this.. What a shame.

@edwardperez7665

2 ай бұрын

Good luck to all 3 of you.

@watchtvatmyplace6691

2 ай бұрын

@New_Life_Precious718-yv8pv Good man thank you 😀

It didn't help. I'm at this point in my relationship. I'm having terrible anxiety about it. I'm afraid of ending it all with my gf. She's too busy.