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I'm involved with an avoidant and this is the most uncomfortable anxiety provoking experience i have ever encountered. I want out and i will never come back to this sort of arrangement ever. It's so painful and lonely. Its just better by myself.

@AubreyJuliet

2 ай бұрын

Im healing from the same. A 2 year situation-ship that put me through the most confusing and painful feelings of rejection, judgment, betrayal and abandonment I have ever experienced.

@riverchick23

2 ай бұрын

​@@AubreyJulietsame! It's truly awful and hurtful.😢

@rhondastirewalt3801

2 ай бұрын

Never again !

Hi Coach Kenneth you're my favourite youtube channel because the topic you've chosen is the most relevant to me and is the most healing compared to any other channel. Thank you so much for helping my heart pain.

Very good analysis and brings it to life how people's attachment shows up in relationships and interactions. Funny too, but only from a detached perspective. Unfortunately, as much as we might want a person, if they could/wanted to, then they would.

She's trying to change him. In my humble opinion, if you like or love someone then you are accepting them, warts and all. If you find yourself trying to change or influence that person to suit your wants, then you've got to stop and ask yourself if you're with the right person. Does she really want that guy or would her feelings soon change the second she bumps into the right guy? You might feel sad if you can't get a relationship off the ground, but you'd feel a damn sight worse if you agreed to 'settle' for less, and once you're married and have kids you meet the love of your life, someone who does want kids.

after 6 months my avoidant ex came back and texted me. Said it’s just now hitting him (emotions and all). We texted and he said he wanted to see me but that he needs to go through what I went through. He said it is only fair that way, and that he needs to learn more lessons so that he doesn’t hurt me. Should I wait

@priscillarodrigues7599

3 ай бұрын

For me I completed three months it's still painful. My avoidant deleted my number and unfriended me. But I'm still in no contact. I don't know when it's going to hit him

@alexisgalindo945

3 ай бұрын

@@priscillarodrigues7599all I can say is that once you stop focusing on the avoidant, live your life, do your things, that’s when something in the energy between you guys switches. You are no longer begging and they will absolutely feel that. Trust me. I was moving on with another person when my ex texted me. I was so close to making it official with this other person too.

@swiftnofio

3 ай бұрын

BS Why would he want to hurt. He is testing in my opinion. I would say as a non professional "agree to rekindle but do not make any efforts"

@DM-wv6to

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like more avoidance. Putting off the day you come together and he enters a real relationship. Don't 'wait'. Live your life and give him space. If that space is too much for you and he doesn't come back with concrete plans, move on.

@miehinaharutomi9165

3 ай бұрын

​​@@priscillarodrigues7599I'm so sorry to read this. My ex boyfriend blocked me everywhere and I suppose he deleted my number too. At the end of the month it will be one year since the break-up and heartbreak. I learned that such a reaction tells a lot about them and not you. I hope and wish you really to find someone better.

Coach, thanks for all you do. Your videos and workbooks are keeping me sane(-ish😂)! I have a question, and it doesn’t have a ton to do with this, save for my ex is avoidant (dismissive). It’s more because this video is more recent, so I’m hoping to catch your eye… Anyway, my breakup happened almost exactly two months ago, but I didn’t know about all of this, so I only went NC about a month ago. There was a lot of back-and-forth for the first 3+ weeks, but I went NC directly after the last, mostly cordial, exchange. I was also still in so much shock that I - almost robotically “accepted” “friendship.” But, I DON’T want friendship - I don’t NEED her, but I want her; I think she’s actually my person. My questions are: 1) did I wait too long to START NC and, 2) did my “acceptance” of friendship screw this up?!

Its more than a fuzzy feeling that they won't come back. Its been at least a year since i heard from either of my exes. Plus im taking my life in a completely different direction. Even if they did come back. We would not see eye to eye.

@lorip4087

3 ай бұрын

None of mine have ever come back either.

That’s a tough one, she wants kids he does not, unfortunately it’s not a match, perhaps he will change his mind in the future, but let it be his decision,

I was involved with an avoidant. He said he didn’t want anything serious. I unfollowed him on social media, he then unfollowed me, but then his best friend requested to follow me. Why if he doesn’t want anything serious?

She’s pressuring this guy big time! She actually said “anniversary”? What? They’ve been together 3 months. What anniversary is she talking about??? 🤡🤡🤡😂😂😂

@Rambo4President

Ай бұрын

my ex told me each monthly anniversary 😂

Lord, Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.

First.

My ex doesn't want to get back together it's been a year we been apart, he believes I'm a wild woman for cheating on him with his cousin and some of his friends, i see him at times when i go shopping at his job but he doesn't igniate getting back together, i stop going to a house were i was hooking up with some guys because i found out those guys are my ex boyfriends co workers and when he left me I was in an open relationship with his co worker, I love men 🙂

@r.maelstrom4810

3 ай бұрын

He has reasons to believe what he believes. And i am absolutely shocked you seem to be not aware of your own wrongdoing

This Guy Sounds Like a Sicko 99.9% 😮

Hi Craig, Thanks for the great job you are doing. Can i get your email address i like to send you an email. Thank you