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“How fragile our connections can be”- well said

'If it's hysterical, it's historical" Brilliant! This explains so much

She's probably fearful avoidant. Research shows they often breakup to see if you'll chase them, but he kind of instigated it and then thanked her for doing it, so she probably thought he really didn't want her anymore and like he was the rejecter. The other peculiarities fit with FA too: her rigidity about her home, her over sexualization, her immature communication, her deactivated coldness toward him and sudden breakup... All of that.

Dude,run!

Yes, he started trauma dumping because he knew without knowing that it was over, hell... was it ever even actually on.. I mean the relationship, not the sex.. some people have deep issues

My breakup happened so fast and she blocked/unfollowed me everywhere even though I didn’t do anything wrong. Sure it hurt but the world spins regardless. Just livin and learnin but it do suck fosho sometimes

she checked out? I'm sure she never even checked in with him.. it's her way or the highway apparently.. it looks like she would rather be working at a truck stop.. yikes

I'm sure Margaret would be saying to him, take your children with you and run.. and never look back. this woman will need to work through some deep issues before she gets even close to being capable of a genuine relationship.

I heard the advise to say: I almost want to thank you for everything. I did not think I would get to the point by now. Be kind of vague about if you have moved on or not. Is that not so good?

I have attachments issues I give a man too much importance by blowing up their phone when they don't answer and crying over them and now they all walked away

The social media thing makes perfect sense to me, of course she's angry because now she feels like she doesn't have her hooks in him, she was just using him to cope with her unresolved issues from her past... and apparently her ex from before was easier for her to manipulate.. but maybe that's her looking through the rose-colored glasses.. remembering what she considered to be the good times because obviously that relationship didn't work out either. in this case the guy got fed up and was actually ready to break up with her, so then she broke up with him first LOL so she could pretend that she was the dumper, but obviously it didn't sit well with her. Big surprise right? lol.. both of them better get to doing the work sooner than later.. and here I am dropping a million comments before making it to the end of the video lol.. I've been following you guys so long that I tend to spot the patterns of what goes on. both partners might be disorganized attachment style here.

Not me showing up well just for her (fearful avoidant) to leave BECAUSE I showed up so well and she feels like she doesnt deserve it :D Sometimes you can do the best you can and still get f*cked by life, but it is what it is. We'll see where this is going I know I was her best option, so I am not stressed about her not coming back. She seems to have been really attached and she did open up about her past problems and her trauma after "just" 4 months. She was stressed about her exams and the fact that she has been planning to go on a solo backpacking adventure in south america in August. One thing she said is that she doesnt want the long distance because we had already been long distance (taking turns with traveling to the other persons place: Germany and England). However, I am very optimistic because she opened up to me and was vulnerable and also once told me that the long distance is hard for her because she would miss me infinitely once she or me travel back and can only video call and not spontaniously come over...

Thé writing is on the wall. This will never ever work. Craig nailed it, bc he identified the key problem. She doesn’t want to compromise and move closer so how can this progress? He continued with her even in despite of this core issue. Very immature dynamic going on between these two

Sounds like she could be someone in the Cluster B category. Maybe borderline or histrionic or even on the narcissistic spectrum.

She was trying to get him to fight the other guy to force him to be protective since the guy at work rejected her sexually for some reason I think she's playing the both of them and was intending on being with the Victor of a hand to hand combat scenario or a verbal argument between the two men. If you ask me he's better off without her he needs to move on.

7:07 Victoria….SNAP🤣

As for him feeling emasculated, Victoria said it at first: "It's refreshing in a way to see the roles reversed." Maybe it's not refreshing to him.

SHE'S FOR THE STREETS! Love em and leave em!

should i ask my ex to meet for coffee? we split amicably 3 months ago cause we both couldnt deal with it. She reached out. I'm feeling chill about the situation but do miss her a bit

@os3688

Ай бұрын

If she reached out then you’re doing good. From what craig says play it cool. Maybe wait a bit longer until she asks. Keep the power you gained in tact.

This videos helped me alot. My ex messaged me after 4 months and one night we hooked up buy after that I told her I didn't want anything. I don't miss her now.

I know why that person thought your name was 'Greg'. Victoria pronounces your name 'Greg'.

No what it is would be that she had sexual relations with someone at work and was too scared to tell him that so she said assaulted. She felt strong feelings for the other guy and left the current boyfriend.

@camellia8625

Ай бұрын

Very possible

I haven't gotten through the video yet but it seems to me she was sexually abused in the past and she's trying to have it reenacted in order to process.. and he is caught up in the charade because he actually cares about her. very sad

counting the days is not necessarily bad IMO. it's a badge of honor.

@CoachCraigKenneth

Ай бұрын

Then you’re missing our message

this seems to be the most common dynamic in my experience, as women use sex manipulation.. wanting it three times a day for over a year? yup.. and then also to withhold sex when they want what they want, but then also when they claim they never want sex at night, yet every Saturday and Sunday morning getting woken up to her having her way with me in the morning.. sex, sex, sex.. sure it sounds great but some people are master manipulators.. people that are desperate for sex may have a hard time understanding how it can be very abusive.

@repentjesusiscomingsoon1529

Ай бұрын

Not EVERY woman "uses sex manipulation", sir, I hope you know that!!!

My summary of this is that he finally started to stand up for himself a little bit and she was like oh hell no, I am making sure I have all the power and pretend to be doing the dumping.. as Margaret would say, quit before being fired.. but it's really quitting during being fired lmfao.. this is a very hairy situation and he should not tolerate any of it.. Long distance? no thank you. she refuses to differentiate from her family of origin? no thank you. she wants to weaponize sex and continually manipulate? no thank you. Plus he has kids! do not let this mess of a woman into your children's lives. I'm not blaming just one, as of course it always takes at least two to tango and obviously the both of them can benefit from doing the work such as the workbooks or creative healing course. do it for the sake of the children damn it. if that's where you need to begin

was she sexually harassed at work or is she mad because she's not getting sexually harassed? sounds more like it to me. Big Time unresolved trauma.

They say "people" but really it's women. Women do this kind of thing. They like 90% initiate the breakup just like they overwhelmingly initiate divorces