Thank you for such a powerful, educative and encouraging video, Shridhar. Parenting is a privilege which is gratifying and empowering. Monkey see, monkey do. We need to think, talk, act in a way that we wish to see in our children. Attachment is the source of fear, possessiveness and worry. Unconditional love will lead to healthy relationships filled with trust, courage, honesty and empathy. At the end of the day, our child is an individual different from us. We are robbing them from their identity by making them our clone with force and fear.

Thank you so much. You explained this concept very well. I am one who over parents but I am wanting to parent intentionally and learn to detach so that my child can learn from life's natural consequences. I have learnt that overparenting doesn't work as children don't appreciate the extra effort and time we put into helping them. I am trying to change my behaviors to invest back into my life. I think I lost myself in the parenting world. I am the parent that would stay home from a party to help my daughter study. Now, I am trying to change and go to a party even on nights my daughter is scrambling to study. As a mom it is hard to watch my daughter struggle, however I know that in struggle there is growth and lessons to be learnt. I really liked the way you explained that our child is 1 monkey in the middle of thousands of other monkeys. It just helps to visualize what you are trying to teach. Thank you. I feel much better after watching your videos and will be rewatching it over and over again.

I'm worring about their outside life that is freind ship. Thanks alot to u. Showing me right way to handled my partner. Friends of my son

Beautifully explained.amezing video.ya..first i was a very caring and strict parent but thankfully i learned in time that true appreciation can tranform your childs life.yes some time we have to let our child free ,and be like friends.

I do over parent because my husband is just the opposite, he doesnt bother about them, I mostly worry about the time they waste and not taking care of their health and sleeping late

Beautifully explained,im worried about my child health that I feel its too much,I live in a extended joint family every now and then my mother-in-law will interrupt and make a fusion, which is causing serious problem relationship with my husband is not going well

thank you sridhar. often observed that the father is obsessed with hygiene..frequent.hand wash ...and the child is disliking it.

Good work, very good work, well presented and timed, the last point of listening to the video again and again till it sinks in is very correct.

Same problem in suffering with my 10 years old boy he's very stubborn. Good ideas. I'll follow your aspect's definitely thank you....

Thank you for sharing. You are doing a fabulous job in bringing awareness to this world.

Thanq for such a wonderful vedios...I felt i wanted to be a best mom for my kids ...am availabls to them at all the time..providing everything before they come to me as they can't express...that's failed...as my baby still does not speak nd ask for what she wants.from now I follow ur all lovable suggestions...thanx for helping all the parents 😍😘

Excellent sridhar.. Thank you

Sir ji you are so at the subject..... I m over worrying type of parent..i got a different insight of detaching a little from them. He is a single child. So all the more attention on him... Thank you. You speech is very confident, clear and meaningful.... Loved it

Lovely Mr. Shridar. Your videos are good to shape our child. Hatsoff.

Wonderful ..excellent ..what not ..

WOW.... wonderful video..I am undergoing this ... According to me I was the best mom ... always available and supporting my son...in any situation and helping him...But This year he has started conveying me through his actions and words and I realize it was maybe overparenting...and I am deeply saddened thinking how my method failed...So as you said I need to zoom out....will try..love you for making such videos

The best thing about this video that he is generalising the child with SHE. I mean mostly when there is no specificafion of gender we use HE. N I always wonder about this. Its so gd to listen this.

Awesome advises sir in very simple way.. U helped me a lot for all relations and my mental health peace too Thnk you sir

Thankyou dear for such a good video....I do over care for my child as I wanted to b the best mom and I do forget myself nd I can see that in my frustration........in short I have to b happy first then I can make them happy .... .u r great man👍

Your videos are invaluable! Thank you.

A treasure of valuable information

You are just supreme....my thinking is like you only...I believe in genes.....I follow you.....you supported my thoughts which I was following ...thank you very much 🙏

Amazing video sridhar......please make a video especially for grown up kids about 20 years ....sometimes they try to overpower parents

Love your videos! Thank you

Sir , you are too good .

Amazing work, thought,analysis & dialogues. I love listing ur deepest analytical thought. Keep growing best wishes👍👏👏

Best vedio sir 👍

Good one Sir.... very useful

Omg thank you! I am so much more than just a parent.

Great takeaways from your videos. Thanks and am Grateful to your valuable work!

Wow. I loved it.

Love your thoughts...

You nailed it shridhar.......thanks

Simply awesome. I was desperately in need of this.Thank you so much

Super, very wise, thanks a lot 😊

Much needed video....i have lost my own personality in parenting my children

Lovely! Thanks for this advices ❤️

Made a lot of sense and I wish I had done what you say earlier, my kids are grown up now but I’m trying it now and it’s working in some ways even now.

Your lecture is really eye opening lecture for me, now i realise unknowingly i tried to discipline my child but it doesn't work the result is disappointment ,,so I should keep little detached myself. Definetly I will work on it

Thank you so much!!!! My over parenting cropped up from the fact that I was busy birthing and raising my younger daughter during the initial precious years of my elder son.... Now i am guilt ridden and want to correct the damage done as my son is full of silence, not sensitive towards others and not expressive.....i sucked as parent.....pls help.... Can't control my tears while writing this

Use ful tips

Awesome 👏🏽

My mom would be the type of mother that wouldn't alow me to go outside and play with my peers in the neighbourhood. So I didn't get to be that social with others. Now though she blames me and doesn't understand why I don't go out, or talk with people. When it's her that doesn't allow me to become: I'll become a "yob/gypsy" like the kids in my street. Thank you mom for making me socially awkward and anxious

Thankyou so much for your motivational guidance.I will begin to detach myself slowly from them and concentrate more on my happiness.

U r right...Same feelings Sir...👍

This is aheartfelt thankyou

Well said. Very well said.

Thank God, I'm already detaching myself, but your video cleared my concept of detaching.

Thank you 😊

Good one 🙏

Thank you Shridhar 😇

Thank you for this insight you have provided... I was thinking so that I am over parenting(was not sure though) and was looking for a way out. This video helped me and I am sure now I was thinking right about my over parenting!!😎

U r amazing. Thank you so much for such insights.

Absolutely love you videos... taken off so much pressure... Will surely listen to to Audio books

I am really impressed with this video of yours. thankyou so much,

@rimmibhatia4930

3 жыл бұрын

Yes you are right... We must focus on building a long term relationship with the child rather than a short term.. I am convinced with your suggestions and I promise myself to follow immediately as my child is more important to me rather than anything else... Thanks so much for the guidance...

Thank you

Excellent

thank you

Thanks for this vedio

I was overparenting ..had realised this few months bk..and now correcting myself..and definitely made some positive changes in myself

Thanks Shridhar, u reminded me that i am doing wrong, n i have to detach a little, or the relation will be spoiled, God bless u.

Love it. This is great. Thank you so much 🙂. You are right on point 👍

@munira1422

4 жыл бұрын

How do u explain this over parenting with a husband who has a personality disorder and he is obsessed about my 20 yr old son so much that my son become angry and withdrawn even towards me though I am quite liberal with him

so refereshing to hear you and this is eye openor

If the child is independent and responsible, I am ready to back off and enjoy my life but that is not the case. I have to push him to get his work done.

This video is for me. As a mother over parenting has ruined my life and my son's.

@nicsilvestroni9221

4 жыл бұрын

rani naik : how? Can you more elaborate it?

Very nice

nicely explained

Nice video

Very good and impressive talk. I started practicing long back. I started moving with friend only and he shares majority with me. My husband is nit like that. So daily rift between them. My son is 16 yrs old. Plguide me as he is very much updated in latest gadgets and shows interest in tinkering and robots

This is very true

Super

Your videos are really really awesome ..pls make a video on how to handle ourselves first n then d child when they break our trust on them inspite of being fair enough on their part.

I worry that if either of my children get killed or incapacitated doing something risky that I won’t mentally recover from it. I lived 32 years of my life without them just fine- but I question whether I could go on if something tragic happened to them because I didn’t teach them to make good decisions.

ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I'VE LISTENED TO TILL NOW ANYYWHEREEE.... SUPERBBB.....YOU ARE DOING A GREATTT WORK.. KEEP IT UP. GOD BLESS YOU.❤

best ever thought kash koi ise Hindi me translate karke post kare

I m thinking that how u know all this.well u r a psychiatric but u know it very well.This is my problem.im facing it.Thank a lot

i agree

👍

Do a vedio for the parents who adopted children

Hi sir ur videos are very useful for me and I’m over parenting and I don’t know how to control my kids and my self I’m worrying too much

@nicsilvestroni9221

4 жыл бұрын

SRILANKAN RECIPES : I want to just tell you something: I knew a mum like you and she was over pampering and over parenting her child. But, one day, sadly she passed away and her child forced to live in other tough situations. The child suffered incredibly at first , but slowly he adapted to new situations of his life ! What you understand from this story? Life is so unpredictable and no one knows that what happened on next minute. So, Enjoy them, relax with them and more importantly not too much controlling them. As a Parent, if we have this wisdom , then we will try to parenting our kids with more free mind , relaxed and little bit un attached (not too much) from them. Because our kid’s lives are not in our control at all . If we parenting with this knowledge, kids can adapt new situations in their lives with more easily .

Hi a very very good advice as u said am the same mother of thoughts but I'm trying to change myself . but the only problem or question my children are the basic the routine things like both sons of 7the & 4the won't brush teeth , washing face ... Going to wash room themselves , bathing neatly these are main problems except reading & handwriting. Please help me in mornings it'll be a big messy as a fish market

I worry about making my daughter independent in studies as well as in daily routine chores

Hi plz make it in Hindi because it's helpful to all which are weak in English .

I am not able to find the audiobooks in your website. Can anyone help please?

😘😘😘😘

My child is 7 months old and I care for her a lot.. I think my mom in law won't be able to take care of her in the best possible way.. she would scold her, won't be able to handle her tantrums.. I do not keep my daughter with anyone else.

I am fighting for divorce, so I always make sure I play role of parents not alone a mother. But I also feels at times I do over parenting. What should I do.

How to make our children confident enough to face small situations himself

Hello sir very Good Morning very much true about all lectures my question is if a only child is not studying well when he is in class 10 and facing board exams and a lot of compliant about academic and school literally blames the student to be on the safer side in this regard what type of measures to be taken as portents please give suggestions sir

All advices to parents..can you guid the children towards their parents..

My son always thinks that I control him too much. I instruct him to study all the time. None of this is true but he goes over and above and shouts these sentences whenever he asks for something and I say no due for various reasons example if he wants a new phone or something. He used to be sorry but not anymore, he is 17 and he thinks he is an adult. He challange me so often like he says "I will buy it next year even if you don't agree, I am an adult" I am so emotional about him, what should I do?

I worry a lot about my husband. He has alcohol addiction problems because of which my parenting skills go for a toss.

I knw it's wring keeping d child scolding all d tym fr every small things lk during havin food n by wachin TV n any other wrk which has to be dn by dem ...bt they dnt listen to it scolding ll be d alternate choice fr a parent n after feelin fr v as parent do ...pls clar me wat I can do better

Become friend to your own children. ....

one child is write a lots but he can't remember anything.he forget everything within a second what is the remedy.please reply

I worry if he brushed the teeth well, did eat enough, did he watch too much of phone, I am staying at another place for job. He is 2 years old staying with my parents. Shridhar, Is it okey to leave the child with my parents at this age?

I am worried about my child s education. and over pampering from family

give some advice teenagers girl and how can i understand about her feelings.

@ani6681

4 жыл бұрын

very true

for me 2 boys, first one is 10yrs & second is 8yrs,they are not mingle with their peer groups, if they went to play them can't adopt themselves with other kids,what is solutions for that

@aarthishetty2214

4 жыл бұрын

Please go counselling.I am suggesting because I am a psychologist myself. Videos can make you understand only so much.

Thanks for your suggestions but i am worried about my son who is so confused regarding what to do after completing 12.He makes his choice but then not happy about it and starts blaming me although it is his choice in the beginning.

@nicsilvestroni9221

4 жыл бұрын

Vijayshree Singh : He is just an adolescent and it’s normal that they are confused and rebellious on that age ! If you know the psychological part of each age, you wouldn’t worry like this !