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Disorganing not only bothers the mom, it is troublesome to the kids finding their things, later they blame moms for not helping in finding their things. This creates lot of tension among moms and get blamed for no reason

@sreedeviharidas6625

4 жыл бұрын

when search for list items ,like when you go to office school..or any where or you have misplaced it in the house or where ever .Keep repeating this SwithcWord___REACH.. SAY REACH REACH REACH REACH REACH REACH..CONTINUE SAYING ... REPEAT IT VERY PEACE FULLY..YOU WILL GET IT VERY SOON.😊.Its worked for me and many others .. Thankyou 🙏😇

I just want to clear one thing here there is a difference between cleanliness and orderliness..,, First few lines in ur video u were talking about keeping up the things at the right place that is orderliness..,, This is what is lacking now with children....It creates some sort of responsibility if they miss to do even their own things then slowly they will start to forget things it becomes difficult for them.... As a parent we are not expecting them to clean the house or help in chaos what we all want is we want them to be responsible.... Just to take care of themselves..., They can’t make other people run for their irresponsible work..., Atleast they should do their own work that’s it

Disorder is fine if it is out of engagement. But if it is just because of laziness dn it is not a sign of creativity or productivity.

@patelsuraiya9228

5 жыл бұрын

This is absolutely the right point 👍

@sandy-hk5id

5 жыл бұрын

Pls reply to this query👆

@patelsuraiya9228

5 жыл бұрын

@@sandy-hk5id what query do you have?

@nikthinks

5 жыл бұрын

@@patelsuraiya9228 Yes! Many guys I knew during college days had their rooms messed up like a rat hole. It had nothing to do with creativity they were just unhygienic and immature. It has been 12 years since and most of them are still struggling to give order to their lives both personally and professionally. In the words of Jordon Peterson 'clean your room, change the world' period.

@srivirao

5 жыл бұрын

Your kids dont have to live up to your standards nor your spouse. Thats powerful !

Oh my God! This is completely a new prospective way to deal with this tiny yet huge problem i face with my kids. This is soothing and relaxing. Yes indeed! I feel pressure of being the perfect mom. So I burden my family by my expectations. Thank you for such innovative explanation.

Wow !!! Awwespme !!! I'm sure my kids would want to run and come to you and Garland you👍

Thank you for taking the time to talk about this. I have been a messy kid all my life, and after being a mom I found this new habit of organising things (Of course my new family has influenced me a lot). But sometimes I feel like I've lost my creativity and spontaneousness in forcing myself to be more organized.

Bro I totally agree with you..at times we patents do get obsessed with cleanliness and order in life to the extent making life miserable for our kids...I am so glad I found your channel..gave me a big opportunity to stop and think...keep up the great work..love from Egypt ❤❤❤

Very beautifully narrated advice and way of parenting. Thanks hope we will follow it to our kids

Shridhar I don't know why some people don't agree with ur guidance,i had always found ur tip sooo helpful after all u do so much research n with examples u present ur views...good job keep it up 👍

Today, I understand why most of the matured people said that if u ever feel that u have been trapped in some big problem and after so many efforts could not able to come out with a solution seek the advice of an professional consultant. Thanks a ton Shri for showing me another side of coin which I am not able to see & spoiling the relations those are really closed to my heart.

Its Superbbb...Thnks for this video ...keep sharing 👍🏻

Thanks so much for this, a fresh take on something that has disturbed me a lot as I emerge from my adolescence. I grew up in a very messy home, and now that I live on my own, mess makes me anxious. Now I understand why, and it’s no major flaw in my childhood or some tragedy that my mother worked too hard to keep everything clean all the time. I’ve just been taught through experience that allowing mess makes me inferior for whatever reason. Again, thank you.

Thanks so much, your videos are so helpful, thanku for bringing sanity peace in my life,, lots of love, blessings ❤

Wow!! This was an eye opener. I always fret when my house is disorganised. For the first time I am hearing that chaos is ok. I literally loose my cool every day with my second daughter regarding her messy desk.

@perryh.5306

2 жыл бұрын

If I was your son...only thing I'd be doing is being at home doing what you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing. I'd do all of the cleaning so you don't have to worry with it! I'd help out in all other areas. My only happiness would be to obey you and make you happy!

Tnq very much, it was really good to see the video, s I also wanted that orderly ness from my husband & daughter , but now I realised that it's my personal trait and I hv time cope up with their lil mess also. Tnq very much

It's fine to use ur suggestion of accepting chaos at home but what about when they do this at other places ? People will demotivate them,judge them,not behave respectfully with them,or even judge parents for their habbits..this happens..many of us would like to know the solutions for this .Thx

These scientists conclusions keep changing constantly don't go with it just follow your conscience without strssing yourself or ur kid

@bhargavisangu4057

4 жыл бұрын

True it's keeps changing on indubitably perspective. Just follow wat u feel is right u might learn some thing of it. There's nothing good or bad everything teaches us something or other

Wow! A totally new perspective! I like it.

My elder daughter is same like u said. Messy bt my younger one is better than her. I m surprised. I always scold my child bcoz she doesn't keep anything in right place.bt she's gud in studies, painting and many more things.Bt now my mind has changed as ur way of thinking. Let her way d way she is🙂. Nowonwards i vl nt scold her. Thanx to u🙂🙏

I love you your videos, thank you. made my day when I felt at my worst with my daughter's behavior. She's an outdoor person and I'm an indoor person always wanting to keep the house clean and thinking if she is lazy at chores then I'll be the one to suffer in the future..

Thank you,am so privileged,in watching your video,GOD will bless you abundantl.🙏🙏🙏

As a home maker thank you so much for clarity, since I experienced this that earlier I used to get upset and lots of fights used to happen because of orderliness issues but then I learnt to let it go....voila!! It worked for better....since kids found their own way of keeping their stuff properly (but not as how I would like it but still they figured it out) since they needed them and understood mom is not going to do for them...😊.

You really add a different meaning to ordelyness...n cleanliness...goooooood✌🏻

I'm an adult and I'm still dealing with unresolved trauma which has caused me depresion and anxiety for the longest time right because of my mother's obsession with cleaningness and order making her to channel out her frustration and negativity on me and my siblings , always yelling and making arguments out of the pettiest things. And I can't thank enough for this video that I'm about to send her , thanks a thousand times over

Many parents just forget to find the reasons of their children's laziness.. sometimes it is because some health problems too like anameia that go unnoticed.. And taking care of your child is a project of 20 years .that requires dedication and devotion..most of the parents are extremely tired to take their child responsibility..either they make their child to take admission in hi-fi coaching / schools..but rarely any schooling is done at home..be participative with your child.. listen to him/her carefully.. don't let your child vent up their feelings to any strangers..be strict with them but reasonably n humbly not wildly..

Happy Morning. I am a parent of 20&16. This is totally different perspective! Find it difficult to accept. But nevertheless have taken a stand to look at this topic in your perspective. Thanks for the video.

Thank you, Im learning a lot. Tolerance for everybody's differences - that's what I should work on.

Much needed . My 10yr old son's teacher is forcing him and stressing him to maintain clean notebook . Even though he is Best in class in literacy and numeracy , he is constantly made to feel guilty over untidy notebook and bad handwriting

Wonderful video..brings in some peace

Thank you for a different perspective....👍👍

Nice video Sir...i just happened to see ur video at d time i most needed ...i have started getting obsessed lately regarding orderliness & cleaniness...i felt quite relieved after hearing u & also one Brother Jude Antonie who is a preacher in church...his video & urs i found quite inspirational...he has explained in one of his videos regarding marriage...dat man & woman r created differently...so we cant expect our spouses to agree with our views & opinions...quite a hilarious video of his...do watch it ...its quite good

Chaos in the house makes it feel livable. Too organised feels like showrooms or museum. But i believe nature is very organised and rythmic. Discipline helps, orderlyness helps

Thank you,this video changed my perspective. Less nagging and less bp now

Will try to implement on my son but definitely it will take some time Learning something new from a different perspective

@perryh.5306

2 жыл бұрын

If I was your son...only thing I'd be doing is being at home doing what you tell me to do with no back talk or arguing. I'd do all of the cleaning so you don't have to worry with it! I'd help out in all other areas. My only happiness would be to obey you and make you happy!

Mr. Shridhar Maheshwari- Thank you. This beautiful view point, made lot of sense.. should bring me down now from lvl 8-lvl1 in orderliness. Thanks again🙏🏻🙏🏻

धन्यवाद श्रीधरजी

U r awesome... Aweeeeeeesome insight . Dats lyk listening to modern geeta gyan descending straight from gen X lord Krishna as far as nu age parenting challenging issues . U r very very relevant n effective shridhar

I am someone who is completely obsessive with brand new. I have never had the finances to afford everything to be brand new everytime. However, I notice things that are 2nd hand make me feel extremely unsuccessful. Hence, I refuse to buy from thrift stores. I have exaggerated this to include respect for the passing, the people who lost those items unknowingly, and that my family is worth the brand new. It hurts when someone of my finances watches dishes get broken. It hurts to know I spent $20.00 on a cup that is offered for $5.00 somewhere else get tossed like it didn't mattered. How do I fix this. My child who's I school age now has become compulsive with debree and wasteful mess. For example: small items on the carpet that we don't ever have. Paper scraps, crumbs, and also broken bits of crayons. Wasting a soda after it is opened, and wanting another open. Throwing food away and wanting more food. Also dumping all of the soap in the bathroom or wasting all of the dish soap. I know I should love cleaning up after my kids. . .and I do. I hate touching the debree, it hurts me emotionally. To clean everything so much and rewiping things 3-5 times a day is a lot for 1 child. I'm vacuuming about 4x a day. I've talked about this and it is a custom to NOT allow a child or a man to clean. So I am looking for ways to fix how I respond. I'm bitting my tongue in embarrassment because I look part maid instead of responsible.

Good one..Loved it . Continue your messages ,at least a few of them will implement it in the life..I love myself,so it's easy for me🙏😇 love and gratitude to you and all shridharji

Even a thinker like me didn't think of it like this..Thanks a ton !

Hi i am very thankful for your video. Simply open my eyes... Thank you once again.

Great!👍

Too good man. U have changed my view thanks alot .

Mother feel guilt too but have to train their children to be organized. Though yours is different take on the topic, mothers should also be freed from the "taken for granted" zone of picking towels dishes teacups sorting cupboards folding clothes etc. Many mothers work these days you know and students stay in hostels too and have to learn doing these things by themselves. We have to clean our own asshole too right not outsource or does our mother clean our asshole even after we apparently grow up.

@nancysantiago2070

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly

No one would like to go in a disordered room, it gives a sense of negativity, when u enter someone's house or room, we expect it to be neat n clean... Else you wont be able to concentrate n feel happy.. Thats my thinking🤔 , i cant work in a messy room

Feeling sorry for missing these vedios so far... Excellently explained..

Such intellectual retreat!

Absolutely true observation, thanks a lot ,realised my mistakes 🙏

Sir Your lectures r commendable and eye-openers God bless

Simple, useful and relatable.

Pretty good points and they are well researched . And of course Indian parenting has a lot to absorb. Although not everyone is going agree some points are really the truth. I cant force some habits on eveyone in my house.

This is what I do, but, I don't know whether it's right. I tell my kids to help with house chores and pay them money. It brings a sense that we have to earn and eat. And teaches them responsibility.

I am very appreciated with ur video..

❤

Hats off to u Sridhar ji🤗🤗😎😎

A huge thank you

Great advice.. thank you.. sharing to needy ❤

My house is a cosmic chaos! My 3yo son just throws things around everywhere. I tell him to do minimum clean up every night. Rest we clean up once in a week, with a loud music on & dancing. I don't mind any guests at any time. I welcome them with a big smile on face, I push things around to make some space for them to sit in the middle of shit pile in the living room. I'm not ashamed or hesitant of not being able meet somebody's organizing asthetics standard. I'm having a fun filled, chilled out life. My 33yo husband is disorganized to the extent unimaginable. He never even keeps car/bike keys in one place, let alone hanging his shirts in right place. I'm not an organized person myself but utter chaos makes us waste a lot of time every time in finding things. Every time I find my things immediately & leave for office in the right time he gets jealous. But it's their wish I don't compel him to be organized. If he's ok wasting his 15-30 mins every day finding his keys, up to him. I will not waste time helping him even if it's at the cost of him missing or going late for his meeting. He seems to have eventually learned his lesson & trying to be little organized. On the other hand my mom is highly organized. I think being minimal organized at certain daily chores is smart & time saving. U don't want to waste everyday 15mins each in looking for toothbrush, shaver, sock. But spending a lot of time in organizing & asthetics is a waste of too much energy in life. Organizing is to facilitate life, that itself should not be life's goal.

Good awesome practical dynamic speech

I am not focusing on cleaning or tidying up. My oldest daughter loves a messy room and I just close the door. Dirty clothes will come when they have nothing to wear. If they can't find something in their room it is not my problem. It is your own responsibility in how you want to look your bedroom. She is creative and that is the part I focus on. I let them be theirselves. The only problem is when for example a social worker comes as they have other views. It brings stress and that is what I tell to the social worker. I focus more on my kids than on the house. Everyday I go through the home and tidy and clean what is important for me. So if I have this view, then others can have their view. None of the views are wrong. They are just different. Focus on yourself. Give an example of how you are and let them choose to follow you or not. Everyone is different and that is a good thing. Focus on the person and not on the results. Much love. Xx

Wow.. thank u... Awesome perspective

An eye opener, thanks so much

U r amazing. God bless u.

Hi .. Your workshop was really good .... Its me obsessed with cleaning and my son is addicted to blocks which he scatters around in whole room ....he makes amazing Things out if it though just 7 years old and I have to clean it again and again and end up nagging him .... I do try not but will try more hard from my side to be patient ..thanks

And as you said it's their house also they have the responsibility to take minimal care of it.

@virensridhar9985

3 жыл бұрын

But they may be fine with that disorder right

Namaste sir, very Nice and useful topic for parents

Thank you very much brother you are wonderful educator

Very nice video for parents.

Wonderful talk u have opened my mind

Thanks a lot... Chaos.. 🙏😁👏👏 U hv freed me of a lot of guilt 😘

I can relate each and every bit of this video… I am being so intolerant and not having peace of mind… very timely …. Please share the videos that speaks the ways to teach kids personal and house cleanliness … I just subscribed to your channel . Can you please tell me if you can take some parenting and as well sessions for my kid who is diagnosed ADHD

a very new perspective

Thanks a lot sir for advice.🙏

Feel like u spoke to me directly 😀

Sreedhar... Well said!!!

Thank you 🙏

Soooo nice.....thnku

Thanks a lot for this video Sir.

Thanks so much, liked the perspective on tolerating and accepting diversity of approach around cleanliness and orderliness. However would be interesting to know his do we drive discipline and perseverance in children. To me orderliness is a sign if self discipline. Kindly share your thoughts around this

Thank you, very very much.

Thank you so much, I now know where I was going wrong.

Nice vlog sir, i am applying the same techniques

Hi shridhar u indeed are making our parenting easy. Pls make a vedio regarding increase in shopping in children and low level of satisfaction even after buying things and how to handle this.

The video is really awesome. There are always two sides of a coin but sometimes we forget to see the other side ......Thanks a lot for reminding us that the other side does exist. But what about the chance to attend and to interact with you personally as the cost of tickets of your seminar are way too higher for a middleclass person like me...??? Feeling very sad 😔

Thanks for the video 😊

Wow man! Thanks a ton for this different perspective.

Useful post

Loved it

I agree partly you are right, but now a days, mom's are not only house makers they have to do multi tasking so she needs everyone help.. And according to me good habits should cultivate so in future they should not feel that they are doing upkar of keeping their things properly. Yes the way of telling them should be proper.. But apana Kam khudne hi karna chahiye

Awesome ! Never hear such a great speak even in Canada.

Thank u so much Sir.. complete new outlook towards this particular problem each one of us face...but still have few questions in my mind..because parents can tolerate but what about others?

@virensridhar9985

3 жыл бұрын

When you go to somebody else's house, as a guest, then yes, there you have to be very careful that the child doesn't do anything which makes their house messy

Hi Shridhar.. I loved this video.. I am Vidya a single mom And this video puts me at ease.. Thanks Vidya

@mahendramallya9553

5 жыл бұрын

Hi Ms Vidya, pl dont get too influenced by these kind of opinions. Be a friend n confidante of ur child and reason out with him/her. Chaos has seldom helped kids to be responsible adults. U know whats best for ur child and love, care n healthy communication can move the proverbial mountains. Ur guidance only can set the pattern for ur lovely child.

@vidyapatil5352

5 жыл бұрын

@@mahendramallya9553 appreciate your viewpoint

Tq so much 😊

This vdo is just for me as m 32 years old n getting scolding from my mom for being unorganized till now

Sir, apne problems to bata diye but solutions? Uske liye seminar attend karo? Vo bhi ticket leke? Better u make video on this. I think this is promotional video for your chargeable seminar or counselling. Is it so?

Being a teacher, I'm facing the complaints from the parents..that their child is nt at all organised.. I my self face these issues on a daily basis in the school and class as well. So Mr. Shreedhar.. I won't agree with u... Ya, ofcourse, we shouldn't be nagging.. But then how? We shivered on one voice of our parents... But nowdays,, overpamperdness has ruined everything... We are providing more than the requirements..they need one, we give them 10.. They can't value the emotions & the hard work of their parents.. According to them it's the duty of parents to provide things to them coz' they have given them birth.. We say that the generation is changed,, children don't listen.. Do you know y? Because, when either of the parent is scolding or trying to check the child on wrong doing, one of the parent mum or dad, come to their rescue. Blame game is played in front of the children.. Hence these kids don't respect us. We are only the facility providers like a shopkeeper that's it.. Both the parents if statrt taking it seriously, to a greater extent the problem could be solved. & last but nt the least end of the joint family system & the quest for individual space is playing the villain. It's a very big debate.. All points couldn't be covered.. My suggestion to all the parents always had been that from the beginning stop fulfilling the demands of their kids..let them feel the need.. Then give it to them.. These kids don't want to work hard.. All they want to be done automatically..

@virensridhar9985

3 жыл бұрын

How is all this connected to the topic of orderliness

Sir, When r u coming to Ambala??

Plz come up with videos on' Learning Disability' in children's.

I'm from Andhra Pradesh Its difficult to reach u Pls upload all seminars So we can learn to live happily 😀🤩🤩🤩🤗🤗