I think that Demi wants the happily ever after so badly she’s just jumping and anything sorta worth while .... she needs to be patient

@tfkvng3187

3 жыл бұрын

FACTS

@annahiltion9745

3 жыл бұрын

she needs to take time for herself

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@annahiltion9745 You married, Anna? It's a huge step in life, never to be taken lightly!!

@chaunybuck6065

3 жыл бұрын

@@johnhartsock1891 where did she say that it wasn't? She said that Demi needs to take time 4 herself. That's the complete opposite of rushing into marriage 🤦🏻‍♀️

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@chaunybuck6065 I was merely pointing out the importance of giving much thought to marriage, Chaundra. Not speaking in direct terms at all.

You called it! You saw this coming. 😂 it’s like they did this whole thing just to give you content.

@MsNatna

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂

@veronicasaldias2584

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Shallon said this will happen!!

@stoeberhund

3 жыл бұрын

Well, everyone saw it coming. It was not so hard to guess....

@FM-zg5hz

3 жыл бұрын

@@stoeberhund Yes but it literally happened a WEEK after she made a video about it lol

@nicolep9851

3 жыл бұрын

This comment feels like a personal attack 🥺😭😭 (jk jk)

Narcissists also “open up” with their wounded bird childhood trauma stories, how unfair their life has been, woe is me, so that you can feel bad for them and get hooked on trying to fix their lives. Which easily could’ve been Demi! It’s very possible.

@AFFTFOMSICHTS

3 жыл бұрын

This is moochers favorite tactic

@annebryant7844

3 жыл бұрын

Yes💯

@SunnySummer777

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@laurac86

3 жыл бұрын

Agree

@kubrajade6387

3 жыл бұрын

Not every person who opens up about childhood trauma is a narcissist. It’s usually the other way round where a narcissist tries everything in their power to not discuss all the things that happened to them when they were younger as it may ‘ruin their facade’.

I love how you can tell you are so professional and well spoken because there is never like any editing or cutting out parts. I’ve never come across a KZreadr like that

@mortysmith7673

3 жыл бұрын

Watch dangelowallace's video on her please.

@alexanderjames5714

3 жыл бұрын

Morty Smith, I saw Rachel Oates review of her book and had to see this for myself

@Sophassofa

3 жыл бұрын

Its lowkey a little lazy like a bit of editing couldnt hurt but how she just talks for half an hour straight is beyond me

@shyannamarie3954

3 жыл бұрын

Alexander James I didn’t know she had a book I just came across shallon this week. Is it bad?

@alexanderjames5714

3 жыл бұрын

Shyanna Mariano, it’s not great but the problem is the racist comments and deliberate manipulation. It’s all her own words so it’s hard to look past

This guy posted numerous times that Selena Gomez was prettier and better then Demi herself 💀 This guy couldn’t get Selena so he got with her.

@maheenm.k1015

3 жыл бұрын

Oh that hits the worst, she's worse than Khloe Kardashian.

@shmooboogieharper748

3 жыл бұрын

The irony is he ended up with the person he thought was second best so what’s that say about him 😅 he couldn’t even get the person he wanted and had to settle

@iersii

3 жыл бұрын

it's fake plss max is a rat and a clout chaser but he never posted that

@lovelifelaugh2727

3 жыл бұрын

He’s just a fan

@lavonnealexander6936

3 жыл бұрын

😳😤😤she better dump his , dumb ass fucker. Demi deserves more!!!

He's an imposter; she's naive. Welcome to the club!

@ach4049

3 жыл бұрын

She is not naive at all. A woman that is an alcoholic, heroin and coke-addicted, millionaire for 16 years old, she saw it all, did it all. She is messy with no self-esteem and she could not handle the fact that all her exes, including ex friends, are moving on and having families of their own and she is still just talking about her thousand lies and struggles

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@ach4049 Sounds very judgmental, Agatha.

@ach4049

3 жыл бұрын

@Karry V not what I meant. I mean she did it all she is not an innocent child. She someone that has lived a lot. She is just messy not a victim tho.

Can you imagine Demi watched your video and thats why she broke up with him 🤣

Love that you're addressing love bombing. Things should never move fast, especially not lightening fast. Huge red flag. Like you said you will inevitably be devalued by this person and discarded. It is a huge red flag of a personality disorder. Narcissists love bomb, idealise people and throw them away. Borderlines do too.

@user-kb8qw7dy4t

3 жыл бұрын

It's true. As someone with a personality disorder, I tend to fall in love at first sight and move unreasonably fast. It's not something I do consciously, and I have to remind myself: "You do not really love this person whom you hardly even know. You're in love with a fictional character you've created in your own warped mind and projected onto this person." The toxic thing is that the other person cannot possibly live up to the unrealistic expectations, and once the fantasy is shattered and I see them for the flawed human being they really are, that's when the devaluation begins.

When she announced she moved in with him after a week of knowing each other I was like 🙄. How do you let someone in to your circle that fast? As a celebrity people will always have uncertain intentions with you, let things evolve slowly. How do you even let someone you met yesterday to be IN YOUR HOUSE WITH YOUR BELONGINGS? Someone who’s actually interested in you will take their time to get to know everything about you and will plan a future with you on a healthy amount of time, otherwise either they’re just love bombing you to have power over you, or they are emotionally codependent to anybody that will pay attention to them because they have low self esteem and need validation.

@etaylor8028

3 жыл бұрын

In normal circumstances I agree, but to be fair this was during the pandemic so it's possible they wanted to self-quarantine together for safety reasons.

I look at the absolute garbage piles I used to date and I'm just like Why.... Edit 2 months later: holy shit I found someone worth while for the first time in my life. There is hope ladies.

@laurac86

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaha me too 🤦🏻‍♀️

@wyzasukitan

3 жыл бұрын

yo I hear you 🙄 mine popped up on TikTok and girl when I tell you I was *retching*

@rachmaninovwasemo2313

3 жыл бұрын

@@wyzasukitan I'm like, what were you thinking, to myself.

@nicotinedietcoke

3 жыл бұрын

I know I ask myself the same thing yet here I am still ruining my own life over a garbage pile. Love and manipulation make one heeeell of a cocktaill

@YPM498

3 жыл бұрын

Jacquie Montclair Lmaoo not retching 🤣

oh girl they were so cringey as a couple. She was screaming, "look at me Wilmer, I'm doing o.k"

@shallonlester

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh so true. Didn’t she go public with max the week Wilmer got engaged? Ooo girl.

@yooolanda4992

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester literally!

@ronnielodge7032

3 жыл бұрын

Her engagement pic is also at the beach same as Wilmer’s engagement pic

@serinawoods-huntley1175

3 жыл бұрын

@@shallonlester What's interesting is that Demi is the one who broke up with Wilmer....So why do that just to be flashing relationships now?....she might as well have just stayed with him.

@Beauty_bydeborah

3 жыл бұрын

Serina Woods I think she might have regretted and he didn’t want to get back together. I remember that documentary she said she wanted to be single and experience life and that’s why they broke up. I thought it was weird. But who knows what happened. After they broke up he got together with Minka kelly and Demi didn’t like that at all, she kept throwing shade at Minka. So immature.

I think Demi was just trying to marry fast only because Wilmer proposed to his girlfriend

@RavenFieldTTV

3 жыл бұрын

True!!!! The timeline says it all

@shersyril6495

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same :/

@cynthia1550

3 жыл бұрын

And Nick Jonas ..

@rainstorm571

3 жыл бұрын

Cynthia nick Jonas was a teen relationship and he’s been married for years , Wilmer was like a decade long relationship

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

I heard Wilmer's wife to be looks like Wilma Flinstone. She's known as Wilber's Wilma!!

I was waiting for this as soon as I saw this happend last night around 12AM omg!!

@libbylikewhoa

3 жыл бұрын

Lol same!

@dacekesane4466

3 жыл бұрын

Same here 😁

@juliaisabl

3 жыл бұрын

Same here guys lol

@brookerowe9245

3 жыл бұрын

Same

@WellnessandSally

3 жыл бұрын

Me tooooo!!! As soon I saw it, I was like I can’t wait for Shallon’s video!

*pretends to be shocked*

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

😳😱

@alexandragarcia2359

3 жыл бұрын

same

Demi needs to learn to love herself. Also, why is marriage still seen as the ultimate show of love? There are so many people in happy and healthy relationships who never marry. We need to stop making marriage seem like this magical thing...

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

A buddy of mine wears a sweatshirt with a ball and chain emblem on it. When asked why, he just frowns and holds up his ring finger with his wedding ring on it. His wife isn't happy, either.

@AP-hl8rg

3 жыл бұрын

I agree but now that I'm 31, it's changed my for me. I realize that marriage is a sign of another lev of commitment, that is when the relationship was patient, loving, caring and respectful. In my community, we have to many baby mothers and men who have lowered our standards to never needing to get married. Most of my girlfriends from my upbringing and community can't get their baby's father to commit in marriage. I guess I look at it different now that I am older. I used to be okay with the non marriage, now I do want it but the relationship had to be built healthy from the foundation and with time.

@SunnySummer777

3 жыл бұрын

@@AP-hl8rg I agree!:)

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@AP-hl8rg I've seen entirely too much pain in marriages, A.P. And men generally lose their shirts in divorces. I recall the old joke about a woman who was known as a good housekeeper because every time she got divorced, she got to keep the house!!

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

@@SunnySummer777 I definitely agree that people should get married before being parents, but if you don't want to be a parent, why bother with marriage at all?

"The people who hate your boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none at all"....love that, so true! Xx

@anapenca1365

4 ай бұрын

I freakin love this quote, i was stunned when i first heard it.

Every time Shallon does Paris’ Ex’s accent I die. This is the new whisper goose. Keep it going 😂

@michellejackson2099

3 жыл бұрын

I love it too!

@natashabrooks4188

3 жыл бұрын

It's the best 😂😂😂😂

This happened because Demi doesn’t love herself and he was love bombing her with the love she needs to give HERSELF . Why would you quarantine with a stranger and then get engaged to them? What a charade. I’m sorry but this whole thing is extremely embarrassing for her

Your Pete Davidson's enaction😂😂😂

@purvasatpute4958

3 жыл бұрын

@Henry Mv hey calm down....I love Pete 😁and this was harmless.Look how she got the voice so aptly! That is what it is and nothing more.Stop reading too much.

@jessicaalfiere8843

3 жыл бұрын

So... Impressions are bad? Because pretty sure every comedian or dinner party guest has attempted impressions.

@dana4552

3 жыл бұрын

Henry Mv u have issues take a chill pill u wannabe social justice warrior 😂😂💀

@meccawhite9502

3 жыл бұрын

Henry Mv oh shut up she was making fun of his voice!

@HardFreckles

3 жыл бұрын

Can’t even make a joke about a comedian anymore, damn lol.

Demi is not blameless, she was flaunting this relationship. She is attention seeking and needy. Celebrities need to have integrity and be less attention seeking and keep relationships private.

@lunadexelaju3494

3 жыл бұрын

Yesssssss, 100!👍👍

The devil works hard, but Shallon works harder.

Shallon has that cat-eye liner so sharp, it could stab a man straight in the heart! ❤

@MrCph2200

3 жыл бұрын

Eh... no thanks...

Their whole relationship was such a joke. It’s hard to fathom why she got engaged to him in the first place. Everyone could see this coming. The way she denied everything and tried to spin it into some BLM narrative shows her lack of maturity.

@Mari-cf8pg

3 жыл бұрын

Probably when you grow up in front of cameras, working instead of being with your family, friends, at home, you can not development your personality as it should be. She is being through a lot, and she probably needs love like someone who is starving, she is just a human being, who has worked too much too young. The lesson for us is don't watch products where are children or young teenagers working, let them grow up. All children should grow up in a loving secure place

@natubb

3 жыл бұрын

Mari V well said.

@lunadexelaju3494

3 жыл бұрын

@@Mari-cf8pg no, she is not a victim. Her parents devoted their life to help her reach her dream of being a singer. She is a spoiled celebrity brat /bully with a temper and when people tried to help her be a better person she fired them. She probably rushed cuz her ex Wilmer moved on and is happily engaged. When she gets out of her own way, she will finally grow up.

Shallon, about the ick: this is what you get after you crossed your own boundaries because you're hyper-attuned to the connection with the guy and simultaneously you're not consciously aware of what you yourself really want and feel. This is related to a Fearful Avoidant attachment style which is usually a result of enmeshment trauma experienced in childhood. Attachment theory really explains this precisely, I recommend it

@oilynose

3 жыл бұрын

I came to the same conclusion when I was reading about enmeshment trauma earlier this year. I couldn't understand why I'd get the "ick", and it made me feel like a horrible person and like I was broken. It's massively helpful to understand the mechanism behind it.

@gracecandelaria406

3 жыл бұрын

Whats enmeshment trauma

@bygracethroughfaith589

3 жыл бұрын

@@gracecandelaria406 enmeshment can be present in adult relationships, but also in our caregiver-relationship we have in childhood. Enmeshment trauma in childhood happens when the boundaries between a parent and child are too weak/blurry. Example: a very smothering parent is too involved in their child's life and behaves more like a peer than a parent. Another example: a narcissistic parent doesn't respect the child's feelings and boundaries because the narcissist perceives the child as an extension of their own personality, not an autonomous individual. Of course there are many other scenarios that could create enmeshment trauma, but if it happens with a parent, it influences how we behave in adult relationships. If what I said resonates with you, I highly recommend researching attachment styles! If your boundaries were crossed when you were younger, this literally gets programmed into your subconscious mind. So if you "feel the ick" with guys, it comes from the trauma of blurry boundaries. It's not your fault. These programmings in your subconscious mind can be changed and healed, but takes time. Please have compassion on yourselves :)

@gracecandelaria406

3 жыл бұрын

@@bygracethroughfaith589 wao thank you for taking the time tl explain Im psycologist so I know attachments theories very well, and also I believe shes borderline, another qs whats the ick?

@gracecandelaria406

3 жыл бұрын

English is my 2nd language

I’m so sorry for her. She needs to focus and fix herself first

Actual footage of me and the men I’ve dated 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank goodness for therapy and practicing boundaries. I’m a bad-ass bitch now and I don’t want a man to screw up my inner peace ✌🏽

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

You dating during COVID, Melina? Any makeout sessions since the pandemic started?

Anyone else struggling to adjust post summer? It’s hard to focus on starting college again and goals for the future. It’s hard to have hope.

@shayalynn

3 жыл бұрын

dude i feel you. im struggling with motivating myself to do my school work, and i have already missed some of my assignments. what year are you?

@flordemariiaaa

3 жыл бұрын

Sameee ! Oh lord

@ashleysalazar2012

3 жыл бұрын

Good luck to you

@camiller958

3 жыл бұрын

Yup, at this point I'm ready to drop out

@ashleysalazar2012

3 жыл бұрын

@@camiller958 don't drop out. You just have to get back into the swing of things.

I thought of you as soon as this news broke! 😂

@ashleysalazar2012

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

Shallon, can you make a video about how to make friends as an adult? During this pandemic, it’s really hard to make friends in college since everything is virtual. Tips on how to maintain good friendships? I’m wondering how you made friends in a different state! Please I need some advice

@kristab6981

3 жыл бұрын

I think she has a video like this!

@Cmonbilly

3 жыл бұрын

Best pfp ever!! 🧚🏻‍♀️

@alikastyle

3 жыл бұрын

I recently joined a woman’s networking group! We meetup quarterly, great way to meet people in your community from various ages and walks of life. Put yourself out there a little, try something new you are interested in. Just say hi, and you just want to get out and meet some new people! There are awesome people that feel the same!

@garvitasingh29

3 жыл бұрын

Be kind , be honest and helpful towards others and those who are meant to be with you will become your friends

That pete accent was on point! 😂

Demi definitely should wait and date longer, but dating is a freaking mind game.

@bluecollarlit

3 жыл бұрын

Over a certain age, for me, dating became like an unbearably tedious job interview. I'd rather be working.

Shallon is so right about info dump! Guys u have to alert! I once met a guy who shared some trauma, I thought sharing such intimate info means that we are getting really close. He was only here for a good time and ghosted not long after 😂

@rockyrae3455

3 жыл бұрын

Omg. That's terrible. I hate men. Ugh!

The Pete Davidson voice 🤣always sounds like he’s got a cigar clutched at one side of his mouth

The Pete Davidson impression 😭😭😭

Hi Shallon, please can we have an Autumn glow up challenge? Struggling to adjust with going back to college and get myself back on track. It’s hard to think about the future.

@khyati7733

3 жыл бұрын

ME TOO. i feel so drained, and just done with life.

@HashtagAPI8

3 жыл бұрын

This!!!

What’s going on with Scooter Braun and his artist? After Tori Kelly got married everyone started getting engaged, Ariana, Justin, and then Demi. Am I going crazy maybe it’s just a coincidence lol.

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

Scooter is his name ‘cause he rides on other people’s fame

@arianaraquel1958

3 жыл бұрын

He pushes them to that. He settleled that relationship for Justin so Hailey take care of him.

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

@@arianaraquel1958 so it’s just a pr? I thought they had chemistry

@arianaraquel1958

3 жыл бұрын

@@evange97426 nope, it was more to have Selena away and to be abke to manipular Justin and have a nanny for him.

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

@@arianaraquel1958 why?

The engagement was all too fast, Demi should marry her equal marrying down has so much problem like clout chasers and manipulators

@roter13

3 жыл бұрын

so because he has less money, he's beneath her?

@maddiethabaddie9624

3 жыл бұрын

@@roter13 No I don't think that has anything to do with it. Based on his history of trying to tag other female celebrities like Selena, Bella, and many other females around Demi's age, and always commenting on their pictures saying "wifey" or whatever. Not to mention the other stuff he did on fan pages.. He obviously has an agenda.

@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716

3 жыл бұрын

@@roter13 yes

@familyguy160

3 жыл бұрын

Hypergamy is the way to go.

*GIRL* I heard your voice in my head when I read they broke up - you called it!

Thank god she called it off. Also, this is SOOOOO important with these people who love bomb. Dangerous territory

Demi in her documentary explain shes borderline, so thats the results, meeting and move in with him so quickly and love inestability explains a lot. Thanks for the likes, Im Psycologyst I have a youtube channel, and will update videos of mental health soon

@Partycitybaex

3 жыл бұрын

She said bipolar, but she seems more borderline to me

@gracecandelaria406

3 жыл бұрын

@@Partycitybaex she has all the borderline traits, and also she said it in her documnetary, im psycologist

@Partycitybaex

3 жыл бұрын

@@gracecandelaria406 yea I wouldn't be surprised if that was her diagnosis, even with the clinging on to romantic partners. I really wish her the best in her love life. I do feel like she still needs to do a lot of inner self work.

@gracecandelaria406

3 жыл бұрын

@@Partycitybaex yes, I believe the same, she needs to do a lot of self inner work

@tudorstefan3208

2 жыл бұрын

I watched the documentary and never heard Demi saying that has borderline. But I think that it kind a does because the behavior

“Your boundaries should people away. Fences should keep people out” 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Yes. Such great insight. You shouldn’t have to keep people around by compliance and compliance alone. You standing up for yourself is upholding boundaries and maintaining self respect, this is more important than tired, manipulative, toxic people.

I actually think there could be a connection to Demi's feelings about her longtime ex Wilmer Valderrama recently getting engaged... almost like she's putting up a front like "No look I'm not bothered by it, LOOK I'm moving on too!" As if she's trying to fill the void he left. Just a theory, but I find it too coincidental.

Why do celebrities become so out of touch with reality? We all know that Demi can’t deal with wilmers engagement. Did she think an engagement would fix everything? I’m sure she’s embarrassed but I’m glad she called it off. It was a disaster waiting to happen.

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

Tea 🍵

I agree with you. I think Demi was the love bomber in this relationship. But not with malicious intentions. She just fell in love way too fast and probably too deep, cuz she sort of became clingy.

@beatriz8260

3 жыл бұрын

But she got tired of hik fastter and then left him and he love bombed her

Urgh an ex of mine used to ALWAYS without fail find something to argue with me about or make me feel shit about before I went out with my friends, I believe that’s what made me develop social anxiety because I associated the negative feelings he created with going out without him rather than accepting he was the cause 🤯

When she wrote the song "Anyone" I thought Oh noooo some Narc is going to see that as an invitation :/

@dhfjgktdmfhfj1716

3 жыл бұрын

@Ella HendersonLover ?

I don't understand hatewatchers. You don't like Shallon, cool. You don't have to troll people who do like her. Lurking in comments and hating on her. Go to Abel and preach. Thats the place for people like you.

@leprechaun8067

3 жыл бұрын

Ikr I used to like those two guys until I realised that they're just very negative and insecure.

@Megz129

3 жыл бұрын

Its jealousy. I like shallon. She doesnt pretend. What you see is what you get.

@Svengali764

3 жыл бұрын

@@leprechaun8067 and they really hate women. Women bashing is their top activity.

@Svengali764

3 жыл бұрын

@@Megz129 these people just need reason to hate women. Jeffery and Shane were monsters for far too long and yet they got away with it. Shallon made some blunt comments and suddenly, cancel her and fill the hate wagon.

@doreeningabire1315

3 жыл бұрын

@@leprechaun8067 and they are male chauvinists🤦‍♂️

I was a love bomber. 😩. After my divorce I felt unwanted and unloved. I met a guy who clearly wanted nothing more than a friendship. He was dealing with his own issues and getting over a girl. In his loneliness he attracted me. I felt heard and wanted and began love bombing. Showering with gifts and trying to convince him I would be the better option. Clearly that did not work. When I realized what I was doing and did some therapy to regain my self confidence and understand my worth I stopped. I am worthy and I’m a bad ass. No need to convince anyone to love me.

Omg the way you describe a love-bomber definitely sounds veeery narcissistic (pathological)

@larendijacosmica

3 жыл бұрын

Yes, cuz Narcs do that. Those are his play tools.

@Stella-cv4mc

3 жыл бұрын

@@larendijacosmica I felt the need to point out this is narcissism because Shallon said that it doesn't have to be pathological but what she's describing is suuuper manipulative haha

We need to learn all this stuff in high school.. 😅

I started watching this videos and I am learning a lot. A lot of this comes down to psychology and social interactions, and realizing what they mean and what they're about. I had guys spill their guts on the 1st date (like telling me how they were bullied when they were a kid, or about an ex who broke them emotionally, and/or about how depressed they are, etc etc), and at the time I didn't even realize I was being manipulated! This video is helping me a lot recognizing some low value men's game and manipulation. Thank you :)

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

I always tell women how great I am on the first date, hoping to get a second one!!

Maybe she saw the last video you posted and was like ”ok she's right ” lol

Shallon can you please do a breakdown of like 5 most crazy stories you had to write about at star magazine pleaaaasee

From the get go I said Max seemed like a classic narcissist. The love bombing, the speed of the relationship, the proposal, his past behavior, etc. He seems obsessed with fame and money. I can spot a narcissist from miles away, he acts like one. Demi is an easy target: low self esteem + thousand issues she clearly hasn’t solved. She is needy and can never be alone. It was just too easy for him to use her as a VIP pass to the industry.

I had no idea love bombers were so sneaky 😟

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

Now you know

I love you, Shallon. But HOW DARE YOU COMPARE MEN TO DOGS? DOGS dont deserve this!!!!

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭

@AidenAbette

3 жыл бұрын

We don’t deserve dogs.

@ashcruz904

3 жыл бұрын

Right lol

Max sounds like he’s read the Meghan Markle clout chasing playbook

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

🤭🤭

I matched with a low-key love bomber on Hinge. I already knew the term. I say low-key because he didn’t mention anything about my looks or a relationship, just about my personality. He was always like “oh of course your apartment is so classy! You should give me decorating tips!” “Oh well of course you’re good at your job, I can just tell!” “Your photography skills are sooooo great!” Dude, we’ve only been talking for three days and we haven’t even met. It was so over the top

she said evil week is coming 😈😈

please do a video on the difference between a man chasing you and love bombing !

Do more Harry & Megahn. They cry for privacy & then call the paparazzi

@ajpristine4809

3 жыл бұрын

Oh really

@nataliegrace4592

3 жыл бұрын

She will get sued,, you tubers are actually being sued

I think Demi needs therapy and this unhealthy relationship with Max was, of course, partly her responsibility. When you first began to speak on this topic, Shallon, I thought for sure I had been a “victim” of a love bomber or two, and I probably was. But, what is also true is that I think of may have also been the love bomber more than once. It wasn’t malicious; I wasn’t trying to hurt someone. I was empty and wanted to “make” a particular person love me. So I’d “sparkle” all over someone who was perhaps not as good-looking, not as well-educated, or whatever, and make them quickly feel that they had really scored. Then I’d become somewhat disillusioned with them and disgusted with myself, and I’d eventually dump them. It was horrible, and I wish I hadn’t done it, but I wasn’t very self aware and didn’t realize what I was doing. I’d never behave that way today. It was a long time ago. I’m so grateful that’s no longer who I am. I not only have some self-awareness, but I also have developed, through hard work, better self-esteem, and I continue to work on that. I don’t need to love bomb someone to feel better. Thanks so much for the topic, Shallon.

dude your paris douche boyfriend accent reminds me of dexter from dexters laboratory 😭😭

My Problem is, I wanted a boyfriend. Now I have one and I am just annoyed. I Want to travel, I don’t Want to have to say no to everything. I loved going on a motorcycle in rome with a guy, I loved sponteanously spending the day with a guy from the hostel, I loved going out in Amsterdam and dancing with a Hot Man. I do Not want to say no to all of this at only 25. (I know travel is Not really Possible Right now but still)

@lavonnealexander6936

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣Same girl, omg. It’s hard , mine monitors and stalks my ig page. I stop posting.

@skiphopflipflopdripdrop

3 жыл бұрын

break up with him then

@leprechaun8067

3 жыл бұрын

Just break up with him.

@Hannah-jj5or

3 жыл бұрын

I was the same. Broke up with my boyfriend during lockdown, can’t travel anywhere, meet up with guys, or go to pubs/clubs etc. So now I’m stuck alone without a bf and without people to meet and started missing my ex. Sucks

When I read about it, two words came to mind: Shallon Lester....🤗

Demi needs to learn how to be alone and be single-- she can focus on herself, love her herself truly, then find someone worth her time! Sometimes, we need to be alone and lean into the silence before we get caught up in the excitement.

The first part of Kate Voegele's Forever and Almost Always explains this perfectly. Demi is in love with love and wants to have it so bad. She needs to find it within herself first. I'm not saying people with mental disorders shouldn't be in relationships, we all deserve love but I think relationships only work when we are in a healthy place or at least are trying. Demi is still recovering from her past and she ended up getting involved with a man who unfortunately used her for fame.

Anytime I see Shallon posted a new video I cackle to myself and rub my hands together like some sort of evil Disney queen 🤣❤️

I’m sorry but I’ve always thought the a woman that gets into a relationship this serious this quickly is pretty much toxic

I love to hear you talk about the “ick”! I was laughing so hard cuz it’s true 😅. Plus please keep doing Paris Hiltons bf’s accent! Epic!

I do hope Demi grows and learns from this. She needs time and space to work on valuing herself. You can love yourself and not appreciate your worth and value.

Can we just all appreciate how GREAT Shallon's accents are?!!!!! Western, air plane pilot, europe douche bf, coked out Crystal, and of course the Kardashian accents!! All of them are fucking spot on! Better than accent from real comedians!!

Wait, I didn't even realize they were engaged after only knowing each other 4 months omg

Dude, Shallon is so fast 🥺 I Love a hardworking Girl 😇

I'm always so sad about Demis decisions... Like the time her documentary came out and I thought, that it looked good for her, but then came the overdose... And just now came "I love me" and I was like yaas, but then came Max.... I like her, but she needs to fully find herself

💀 I rewatched the Pete impersonation multiple times. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 you make my day, Shallon!

Damn shallon you’re faster than the downfall of this engagement !

@evange97426

3 жыл бұрын

Hahahaaaa

This is probably one of the best videos she’s ever made! Also , love the liner! Smoke show Shallon

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

Shallon really knows how to French kiss. She's a Hall of Fame tongue-wrestler, a magician with her mouth!!

So Demi manifested her “Tell Me You Love Me” (with her as the jilted bride) music video into reality? Oof, that’s gotta sting on another level.

This is EXACTLY what tommy lee did...back to back...to Bobby Brown (read her autobiography-it's fascinating) and Pam Anderson. Then he abused and devalued both of them, MULTIPLE times, just like you mentioned. Great video! Amazing advice to help recognize the signs of a love bomber!

Regardless I'm so glad it was called off, divorce is so much worse than a broken engagement

Isn't this Shallon's room in her mom's place in Irvine?

@lexigeller2116

3 жыл бұрын

what? she said she was back home at the start of this video

@sixuanwu1621

3 жыл бұрын

@@lexigeller2116 oops I skipped the intro 😂

@leec.7168

3 жыл бұрын

lexi geller back in California at her mom’s place.

Smh 🤦‍♀️ This almost happened to me. I fell for it but saw what was going on fast and I left the person. Now , I learned to keep my mouth shut about my money, job, friends and other things. Only answer, when the person asks. Otherwise, keep your mouth shut.

I appreciate that you looked at love bombing from both sides. Some of the things you said stung in a way that was like yeah, I think I’ve been that person a time or two. Ah to be young and delusional.. thank God for therapy, maturity, and self reflection lol.

@johnhartsock1891

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you're very mature and ready to claim your soul mate, while flighty women are worried only about their sole mates and how many pairs of dress shoes they own!!

6:38 the Pete Davidson impression 😂😂

@Ferrero123

3 жыл бұрын

So point on

Request: Mariah's autobiography book cause there ALOT to unpack on this one!

@ellewoods8192

3 жыл бұрын

OH MY GOD YEEEESSSS!!! cant wait for Sep. 29!!

This video is more helpful than my $180 per 45 min therapy sessions I've been paying for. I love you Shallon! Thank you as always

So at the first sign of trouble they bounced?? Yeah, they weren’t ready for marriage. Also as shallots reading the definition of what love bombers do, I’m like yo Demi’s ig post say just that.

Your Pete Davidson impression KILLS me!!😂😂

In demis movie she talked about how she is aware she is an extremely manipulative person

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

Who’s “she” ?

@samwasfound1172

3 жыл бұрын

Justina B demi was talking about herself and saying that she herself can be very manipulative

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

Samwasfound ok but Demi said it in her documentary which was produced by her old manipulative team. So I doubt that anything she once admitted was true...

@samwasfound1172

3 жыл бұрын

Justina B rewatch the part where she talks about when she punched her backup dancer and says out loud ”i can be really manipulative ” when she went to her manager and said ”i just want to say thank you to the person who tattled on me” so that she could punch them in the face

@justina2783

3 жыл бұрын

Samwasfound weird

Damn this video was incredible!! So insightful, I really didn't think any of us could be love bombimg and not be aware of it. Thank you for sharing your wisdom Shallon!!

I think Demi has a Fearful Avoidant or maybe Anxious Preoccupied attachment style

@sammc2601

3 жыл бұрын

This is total speculation on my part; I hope Demi takes care of herself because she deserves it but likely won't unless she seeks therapy. I recommend Dr. Honda in Seattle.

I think she bought the ring herself and said "here, give this to me and we'll be engaged".

@lunadexelaju3494

3 жыл бұрын

🤣

@frerescottmorgggen1595

3 жыл бұрын

Pretending to be shook-

Just a little addition to the Borderline Personality Disorder and love-bombing link (even if it was briefly mentioned) - sufferers feel emotions a lot more intensely and struggle with boundaries, so tend to come on strongly in relationships. What can be considered "basic" levels of attraction in neurotypicals can feel like full blown love and mesmerisation... kind of like being under a love spell. In the spectrum of personality disorders, BPD falls on the opposite end of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Often they fall prey to the love bomber who will later use, abuse and discard them. As a sufferer of BPD myself (or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder, as it's also known), I just really wanted to clarify that. There are so many misconceptions out there, even in the medical field, I just really, really wanted to clear up that they're not one and the same, for anyone who might be reading/watching this

I ask myslef is there any chance to even have a healthy relationship ever 😩

@lunadexelaju3494

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

Shallon, i dont know if you are ever going to see this comment, BUT you didn't have to call me out like that about the desperation behind being over the top when you like someone, and then getting the "ick!" .... Jesus Christ, you are making me question why i dont use instagram, so i can see more of you. I do love your videos, and from what you say, I drink it all in, and you have been great help for me, personally. I have commented on some videos of yours, because many things that you have said or done, apply to me, and as you say, i now realize it wasn't good for me, and those around me. Now, I tell/ask myself "what would Shallon do? Would she be proud of this?" Thank you, so much, for being so informative. As an only child, I think of you as that big sister I wish I had.

Could you do a video on future faking? I feel like it goes alongside with lovebombing perfectly. I’ve been a victim of future faking a few times because I’m a sucker for romance and am easily manipulated by men promising the world 😂 x

I knew this wasn’t last that long from the start.....But even I wasn’t expecting to be THIS quick, that sucks

You do the best Pete Davidson impersonation 🤣🤣🤣

Who didn't see this coming.... I know all of us did lmao