I feel most speakers when speak on this topic, they assume it is the child who is wrong in a unhealthy child and parent relationship and the entire lecture is focused on counselling the child how he can be more dutiful to their parents rather than looking at the flip side of the coin and facing the reality of the bitter situation. If you can't tell the parents that they are wrong and they should do better, stop giving lectures on this topic as there and many more things to talk about. When you criticise children even when they are abused, you are becoming a part of the problem by boosting the moral of abusive aprents and pushing the children beyond the level of despair. Abuse is abuse even if the parents do it. The parents who transgress and abuse children will not only pay for it in the here after, but should also spend their rest of the lives in prison for damaging their child psychologically.

@aleksanderblinn4492

5 жыл бұрын

Culture cult

@kiseki9884

4 жыл бұрын

Anas Shaikh Very true thank you for writing this.

@kiseki9884

4 жыл бұрын

These idiots are mad. Parents can’t do what ever they want. One mother raised three children but her second son earned a fortune so she did witchcraft black magic on him and removed his girlfriend and stopped his marriage because she didn’t want to see him giving his wealth to his wife and children. Then she takes his money and spends lavishly. He is now ill . 40 years still unmarried. Mother feels if he married money would be gone from her . Tell me viewers is this good. So should we honor that mother?

@JasonGafar

4 жыл бұрын

Couldn't agree more. I had an incredibly difficult mother.

@saraqostahterra4548

4 жыл бұрын

@@JasonGafar Same, but with my father. Now, I know what sabr means, having to have dealt with people like him for so many years.

I can swear those who don’t have abusive parents never understand the pain , the loneliness,unhappiness a child bears in his/her soul. No scholar I heard appropriately tells anything so that a child can get a little peace in his mind. Always parents have the super priorities. If they told what islam says and how islam balances abusive parents and their children may be some of them may change by tha sake of Allah.

@rmmn7

2 жыл бұрын

Yes some abusive father and mother are there. may God correct their nature.

@faisalyounus6986

Жыл бұрын

I know how you feel. I could not agree more with you. Stay strong.

@ozairtariq2779

Жыл бұрын

They always do this! Always. There's are a lot of parents who are narcissistic and they don't really care about the kids. They raise the kids so they can be security for them in their old age. But if the child's career doesn't work out or the child's life didn't work out as they expected, the parents don't really care. They only care about the kids who can benefit them financially or otherwise. They also abuse kids with the mentality that " we brought you into this world and we can take you out". For once I would like to hear about the rights of children and what to do with bad parents. Not every parent is a saint. This is a mislabeled video. False Advertising. Period.

@muniratabba5542

Жыл бұрын

Same is my case Iam 52 years n become Grandmother ,my mother is Alive and she was n is very very abusive,she tourchered me since childhood,she loved my brother,she told me n still telling me Iam phycho,she was not happy from my birth as a girl. She ruined my whole life,due to her Iam facing huge marital issues n I myself was not good mother but Alhamdulillah I have changed myself for the sake of my kids. But still my thoughts are disturbed due to her,she doesn,t allow me to her home thought my father calls me but when I go there she says Getout from here. My mother is the worst lady in this whole world.I belong to religious family.I do duas daily to give hidayat to my mother.she loves now to my brother,s kids and give all my father,s wealth to brother,s kids.

@muniratabba5542

Жыл бұрын

My brother was mufti n died in accident at the age of 29,his kids were very small but my mother,s behaviour with me was extremely worse from childhood,she hates me n I extremely hate her.I don,t go to her house and don,t say anything.Hakeem Akhter was my Murshid ,I took bait from him,Hazrat also told me don,t go to your house just call once in a month n only ask how are you then off the call.Don,t meet with her

My problem with some Islamic scholars, they fail to address the fact that most parents now are taking advantage of their superiority over their children to emotionally blackmail them. What I knw is before they are your parents, they are first of all human beings and therefore do not fall short of portraying their human traits and sadly these are not addressed. I think on this topic,mufti menk addressed it properly. May Allah grant us extreme patience to deal with these abusive parents.🙏

It's sad to learn that muslim scholars don't ever get straight to the point and speak about how to deal with narcissistic parents, which is so common these days !!

@rmmn7

2 жыл бұрын

Just as some sons and daughters are not good to their parents there are also some parents who abuse their own son and daughter nowadays. Such parents are not able to get respect in return .

Are we not humans just b/c we r childern of someone??..do we dont have heart?? ..does pain only belongs to parents?? Is respect is only for parents??

@strawberrybangtan6269

5 жыл бұрын

Qaiser Shakoor 😥 it’s so hard being a child

@rimoumamari7346

4 жыл бұрын

Allah is fair. We are humans. At some points we should stop entering into their manipulations

My parents hv abused me up to the point that i was so severely depressed and tried committing suicide

@hajerabd3491

6 жыл бұрын

Jameela Fayez i am glad you didnt. You are a strong person for not doing it. Just remeber NOTHING LASTS FOREVER. Thats what keeps me sane

@rosefadel5421

5 жыл бұрын

Jameela Fayez Hello sister look into narcissistic personality disorder. You need to build a strong personality for your self and have boundaries

@meeresblau2332

5 жыл бұрын

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@ekraahmed8908

5 жыл бұрын

Several times it comes to mind that I should suicide. Only thinking of Allah I didn’t. Inshaallah will not do .

@Evamaanta

4 жыл бұрын

Jameela Fayez my mother makes me feel like that too.

Sorry no one has the right to overcritisize others and belittle them and break peoples lives! Parents as well. It all has to do with selfishness. They are always fearful what others think about you, they take every difficulty for you which you should learn from so you can grow yourself into an independent adult. Toxic people are meant to leave. Parents or not. Free yourself and love them from a distance. You don't have to visit them 24/7 and thats okay

I really enjoyed listening to this, I'm going through a hard time with my parents since their divorce, but Alhamdulillah for my Deen which keeps me grounded.

Most of these advices are very general and come from the assumption of normal to very moderate parent-child relationships with children. They hardly address situations of extreme abuse or even medium level of abuse. It doesnt mean those children dont have to be good to their parents either but the approach would be different and needs to be handled carefully. I heard recently from a scholar that thats what happens. Most of the time when giving fatwa they just assume its very minor abuse or the child just doesnt want to listen to good practicing parents and give very harmful advice. They are not trained to deal with severe forms of parent abuse like major beating, sexual abuse etc. The severe abuse cases are so rare they dont even go there at first when they handle a case. It leaves those children in a terrible state and feeling more alone because they keep trying to take the general advice to be good to parents like everyone else but suffering even more until burnout. Or sometimes they go to non-muslim authorities for help when they have had enough. Muslim community needs to improve on this.

Ma Sha Allah! Allah grant us all the understanding. Ameen Ya Rabb!

@jannahismydream1666

4 жыл бұрын

Ameen

Barak Allah fiek for this useful nasiha, ya Shaykh.

I'm 25yr old now and my 60yr old father is still so overbearing and difficult. I went 3 months oversea for studies and came back only to remember how difficult and tiring he is. My father is a stroke/ diabetic patient and yet he is overbearing, like to talk down about people, made fun of my tired, working sister and never ever admit a mistake he made. My sister and I tried hard to help his health but he always doesn't seem to care and always mock the healthy food we give him. He is always indifferent to my successes and even when I entered a university, he has no reaction. Whenever someone on TV made success, he would look down on the person, trash talk and belittle the person. I am tired of this. Really, really tired. Of all the fathers in the world, why did Allah(SWT) grant me this man as my father. My father has never been a father figure in my life. In fact, I grew up and became judgmental and harsh on people because of his attitude. It took my whole teenage and early adulthood to realise this mistake and overcome it. I want out. I am out. I am tired. I want to run away and never see him again. I wish I could replace him with someone better and supportive, soft and kind but I can't. I am stuck with him forever...

@muhammadamirulothman6721

6 жыл бұрын

Studio Hijrah im having the same situation like you but much much much worst,everything is a hikmah. Insyaallah may allah grant us the best of patience. If i can survive i believe u can too. Stay strong 😊

@saqebali2710

6 жыл бұрын

Studio Hijrah omg going through the same situation..make him food...no I don't want it ok I'm not gonna make anything tomorrow.. get the phone n tell my relatives...so annoying but what to do...

@Shabzana

6 жыл бұрын

Studio Hijrah i feel 4 u. Perhaps the solution is to stay away. And ALLAH knows best.

@Brightestlightt

6 жыл бұрын

Same with my mom and my dad disappeared yet again. My opinion is to keep conversation short be positive and pray we stronger to handle them. Ameen

@hajerabd3491

6 жыл бұрын

I wish i can tell you everything will be ok i am 27 and my dad is like yours and even worst he would criticise everything i do and i mean EVERYTHING. He doesnt fight with me and shout with me as before because i dont give him the pleasure of replying to his negative words. I keep quiet if he asks i answer. If he says something and i say you are right he shouts at me so i nod. I am not allowed to either smile or be sad i have trained my self to look emotionless and dumb. My biggest advice to you is to practice at being emotionless and what ever he says goes dont waste time arguing about what is right you know whats right so that is all that matter. I ask Allah to forgive us and grant us patience. Just know nothing lasts forever

have patience with your parents. eventually It will work for you. inshaAllah. my personal experience.

It was a really nice video. Thankyou for your words

As all ways a beautiful bayaan jazkl sheikh

What if your parents are narcissistic and are out there to destroy your decent relationships with people, cause grief to your innocent children, humiliate you and your spouse in public, deliberately make friends with your obvious enemies and talk about you with them badly, encourage them? What if your childhood memories of them is filled with deprivation of basic needs like good medical attention, education, nutrition, safety, clothing when they clearly had the resources? When your earliest memories of them has been of violent abuse and curses of the worst kinds and wishes that you were never born when you were a toddler? What if some of their abuse has been verbally sexual as you were growing up? What fardh do you have towards them?

@islandgirl.916.

11 ай бұрын

Exactly people like them are hypocrites

JazakAllah, Very few parents r normal and very few children r happy ,,

Can't you talk how Prophet(pbuh) used to treat children?

Whether respect or relation it should b two way and not one-way, people should have taught parenting first

Brother isn't your lecture completely misleading given the name of the topic? Just sad

i had abusive parents and now one of them is dead im still not getting over how i was physically and emotionally abused, i thought this lecture was going to be about how to deal with opressive perents so i could feel good about telling my dad to piss off in my mind cus hes already dead i wanted to get over the oppression by hearing someone say that these parents are bad so it not my fault, why do scholars always talk about perents like they average and misunderstood when some like mine are just plain psychotic, narcissist and abusive bully who deserve to die. im not a bad person that i have to bow to evil people, its like theses scholars are all from normal homes. when will scholars get real about abusers and talk about what will abusers get in hell, what opressors will get in the afterlife and what rewards will abused children have, why do evil perents get away from the truth and be told to stop abusing us. MAY ALLAH ALMIGHTY REWARD US AND PUNISH THE OPRESSORS AMEN

@syedaeraj167

3 жыл бұрын

This happens to me as well still suffering all this .. my mother physically and emotionally abused me and she never felt regret

What if parents living for dunya entirely for dunya and also pray at the same time ! And what if they arent role models to follow !

@__sigh

5 жыл бұрын

This is an oppurtunity for you to attain jannah brother. Allah knows your struggle. It is harder on you than other people. Make the best of this, bear with it and do what is told by Allah. Learn more on how to serve our parents. Good luck to you brother, do your best.

@twahaheather1050

5 жыл бұрын

@@__sigh thank you brother for the advise . Alhamdulilah you got my point . I try keeping my parents happy and helping them with almost everything . I realise that there is nothing above parents , Allah punishes for not obeying them , for me Allah pushes me into really shmeful things , I hope you get that , and then I drown into deep depression and the cycle gets worse .

@politelyhonest5717

4 жыл бұрын

@@__sigh thanks for this advice.. Because the comment from that brother was really genuine. And your reply is a medicine for me too... Jazakallahu khairan...

@politelyhonest5717

4 жыл бұрын

@@twahaheather1050 this happened to me too brother... But when I met a sheik. He told me, according to Sharia, there won't be any case if our father kills us.. Then I realized the position of our parents to us given by Allah... I even cried why my parents doesn't love me... But al hamdulillah.. Now things are different... Actually my father loves me a lot.. He was worried just because I couldn't make upto his dreams... Ma sha Allah... Still I love my parents... Also I pray that my parents will one day feel proud of me too.. Let Allah give the thoufeeq to do such deeds which make our parents happy, to me and you and all of us ahead.. Ameen...

@politelyhonest5717

3 жыл бұрын

@Pink Salt 😊.

Sadly abusive parents can not only affect a childs health and wellbeing but also their faith. Anything that affects ur faith in such a negative way and fills u with dispair is too serious a matter to disregard it in this way. Too much political correctness rather than address a very serious matter. What kind of generation is going to grow up at the hands of abusive parents?

@suesue9578

2 жыл бұрын

It’s like you spoke my husbands words . It’s very harmful to see parents that claim to be religious and also teach religion abuse there’s children right through to adulthood with not an ounce of regret only to bring up the rights of a parent. We need a lot of serious hard discussions about abusive narcissistic parents and how they physically, mentally, emotionally destroy there children.

@islandgirl.916.

11 ай бұрын

They just don’t get it until it happens to them

AOA, my mom has been beating me from few yrs,, i have depression too and the way she treats me make it more harder, idk why islam gave them much importance some parents dont deserve that, im not talking abt all parents there are plenty of parents who are justice and good to kids but some just like my mom are not,,, i dont wanna live with her, her harsh voice is making my brain damage. i hate her so much, why shud i obey her if shes bad and plus im sick i have depresasion anxiety issues? why ? why Allah is giving me punishment of what? why hes doing this to me? i just dont know im very confused. if i leave my mom idk whether ill be a sinner or not, i dont wanna be a sinner plus i dont wanna live with her,, the situation is too hard for me, ur right these type of scholors dont know what children r going through unless they deal with it by itself

@jorutherford1632

6 жыл бұрын

My dear, there are many abusive mothers. I think you need to speak to a muslim psychologist to address: 1) Allah did not say that all parents deserve love, he said respect them. It will be more difficult for you than others so you will be rewarded more than others who had normal parents. 2) Allah knows what is happening to you and there is a reason for it. It is not a punishment, it is a test. So do not feel guilty about it. Allah loves you. 3) There will be massive psychological damage done to you if the one who is supposed to love you, actually hurts you... A psychologist will help you deal and process these feelings so you grow strong and positive about ur situation. Massive child abuse always causes anxiety issues later in life. 4) The most amazing child can be born to a cruel individual, she was like that before you were born. 5) Do constant Istikhaarah (for Allah's guidance about ur living condition) and istihfaah (for Allah to make a way out for you that you have not imagined) Also, be careful as many muslims will attack you for your true story about speaking about your mother's abuse . These are the ones who have great parents and cannot imagine or understand that the opposite can exist ... their lack of understand can hurt your even more ... its empathy to situation they have not experienced that they lack... so be careful who you speak to about this. Huge hugs!!!!

@redrose-qh4lz

6 жыл бұрын

ty s0 much f0r the great suggesti0n may AIIah give u reward f0r even the suggesti0n Ameen, bIv me there s0me ppI Iike u are the reas0n i am Iiving t0dAY , i knw my reward wud be m0re than n0rmaI ppI Ameen,,,but d0 teII me why AIIah test us in Iife with even ppI Iike 0ur parents? this thing makes me sad, cuz after i am tested by m0m,,,n0w i think n0thing can be imp0ssibIe in Iife,

@jorutherford1632

6 жыл бұрын

My dear, I dont know, but a reason could be that you become nothing like her. There are evil women who become loving mothers and their children inherit their evil ways. I dont want to mislead you with suggestions that might not fit your circumstances... Make dua and ask Allah why he is testing you like this repeatedly til you get an answer. He will answer. It might be for a beautiful massive reward... a beautiful family full of love one day (at a level people dream of) that you might not have received if you had a normal loving mother.

@redrose-qh4lz

6 жыл бұрын

hmmmm,,, bef0re when i taIk abt my mum t0 any1,,they said u wiII be punished and this that,, i dun understand why wiII i be punished when i have a bad m0m? i knw they never went thr0ugh which i am g0ing thr0ugh,, s0 they assume quite easiIy, its hurtfuI f0r ppI fr0m 0ur backgr0und, i knw these ppI are saying cuz they didnt experience the same,, but s0mtimes i get scared s0 i ask AIIah u knw my situati0n m0re better then ppI s0 pIz dun punish me fr anything,

@sr-a7678

6 жыл бұрын

Jo Rutherford YezakAllah... I really needed your advise.... But what if I have my own kids and my mum still abuses me.... I'm depresses.... Don't want to be like her.... But I am so much frustrated that kids notice that.... Can I break contact with her.. Otherwise ill and as an insane mother to my own kids...

Maa ki Duaa Jannat ki havaa❤

Stop advising just children...every individual has self respect and rights in islam so doesnt mean elders like parents will misuse abuse humiliate and trash the lives of thier children.Islam gives equal rights to everyone.Misleading lecture.

tbh with all respect youve talked so much mashaAllah but havent really said anything...

@aiyael-khatib7919

3 жыл бұрын

AHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA AGREED

I don't normally see the need to comment on videos but I feel I have an obligation to myself and kids like me who see this video and feel guilt tripped and obligated by "religion" to continue being abused by the vary people as per the Deen are put on this earth as the receiver of a gift BORROWED to you by the Almighty which you have the RESPONSIBILITY to love, nurture, protect and guide - yet that part is never expressed as the "Honor thy parents"??? - I have been struggling for 28 years with Narcissistic parents who play against and enable one another - resulting in 2 children who have no sibling relationship due to playing them up against one another and using Islam as an buffer. I am so disappointed when seeing video's, continuing gross cycles. THIS IS NOT THE DEEN. You are not OBLIGATED to honour people who stray from the path by becoming the very difficulties and hardships that you are to protect your children from. To every child like me out there, I hope you see this and know - you are ENOUGH, you are WORTHY and you are ALLOWED TO CHOOSE YOU without losing your faith. May Allah SWT protect and guide us all on our journeys. YOU ARE LOVED by your creator.

These molvis have had cushy lives that's why they talk like this, they need to get out of their cushy lives and see the world, in this day and age the parents of the era of the prophet Muhammad (saw) are very rare to find

@muslimali1323

6 жыл бұрын

Reading your comment the following quote comes to mind: “Nothing in the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.” Judging by your comment and reading the speakers bio I have come to the conclusion that you my dear are truly an ignorant man!

@TAZ39XXX

6 жыл бұрын

The ignorant person is the one who doesn't see the reality, I'm talking about true life stories of today, if the parents be how parents should be then yes the molvis words are correct, but as I have said before parents have changed over the course of the period. In this day and age you have parents who are doing black magic on their own children, do those parents deserve the kind of respect that this molvi is speaking about? So don't make assumptions to the level of my intellect without knowing me, you yourself have shown how ignorant you are without knowing me you are calling me ignorant. My comment was not aimed directly to this speaker alone, but what these speakers fail to do, is to balance their talks, if parents have rights then the children also have rights, if you talk about the rights of the one and not the other then you committing injustice and in islam injustice and oppression are not allowed

@redrose-qh4lz

6 жыл бұрын

Taz3XXX u r absolutely right,

@hp5203

6 жыл бұрын

TAZ39XXX So you want the default position of educators & ulama to be that parents are inherently evil, do black magic on their children & hate them. Nowhere in this talk has he denied the existence of those sort of deranged parents, but you have no right to expect others to treat your own bad experience as the absolute default. He is talking on a general level, he says over & over that parents can be bad, can be guilty of "heinous crimes etc. His job is to mention the command of Allah and give pointers on how to do so. And of course you had to voice your spite by hate on the ulama of the Deen of Allah. Completly unnecessary and extremely illogical.

@sairaailia19

6 жыл бұрын

TAZ39XXX Preach!

Guys we need serious introspection. I started hating my mother to extent I don't even want to look at her face anymore... i might even Puke... I am sorry to say this... audu billah... 😭😭😭

Kids who have ignorant parents have no chance for a happy life

How do you deal with parents who don't like or understand you converting to Islam and you try to share and they don't want it. But also says I am being taught bad things. They are Chinese traditional

I remember that I wasn’t allowed to have a hobby most of my time as a minor. It drove me batty.

@laurieberry162

2 жыл бұрын

But what if my parents don’t respect me?

Do we have to treat our step parents the same as our parents?

@saraqostahterra4548

4 жыл бұрын

NOPE.

29:00 just say it on the way out mn

@yunuskasimk

7 жыл бұрын

Mahfuz Munir Khan PT ?

@5eek3r0fknowl3dg3

7 жыл бұрын

yunus kolsawala just say it when you;re walking out, then theres no awkward after period

I think muslim teachers should explain to abusive parents instead of children the right of parents what about the rights of children this why the problem of abusive parents perpetuate

Kindly be fair on the scale of justice. This present day world children are being abused by their own parents. And this speaker stills advises children to bear all the pain.

@saradigota7201

Жыл бұрын

So that means he is part of the problem cuz he is in denial.

My father had problem with my mom so he married other lady and stay separate he was doing the rights towards me but when he had boy baby from another lady he stopped all duties and care towards me. My age is 31 initially he was least bother of my marriage as it will cost him after many talk and argument he agreed for my marriage but he don't want me to get married well family he always look place where I don't see my happiness I don't know what should I do please advise.

@adamsonadam3406

3 жыл бұрын

ignore your father and stopm thinking about him, you wont most likly find what you want from him because he cares about his son more and himself, if you love someone you care about them you worry, but if you dont love him then you wont worry, why let someone make you ill with stress depression when he dosent care about you,leave him and take care of yourself, make sure you tell him what he did and how you will priotect yourself and your own future children, abuse can effect you and your children if dont take care of your well being health dont stress over him he isent stressing over you

I thought this was a video about dealing with “abusive” parents, as the title suggests, not a video about praising parents. Smh. There are parents that abuse children to the point of making them commit suicide. You don’t have to literally kill someone physically to be a bad parent, you can emotionally abuse them to the point of suicide. Some parents also steal from their kids. And when you say “except the parents in the newspapers who do “weird” things, all parents want the best for us, you fail to recognize the selfishness of so many parents, specially in Islam where parents are over praised. Respect is a 2 way street. We didn’t ask to be brought in this world, they brought us here. And majority of parents have kids to make their own lives better/happier, not for the sake of the child. Desperate abused children like myself came here for some relief, and left the video feeling more alone, more drained, more broken. 🤦‍♂️😑

My mom broke off 3 of my engagements by creating fights. I'm 32 now.

@knowledgeseeker1548

7 жыл бұрын

SomeGuy You better delete your comment or it will be against you on the day of judgement as an insult to your mum.

@mariahayat5345

7 жыл бұрын

Knowledge Seeker haha

@TAZ39XXX

6 жыл бұрын

Knowledge Seeker are you dumb?

@muslimali1323

6 жыл бұрын

wasn't to be. Try again. Human nature always looks to blame others, have you tried to look in the mirror. Could it have been how you dealt with the issue could you have learnt from the previous break ups?

@jorutherford1632

6 жыл бұрын

Toxic parents need boundaries... atleast you know her capabilities and heart now.. so you can protect your future marriage. I wish I knew how toxic my own mother was with regard to breaking up my relationship before she spun her web of lies and manipulations. The problem is that the trouble making egotistical mothers hide behind the lofty status Allah SWT gives to the normal genuine mothers. And the new bride is always at fault..but nobody dare addresses the manipulation of the mother-in-law... bc she gave birth to a human which makes her absolute perfection... I think it was Nouman Khan who spoke about in-laws interfering in their children's marriages as their selfish ways to secure their "retirement package".

You don't council kids, teens and adults who have this issue.

My parents was so kind and flexible alxamdu lilaah but i remember my class matte used complaint about her parents and i treat my children the way.but those who had difficult their with parents still they should obey.

I have a tyrant father and sad part he doesn't see himself as being evil ,he cuts ties of kinship just because of Dunya issues .Allahu musthaan.I think he is one of the few evil fathers.

My father thinks whatever I scold or say to my brother's is about him n says he would also me with his chappal in street or in public places.....

@DrRosh87

4 жыл бұрын

He also calls my relatives n says that he wants me to humiliate because of me being irrespective.. but that day my parents were fighting I did my part to resolve it.... When am talking with my mom he comes n tells things r fightt happened long long ago n tells my mother not to talk...he says me to be away from my siblings n mom

@DrRosh87

4 жыл бұрын

Abusive parents r to next level so pla talk about that

Salam yah shaykh if I say I love u to my dad he’l punch me in my mouth

help pls; advice please, they isolated me from young, abused me mentally,physically and now all i have left is myself and their passive agression,stalking,intimidating. both parents and siblings are narcistic, im the empath,scapegoat. im really sick now, dont know what to do anymore. Ive tried distancing myself from them,i tried boundries, none of it works, the abuse and mindboggling narcistic games tend to worsen.my body is getting sick of panic attacks, cuz my parents allow my brother to stalk and intimidate me or even hit me is being put under the rug many times.

@ZamZamAcademy

4 ай бұрын

You can reach out to the Shaykh for advice. Visit zamzamacademy.com/ask-a-question for more information

You don't council them and then you just want to give your input on it. That's really inappropriate.

Yes , the majority of people are not qualified to be parents and only minority of people.

One thing is being kind to ones kids but the other is being just andfair .

I don’t know WHO you are talking about but my parents are NOT LIKE THIS YALLAH. They have abused me mentally emotionally spiritually. They tried to kill me. I was sexually abused by them and they TREATED MY OLDER BROTHER BETTER YALLAH EXPLAIN THIS. So was this my fault I WAS 3 and a teenager how is that my fault I was NEVER A BAD KID I DID NOT DO NOTHING HARAM

You are telling victims of abuse to grin and bare it.Nasty parents hearing this will feel justified

Easy for this guy,my father is very nasty and my mother allowed it

Is these islamic preachers doesn't understand the difference between abusive and merely strict parents it's their fault, not Islam. They will be accountable for putting thousands of kids into being a slave of torturers.

U taunt at kids who don't get a long with their parents.

UR LIKE KARIM ABU ZAID MISQUOTING DO NOT EVEN SAY UFF TO UR PARENTS!!!!!!!!!

Why do you shave the moustasche man! It looks super wieard ...grow it back ...so it can look normal and not freaky

This scholar will be punished by Allah.