Im tired not gonna lie exhausted, no energy to fight anymore

@safronproxyscript7006

19 күн бұрын

stop fighting 😢 because you will end up by exhausting yourself and nothing will change. stop fighting and just pray to Allah for making things easy for you. sometimes it is wise to back off than trying to prove your self on the right side.

@tanjeerg

7 күн бұрын

No energy to fight anymore? Then the exhaustion is a blessing from Allah..... No one marries anyone to fight

There needs to be more frequent lectures & conversations about this topic. People are living a life of hell, not knowing how to manage family relationships. May Allah reward Br Khan.

@muhammedjahangir8358

Жыл бұрын

Maa Shaa Allah!

@sara_qr6nl

Жыл бұрын

Exactly

@shaniaparveen2108

Жыл бұрын

So true

@zebamansoori9351

Жыл бұрын

Qqqq

@zebamansoori9351

Жыл бұрын

@@muhammedjahangir8358 qqqqqqqqqqqqqq

Family trauma and problems are the hardest test ever. May Allah give us strength to pass this test.

@ManergoTones

2 ай бұрын

💯

@zainabaliyumatazu7012

Ай бұрын

Ameen

@zainabaliyumatazu7012

Ай бұрын

Ameen

@zainabaliyumatazu7012

Ай бұрын

Ameen

@YasminF89

18 күн бұрын

Ameen

I personally find problems inside the family the toughest of all. Because of you want to please Allah SWT you should never let go and abandon the family or cut ties. Especially if they are your parents. It's a great test and may Allah give us the strength to pass it.

@onetruereligion108

Жыл бұрын

I made a mistake I left my so called Muslim family And now I have got the true meaning of Islam. Now it's the time to go back and teach them

@AnwarMasihUddin

Жыл бұрын

*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.

@ummulhudaa856

Жыл бұрын

Ameen

@taz8003

11 ай бұрын

ameen

@dawah_sister_1

11 ай бұрын

It's really toughest test 😭

Sometimes i would wish to have a normal family but then i realise that im not normal too, so how can i have a normal family.. so i just get on with my life. Another thing is that, ive stopped putting any expectations on my family members and do things for the sake of Allah, that has saved me from a lot of pain.

@user-kl1on3nw7y

Жыл бұрын

Masha'Allah

@happyface1407

Жыл бұрын

I have been doing this for several years it helps alot...but sometimes i get really frustrated..😒

@serenewander9790

Жыл бұрын

Mashallah. May Allah reward you with best ❤

@PalestineWillBeFree437

Жыл бұрын

I hope you're okay sis:)

@razninrahman9734

Жыл бұрын

Agree

Takeaways from the video: 1. Do not associate Batil with your family members who have caused conflicts, because their views, ideas, and character can change 2. Maintain hope in Allah, that the problems in your families can be solved 3. Try to look at the bigger picture to all conflicts in your families, and contemplate on solutions to the problems within the family 4. Be grateful to Allah for not only the existence of your family, but the relationships that you have with your families, regardless if they are bad or good. 5. Remember your purpose in life

@asimaqureshi9766

Жыл бұрын

Nice summary Ty

Living with a narcissist is beyond explanation to top it all co-parenting with narcissist is literally living hell every day. But hikkmallah, we know less, Allah plans. Trust Allah🤲

I’m so thankful for Allah for sending Ustad Nouman into this life. He’s opening access to understanding the Quran DEEPLY in second language, not arabic, for millions. May Allah grant him Jannah. Ameen.

@RK-qk7ow

7 ай бұрын

Ameen ya Rabb

@zainabaliyumatazu7012

Ай бұрын

Ameen

My sister is going through a tough time and is in sever depression, please pray for her.

It also depends how you define severing ties. You can keep a healthy distance but still keep them in your dua, or send help when needed. Being concerned about their welfare (even when you are not physically present) is not severing ties i believe. 🙏✨

@AnwarMasihUddin

Жыл бұрын

*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.

@muzamilqayoom6211

Жыл бұрын

I wish your believe is true....

my take away: don't put a "batil sticker" to anyone coz human beings can change,grow and evolve 💫

@serenewander9790

Жыл бұрын

Thank you

@asimaqureshi9766

Жыл бұрын

Cute

@lembahsir

Жыл бұрын

True indeed

I listened to this at such a hard time and moment in my life. I will keep listening until it’s engraved in my head! Because I never saw it this way!! 😢😣😞 May Allah Swt bless you brother for this lecture.

@AnwarMasihUddin

Жыл бұрын

Our family big or small, but it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double digits even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our dispute. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.

Even if you are born in difficult family, don't give up. One day, even if it's 20 years from now, you will see sense in everything and be happy to be alive. You have a power to direct your destiny no matter how insignificant or small that power looks to you now 😊. Keep on moving however it looks for you

I grew up with a very abusive father both physically and mentally. My father traumatized my whole life. My father hit would beat on my mother and us (me and my siblings). Every memory I have of my father are just memories I don’t wish upon any child. I stopped talking to my father. I tried to forgive him but I know if I let him back into my life the abuse will continue. Everyone I know tells me I’m a bad muslim for this and I should let him abuse me and my family. I know that Islam would never be okay with men like my father and that’s all I need.

@hs6585

11 ай бұрын

Subhanallah, Allah is not unaware but all seeing in what happens, May Allah protect you and have mercy upon you!

@theempireofLuxury

5 ай бұрын

That's the most painful thing. I person or child can experience I wish you to heal from this trauma.but I just want to say one thing. Because i need it to. When someone does something wrong.. why do we distance from Allah . He is most loving we should distance our self emotionally from people not from Allah.

@Mike-es2yg

5 күн бұрын

No, you do NOT need to let yourself be physically abused! Do what you can but your father needs to do better if he wants a relationship! I'm sorry you had a bad childhood, I hope you find peace and happiness in your life.

Allah puts us in difficulty for us to find a way of seeking Allah.

@lembahsir

Жыл бұрын

True indeed sister

Forget and forgive is the way forward, but it's easier said than done. May Allah guide our heart to repent and forgive and make our hearts soft towards our family and their relations.

@asimaqureshi9766

Жыл бұрын

Ameen summa Ameen

@AnwarMasihUddin

Жыл бұрын

*Our family big or small* But it's stand and performance like a Pakistan Cricket team, some time doing best of best and occupied number one position won the 1992 World Cup. Some time invole in match fixing or just a blame business, losing the matches with very weak teams, even the stars players scores not even double Figure even the world-champion team all out just like phone number. But all these mixture of good and bad performance it is called Pakistan National Cricket Team, class is permanent but form is temporary. Here Class is our family and form is our disputes. Bottom line, nothing granted in our material life, the permanent life have to come hereafter. All the best in 2023 more happier than 2022.

@kingh8163

4 ай бұрын

What about when it’s just keeps on repeating? The same scenario or the past recreating itself? I distanced myself and got close again and that’s when the familiar started to occur again

@haneefhawk

4 ай бұрын

@kingh8163 at best, we could express how we feel so that it makes them aware of how we feel or try avoiding situations like that but maintain a hi / hello / bye relation to keepup the relationship tie 👔 😊

@meriamhaq123

Ай бұрын

But some family members won't stop until they break you

May Allah bring family members closer and solve the problems between.

I think his is the most diffucult Thing to muslim family speciallly in the pakistan To Fix family issue The pain, the humiliation,the stress The trauma,the drama, the unjustified and evil culture that Burden us more than anything else The useless talk The hatered and then jelosy It all so diffucult and sometime you Just have to know the limit and what is possibile I Mean in other hutbah Nak Said that its ok to have space and to get distance from abusive People even if They are They parent and relative But regardless ... Just Fix what you can At you Best,With Wisdom And if cant Just distance Even if its Just silence.

@hustleronamission2548

Жыл бұрын

May Allah relive you from whatever difficulty you are in,you are speaking from experience,I can sense that.

@somebodyy32

Жыл бұрын

Not only in pakistani but also in Indian families

@Malik4_ever

Жыл бұрын

@@hustleronamission2548 ameen,May Allah forgive us and Make Easy ours affairs and give us stability in the Heart. Jaza k'Allah hu khair

@Malik4_ever

Жыл бұрын

@@somebodyy32 yeah i Guess in the South Asia in general

@mahamtahir1043

Жыл бұрын

You summarized the pakistani desi families so well

Turn challenge into ni'mah.Allah has brought us together in a family for a reason.Allah wants us to stick together Being grateful & iman

Im so blessed alhumdulilla i needed to hear this. Perfect timing.

سلام عليكم.. سبحان الله العظيم.. Sometimes we are Tested by Allah.. In ways we don't understand..

Thank you so much for this, I've been dealing with this issue all my life and got no one to talk to, may Allah give us strength to find the hikmah and guide us along the way. May Allah bless you.

Aap Sabse Guzarish Hai Ki Mere Abba Amma K liye Magfirat Ki Dua Kare

Salaam alaikum! I believe that the 'difficult' people ALLAH AWJ put in our lives are part of our growth and we become part of theirs. We all are ways to get closer to ALLAH because of the charity we give each other. We are also given opportunities to develop 'beautiful patience' when we interact especially when we disagree over many things. ..that sort of things. And ALLAH AWJ knows best. 🙏🙏🙏✨ Wassalam

@rafiakhanum9422

Жыл бұрын

Mas shaa Allah, Allah has bless you with wisdom, I pray that you may test the sweetness of it ameen

Beautiful perspective mashaAllah. A big knock back for the modern family-eroding trope of "narcissistic" parents/family/spouses etc

A Father who was a strong sociopath narcissist and then raised a selfish dumb son who married a dangerous, meek acting narcissistic. They isolated my children and Myself marked us as dirty people. My children have been cut off from famlly. In the end it’s better bc they could of poisoned my kids against me. Meanwhile btw this toxic family acting they are as perfect as possible Muslims. So although I am broken inside I feel blessed I saved my kids and we are blessed with following Islam and my kids get a chance to experience peace. Allhamduallah

@fadelbadiane9019

Жыл бұрын

Sorry to read that. We are human and cannot endure everything. Allah does NOT like Injustice.

The word of Allah! SO SO POWERFUL!

May we never give up on our families, communities, and ourselves. Ameen. Thank you for this lecture. May Allah bless your wisdom and families. Ameen /Amazing lecture.

Mashallah Mashallah God bles you Brother Amin ALLAH love from Kosova Albania 🇽🇰🇦🇱

Oh finally a lecture on real worldly problem! And I so wish I can break that wall, but a wall against a strong narassist mother is pretty hard one 😥😥 Io actually figured her out at age 41, how am I suppose to change now after grieving that I never had a normal mother. And brother never forget your family might be a lot different than my mine:)

@ak-th5xt

Жыл бұрын

I know it's easy for someone to say "try your best, and let Allah take care of the rest" but yeah, that is the only way. Even Noah (a s) tried for hundreds of years.

@treetop711

Жыл бұрын

same here! i was crying in prayer today saying all the things said in the video 'why did I get a mother like that' after finally learning that she is a narcissist. However much I try to not see her with batil she constantly reaffirms to me through her actions that she is an unyielding narcissist. I will try to implement the things said in this video though it will be tough. I do believe once I get enough space from my mother it will help heal things and perhaps improve my perspective of her and improve our relationship. I think in these cases keeping a good amount of distance from such people is key.

@rayyanahmad04

Жыл бұрын

I've come to realize that a narcissist being a person with multiple masks, it corresponds to the description of Munafiqun in the quran, and so in that aspect I started reading quran to seek guidance on how to deal with Munafiqun, and there is plenty in the quran. Surat Al Anfal, Yusuf, Al-Imran and even Al-Tawba have so much advice for that regard. May Allah guide us and help us.

@mina5142

Жыл бұрын

No these lectures are not for everyone he’s just coming from his own personal experiences and views. With all due respect I don’t have to do anything he says i Mean no where in the Quran it says that you let people walk all over you!

@princessak21

Жыл бұрын

Allahu Akbar I thought I was the only Muslim that gd a covert narcissist mother. It’s the hardest thing ever dealing with that bullying etc, I found out at 33, 2 years and I’ve been grieving since I went into a nervous breakdown all alone when I came to the sudden realisation that I had a mum that was not normal but for the past 3 decades allah has been protecting me. You are not alone my dear I went thought the worse experience with her and guess what I forgive her but I will never be able to forgive and being Muslim it’s all about the mother, but tell me how that fits in when the lady will never ever change.

This was truthful and painful in the same time… thank you Bayyinah 👍

I finally heard what I need to hear. Alhamdulillah.

Subhanallah.....such an eye-opener....need to listen multiple times to get it engrained....Jazakallah khair Brother

Thoroughly apprciated from Bukhari borned city , uzbekistan . May Alloh bless you Nouman Ali Khan and grant with jannatil Firdavis 🤲

I always listen to your khutbah mashallah my allah bless you

May Allah bless u brother u changed my narrative completely coz of which i was going through pain since years

May Allah protect you and bless you Ustadh. Thank you so much

Jazakumullahu Khoiran Kathiran Ustaz...I am a 67 yr old wife and mum of 4. Allahu Akbar. I needed this so much...Alhamdullillah for this lecture...I shall share this with fmly and friends.

I hope my sins be forgiven by going through all of this test. I think this trial is a blessing for me as it was an option for me to be able to be forgiven. Allah know best. There are times when I feel the "reality" is so harsh, I tend to run from reality by believing in "fiction (baatil)" such as movie/cartoon etc (it's just an act/lies). I think I was lacking patience to face reality and to forgive. May Allah help me. The hope to be forgiven is what makes me feel stronger to move on. Based on my experience, communicating with pious person heal the heart very fast. I hope Allah forgive me for any mistake I wrote on this comment. May Allah forgive us, and heal our heart which is scarred by our sins.

Masha Allah Sir Nouman Ali Khan. You really place things into perspective. Subhana Allah

Thank you 😭 MasyaAllah my dua has been answered ✨

Jazakumullah khairan ustadh NAK, love from Nigeria, west Africa...

Ustadt Nouman Ali Khan conveys the DAWAH so profoundly and proffesionally knowledgeable ALHAMDULLILAH AMEEN May ALLAH SAW PROTECT you ALWAYS AMEEN

@sheelaanwar3061

Жыл бұрын

Aameen Yaa Rabb 🤲

I've cut my sister off because she has hurt me in lots of ways. It's clear to my family and friends that she's done me wrong. I haven't done anything to cause her mistreatment of me, nor have I sought revenge. I stopped talking to her, and I no longer consider her family. I have forgiven her in the eyes of Allah, but I will never forget the deep hurt she's caused me.

@Mike-es2yg

5 күн бұрын

Cute cat! Do you think you can talk to your sister, tell her how you feel, and try to restore your relationship!

Every family has a problem, difficulties between its people... I got the notification and I was literally stressed then... And it felt so good so relaxing so surprising too... That Allah doesn't want me to go into sin... He doesn't want me to be despair... Subhanallah... There are always signs for us to come closer to him... As we do that...we are doing for ourselves... If we do good it will give us good... If we do bad... The bad will come to us... Allah loves us that's why He always make us to make it... And He will continuosly do that until we the end if we also co-operate... And ask for sabr... Subhanallah 🌸✨

@farhodghaniev7646

Жыл бұрын

Assalamu aleykum

This is definitely one of the best khutbahs in a long time. On the other hand there were some assumptions made that need to be made plain. One assumption is that to exercise or experience Allah's favor or blessing it's important to acknowledge or be aware of the stories we make up about other people. Other people say and do what they do and we have an opinion or a judgment about it and then we impose that opinion or judgment on them and use that opinion and judgment to determine our behavior towards them. If we're not clear on that and we fall into or rather we are not accepting or exercising Allah's blessing.

Alhumdulillah, Jazakumullahu Khair brother. Those Ayats are like magical. Which has changed the way l think. Subhanallah

Jazakillah khair for giving these kind of khutbas. They really benefit our inner believes. May Allah reward you immensely for bringing up real issues and their solutions.

Jazaq Allah khair shaikh 💐💐💐💐

The best part of bayyinah videos is that, there is no kind of halal or haram music in the beginning or the end of the video.

Mashaallah. Excellent khutbah. Shukran

May Allah azzawazal bless you enormously 🥺

Barak Allahu feek!

Jazak Allah khair

Jazaka’Allah. This changed my life.🙏🏽

Alhamdullilah!❤🤲

We need more on this.... NAK is now becoming a brand.... MASHAALLAH jazak ALLAH, and love you sir........

Thank you so much Sir, I really needed it to hear this. May Allah bless you for all you do.🦚

Going trough hardship later gives a better life

Please share with Turkish subtitles. I would very much like to listen and understand these beautiful conversations...

I ask Allah to reward you with the best reward and increase you in knowledge, understanding and faith.

@irfanm8677

Жыл бұрын

Aameen

Nauman you are doing great Alhamdolillah.Your knowledge is an immense treasure. Subhan Allah

الحمدلله رب العا لمين ما شاء الله والله الكبر ♥️

Thank you for being here for us right on cue, May Allah increase you in knowledge & reward you, thank you

Amazing lecture on a much needed topic. May Allah bless you all.

Masha'allah Masha'Allah My God protect you Very nice talk Thank you Jazak Allah khier

Jazak Allah

Jazakallah khair brother Ali

Ameen Sheikh, waouh great understanding from this

it is literally an awesome khutba جزاك الله خيرا

Alhamdulila Alhamdulila. Thank you!

Thankfully, I have watched this. I hope Allah guides us all to see the wisdom behind all fights 🙏🏼🙏🏼

No words just golden words may Allah bless u happiness Aameen

Alhamdulillah ❤💐🥺

Salam Nouman BarakaAllah ou fik I'm exactly in this situation I don’t know how to deal with my family I will try to make a step and see how it goes

@fatoumatatraore7284

Жыл бұрын

Me too

Aameen to all duas May ALLAH SWT guide all of us and all our families and all teh generations to come till Do J Aameen

I prefer to keep silent. I'm not good at talking and connecting with people. I'll just worsen the situation.

Beautiful khutba as always جَزَاكَ ٱللَّٰهُ خَيْرًا ❤️

Jazakumullah hukayran🤲🏼🥰💐💐💐🌷🌷

Jazakllah khair

Thank you so much for this lecture!

Ya Allah make us shaakireen aameen

الحمد لله على الهداية.

جزاك الله خير

بارك الله فيك يا شيخ وجزاك الله خيرا أرجوا أن تستمر هذه المحاضرات والدروس وشكرا لك يا دكتور

Salamat rahin 💗

On point as always ❤️ MashaAllah

Beautiful khutba

Jij hebt dit zooo mooi uitgelegd dank je..belgium

I really need this khutbah at this time jazak Allah NAK.....

I cut my family relationship after 9 years they had been ignored, bullied, fitna and zhalim to me when I was broke, lost my future husband, friends and lost my mom. Only in the worst time you finally found the true colors of your people surrounds you. They forgot what I have done for them when I was UP. Alhamdulillah.

@ayesha4913

10 ай бұрын

hi how ar u doing?

@isrark3

5 күн бұрын

HASBUNALLAHU WA NI’MAL WAKEEL Sufficient for us is Allah, and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs

May Allah Al Muizz preserve you ustaad, Jazakallahu Khairan kaseera :))

Very important topic to every human being. Knowledge is the key and been open minded is the key to salvation. جزاك الله خير الجزاء شيخنا الفاضل

Wallahi very deep understanding Allah bless and guide us all,in sha Allah my kids who watched this video will now understand why my nature is the way it is, it's not me but by the mercy of Allah

Very inspiring

And then there are people like you sir, blessing by Allah. May Allah give hidayat to all of us.

Subhan'Allah

Wish I could attend Bayyinah Institute with you, Ustadh.

@naheedmahmood2839

Жыл бұрын

U can attend the Dream Program online

@zaidan296

Жыл бұрын

They don't conduct onsite studies now.

@indahmalang6612

Жыл бұрын

Me too insyaa ALLAH

@aimanfatima5698

Жыл бұрын

Dream program is still going on

@ayeshayasir3329

Жыл бұрын

@@aimanfatima5698 how can I access ? Any link to it?

Alhamdulillah

I find this topic a really interesting one and always have always learned a lot from Nouman Ali. I get what you are saying in this speech and it is very good advice; however it doesn't take into account the fact that no matter how many meetings you have with some family members to address issues of concern to establish peace, the outcome isn't going to be a desired one and actually nothing is going to be resolved. Even if you sit down and have a conversation with some people, always being respectful, people that are narcissistic are going to avoid accountability and responsibility for any hurt or pain that they have caused. In my experience, it is best to acknowledge that these people are the way that they are and Allah knows best; but for your own peace and mental health, just pray for these people but keep your distance. This way, you can't keep getting manipulated and gaslighted by these people and you're protecting yourself from ongoing abuse.