“A society that grows more sad is a society that grows more mean” That hits.

@OldJackWolf

5 ай бұрын

Worse is when society goes hungry. And considering climate change, that's an even bigger concern, IMHO.

@memelc5655

5 ай бұрын

I just watched “lost in Yonkers!! “Sadness becomes meanness is the plot of the story 😮

@dianeibsen5994

5 ай бұрын

Underneath anger is sadness

@jeffreyplatt-cq8ob

5 ай бұрын

Why ? What are people afraid of. Other people. Because they do not take the time to get to know them. And realize we are all very much alike !! They are afraid of being hurt by them. A culture of fear. That was made so much worse by the pandemic. 😢 I have been an admirer of David for 20 years. I have always identified with his being. We have a great deal in common from a thinking and emotional way of living a life. My love to David. May his wisdom catch on to others 🎉😊

@SUZSMITH

5 ай бұрын

It says a lot about so many things about western societies. We have lost our sense of community, compassion and care towards others. 😢

"In every conversation respect is like air. When it's present nobody notices. When it's absent it's all anybody can think about." 👌

@natasharostova5186

2 ай бұрын

same with common sense being like a deodorant: most noticed when it's not used

Oh man. Say what you will about wasting time on KZread. This morning I woke up and thought, "I will not click on any video, I will not watch anything" and I failed to keep that promise to myself and I'm so glad I did because this is exactly what I needed today.

@CherylBerryl

5 ай бұрын

Me too!!!

@Ioana.U

3 ай бұрын

Me too 😅

@euge.sosa.b

3 ай бұрын

You're not "wasting time" as long as you thoughtfully curate your content :)

@DJK-cq2uy

2 ай бұрын

Fatveffn deal

@heidisaglund3443

2 ай бұрын

I think youtube is amazing. Social media on the other hand is a waste, but I'm addicted. Try to stay on youtube as much as I can.

“Each person is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery to get to the bottom of.” Thank you David Brooks for my new mantra.

@lisamoag6548

3 ай бұрын

Some times they are just a pile of poop.

@jordybpeterson9046

3 ай бұрын

@@lisamoag6548lol thanks I needed to laugh

@Butterflybanter

3 ай бұрын

...a mystery you will never ever get to the bottom of.

@tacitHope

3 ай бұрын

I am an ELA special education teacher. I appreciate his point regarding learning about humanities through the arts and it’s benefits. I want to teach my students to be Illuminators because they make me feel like an illuminator.

@KJ-lb4tj

2 ай бұрын

...or a mystery to try to understand. Everyone wants to be known deeply and to know others deeply

After watching this video, I went to the grocery store with the intention of looking at each person with love. The interactions I had with unknown people were extraordinary. So deeply satisfying.

@321alison

5 ай бұрын

Wow. Great experience. I’m gonna try it at my work.

@younoseeit

5 ай бұрын

Yes. Loving you heals me!❤

@marjorieprintz2468

5 ай бұрын

I very much enjoy talking to people at the grocery store.Recently, got a few phone numbers but i realize that becoming there friend is easier said then done.But I'm still hopeful.I will work harder to see the person and let them know i care.

@shirleyfrost9909

5 ай бұрын

So wonderful. Gonna do so tomorrow. We need each other

@TH-eb5ro

5 ай бұрын

I can't remember where I learned this habit but every day I try to connect with one person. I did this even when living outside of the US. I have had some experiences that still cause me to pause.

Imagine if in school they taught lectures like this; society would be much better, and we’d be learning actually USEFUL information.

@kimjongchill2072

Ай бұрын

Hello dear, it is not the job of the school to teach the students how to behave, the ground base is the family. If parents do not teach their children how to behave, no teacher could do (i know what i am talking about). First of all the best example to teach our own children is to show our own right example , WORDS DO NOT TEACH, only examples following by doing good ACTIONS like compassion, kindness to everyone etc. etc. Blessings from Cambodia 🙏 Much Love

@ericagardens1234

Ай бұрын

everything a child learns is the wrong things. everything is backwards. the school doesn't teacg anything. it breaks your spirit with relentless torture. stuff your brain full of nonsense that has no practical use. i could he done Anything else with my first 18 years of life and it would have gotten me more skill.

@lindabishop9407

Ай бұрын

Yes! It’s a must what a beautiful must to share!

@kalebjacobs111

Ай бұрын

@@kimjongchill2072 this has nothing to do with behaving. These are useful tools that the parents were never taught in the first place so they couldn’t teach their kids if they wanted

20 күн бұрын

If the pupils are respected the like to be teacher.Also If they can tell about their own concerns.

He had me in tears when he said to look in the eyes of the stranger and see God - which we all are - what a powerful loving being this man truly is.

@garygropper6750

5 ай бұрын

No

@docborot2671

5 ай бұрын

whats even more interesting is that he mentioned all religions in that line except the one that actually says to greet everyone as if god exists within them. very interesting

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

5 ай бұрын

​@@docborot2671which one?

@sandrabradley289

5 ай бұрын

@@docborot2671 That is because seeing God in everyone is NOT a religion, it is a way of life, a state of BEINGNESS...religion is organized by others who want you to believe they have a better connection to God than you do...and it will cost you money... Hafiz, a Persian Poet 100 years after Rumi dedicated one of his books of poetry called ' Gifts ' - "To God, masquerading as us." Need I say more?

@jaylittle695

5 ай бұрын

He's not wrong...every human being is a direct connection to God...an extension of God so to speak

Dale Carnegie said if you can get a person to talk about him or herself, that person will walk away thinking you're the greatest conversationalist they've ever met. There's nothing people like more than talking about than him or herself.

When this beautiful soul was introduced as a former conservative columnist for the New York Times, I almost clicked away. His speech really showed me the way to question my bias toward conservatives. To regard everyone you meet with just and loving attention is what the world needs most right now. Thanks for opening my eyes and heart.

@dgs1001

5 ай бұрын

That's exactly why I have a bias against liberals and the far right... very closed minded. Kudos for breaking out of allegiance to predigested group think.

@rambleon2011

5 ай бұрын

Brooks has an ugly soul, one devoid of compassion for the middle class who have been screwed over year after year by filthy rich elitists like himself.

@fairy5668

5 ай бұрын

@@dgs1001The whole point of all of this was to NOT be biased lmao

@CherylBerryl

5 ай бұрын

This society has been purposely Brainwashed Against one another! "Divide and Conquer" is a technique used in order to keep everyone's attention away from Who the REAL Enemy is, and what they are doing to us, & society; it's called the Hegelian Dialectic.

@xpez9694

5 ай бұрын

@@fairy5668 I think you missed Psyche's point that they shared how the lessons in the video revealed their own weakness that they are open to changing.. Basically they shared how this talk was a revelation to them and taught them something about themselves. Which is something to consider in yourself in your judgement of others...

Respected, I am Ashraf Alam 70, Pakistan, Muslim, First introduced myself enabling to understand my thoughts. It's a wonderful presentation. Will read your book soon. You have discussed 2 words, Bonding and Bridging. You are very well aware about Psychological issues in West. The basic reason is they don't follow these words. Psychological diseases have only medical treatments on medication subsequently generating business for Pharma. If you visit Poorest Countries and then there Poorest neighbourhood. These people are enjoying and content in their lives. No Psychological issues because in all those places Bonding is primary life style. They know how to make Social Bridge also. In Italy Piazza was the same thing for public Gossiping and settlement of local issues. Identical approach is still exist in Asia and Africa. In your knowledge that Pope asked to make Bridges instead of Walls. If World Leaders understand these 2 words and start practicing in their life majority of disputes settle in hours. Congratulations for such a fantastic work. God Bless you and your family

@Cocoisagordonsetter

6 ай бұрын

Ease creates different problems. (Depression)

@ashrafalam6075

6 ай бұрын

@@Cocoisagordonsetter There is a price for living any starta. The word ' Comfort Zone ' minimise your price. ( Price is not only Financial, Social etc etc). Everyone try to find out own Comfort Zone.

@lindam4259

5 ай бұрын

@ahrafalam6075 Well said! Years ago, Mother Theresa said something similar, to the effect that in the US people have bigger refrigerators, etc., but they seem to be the loneliest people on earth! Materialism is the dominant ethos here and extreme inequality fuels the anger we see.

@kimfish1

5 ай бұрын

Your words Changed my life.

@richardlittlejohn257

5 ай бұрын

Very, Very nice, Will Share This

“There will be no punishment here. You’ve just had an experience” hit me so hard for some reason and I almost bursted into tears. Overall a great life flipping thing to have listened to

@blondechannel

5 ай бұрын

Sounds like you value care, compassion and consideration. You may be needing some of that for yourself, which is why it touched you. Peace to you and your heart...

@darrendencklau8161

4 ай бұрын

I saw a very similar situation with my father and my older sister when I was really young. It is one of my favorite memories of my dad.

@SUZSMITH

4 ай бұрын

My friend and I both cried. We didn’t watch it together, but we both had the same response to so many parts of it. It was beautiful beyond measure.

@patrickahern3129

13 күн бұрын

​@@blondechannel 322

@patrickahern3129

12 күн бұрын

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As an introvert, I had never thought of myself as a diminisher because I don't regularly question other people and can often keep to myself. This has motivated me to make more of an effort to connect when in the company of others.

He was so generous and didn't hold back for his knowledge from his book. Didn't even ask us to buy his book. What an amazing human being!

@thomasgriffith2953

5 ай бұрын

Completely agree. I 👍

@russellstone9056

5 ай бұрын

But a horrible salesman. 😂

@crypton_8l87

5 ай бұрын

Lol

@Selsmittenxo

5 ай бұрын

​@@russellstone9056opposite actually. Reaffirms my decision to get it!

@karenlynch8348

3 ай бұрын

Yet I want his book! On average ppl recall 5% of what they hear & 75% of what they read

Nurse here. Leaving the profession soon because of what your sister in law claims. If I had to begin my career at this time, I wouldn’t last as long as I did. I used to like what I do, but there are many days when I go home just beat and so exhausted and I can’t imagine doing this for much longer. The few times when a pt thanks me, I actually have tears in my eyes.

@Cocoisagordonsetter

6 ай бұрын

That's awful. Nursing is such an important career.

@jaggillar6680

5 ай бұрын

Its not just the patients lack of appreciation. Its the corporate drive for less staff than required to address the needs of the patients. Less staff, less payroll. Less appreciation.

@wildhorses6817

5 ай бұрын

​@@jaggillar6680 Yes, the Corporate Healthcare System Denied Care, Denied needed tests, Needed Labs. People take it out on the innocent staff who do not make the Rules. The Rules FOR PROFIT and THE RULERS OF PROFIT.

@janebraun4482

5 ай бұрын

The feeling is that many nurses are there for the paycheck. Few these days really seem to have real empathy.

@Cocoisagordonsetter

5 ай бұрын

@@janebraun4482 First and foremost they are there to support themselves and their family. REAL EMPATHY isn't part of the job description.

I am 73. This is one of the most enlightening talks I have ever heard; I learned so much from it, things I wish I had known when I was 25, 20, 15..... And beyond that, what a wise, engaging, wonderful person this man is. I'm going to get his book immediately and recommend it to everyone I know. Sir, you brought me to tears of gratitude for life, as chaotic as mine has been, and the chances that I have left to see and be seen.

@jennyjenny3531

5 ай бұрын

God bless you

@zvo3783

5 ай бұрын

we see you

@ombaliomvideos

5 ай бұрын

I am amazed and breaking into tears to see in the comments how most of people are craving for being more loving with each other in their life ❤

@Sarie2727

Ай бұрын

Me too

This is the most uplifting talk I’ve ever heard. Parts of it broke me, especially about people that struggle with depression. I could listen to David Brooks for ever.

@Anabee3

5 ай бұрын

Same. David Brooks is one of the extremely few who's every word grabs my attn. He's a highlight in society.

@greggoreo6738

5 ай бұрын

Nicely said.. You pay great tribute. Very similar to Carl Rovers: positive regard. HARD to do. Works every Time.. like push ups. They work...not easy. Respectfully submitted for your consideration. Gregg Oreo

@pamelatanner788

5 ай бұрын

Me too.

@jimakirk8998

4 ай бұрын

❤❤❤

@happyisthegirl

4 ай бұрын

You are never alone friend.

His laugh tells me all I need to know about him. A genuine human being.

@cathyrehill3876

5 ай бұрын

I had just said aloud to myself, " I love his laugh."

@Logiconfire

2 ай бұрын

Quite chatty as well.

@Bellathebear777

Ай бұрын

Lol, Thank God!❤​@@Logiconfire

This is by far, the best KZread video I’ve ever watched. Wisdom of an elder, a life changer, an elevator of consciousness.

"Attention is a moral act." 💗 Love that! 💗Thank you! 💗

What a hopeful life story his is. Being a closed-off, unemotional person, and learning to change that well into adulthood. It should give us all hope.

This is a tonic. A balm. As you were speaking about attention, I was reminded of Mary Oliver: "Attention is the beginning of devotion." I am deeply grateful for the gifts you have shared here, Mr. Brooks.

@George-ie1si

5 ай бұрын

I don't know why but I hardly understood what he was talking about, I have read many comments who all say how fantastic his talk was. I just didn't get it, but I will listen again, and again, as I think that for me to understand him, will be of greatest benefit to me.

@susankovach8927

5 ай бұрын

Those with adhd have a thinking problem in conversation. Perhaps this is a big reason for the problem with people not conversing well

@SG-jh8ff

5 ай бұрын

This is the most eloquently articulated compliment of a comment I have ever read. Thank you 🙏

@sheilagilchrist9167

5 ай бұрын

​@@George-ie1si😮

@LivingConsciously707

5 ай бұрын

@@George-ie1si That's because it didn't make sense to you and that's good. Mr. Brooks has this all backwards.

I’ve followed David Brooks for a few years now and I have come to appreciate his insights and deep thinking. We need more journalists like him that can communicate with so much eloquence and clarity.

@davehanson199

6 ай бұрын

You’re crazy

@emmanuelnwangwa1950

6 ай бұрын

Or 😊pl😊 O😊pppl😊

@emmanuelnwangwa1950

6 ай бұрын

@@davehanson199 no😊or ooo

@patricia7434

6 ай бұрын

For that matter, we need more PEOPLE like him!

@gliberty42

5 ай бұрын

I've got to say, although I always found him likeable, I used to see him as a bit surface level, often superficially correct or having a mainstream reading of policy, but nothing special. But this is really profound and clearly he has really grown as a person and is sharing those insights and his personal journey and personal story, with details. It makes him relatable, and gives his insights context, makes it all more interesting and memorable. I am truly impressed and like him a lot more now. .... I too have grown and changed my views - on policy and personally - and it is always inspiring to see others share their growth in whatever form it comes. We must all be open and willing to rethink and to change as we learn - though first we must be willing to listen and learn.

Having lost a lover to suicide and recently my husband to cancer, (and getting sober), I realize that the only path for me now is in service to others. My losses are my strength and I have come to be more compassionate and understanding of human trammels, less judgmental and open-hearted. I can only help others who are troubled to help them find peace, and in that I find peace without pomp but with humility and grace. Everyone has human sadness and emototional turmoil deep inside, anyone who denies this is hiding and reactive with anger, resentment in self-protection when their best bet is to share. Not opening up to one another is a missed opportunity on any given day, moment.

@mgd6087

3 ай бұрын

My condolences. May your heart always remain open.

@Bonnie-dq7cz

3 ай бұрын

Fear

@Logiconfire

2 ай бұрын

The best path is to God through Christ.

@user-gz3bw1so7g

Ай бұрын

This is the first time I've ever heard of David Brooks... what a wonderful insightful, touching talk... I will carry this with me forever. Thank you ♡

@DJK-cq2uy

2 ай бұрын

Wow🎉🎉😂😂

@Bellathebear777

Ай бұрын

​@@DJK-cq2uy see. You did make a difference. First for me as well. Zero to nun conversational skills, but now I'm going to learn, the questions. Ty

Wow,he's got the essense of deep depression down correctly. I also loved his idea of asking strangers what their hidden,unused talent is.

@alvallac2171

6 ай бұрын

*Wow, he's *hidden, unused

@wordsculpt

5 ай бұрын

@@alvallac2171 "Speak for yourself, John Alden." And you have. You, yourself, are both.

@Chatoyancify

5 ай бұрын

It's an awkward question for people who don't have a hidden, unused talent.

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

5 ай бұрын

​@@alvallac2171dude, I'm a grammar fanatic but that was petty, even for me.

@poijntxhaisdgcha6004

5 ай бұрын

that sentence sounds like my i once say have u realize that sometime a stranger will help u but he twisted that way. i dont think , also last time i talk about depression. hope internate stop coyp n stealing no more is kinded of hurtful they show no respect care n ask u first

David Brooke's demeanor has always brought me a deep feeling of calmness. He is so thoughtful and decent. I could rest my head on his shoulder metaphorically. I was sad to learn he also hides sadness. Bless you, David. What a kind person, May your life bring you what you need and what gives you peace. You are one of a kind. So happy you are here.

@bridgetcull2459

5 ай бұрын

😮😊😅😅😅😅😅😊😅😅

@bettycarolan6663

4 ай бұрын

What a beautiful comment 💜

“It’s wonderfully liberating to think for yourself.”

Relating the bridesmaid hugged in the knowledge of her loss, brought me to tears. Thoughtful people are so very precious. Thank you David, this talk was special

Even in our closest relationships we are unknown. We are mostly surface talkers . Enjoyed your presentation.

@pattychan818

5 ай бұрын

So true, even a lot of nice people are one sided conversationist. All they want to do is talk about themselves continuously with poor listening skills. i think most people want to be seen, heard and understood but you have to be ready to do the same.

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

5 ай бұрын

Well that's only your fault if you don't try to make your relationship deeper. If you try and the person is not ready for it or not willing to listen at all, then you have a choice to make.

@evadebruijn

5 ай бұрын

​@@pattychan818'you get what you give' would certainly be nice to be truth, after finding yourself being audience again and again and again after interactions here and there! ✌️

@Erin-uz2gf

4 ай бұрын

That is so sad, but you're right. I have only a couple of friends in my life at this point, for that reason, and they are people that I can have real talks with, share who I really am with, and I want them to share who they really are. It's our choice who we give our precious time and energy to. We all deserve deep connections in our lives.

@EllaBella-76

2 ай бұрын

@@pattychan818•Yes my son likes to start debates sit back and listen his teacher said he has me scratching my own head wondering what the correct response or even thinking where did that come from I need go and research this ,kindness my dear is never a weakness and never to socially stereotype anyone.He is just 14 Years old nearly 15 .Don’t let your hopes and dreams die my dear .People are quick with insults we can’t all join them or the entire world will be toxic.Sometimes though me and my brothers sit back listen to our kids 4 Nephews and my son ,but other times I actually get scared for his safety .He is Sri Lankan Dad I am white a British with Red Hair ,oh my I have severe depression.PTSD someone told me that housework is therapy when I had Covid .I tell my friend I can’t solve his problem but I will listen and always hear him that it’s ok not to be happy all the time (Along with my Son I use the same ethos )Happiness,Sadness and Grief ,Anger ?That it’s ok not to be ok you can’t all be brain surgeons you can’t or should not stress so much that you think that everything you do is a failure it’s a knock back ,but I will always be there to listen ..Patty I wish you happiness ,health and love even if it’s tough to find ..

I’ve followed David on PBS, for years! NEVER heard him speak this personal way! He’s very good at sharing his thoughts and experiences 👍🏿

@nrs6956

5 ай бұрын

Generally have found Brooks the low point on PBS. Mark Shields was much more pointed.

@kooale

4 ай бұрын

jj - Same here, decades, several! He's come a long way, a remarkable individual. I'm very impressed with Brooks.

@kooale

4 ай бұрын

He was a great foil to Shields, who was no rocket scientist either back in the day. Brook's has really gone places over the decades, he has my respect now when he once had only my attention.@@nrs6956

@joycejenkins5126

3 ай бұрын

@@kooale he’s found himself in a more serious way!

What a magnificent Illuminator!!!! The WORLD needs MORE!!!!

The trio David Brooks, Marc Shield ( ✝️ 🕊) and Judy Woodruff have revolutionized tv news for me. As an immigrant who doesn't have English as her 1st language, and who tries to understand and learn about US history, politics and culture, they've never failed to enrich me in a subtle, polite and polished, human, yet extremely informative way. I was always looking forward to PBS Friday eve news. I'm a millennial, by the way

@ASMRyouVEGANyet

5 ай бұрын

PBS has Definitely been captured by the liberals.. it used to be unbiased. It's not anymore. I'm someone who watched PBS for decades and I've seen it shift to a liberal platform.

@pedro97w

5 ай бұрын

They are giving you a biased perspective from the Left. Trust me. Listen to some Conservatives too, these guys are just purebred DC hacks

@kooale

4 ай бұрын

What a great statement. Cool. Thanks!

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

Hi Marguerite! Nice to see my name online! Hahaha. Eventhough on KZread it says Madelief, my birthname is Marguerite. It's a rare name in my environments. It love my name and therefore I love you too. You made me curious. I never heard of Marc Shield and Judy Woordruff, but will definitely check them out. Thank you.

@judim.9046

3 ай бұрын

Same here, I have loved their shows and presentations from the first moment I got to know them❤

The description of knowing your wife is incredibly moving. What a blessing to have you give this speech for all of us to ponder. It is such a difficult time we live in - a horrible disconnect from one another. Thank you for bringing me to tears and giving me a bit of hope.

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my KZread channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 936 subs and > 800 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

So good for you! I'm happy!

@nathananderson8720

3 ай бұрын

@@-Madelief- Whoever you are, I don't know you personally but I can say that you're one of the non-judgmental and open-minded people who is not fixated on tangible or external factors in order to learn from someone like me. Just because someone doesn't have a piece of paper as a credential, doesn't mean that person is not entitled to share personal experiences with the hope & intention to inspire others. Keep up with whatever it is that you're doing to improve mankind or improving your life even to a slight degree each day. This is just one part of a bigger puzzle for creating my KZread channel about holistic health. I literally could have died back when I was 14 years old due to major depression but here I am right now replying to you, a KZreadr, who's full of fulfillment and dedication to help others to be a better version of themselves. I ain't better than anyone else but my old self. That's all that really makes this KZread thing more meaningful and enjoyable. Thanks so much for your support! I am hoping that you can join me with this endless personal development journey! :)

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

@@nathananderson8720 Thank you Nathan. 🙏

@Artyshell53

3 ай бұрын

_and new subscriber!_ G'day from Western Australia 👋

@nathananderson8720

3 ай бұрын

@@Artyshell53 Thank you! What I really focus on is the value of the content and what I’m truly passionate about while helping others! I'm glad that I'm foolish enough to believe that I can actually start making money through my passions. I've never thought that I'd be able to gain more than 2k subs faster. I can't imagine how many opportunities could have been wasted if I didn't have courage to go after them. That includes having this channel, being in a management role, having the people who actually care about me for who I am, freelance gigs, being an ambassador in a creative community and now I'm also planning on honing my public speaking skills through joining a toastmaster club and these all happened in 2023. It started with writing them all down on a piece of paper. A paper that serves as a reminder for me to go after what I want even through hard times. I'm not bragging about my accomplishments but simply hoping that this message can also inspire others to believe in themselves.

Absolutely loved this talk so much I’ve been busy all morning sharing it to friends and family. What a wise beautiful man. We all basically want to be seen and respected. Sending love and warmth to everyone who listens to this amazing man. ❤

@user-sx9lb1uv5m

4 ай бұрын

The book is good too! But having the book and talk…🎉❤

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

Hi Betty, David's talk did also raise the urge of sharing within me. So nice to read you did too. Thank you for you contribution! Bless you.

What he said about depression is SPOT ON. It's not ideas that are missing....it's energy and other things.

@chilloften

Ай бұрын

Passion, desire, reasons.

Now I know why I came to like to hear him speak in the news, there was something about him that I was attracted to, the way he respected others and how he was inquisitive and wanted to understand why or what they meant or what they were saying.

You could easily pass as a stand up comedian. Love the honesty

@mtlicq

5 ай бұрын

Bob Newhart style

@jaseayathorai3762

3 ай бұрын

A naturalist in humour.

Listening to this made me breakdown and cry so many times, because it touched me at the core. Truth is always liberating. Thank you David Brooks

“These skills, from the first gaze to the conversation to hard conversations amid conflict, these to me are the essence of moral life.” ~ David Brooks

What he is describing here is ministry, compassion and love.

I live in a very small, rural town and have experienced so much of what he spoke about, regarding how bad people treat others. It felt comforting to hear his reasons why they do it. Another part of his talk brought me comfort because my mother just recently passed away and I don’t have much of a support system. Thank you David.

@Elizabeth-arb22

5 ай бұрын

May you find peace and comfort at this challenging time. I hope that even the words of a stranger will provide you with a measure of solace.

@roxanneb6208

5 ай бұрын

@@Elizabeth-arb22 Thank you Elizabeth, they do.

@umibrahimibrahim4966

5 ай бұрын

Choose the best either printed words or humans.

@patriciamharris5664

5 ай бұрын

Roxanne.. My condolences ❤

@Joanne-wx1pj

5 ай бұрын

Roxanne, I am pleased to hear you found comfort from David's talk. As for your own personal sad loss - I am sending you heartfelt condolences

This is exactly what I needed to hear, THANK YOU. I am in a politically "mixed marriage," I'm a liberal cosmopolitan who speaks 3 languages married 17 years to a conservative-leaning man who has spent his entire life (3 generations back) in the same small rural community and never left the US. Listening genuinely, openly, and with great respect has not only kept us together but also opened us up to a deep and rich understanding of the political "other." This experience has profoundly changed us and we strive to being this openness and humanizing approach into our wider interactions, but we feel so alone in doing so. It's VERY heartening to see this message proclaimed by David Brooks. I hope that more people are inspired and feel the urgency to courageously join the force for humanization!

@shamparice007

5 ай бұрын

yes my sister...I am with you 🙏 Let us continue to be Human .....loving all 💕

@michelebreensimmons5713

5 ай бұрын

We are in the same situation - but honor and love ( most of the time😂) come before opinions and politics..

@volvobeliever2427

5 ай бұрын

Too bad he didn't inspire his own marriage before the divorce. Maybe his new marriage will inspire him until a new hottie comes along.

I’m 28 years old, I’ve been watching you on PBS every Friday night for multiple years now! I miss Mark Shields (may he rest in peace), I learned a lot of interpersonal skills watching the interactions you guys had, even when you disagreed.

“Each person that you meet is not a problem to be solved, but a mystery you’ll never get to the bottom of” What a profound quote. Thank you for this enlightenment. Dear God, help me to become more of an illuminator, as I go about my day, starting with my spouse, my children, my grandchildren, my neighbors, and so on…

@LivingConsciously707

5 ай бұрын

Or, each person you meet is a reflection of you. Change you and you change the people you meet.

@user-to6nk8sf6u

5 ай бұрын

Yes, it is such a good and nurturing thing to do. Especially for children going through all that they are. Amazingly, I found just pausing to listen longer and better created so much more happiness. That is what love feels like.

@chomperthefirst533

5 ай бұрын

I think the ability to truly listen is the ability to love. I am a natural extrovert, Christian Catholic. First born of 6. Us first borns have to perform. When a camera comes out we cannot say, I’m shy, I’m not in the mood, I’m introverted. You learn that this is not your choice. You are part of the whole. What you do and say affects the everybody. I loved people. all people. I knew they were each and everyone sacred. Made in the image of God and that we all have unique gifts. I always tried to find out what made people tick. To really know them. I was never good at small talk. To me it is was a veneer and substitute for communication. But I also learned that you always have to meet people where they are at, and sometimes small talk is where their at. 😊 I worked at a residential institution. I learned a lot about how to really see people. How to gain their trust, love them unconditionally, and without judgement - although none of this was my intent, I just wanted to see their humanness: their suffering and joy. What they longed for. Their core. I learned that some people, in order to get in to their line of vision so to speak, you had to become like them in mannerisms. Share with them eye to eye. You need to accompany people for awhile in order to relate to them and ultimately to empathize. I haven’t even watched this video so will shut up! (I’m only at 10:14!)

@patriciamharris5664

5 ай бұрын

​@@LivingConsciously707 Good one!!

@patriciamharris5664

5 ай бұрын

​@@chomperthefirst533❤

Transcendent. I was drawn to the video by the compelling title of his book alone, only to be completely enraptured by his masterclass on becoming more authentic versions of ourselves by inviting others to do the same. His examples and inspiration are exquisite. I was also gobsmacked to find out how many of the practices he described I naturally employ in my daily interactions. I feel seen.

@SUZSMITH

5 ай бұрын

What a gift!

@Bellathebear777

Ай бұрын

​@@SUZSMITH🙏💖💪✌️

I appreciated his closing statement that he is a teacher because honestly as a therapist one of things we strive for out client is to see an entire person and the things he said while not anything new- Is a lesson that we as humans seems to be forgotten. We need relationships: To be seen, heard and listen to others. We need reciprocal caring community oriented relationships. As an American society we’ve been so lost…

@shamparice007

5 ай бұрын

yes my friend, but we are being 'found' too, you for one are found...you are here...that gives me hope 😄for America 🙏

@artisticendeavors5076

5 ай бұрын

American Society is a "manufactured" form of lost which has been and currently is being cruelly sold by lovers of money.

I often catch eye contact with ppl in public which brings a smile to my face and it’s contagious…they smile back it is the most beautiful feeling…a connection and knowing without words…pure and natural connection…

This is a fantastic talk. Thank you David for your contributions to the discussion of what it means to be truly human.

The universe is always able to smack me (a well-meaning smack) across the face like Cher does to Nicholas Cage in Moonstruck -- "snap out of it!" -- with such obvious synchronicity as to be a clear sign of our interconnectedness and some unseen force guiding our stories. I have been in a depression for several years now that has made little sense to those around me, has challenged my ability to hope, has challenged the patience of friends, family and coworkers, and that literally caused many of the pillars of the life i had constructed to collapse. I am finally beginning to emerge out of the muck and stumbled upon this, which is beautiful and profound and something I needed to hear right now. David made me feel seen. Seeing that it was recorded on my birthday is the smack in the face that I referred to --- a great cosmic pat on the back for making it through, Thank you.

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

Likewise, here. Thank you for your sharing your personal story. With deep gratitude, Marguerite

Such great thoughts & instruction & I’m reminded the Bible teaches all of this. The greatest commandment is to love one another, esteem others better than yourself.

“I’m not an exceptional person, but I am a grower”. Incredibly powerful and inspirational.

I have grown to really love David Brooks. He is so right about bridging to other people with different opinions or personal outlooks. I tend to be one of those weirdos who loves talking to my seat mate on a plane. It has always given me joy to meet new people and I never had anyone get upset with me for starting a discussion. As a matter of fact people will tell me it made the ride fun. Keep preaching David!

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

Hahaha. I can completely relate to that. What a joy meeting strangers can be! Thank you for sharing.

One of the best speech I have heard in a long time. ❤

@bwoodward9564

5 ай бұрын

Yet, he denies Trump.

@amorascottREDC8

5 ай бұрын

Me too… ❤

@s.d.crockett486

5 ай бұрын

@@bwoodward9564 Ha. I think the point was besides politics :) I love that people have different opinions, evolving opinions, and it's up to us debate them all. :)

@Bellathebear777

Ай бұрын

I deny the buy dung​@@bwoodward9564

We need more of this kind of rhetoric. Our souls are starving for meaning. Thank you for growing and encouraging humanity.

Problem is, I'm one of the ones who is curious, asks questions, wants to deeply understand because I want that so badly from others (completely emotionally unavailable and non-validating family). I gave and gave in the hopes I'd 'be the change' and be seen too. I am now burned out, exhausted, and I had to shut out everyone for whom I had become their container. I literally ran away from that life (work, family, town) and currently live on my own and rarely go out while I recover. I do have three very close people who can have balanced conversations, and are curious about my life and my thoughts. On towards more friendships and environments that are mutually respectful.

@toddreasor544

5 ай бұрын

I respect you and your beautiful path.

@shamparice007

5 ай бұрын

I love you and send you hugs of Hope....a mum from India 🥰

@cherylkeller5181

5 ай бұрын

I came from the same type of family. My parents never talked to me until I talked to them. 😢 They were overwhelmed with 6 kids and moving every couple years

@patriciamharris5664

5 ай бұрын

​@@cherylkeller5181❤

@chilloften

Ай бұрын

I so understand.

This is one of my favorite speeches of all time! Thank you Brooks! For years I've gone through life not feeling connected then one day had an "ah ha" awakening about connective tissue and autoimmune disorders. Rampant in our USA culture. It can start with us. We can be the change for healing/listening.

@nancyblumel2712

5 ай бұрын

What is that connection there between auto immune and connective tissue?😊

@cathy3951

5 ай бұрын

It seems possible that our emotions could get translated from the emotional body into the physical body. If our thoughts whether conscious or not are saying we're not connected to others or our purpose or even ourselves, our cells could literally react to those statements/commands and respond accordingly (not work in harmony). I realize it's not that simple, but it might be playing a huge role in the malfunction of the body. @@nancyblumel2712

Thank you! Throughout my career, I have observed a concerning trend of increasing anger in social interactions. People seem more inclined to become easily agitated and quick to express their frustrations. What used to be civil debates and discussions have now turned into heated arguments and personal attacks. This slide toward anger is detrimental to effective communication and cooperation. It is crucial that we recognize this shift and strive to bring back civility and respect in our interactions to foster a more harmonious and productive society.

@TKCTSTN

6 ай бұрын

The concept of the "common good" is disappearing.

@julesfairfax5623

5 ай бұрын

People rush to be insulted.

@Guddilove801

5 ай бұрын

​Interesting huh!

@Guddilove801

5 ай бұрын

​At onetime we all globally knew what that meant . But now it's got a manipulated twist to its definition..

@gordo6908

5 ай бұрын

​@@TKCTSTN tends to happen with bills of goods

I was touched how he described his wife as "beholding". Very touching. Very human, the deepest we could be.

This is one of the most refreshing and insightful videos I’ve ever seen and this is coming from someone who has watched thousands of psychology videos and struggled with intense depression. Thank you so much!

I strive to be better every day, not easy. I have met endless numbers of diminishes, especially now that I am a much older woman, life having left it’s mark on my face and body. My. Brooks, i so much enjoy your articles and speeches.😅

So powerful and profound, thank you! We all have a need to be seen, so I will work harder at seeing others ❤

🙏🙏🙏 Mr. Brooks, the nation desperately needs to hear this lecture, especially now.

I like what this man says. You have my respect, Sir. I will read your books, I feel I need to. ❤ Like you said, we really don't give each other the compassion we feel we need and that is one of our major setbacks. Thank you, Sir.

"I will not declare war" what an statement with so many ramifications personal and universal. Thank you, Mr. Brooks, I have followed your political commentaries for many years and I appreciate enormously your timing insight and your witty use of language. Reading the book now ;)

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

David is witty, isn't he? Besides the deep hidden truths he shares and makes us be aware of/makes us see, ourselves aswell as others. Thank you for your contribution.

People with anxiety, especially social anxiety, are at such a disadvantage. It is utterly debilitating, and decades pass before they even realize it’s a problem.

@iksandrr

5 ай бұрын

I think this is interesting because he mentioned how misunderstood and devastating depression is, but he missed how debilitating anxiety can be as you mentioned. It makes any connection almost impossible. He doesn’t realize how difficult it is for people with it to do any of what he mentioned.

@teredavila572

5 ай бұрын

​@@iksandrr😮

@user-us3pi4es5b

5 ай бұрын

Maybe breathe and tell itself ur safe ❤

@user-us3pi4es5b

5 ай бұрын

​@@iksandrr break thru. Like he suggests. U CAN !

@tammyturtle4434

5 ай бұрын

Just as those of us in debilitating chronic pain who suffer from anxiety and depression find it very hard to follow positive advise.

Thank you David and for all who made this event possible.

Having just finished watching this I am still processing all of the wonderful gems I heard and felt. As I'm not yet able to articulate a concise statement of gratitude, I'll just say thank you. Thank you 🙏🏾💚

Teaching through storytelling. Powerful.

@CherylBerryl

5 ай бұрын

It really engages peoples hearts & minds.

@yelizaveta1278

5 ай бұрын

​@@CherylBerryl..and bridging those is "where it's at"

@bookwoman7803

3 ай бұрын

As Jesus did!

David Brooks !!! David Brooks !!! David Brooks !!! I love you! You are the best teacher. (Yes I listened and learned). Sharing IS Caring! Thank you for sharing your knowledge, wisdom, caring, great seeing in love and empathy on how to make this world a better place.

He never fails to show me deeper parts of myself. Sage advice for this man on my own journey of discovering who I really am.

I have noticed his transformation over the years it’s truly amazing! Thank you for your insight, wish more people sought to make themselves better people.

Phenomenal speech! Great use of humor, too. There is so much Truth in your words, David! The way I view it, one look into a person's eyes can reveal so much information, a careful observer can notice many details, even the emotional states, no words necessary. In my 50 years of experience, some people, even perfect strangers can "read" each other. True connection is about an exchange of loving attention, acknowledging each other, our dignity and seeing the world through the eyes of the person we interact with. Thank you so much!

@TammyMason-uu2of

5 ай бұрын

That’s how some narcissists are so successful!

@mtlicq

5 ай бұрын

@@TammyMason-uu2of I concur. Strangely that is exactly what came to mind when I read ewalichorowiczs comment contents. What is it about that comment brought that red flag?

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

To me, that is so true. Thank you for your contribution!

You hit the nail on the head when you described depression.. It is not like sadness. The switches for fun and motivation just turn off. After 3 episodes in my life I know that feeling doesn't last forever, but I understand why some people can't go on. A good conversation question: What makes you want to get up on Monday morning and do what you do?

@WinterFlowerchild

5 ай бұрын

That would not be a good question for anyone who doesn't want to get up on Monday morning.

@ivegotthis8301

5 ай бұрын

@@WinterFlowerchild true but as someone who has had depression I think they meant it as “when you’re feeling good”

@bahaar2825

5 ай бұрын

The reason why we are depressed is we don't want to connect with others on a spiritual level. We don't want to introspect on a spiritual level.

@lindascott2008

5 ай бұрын

@@bahaar2825 I very much want to connect with people on a spiritual level and I place a lot of importance on my spiritual life and focus in on that a lot. Unfortunately, where I live in the countryside in the mts. of Calif., where I moved 20 years ago from a more populated and progressive area, I do not meet other people who are interested in spirituality, or their idea of spirituality is of a set religious bend and they would see me as being someone outside of what their religion considers to be proper in the approach to spirituality. But, I will challenge myself to open my heart more and connect from that place of Universal Love. I do find it hard to get inspired as I am completely alone and isolated by myself, so it is hard to feel inspired to open up to others. There are not really many avenues of interaction with people, except at the grocery store, library and hardware store. I am on a tight budget living on social security retirement and can't afford to spend much on gas to drive elsewhere or eating out at the few restaurants here. I went to a local church, but it was not my "cup of tea".

@aprileliana

5 ай бұрын

@@bahaar2825actually the reason people are depressed is because other people are not able to be present with them. Humans are just so removed from being real, being present and being kind.

You made me realize why I get so much satisfaction responding to posts I read on Twitter, even though I suspect no one is reading them.There is so much ugliness and misinformation on the site that I always do it with the hope that if I change one mind with my non-confrontational informative post, I have done my part to make society a better place. You gave me a lot to think about especially with regards to understanding the people I disagree with.

Thank you for this wonderful, both eye-opening and uplifting, while tackling the hardships going on in our society right now, particularly post-Covid and etc. event! I don't often watch a ton of intellectual videos that also touch my soul, make me feel like crying and then change that into laughing. What a wonderful person, and I'm so glad to find this channel.

His book is wonderful with a profound sincere message that needs to be spread- how to communicate! Wow!

What a chrismatic speaker. Thats a gift ! ❤ I really enjoyed him.

Listening to this video only once is not enough, every time you re-listen to him, you grasp more and more of the details. Thank you for sharing this with us

David Brooks---You illuminate us all. Thank you for your scholarship, gift of communication, and humanity.

AMEN David! You're teaching us to Choose How We Show Up! To be human-to-human. I call this Alltelligence. It's living in nature's symbiosis and reciprocity, the way we're designed to thrive. We - and the world - need this now. #ChooseToShowUp

Great talk! David Brooks is such an interesting thinker. I like his focus on having a good moral center.

@volvobeliever2427

5 ай бұрын

Men with a good moral center don't dump wives after 27 years of marriage.

That's what I did, listened and written almost all speech down :) Permit yourself to be a bad writer, that's are the words I needed today, since I am trying storytelling in my life. Deeply appreciated Professor Brooks.

I have always loved David Brooks. This felt like a standup special. Truly gifted!

David Brooks is so humble and such a good analyst of human behavior. God bless him. I can listen to him all day long.

Great speech, will definitely buy the book and read it. We really need more of such speeches in our life to make people think about other people.

Since I heard David Brooks talk yesterday I have continually thought on his words and experiences. Twenty years ago I worked in a hospice in London and that experience was the watershed of my life. I learnt so much from the conversations of Doctors and experienced nurses had with the patients and transformed my approach to conversation to what has been described by David. To make space to engage with another takes determination to really listen and to see the other as the most important person of that moment. Those experiences have never left me. I am deeply grateful that David’s talk qualified my experience and inspired me to have the courage to continue to see others in their humanity. With much gratitude. ❤❤❤

The first conservative who has captivated and held my attention with his humanity and insights.

This made me cry, it touched my heart so deeply. I'm buying this beautiful man's book.

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

David made me cry too. As you write, he touched my heart deeply. Thank you for sharing! 🙏

Huge fan of DB, he understands humanity. Appreciate his insight. I never miss a Friday night with PBS.

I will watch this video again, and next time make notes, so I can remind myself, as David gave sooooo many little nuggets of wisdom, I want to remember them all, so that I can also be a beggar sharing bread with others, in the way he has done for me ❤ Thank you David !!!

I’ve been a fan of David Brooks for years, always valuing his perspective & his sincere, articulate delivery. So many takeaways from this one! Thank you David!

This is PROFOUND!! I need to share this with family and friends. I'm guilty of topping and other practices. Thank you David Brooks!!

@-Madelief-

3 ай бұрын

Yes!

What a thrill (I was going to say blessing) to have found this! Friday nights I look forward to watching David on PBS, and now I have found the source of illumination and joy that he imparts on a much deeper level. Thank you for this

@patriciamharris5664

5 ай бұрын

Blessing indeed!

I see you, David Brooks, as a truly beautiful and profoundly humane human, with depths of intelligence and heart. This was one of the most refreshing and affirming talks I've perhaps ever heard. I've seen the epidemic of people not looking openly, I see the complete dearth of curiosity and inquiry and good questions, and wonder why so many are so oblique about how they deal with life. It sounds to me like like David looks people and life straight on, without prejudice or fear or assumptions, and with both an open heart and an open mind. WHY is this so rare???. I shall dream of conversations with good folks like him.

I cannot be more grateful to this man for giving me this hour of his life ,sharing his knowledge and experience of what is most important above all in this life.

If only…there were more humans like Brooks…what a better world we would live in

Might be the best talk I have seen/heard on or off the internet. The world needs this so badly. I can't wait to dive into the book!

I’ve enjoyed David for years..now more than ever. Wonderful talk…sharing with several others! Thanks David!

This is a heartwarming, uplifting talk reminding us of the importance of seeing others in the “likeness of God”… we come from love and we are love…ALL of us. May we carry each other in this way towards a deeper understanding and reverence for all.❤