Finally a video with genuine advice and concern for us women who unfortunately grew up without a father figure instead of judging, criticizing, and blaming us. Edit: I rewatch videos because I'm learning and sometimes I go back to material I read before and always learn something new. Point 6 I didn't know. I didn't know that when a man is afraid or frustrated it comes out as frustration. From now on, I'm not going to respond differently.

Omg … this was a revolutionary video for me… i never realized some men were kind to me because they noticed I wasnt protected or mentally stable

@luckyduckydaisyflower2344

11 ай бұрын

This makes me sick. Just one hit after another.

Omg that is so cute how you say he’ll yell JELLY and want absolutely nothing! It’s kind of that inner little boy that wanted nurturing. I love it and cannot wait until my king and I come together! Women like you are prepping me to be the best I can. I love you sis!

@DeeTheSwagguy12

3 жыл бұрын

Good to see her having an impact !

Thank you so much for making this video. I couldn’t stop crying because of how relatable and genuine you are. Thank you for your transparency and I cannot tell you how much this motivated me.

@Similo

Жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭😭

Sometimes I feel like I’m the only one that keeps going back to this as the reason I’ve struggled my whole life. I’m 29 and I just can’t get past the issues I have as a girl who grew up fatherless. Seems to never go away. I don’t think ppl understand this and it makes me feel so alone

God, i can't explain how much valuable information you have shared,as a man that has live with a lady that grew up without a dad for more that a decade, you are right on point when it comes about everything, if ladies now days knew this we would have many more Happy relationships.

As a man I agree with this message

@philgayii6788

3 жыл бұрын

Straight Facts! 💯

Thanks for this video I never had any guidance or know what a healthy relationship looks like when I was was in high school didn’t have a dad my mom to busy to give advice so I just threw myself to the wolfs and made all the wrong choices learned through all my bad choices what I don’t want in a relationship I’m happy I’m smarter and more aware of what I should look for in a partner lay boundaries have high esteem have standards

Didn’t know how much I needed to hear this video. Thank you so much, I had a step father here physically & financially but not emotionally

I can see myself in EVERYTHING you said. thank you for making this video, sending lots of love sis

I cried the whole video but I was open minded and receptive to all your advice thank youuuu 💞

This is gold. My ex gf lose her father when she was young. She never takes any constructive criticism i tried to make her a improve in life. We ended going separate ways because i cant save her. If only i can show her this video.

@RichadGilgamesh

3 ай бұрын

I did too. With her for 5 years. Tried to be positive and supported her but it seems the problem will always be there and fossilised. Im not a hero. I left too

@krystalmilord7786

3 ай бұрын

As a girl who grew up fatherless, this comment and reply is so hard to read. I know we are so hard to love. It’s a shame

@zanejeffries8647

Ай бұрын

I'm going through this RYT now.. she just upp an left and I don't know y. Seeing this is explaining nearly everything only hope and pray she will take the time to try and understand how much this has affected our relationship

I’ve never felt more seen and heard, thank you so much for this!! ❤❤❤

AMEN TMGC, I so respect you for being an honest voice for our sisters. It's difficult for men to present the same message and not be considered a person who hates women. Most men want to work thru problems with their women. We tend to be direct because it cuts out any questions about "So you're trying to say" or "You mean...". Keep it coming.

I learned a lot from this video and am thankful that with each point you gave, you also provided us with some action we can put into practice as well! Thank you!

This is the best and most relatable video I have ever watched

Ma’m thank you! I have been trying to convey this to the young lady in my life but she seems to think im being selfish.

Thankyou I needed this !

100% me. This is so annoying. But I can work through it, I know it. Thanks for your work 🌞😊❤

Oh my goodness I missed out on so much not having a father around all these affects me.

Thank you for your video, it explains alot about myself. God Bless you.

wow great video! I feel like i have a way better understanding of things now. Gonna have to watch this video from time to time for a reminder, haha!

Yes, I agree. Let me add, in short, your parents in the home is the example of you and your future man in the home. You then are your kids now. Dating is playing with fire. i.e unexpected pregnancy, scars.

Thank you i needed that

This video could’ve saved my relationship or at least the toxic ness of it could’ve been redeemed. I have a father in my life but he’s not emotionally active or present. He has severe disdain towards me when I express emotions or say something more than once. I grew up feeling invalidated emotionally. I was in a relationship with my ex for 2.5 years that I considered a fatherly figure. He was reliable, trustworthy and made me feel secure. However he was emotionally and verbally abusive. I found it extremely difficult to combat being respectful and loving when I was constantly being berated or having my love language taken for granted. For instance: I cooked him breakfast one morning before work and he got upset about it because his mom did that and he hated his mom / her cooking. I remember feeling so hurt over it and he brushed it off but it stuck with me. Things like that kept building up and I started taking on masculine traits to combat my insecurities in myself (feeling abandoned, clingy, talkative, having an attitude) and I think it only built resentment in him towards me. He started to verbally express to me that he hated me / was peaceful without me / I was the worst person he’s ever met. He would tell me this so often that I believed him. Then he would say in the same sentence how he loved me / valued me in his life / was thankful that he met me. I was so mentally twisted and drained. When I tried to be loving, caring and in my feminine nature, he resented me. When I was masculine he would ignore and berate me (when we did speak) or I would get silent treatments. I still can’t help but think I could’ve did so much more to save the relationship. Had I not been too masculine, naggy, motherly, clingy, etc. he also said I disrespected him a lot but he would say that when I would call out his verbal abuse or his unacceptable behavior. Yet when he would call me out my name and verbally abuse me, he apparently had “respect” for me? What does actual respect look like? My dad and mom don’t have power struggles, he’s not around her almost ever for me to witness how a “woman respects a man”…but I knew that being berated wasn’t something I tolerated so I kept getting attitudes and reacting poorly, thus sabotaging our relationship. I feel like it’s because my father wounds would be triggered. Anyway, I wish I had of seen this video before my relationship ended. I’m not sure I could’ve forgiven the abuse but I could’ve fixed my aggression, reactions, tone and behaviors somewhat. Thanks so much for your insight.

Lmao you got me bugging out over here fr. Ain’t laugh like that in a minute. People looking at me funny cause I’m just busting out laughing. Your funny. The way you laugh is a trip. Lol ApprecIate the content though no lies. Stay gold.

Very true I agree

Very informative and helpful ❤

Well done!!!!

I appreciate you thank you 🙏

Great information. I told a woman once I can't get mad at you for not cooking. Cause you never seen your mother. Cook for man and I have to include myself. I can't get mad. I've never seen my mother cook for a man. So you keep doing what you are doing, your channel lady

Thanks

As a man who dated a girl who's father was in prison her whole life, I gotta say... You are spot on. I wish she would watch this. I had to break up with her because she was so disrespectful... Is there any way I can get through to her?

@AuntieCheri

2 жыл бұрын

What if you buy a coaching session from Sara Lena for your lady? She probably sells them from her website.

@BREAKOUT444

2 жыл бұрын

@@AuntieCheri She would laugh at me. She's not interested at all in change. She really thinks she's the sh*t.

@AuntieCheri

2 жыл бұрын

@@BREAKOUT444 replace that zero with a hero. Seriously what do you get out of the relationship?

@BREAKOUT444

2 жыл бұрын

@@AuntieCheri You're 100% right. It was my first relationship and I was just so desperate for connection that I convinced myself she was the person for me. I went all in. She also lied to make herself seem better than she was and I just didn't have any radar. I thought I could save her...

@erin6220

Жыл бұрын

My dads in prison too since I was 8 I’m 22 now.

This is great

How do you paint a picture of masculine men so well? Great video, Thanks!

Wow!

I had such friends. one many years, they couldn't respect me

My father was just there n did nothing then I dated men who did nothing

@SusanaXpeace2u

10 ай бұрын

Same, my father was there, sort of. He NEVER stood up for me when my mother shamed me for having a hurt reaction to the way she treated me. I dated men who also believed I didn't matter. My perspective was an act of aggression I perpetrated on my mother, my exes, I didn't allow myself my own perspective for years. I have a daughter with no father now. She is 20. I really hope she knows her worth better than I did.

If a man is frustrated and angry because he’s scared is not acceptable to me that would cross my boundaries

I'm not a lady I just love Sara 😂

@moderngoddess hi, sister. how do I contact you privately if I have a question to ask or a video request?

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What about the ladies who didnt grow up without a mother?

Wow, nobody’s mad in the comments lol good work

I think what you're doing is sharing your personal life and

What would an example of a man showing you that he’s a good fit

My dad wanted a son more than he wanted me

I don't agree with the distinction you give between constructive criticism & abuse, could you explain & expound on it more? There is a level beyond attempting to assist a woman to be her best self... When you're engaging in not only making her the best person, woman, mother but also & most importantly, tailor-making her to be the best wife for specifically YOU as a man/husband/ father. This can be interpreted as knit picking to those lacking understanding but more than likely it's him attempting to tighten things up at every opportunity. The more loose situations, the more tightening up is required. Otherwise, as a man, you run the risk of building on & investing in a shaky foundation.

Lmao you wrong for that why he gotta break stuff? Talking about knowing he don’t know nothing about it. That laugh too hahahahah just wrong hahahahahtoo funny

None of what you're saying is making it any sense you can come from a single parent home with a mother who has great pride and respecting herself it can raise great warrior of women who have respect himself dignity women who come from a home with no father do not necessarily want to run around and have sex with anyone a lot of them don't want to do it because they don't want to become single parents to end up like the environment that and a lot of what you're saying you're repeating it over and over with no substance

LOL

A FATHER NOT A FATHER FIGURE...

All this useful shit gotta stop. More so physical energy that need to be dispersed

What if you did not know your dad growing up, but as an adult you two meet and this chemistry happens and he wants to be involved with you sexually? How would you go about this??

@The.happening

8 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry and I’m not sure but that sounds so distorted.

If you were single, I'd ask you out. You're one hell of a smart, pretty woman. I admire that in a woman.