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@Sgcuma_Sembo

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika Thanks.

It really saddened me when you said African Americans don’t have language. We have several beautiful languages and dialects in our culture, such as Gullah Geechee, AAVE, Louisiana Creole, yukkish, black sign language, and tut. We also have several ethnicities. Too many people try to erase and invalidate our culture just for us to turn around and do the same. African culture is beautiful but It’s very important for us to learn about our culture on a deeper level and stay connected to our African-American roots because our culture is very deep and very rich.

@molefejappie3284

26 күн бұрын

@@4thecultureco African Americans are africans. So our languages in Africa is theirs too. The rhetoric that they dont have a language is false. When our forefather were stolen to America they talked african language that is been used in africa till now. Otherwise I will teach them Sepedi, Isindebele, Setswana and isiZulu.

@LJForst

25 күн бұрын

I think that a man and a woman that love each other should be together especially based on what they are connected for I think when we add statuses and finances international love is kind of impossible but togetherness works better in Africa❤

Homegirl found that Shango stick.

No matter where you go dating is dating. African men don't play also if you are a liability they won't take you seriously. Very simple. The problem with the world today is social media if you don't have a mind of your own you will be single forever.

This is one of the most conscious black woman I have listened to in years especially coming from the US where black women have been cloned with feminism. Her language is so balanced. It’s like poetry in motion. I am married and is so unhappy and for 20 years in a marriage where I have always ask for partnership. Then she speaks about conflict resolution. I feel like she was in my room on the wall hearing me speak. I will come to Africa this year. Will file for separation . Yes coming to Kenya to live. I already have an NGO in the country. This talk was a breadth of fresh air. Plus she is beautiful

THIS IS BEAUTIFUL FOR YOU TO COME OUT WITH THIS VIDEO. NEEDED FOR SURE. THANK YOU

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

I’m glad it was helpful ❤️

As an african who has dated and now married to an AA i can tell you people are different but va ice i hve noticed with Amercian/western women they lead with their wallets/ degrees or some worldly achievement. They seem to have adopted a materialistic approach to dealing with relationships. I generally find no real content of character. I am sympathetic though the world they are coming from is the material world in which what you see is everything BUT many "westernized" african / asian people are also being influenced.

@nusuralove4407

23 күн бұрын

Very Well Stated! Sad but true …

Ashley Im sorry but MANY of us are VERY confident. Sad/Sorry you feel that way.

Amazing video thank you so much Ashley ❤❤❤

I disagree about the confidence. In African countries the sale of bleaching creams is enormous as opposed to the US. I really don't agree with that as a good many of them come to the US. I do believe African Americans have more in common with South Africans.

@tlamelokgosimore617

Ай бұрын

As a SAns I agree, we hv a lot in common with AA ! I love our fellow African sister and really love their skin tone. We are also shocked at the amount of African women who bleach their skin. In SA we hv a few celebrities & influencers who hv recently joined that unnecessary trend. African women are really beautiful with their melanin. I don't know why they wanna change themselves!

@mokhaneliwilliammarumo734

Ай бұрын

What? I don’t know any self respecting black man in South Africa with bleaching history

@muchit3629

Ай бұрын

@@mokhaneliwilliammarumo734 My first observation of that was in Luanda, Angola and my friend told me it was mostly some Congolese men who did that. Now more of our African sisters are doing it which is rather sad but I do not know of a single African man in my cirle who does that.

My sister, this is a very interesting video but I'd say that in South Africa we value FAMILY and children, not just motherhood. My view is South Africa is starting to adopt the western lifestyle where women do not value family and children (particularly in the black middle class). I like the fact that your videos are always positive but I think you should give a balanced view for people who're actually considering visiting. 🙂

Conflict resolution in relationships was the key for me. Unfortunately, I didn't learn that until I got to Africa. If I had that skill, I would have been so happily married years before my arrival. As always, Ashley; great content! I'm loving your journey.

Oh Ashley 🤍☺️ YESSS! I’m all for that.

My favorite video you’ve done.

Hy Ash,,,,,Is he South African?

Eat Pray Love is possible on the Continent of Africa but ladies becareful and very important know WHO YOU ARE, and what you desire and need and go for that.❤

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

THIS 👉🏽 "know WHO YOU ARE"

Awesome. Your views gives me the idea that you are the type of a lady I could sit down with and have long chat about relationship. Someone neutral and not attached just so I can offload things that are so hard to talk about. My childhood traumas have literally disabled me on relationships. Being a Cleft-lip and Palate baby I had to go through so much at an early age. I've almost given up on ever getting into a meaningful relationship and with so many having failed. You got me on the point when you said there come a time when one needs to work on personal balances and do self introspection.

I'm so happy you've found love on the continent. I too have found my life's love in East Africa. And you're right, that doesn't get broadcasted on these KZread streets. There are amazing, hardworking even trustworthy people in Africa that you would never know about looking at social media. I was born the 4th of July in Chicago but far less patriotic than you, but I love your bold move to reside on the continent as well and do it with such grace. You are amazing. Thank you for what you do.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Happy Birthday Darrell! Thank you so much for sharing your positive experience.

Your face is saying it all. I am so happy for you.

Its snowing in Eastern Cape now. I think you did yourself a favor.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Love it ☀️

@Andtherewaslight427

Ай бұрын

It's freezing and raining in the Cape.😢

WOW !!! Exceptional

Thank you for your positive perspective on dating. "Good men are there"

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

My pleasure!

...and so, lil sister, living in abundance includes every aspect of life. I have so enjoyed our conversations over wine and dinner about this and so many pertinent topics. They have been encouraging for me while living on the continent. You already know how much I love you and the girls❤❤❤. Keep inspiring us with your beautiful life of abundance and LOVE🙏🏾😊

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Big Brother, we are equally grateful for you.❤️❤️❤️

Dumela sisi. Is it just me or the title might be a bit misleading? Bit of a click bait!? Or was I probably just too expectant on hearing about actually dating in SA, since the title itself is rather very particular... Anyways, all the best!!

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

I appreciate your comment. Personally, I feel comfortable giving give a little here and a little there before I just pop out with allll my business. I'm sharing my journey while also sharing tips on how other singles might want to approach dating after being through similar situations. Sorry you weren't able to get value from this one.

Thank you for such an sducative video. I call you a liones of africa for a reason. You are beautiful, kind, open minded, educated, loveble and the rest is infinitive.

Good luck and wishing you all the best

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏🏾

@raydanielz9408

Ай бұрын

Do you have an African name yet? You should be having one by now to welcome you to the mother land❤💚💛🧡

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

@@raydanielz9408 I have been given a few ❤

@raydanielz9408

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika that's how it's done. Blessings to you and your family 🎉😊🙏🏼❤️

@AshleyinAfrica…. Are your daughters getting quality time with their father while you are looking for love in South Africa? I can only guess that you having two kids makes it a bit more challenging for you in dating and finding true love for marriage than it would for a female who doesn’t already have kids.

Ashley, I thought you were with someone?

As a single female from US I can tell you no matter what country you live in on the Continent of Africa only date someone who is has your same status financially or better, and that's even if they are Diasporan or Continental African. Also be sure you learn about there culture(tribe, beliefs, morals) really take your time and vet them, and if possible hire Private Investigator to check them out, but you must also research for yourself and definitely pay attention to "red flags" and address them immediately if it's something that really concerns you, but if possible when you see the "red flags" make note and keep vetting ang watching before you bring it up to the person so they can't just explain it away and then pretend to change that behavior! Speaking from my own experiences...trying to keep someone from having horrible experience over here that's all

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Alright now Josie. I agree with the financial and social status indefinitely. I also agree on taking your time and doing your research. Discernment is also a huge factor here that would replace a private investigator for me but I appreciate your vulnerability. Thanks for sharing.

@JosieThirtyEight

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika Aww thanks and yes Discernment too!

@walterlebzax9585

Ай бұрын

I agree that you should check his social media accounts, look up his name online, and consider his income, but it seems excessive to go to all the trouble of hiring private investigators for a man with a 🖊️ is; that's called paranoia.

@JosieThirtyEight

Ай бұрын

@@walterlebzax9585 hey you call it what you want too, I'm doing what I need to for me! Thank you and have a blessed day & life!

@D_Edia

Ай бұрын

Spot on

Ashley you are quite intoxicating. Hope you had a great birthday mine was last weekend. Thanks for great content and eye candy.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Happy birthday!

@gj0628

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika thank you

African-Americans have confidence in their culture and abroad, but probably not as much in specific countries like Tanzania or whatever because Tanzanians are going to be more confident in their home but when you remove them from that environment, their confidence level is at ground Zero. So always keep this into contacts. I always hear people trying to lower who we are as African-Americans when it comes to other cultures in Africa. They are no better than us. They are no more matured than us only we are mature in different ways.

@hassshoban8206

Ай бұрын

Bro don't underestimate Tanzanians we can adapt anywhere in the world. I lived in the UK without having a single member of my relatives. Never homeless, went to their college and passed. 😊

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

No one said anyone was better than the other. This is not a competition-I’m sharing my experience.

@kevinperkins754

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika yeah but your opinion really seems biased, just saying.

@kevinperkins754

Ай бұрын

@@hassshoban8206 Ive met many Africans and seen them in countries besides the one they were from and they are not the same as they are in the home country

@hassshoban8206

Ай бұрын

@@kevinperkins754 Many Africans abroad don't have proper papers so they don't want to be involve with trouble that can result in deportation. Many of them have dependents back and in Africa there is no welfare system. To Get justice abroad is rare. African embassies don't have budget for supporting their citizens abroad.

I am so happy for you sis. Blessings

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much

Hello Ashley and thank you for sharing valuable information for single people 😊

You deserve an amazing love life… May you be blessed with much joy and love🫶🏾

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you 🥰

Ashley please ❤😂

Woooou l m tooooo happy for you God bless you 🙏 ❤❤❤

Good woman and good men always struggle in relationship matters....I will consider myself lucky to have a spiritually free human being like you.

Awesome, I'm so happy for you.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you so much. Me too ☺️

Blessings

I am happy that you found love in my beautiful country (SA)sister Queen and as a brother to another sister I wish you all the best in your love endeavour.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you

Couple must live as husband and wife to stay strong. Its a divine creation and process that enforces and creates healthy marital foundations. Divorces come mainly from not properly living as husband and wife. So, live as husband and wife daily, and mightily, as these are sacraments for marriage created by God.

It is simple to discover a romantic partnership regardless of your location. There are consistently individuals whom you can engage in a relationship with, whether they are in your vicinity or at a distance. It is challenging due to the fact that many individuals seek an idealized persona that does not align with reality. Collaborating with someone and creating a lasting connection that fosters profound intimacy can be a rewarding endeavor. The issue lies not in the scarcity, but in the excessive availability of potential partners. Regardless of your social status and cultural background, there will always be someone suitable for you. They will offer love, companionship, support, passion, and excitement, ultimately fulfilling your romantic needs.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Well said

*My experience is simple, I always be myself in business & relationships, it eliminates thinking about a lot of unimportant things!* You encounter a lot of issues if you don't know who you are & what you want, then start pretending to be someone else. *Sometimes in a relationship you may lose yourself and need to work to find yourself again, which sounds like your issue.*

Wow People are Complicated. We Wil never Fully Understand just Wish you find inner peace for me that Works Be Well

speak for yourself black people are not a monolith that all think and act the same way i grew up in a black family with a black mom and black dad that were married for over 40 years in the suburbs remember your experiences are only your experiences you are not the spokesperson for all black people in america ignorance is not bliss

Black America they have language love and they have strong culture even white south african they have culture too my love 💓

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Okay, sure thing

Culture is a mean for survival though. As an African man, I find African American guys have confidence relative to their environment. What's lacking more and more is family structure, of course this is by design, but put in the right circumstances diasporan guys rock better. I think there is a lot to do on our young men on the continent, but also it's not monolithic at all

The depth of intimacy is letting someone into the hidden parts of Yourself that You are even scare of going into.. it's scary and risky, but That's the height of intimacy i've experienced

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Well said

I see most women especially black American women are dating older well grounded established men.My sisters and cousins are dating older men between 55+. They're educated career women &self employed between the ages of 45-70. I'm married to my sugar hubby for 23 years and truly blessed to have a partner that keeps us growing together on our daily journey.Marriage is for the strong mined and people with faith.

CONGRATULATIONS ASHLEY 🌹🌹🌹I WOULD OF LOVE TO BE THAT LUCKY MAN TO HAVE A TRUE AFRICAN WEDDING ⁉️ THE WISDOM I WOULD LEAVE IS MAN or WOMEN FROM THE DIASPORA TO LAND ON THE AFRICAN CONTINENT TO BE SURROUNDED IN SPIRIT WITH LIKE MINDED PEOPLE JUST LIKE YOURSELF IS HALF THE WIN 💯

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you and well said

I have to say Ashley I am disappointed in your comment about ‘Americans’ have a diluted culture comment. I assume you are speaking of black/african Americans diluted culture. Our culture isn’t diluted our culture is American developed by us in the USA under harsh conditions. Best of luck to you and your girls

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Being disappointed is okay. But I stand by it because what we've created isn't sustaining us mentally, physically, financially, or spiritually. We're doing the worst and spending the most. I not only took part in our culture, I pushed products and corporate interests in the name of "Black Culture," and won awards for it. We don't realize what we don't have until we've experience what we were pulled away from. Best of luck to you too, Regina.

@winstynglyn6893

Ай бұрын

I get where she’s coming from you are taking it too personally

@markparham

26 күн бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika speak for yourself black people are not a monolith that all think and act the same way i grew up in a black family with a black mom and black dad that were married for over 40 years in the suburbs remember your experiences are only your experiences you are not the spokesperson for all black people in america ignorance is not bliss

@markparham

26 күн бұрын

@@winstynglyn6893 she sounds insane

@winstynglyn6893

26 күн бұрын

@@markparhamI’m not going to knock her because she said that this is only her own opinion. I know that you said that black people are not monolithic which you are right but we should give each other a voice whether we agree with the person or not that’s all I’m saying.

Anyone can date anywhere in the world as long as they're open-minded, humble and willingness to adapt, you're good to go

Are you dating at the moment Ashley.

Ashley great video fruitful discussion, i wish you all the best at finding the right man that will look after you and your Daughters treat them as his own hope you find that one of a kind man, I'm a Single Man with no Kids yet and I'm looking for that one of a kind Woman, i wish it's a woman that will Support me in what I'm doing and Love me for just who i am and not what i have Physically and not to be a Gold Digger like literally the Mountain Farm i will buy have the Jerusalem Temple Treasures of Gold and all the Gold, Silver and Diamonds of Ancient Kingdom of Yashar'Al/Israel is hidden in 2 Large Caves at the Mountain Farm in South Africa according to the Copper Scroll Map and Descriptions, Southern Africa is the real biblical Yashar'Al/Israel Holy Land

I have no money and i willing to meet a Woman who has nothing to,so we can start fresh together ❤

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❤🎉💯

Hi Sis, sorry to ask but if I may ask, what happened to the fathers of your daughters?

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Why are you sorry to ask?

Please stop using terms we. Try words like me and I instead of lumping people together. This is a kinda of scary word salad. No, this not resonating.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Cool Kenneth. This one wasn’t for you then.

@markparham

26 күн бұрын

exactly she is talking like she is the spokesperson for black americans

I just heard that two Americans lost their lives in a car accident in Dullsroom, Mpumalanga. They were driving a white Bakkie…I hope you and your friends are safe.

Aish my crush she's already dating someone😢

Can i be your date❤

@walterlebzax9585

Ай бұрын

No, eff off

Dating Africans in Africa is definitely a beautiful thing. In my experience, the cultural issues weren't too extreme. However, I would ensure finances are pretty equal for both individuals before getting involved.

@AshleyinAfrika

Ай бұрын

Thank you Anton. I watched your video, and was definitely inspired by your transparency. Finances are very important and getting clear on your expectations and needs can feel uncomfortable, but it's a necessary conversation for long term success.

@AntonsClass

Ай бұрын

@@AshleyinAfrika thank you for watching! And I absolutely agree 💯 I appreciate you!

@ntshiila

Ай бұрын

I am sole provider for my family, and I am highly proud and happy to be able to provide for my family. Culturally, a husband is a provider. Male and female are different, and our differences bring that compatibility; equality is a foreign subject in my culture.

@AntonsClass

Ай бұрын

@@ntshiila that's great. That's why it's viral to discuss cultural differences before getting too deep. Everyone's culture certainly factors into the equation.

@Summertm

19 күн бұрын

"Marriage" and "Roommates" are two different relationships. Roommates would typically live together to Save on bills 50/50. But in a marriage, men and women have different roles and responsibilities in order to raise a successful and well mannered family. The best place to go for direction on this topic is the Bible.

When you come back to South Africa am I going to see you in real life

@mastiffcheetahmode21-qr9wk

Ай бұрын

I love your channel babe

Is he from South Africa or Tanzania

@denzel1877

Ай бұрын

ZAR

@blessingmabasa9996

Ай бұрын

Ashley did say in a previous video that she would never date a Tanzanian.

@winstynglyn6893

Ай бұрын

Hi Ashley, I find you to be a highly intelligent woman with high morals who is living their best life with purpose. I can genuinely say that I like your persona and may God bless you your new partner and children 😊