Before going on a first date i always tell myself "i hope i like him" and that calms my anxiety and gives me perspective.

@paigeheartly8936

4 жыл бұрын

Smart cookie

"you can print your own self-esteem at home" Shallon I love you

This is your best video ever! I mean, it's really the truth that will set you free: a man won't make your life complete. Never! Chase your dreams. Don't chase men.

Shallon, EVERY GIRL should watch this on a daily basis and share it with every other girl she knows!!

This video has healed so many wounds I've had in my heart for years... I was suicidal but listening to Shallon was such an experience it was like she knew my entire life. It was like you knew my whole story, you spoke to my shadow self today!

shallon you been through a similar thought process as me. when I broke up with my first love/bf (and last) I realized I never asked myself while I was with him "is this working for me? is he giving me what I need?". instead, I focused on his needs only and I loved him blindly. if I didn't do that I could have saved myself a big heart break in the end maybe. or be more secure in the relationship. but hey it taught me a lot of things. I came to realization that my happiness depended only on him. if he was being nice to me that day, I was happy; if he was grumpy I was sad. and that was pathetic... after the break up I decided to find non-guy stuff that brings me and my life happiness. I haven't figured it out 100 % but I feel so much better than I ever did for my entire life ^^

@Sabinaaaish

5 жыл бұрын

me me exactly how I felt! I’m trying to figure out how to make myself happy without a guy as well :)

You're OLD??? You wanna see old?? LMAO! Sweet girl, old is when your joints hurt and creek, when your neck cracks during sex, when walking to the mailbox makes your hips go into spasm. That being said, I'm actually pretty high functioning. lololol

Most underrated dating advice channel.

I seriously love you Shallon I have been binge watching all your videos and have been reflecting so much on my past relationships, I feel like I’m figuring out all my baggage

@StephyWephie

5 жыл бұрын

M Muss awh thank you for such a kind comment! Made my day

Making someone laugh and cry in the same video is a true talent! Love this

Oh my God. The best video ever. As if I was talking to myself but finally someone verbalized everything I couldn’t express.

Girlllllll, the question of “do you I like him”? Took me off it’s true, sometimes we settle and try to impress the guy when it should go both ways.

Honestly, best advise every woman needs to hear. Focus on yourself, accomplish your goals, rather than wasting all your time and attention on some guy. Great job Shallon!

“I have the attention of myself, and that’s what counts” and that’s why i’ve been binge watching your videos Shallon ❤️

You’re an inspiration, you tell it straight. Thank you x

Ugh you’re soooo relatable. I love how you share your own stories pertaining to the topic. Most people come off wayyy too preachy but I actually feel like you’re the best girlfriend I’ve ever had 😭😅

My friends say I give such good advice and I’m literally just telling them stuff from your videos! I loooove you!!!

Thank you! This is such a good insight on the dating dynamic. You are awesome!

You’re incredible! Thank you for putting yourself out there xx

OMG, I really needed to hear this! Thank you so much!

This was a brilliant video. Can totally relate! Real gems in here.

You're amazing, Shallon. I can't tell you how much I enjoy your channel and how much you have helped me. Endless love and thanks, girl!

Needed to hear this today. Thank you!

I really appreciate your videos! They are so fun/insightful.

Love the new thumbnail pics 💓

thank you for talking about this!! much love

Girl, you are speaking to my soul right now 🙌🏽

Wow. Your analysis is mind blowing !

You’ve opened my eyes to so many things. Thank you so much

Of all your videos I keep coming back to this one. There’s some really great advice here!

Although I gave up on dating, I LOVE watching ur videos

Thank you Shallon. Your videos are so insightful.

Sis..Preach!!! Girlllll your videos👌Thnx for sharing

You have great advice! I love your introspection

Bravo! Your most authentic video yet. I felt completely connected.

Thanks for the pep talk! You're so right! And hahahahahaha on the tips. ☺

Such a powerful video ! Love your content Shallon

Girl, your videos are spot on. You are an awesome communicator and your videos are empowering, genuine and really make you think. I wanna watch all of your videos and learn as much as I can 😄 I gotta say, thank you for making them and please, please continue doing it! 👸

non related: you hair looks like gold shining goodness!! so beautiful 😍

Thank you for the honesty regarding the disappointment at not having a man at points in your life, the pressure to marry & how one needs to stay in touch with present feelings.

Thank you so much! This was empowering!

Fantastic point of view. Go ahead, girl. I love your job 😘

This is the best advice ever! Thanks a lot ❤️

You are like the wise older sister we wish we all had! You are the best!❤

this is so powerful!! i just got out of a relationship where i actually did not like the guy.. i definitely liked the possibilities. thank you so much for this!

I love your videos Shallon! I've just discovered you and now I'm watching them all :-) Really need to stop and get some study done! LOL

OMG this is the articulate way of how I've been feeling in my life.

I feel so empowered from you Shallon!

The eye contact works really well. Been doing it for awhile and always get compliments 😍

YES SHALLON. Another dope video. Thank you for helping all these women out hereeeee. Deep stuff for legit results. And the challenge you gave us should be a shallenge;) love this & you!!

Shallon, you're so awesome. How have I not found you before. I love this so much!

For real. The very best video on the internet.

First off thank you for existing you have changed my entire life.. I know you have a podcast but they need to give you your own show so more people can hear your voice and see you. I'm a huge follower and have every female I'm related or fiends with to subscribe. We all agree your like the female young pretty version of dr. Phil we can understand better. Youu truly are a diamond in the rough Shallon. I know I'm a nobody and don't matter but you do thank you for helping countless others including me.

Awesome video Shallon! Loved it 😊

You're on another level, woman! Love you!

Thank you for this 💜

You’re so wonderful!! You’re so right!💯💥🔥🎉

Props for this video! Young women today who view your channel are lucky to have insight to your thoughts and experiences!!!

Girl!!! Your videos are eye opening you know so much and you are genuine, I am ready to raise my standards by following your advice's, thank you so much and never forget you are gorgeous!!!

Yesssss girl!!!! Preach it!!!! Thank you!!!

I.loved.THIS. And I NEEDED to hear this. I am just getting over this guy I went on a date with that left me very confused. It ALL makes so much sense now! I wasn't confused about him, I was confused because I did not ask myself this very important question! Because I wanted a relationship and I liked the possibility that he could be it, but now I understand that I did not want him... THANK YOU!!!!

Looking back on this video, it really helped make me a Shalloner.

This is amazing advice. This is something that everyone should hear, early in life. I've seen a ton of your videos, and to be honest, I don't 100% agree with your take on everything, but this is literally the reason I started subscribing just now.

I know that you are having this channel to advance in your career but seriously you have been making me change my life. I see now what was missing in my approach towards guys, work, ... I don't know what you really want for your life, but hope you achieve even better and something higher. Thanks!

Great message Shallon!!!... thanks for uplifting women everywhere who r in that frame of mind including me...i jus wanna live with no regrets but I keep letting fear hold me back. I'm a new Shallonator btw....love yah!

This video helped me so much 💕

This advice is amazing and it goes way deeper than what you'd expect from the title of the video. It's like anticlickbait. I noticed this in many of Shallon's videos. She gets a lot of hate about some manipulation tactics in some videos but really you are free to filter the information and keep what is useful and healthy for you. I found a lot of great advice on this channel so thank you so much!

Oh my gosh Thank you so much for this video! !!!!!!!!!!

Words of wisdom so true!

Thank you à lot for sharing your expériences !! :). I learnt a lot from your past expériences.i like your honest and fun personality.

Thank you Shallon!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

If we talk about surface stuff we get a surface solutions. Love it!

You were still standing. When you werent on your knees. You go girlie

Girl you are so funny and beautiful, thankyou for this!!

I don't know how I just stumbled across your videos but i 💗you. Ive been binge watching your videos and you are hilarious but on this one. realized how similar we are. I have experienced most of what you shared about yourself in this video and I've really come to a place of self-awareness (and date I say love) and what you said at the end of your video is everything. You said, "I don't need attention from him, I've got the attention of myself". I applaud you Shallon 👏 for real. That's exactly where I'm at too. Bravo. And you are so gorgeous don't tell yourself anything different. Looking forward to more of your videos.

Amen shallon! We are the prize! Subscribed!

I LOVE HER SO MUCH, SO BAS. SHE IS THE ONLY ONE I LISTEN TO ABOUT RELATIONSHIP. all my frnds are dumb. but she's experienced smart

Love your videos girl!!! I’m going to needn’t my man to ask genuine questions AND order the champagne. We’re worth it ladies♥️

I noticed that the best way to act after a date is to not initiate contact, no matter what. If he sends you messages and pictures or stuff like that, reply in a nice way, but short and sweet, and do not offer to go out (“btw would you like to...”) and don’t initiate contact! Don’t send him a photo of a scenery if you’re going for a walk, a link to a song that reminds you of something funny, nothing. Let him start the interaction after the date, and then you should reply but NOT to ask him out. If he keeps texting without proposing a date, you know he doesn’t want to make space in his schedule for you. Therefore you let him do his thing and you do yours. Men play roles, nobody is so fantastic and amazing as what they appear to be like on a date, we all send our “representative”. Nobody has THAT kind of chemistry. As for acceping things out of fear, ironically that’s the worst one can do in life. And ironically again, when you turn your back to someone they’ll value you more. Cheers ladies ✨🦋 keep dancing in the moonlight

I can relate so much. Especially the fear, fear based decisions and divorce with loss. After my divorce, I no longer fear the things that I once feared. I now ask myself if I like the guy. I wish I could say I can't relate but I can relate all too well to everything that you're saying. I don't enjoy Christmas anymore because it reminds me of when I was in my marriage and I have been divorced for many years now. I thought marriage was gonna save me too. After my marriage ended, I dated a lot too. Now I know and get exactly what I want in dating.

Shallon I love you, thanks for everything! You're a goddess❤

Wow. Your video just opened my eyes to how i act. Amazing

Your videos are so good.And true. its not just dating than can be toxic .my stepfather and his daughters too.And I was cinderally at home.Raised in fear of their power over me and my mother who had a stroke.And I had to take care of her for 27 years alone.When the rest of the family ran away.When I was 14 years old-41 years old.You are so right to be true to oneself.Its terrible to not say to them what and how I feel about it.When I do they scream and threaten me.And I married an idiot at age 18 years to get a life I thought,,But now I never better.

Love you!! Soooo true than you said

I watched a couple of your videos and I was feeling a little prickly about the feminist thing bc I couldn’t tell if you were saying you didn’t want equality or what that was about but I just realized it doesn’t matter. I still like what you have to say (and I misunderstood you) and I need to hear what you have to say. This is so useful. You’re like an older wiser sister. Tho, I’m older too lol much love girl 💕

That was POWERFUL ♥️ greetings from a brazilian fan

really interested in this video about your separation with your ex husband. i love your insight and your perspective, TEACH US. thanks Shallon xo

It makes a lot of sense!!!

I love you and your videos. It helps me a lot. You’re so much better than my therapist lol 😂

"A good majority of my life has been spent upset because I didn't have a boyfriend or cause I felt fat". IF THAT AIN'T THE STORY OF MY LIFE THEN I DON"T KNOW WHAT IS (in reverse order).

I remember all my friends got married, had kids, and settled down. I wanted more for myself, travel, and go to college. Most of my friends got divorced because they hooked up too young. I always heard people say to me, get married and if it doesn't work out.. you can always get a divorce. I was too scared to get married to someone.. and get stuck in it for life.. that's a lot to handle so I never got married. I am happy and I don't regret it. So I also think it's important to ask yourselves.. can you see yourself living with this person for the rest of your life.. under one roof? Can you see yourself waking up and sleeping in the same bed? Alpina Chilton

I love ur attitude

Top notch, baby!❤

Shallon, thank u. I've never had a problem with dates, but I do have it in school, you now to achieve something in the professional world. When u said that nothing changed when you had a husband, I understood that nothing will change if I get a degree. It doesn't have to be the center of my life. Also, I didn't know I had to pay to ask you something 😂😂😂😂

Damn I really needed to hear this today

Haha you go gurl I like your vids...women need more women like yourself being honest and not pushing women for a man

Shallon knows what she's talking about! Everybody listen to her.

Omg Shallon, your video is so powerful and soooooooo ‘accurately hurt’ in a good way for me. Just broke up with a guy who I already saw many red flags from early stage and felt that he probably not the one for me. But I just afraid of bringing it up and leaving him....🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ eventually he wanted to break up. Unbelievable that I could do something like that for so long. (Btw He’s that kind of ‘good fuckboy’ as you said who is good to his family, care about works, good salary, hang out with friends etc, but just didn’t care about me that much)

this is the best video on the internet

I Love you ❤🌹 i adore you Thank you dear Shallon 😙