DATING A NARCISSIST
There are so many of us out there that are going through, have gone through, or will go through a relationship similar to this. It's important that we put ourselves first and stand up for ourselves. At the end of the day, they don't care about you or your feelings. The world revolves around them and all that matters is what you can do for them. Don't let them try to gaslight you or tell you you're being "too sensitive". The issue is not you its them and you know that. Just stand up and be confident. You'll get much more respect for that in the long run, and you'll be happier. Hope y'all enjoyed! Like and sub for more as always!!!
#dating #girl #relationship
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bro instantly cut from a skit to the realest advice ever
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Oh stop :)
@NewDocHolliday
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ It was real but I never seen you out of character LOL. Keep up the good work though fr
@TruckGang316
Ай бұрын
Fr bro, that was sick!
@GenerationalGaming
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ no but seriously. we always needed more dating literacy, especially now.
Let's all be there for Joe, He's a Teacher, dad, son, principal, athlete, in a toxic relationships, in college, parties a lot. He's always busy and still has time to give us advice and to upload his life. 🙏😆
@Spencer_Strider_biggest_fan
Ай бұрын
Im surprised Mrs.Johnson gives him time to have a KZread channel
@Movietown12
Ай бұрын
He’s the next johny sins
@Ur_LocalNeighbour15
10 күн бұрын
@Movietown12 Naaaahhhh he's not Johnny Sins, Johnny Sins is a no no
This is the first time I saw him break character thanks for looking out for me man :,)
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Got you!
I was totally waiting for his girl to interrupt his real talk at the end and for him to fall all over himself trying to please her.
joe is really goated at this forreal
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Thank you!!
@25civic
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ first time hearing you fr. you should do this more
Joe being real that was cool to see. I was hoping he would hit us with the laugh at the end just for shits 😂
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Next time haha
@majorzally24
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ yessir😂
The end was real life advice that my dad gives to me so I'm glad you are telling the other guys who don't have dads that care.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Always!!
I just recently got out of a relationship literally just like this one. I always found myself feeling anxious around her and she told me I was didn't love her the way she deserved or I didn't love her like she loved me even though I did literally everything I could. I found myself always apologizing to her and always dropping whatever I was doing whenever she called/texted even though when I texted/called her she didn't always answer right away but she would get upset at me if I didn't answer right away. She also did the EXACT thing when Joe was talking about the "Oh that guy's hot you should dress like him." She compared me a lot especially to her ex. The thing that makes this worse, is that it was my first ever relationship that I've been in so now I have a tainted idea of what it's like and I'm trying to work through that. I'm really lucky to have the parents I do because they've helped me so much these past 3 months and they were the ones who actually brought up some of my ex's behaviors. It was really really awful and I am really glad I'm out even though I do find myself missing her at times I just have to remind myself that, like Joe said, there are other fish in the sea and I will find the right one for me. But just know, if you are in a relationship like this, it really REALLY isn't good for you in any way at all but especially your mental health. I'm am so so so much happier now that I'm out of that relationship. Thank you for making this Joe and bringing awareness to stuff like this. Awesome video
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Glad you got out of that and moved on! So many don’t, and it’s really sad not gonna lie! Thanks for the support
@joser_1295
Ай бұрын
Yes, you will feel very anxious around narcissistic people.
@cosmicboi1650
Ай бұрын
I felt like that when I broke up with my ex. Believe me, I understand what you've been through and I can relate to it so much. I'm glad you got out, you've been freed from torture and pain
@youngdaddykatt
Ай бұрын
Give it a few more relationships young man you will turn into future and not give a fuck about these hoes
Bro legit needed this. My ex is a narccist and when i was watching your video i feel like i watched my entire relationship happen before my eyes except for basketball its disc golf. Id ask for just an hiur to regroup after work but she would want to twll me all about why i dint make her happy. I spent every last dime on that women. Went from a very successful business owner to just a small business owner because i allowed my focus to scew. Its not worth it. Im in a weird boat because we had a beautiful baby girl together abiut 2 years into our relationship. Its been a lot. I know my little girl is my silver lining. That relationship turned me into a very cynical person but when i see lonis face none of it even matter anyway.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Wish the best for you!
@NoRuesThe420
Ай бұрын
@joerauth_ thanks man
@NoRuesThe420
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ thanks brotato chip
@LittleOoozie
Ай бұрын
narccist 🔥🔥
Legit a banger video! I recommend the idea of Professors on the first day longer
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Great suggestion!
been looking at girls around me as relationships partners and have no clue what to look for, forgot i was looking for stuff to avoid as well. as a 15 year old that was like huge. thanks man
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Look out for you! You’re number 1
you should do "when you spend the night at your grandparents house" and great advice at the end
@ibrahimdalupang
Ай бұрын
What's gonna be the great advice?? Always eat the cookies?? Eat everything ur Gramma give you?
@legendd2254
Ай бұрын
@@ibrahimdalupang i was talking about the advice given in this video tf 😭
@thatguy0344
Ай бұрын
@@legendd2254😭😭😭
@gsaucegaming6635
Ай бұрын
@@legendd2254it wasn’t clear bro
Joe cuts character to give the best advice I think I’ve ever gotten from a skit second to none.
Your best video yet. This is the stuff people need to be aware of, and you’re relatable for a reason. You understand how people are, thanks for speaking on something important.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
It’s a very serious issue a lot of us deal with! Thanks for the support
@deeegeeekay
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ We gotta start promoting complacency, being happy with what you have. It’s okay to have needs and even some wants, but wanting more than you have is never good if you already have what you need. Leads to a cycle and a goose chase for happiness
Dude this was funny af cause it hit deep with me. I was stuck in a relationship like this a few years ago. SOOOO glad that I got out of there cause it was getting real bad. Thanks for bringing awareness to this bro, you're the goat.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Had to man! Thank you
Joe, that message at the end was awesome. Cool seeing you offering some real talk 🙏 Big fan of your work and the content. Keep going bro!
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
I appreciate that!
i love the message at the end brother, thank u
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Most definitely
Breaking up with the narcissist I was with was one of the best decisions I ever made
@dude480peace
Ай бұрын
Great 4 u
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Go you
As someone that has gone through this, I appreciate you shining a light on the issue in an informative, yet an entertaining way!
@seanm7539
27 күн бұрын
Yeah man, I’ve been in the same boat couple of times. It is not good when you feel like it’s time to get out it’s time to go.😊
Love your stuff! Keep up the awesome content man!
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Thanks! Will do!
You're content is great and you're super underrated, I saw that someone said Dad's and that'd be lowk hype
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Yeah that’s a great idea! Thanks
From someone who was in a toxic relationship just like this through high school and most of college I felt this hard.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
You and many others
Joe coming out here like the father figure that I never had. Giving me the dad advice that I always needed in life. Thank you brother.
Just got out of this exact situation in November. Shit was WILD, and this video was really refreshing to see. Thanks for the PSA at the end too, you're a legend.
Thank you Joe! This is important and more people need to tall about this 👏🏾💙
Making people laugh and giving one of the best advice there are out there. This channel is just amazing.
Hi there, clinical narcissist here. Watch your videos a lot, good work man! I use these people as motivation to be the best dang boyfriend I can be and try to constantly work on myself. Keep on doing the lord’s work.
@joey6451
Ай бұрын
i dont believe a word your saying. narcissests are all liars. i call bs.
@joey6451
Ай бұрын
i call bs
@joey6451
Ай бұрын
bullshit
@Maxcraft-tc8cz
Ай бұрын
@@joey6451 you don’t have to believe me, but we do exist. We try to change tho, at least I do.
@thefaultinourstars8729
Ай бұрын
@@Maxcraft-tc8czI believe you
realest vid joe has EVER made. that part at the end hits different i appreciate this fr.
Just earned a subscriber. Recently got out of a relationship, and she was just like this. I related to every clip to a scary degree. Good to know I'm not alone in having experienced this. And thank you for stopping and pointing what you did out because now I feel even more solidified in my decision to leave her and felt like I did do the right thing.
Bro on the short that said "We're gonna need a full video" got his wish 😂
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
LOL
Bro is definitely speaking from experience
This is the video that I needed for a wake up call and made me realize what was truly going on. Left a relationship that was like this very recently and it would have taken longer, or not at all if it wasn't for you or the Lord. Thank you from the bottom of my heart man, bless up.
Damn dude😞. I pray no one ever has to go through this shit. Or if they're in it. I pray that they get through it.
There are so many people I know that can relate to the things you portrayed. My day always gets better when I see your videos - hope everything in your life is going well! Sincerely, a freshman in college
I’m not a dude but I got out of a relationship with a narcissist about 3 years ago and it was the most grueling experience. Sorry you ever had to experience this ❤
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Good for you!!!
@jilliangonzales1446
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ Yes sir!!! It’s not easy surviving a narcissist, but we always come out on top!! I’m proud of you!!
Thank you sir for posting this type of video! I believe people who watch your channel may be in a relationship like this but I hope your video reaches out to those who needed to watch this and get out of that relationship
You're out here making people laugh and also giving real advice to people going through something bad, thank you man, bravo.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Means a lot !!!
Damn. Seen this happen to my brother and he got in WAY too deep, this video uncannily reflects all that. Love your content, dude!
this too real bro i needed this ❤
thank you for the message at the end of the video Joe, much appreciated ❤
I really appreciate this message. I feel like there's so much content out there that portrays the guy as the horrible toxic one and the girl as the perfect reasonable one. The other side of the story rarely gets told and it kind of reinforces the cycle that the guy is always wrong by default and makes guys question themselves and second guess themselves even more when they are gaslighted. And a lot of dudes feel like they have to be patient and sit through it and keep giving her the benefit of the doubt and trying to uphold her demands, hoping eventually she'll return the favor and give a little bit back. It never happens, she'll keep treating you bad and making endless demands and nothing will ever be good enough to please her. She'll do things like throw a fit at you for not answering her text in 30 seconds, but ignore your texts for 9 hours and feel completely justified. She'll openly make suggestive remarks about other guys right to your face, but throw a fit and give you the silent treatment if you are simply decent and respectful to someone who happens to be a woman. She'll blame you and throw on the waterworks the second you stand up for yourself. And she'll poke and pry at you waiting for the moment you lose yourself and make a mistake, so she can hang it over your head for months and claim victim status in every situation. She will never look at herself in the mirror or admit to any wrongdoing. I was in a relationship like this and I felt so much lighter and happier when I got out.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
This is so spot on! Thanks for sharing, glad you’re doing well
Yeah, it definitely goes both ways lol (I’ve dated both narcissistic men and women 😅). It definitely is sad to see, I have a few friends in some right now, but it’s almost more difficult to get people to realize they’re dating one because narcissists are SO good at getting that initial attraction before showing their true colors that they almost are blind to it when it happens. Anyways, love you! Your videos always make me smile, especially with the complimentary father guffaw 😅🥰
The first time Joe breaks from the skit and its the realest shit to ever be spoken. There are people that needed to hear this today, good shit man.
your videos will be a part of a clinical psychology curriculum someday, good vibes 🙏
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Maybe one day!
@reframingwiththerhythm
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_ definitely, I can see the vision! Also I meant to ask you, and anyone else that sees this question tbh, I heard from other therapists and in some of my work that if you/someone has to wonder if they are actually a narcissist, they are (likely) not a narcissist. I was wondering about your/anyone's perspective on that whole concept ~
My guy just straight up became a licensed therapist for like a minute and a half
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
LOL
Amazing! The dramatized alarm wake up to quickly texting them is not what literally happens, but is the perfect illustration for what goes on internally when we are walking in eggshells in these relationships. This video will save lives
Goes the same for anyone with a man treating them this way and putting them down
You know… for some, it takes the advice of someone we don’t know very well to motivate us enough to do something. God bless you brother, thanks for perhaps the most important pep talk I’ve ever received! ❤️😎🙏
ik your probably not going to see this but your vids are fr some of the best advice that a ton of people need to hear
I love this channel, it's like an extended cut of the IG shorts
Joe Rauth continues to be my favorite content creator everytime he posts. He's such a relatable dude and he is so funny.
So True! It really isn’t good for you at all to be in or AROUND that sh*t it’s a rollercoaster I recently got out of one and i’m so happy to not be stepping on eggshells anymore!! ❤you rlly do lose yourself 😢
This guy really makes my day every time he posts
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
That means a lot !!
you’re the realest bro 🙏
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Appreciate that
Thanks for this! Such a good reminder!
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
You’re very welcome
Thanks Joe for helping some brothers out. Watching this video is a flashback into my younger less confident self. Learn from the pain, it’ll be useful one day
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Glad to help
hey Joe, just wanna say this skit hit home for me cause oh boy my ex was just like this video... everything revolved around her, never wanted to do anything I wanted to, and even told me straight up that she didn't have any kind of empathy and she just honestly made me feel like I wasn't a man when we were together cause she was upset more often with me more than happy. I knew it was going downhill when I legit had to think of every little thing to say to her just so she won't yell at me. So crazy tho how even today i still consider her like the most beautiful girl ever, but legit the worst attitude and person to be around I had ever experienced.
ngl whenever you hit 500k you should do a Q/A. would love to get to know you better. love the content man❤️
Had to subscribe to this man after that life lesson at the end
Seeing the progression of your videos is amazing, you look better and bigger every video. Great advice and video bro.
Joe keep doing you man, you're killing it, funniest comedian on KZread. love bro.
I actually love these videos so much.
Wow I didn’t expect the ending, i appreciate the advice dude ❤
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Happy to help!
Bro, the thing that I was in that kind of relationship for a year till previous Sunday. And now you make that makes me more sure that I made that best decision
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
You definitely did!!! Keep doing your thing
Bro described my last relationship perfectly
big joe out here giving the advice i didnt know i needed. thanks brother
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Always !!
I love the serious real part of the video I’ve never seen that before it’s good
Nah Joe u a real one fr. Replying to almost every single comment. Respect brother God bless.
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
We all have our own stories!
joes so funny but also such a real guy at the same time🐐🐐
Not only are there many fish in the sea but the sea is ginormous. You can always choose to work on yourself first and don't focus on picking up girls, they will come soon enough. (if you build it, they will come)!
I've never been in a relationship yet so i guess i don't have to worry about that for a while
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Just be on the look out
Joe, I’m currently going through this. This video was perfect timing
damn, that transition from skit to advice was smooth as butter, tf 😭😭😭
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
HAHAHHA appreciate you
Went through this brothers once your free it’s amazing! I have a new beautiful girlfriend who loves and respects me we never fight or argue I feel healed! I love you so much baby girl ❤️
He speaks the truth!
I had a best friend who dated someone like this and the deterioration is real, he used to be super energetic and hoop just like Joe here. Then once he got cuffed he started gaining weight, he changed emotionally, he become more closed off in general, became less ambitious. And honestly I wanted him to feel better again and I told him his girl was kind of a problem and now we aren't friends anymore. Everything he said at the end is facts. But also don't conclude that all men or all women are like this, because that's not the case at all.
Almost been a year since a relationship almost exactly like this. It lasted 2 years. Everything I did was to please them, and I always just felt like trash, since they didn't give respect back. My friends, who are both guys and girls kept telling me to get out. Towards the end of our relationship, she got mad at me since I finally stood up for myself, and she kind of ended it. Called back later crying, and saying she was afraid I was gonna replace her. 2 weeks later I see she wasn't changing at all, so I once again had a talk with her saying she doesn't really seem to care about me. She started crying, and threatened to harm herself. I was pretty stunned at that moment, but at the same time it was the wake up call to, "wow this girl is crazy." So I apologized pretty rapidly in case she was serious, but then avoided her for like a week. After that week she asked to talk, and I agreed. She basically told me she hated me, and she never wanted to talk or be around me again. I told her ok, and afterwards in my room I just sat down, and started crying. I still don't think I feel 100% but I would say I'm finally moving on, and better.
@RedemptionInChrist.
Ай бұрын
You got this brother. God bless you and its just Jesus saving you from more pain
Thanks for the great advice I'll keep it in mind for any future and evers 😄
Didn’t expect long skits on his KZread channel. Pleasant surprise 😂
There's a Starman waiting in the sky.
thx you joe the important people need to tll about this 👍
That pep talk at the end 🔥🐐
I dated a narcissist but never turned into a simp for her and she completely smeared my name for it
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
You won then
Ok first off great video asked for it when I commented on the short😂😂but also love the advice in the endin that was real you was preachin brotha maybe we get more advice later on in different videos like this cuz honestly you were spot on
W Joe bro, top notch advice bro your the man
i like how real you are in this video. i wouldn't mind more of this!
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Will do
@FadedGhostz
Ай бұрын
@@joerauth_hello
nothing better than going on youtube and instantly finding an actual good ahh video
Dude that was AWSOME!! I think it would be funny if you played a narcissist in your next video. Keep up the good work❤
You might not reply I know this video is a month old but thanks for saying what you said. I had a girl like this that constantly tried to keep me a secret. I went to the hospital and almost died due to a pulmonary embolism (blood clots in lungs that travel through the heart) and she broke up with me while I was in the hospital bed. I had to learn how to walk and breathe again. She wasn’t there for me when I needed her and I was always there when she needed me.
Idk why but with the advice part he reminded me of First down Training.
Thanks for the advice. You are my favorite KZreadr. I'm only 13 but so many people do this to eachother have an amazing day. God bless
Thanks man!🙌
Most real content creator right now
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Appreciate it
Bro… spot on
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
Appreciate that
I was stuck in some shit like this. Was so hard to get out of it
@joerauth_
Ай бұрын
It’s the worst
My first relationship from 18-22 was with a narcissistic girl. It was hell and I had such a bad trauma bond I couldn’t leave. My first shot at “love” completely destroyed me. I started throwing up and fainting over the break up bc of how terrible the anxiety was. My doctor thought I was crazy. I was never the same after two years of healing. I am a very strong person now and I deserve someone who reciprocates the same love I have to give.
Bro this legit is the relationship with my mom, as sad as it is. Currently working on saving up for a car and my own place.
I've gotta see more videos like this from this guy
That was cool 😎 love these dude love that advice (can you do a cross-country or track runners be like or on race day? That would be cool)
seeing this guy serious is so unreal