Parental alienation causes so much misery and family dysfunction. By the stories I’ve read from people going through this hell, I’m beginning to think that those of us who grew up in abusive environments are more likely to be victims of parental alienation. Maybe our parents effectively conveyed to us what treatment we could expect from others. Maybe people who have a profound need to feel superior are drawn to us. Perhaps we fail to put down boundaries and limits because we’re afraid our children won’t love us. Whatever the reason, no one wins from this because it continues on from generation to generation causing unbelievable damage and unbearable pain.

@LisaSmith-yb2uz

9 ай бұрын

❤Absolutely 🥹👍

@TheErraticCollector

9 ай бұрын

I have been working on this. I think it is family scapegoating. Your spouse and children can subconciously pick up on the way your parents and siblings treat you and carry on the behaviour.

@emmaester5284

9 ай бұрын

The fear that the child may not love the parent is really true-the child is loved beyond,maybe they come to expect the alienated parent will always just put up with abuse-or they devalue love from that parent as the ‘superior/confident’ alienater can and does walk inn and out of the child’s life-she they develop an addiction type relationship to the alienator or a type of Stockholm syndrome - or the child is a narc too or becomes one as those elements are expected-

@howboutthetruthplease2580

9 ай бұрын

@theerraticcollector you are so spot on with this! Even my kids have verbally confirmed to me that they know if they go to my mom, as long as they paint me in a negative light, she will completley dismiss everything else and stands shoulder to shoulder with them and their dad, because THEY KNOW that throughout my entire life she has always supported anything that aligns with her overall view of me. She never will doubt ANYTHING they tell her as long as it starts with a validation of "you know how she is...". The same goes for my spouse. It's a helpless place to be in when those that should be your support through this nightmare actually are the ones that validate and perpetuate it. Even when I'm calling out blatant lies with actual probable fact in hand, there is an unwillingness to even listen because they all "know how I am." It feels like an impossible situation. I'm still not sure there's even a light on the other end of this all because of it. It certainly brings about an isolation of self that truthfully just compounds the loneliness that already goes hand in hand with divorce after 18 years of marriage and all of the changes and losses that come with that. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Its something I've told each of them, I wouldn't even wish it on them. It's devastating!!

@TheErraticCollector

9 ай бұрын

@@howboutthetruthplease2580 quite right. I had 2 narcissistic parents who hated one another and finally divorced. A 'golden child' sibling who moved to Australia without telling anyone. An avoidant workaholic ex husband. A spectrum daughter and another who jumped ship for a quiet life. All of them have an opinion on me. My ex did a good job on finding a replacement me to spin his lies to and she has helped to alienate my kids. So a good job all round really. After 5 years, I have done enough work on myself to push back the opinions of everyone, find peace and leave them all to it. Nothing I do or say can change things so self care is the only way. It does get easier when you choose not to fight but to leave in silence and close the door.

Ive waxed cold after years of caring and hurting. It is sad but Im glad Ive arrived here, its liberation from having what you naturally loved the most held against you.

A parent should not let a child who chooses to alienate him to ruin his life. Alienated parent should do his utmost to stay insane, busy occupied with work ,hobbies ,friends etc. Do not let yourself sink. This is how I cope with it in my situation.

So glad to have found this video (every little bit of emotional/psychological recognition helps us to keep going forward) 💔😌💓

@FamiliesDividedTV

9 ай бұрын

So glad it was helpful. I hope other of our videos help you too.

I just feee not at all towards my son who manipulates me and is mentally abusive to me...i must move on to protect myself...my health conditions can't handle this abuse anymore...yesterday i decided to close the door

Thank you for all that you do to help make this recognizable and helping parents cope.

@FamiliesDividedTV

9 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful. I hope other videos will help as well.

I sympathized with your comment that you are astonished that the child you encountered could hate its own mother so fervently, causing you to research what could compel such a strong reaction. However I will point out that as strange as it might seem for a child to despise their own mother, when a child suddenly is manipulated in a duvorce to despise their father, most members of the legal and especially psychological community seem to think this is the most natural thing in the world. Hatred of a father dovetails nicely with the preexisting core beliefs of many in the psychologt/counseling community concerning men, boys, and fathers in general.

I lost custody of my grandson after having him from birth to the age of seven when the father got out of prison after a year-and-a-half of Court battles the state of Florida gives no grandparents rights he hasn't allowed me to see him he hates me for fighting with him and turning him into his PO for drinking and I don't see any into the grief is present girlfriend did sneak into my house from the age of 8 to 10:00 but I haven't seen him in 4 years this January it never goes away I'm so afraid he thinks I don't want to see him or he's going to forget me

@FamiliesDividedTV

5 ай бұрын

So sorry for ypour situation. I hope our videos help you.

@alisaborden7816

2 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry this has happened to you and your grandson 😢

There are not of enough experts in PA here in Indiana…. Is there a referral link?

@FamiliesDividedTV

9 ай бұрын

We have a professional page on our website.

My kids do hate me😮

@FamiliesDividedTV

9 ай бұрын

So sorry for your situation. I hope our videos help.

THIS IS DEPRESSING & NOT HELPFUL OR HOPEFUL!!

Too slow a start for me. You are reading and giving your resume. Didn't watch further.

@FamiliesDividedTV

9 ай бұрын

Many read their presentations when presenting. This is not unusual. I guess the time away from your loved ones isn't worth it for you. Sad.

@wambuialice957

9 ай бұрын

what a useless comment.Toxic, to say the least.

Too robotic....next video.