CONVO | Emotional intelligence carried my marriage - Hungani Ndlovu | ThatHusbandPodcast

[S1] EPISODE 5: LOSING A CHILD AS A HUSBAND
I've always been fascinated by the confidence and stability "two-parent-household" kids carry themselves with (YES THIS IS A VERY BROAD STROKE) but generally, the foundation of a good, loving, nurturing, and dope character-building marriage tends to produce kids that move way differently in the world, compared to "single-parent-households" children. Hungani Ndlovu of ‪@TheNdlovusUncut‬ is exemplary of this and how his upbringing has shaped the way he moves as a Husband.
We get into some of the work he is involved in, caring for men and their psychological, relational, and restorative healing journeys. These two areas of his life lead us to unpack in real time how it looked for him to be a husband who walks the tight robe of miscarriage. What does this do to his own psyche, how does he love his grieving wife while grieving himself? All of this in today's episode...
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  • @The_Dream_Space
    @The_Dream_Space2 ай бұрын

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  • @fifs4sa
    @fifs4sa2 ай бұрын

    I pray that this podcast reaches my husband and I pray that he will be one of the husbands in the book. God knows how to get it to him. This channel heals the wife too. 😢

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    This message is so loaded. We praying that same prayer for you. From our lips to his ears ❤️

  • @thabomahlagare9001
    @thabomahlagare90012 ай бұрын

    Guys? I'm 5 to balling up here at the office listening to this. This is a podcast I never knew I needed. Yho. Learning gents. Learning.

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Yeah this episode was quite emotional I feel you man! Let’s keep learning. Thanks so much watching 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @michellemnisi7542
    @michellemnisi7542Ай бұрын

    🎉🎉🎉Shout out to Matthews👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I wish more dad's can be like him

  • @yolisalisanqari
    @yolisalisanqari2 ай бұрын

    ❤❤We need such husbands in our our communities, especially black communities. Thank you Dream space😊

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Amen and amen! Thanks so much sis! 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @Dadventures36
    @Dadventures362 ай бұрын

    The "what if?" and "the could I have done to stop this?" games are ones that I played for years after my wife's first miscarriage. I remember the depth of the helplessness. I almost drowned.

  • @BiancaLeesa
    @BiancaLeesa2 ай бұрын

    I wasnt gonna comment cause I'm just a gal in Sada 😂. But you said that you held your daughter and thought you understood why your father left, oooh man that hit home cause my father has never been there and I've always wondered why, but I've held onto the victim title, the child who was left title so dearly that it made no sense to reach out, even now i feel the same but i see what you mean, men are never given the platform to process. No matter how much the woman carries the whole junk, it's sad how men are never given a chance to process. I hope one day I'm gracious, kind and willing to ask him to start over and mend what never existed which is our relationship. Thank you, okay back to my little corner 🙃

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    It's very much a tight rope. I think the older we get the more open we may be to understanding our parents as people and individuals with their own make up and histories not just as our parents. It excuses nothing and will not reverse anything but sometimes helps in realising most of their poor decisions have nothing to do with us but everything to do with them and how they see themselves and that ripple effect, thats where true accountability lies. But whether they are willing to go there to have that KIND of conversation is another story . I hope one day you are able to have the chat. And thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts too 🙏🏾

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa61932 ай бұрын

    Yoh😮‍💨 the part about kids who grow up with both parents present versus kids who grow up in single parent households 🙌🏽

  • @lillymillion

    @lillymillion

    2 ай бұрын

    That thing rocked me to the core, explained soooo much of my own personal dynamic. I had never heard of it before

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193

    @nompumelelochirwa6193

    2 ай бұрын

    I’m so encouraged to break the cycle in my own generation

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    I think we need a whole episode dedicated to this thing! We’ll make it happen!

  • @lillymillion
    @lillymillion2 ай бұрын

    “A lotta gems in this episode” - accurate!

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    😉😉😉

  • @nthabi_royaltymasango4915
    @nthabi_royaltymasango49152 ай бұрын

    Came here from church reality channel, OMG this conversation 😮 wholesome, well done guys this is sooooo good, i stand in awe for such intentional, present loving husband of our day, our kids are definitely In good hands, may this channel grow to its Greatest potential, love love it, God bless🙌❤️🙏

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Shout outs to you for stopping by and supporting what we trying to do this side 🙌🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for the well wishes we recieve it all. The support has been amazing so far

  • @TamaraCanham
    @TamaraCanham2 ай бұрын

    Great episode! We need a space like this especially in the society we live in.

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    100% true! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @116ntobeko
    @116ntobeko2 ай бұрын

    We in here like we getting paid🎉🎉🎉

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Listen!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @davidkobedi9615

    @davidkobedi9615

    2 ай бұрын

    🤣

  • @mercymsezeni838
    @mercymsezeni8382 ай бұрын

    "Two-parent kids are more stable and move with a confidence single-parent kids don't have." Tjoe!!!

  • @smondsnomonde6051

    @smondsnomonde6051

    2 ай бұрын

    Isn't offensive for the single-parent raised?

  • @mercymsezeni838

    @mercymsezeni838

    2 ай бұрын

    @@smondsnomonde6051 This statement isn't meant to disqualify or undermine the work that single parents do, but it's the truth. Studies show the stability that comes with having both parents. A child needs both parents and it's unfortunate that it's not a reality for every child. I was raised in a single home and I can totally relate with lacking self-confidence and security.

  • @nkatekomayimele5141
    @nkatekomayimele51412 ай бұрын

    This was so wholesome and very very needed. Thank you to both of you for your vulnerability and rawness 😍😍

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Thank you so much for watching. These conversations are so important. Much Love!

  • @mbulelomaliza3236
    @mbulelomaliza32362 ай бұрын

    Much appreciated…thanks Gents for the conversation. #thathusband

  • @davidkobedi9615

    @davidkobedi9615

    2 ай бұрын

    The leadership is here 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Leadership!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @ntandomlonyeni6598
    @ntandomlonyeni65982 ай бұрын

    This podcast has really opened my eyes like these things that you guys are talking about here are the reason why the rate of divorce is soo high coz im from a family of two parents and you not so i have my own expectations and so does my husband so we not hearing nor do we understand each other..Coz emotionaly we dont understand each other our reasoning too. Thank you so very much for this. I pray doors of favour may be opened for this podcast ,we need it the next generations needs it.

  • @kelesitse6618
    @kelesitse66182 ай бұрын

    I am wrecked by this interview because FOUNDATIONS, man. 😭

  • @LiFace-gf1hv
    @LiFace-gf1hv2 ай бұрын

    What a beautiful episode. I appreciate the level of honesty. 🙏🏾

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching!

  • @ChurchRealityCheck
    @ChurchRealityCheck2 ай бұрын

    Good one

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Brooooo!! thank you so much and thanks for sharing on you platform as well. Much love famo!

  • @ChurchRealityCheck

    @ChurchRealityCheck

    2 ай бұрын

    Awesome leadership... When you see Mr Pule pls tell him I'm looking for him

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    No stress, send me a text on IG @BlaqueNubon

  • @ChurchRealityCheck

    @ChurchRealityCheck

    2 ай бұрын

    @@The_Dream_Space done

  • @maphanganomcebo4584

    @maphanganomcebo4584

    2 ай бұрын

    Here because of your comment on this video . Ricky 🎉

  • @ntsieseeiso2414
    @ntsieseeiso24142 ай бұрын

    What a fresh podcast thank you so much brother, keep doing the great work lovely to hear from the other gender blessings to you and brothers all over the world.

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks so much for watching!! Do check out our latest episode. We post every wednesday at 11:30

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa61932 ай бұрын

    “Sometimes it’s not about reaching out once to one person” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    It’s hard but it’s true. We got to Reach out!

  • @innocentiaradebe9314
    @innocentiaradebe93142 ай бұрын

    Thank you❤❤

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy.2 ай бұрын

    This is so informative wow 🙌

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks so much for watching!

  • @similedlamini5425
    @similedlamini54252 ай бұрын

    This is beautiful. We need more podcasts like this.

  • @davidkobedi9615

    @davidkobedi9615

    2 ай бұрын

    indeed... ✊

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Thanks for watching and supporting 🙏🏾🙌🏾

  • @zodumoxhavulani7289
    @zodumoxhavulani72892 ай бұрын

    Emotional intelligence is the key ☺️great conversation guys🙏

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    You said it!! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @AbongileDombo-ov7cw
    @AbongileDombo-ov7cw2 ай бұрын

    ❤❤❤🔥

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy.2 ай бұрын

    🔥🔥

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @nolwazindlovu2320
    @nolwazindlovu23202 ай бұрын

    Yikes, triggering but in a good way, hardly ever hear the side of the man when it comes to processing a miscarriage.

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    2 ай бұрын

    Totally understand it can be triggering but it’s unfortunate their stories and experiences don’t get as much attention. Thanks for watching 🙏🏾

  • @michellemnisi7542
    @michellemnisi7542Ай бұрын

    I am sorry to share this opinion of mine but the awkward laughs were throwing me off because I've experienced having a miscarriage it's a next level moment you become something only God can understand...

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    Ай бұрын

    Thanks for the feedback and sorry for your loss as well. It’s an an undeniable trauma to deal with There was natural laughter in the general conversation where it flowed organically and was in the context of what was being said at the time. However have to disagree with you in that there was not a point where the actual miscarriage Hungani and his wife experienced was laughed at, made light of or joked about. That would be insensitive and inappropriate.

  • @privilegendlovu4662
    @privilegendlovu466226 күн бұрын

    But the host talks too much more than the guest

  • @The_Dream_Space

    @The_Dream_Space

    26 күн бұрын

    We will continue to grow. Thanks for watching!

  • @jimmabuela906
    @jimmabuela9062 ай бұрын

    That's 20 years black and white comparison is every reductionist view, have to stop glorifying white,three are a lot of black great marriages out there.if you don't have the evidence don't talk about it. Talking down on black people is every exhausting.

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