Conflict resolution on the playground | Eileen Kennedy-Moore | TEDxAsburyPark
Meanness is fairly common among children. It’s often a byproduct of frustration. It’s always an opportunity to learn about relationships, negotiation and compromise.
Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore (also known as “Dr. Friendtastic”) is an author, psychologist, and mom of four, based in Princeton, NJ. She is the creator of the Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic podcast, where she answers questions from children about making and keeping friends. Her blog, Growing Friendships, on Psychology Today, has over 5 million views. Dr. Kennedy-Moore has been featured many times in major media, including Live with Kelly and Ryan and The New York Times. Her recent books include Moody Moody Cars (for ages 4-8), Growing Feelings (for ages 6-12), and Kid Confidence (for parents). This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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"It's disappointing but it's not personal" honestly this is seriously valuable for a lot of people to hear, not just kids.
Dr. Kennedy-Moore, this is terrific! Ordinary meanness isn’t bullying, and we all need to learn the various ways to be strong and handle it. Lessons here for kids, parents, and adults. THANK YOU!
I really appreciate the distinction she makes between bullying and meanness and yes, when poor conflict resolution has taken place all kinds of accusations start getting thrown around
I told my older sister how I was bullied and "chose" for an after school fight, and she said, "those kids are insecure and that's why they do it." I said, "yeah that's good to know, but they'll just do it again tomorrow!"
@vikassharma3297
11 күн бұрын
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@anabarbara9192
11 күн бұрын
You have a bad sister. I was bullied during 1 year and half. Ir was bad.
@JTandLittleB
11 күн бұрын
that's so crazy! sorry you had to go through that ❤I also think it is kids and adults with nothing else going on in their life so they come up with a sad excuse for an activity, lol. people who want to fight should go into that sport and leave normal people alone. When I was in college, one night at this bar, this other girl wanted to fight me... it was so weird, but thankfully, I was in a group of tall girls, like 5'11 girls and I'm 5'1😂 I told one of my friends and she gave the other girl a look and for the rest if the night, that other girl left me alone... I guess they singled me out because I was petite or something 😅
@alenaadamkova5322
11 күн бұрын
Children have mirror neurons in brain and they mimic adults words and behavior, as Dr. Bruce Lipton and Dr. Joe Dispenza say. Adults also have mirror neurons in brain but they choose whom they will mimic, because adults use analytical part of brain. The brain is emotionally finished at age 25.
@user-nl4me2sl9f
11 күн бұрын
I remember we had a fight being students with a crowd of local girls in another town. We didn't expect that, but they were prepared to beat us. They were a few of us, though we didn't give up. People fought we were heroes, because among those girls were prisoners.
THANK YOU, EILEEN! This is an excellent lesson I've struggled to articulate with my kid clients. My middle school clients especially could benefit from learning to spot their "empathy blind spots". I will be sharing this!
This was great! My kids love listening to her Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic podcast!
What a wonderfully informative talk. Thank you so much, Dr. Kennedy-Moore!
Excellent distinctions. Love the maybe game to help kids to see other possibilities. Flexible thinking is always helpful!
This was excellent 👏🏽 As someone who has been told they're too sensitive for years, i needed this! To know that children have conflict 3 times an hour lets me know. I will basically run into minor conflict often but i have to develop a healthy way of addressing it. Because children turn into adults. Adults
Very helpful to children, parents, and teachers. Thanks.
I liked the idea of talking to the bully/mean person in a non-aggressive way, e.g. "that wasn't nice' or "that was mean." Being asse45ive rather than passive or aggressive.
It’s really interesting the distinction Dr Kennedy-Moore makes between bullying and cruelty (as a result of ‘empathy blind spots’). 🙏
Separation and reunion does work well for ordinary meanness as well.
Wonderful ❤
Ha, that's weird...I read the title and thought 'what? My Nana's been dead three years, and now she's doing TED talks?!' (her name was Eileen Kennedy...)
You gotta fix your tags Ted! I searched “bullying vs meanness Ted” and this didn’t come up.
Great talk! Too bad they blast the intro and outtro music geez! Both gave me a heart attack
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This occurs even at companies inside the place of work.. Suttle. But occurs. Through cliques or I call it work gang mentality . These mental attitudes carry over into adulthood into their the work environments. Sure. Companies have policies.. As for youngsters. Depends on personal environments.
@Browne7100
11 күн бұрын
The correct spelling is subtle.
@Browne7100
11 күн бұрын
It doesn't depend on the environment. Bad behavior is bad behavior and shouldn't be tolerated. Why don't you look at schools in Japan where children are taught to be respectful from day one ? Bullying is just a way for Americans to put other people down.
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Okay hearing about that study sort of did my head in a bit, kids being mean every 2-3 minutes even the non-aggressive ones?? Like what are they counting as mean behaviour?
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Her “friends” made that website??? For sure not. Friends would NEVER do such thing. Those were clasmates and enemies. As a clinical psychologist you should know this is a huge difference. 🤬
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Today (Monday, 8th July, 2024), another dreadful deluge of TedXTalks! Far too many uploads, the majority of them mediocre and we've heard them all before. This channel sucks now. It's absolute JUNK!