you are an unbelievable AMAZING woman and you have changed, touched, shifted, transformed SO MANY lives. please keep talking and teaching. we need these conversations

Thank you for helping me with my relationships. Your books are brilliant but seeing and hearing you is true beauty. You make me smile and feel like I have the power to change.

Hello Esther, this is a most interesting thing for me right now. I’ve been doing physical labor since I was a teenager and this forced vacation is a blessing. I’m sequestered by myself on a private beach and able to bike along the ocean everyday. I believe it’s my reward for trials I’ve endured the last couple of years. And I’m enjoying every minute. 🐬🐬😁💗

We are allowed to vent out our negative emotions, especially at these dark times.

I listen to this EVERY WEEK to stay grounded

Thank you, Esther! I look up to you as a therapist and also as a woman. You make me feel very proud of my choices because as I hear what you have to say I feel very validated since our thoughts and speeches are very much alike. Thank you VERY much! Kisses all the way from Brazil

Thank you Esther for giving us permission, the green light to face our complaints so that we can deal with them and bring them into the light. You are my relationship 'go to' person and the advice and insights are always spot on.

24:10 "Humor is the best way to deal with stuff that you cant really control " YES! Thank you Ester. 😁Your talks are insightful and full of truth. At the same time, entertaining and so vital to our emotional processes and self-reflection.

Honestly speaking I knew her for last couple of months. But ,, after listening few talks,, I was floored. She is too good,, with in depth understanding and experience about her work. My respects and admiration for Esther's work: India, Assam.

Hello ester. I love to listen to you and your voice !! I am single and alone here in canada. And i am enjoying the solitude but still working !!

Dear Esther, thanks so much! During the day, I am quite fine (have to show a nice face to my son.. co-workers..single mom, you know?) but at night i feel somth in German is called 'WELT Schmerz' an overwhealming albeit abstract feeling of sadness for the world.

@sallyrile7601

2 жыл бұрын

Read Tina gilbertson's book, constructive wallowing, re healing painful feelings. Excellent.

@agnesebuffardi9162

2 жыл бұрын

Like you've been carrying the whole world on your shoulders. I know what welt schmerz is...

I love the way she articulates such complex emotions... Deepest gratitude for this enlightening live..💜

Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the world. I love how you’re able to speak about such topics in such understandable ways. Thank you!

After watching this I shared it with my favourite kvetching buddy! Our kvetching sessions are always full of laughter and we both feel lighter and truely heard. Thank for this, so many gems in here 👍🙏

I cherish your honesty, transparency because I saw you and your life as perfect. Your human. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you! So much food for thought I have to listen more than once. You are amazing!

I love these conversations so much! Thank you from the bottom of my heart

@cristinavaldes413

4 жыл бұрын

Verbalizar las multiples emociones que experimentamos ante esta nueva realidad, nos lleva a partir de un nuevo punto de partida. Nuestros alcances y limitaciones en un perimetro que en dimension fisica parece reducido pero al redimensionar nuestras posibilidades de expander nuestra creatividad, reusar tiempo y espacios en lucrativos momentos de lucidez. Asi, exparcir mental y emocionalmente una nueva ruta hacia la puerta que abriremos con una mirada nueva a lo que nos rodeaba.

Thank you Esther for such amazing informative session, I admire your transparency, I believe humour is a key happiness, learning a lot from you 💕😘

You are a queen Esther, I already bought your books because the videos were not enough, love to listen all the knowledge you give us. Admirable woman!

Brilliant as always! Grateful for all your videos, Dr. Perel. Thank you

Thank you so much for this talk! I so needed to listen to this today!

I love your advice regarding use of humor and playfulness! I think that can help people maintain connection while still making an important point. It lightens it up a bit!

You are so good at this, so articulate. I have been taking notes from this talk the whole time. This is so relevant and so helpful. Thank you!! Oh, and I would say it's impossible for you to bore.

Thank you. I enjoyed this and I had some of my questions answered. Well done on another well balanced educational video.

Thank you Esther for sharing your knowledge ❤️

I learn so much from watching you! Love from NJ

Thank you Esther.❤

Adapting to our roles from 1place. It's grounded Me in the finest sense. I regularly review my goals in becoming a respected & cherished Woman. & I've decided to focus on my true strength's for the past 10 weeks. I shift all my energy to delicious performance. In the Kitchen, In the Gardens & in the Bath. 💕 I love You Esther...

This was great! So practical. Love the sentence starters...

I am sooo glad that I found you. The information that you are sharing is amazing. I can see that if I can apply it to my relationship it will change our dynamic to something I never thought possible.

I always love your talks, but this one was fresh and revolutionary! Please do another one with the reminding questions!! :) Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge!

Love it when your Jewishness- Polish Jewishness at that- comes through You maybe have evolved , Ester , but to me , it’s the errr ing on the “ other woman” or the “ darker sadder “ sides of life , that touches n inspires me the Most! Thank you! From someone that her childhood reminds yours

Always so great.

Amen . if your are happy all the time you are out of touch.!!! . Keep on preaching sister!!! Love your insight❤

Lost touch with your latest and have so needed them all during these unstable times of lock down! Your methods are so clear. Am going to get caught up and participate in the next. Eternally thankful oh and love hearing the use of Yiddish words, since those of our elders are no longer with us 🤗❤

You are SO right about everything you said.

Is such good info with wonderful techniques to relate. Love you!

Wow all of this is just so great!

I just looove Esther, she's the place where i find pracę 🥰

Thank you for discussing this interesting subject! It does helps me to understand my own resistance and this of my partner in moments of conflict..

You're great! Thank you! I might try this 'complaint chart' at home and with my students...

Thank you very much for your great work. On the funny side: I have a great deal of experience with complaining, history, heritage + self This is why I stopped the first time at minute 8, thinking this is already 8 minutes of defending complaining... than I got back the other day because I know I can trust the source: This is what I understood so far about complaining: The basic need to be aware of what is unpleasant, while creating the opportunity to change either the mindset or the situation regarding the complaint. One deals best with 1 complaint at a time, while mood and respect for the other is very important in the process

Thank you, Esther! I appreciate all you do.

Missed it today, enjoy your videos 🙏

amazing advice - recognized so many things I do and my partner does to contribute to unnecessary frustration and tension. super session, thank you for sharing

I can relate to the cultural mindset you are talking about even though I am not native Belgium - in my case I would consider "happy" people as superficial. Despite the fact that I have evolved from this phase, it still comes back to me from time to time. Thank you for sharing.

Fantastic question back...what so challenging to you...about handling my insecurities ;)

Good evening Esther!

Esther thank you so much for constantly sharing your wisdom, especially during COVID

thank you for lock down with a twist in humor🤓🎯🕊

I feel overwhelmed for many tasks

Esther's eyebrow lift looks absolutely fantastic

@katerinamafiosa

4 жыл бұрын

Agree!

Greetings from Cameroon once again EP

Hi, interesting topics

Thanks for remind ya we have the right to complain Love is making room for all emotions

My intimate partner denies my right to complain and have personal needs before him. But now I'm locked with him and I don't have access to my quenching buddies who actually DO have sense of humor. T.T

Thank you Esther, you are an inspiration!❤️

I'm creating this to an activity with my college students!

@cristinaborgesgil6534

3 жыл бұрын

Great idea! I'm going to try it too ; )

I love Susan David’s book.

Thanks Esther for the inside you gave in the video. Maybe it is just like you says. If you keep moving around in emotions than complaining is just another form of getting closer to yourself and actually see that this is also a part of everyone who takes the change of complaining. Its just another way of experiencing. But what is happening when you got stuck in it or it becomes your own virtual reality? how do other people from outside can show you where youre at? what is needed from both?

Interesting to listen to your thoughts. I think I need to change how I say some things and when. For example I wish my for more quality time together with my husband, but I can see that he just hear the complain and not my wish.

Good morning Mrs Perel, many greetings from Greece!!! I would like a video about comparing ourselves to others 💞💞

@katerinamafiosa

4 жыл бұрын

Oh yes!

@paulacamposar

4 жыл бұрын

I second that

Fetching even kvetching that Esther ❤️

I think the way I differentiate venting/complaining v. gossip is - are the details of my complaint an experience happening to / with me? Or am I slandering another an including details in my story which don't drive the story forward to edify me, them or the situation? Gossip tends to be an energy of slander, whereas complaints/vents tend to be the exasperated experience I am having w/ another, or situation which needs named, aired and sometimes a solution. Gossip results in nothing but controlling another person's view of another person in a situation no one can control.

Scale of 1-10 ... guage it! 🎉

My husband recently retired. This has caused a lot of arguments for us! I’m not happy,& I know he’s not either. Need help!!!!! I’m feeling ignored, he’s not listening, I get him to talk & 5 minutes later right back to the same situation. I don’t know how much more I can take. 24 years of marriage! HELP

@marymagnificat8567

2 жыл бұрын

Tambi..... watch Esther Perrel talks. You can google on KZread or Instagram .

Thank u Esther so much for ur insights. I want to add that ppl who object to mandatory mask 😷 wearing also have a feeling of their rights being taken away. And that’s a legitimate complaint too. Some may have a fear of sinister control being the motivators of the top down mandates too. So there r a lot of legitimate feelings motivating ppl to behave the way they r. Whether they r ardent believers in wearing masks all the time or individuals who don’t believe masks will save lives. Thank u for hearing my thoughts 💭 and complaints 🤗. And keep up the great work. I’ve learnt so much from u! Blessings

Jij bent de bom, Esther!

Tired of hearing how bad the COVID-19, people thinking we will never be able to hug or kiss our friends. How cold? how we look forward to life when simple things in life are no longer available.

my current complaint is also about self criticism, when my professors hair is dirty i think- she must be so busy and important, she doesn’t even have time to wash her hair, when my hair is dirty, i tell my self i’m such a slob. when a joga techers feet are dirty and has rough skin, i think- wow, they probably work out outdoors so much and don’t even care about beauty standarts, when mine are even a little rough, I think- why can’t I be more ladylike and really, my husband deserves better. it get’s so ridiculous sometimes, it makes me laugh at this point. thanks for the video, so good!

Hi Esther, thanks for sharing your ideas, as they have significantly helped my relationships. In the current polarized political climate, how can an ideologically opposing couple have a productive political conversation? Context MS (25 y/o M, ENFJ-A, core values truth and responsibility) & GB (25 y/o F, ENFP-A , core values diversity and equality). Thanks!

Hi Esther, if both sides agreed, is it possible to fix an unhealthy relationship? Or will it be only another "I promise this won't hapoen again" ? But first, how can I tell that a relationship is not healthy? I've heard it here and there, I want to hear it from you, because everything you said is full of positivity.

Dear Ester, I would like think that quarantine has made me more critical but that would be a lie. All my life I’ve regretted my criticisms, always towards my loved ones. My family has learned to love me that way and they in turn are branches of the same tree. But I wouldn’t want to lose my partner for this. I’ve learned to recognise and be mindful, but how do I prevent the outburst of criticism when you arrive tired and stressed and still have work to do and the house is a mess and nothing is done? Thank you for helping me grow through out this years. Big imaginary hug to you and your followers.

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

Wow keep growing & loving 💜

@andreazamudio2186

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Kim :) Hope you and your loved ones are keeping well

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

@@andreazamudio2186 we are managing the Heartland flood Much Love to You and your family

@andreazamudio2186

4 жыл бұрын

Hope this covid thing hasn’t further impacted the support for your people. Is there still water there? (Sorry for the ignorance as I’m writing from the opposite end of the world)

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

💜💜💜

Esther, I often listen to “Always Look On the Bright Side of Life” from Monty Python when I’m feeling helpless and overwhelmed by things outside of my control. Men are being crucified in the scene, and whistling. The scene always makes me feel better. I also watch the witch scene from Monty Python when I feel persecuted by people who don’t know what they’re talking about. The actor says, “Who are you who is so wise in the ways of science?” after finding proof that a woman was a witch by comparing her weight to that of a duck. I feel like that woman sometimes. It’s so absurd that it helps.

@PollyLogin

4 жыл бұрын

I also love this song!

@ebbyc1817

4 жыл бұрын

Monthy Python was genius😊 I agree. I always think back to the scene where the two knights fight in the forest. And one chops off the other's leg... That always makes me laugh, whatever mood I'm in, just thinking of it. Thank you for putting this back in my mind too😊.

One Love Jamaica W.I.

23:14 What is the difference between complaining about self and the others? 23:48 Is there a correct way to complain?

HOW can I not complain about the PTSD & ALL the PAIN & SUFFERING still.

Hi Esther Would it be to do privet session? Thank u

Yeh. I like when you say this is the human experience. My sister who has cancer basically said i shouldn't be upset. But i said i yell, i do what ever. Talk .But i don't hurt anyone. She also says i should become a Christain.. This is my reality and I am dealing with it and talking about it.And going to counseling when i need to. A counslor once told me her husband had cancer and he was in his late 20 yearly 30 She said I had a small child and i had so many things to do. So then someone told her to write down what her proritities was for the day If she didnt get them done she was told not to be hard on herself. Her husband died and she had to explain to her 2 year old what happened. So if the dishes sit to long don't be worried about it. Worry about what is inportant. Then worry about the other stuff. If it doesnt get done don't br upset with yourself. My sister who has the brain tumour when for help a few times but quit. She talks to no one theraphy wise i just think she keeps it inside

❤️

Thank you Esther

@slovoy

4 жыл бұрын

Suggestion: Turn on the closed captioning. Go to the three dots. Menu. Closed captioning. Choose. Good luck!

She mentioned 2 writers in the beginning, could you hear who are them?

@antonellalucero4919

3 жыл бұрын

I had to listen to it over and over to try to understand the names. I found: Barbara Ehrenreich and Susan David. I think these are the names. Let me know if you can find the books she is talking about! For Susan David I think the book is emotional agility, but I’m not sure about which book of Susan David

Can I double like this?!

I miss playing tennis with friends

How does one attend? 😍🥰

29:09 sorry didn’t catch that, did she say he catches up with the kids to talk about the lonely?

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

Their LONGINGS* 💜

@maryamanuel6539

4 жыл бұрын

@@kimgordon3695 Amazing thank you :)

Esther aged backwards 20 years these last 8 weeks of lockdown 😍

Stressed about Internet connectivity or bad audio/tools not working smoothly ( I’m working from home)..feels like a prisoner

The chat is not ON ! We cant write to you !

What’s Cletch?

Is this now?

I want to be loved more

Frustration, sadness, difficult relationship with spouse, time going into media all the time

they demand many tasks from me

1. Keep tone civil 2. Stick to 1 concern 3. Leave the luggage closed 😂

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

I still have a right to... ________ 💜

@kimgordon3695

4 жыл бұрын

Haha... I finally recognize I married my mother 😂

Heyyy

My technology is crashing and that's making it hard for me to do my work from home. Our government is attacking the universities and it's quite likely that my entire program will be cancelled, which means I'll be unemployed.

I cannot stand people who constantly complain . Its irritating ! I complain once in awhile I'am not perfect but people who complain day in and day out about the slightest little things is irritating.

Major anxiety and paranoia of the people i live with

Family fights