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@danilopompey754

Жыл бұрын

Bro, you don't even know his wife's name . . . wow.

@karenstott7980

Жыл бұрын

You need to read Sofia Breland comment.☑ O.k. …Will apologise to your fans but … *Chris Rock wasn’t ready…Will didn’t respect that. Will wanted the world to know 1. Will reached out. And 2. CHRIS wasn’t ready. So Will should wait. * A genuine apology doesn’t need an audience. That Apology belongs to Chris. It’s up to Chris what is done with it. * there is no parole without remorse.

@jojobaba754

Жыл бұрын

Hmmm I’m disappointed because I’ve watched the whole apology and you have left out very key parts that show Smith is a total narc and has no remorse for Chris, but lots for himself! That’s a shame!

@yaseminplaceboful

Жыл бұрын

Ive been working with traumatized adolescents and adults for many yrs, some of them antisocial on different levels, many of them done misdemeanors or some other more serious crimes and offenses. Ive done hundreds of "interviews" and conversations with them. I have to say that his apology-speech definitely seems reversed and far from being natural. I think that, that particular aspect is striking. He's looking for the right words, so to speak, trying to remember the right words far too much. Its interesting how my perception can differ so radically from the Communication-coach Alex Lyon.

@RawBrilliance

Жыл бұрын

Yes@ he shows how great this really was! He owned it. Was vulnerable revealing his deepest weakness. He rejected his own choice multiple times. I think he is as offended at himself as he was Chris Rock with all that head shaking at himself. Without dismissing the original offense on Chris Rock' s part. It real. He is a sweet and humble. Good on him

What really bothered me wasn't the slap. It was that he knew he could sit right back down in his seat and party like 1999 after the entire event when any one of us would have spent that night in Jail. It was the privilege that comes with being a Hollywood elite that really got under my skin.

@thatgirlkells5505

Жыл бұрын

Hahaha. Party like it's 1999. (RIP Prince) That part really bothered me. He should of gone home. Going to a party after doing what he did is so distasteful.

@lauraJa777

Жыл бұрын

You are absolutely right.

@westzed23

Жыл бұрын

Security should have removed him immediately. He should have not been able to accept his award. Then they gave him as much time as he wanted for his acceptance speech. Totally u professional on several accounts. Privilege.

@lindam9018

Жыл бұрын

He was asked to leave and refused. Ego and arrogance, the only thing he's sorry about is that there were repercussions for him professionally.

@westzed23

Жыл бұрын

@@lindam9018 I don't think it should have been his choice to go or stay. He should have been immediately escorted out by security. Anyone else who assaults someone like this would have been charged. Privilege allowed this farce to happen.

It's EXTREMELY important that when you are apologizing to utter the words, "I am sorry." Not, "I apologize" or anything else. In his speech, when he addresses Jada, he immediately and without hesitation says, "I'm sorry babe." That was a genuine apology. When he is addressing Chris he has to enter a preamble and build up the courage to even say, "I apologize." A genuine apology to Chris would have came out within the first two sentences and would have sounded something like, "I'm sorry Chris. I messed up." Like he did towards Jada.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

That's a fair suggestion. I'm currently running an unscientific poll about "sorry" vs. "apology" on the community page for my channel (and on Linkedin). I might make a follow up about how people perceive those two words. We'll see.

@roybatty-

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I feel like its important to a) Say I am sorry b) Say it within the first two sentences c) Issue an apology within a reasonable time period from the occurrence of the incident. Chris probably trusted that Will would make amends quickly and did not press charges because he had faith in him. He waited patiently and the apology ship sailed. Chris has moved on with his life and it ended the way it ended. IMO, Will's biggest problem is not Chris accepting his apology, it is regaining the trust of the people he violated that night. His actions were extremely deliberate and violent. He evoked powerful, traumatic emotions in people around the globe. Bullying and workplace violence... many people have personal experience with these things.

@MsElinorh

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon “I apologise” sounds formal and as if you’re just going through the motions. It implies a certain distance from the offending actions. On the other hand, ‘I’m sorry” sounds much more personal and vulnerable. I think it’s because of the “am”, ie it’s saying I FEEL sorry, whereas the “I apologise” uses an active verb which says nothing about the person’s feelings. A grammarian or editor might be able to shed more light on this.

@emilyl7226

Жыл бұрын

@@MsElinorh I completely agree. " I apologize" seems to distance the person, kind of a cop out. "I am sorry" is more heartfelt.

@lazyriver53

Жыл бұрын

The best thing to say when apologizing is “please forgive me”

I was expecting a deep analysis, but left feeling like I just watched a power point presentation. Anyone can write an apology that checks all the boxes, especially a multi millionaire with a PR team. What about the words he used, the tone, the pitch of his voice? I think she showed more remorse for all the other people present there at that moment, than for CR. He didn't disrupt their moment of fame, the program just continued as if nothing happend. No one ran on stage to help CR, no one asked Will to leave. They laughed and gave him standing ovation minutes after he slapped a man over a joke and then called himself a vessel of love, called by God to protect his people. That's beyond ridiculous.

@theprousteffect9717

Жыл бұрын

He was asked to leave by security, and refused. But yeah, he should have been escorted out of the building in handcuffs, like any regular person would have been.

@mommyx1031

Жыл бұрын

I don’t think the audience understood whether or not it was a joke IRT. I thought the two comedians were playing a skit at the time.

@cindland

Жыл бұрын

It was pretty appalling. It affirmed my decision to stop watching the academy awards!

@joeterp5615

Жыл бұрын

The Behavior Panel did a much more in-depth analysis of this. Check them out on KZread if you never have. They don’t buy this apology.

@Ab-gx1qp

Жыл бұрын

@@joeterp5615 I have, I love their channel. Thank you 😊 There is also one channel, Martin DeCoder, he analyzes words and expressions and gives good insights into people's motives.

Personally if I were in this situation I wouldn't be friends or even associate myself with that person or their family again. That slap wasn't just an assault it was done in front of the entirety of his professionals in that industry for the purposes of public humiliation and control. It's the height of arrogance and unprofessional conduct and sends a message to others that assault and public humiliation are ok. And over some words??! I would have requested for charges to be pressed for the assault and I would have blocked people like this out of my life. They will do it again and you'll be tiptoeing around their feelings all the time. Maya Angelou once said "when someone shows you who they are believe it the first time."

@brentc4593

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said! The guy behind this video is kissing some serious tail in the hopes that Will Will appreciate it and reach out to him. He’s trying to get something from this because the great majority know Will is full of it and yet he’s saying will was authentic?! GtFoh

@annetteadams1694

Жыл бұрын

Amen. Perfectly said

@MrDavfit

Жыл бұрын

Yes , well said!

@freshprinz9829

Жыл бұрын

If he wasnt poking the bear for years taking shots at the smiths he wouldn’t of gotten slapped y’all karens about whole situation like you’ve never did something to someone begged for forgiveness

@annetteadams1694

Жыл бұрын

@Fresh Prinz It doesn’t matter how many years Will has been fuming. If you don’t communicate that something is a problem for you; then no one will know. You have to communicate…Chris Rick is a comedian. And it still didn’t stop anyone from cracking jokes on Jada. It wasn’t targeted to alopecia; it was targeted to G. I. Jane. It’s illegal to lay hands on someone, you don’t have the right to hit somebody because you are mad at them.

My thing with these apologies that he keeps trying to give is - literally all of them seem focused on him, his family, and how they're all feeling. Chris always seems to be an afterthought. "I've been healing, and taking time to reconnect with my family and deal with my personal traumas that led to this moment...oh and uh yeah Chris, sorry man I guess, but you didn’t really hit me up so it’s whatever.”

@daviddarko5837

Жыл бұрын

What are you talking about? You can only view the world from your point of view, it is normal to mention ones own head space before getting into a speech like this. Just because he did not mention Chris first means shit buddy. Some people are just assholes who don't want to except an apology (not that he owed you one) I swear. He didn't hit you bro, he hit Chris and it's a problem for these two men to handle. Let men handle their business and stop being so damn sensitive. Also, he apologized to Chris before mentioning his own family, looking right into the camera when he did. How much more sincere does this man have to be. He hit a man, he didn't rape a child. People need to fuck off and stop acting like he did wrong on to them.

@timleelim9930

Жыл бұрын

I, me, myself. Clear emphasis in the whole structured set up. And that strategic water bottle placement... 🤣😂

@brentc4593

Жыл бұрын

Not only that but he tries to make Chris look bad by saying he didn’t want to talk to Will. An authentic apology doesn’t mention anything about the other person and what they have or haven’t done. If Will had focused solely on himself and just said he was sorry and he will always regret my behavior because violence is never the answer he’d have been good. I can see in wills eyes his disdain for Chris and he doesn’t mean what he is saying. Let me remind everyone that actors are paid liars. They are the best liars in the world next to spy’s that engage in espionage where their life’s are on the line. An actors job is to portray a lie so well that the audience believes they are who they transform into. Look into the words Will uses, how he uses them, his tone of voice changes, which we can hear him at the beginning change from low to high pitch momentarily which is a sign of lying, especially when he says Chris the first few times. Lastly. The micro expressions on his face which he cannot control and the look in his eyes. Everyone speaks with their eyes, only a few can conceal what they really mean with their eyes.

@daviddarko5837

Жыл бұрын

I like when regular people think they're therapist all of a sudden. "I can see in wills eyes his disdain for Chris and he doesn’t mean what he is saying." Muthafucka please. Get off it. The man made a public apology, that's it. Look at your own life and the things you've done before judging so damn hard. He hit a man, he didn't kill a man. As far as I'm concerned the man should get back to work entertaining and let everything else fall into place when it does.

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

@@brentc4593 >>spy’s that engage in espionage where their life’s are on the line

I feel like he owes an apology for his son’s behavior, who immediately got online and in a thuggish attempt to seem tough, doubled down on his fathers behavior. That really seemed like another slap in the face to Chris. It’s also hard for me to distinguish whether he feels ashamed, or whether he feels the shame.

@jonathancineus6424

Жыл бұрын

I was about to write the same comment. Totally agree. I even think Jaden Smith owes Chris an apology because that comment supported Will’s violence public assault toward Chris. Jaden might has well have slapped Chris and his mama too.

@Nan-59

Жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree! We see that kind of behavior in a lot of teenagers today and it is quite ugly.

@hermesmcclintok

Жыл бұрын

He's just imitating what he see as the strongest member of the family. Angry mama Jada. So was Will. She has them all wrapped around the skinny witch finger.

@sabineduret2512

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely 💯

@theresagluckhertz8064

Жыл бұрын

Right! what was it he said? something like " And, That's how we do it!"

I had a friend that embarrassed me in front of a room full of people. I told her later in an email that I was offended by it, and she emailed me back that she was "sorry I was offended"! It was one of many times she carelessly disregarded my feelings and insulted me. I tried hard to stay her friend after that but in the end, she was just a toxic person to be around. She was just cruel to people and unapologetic for any of her behavior.

@FoxyGirlWonder

Жыл бұрын

Sounds narcissistic, but I'm not privy to everything that happened. I'm glad you managed to distance yourself from her, life is so much better without that added toxicity in our lives.

@alanduff1054

Жыл бұрын

@@FoxyGirlWonder I AM a Black man... just speaking from experience and was mostly joking... But not really..

@christinegilbert5082

Жыл бұрын

It's hard to come back from humiliation in front of your peers. In Chris's case, it was humiliation in front of the whole world.

@Azazel_Woodwind

Жыл бұрын

your first mistake was trying to stay her friend

@debrap947

Жыл бұрын

@@alanduff1054 What? I am not sure what you mean, is she black? or am I black? Would it make a difference?

"that's no way to handle a feeling of disrespect or insult..." = you were the one who provoked my behavior

I was totally done with Will and hadn't watched a single thing about him again, till this video. Meantime .... I did something recently that I totally and still feel like a jerk about, even though I owned it, I said I'm sorry, and the other person responded to it most graciously. It's humbling. It reminded me not to get on my high horse about other people's mistakes. I took heart from what Will and Alex said about feeling remorse vs feeling like a piece of sh*t. It's a very useful and important distinction. Yeah - the universe always gives me a wake-up when I get judgmental 😛🥰

@rosiefroese5461

Жыл бұрын

Or maybe it's God that reminds us.

@iamgr80k

Жыл бұрын

@@rosiefroese5461 Or maybe it's just a sense of morality 😆

@ajlived6034

Жыл бұрын

That is awesome. I’m there too, and your comment really helped.

@rebekah1362

Жыл бұрын

@@iamgr80k People make mistakes that are also crimes - that's because it has to do with the law. Some of us make mistakes that may not be against the law but is criminal morally. But the point of Elizabeth's comment is the lesson *she* learned, not her forgiveness of Will. Just because you're above mistakes and never broke the law (doubtful if you've ever driven faster than the speed limit), doesn't mean others can't learn from someone else's mistake. She's just more generous than you. And as for Chris - Chris accepted his apology and didn't press charges so how are you justified in perpetuating the negativity?🤔

@iamgr80k

Жыл бұрын

@@rebekah1362 Trolling rebekah? I gave my opinion without insulting anyone. So, what's your beef? If you watched the video, you would know that Rock is not ready to speak with ws. Does that sound like someone who has forgiven anyone? And thank you for revealing who you are... when someone shows you who they are, believe them. In this case you show that you are uptight about my honest opinion. Maybe you can honestly talk with someone about that. I wish you all the best.

"I'm very sorry, please forgive me" would've sounded much more sincere and heartfelt than "I apologize".

@lisadiconti

Жыл бұрын

Yes..."I apologize" doesn't sound the same as "I'm sorry". It's distancing.

@gequitaroper1531

Жыл бұрын

So true

@angelamitchell4745

Жыл бұрын

I disagree, for two reasons: One, when apologizing, it's really important to actually say that word, and mean it. It was powerful to me that Will did that within the first few moments. And two, "forgive me" is putting the wronged person in the position of having to take action they may not be ready for. Chris doesn't need to forgive Will if he doesn't want to, so asking him to do so (especially publicly) would come off as slightly passive-aggressive. I'm very glad Will didn't do it that way.

@badboxx7316

Жыл бұрын

You could rethink it like : of course he is sorry, but why doesn't he apologize?

@JoeyChilango

Жыл бұрын

@@angelamitchell4745 If Will doesn't ask for forgiveness then what's the point in apologizing? "I apologize" doesn't mean that he's remorseful for his actions, it's simply a formal admission of wrongdoing, that's all. Also, I don't think anyone really expects Chris to forgive Will anytime soon. But asking for forgiveness would have meant that Will truly values Chris's friendship, and it would have demonstrated genuine humility on Will's part. The fact that he never said "I'm sorry" and "forgive me" is why I'm not buying his "apology". Here, I'll reword my original comment and you tell me if you still think "I apologize" is better: "Chris, I am so sorry for the pain I've caused you and your family. I want you to know that your friendship is very important to me, and I sincerely hope that one day you can find it in your heart to forgive me."

Saying "I apologize" isn't the same an saying and being sorry. He's not actually sorry

@BlessedOne686

Жыл бұрын

C‘mon, don’t be that guy.

@ahkeeantahkeeant8096

Жыл бұрын

ARE THE PEOPLE WHO DROVE HIM TO DRINK SORRY?

@Chris-id3vt

Жыл бұрын

Sorry isn’t good enough if he said it multiple times like he said sorry isn’t efficient

@jonimaricruz1692

Жыл бұрын

Are you psychic?

Still seems self serving . Don't call an act where you willfully walk up on a world stage and slap someone a "mistake". A mistake is an opps....this was not an opps.

@aesir0784

Жыл бұрын

You CLEARLY need a come-uppance. Just wish I could witness it. That's a beautiful glass house you live in.

@TheSuperSpeeder

Жыл бұрын

@@aesir0784 Do you not understand the difference? We all make "mistakes" and bad choices. I've made bad choices and mistakes as well, but own up to it and accept it. It was his choice and his choice alone.

@angelajohnson4245

Жыл бұрын

@TheSuperSpeeder FYI... it is oops. Spelled OOPS. Used in a sentence... "Oops, I made a mistake." *** this is NOT me condoning his behavior. I was very saddened by his actions. I have adored Will Smith since I was a kid, actually still have my cassette tapes of his and Jazzy Jeff's music!) This is me making notes to you... maybe your touch screen fights you like mine does... damn keyboard... 😉

@yikes7607

Жыл бұрын

Mistakes are not that simple. In Will's case, his mistake was not that he acted on impulse and had an oops moment, rather his mistake was that at the time he believed he was doing the right thing for his wife. It took cancel culture and falling out of grace with public opinion for him to realise the world has evolved and violence is no longer an acceptable response when someone hurts someone we love. He probably had a dated way of thinking and strong feelings about it at the time, that was his mistake.

I’ve watched many of your videos and found them to be insightful and Taught me things. That is why I’m asking you to watch the “apology video” again and see if you can see the other side of it. For me it lost credibility in the first sentences. If Will had reached out to Chris to apologize and Chris had said it was too early - to then go public and make an “apology” video is disrespectful and wrong. Chris has said it’s not the right time. Right from the start that tells me that this video is all about Will. About his image and how other ppl perceive him. He even states this in the video. It hurts him that other ppl don’t think that he hasn’t lived up to their image of him. No. Wrong. The problem is that HE assaulted someone else in front of millions of ppl. And refused to leave. It wasn’t “fuzzy” when he made his acceptance speech. He apologized etc - but NOT to Chris. He went to the after party. I can understand if you’re chocked in the moment if you did something like this. But that instant chock wears off before the party. Or the last 3 months at least. Note that Willl says it wasn’t the “optimal” way to respond. That implies that it’s A (acceptable) way to respond when being “insulted”, not just the “optimal”. No. It’s illegal to do that. It’s also morally wrong. Will doesn’t take responsibility for what he’s done. He goes against what Chris had told him - to wait. He doesn’t say: I’m so sorry for what I did. There is nothing I can say that excuses my behavior, it was just wrong. I own this. (And that apology would come AFTER Chris said it was time). It’s easy to get drawn in when someone has a whole PR-team and when they are as good of an actor as Will is. But listen to what he says, the words he chooses and maybe most of all what he doesn’t say. Please have a look at this video again. I’d love to hear your take on it, because I think this was released prematurely. Your expertise is deeper than this. See beyond the PR-team and the actor. I like Will. Or I at least used to. But I don’t condone what he did OR this video. I think it was self serving and against Chris’s wishes. And I also think Will needs to “heal” away from the toxic environment of his marriage, but that is just my opinion (like everything else in this comment). I wrote it out of respect, because I think you missed things in this video that I hope you could make a follow-up video about. All the best.

@sangam5173

Жыл бұрын

Eloquently explained!!! More accurate to what we all watched than the analysis offered

@brentc4593

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly said! This dude might be getting money from Will to make this video or he’s hoping Will will see it because he lost all credibility with this horrible assessment of Wills “authentic apology” smh

@alexmuenster2102

Жыл бұрын

>>I can understand if you’re chocked in the moment if you did something like this. But that instant chock wears off

@timesize

Жыл бұрын

I was also disappointed with this analysis

@nanaobx

Жыл бұрын

💯 percent correct!

He is authentic and sincere when he says he is sorry to his own family and to Questlove. He is not authentic or truly remorseful at the beginning when he is "apologizing" to Chris Rock. The phrase "I apologize" is a distancing technique. The sincere and genuine phrase to use is "I'm sorry." Will Smith also should feel shame for his actions. By rejecting a sense of shame he is also distancing himself from any true consideration of what he did and the true repercussions of his actions. This is a public relations statement, a social media ploy, not a sincere apology to Chris Rock. Will Smith should never talk about this again publicly until he has sat down with Chris Rock and apologized to him personally, face-to-face. And that should happen when Chris Rock is ready for it to happen.

@ind3789

Жыл бұрын

I felt completely different. The entire apology reflected as sincere to me. I don’t think it’s fair that folks get to stand on their white horse and decide whether or not someone’s heart felt apology is sincere after months of considering it. Every comment I read about his authentic and well spoken apology is coming from a space of arrogance. He is a human being not a god who does no wrong because he is a celebrity. Put him in the proper place in your eyes, as a human seeing eye to eye and then listen to the apology. Obviously there was tension when apologizing to Chris, as they haven’t discussed privately yet and as he stated there is unfinished business between them. That’s not our business.

@ThistleAndSea

Жыл бұрын

@@ind3789 Nope, totally disagree with you about his sincerity, but I do agree with you that it is between Will & Chris which is why these public social media/PR statements come off as self serving and are ineffective.

@frankrodriguez7285

Жыл бұрын

Perfectly well said

@christopherdavis575

Жыл бұрын

I agree.

@badboxx7316

Жыл бұрын

I apologize is literally a more aulic way to say i'm sorry. If he said "i'm sorry" someone would have commented with bla bla "i'm sorry" is so childish why not use a more mature "I apologize" . PFFF

I'm not sure I agree. He spent a lot of time sincerely apologizing to everyone, except the man he slapped in front of a room full of VIPs and before millions on TV. He kind of glossed over his apology to Chris and 1. Made it Chris' fault that he wasn't ready to talk yet 2. Made it Chris fault because he felt insulted 3. Minimized it by calling it "not optimal" and 4. Showed more concern for his public reputation than the real harm he caused to Chris. He did sound authentic when he apologized to Chris' mother and to the other Oscar nominees, but IMO his apology to Chris was lame.

@saran.4001

Жыл бұрын

Also, called it an incident, said when it happened, etc. as though it was an event he was at, instead of something he did.

@eliseintheattic9697

Жыл бұрын

@@saran.4001 Good catch, I missed that one.

@saran.4001

Жыл бұрын

@@eliseintheattic9697 Oh I think you covered it very well.

@georgenuamah2424

Жыл бұрын

Exactly 🤔

@joeyjoe7930

Жыл бұрын

Exactly! And answering questions was really quite unnecessary. He could have just said all those things without the questions.

One of the things he could've said to make it sincere was acknowledging how CR responded to Will assaulting him. By giving him the character credit to which CR displayed simply moving on with his host duties.

@joevaccaro6655

Жыл бұрын

💯 Rock definitely behaved like an adult in that situation

@BigHenFor

Жыл бұрын

Nope. Chris had a job to do, and knew better. Sorry. No angels in this story.

Let’s not forget he is an Oscar award winning actor! I’ve seen him look more sincere on the Fresh Prince.

@moussaipresidangue3203

Жыл бұрын

You statement would hold value if Will Smith behaved like that in the past.. He made 1 mistake in 25 years and all of sudden people want to define him by his lone mistake . SMH

@_baller

Жыл бұрын

True

@cindyland6273

Жыл бұрын

@@moussaipresidangue3203 A mistake is taking a left at the signal when I should have taken a right. The word mistake has turned into a "cop out" saying. It has turned into a way to minimize or dismiss something. Own it Will!! Take responsibility for your actions. Our society is a governed by a set of rules and laws. When breaking these laws comes consequences. Own it! Take responsibility for your aggressive actions.

@ellemp8201

Жыл бұрын

@@cindyland6273 what would you have Will Smith do? What other word would you have him use? Where is it that you feel he is not taking responsibility - cos he could do a lot less...

@cindyland6273

Жыл бұрын

@@ellemp8201 Read my post again. You will find answers to your questions.

He acted like a complete tool and has since made a decent apology but there's no way around it, Chris is owed the apology not us. Will's made it public to repair a path back to stardom, which is understandable but still self-serving as far as apologies go. At this point it's all a bit 'meh, who cares?' He had a bad day, lost a friend and learned a lesson.

@gnostic268

Жыл бұрын

Agree. It feels very manipulative almost as if he's using his stardom and fans to collectively force Chris Rock to respond and tell him it's okay and WS's life will go back to the pre-Oscar hype

@williamgrant8333

Жыл бұрын

I 100% agree with you. I doubt he is sorry. Real apologies don't need to be broadcasted to the nation. He could privately tell Chris his apology. By broadcasting it too publicly, it is clear it's a PR stunt to fix his public image.

@jenniehughes6927

Жыл бұрын

@@williamgrant8333 It's like he's trying to shame Chris into accepting his apology by broadcasting this to the world. To me it makes him even more despicable . Do it in private. Then if Chris wants to broadcast it to the world , that's up to him. Not Will.

@williamgrant8333

Жыл бұрын

@@jenniehughes6927 Exactly. We as viewers get caught up in the drama as observers but forget that in the real world, when our friends or relatives are sorry, they don't make some big public show about it. When it's genuine, it is done privately for the most part. Will Smith didn't slap the world, he slapped Chris.

@thunderpipe6696

Жыл бұрын

You guys aren't wrong in your opinions. His life and Chris's have been lived in the public. These comments on KZread are as public as most people will ever get. Screw up publicly, apologize publicly is my philosophy 🤷🏾‍♂️. Maybe a shorter video but, ...my opinion.

'fogged out and fuzzy' is a pathetic attempt at obfuscation, rather than being honest, and saying at the time you didn't feel like you did anything wrong which is why you never apologised on stage. That is the obvious truth. He is being dishonest from the start.

@ayalewdessieabebe

Жыл бұрын

😂🤣 I think he has a hard expressing his feelings like Kanye west like he's bipolar. Or he's defending himself it's really hard for them to grasp reality for these types of people

The fact that he hired an entire camera crew for this speaks volume. I mean the dramatic panning of the camera to the fake sighing . This reeks acting. Oh yea I forgot he is this years best actor.

At the beginning of the apology, he says his behavior was “unacceptable” toward Chris Rock. He never says directly to CR, “I hurt you, caused you hurt or harm”. He says it to others, so far in the video, but not Chris. A bit disappointed by that.

@thetechconsultant

Жыл бұрын

He can’t say that. That’s assuming that he hurt him. And he can’t just make that assumption without talking to him first. I understand why you’d say it, but it would get ripped apart.

@paulstejskal

Жыл бұрын

He also said he reached out to Chris, so he wants to apologize directly I'm assuming.

@rustcohle9267

Жыл бұрын

He also reinforced that Chris who insulted him.

@fluffdumpling8515

Жыл бұрын

@@rustcohle9267 I thought it a compliment to be compared to Demi Moore who looked FABULOUS AND FIT in G I Jane. Will laughed his butt off till he caught Jada's eye roll.

Coached and his son went on social media praising his father for his actions.

@patriciawright8786

Жыл бұрын

Christine Madrazo--Will Smith's family sucks.

I believe Will trying to speak with Chris in person can be considered one item for "Follow Through With Concrete Action" but definitely would've liked to see how he intends to bring light and love into the world with the concrete actions... specially because that'd also reveal what that is for him / his definition of love and light. The Jada question appears to be the most triggering for him since he slipped something within the lines of "oh it was fully me out of my experiences and my experience with Chris"... To me that came across as "if you knew my history with Chris you'd understand the slap".

@MrYatesj1

Жыл бұрын

Interesting

@timleelim9930

Жыл бұрын

Which means he's nowhere near truly sorry, just sorry for what it's done to his career

@esosun7893

Жыл бұрын

Agree. I actually think that was again disrespectful to Chris. Their history is irrelevent. They both are professionals at a public event & Will assaulted Chris, but it does look like Jada is really pulling his string. Why did he find the joke funny at first? But I do think Will is so invested in his fucked up marriage that he can't think clearly

@gloriamcqueen2031

Жыл бұрын

So true

Will showed the whole world during prime time you can walk up on a stage anytime you want and assault the performer. AND not get arrested. Comics have had to up their security. Chapelle got tackled. What about all the performers who dont have the money for extra security? Will as an entertainer himself should have come out strong on that point to discourage copy cats. Trash apology bc he is so wrapped up with himself and the drama he doesnt see the real world impact.

@daviddarko5837

Жыл бұрын

The real world impact! Dude he slapped a man, he did not rape a child. Get over it...damn. He did not show the whole world nothing. Only one asshole tried that shit with Chapelle and we all saw what happened to that guy. Also comics have been struck before many times in the past 40 years for saying shit on stage some person in the crowd didn't like. Will isn't the first person to walk on a comic's stage and commit an act of violence, he's just the most famous.

@BigFattyNat

Жыл бұрын

@@daviddarko5837 we all saw what happened to the guy who attacked chapelle is right, so your saying Will should have gotten his ass kicked I agree. Bad bad look for the ultra wealthy to get away with crime when a normal person would be in jail and ruined financially.

@daviddarko5837

Жыл бұрын

@@BigFattyNat Please man, stop whining. Chris just didn't press charges. I hit someone a few years back and was off the hook because the person did the same for me. That said, money always changes the game. Don't know why people still bitching about that simple fact?

@neghiethervil5606

Жыл бұрын

🙄 Good grief. Comedians were getting attacked way before Will ever stepped on that stage. If anything, comedians are on notice that their words have consequences like everyone. Freedom of speech yeah, but be prepared to get a backhand or a soda can upside ur head. You weirdos act like Will slapped you personally. Newsflash! He doesn’t need you to forgive him. You were probably not even a real fan.

@daviddarko5837

Жыл бұрын

@@neghiethervil5606 The comment I've been waiting for 👍

I feel like he really is sorry, but more for everyone else he mentioned, including himself, than towards Chris. He still has some soul searching and work to do.

It misses the mark on 2 counts for me. He’s only apologizing for the action. He’s not thinking that he shouldn’t have felt insulted. He’s still perceiving the actions of Chris Rock as a “personal” insult. Which is completely the wrong way to look at this. And in doing so, he’s still trying to justify his feelings which are misplaced. His emphasis being on having let people down and not having failed Chris Rock, says the apology is more about the public than it is about Chris Rock. Which obviously to me this is PR. This isn’t some sort of let’s make this right with Chris. This is a let the public know I’ve reached out to Chris to talk so they maybe stop hating on me.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

It's not a perfect apology. You're right about that. I think he clearly apologized Rock on the first question, to Rock's mother, brother, and family. I didn't hear him hold anything back there. He seems legitimately disappointed in himself, like he's not the man he hoped he was. He answered two more questions, one about Jada and one about what people/fans think of him now. I do think that those are the other two key questions people have been asking. But, you're not wrong that there are very likely PR concerns going on here as well. I think any public figure would be thinking about that side of it.

@gabyg4818

Жыл бұрын

Disagree, I think he is actually sorry, and covered a lot of people, Chris Rock and Chris's family mainly. Regards at what he should be offended or not, nobody gets to dictate that... He was entitled to feel offended by proxy, since we don't know the struggle he's seen his wife go thru because of her alopecia.

@racegod69

Жыл бұрын

@@gabyg4818 he’s sorry that he slapped Chris on Tv which turned into a public issue. If this was happening behind closed doors, he’d be much less sorry. Hence the continued emphasis on how the “fans” view him. The guy is a narcissist and clearly continues to carry the weight of this bizarre marriage. As for him being offended, if you think jokes have limits then comedy may not be for you. Comedy is about pushing boundaries. Where’s Demi Moore’s outage because she’s some sort of bald standard? We aren’t all snowflakes.

@ron2971

Жыл бұрын

I can't speak to his intent and no one but him can because we can't read hearts or minds on the surface while not perfect he hit most of the right responses necssary, on the second point about misplaced feelings of being insulted no one is a position to make that determination, this same premise is how we invalidate ppl feeling leading to segregation and perpetrating of heinous crimes if we stopped one moment to get out of our own ass we would see things from someone else perspective and understand it whether or not we share that opinion/viewpoint. What is a joke to someone is death to another.

@helenjohnson7583

Жыл бұрын

@@ron2971 I think you’re right. We all have the tendency to view things from our limited perspective. And here we all look like narcissists as we critique others.

In summary, " Enough about you, Chris, what about ME?" I, me, my... Nothing to the effect of "Chris, you probably were so embarrassed or shocked or hurt or whatever". I heard no empathetic connection with the person he offended. He may have checked all the boxes of a "good apology", but isn't that the point of this video anyway? To check off the good apology box, so Will Smith can try to move on and feel better about himself? "C'mon, everyone.... You will forget all about this soon enough and we'll all be friends again... And you'll be spending money watching my movies so that I can continue to enjoy my life." I am all about forgiveness and second chances, but have a really hard time propping this up as heartfelt contrition. ( However I AM enjoying your channel, which I just discovered recently!)

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I see your point. You might be right. I'm not sure. If I were advising Smith, I would not have told him to do much of what you suggested, maybe in private he could have asked Chris how he felt about it. Publicly, though, it would have a high likelihood of making Rock seem weak. Rock hasn't spoken much about it since but from what he has said, he's already shaken it off and moved on. If Smith has talked about how embarrassed or hurt Rock was in this big public video post, it very likely could have backfired even worse on Smith. What you say is certainly a fair suggestion. It might have helped, but may have made things even worse, as if he were speaking for Rock.

@lisadiconti

Жыл бұрын

I agree. Good points.

@barbloft

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I definitely hear and understand your points. I also recognize that I approach this as a wildly emotion-driven person, which tends to color my responses. 😊

@missymani

Жыл бұрын

Exactly right. This is much more about himself and how he let down his family. He is obviously more sorry that he caused Jada embarrassment than Chris getting hit and humiliated by him.

@Roberto-kc8tx

Жыл бұрын

Sounds like you want Will to go to Chris grovelling on his hands and knees .... Men are Men and it should be enough to genuinely say sorry and its done.. !!!

If you ask me, he's sorry for he reaction he got from the world not his actions

@JoshSTATiX

Жыл бұрын

How do you know that

@Vanderful_life

Жыл бұрын

if you ask me it's a social distraction holywood cult drama

@julzHappy0

Жыл бұрын

Absolutly. He seems to still be proud of what he did.

He should be saying this in front of a judge at his sentencing hearing.

Great analysis of it Alex. However I don’t feel he actually hit the mark with the first check point - he should have thrown a light on the behaviour for what it was - an unacceptable act of violence against a fellow entertainer (and sure, we all know this). He skirted around this acknowledgement by referring to it generically as the “behaviour”. When it was mentioned later it was vicarious, distilled via the social media question and, in my opinion, lacking the impact it could have had. There were definitely sincere moments, he just didn’t need to rely so much on structuring his message to Chris (and his own fans) according the questions from social media.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I agree with you, Paul. If he'd say what you suggest at the very beginning (e.g., "slap," "violence," etc.) it would have made an improvement because they would have been his words directly rather than saying the word as part of the question.

@brentc4593

Жыл бұрын

I found it to be kiss a$$ central! This guy isn’t doing an authentic job because he doesn’t want to make an enemy of will Smith for whatever reason. But his analysis is pure garbage and I speak within a lot of experience in the field of non-verbal communication and also linguistics. How this guy didn’t focus in on how Will blamed Chris for him not being able to apologize to him directly is shocking and shows either a real lack of talent or a desire to go nice on Will in the hopes will will reach out and hire him for something one day. The great consensus for this video from Will and what people see is that he was being very inauthentic! A true apology doesn’t ever focus on the other person. You don’t say I want to say I’m sorry butttttttt..... but Chris wouldn’t talk to me so now I’m going to tell everyone to make me look like a victim now because Chris wouldn’t allow me to apologize to him, so now I have to make this video. A sincere and authentic apology makes no mention of the other person other than saying one is sorry for their actions and any harm they caused to them!

He sounds sincere, then again, he's a professional actor. 🤷‍♂🤷‍♂

The last line is what bugs me: “…if you hang on, I promise we can be friends again.” To me, it sounds like he’s saying HE, Will Smith, will ultimately decide if the two of them can ever be friends again.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

The last question was specifically about how his fans and the public feel about him know. His comment, "We can be friends again" was not at comment about Rock. If you watch it again, you'll see that he's responding to the question he read off right before he said that.

@CP-pe9ul

Жыл бұрын

Will apologised....Good, now he can crawl back under his rock (no pun) and take Jada with him.

Sounds to me like a conflicted apology. He's still struggling with what happened.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I think you are right. I don't have any proof of this but I think he's still having a hard time believing he did what he did. I think he shocked even himself when he slapped Rock. It's hard to accept that we're not the kind of person we thought we were.

@orlaspring363

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon I hope that's what it is. I wonder if he's still, on some level, thinking HE (Will) shouldn't have done it...but (in his mind) CHRIS deserved it.

There’s a difference between apologizing since you regret your wrong doing, and apologizing since you need to escape the consequences of your action.

@KelsMOMents

Жыл бұрын

Creating an apology video directly on his KZread channel and leaving the comment setting on willing to face more suffering is not escaping the consequences of his action.

That moment did define him. For me, when I see his image I see that action. Sadly, as a fan it broke my heart. It should not. Still, he was one of the few that seemed like a good guy.

@orlaspring363

Жыл бұрын

agreed

@xzonia1

Жыл бұрын

Will is a good guy, a good guy who's human. He let his emotions get the best of him. What he did was wrong, undeniably. He publicly assaulted Chris Rock for making a joke, something Rock was actually paid to stand up there and do. It would be more meaningful if Smith went to anger management classes or otherwise did something to atone for his action, but this apology is certainly a good first step. It means something to me to see him make this effort. So many people don't even do this much and admit they were wrong. He's demonstrating remorse and regret, and that at least is good. I think Smith should be grateful Rock has not pursued legal matters against him, as assault is a crime, and I hope he truly is re-evaluating how he handles situations and getting help to do better in the future. We all make mistakes. I can't judge Smith for what he did; it's not my place. I acknowledge it was a crime and he should not have done it. I do think he is a good guy who did a bad thing, and I hope in time he will prove he's trustworthy again to behave at public events and not cause harm to others like this. Chris Rock impresses me greatly for how he's handled this situation with class and decency. I wish both men well going forward.

@danielplainview2584

8 ай бұрын

If someone is a good guy in most areas and then makes a stupid mistake, does that make them a "bad" person? Or are those just labels we conveniently give to behavior to discourage or encourage it collectively?

Reading Will's book gave me alot of insight into his reactive nature. Great apology and he will continue to grow and learn. The shame vs guilt part so important to differentiate between

For me, this is nothing more than Mr. Smith looking for a way back into Hollywood. He comes off as narcissistic as his wife. He keeps distancing himself from what he's done. He doesn't want to feel shame? Seriously? Dude, you got up, walked across the stage and slapped a man across the face on national TV in front of an international audience, then you proceeded to scream and swear at the man! You should feel ashamed! You not only embarrassed yourself, but your family, friends, and especially Mr. Rock who handled himself like a true gentleman! You should thank him for not having you arrested for assault then suing the ever loving crap out of you. I realize my reply may sound harsh, however I'm just tired of people thinking that this kind of behavior can be brushed under the rug with a half a$$ed apology. Its not enough. Not only are millions of men and women abused every day, now we have to put up with celebrities thinking they can throw out some weak apology and everyone should just go, "jeepers, okey dokey then! It's ok to assault someone because....words!" It's not ok, it will NEVER BE OK! and saying "well, I'm just a human being is b.s." learn to control yourself, act like an adult!

@Kate-vt7zj

Жыл бұрын

Absolutely love yr comment. Well said. Couldn't agree more. 1000%

The fact that the victim (Chris) clearly stated that he is not ready for an apology or to hear Will and Will FORCED this stupid apology on him, is just one more sign of disrespect. Chris is a grown ass man, why continue to disrespect Chris's wishes and agency? I mean, what part of NOT NOW, I'LL contact YOU, did Will not get? Will is so gross.

@ayalewdessieabebe

Жыл бұрын

The slap looked scripted at 1st like it was fake. Have you seen Vlad or maino talk about it. In interviews

@Kate-vt7zj

Жыл бұрын

100% agree. When will he learn. The unsincere 'apology' screamed desperation.

such a great channel, thank you for your work!

I had pretty much written him off after Oscar night but after viewing and listening to his apology I want to be his friend again. Good on you Will.

He's sorry this affected his career. He's spent a lot of time putting this presentation together. He's got product placement in this video, a fake mic during a fake interview where he answers questions he and his production team wanted to pretend were the questions asked. This is not an apology video it is a career saving production. If you think this was a "Great apology through and through" then you are just enamored by production gimmicks.

@Cenot4ph

4 ай бұрын

He's a prick that's obvious

"He seems authentic" You're a communications coach? Wow, you must be high, this was the most insincere apology I've ever heard.

Two observations: As Alexander points out, it is true that "this is the first time that he has mentioned the word 'slap'." This suggests he finally has at least some appreciation of the actual offense he is apologizing for. Secondly, his statement that "There is no part of me that thinks that's the optimal way to handle a feeling of disrespect or insults." While he seems now to understand that his physical action was an inappropriate response to his feelings, his perception that what Chris said was "disrespect or insults" appears to be a blind spot still. What Chris said was neither an insult nor disrespect. It was a joke - and one which had nothing to do with what Will thought it did.

Thank you! That really changed my perspective!

Apologies are hard even when you know you are wrong. I know very few people who apologize. Fortunately, I know very few people who behave in such a way that requires an apology.

When you truly apologize to someone you remove your feelings completely out of the way; because you have wounded them. You want them to know that you truly care about them and genuinely sorry for what you did. It takes time and definitely patience.

Thank you Alex for this great review. 👍

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad you liked it. Thank you.

@xrl5579

Жыл бұрын

😊 Have a lovely weekend!

"I'm sorry that I didn't bring more merch to place in the background" -Will Smiff

Just love the jurors in the comment section. The people who never made a mistake in the last 25 years. You are blessed , keep on casting the stone

@mathetees

Жыл бұрын

It is not that people have not made a mistake, it is just that when us REGULAR people make mistakes there are real consequences. Like if anyone of us did that to someone we would have been arrested and put in jail for assault.

The fact that he could "go there" as if he's the center of the universe, tells me, apology, or not, he's has issues.

He's an actor. Of course he comes off as sincere. The fact that he waited this long is telling. I was waiting for him to end it with that silly head spin move

@aubreythompson1233

Жыл бұрын

Yeah, it’s telling that he’s ruminated on what happened.

Your video was very informative. Thank you. 💖

This was an excellent apology & not something that's easy to do. I'm glad he's taken the time & effort to do this properly. I need to take a leaf out of his book as I'm sure there's a few people over the years definitely should have but didn't apologise to! Thank you for doing this review, it is most helpful & a great template for how to really apologise. I have watched it twice now & I'm trying to learn how I can implement this in my own life. Thank you.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I’m glad it was helpful. I have a video from a few weeks ago about how to apologize the right way the first time. It uses the same checklist for and gives lots more examples. That video might be helpful as well.

@mkssounds

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon thank you 🙏

My heart breaks for him. I have seen the interview with jada and noticed the issues in his family as things have fallen apart. You can see he is falling apart inside and not sure how to gain control of himself. I want to see him actually stand up for himself. It is not mine to forgive. That is up to Rock and his family. I think we just witnessed a man break down in front of us.

@JD.727

Жыл бұрын

What about Chris Rock? Or is breaking down only worthy of sympathy when it's documented for us to see? The fact that we are witnesses to this "breakdown" as it is unfolding in front of cameras to be viewed publically, devalues it. Or it does for me anyway. I definitely see a man who feels real fear and remorse and is trying to actively solve what he's done. I just don't buy that it has anything to do with Chris Rock at all. I think he is not finished with a career that he worries might be finished with him and is desperately doing damage control. CR chose not to participate in that. Maybe he didn't want to give him a chance to claim he'd made an apology and feel pressure to accept when he's not ready, maybe he's still hurt, maybe he is just trying to move on. Whatever the reason is, the show has gone on without his involvement. That says to me that CR is not the focus of the reparations Will Smith wants to make. Hollywood is. The internet is. His reputation is. We are.

@Brandon-fv5sm

Жыл бұрын

@@JD.727 I can see your point. I don’t know if it devalues it for me but I do find it sad. I was only looking at Smith because he is the one issuing the apology and I can totally see what you are saying. The issue with CR is totally separate in many ways. I think what we are witnessing is Smith’s own break down and he did it in front of everyone. I would not be surprised if CR chose to just stay out of all this and let Smith figure his own crap out. And I would understand why too. I don’t think he needs to do anything unless he wants to address it on his own terms. I actually admire the way he has handled it. Just let Smith sink or swim on his own.

@JD.727

Жыл бұрын

@@Brandon-fv5sm Totally agree. A lot of it is sad. Even the fact that such a sincere sounding apology brings suspicion that it's some kind of tactic is sad. Who knows how much is genuine and what his motivations are? Maybe he doesn't even know. When you perform your whole life, I wonder if it makes it hard to identify your real feelings vs the feelings you are expected to perform. And then if you are good at masking your personal emotions, do you then have to relearn how to identify and then perform those so they seem as genuine as they are? The whole industry seems fairly toxic. That being said, this is definitely a well crafted video, from the light directly behind his head giving him a halo, to the all white hat and tshirt. I do feel manipulated into feeling a certain way, just like he does in character, and like actors often are by their industry. Idk about you, but this just seems like a good reminder not to feel too attached to celebrities and be very thankful I'm not one.

Jada didn’t ‘say’ anything maybe, but he laughed at the extremely lighthearted joke and then looked at her. She has, in my opinion essentially humiliated him, without responsibility of her mistakes or respectful of boundaries (like filming him for social media etc). Nor any kind of ambassador for people with her condition. None are excuses of course but I see his trauma from a mile away. You have a rough childhood and then find yourself later in a traumatic situation too complex to simply get out of. One day you will absolutely snap. Many days you might. I couldn’t imagine being in the spotlight on

An excellent review of the matter, not only in content, but in style!

Even if you apologize 10 times people are going to remember that one thing and it won’t ever go away..! I mean many people don’t know he won an Oscar that night but they do know he slapped Chris Rock.

@evelyntaylor4470

Жыл бұрын

An Oscar he didn't deserve. Never been a fan of his acting. Anyone of the other nominees are much better actor more deserving. SMH! I haven't watched the award shows in 30 years. They are not worthy. They are a joke!!

@Suelorie

Жыл бұрын

because people love to hold on to the drama . Chris rock can insult, make nasty comments in the name of humour but god forbid somebody take offense and retaliate- I am surprised more offensive comedians don't get hit more often. Darned Americans many of you defend the insurectionist of Jan 6 but condemn a man for a slap that caused minimal damage-there is no logic to it!

@timleelim9930

Жыл бұрын

I won an Oscar for my work on King Richard and accepted the award by acting like king dickhead seems to be his story

@BlueskyDenver

Жыл бұрын

@@Suelorie well glad you are perfect but I have to say you can’t close your eyes to someone assaulting another person and forgetting it and giving that person a pass. Personal responsibility for one’s behavior and actions is a must. And Chris rock was making jokes and jabs at a lot of people who were attending and they didn’t all start swinging at Chris rock or punching him. It is comedy ..,it wasn’t intended to be taken seriously. Honestly if you can’t find humor and laugh in life you be way too sad and depressed. Some people find humor even when their lives are very depressing and difficult. Shoot I mean if we all go slap people every time someone says things that we don’t like we all be in jail for assaults. Will Smith is lucky Chris didn’t file assault charges against him..! Some people would of taken him to court..!

@DamolaAdenle

Жыл бұрын

@@BlueskyDenver So, Chris is suing... Do you wanna?

"Disappointing people is my central trauma", which means the central point of his apology was that he was sorry for disappointing his fans. I thought it was strange. I still think Will Smith should have given Chris the most significant focal point of an apology. For actors and comedians, the fans are the most essential part of their carrier, so letting them down affects their future success. I don't know how Will Smith will make up the situation, he should think about Chris' future carrier as a standing-up comedian. I wonder how Chris will recover from this incident and start making jokes again.

Love your work here. There is a lot of X+1=Y, where X is how much apology is offered and Y is how much others, even -- or especially -- non-participants, require.

I love the different perspective. I just watched a body language expert that had an opposite analysis. But he was looking at things from a different perspective of sincerity. This was more about PR and communicating his point effectively.

@fluffdumpling8515

Жыл бұрын

I thought Will's performance insincere and self serving. How many versions of 'sincere' are there?

@eon001

Жыл бұрын

@@fluffdumpling8515 Yea re-watching it, and seeing the body language expert's analysis makes me look at the apology differently. It really just feels like a PR move.

Mr. Smith may have found out that you might dance the night a way after slapping the host of the Academy awards , but it has financial consequence. A mistake is being too quick in a decision that can cause problems. Will didn’t make a mistake, he cursed from the audience and then got up assaulted Chris Rock. I can’t do that in my line of work , make a public apology, after assaulting a peer , without having sever consequences.

@LukeSumIpsePatremTe

Жыл бұрын

Damn the consequences. He should have punched Chris.

No part of me thinks that was the right way to handle being disrespected or insulted...well, he seems to still think he was 'retaliating', sounds like he still think this was justified. Didnt live up to peoples image of ME, im trying not to think of MYSELF as a piece of shit, me, me, me...all of a sudden, he's the victim🤷🏿‍♂️

@timleelim9930

Жыл бұрын

So says Rock when he saw this sorry not sorry. In the end, that man's view counts for their relationship. Smith did this for his audience, not Rock.

@agdcomms9058

Жыл бұрын

@@timleelim9930 exactly!

This is the most authentic apology I’ve seen in a very long time Demi and Travis need to take notes

Actions will ALWAYS speak louder than words. His slap spoke louder than any word. His twice yelled, repeated, demand were deep soul punches that were, and will be, felt in anyone with ears. Psychological hits last way longer than physical wounds and take much more finesse to heal properly. His lack of real action is also speaking louder than any word. If you throw a plate against the wall and break it... it takes much more than an apology to put it back together. It takes REAL action for the solution/s. Words are not actions and they fix nothing but can break so much.

Everyone deserves a second chance, so long as they put in the work and try their best not to repeat.

@noless

Жыл бұрын

In 1989 Will told his bodyguard to beat up a promoter who almost lost his eye from the beating. So this will be Smith's third chance.

@MikeF031

Жыл бұрын

@@noless We have all made more mistakes than we'd care to admit. But when you see someone may be genuinely trying to be better, forgiveness may be necessary.

@noless

Жыл бұрын

@@MikeF031 So how many chances should a privileged person like Will Smith get? His career should be over now. He's been famous for decades and is a multi millionare. He'll do fine.

@MikeF031

Жыл бұрын

@@noless Not sure how much money has to do with it. People are people. I'd say publicly, Will is on thin ice and I think he knows that. If he pulls another stunt like he did at the award show then I'd give up on him as a decent person but as of now, only time can tell.

@noless

Жыл бұрын

@@MikeF031 Celebrities are almost above the law in America. What Smith did would land him in jail if he wasn't a famous actor.

Omg is incredible how cruel people can be and how hard to accept an apology. I truly feel he is in pain and he really sorry. I feel really bad for him, this is a cruel World and everybody thinks they would do better.

@laurenedmunds6278

Жыл бұрын

Lol people are so dramatic. The man disrespected his wife and and he reacted. Get over it 🤷

So much to learn on this show , very interesting!

What about the part where Will said, "I'm trying not to feel ashamed ". That statement negates the entire apology as to being genuine. He SHOULD be ashamed. In fact, it's essential.

I do think it is very difficult for many of us to say sorry, sincerely... and in the public eye - even harder. I think he means it in as far as he is doing his best to be a loving human being and the weight of disapproval can be crushing ... still I feel he is over rationalising his actions. We don't need to hear about his trauma at this point. Just say sorry, I messed up big time ... we are all responsible for our actions no matter whats been done to us. And by the way, he didn't punch him ! Both mens pride was hurt.

@marcwilliams9824

Жыл бұрын

It's really not difficult to say sorry if you feel sorry.

He probably hired somebody to write the apology for him.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Could be. I don't think it was written for him, though. I'm sure he had some people read over his talking points beforehand. I doesn't sound to me overly scripted, however. Just my view.

@MA_KA_PA_TIE

Жыл бұрын

Probably hired his wife's boyfriend.

@MA_KA_PA_TIE

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon his wife's boyfriend and his sons boyfriend read it over for him.

@julzHappy0

Жыл бұрын

And they did a bad job….

He appeared to be authentic. But...a true apology is not given by saying "I apologize". It first starts by saying "I am deeply sorry". Hearing those words can make a huge difference, because they normally come from the heart.

But he never named what he did....slapping Chris. He talks about the "moment." He speaks of Chris's insult, but he never says he was wrong for slapping Chris.

no it was insincere right when he needed a cameraman and a mic and multiple angles of his apology video. he's an actor. this is an act.

@LtFoodstamp

Жыл бұрын

Very staged.

I think that people in the comments are overreacting, tbh. I believe he absolutely is sorry for how he handled the situation, he knows that the choice to be physical was a mistake. He was more genuine when apologizing to Chris's family, and to his family, and to his fans than he was when apologizing to Chris. But he was still genuine. It's clear he feels he has a history with Chris Rock that is likely negative, and that he genuinely felt very angry and protective of his wife for a (potentially good) reason. So yeah, there's some mild reservation in his apology to Chris Rock, but it was still genuine. He knows he did the wrong thing and it was out of character to begin with, so it's very unlikely he'll ever repeat that behaviour. Is he sorry for defending his wife at all, probably not, does he feel Rock is void of any wrongdoing, probably not, but he is definitely sorry for choosing violence instead of words. What else do people want? Yeah, he screwed up a lot with this single event. The thing about celebrities is when they hit a breaking point we often get to see them at their worst, but he knows it was wrong and shows loads of markers of regret and compassion.

Why do people want to hear him say I'M SORRY so bad? My Mom taught us not to say that we're sorry but that we apologize. Because we are not sorry. We are taking accountability and responsibility for our action. But we're NOT sorry. Words have power. The man has apologized at least 3 times now. I hope he doesn't apologize anymore, unless it's directly to Chris Rock.

He's an actor doing maximum damage control....this had to be rehearsed a number of times.

There is people we ho have done way more irreparable damage, and not even apologize for it. I think he did fine.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

You make a good point, RG. Many high-profile figures laugh it off, pretend it never happened, or never admit to any wrongdoing. I give credit to Smith for stepping up trying do do his best here.

@strauqq1

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon lol do you work for Will? He's supposed to get a cookie for a BS apology. If someone did that to you they would be booked.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

I think Rock would have been fully justified in pressing charges. In fact, I take Chris Rock's side in all of this. But this video is not about whose side I'm on. I'm only focusing on the video that we're all just looked at. You think it's a BS apology and that's a valid opinion.

@freshprinz9829

Жыл бұрын

@@strauqq1 why are you so angry tho lol more mad than the dude that got slapped lol Yall KEVINS AND KARENS something else 😂

@freshprinz9829

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon yeah you also missing the fact that hes been taking shots at the smiths for years especially jada it reached a boiling point assault is assault will smith was dead wrong but we aint gonna act like comedians don’t humiliate people with dark humor everyday both sides wrong one guy just got slapped for running his mouth way i see it

The real question is, after 3 public apologies, even if they are imperfect, is how many people are able to be as forgiving as they expect Will to be apologetic… And if not, do they struggle with feeling like a “piece of crap” at their failure to forgive?

@JP-rz2vt

Жыл бұрын

I believe that he is truly sorry. I felt that he gave the best apology that he knew how to. He’s not perfect none of us are. It’s time to heal and move on from this with a new respect for the devastating consequences of thoughtless actions :(

Love your analysis of Will's apologize. It resonates with me and I hope to use these tips myself.

that's was an excellent video, Alex!

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Alexandre.

It's so nice to have found a channel that I think is actually helping me to live a better life. Your check boxes give such a nice framework to help me think through my own communicative exchanges Thanks for what you do, Professor. God bless.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thanks, Bikingscape. I appreciate that. God bless you too.

Agreed with almost every comment, however I have not seen an apology from Chris Rock to Jada or heard anyone saying that he should also apologize. We all need to understand that not everything can be subject to a joke... and about freedom of speach, or any other kind of freedom, these also have boundaries, and those are when other people's own freedoms are coerced. Peace, life and love

@jadepaulsen8456

Жыл бұрын

Apologize to jada??? For what?

How can ANY analysis of the 'performance' of this taped apology NOT begin with the Narrator addressing that Will Smith is an award-winning ACTOR! He knows how to deliver a line. He may have had dozens of people aid him in the preparation and execution of this video apology. Of course a Crisis Mgmt expert, and a celebrity PR Rep, and a Script/ screen writer, and a Producer/ Director can create a near flawless output. Then the Actor just has to deliver the lines. The Narrator seems to dismiss the influence from all of those potential sources.

I do love your analysis Prof.😊👍

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Glad you like it, Abraham. I appreciate your positive feedback.

For me, I see both Rock and Smith as victims. Obviously Rock did not deserve this, and Smith was absolutely in the wrong for what he did, but I have been worried about Smith for a while now. From all I've seen in various interviews and discussions regarding Jada and Will's marriage it seems to me that Jada is quite abusive and has hurt Will deeply. Every time I watch the clip of that event I see a wounded man drowning in a toxic relationship, lashing out in pain and confusion. That in no way justifies Will's behavior, or excuses his actions. All I am saying is that I feel for Will Smith, and I hope one day he finds peace and happiness.

@call_in_sick

Жыл бұрын

Victims 😂😂😂

@julians7268

Жыл бұрын

@@call_in_sick ... keep reading.

@call_in_sick

Жыл бұрын

@@julians7268 I read it. I don’t buy the victim bs. Regardless of his relationship with his wife you do not assault other people. That’s what children do - lack boundaries.

@jackiebd24

Жыл бұрын

Yes. Smith is a victim and Jada is the abuser. She is mentally and emotionally abusive. But I don't think Smith realizes he's in a toxic relationship or that he is the victim in that relationship.

@julians7268

Жыл бұрын

@@call_in_sick which is why I said in paragraph two that it in no way justified Will's behavior. I'm not saying they were both victims on that night, just that when I see Will Smith I also see a victim. Jada continuously humiliates Will and shits on his attempts at pleasing her. It's truly painful to see.

I was looking for something along the lines of "I should not have physically attacked Chris, and should have been arrested that night." Yet he still seems to skirt his violent behavior. The fact that he said "I" so many times just gives me narrasistic vibes. His actions were so disgusting and embarrassing that night, it's hard to get past it. I don't wish him to be black listed from Hollywood, but he needs to suffer for a while longer imo.

@cherb23

Жыл бұрын

nobody would ask to be arrested

@richardlebeda6363

Жыл бұрын

The point that you want for him "the suffer".. I Know, You are not good person to be friend with. You intentionally ignore his honest speach with amazing Apology "Backed by profesional" just Because in your inner world and your inner subjective laws, rules and view on the world he did not take enough damage FOR YOU, so YOU can say something like you worte here. I will tell you something : That is disgusting!! You just revealed how rotten your heart is and your intentions too. All you want for him is to suffer.. That says alot about you.

@kaecake9575

Жыл бұрын

I watched "Parking Wars" since it came out. Yeah that Philadelphia ego is a real thing

@ichi8017

Жыл бұрын

@@cherb23 Exactly that's stupid and it comes from a person who NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY OR DO they just want to have something against you. So, this comment is totally off.

@richardlebeda6363

Жыл бұрын

@@ichi8017 Exactly :D He will always find what he needs in order to connect his thoughts with his rotten heart. You can be the best and the most kind, inteligent person on this earth, but if he will see one single hair off your hair style... He will go like: HE IS SOOO UGLY AND HE SURE DID NOT SPENT TIME DO MAKE HIMSELF PRETTY, LOOK AT HIS HAIR!! IF HE CANNOT TAKE CARE OF HIMSELF, HE IS NOT ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF OTHERS.. WHAT A UGLY FAKE HUMMAN!.. 🙉🙊🙈🙈🙃🙃🙃🙃

How sincere and inspirational 🤥

I agree w your evaluation, coach; I heard his heart! 🌸

I’m a Will Smith fan and I’m still a little disappointed at him not being able to control himself, but I will say that what he said about about trying to “be remorseful without being ashamed” of himself really resonated with me. I have felt that in my own life, and I understand it. When it comes down to it, I believe everything that he said in this video and I give him credit for it, too. It might take a little bit, but I can see him finding his way back into people’s hearts eventually. ps I do think that he should’ve been escorted out of the Oscars immediately, and I agree with the 10 year ban. When someone does something like this, there should be repercussions, if only to discourage others from that kind of behavior in the future. They can’t let things like this slide.

This 'apology' or better said...this effort to keep himself relevant and/or revive his career, is coming far too late!!! C'mon!!! Heartfelt or not it's just too late no matter how sincere. The apology can be appreciated and all can and should be forgiven if requested but at this point an apology is just an effort save himself. Nauseating what transpired that night...Will, Jada and their son who went to social media so proudly afterward as well as those who backed this horrendous act of ego and cowardly behavior. Huge Will Smith fan here and he is human but this is just too late...too late!

Thank you so much for looking at this 3rd apology from Will. I would have never listened to it. I am so grateful for your honesty and expertise! I have been so sad about Will, and I am more than happy to wait for him to be our friend again. I think he did an awesome job, PLEASE KNOW YOU ARE FORGIVEN WILL and when he said if we wait he thinks we will be friends again, I CRIED....Will I am still your friend! Don't feel bad about you, please! We see your heart through this statement your, and I recognize you....hanging on!

I just recently stumbled on your content and I enjoy it very much. I was wondering if you would cover Jello Biafra and Tipper Gores debate on Oprah’s show. I think it would be a very interesting break down.

The apology seemed heartfelt and sincere.

You always wonder what's his motive? Did he get turned down for a part in a new movie... Does he want to return to the Oscars? How sincere is He? Why wait this long? We've moved on! Does he need the publicity? It's a PR thing!

@StompMom5

Жыл бұрын

He's been replaced in two movies and as TV series. So yeah his career is pretty much over for a while anyways.

Just another example of what a good actor he is with his professional camera and sound crew and his pr people wrote a good apology, he delivered it as the professional actor he is

He sounds sincere, and like a gentleman to me.

Alex, I watched the most recent documentaries that Will has done. When Will was losing weight and writing his book it showed him at his all time low. This apology is 100% coming from Will's heart. He made a major mistake infront of the world and is owning up to it. From my personal life experiences I used to party and drink a bunch before I retired from the Military. I was hiding my PTSD with Alcohol. After I stopped drinking I thought about how I acted and apologized to friends and family. They asked me if I was in AA or had gotten into trouble. I told them no and I couldn't stop thinking how I used alcohol to hide from my personal demons. For me I love life more than ever and want the best for both my wife and son. We all make mistakes, owning up to them is extremely hard. But after you bring them to light it lifts so much weight off your shoulders. Thank you for everything you do.

@alexanderlyon

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing your heartfelt story, Spreewerks. I admire your courage to apologize and try to make things right. Sounds like you're heading in the right direction now. I wish you and your family the best.

@spreewerks885

Жыл бұрын

@@alexanderlyon Of course and thank you for taking the time to reply back. I also wish the best to you and your family.

Had I been Chris Rock, it would take me YEARS to forgive and forget, despite this beautiful apology. I see this slap as such a huge insult for Chris Rock, and such a wrecking ball for the other nominees whose once-in-a-lifetime experience was tarnished forever, that nothing Smith will say can soften the blow. It'll take YEARS. Only a long time will heal them.

@mr83961

Жыл бұрын

Seriously? Years? Thats a bit over the top... and Chris Rock insulted Jada, its not like he is completely innocent here.

@fluffdumpling8515

Жыл бұрын

Seriously? What insult is it to be compared to Demi Moore at her most fabulous and fit body and face? Jada shaves her head ... just like Demi did for GI Jane. With alopecia sufferers hair comes out in clumps and leaves shiny bald spots that never grow hair again. Jada has stubble, not shiny great hairless bits.

So, his sincerity seems undeniable. On the other hand: 1. I believe le likely had the questions in advance. 2. He communicated like he did not have the questions in advance. "ummm" 3. He is a great actor. So, I'm conflicted in my belief of his sincerity. As far as the Alex's video goes: It serves Alex purpose either way.