You seem like a very nice, well adjusted guy. And I bet that has to do with the great family you’re a part of. I hope you have a great future!

Benja thank God for your aunt you’re a very lucky man many kids who come out of their parents don’t have the same luck and don’t have the same ally within their family. I’m glad you do.

Your brother will be your best friend, always. He got it. He didn't hesitate. None of the bull crap of having to digest it or saying that he loves you in spite of it. Total admiration on his part, if he's writing an important paper about you. With him, the only thing that's changed, is you'll have, a boyfriend, not a girl ! I have the feeling , that he will be super protective of you!

I know I'm many years late to the party because I'm just seeing this video for the first time but thumbs up good job. I'm glad your mother came around and very happy that's your brother was so accepting

Awesome you family has been supportive. Your Grandparents may surprise you. Often Grandparents are at an age where they realize life is too short. They just want you to be happy. Best of luck.

Omg I'm so proud of you for coming out and Ik your family will come around with time

My mum was the same, didnt talk to me for a few weeks but months later she opened her arms to my BF, and was amazing

I am so glad for you! Your an amazing guy....hang in there Benja👍👍

You should definitely consider creating more content.. a guy as handsome and humble as you could easily get lots of followers. 😄 I'm glad it went so well for you, and thx for your honesty! Actually I couldn't sleep last night because of your intense story, because it made me remember details of my own coming out I hadn't thought about in years. 🙈

I am glad it went so well for you, congrats!

i'm so happy for you, times were different when i was your age. Thankfully times have changed. Big hugs to you.

Congratulations for you and your mom and aunt! And your brother seems really nice guy!

Wow, that's the first time I've ever seen "Benja" as a nickname. How cool! Plenty of others (I've always gone by Ben except for one as a very little kid.) One very old preacher friend of the family used to call me Benny. So I've never been Benji either. (Woof? I wouldn't mind that one.) But Benja, that surprises me! How very cool! Interesting, just that little bit different. -- Good for you for coming out. I hope it all goes great for you. I wish I could've come out way earlier.

It is nice to hear a positive story. Now we're just waiting for the world to change.

Thanks for sharing your story. Hugs from Colorado.

Congrats!!! I'm from SC too, not the most accepting place.

Im so happy everything turned out well for you! :] (P.S. more videos please!)

Congrats man! Beat me to it :)

Great story and you are confident!

Good for you!

Great job!!! you're awesome XD

congratulations 💕😺💕

nice!! make more videos I love them!!

I saw two beautiful things today: you and your video. Good job.

Benja, congratulations! I am happy your experience was so positive. You didn't say anything about your dad, was he part of this process? Sorry if I am being too nosy. I watched your other coming out video and then this one and I have to say, you are a very good, engaging storyteller. The best of luck to you in college and your life. You seem to be a really nice, sincere, quality person. Your family should be quite proud of you. :-) Terence

Another step in the journey. May they all be as easy.

Thank you for sharing !

I've been waiting for a new video!!!!! Yes!

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

Yeah sorry.... It took me a while but I finally came out enough to make a new video!

@Theonethatgotaway1234

7 жыл бұрын

+Benja you're good!! :)

@chetanvinayak6799

4 ай бұрын

@@benja5050 hi first of all I want to say many many congratulations 🥂 to you coming out to your family that’s amazing 🤩 so proud of you my name is Chetan guess what I am gay tooo nice to meet you how exciting to know about you I came out few years ago my parents were horrible and very nasty 🤢 I can certainly share my coming out story with you they is a saying love ❤ is love ❤

Really glad from you, Benja! You didn't say much about how you feel, now that your out to some family, but I hope freer and authentic. You know them best, but don't set your expectations against your grandparents. They may not be prone to talk easily about gayness, but they've been around a long time and seen the changes this century. All the best to you as you live proud!

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

That is very true.... Hopefully they will have been exposed enough to it by now that it won't be as big of a deal to them!

I loved this! I'm posting my video on Monday

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

I'm looking forward to it!

That’s so sweet that your brother wrote his college admissions essay on you.

Thank you for making this video. I live in the same region of South Carolina that you live in and I'm a high schooler trying to come out to my parents.

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

Good Luck! A lot has changed over the past few years in SC so hopefully everything will go smoothly for you. Best wishes :)

awesome brother ;-)

Awesome video! Thanx for sharing! =D

I’m really proud of you for coming out. I hope one day you come back to KZread and update some of your fans. 😁🏳️‍🌈🤙🏽

I wish u hapiness in your life

Good for your bravery! Great story and you have a great personality! But you didn’t mention your dad’s reaction. I assume he immediately accepted this? Would love to know more. Thanks.

great job. 😊

More volume. Thanks. Keep up the good work.

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

I'll do my best!

I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

Best wishesX

Hello Benja, love your videos! Any plans to upload a new one soon? 😉

Thanks 4 your video 💖💖

Hello, haven’t noticed any new posts.😮just wondering how you are doing? Finished with school? Has your life changed much? You seem like such a nice guy, I was concerned with how you were doing? Have you traveled much. By the way, I ❤ LA

niiiiiiiiice🙏

If you haven't come out to the Grand'rents yet, just know that much of the research and just story after story where the Grand'rents take it better than the parents. I would think that wouldn't necessarily be true if the Grand'rents were members of an uber. Orthodox to fanatical in ideology, then it's not about you as a person. You sound like you're in a really good place. I admire your poise and presence. Good Luck with your movement forward.

Howd your dad take the news?

How about an update please.

Hi , how you doing so long no hear ? ‘

Your mom should watch Matt and Blue

@camroncordell7956

7 жыл бұрын

yes i love them

@SeanShimamoto

5 жыл бұрын

IW Nunn Yup! I love that they’re just two regular dudes. It goes to show you that gay couples really don’t have to be any different than straight couples. Their son Crow is so ADORABLE too!

The volume on this video is low. I have my speakers all the way up and it is not enough. Putting the old headphones on doesn't help at all.

Check what the normal volume level is for most videos and match them. We are not please in having to turn up the volume and then back down again because guys like you forget you have a volume control knob.

Hello you are fantastic boys

Good job, Congratulations. There is a another KZreadr that is from South Carolina who is gay and I was wondering if you have seen his channel? Ryan Cole.

@benja5050

7 жыл бұрын

Hmmm, no i haven't. But I will check him out! Thanks for the suggestion :)

your so cute

yourgreatlookingkid

I hope you understand how lucky you are to be able to come out at this time period . It wasn't that long ago, that most gay (lgbt) yourh , had to lead double lives.straight at home, with friends and family and gay, somewhere else. Or, living in the closet. There was little or no middle ground. . Coming out, wasn't even a thought in the back of your mind. Lots of confused people got married..sad for them and who they wed. Things, aren't perfect yet, but it's a good and healthy start . Advice to kids,at risk .don't come out, until you get help. Best place for that, is at an LGBT center or from an anomous, call/help lines.. have a safe, backup plan. YOU AREN'T ALONE.

Hey Benja, I enjoyed your story. I could feel the stress you were going through by the way you narrated your story. I'm glad it all finally went well for you. As an old guy who came out decades ago, I finally got the urge to record my story ffrom watching so many others on here. It's a bit longer but has some rather funny moments and if you're interested, give it a watch: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iIiHr9CKgarIcs4.html

For parents and relatives: When a kid/teen comes out to you, understand that they have been dealing with those feelings, and often afraid of people rejecting them, especially the people they love the most. If they have gotten up the courage to tell you they are gay, it may be one of the hardest things they have ever hd to do. If you truly love your child, accept them. Try to understand them. Work on it. Look into what it means to be gay or not straight. Research. Maybe you are shocked. But chances are, there have been clues all along, from early childhood, that your child is gay. It is just as subtle for gay kids as it is for straight kids, when it first starts being noticeable to them that they like someone. It develops in much the same way straight kids develop their feelings for others. Remember how you were as a kid? "Ooh, girls / boys have cooties!" But then when you got a little older, there were those puppy-love feelings, then growing stronger feelings, until oh my, boy-crazy or girl-crazy in your teens, dating, and onward. But gay kids/teens often are struggling with their feelings, and so they are often delayed in getting to express that, because by around the start of their teens, they have already absorbed that message at home, school, church, everywhere, of homophobia. They know they have those feelings, they're strong sometimes and subtle at others, but increasingly there. Eventually, it reaches the point where they have to come out, be with someone, or burst...or sometimes fall into depression or self-destructive behavior if they are too afraid to express their feelings with others. To people who are too shocked and think it's so wrong, I'd ask you to think about this: Which would you rather have, a good relationship with your child going into adulthood, happy and healthy and loved, loving's them still, sharing their life, knowing they can have love with someone who loves them, a partner? -- Or would you rather that they are not in your life at all, cut off, disowned, kicked out? -- Or would you really rather go to your child's funeral and have to bury that broken body, at some age far too early? I ask, because it does happen. That isn't exaggeration. It is to get you to think. Do you really love your child, or is it conditional on whether they meet your expectations, such as being straight or gay? -- I could never talk to my parents about being gay. Not about myself, and not when friends or classmates were rumored to be gay, or beaten up, or self-harmed because they had come to feel they had nowhere to turn, no one to love them. It is as simple as that. I would hope any parent or relative would love their child enough to accept them, gay and all, and work it out for themselves how it is that gay people do indeed exist, no matter what anyone thinks about it. -- If you love your kid, then love them, gay and all, and rejoice that they want you to be a part of their lives. Or risk losing them. Simple as that. -- Far better to love and accept and understand them, and rethink and research it. The only difference is, gay folks want to love someone of the same sex. It boils down to that. Gay folks just want love the same as straight folks, only with someone of the same sex instead of the opposite sex. -- Don't lose your kid because they felt so rejected and excluded, and please don't lose them because they died for it. No one should have to die for wanting love. -- I believe my parents chose not to see that I was gay, chose not to deal with it, and therefore never once let me know they were OK with me for that, in any way I ever understood. In most other ways they were good parents, except over-controlling. It came to be a thing always between us, as much as I loved them and they loved me. I didn't come out until after they were gone. I missed much of my life, alone without someone to love, because I didn't come out sooner and struggled with it so much. You don't want your child to go through that kind of loneliness and anguish. Accept them for who they are. They've trusted you with this part of themselves at their very core, who they love. Accept them and get to share their lives.