I have noticed that when people come out, not only do they change their lives but also give permission to others to have the confidence to come out as well.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Yeah well not permission just encouragement it improve your quality of life so much and just helps you to be your self around people

@ErikaCupcake

8 жыл бұрын

Yesss! :)

Courtney because you have been on your journey, you now are in a position to make a difference on someone else's journey. This was a great video to see. You too benefit as well because you are growing and changing yourself. May all be well with you.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+OLDS98 thank you well thats the plan s i start to get bigger i can help those who need it

Good Job. It's nice to hear a positive story from a positive person. I think it's helpful to many. Thanks!

I'm in the middle of the process and I did it just like you, friends first and family next. Now I'm more confident about myself, I know what I want. I am ready for this beautiful life. #GoBiPower #ForeverUnicorn

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Go you all the support bro be yourself love yourself and live the life you want

These videos are great and I'm glad more of these videos are getting made for people that are questioning to see. Great video Courtney :) x

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you yeah I want to start approaching the topic more

aw this is going to help so many people, and really uplifting! And love your slippers! :)

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Anna Maria Hugo than you im trying to just help some people out and if it helps just one then im happy

looking back at where I was a year ago till now it the craziest thing!! I remember watching your video and it helped me so much :) happier than ever now

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Iain A I'm so happy for you im so happy my little video could have such a big impact on your life

Things like that can help a lot thanks for being a great friend abd helping love and kisses

You are just a super nice person with a great way of speaking. I love your vids and appreciate that you share your life with us. Your trip to Cyprus was cool.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+nexttsar thanks man im glad you watched the whole trip only thing which sucks is that people didnt watch all of them i know vlogging isnt for everyone but i spent about 40 hours editing the whole trip so thank you for your support

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+BornToBeTame yeah well they arnt for everyone im happy i made them though i took loads of photos out there and had loads of footage i didnt put up and stupid me my hard drive corrupted in my laptop lost it all so these videos are all i have from my holiday now

I came out in 8th grade to very positive reviews from my family and friends, and a little bit of negativity from others. I remember being bullied, but most of was just slang terms and insults that, now, don't really bother me. All in all though, I think that I got very lucky with my experience coming out, especially since I lived in a small bible belt in texas.

so i've told you my story now its time to share yours lets make this a place some where we can all share and help each other, a like whether old or young we can all make a difference.

@user-yp7yv4ok4t

8 жыл бұрын

It's amazing what you're doing for people, you're such an inspiration!!! 😍😍

@ethanmoore3774

8 жыл бұрын

What an amazing video! As an out gay, its always great to see inspirational videos like this being published.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Ethan Moore I'm just trying to help people out I know it's not easy for everyone

@gillcharles3261

8 жыл бұрын

I think you're awesome ❤️. Thankyou for helping others on this difficult journey, I know my grandson loves your channel and your videos, he's having a hard time at the moment. He came out at school and here on you tube and gets a lot of hate and is bullied a lot. It would be great if people could go show him some support and let him know there's lots of good people out there. He puts a lot of effort into his videos, his channel is MakeupGeekKian1.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Gill Charles I love his videos hes awesome I always trying watch them he's so cool he seems quite young which make extraordinary for coming out and tell him I'm always here if he needs a chat it gets better u just need the right fans if it was me and I was there I'd kick the butts of people who pick on him I hate bullies I was bullied a lot in school but above all things it builds character I'm actually thankful that I got bullied because it's the reason why I don't judge people and it's the reason why I'm the person I am today

SO glad I just found your channel! You're awesomeeeee

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Awwwwe thank you your awesome your the one who subscribed haha

Wise kid, and honest indeed!

Hey! Just watched this video and i gotta say its one of the best coming out video!! Yup i clicked the like and subscribe button keep it up Courtney!! Love you as always~~

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Well thank u I'm glad I enjoy my content

So I just came out to my mom about me being gay I was very nervous well I still am nervous she told me that it was alright and that it didn't matter what I am but that sh still loves me for who I am she is happy that I have shared who I am with her. I don't know how I am going to tell the rest of my family. I guess I'll just wing it.

Excellent videos

Love you!!! ❤️

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

thanks guy your too kind

Courtney you're so kind and beautiful inside and out.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Your very kind I just feel like a lot of people could use some help

SHAUN THE SHEEP!!!!! sorry i cant get over the slippers lol Awesome advice Cj :)

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+NalsB shaun the sheep is the man well sheep haha im glad you enjoyed the video

@TheNalsB

8 жыл бұрын

Courtney-Jai always enjoy your videos :3

Another great video, buddy!!! I've watched a few coming out videos and I've come out myself to many friends, so I think I'm ready, but every time I try to tell my parents I just can't, don't really know why. Hopefully I'll find the way soon because mate, It's so tiring pretending to be someone you're not in front of the whole family... :( Thanks for another great video and for just being awesome in general! I hope you're having an amazing day :D

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

No problem I know how you feel coming out gay or bi or anything like that can be hard but I think it's a lot harder to come out when your a guy then a girl reason being its more socially accepted it's strange that way but it takes time don't rush do it when ur ready for the repercussions

@1990ArthurGM

8 жыл бұрын

I know, and the thing is that I'm ready and I know my parents are going to be OK, but I can't just say the words. I'm thinking about writing it down, it'll be easier. Thx for the video and for the response, you're the best :P

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Arthur Dreamer what ever helps you guys out id rather we all be happy then sad

I really like your suggestions of just starting with LGBTQ+ subjects, and then using that as an ice breaker to have the coming out conversation. Good advice I feel! Thank you.

@Courtney-Jai

6 жыл бұрын

I feel like people are pretty honest about that subject

brilliant from a young man who in this day and age is telling people he is Bisexual i take my hat off to him as i at my age of 60 can not do so and it bloody hurts as i would distroy my family so hence i have to keep it locked in and deal with it. So please listen to this person who i would love to come out as he has done and listen to him because his words are true ewell done Courtney

@leebennett1044

5 жыл бұрын

I’m 17 came out a month ago my family where happy for me I lost 2 friends in the process still got 4 friends so that’s alright 😂 also joining the British army in a few weeks so yh ✌️🇬🇧

Well said.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Hopefully this way people can start to learn from their mistakes and embrace people's lives rather then condemning them

Loving u so much

Amen.

K thank you xxxx 😘

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Gemma Lydiatt no k thank you haha

I wish I thought about telling family and friends I'm bisexual a bit more but I just posted it on instagram so people knew the real me I've told my whole family but not my nan or mum yet I don't know why but I came out to family members who I'm not that close to first, but still I'm happier and the note idea is great. Thanks !!

Courtney, I am terribly confused. I don't know what is more attractive about you: your looks or your personality. You are a real person, that's what I like most! Thanks, bro...................Ray

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+okimlistening2u probably my big toe its a sexy one haha im just me most the time whether that attractive or not i dont know haha

Completely know the feeling of not being able to speak! I ended up filming a video, kinda spurred on by KZread 😊😊😊

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Ryan Bury yeah it can be really helpful if i ever get really down to the point i feel i made the wrong choice i watch the video again and i understand this is me

You personify beauty, Courtney-not only physically, but as a person. Mon dieu.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

I don't know about that I just be me and hope for the best

I love you LODI....

The hardest thing for me about coming out was and is dealing with the religious beliefs I had as a child.

@Courtney-Jai

11 ай бұрын

Thats a big struggle for alot of people

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Your so sweet . New subscriber!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+David Salazar aww thank you I hope you enjoy all my other videos aswell

I came out "completely" in July of 2015, I first told 3 of my closest friends first. For me, people already had the idea I was gay. After I told my 3 best friends, I came out to my dad. I had tried a couple times before but completely froze and quickly made something up. But i finally told myself that that one moment of fear to endure will be worth a lifetime of getting to be myself. I told him and his response was "I know... And I love you". Later that day I came out on Instagram and I got nothing but love and support. Today I live my life, go to high school, have amazing friends, and have nothing to hide now. Of course there are those very few who hate you because of who you are, but remember, you are not going to see them after high school. Trust me, I understand the fear, but to all of you who are scared to come out, remember nobody but you will live your life. I hope I help someone with this :) Bye!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Kyle K. yeah i know the feeling i told everyone on facebook i pretty much cried the whole day from all the support i had it was amazing

@Keylimek1155

8 жыл бұрын

Same! My social life is even better now because I actually am myself and not be an akward, fake person hiding a huge part of my life!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Kyle K. Yeah I think that's the best part about coming out no more worrying about some saying are you gay and me feeling awkward

You're are one of my favourite youtubers, amazingly funny and entertaining. When i came out as bi my life definitely got much better with my friends being so supportive but my parents are muslim and homophobic so i havnt come out to them yet. How do you even explain bisexuality to parents who barely understand homosexuality.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Well start talking about the topic ask them how they would if any one in the family was gay or bi see how they respond and work from there

So cute and lovely. Love you. From: Brazil.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Well so hello to the rest of Brazil for me

I've always thought it's kind of funny for a guy to say "I've failed as a father" over something they have had absolutely nothing control over.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Yeah the logic doesn't seem to be there but I guess it's a coping mechanism adding some blame can sometimes be better then having no control what's so ever

I told my mom that I'm bi and they ended up sending me to therapy for two years because I'm "going through a phase and need to choose one or the other" and they would help me get back on the right path *smh*.... so now we don't talk about it at all and i find myself not interested in doing anything with either boys or girls. Honestly IDK what to do from here :/

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+JD Africa Maybe your asexual its not uncommon someone who can appreciate both sexes but doesn't any sexual interest in either as for your parents im sorry to hear this not everyone is willing to change there views even when it comes to their loved ones but dont worry if you ever need a chat drop me a comment and ill be there for you

I´m a Swedish girl (18 this year) and I´m bi, I´ve come out to all my friend and they are ok with it but after a half a year that I came out to the first friend I could not keep a secret from my mom any more so I started to cry and she came up to my room and just like you I could not say any thing, I just cried. After about 5 min I just said it and she was really shocked and did not say much then I asked her not to tell my dad and she said ok. Now it´s a half a year after that and we have only texted about it or talked about that 1 time and then I said that I wanted to tell my dad but I was scared and then she told me that he already knew, So she hade told him. But the rest of my dad family is really homophobic and all that and I am really close to them now but now I don´t even want to meet them ´Cause every time we start to argue about LGBTQ+ even tho they don´t even know and now I don´t know what to do ´Cause if I stay close to them I´m gonna be so sad when I come out to them and they would not accept me. Please help.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Sometimes people can change their values for the ones they love but it can be hard to say well just cut them out ur life because it doesn't work like that the best way to put is something will happen some good some bad but at least you will be honest with yourself and everyone else

I have my own coming out video to my dad live on my channel if you wanna see. It was quite scary coming out to him because he's quite a macho kind of guy. By the way loved this video!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Thanks man I'll be sure to check yours out

@jonahkingi98

8 жыл бұрын

Courtney-Jai no problem man and thanks :)

I am a huge fan of you Courtney I love the way you tell us your life stories and your always straight forward. I just wish I could be brave like you . I'm bisexual but no one knows, I don't know how I can tell my family members or friends.. My family it's very religious and we don't have any LGBT member that we know bout it. One of my uncle back in Mexico was kill for being gay and my aunt and uncle's are constantly reminding us bout the story. Even though we are living in the USA I still get scared if my family finds out about my sexuality and reject me. I don't know how I can tell them about my sexuality.

@f3rz293

8 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear that. I'm also trying to come out to them but it's not that easy.

@SoCalguy-hg1px

8 жыл бұрын

+F3rz it's not and I constantly have to pretend to be happy,act normal around my family and at church. It's a nightmare.. Thanks for replying

@f3rz293

8 жыл бұрын

+SoCalguy2017 r No problem! If you wanna talk you can kik me @ FerGrant !

@SoCalguy-hg1px

8 жыл бұрын

+F3rz thanks I will

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+SoCalguy2017 r Well you've told me and maybe that all you need for now everyone who watches this channel makes one family im sure anyone here is just as willing to help and talk and be there for when you need them i just want to say things do get better

Hi :) So my big insecurity about coming out is that saying "I'm gay/a lesbian" is basically saying "I want to sleep with men/women". That is uncomfortable to say because whose business is it who I want to sleep with, right? So that is why I haven't really been coming out... because why officially state who you want to have sex with? If anyone could maybe give me some insight to this I'd really appreciate it because I'd like to come out... I'd just have to see the point a little better :D Thanks in advance! Loved the video!

I'm bisexual and I'm not out to my family yet but I'm out to a lot of my friends and people on Tumblr and Instagram. It's a lot easier on the internet to come out because It's quite anonymous.

You are so cute ,you make my day! thanks..

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+steveo nick glad i could make your day merry christmas

Since he mentioned asexuality: I'm asexual. It's real. It's valid. You're not broken, you're not a prude, it's not a matter of not finding the right one yet. Some of us don't feel sexual attraction, and that's okay. I like girls romantically and still plan on getting married and have kids in the future. We can live happy lives with lots of love in them. We are here, we are ace, and it's okay.

@Courtney-Jai

5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for leaving this message in sure it will be very helpful to alot of people

I don’t like it when people say that bi is who I am as in me personally . Bi is what I am not who . who I am is curt Wiggins but what I am is bi

i came out as bi and then gay in 2012 and i definitely don't regret it. your really nice looking btw :)

hi..Courtney...love u all the way from india

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Haha that's awesome p.s I'm actually part Indian myself

I wish I could think people would be positive to me😁

@callumthedinosaurr

8 жыл бұрын

About this subject*

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

I'm sure they would

My way of coming out as gay and ftm trans was standing up in the middle of class and declaring it to the world. Not the best method but it got the job done.

@Courtney-Jai

7 жыл бұрын

well stand up get up stand up for ya rights good on you man or women or no binary you get where im going with this

I have told so of my friends they tell me to tell my mum and dad but I don't know how

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Gemma Lydiatt well theres a few ways you could take one of them to the side and have a calm conversation or write it down make a video that way you can describe what your feeling without having to face them there are many ways

I'm 76 years old and I was openly gay from the year go! I didn't broadcast the fact that I preferred guys. Remember, at that time, you got up to 3 years in prison for it. I was not effeminate and I did not have sex all over the place. It was simply understood that I liked men and people in my circle of friends and family just moved on - so what!. No one really seemed to be bothered. So, I've never had a problem with the thing. By the way, I have lived in countries under strict Sharia law for ten years, so I know how difficult it might be for some.

@Courtney-Jai

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah I hope we get to a point in time where stories like this don't have to exist because you can just come out and it be all accepting

@duncanmckinnon

2 жыл бұрын

@@Courtney-Jai The only person who should be remotely interested in your sexuality is the person who actually fancies you. Otherwise it's no one's business.

@Courtney-Jai

2 жыл бұрын

@@duncanmckinnon exactly couldn't agree more

@duncanmckinnon

2 жыл бұрын

@@Courtney-Jai I think we're making history here, Jai. An old man and a young'un actually agreeing. It's people like you who give me hope for the future. Unfortunately it's the 'phobes' that are holding us back. Any ideas what to do about them?

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I used Star Wars toys to tell my mom lol. Why aren't you famous yet

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Jared M haha i wish it was easy like that comes down to people sharing my video mainly the more people share it the more people watch it the more people subscribe the bigger i get

I am 16 years old. My closest friends are accepting of my sexuality but I haven't come out to my parents. My mom views it wrong to be anything other than straight because of her religion. My dad believes that the lgbt+ community don't deserve the right to get married.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Victoria Cortez well i see your dilemma asking them how would they feel if one of their children was gay in general parent can do surprising things out of love as i said my dad is homophobic he thinks it wrong but he hasn't disowned me because then he wouldn't see me it all depends whether your happy with your life. I dont know if your British or american but college is a good place to come out if you live there you wouldn't have to worry about your parents i know it can be very difficult to approach the subject but as i say you have to do what makes you happy also you are 16 not 18 you are still classed as a minor so as for things such as throwing you out they can by law and if there were significant problems the government would step in with things like therapy and counselling for your parents, but as i said parents and people can do crazy things when its comes to love hoped this helped.

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@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Dajuan Roy well what ever you think im not one to question a good thing

Why is he so hot!! It must be the accent!

"How can I come out?" *shows shaun the sheep slippers into camera* xD anyways great video. I can't come out to you cause I'm only an ally to the LGBT community^^

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Well if non of these ways work at least you will always have Shaun the sheep slippers

I need help I don't know how to come out help !!!!!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Gemma Lydiatt well the first step is telling someone you know a friend or family member one that you trust

When I came out to my mum, she asked me, "Are you happy with that?" And I told her "Yes", and she said that was all that mattered, then offered me a cup of tea! :-)

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+WolfieMcMuffin it true fashionable style she sounds awesome

@WolfieMcMuffin

8 жыл бұрын

Courtney-Jai She is! (She no doubt already knew; the hints she dropped were as subtle as a brick! XD !) But she does not care and accepts it totally! Same with my dad!

@WolfieMcMuffin

8 жыл бұрын

+Courtney-Jai My brother came out as Bi, after he had had a few (dozen) glasses of JD and Coke. And he came out to my parents, then came out to me... and was astonished to realise I already had known for about two years. Because he had his friend over one night and they were watching a DVD, apparently forgetting I was in the room, and he blurted it out to his friend during the film. The fact that I had known for two years without saying shocked him, but it's not my business to bring up!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

fair enough you must have alot of respect for your brother

W write a letter and mum told all my family it was alright my friends where alrightt with it lost 2 of them but fuck it 😂😘🇬🇧

@Courtney-Jai

5 жыл бұрын

Well if they can't be your friend when they find out who you really then we're they ever real friends

@leebennett1044

5 жыл бұрын

Tbh I’m one of the lucky ones feel sorry for other lgbt 🏳️‍🌈 people they go through worst shit but as long as you love yourself the rest is just Accessories 😂 big fan btw 😁

Haha!! I use automatic captions and at 0:23 it says "Algae BT community". Hahaha... Let's celebrate the bi and trans algaes, everyone!

I don't appreciate the whole video being out of focus... but good advice!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Mel Zemourit Yeah i noticed sorry im in a new location its hard to get my focal length right but i had filmed this video so many times i just decided this was the best way it was worded doing it again would have strained on the message i was trying to deliver but it has been noted and i will make sure it doesn't happen again, thank you for taken notice i need people like you to make me pick up my slack very appreciated

I told my friends first and they were supportive, one friend was weird bout it, and to this day say somthing thst i will bite on. Then I told my dad wsy doen the line and he took it well to be fair. my sister already knew cos I had told her before anyone, me abd my younger brother dont talk bout it. But telling my mum tho that was a different story. so I told her and the look on her face was confusion and she said to me, your not gay no no your not, and I said to her yes I am I was nervous at that time and I left it at that. then I came out to family members and they were like. As long as your happy then we don't hav a problem with it, then me my sister and mum were chatting one day and my sister said something bout me being gay. And the look on me mum's face again said it all, she said to me oh your not gay no your not, your just being arkward. Now that hurt a little I mean she had seen me wiv a lad since I came out to her. But to this day she still says I'm arkward, anyway I don't talk bout that stuff wiv her anymore cos we might hav an argument and I really don't want that ya know. But apart from that everything is good so far.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Adam Evans well it sounds as though your sister and dad support you maybe you should have a sit down with all of them and explain yourself it can be hard but if you explain how you feel now from before she can see how it makes you happy sometimes the difference can be very important

@adamevans7571

8 жыл бұрын

Thank you Courteney, i hav been out over a year and had nothing but positive feedback. My dad is fully aware but maybe i should sit them down, cos by the sound of it my mum still thinks im arkward.

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Adam Evans yeah it best to get it all out there they do say the first step is denial

@adamevans7571

8 жыл бұрын

Yer that's true thank you Courtney.

Whats your snapchat? ;3 I loved the video!

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

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my name is well I'm not gonna say I have come out Bisexual to my close friends I'm scared to come out to my dad because he hates bisexual and gay and everything what do I do I'm so scared ahhh!!! please someone help me should I come out if I do I'll lose lots of friends and gain better ones please reply for me I need help and well I don't no......

Citing Caitlin Jenner in the LGBT movement. Please don't, undermines any sense of "struggle" or "progress", of which, is already undermined enough...

Do you plan to hv kids, i dont think you should waste genes this good and not pass them..

@Courtney-Jai

7 жыл бұрын

Lost Spirit ™ I have a girlfriend and there's many options to have children it what ever relationship you are in

Be mine

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

Be your what dancer singer jester oh be your guest be your guest put your service to test do do do do ddd

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@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Steven Degli Angeli what language is this that way i can translate it

@Courtney-Jai

8 жыл бұрын

+Courtney-Jai oh its italian oh thank you for such a sweet compliment

@stevendegliangeli7640

8 жыл бұрын

I am a big fan of yours.

@SamirCCat

5 жыл бұрын

@@Courtney-Jai You can always copy and paste it into google translate and they will give you a probable language. Don't blindly trust their translation word by word though, haha... But it does give you an idea of what is said.

@Courtney-Jai

5 жыл бұрын

@@SamirCCat yeah I might give it ago