I realize I was gay when I saw my frist white dude cock and I knew then
@richardbernard68454 ай бұрын
Benja, you deserve a nice husband along with a beautiful a house with a big lush garden.
@EmilyTienne5 ай бұрын
You seem like a very nice, well adjusted guy. And I bet that has to do with the great family you’re a part of. I hope you have a great future!
@ifsaica5 ай бұрын
Hello, haven’t noticed any new posts.😮just wondering how you are doing? Finished with school? Has your life changed much? You seem like such a nice guy, I was concerned with how you were doing? Have you traveled much. By the way, I ❤ LA
@jeffwolfe52645 ай бұрын
Benja thank God for your aunt you’re a very lucky man many kids who come out of their parents don’t have the same luck and don’t have the same ally within their family. I’m glad you do.
@jeffwolfe52645 ай бұрын
I am very happy for you living your authentic self is the most important thing you can do as a gift for yourself you were created just as you were to be don’t let anybody tell you different. There is nothing wrong. You are a normal person I had a friend of mine I was dating and his mother said hey Brian, what are you doing in bed the same thing you do mom sleep you know people have this image of gay people having sex all the time that’s just not the casewe date we get to know each other we enjoy each other’s company we live lives which just like everybody else so keep doing what you’re doing. Believe in yourself and watch the movie 1946 it will open your eyes.
@donaldsimons24295 ай бұрын
Good for you, Benja. It is always an ordeal that we gay people have to go through, but it is always worth it to come out. You are a hero.
@dubon99996 ай бұрын
God bless and protect all the LGBT people from all the evilness of the world 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈✝️✝️✝️✝️ In this world full of evilness, hate, jealousy, gossip, envy, sufferment, pain, harassment, discrimination, anger, abuse, murder, theft, rape and endless negative feelings and dangerous behaviors; We, the LGBT people must be aware of the evilness that exists in the world and not allow that anything or anyone divide us, we must always be willing to help other LGBT people and we must not leave any LGBT person alone or left behind 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 We must be aware that we, the LGBT people not only face the same problems and situations that straight people face, but we also face hate for our sexuality, hate for being different, hate for being LGBT, and that is, the hate just for being who we are and likewise we must be aware that not all the people that says that support us really do so 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 I don't care who you are or where you come from or what reputation you have or if other people like you or dislike you, if you are an LGBT person you have all my love and support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We can make a difference and be a light of hope to make from the world a better place 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 Never allow that straight men and women divide us 💥💥💥💥💥 Gay Men together forever ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people together forever 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
@robbieanson12187 ай бұрын
I don’t care if you’re gay or not but you have no self control to say they are starting to a friend who happens to be a girl. It just proves that you’re just a coward. That is what you are fear of making a commitment. I’m not saying this because it’s true am saying this because I seen your video and I don’t have a problem with you being who you are and honestly I don’t care if you’re gay or not gay at all I’m saying that you’re being a coward in front of your first girl do care if you’re gay no But you are self conscious and so scared of trying to have a girlfriend like I used to try but the truth is there’s so much of me in this video if you wanna know why I do like I’m living in a lie I am not sure what it is But this video spoke to me the way that I felt from before and still feel that I might be living in a lie night sure about that I know I don’t have no periods or anything like that here but you have to know and understand this is that you are afraid of commitment that was trying to say at the top of this comment I’m not trying to be rude or mean or being a bully to you or whatever no I’m saying this out of my concern of your video and that’s all I wanna say to you. I really hope that you don’t get nothing negative out of this video video and don’t get negative out of this comment because that’s just me sure my concern about your self Control or the whole thing about you saying that you feel like you’re not being your true self or you doing lie like I feel like that I was doing the same thing too the song trying to say you in a few my negative out of my comment here really hope they don’t But I am just saying this because I know what it means to feel alienated or living inside of why or something like that when I’m not sure what it is but I hope that this comes out positive to you more than a negative comment to you, but if you want to use it in a video You can if you like you know, I will still be around but give me around I do like your video I was just trying to say that I know how you feel when it comes to fear of commitment that’s all I mean because you are afraid of being committed to a woman a girl you never really gave them a fair chance to date you at all and all that but I said I don’t care if you are gay I really don’t true I really do not care if you’re gay or not but that doesn’t give you right to be rude to that girl if someone is avoiding confrontation and conversation, there’s no word a friend does I’m not saying that you’re a bad friend or she was a bad friend no I am just saying that because you are scared and afraid of being committed to a girl but at least you know who you are I can tell you that I am fine with the video but I just not sure about it that is all wanna make a video about that that’s fine as well too but at least you know who you are there’s some people who like me that does not know about me and how it was in my past there’s also reflects of living in a lie, as far as I know about it I really hope that you get some positive out of the same no less than negative out of this comment because I wanna know what you think about it. You can use my comment if you want in a video because I really would like to know what you think about it I am not calling you nothing I am not calling you a liar or anything like that or I’ll be accusing you and judging you for something that I would never do. I hope you understand me I’m saying this as friendly as I can be they really do not really care if you’re gay or not but that does not give you an excuse to run from a friend like that , you and that girl should have talked it out instead of running from it conversations never helps unless if it induces that is what I was trying to say from befor I have heard my message to you for as it is and you know this is a respectful message and nothing negative but it is the opposite when it is a positive my concern for your well-being. That’s all I’m saying that’s why I’m trying to get out to say that to you, but I hope that you don’t get another negative out of this comment even if you do, I hope you don’t because this is nothing but that this is more as a concern more than negative because it is more than just that it is more than less as a positive message required to of how you feel and also required onto me because I know how it is doing in a lie because I feel like that too evil to make a real feel free to do so and you hear the message as it is and I hope that you learn something from my positive message for the sake of concern and how your video spoken to me someways and simple form and that’s all I’ll say for now and hopefully that you will see it as something positive. Maybe you can make a video about this and my comment at that too being read out loud it now I will, just tell you that so I just want you to understand it and I hope that you now know what I mean by it so other than that I’m going to end it here and I just hope that you no I am going to end it here now
@dubon99998 ай бұрын
I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
@larrygraysmith84112 жыл бұрын
Fratres, sobri estote et vigilate, quia adversarius vester diabolus tamquam, leo rugiens circuit quaerens quem devoret. (1 Petrus 5:8)
@danielueblacker91183 жыл бұрын
An honest account, thanks so much.
@trevordixon14273 жыл бұрын
Good
@LenHealsU3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your courage and fortitude to come out, inspiring others, including me! Although still difficult, it's much easier to come out now-a-days than it was back prior to 1980, when I was in my teens, 20s. Back then it was much more dangerous to do so, for a variety of reasons. I was living a double life (only partially out). To this very day I still have one foot jammed in the closet, but your video, and other similar coming out videos, gave me the courage to (finally) come out to two long time close Straight friends, just this past week, and another I plan for next week. Benja, you're a beacon of Light and an angel sent from up above! :)
@pauldunn79653 жыл бұрын
Good for you!
@cowboykent90913 жыл бұрын
HOWDY from the lone star state of Texas!
@lynnhoffman903 жыл бұрын
God made us special. To thine own self be true. Thanks for sharing.
@johnbrown37113 жыл бұрын
Congrats. Please tell the family and do a follow-up video on that. ASAP, please. When their reaction becomes positive (immediately or eventually) try to include them in a video so we can see and hear their thoughts about the matter. It would so much help those who follow, and their parents.
@MEVMontana3 жыл бұрын
As many comments below I feel inspired and happy from your video. Very clear, very easy to follow. I am pretty sure your life is unfolding in a good way. Thank you. Best wishes. Martin
@JefftheSabaDude3 жыл бұрын
Hey Benja, I enjoyed your story. I could feel the stress you were going through by the way you narrated your story. I'm glad it all finally went well for you. As an old guy who came out decades ago, I finally got the urge to record my story ffrom watching so many others on here. It's a bit longer but has some rather funny moments and if you're interested, give it a watch: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iIiHr9CKgarIcs4.html
@MIMIC88013 жыл бұрын
That’s so sweet that your brother wrote his college admissions essay on you.
@MaskedBishop3 жыл бұрын
You should definitely consider creating more content.. a guy as handsome and humble as you could easily get lots of followers. 😄 I'm glad it went so well for you, and thx for your honesty! Actually I couldn't sleep last night because of your intense story, because it made me remember details of my own coming out I hadn't thought about in years. 🙈
@antonioleonetti99304 жыл бұрын
Hello you are fantastic boys
@Randy221244 жыл бұрын
Congratulations! I admire your courage to come out at such a young age. No one who hasn’t come out could ever imagine how hard it is. I didn’t go to gay bar or do anything gay until I was 30 I feel like I got cheated out of so many years of potential happiness. I didn’t come out to any family my family until I was 67 out of fear of rejection (my parents had passed years earlier). The last thing I wanted was for my parents to be ashamed. I hop you enjoy many wonderful years ahead. You’re so handsome and personable. Good luck. I wish I was in Ukraine
@lokkooki4 жыл бұрын
Hi , how you doing so long no hear ? ‘
@delacroire4 жыл бұрын
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@tonymoya93204 жыл бұрын
This is your story to tell. Nobody else s. Best to you!
@andersb50074 жыл бұрын
Your story is very touching. And real. Brave of you to share this and how you struggled. With understanding and accepting yourself. And coming out. Thank you!
@javiersblog20834 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to being very secretive. Very beautiful story, you are an amazing person!
@mrfacespace5 жыл бұрын
I saw two beautiful things today: you and your video. Good job.
@janicelongthorn83365 жыл бұрын
Best wishesX
@benw99495 жыл бұрын
Oh, the mix of frustration and happiness and fumbling and greatness in this, comedy and tragedy mixed. Different story for me, yet also relatable and, yeah, similar at times. Good for you. So much better when you can be out. I wish I'd come out sooner.
@benw99495 жыл бұрын
For parents and relatives: When a kid/teen comes out to you, understand that they have been dealing with those feelings, and often afraid of people rejecting them, especially the people they love the most. If they have gotten up the courage to tell you they are gay, it may be one of the hardest things they have ever hd to do. If you truly love your child, accept them. Try to understand them. Work on it. Look into what it means to be gay or not straight. Research. Maybe you are shocked. But chances are, there have been clues all along, from early childhood, that your child is gay. It is just as subtle for gay kids as it is for straight kids, when it first starts being noticeable to them that they like someone. It develops in much the same way straight kids develop their feelings for others. Remember how you were as a kid? "Ooh, girls / boys have cooties!" But then when you got a little older, there were those puppy-love feelings, then growing stronger feelings, until oh my, boy-crazy or girl-crazy in your teens, dating, and onward. But gay kids/teens often are struggling with their feelings, and so they are often delayed in getting to express that, because by around the start of their teens, they have already absorbed that message at home, school, church, everywhere, of homophobia. They know they have those feelings, they're strong sometimes and subtle at others, but increasingly there. Eventually, it reaches the point where they have to come out, be with someone, or burst...or sometimes fall into depression or self-destructive behavior if they are too afraid to express their feelings with others. To people who are too shocked and think it's so wrong, I'd ask you to think about this: Which would you rather have, a good relationship with your child going into adulthood, happy and healthy and loved, loving's them still, sharing their life, knowing they can have love with someone who loves them, a partner? -- Or would you rather that they are not in your life at all, cut off, disowned, kicked out? -- Or would you really rather go to your child's funeral and have to bury that broken body, at some age far too early? I ask, because it does happen. That isn't exaggeration. It is to get you to think. Do you really love your child, or is it conditional on whether they meet your expectations, such as being straight or gay? -- I could never talk to my parents about being gay. Not about myself, and not when friends or classmates were rumored to be gay, or beaten up, or self-harmed because they had come to feel they had nowhere to turn, no one to love them. It is as simple as that. I would hope any parent or relative would love their child enough to accept them, gay and all, and work it out for themselves how it is that gay people do indeed exist, no matter what anyone thinks about it. -- If you love your kid, then love them, gay and all, and rejoice that they want you to be a part of their lives. Or risk losing them. Simple as that. -- Far better to love and accept and understand them, and rethink and research it. The only difference is, gay folks want to love someone of the same sex. It boils down to that. Gay folks just want love the same as straight folks, only with someone of the same sex instead of the opposite sex. -- Don't lose your kid because they felt so rejected and excluded, and please don't lose them because they died for it. No one should have to die for wanting love. -- I believe my parents chose not to see that I was gay, chose not to deal with it, and therefore never once let me know they were OK with me for that, in any way I ever understood. In most other ways they were good parents, except over-controlling. It came to be a thing always between us, as much as I loved them and they loved me. I didn't come out until after they were gone. I missed much of my life, alone without someone to love, because I didn't come out sooner and struggled with it so much. You don't want your child to go through that kind of loneliness and anguish. Accept them for who they are. They've trusted you with this part of themselves at their very core, who they love. Accept them and get to share their lives.
@SeanShimamoto5 жыл бұрын
I’m really proud of you for coming out. I hope one day you come back to KZread and update some of your fans. 😁🏳️🌈🤙🏽
@SeanShimamoto5 жыл бұрын
It’s so sad that the states that preach love, non judgment, acceptance, compassion, and charity...all the tenets of Jesus Christ, at least what I was taught...are the states that are the MOST hateful, exclusive, judgmental, and callous actions towards gay people. I think Jesus Christ would be ashamed of their actions ‘cause it goes against EVERYTHING that he taught through his actions.
@benw99495 жыл бұрын
Wow, that's the first time I've ever seen "Benja" as a nickname. How cool! Plenty of others (I've always gone by Ben except for one as a very little kid.) One very old preacher friend of the family used to call me Benny. So I've never been Benji either. (Woof? I wouldn't mind that one.) But Benja, that surprises me! How very cool! Interesting, just that little bit different. -- Good for you for coming out. I hope it all goes great for you. I wish I could've come out way earlier.
@philliprumans7535 жыл бұрын
I know I'm many years late to the party because I'm just seeing this video for the first time but thumbs up good job. I'm glad your mother came around and very happy that's your brother was so accepting
@andersb50075 жыл бұрын
Great story and you are confident!
@andrewjackson58055 жыл бұрын
I liked your story and I appreciate all you had to say. I'm in the process of coming out also but it's a lot longer story than yours is . Anyway you were great and cute but you talk say to fast. Much love.
@marlomaco51765 жыл бұрын
Thank you 4 your story 💖🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌💖
@marlomaco51765 жыл бұрын
Thanks 4 your video 💖💖
@ronniecaron68275 жыл бұрын
Your brother will be your best friend, always. He got it. He didn't hesitate. None of the bull crap of having to digest it or saying that he loves you in spite of it. Total admiration on his part, if he's writing an important paper about you. With him, the only thing that's changed, is you'll have, a boyfriend, not a girl ! I have the feeling , that he will be super protective of you!
@johnbrown37115 жыл бұрын
It is nice to hear a positive story. Now we're just waiting for the world to change.
@tomgray70496 жыл бұрын
Howd your dad take the news?
@tomgray70496 жыл бұрын
Lil. Great video. Happy for you. Went thru the same shit, only havent dated yet. Ive been out for 2 yrs. Hope your family is ok with it. I lost what was left of mine.
@ronniecaron68276 жыл бұрын
I hope you understand how lucky you are to be able to come out at this time period . It wasn't that long ago, that most gay (lgbt) yourh , had to lead double lives.straight at home, with friends and family and gay, somewhere else. Or, living in the closet. There was little or no middle ground. . Coming out, wasn't even a thought in the back of your mind. Lots of confused people got married..sad for them and who they wed. Things, aren't perfect yet, but it's a good and healthy start . Advice to kids,at risk .don't come out, until you get help. Best place for that, is at an LGBT center or from an anomous, call/help lines.. have a safe, backup plan. YOU AREN'T ALONE.
@user-ed1mj5zk6f6 жыл бұрын
Congratulations for you and your mom and aunt! And your brother seems really nice guy!
@rubengalaviz65666 жыл бұрын
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@TheSmilecamera6 жыл бұрын
Good for your bravery! Great story and you have a great personality! But you didn’t mention your dad’s reaction. I assume he immediately accepted this? Would love to know more. Thanks.
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How about an update please.
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Benja, you deserve a nice husband along with a beautiful a house with a big lush garden.
You seem like a very nice, well adjusted guy. And I bet that has to do with the great family you’re a part of. I hope you have a great future!
Hello, haven’t noticed any new posts.😮just wondering how you are doing? Finished with school? Has your life changed much? You seem like such a nice guy, I was concerned with how you were doing? Have you traveled much. By the way, I ❤ LA
Benja thank God for your aunt you’re a very lucky man many kids who come out of their parents don’t have the same luck and don’t have the same ally within their family. I’m glad you do.
I am very happy for you living your authentic self is the most important thing you can do as a gift for yourself you were created just as you were to be don’t let anybody tell you different. There is nothing wrong. You are a normal person I had a friend of mine I was dating and his mother said hey Brian, what are you doing in bed the same thing you do mom sleep you know people have this image of gay people having sex all the time that’s just not the casewe date we get to know each other we enjoy each other’s company we live lives which just like everybody else so keep doing what you’re doing. Believe in yourself and watch the movie 1946 it will open your eyes.
Good for you, Benja. It is always an ordeal that we gay people have to go through, but it is always worth it to come out. You are a hero.
God bless and protect all the LGBT people from all the evilness of the world 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈✝️✝️✝️✝️ In this world full of evilness, hate, jealousy, gossip, envy, sufferment, pain, harassment, discrimination, anger, abuse, murder, theft, rape and endless negative feelings and dangerous behaviors; We, the LGBT people must be aware of the evilness that exists in the world and not allow that anything or anyone divide us, we must always be willing to help other LGBT people and we must not leave any LGBT person alone or left behind 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 We must be aware that we, the LGBT people not only face the same problems and situations that straight people face, but we also face hate for our sexuality, hate for being different, hate for being LGBT, and that is, the hate just for being who we are and likewise we must be aware that not all the people that says that support us really do so 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 I don't care who you are or where you come from or what reputation you have or if other people like you or dislike you, if you are an LGBT person you have all my love and support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We can make a difference and be a light of hope to make from the world a better place 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 Never allow that straight men and women divide us 💥💥💥💥💥 Gay Men together forever ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people together forever 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
I don’t care if you’re gay or not but you have no self control to say they are starting to a friend who happens to be a girl. It just proves that you’re just a coward. That is what you are fear of making a commitment. I’m not saying this because it’s true am saying this because I seen your video and I don’t have a problem with you being who you are and honestly I don’t care if you’re gay or not gay at all I’m saying that you’re being a coward in front of your first girl do care if you’re gay no But you are self conscious and so scared of trying to have a girlfriend like I used to try but the truth is there’s so much of me in this video if you wanna know why I do like I’m living in a lie I am not sure what it is But this video spoke to me the way that I felt from before and still feel that I might be living in a lie night sure about that I know I don’t have no periods or anything like that here but you have to know and understand this is that you are afraid of commitment that was trying to say at the top of this comment I’m not trying to be rude or mean or being a bully to you or whatever no I’m saying this out of my concern of your video and that’s all I wanna say to you. I really hope that you don’t get nothing negative out of this video video and don’t get negative out of this comment because that’s just me sure my concern about your self Control or the whole thing about you saying that you feel like you’re not being your true self or you doing lie like I feel like that I was doing the same thing too the song trying to say you in a few my negative out of my comment here really hope they don’t But I am just saying this because I know what it means to feel alienated or living inside of why or something like that when I’m not sure what it is but I hope that this comes out positive to you more than a negative comment to you, but if you want to use it in a video You can if you like you know, I will still be around but give me around I do like your video I was just trying to say that I know how you feel when it comes to fear of commitment that’s all I mean because you are afraid of being committed to a woman a girl you never really gave them a fair chance to date you at all and all that but I said I don’t care if you are gay I really don’t true I really do not care if you’re gay or not but that doesn’t give you right to be rude to that girl if someone is avoiding confrontation and conversation, there’s no word a friend does I’m not saying that you’re a bad friend or she was a bad friend no I am just saying that because you are scared and afraid of being committed to a girl but at least you know who you are I can tell you that I am fine with the video but I just not sure about it that is all wanna make a video about that that’s fine as well too but at least you know who you are there’s some people who like me that does not know about me and how it was in my past there’s also reflects of living in a lie, as far as I know about it I really hope that you get some positive out of the same no less than negative out of this comment because I wanna know what you think about it. You can use my comment if you want in a video because I really would like to know what you think about it I am not calling you nothing I am not calling you a liar or anything like that or I’ll be accusing you and judging you for something that I would never do. I hope you understand me I’m saying this as friendly as I can be they really do not really care if you’re gay or not but that does not give you an excuse to run from a friend like that , you and that girl should have talked it out instead of running from it conversations never helps unless if it induces that is what I was trying to say from befor I have heard my message to you for as it is and you know this is a respectful message and nothing negative but it is the opposite when it is a positive my concern for your well-being. That’s all I’m saying that’s why I’m trying to get out to say that to you, but I hope that you don’t get another negative out of this comment even if you do, I hope you don’t because this is nothing but that this is more as a concern more than negative because it is more than just that it is more than less as a positive message required to of how you feel and also required onto me because I know how it is doing in a lie because I feel like that too evil to make a real feel free to do so and you hear the message as it is and I hope that you learn something from my positive message for the sake of concern and how your video spoken to me someways and simple form and that’s all I’ll say for now and hopefully that you will see it as something positive. Maybe you can make a video about this and my comment at that too being read out loud it now I will, just tell you that so I just want you to understand it and I hope that you now know what I mean by it so other than that I’m going to end it here and I just hope that you no I am going to end it here now
I send all my love and support to all the LGBT people of the world ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all are important and very valuable even though we live in a world that makes you all believe otherwise. Remember always be proud of who you are 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 You all make from this world a better place ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 LGBT people are a rainbow of love in a world full of hate, but with difference of our straight partners, we all are united over a same flag 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈 The flag of LGBT love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 And we all must be united against hate, violence, discrimination and intolerance ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 We all are like a great family and we must fight to destroy hate ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Remember, LGBT people is love and love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I don't care about your race, nationality, biological gender, health condition, religion or any other condition ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 If you are an LGBT person you have all my love and my support ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You guys are not alone in this fight and all the LGBT people of all over the world needs to understand this messagge, cause just united we will win against hate and we don't have to allow that nothing divide us. Never feel bad of who you are and never allow that this cruel world change who you really are or turn off your light and your shine ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You all born that way and remember LGBT people of all the world, at the end, love always wins ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Fratres, sobri estote et vigilate, quia adversarius vester diabolus tamquam, leo rugiens circuit quaerens quem devoret. (1 Petrus 5:8)
An honest account, thanks so much.
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Congratulations on your courage and fortitude to come out, inspiring others, including me! Although still difficult, it's much easier to come out now-a-days than it was back prior to 1980, when I was in my teens, 20s. Back then it was much more dangerous to do so, for a variety of reasons. I was living a double life (only partially out). To this very day I still have one foot jammed in the closet, but your video, and other similar coming out videos, gave me the courage to (finally) come out to two long time close Straight friends, just this past week, and another I plan for next week. Benja, you're a beacon of Light and an angel sent from up above! :)
Good for you!
HOWDY from the lone star state of Texas!
God made us special. To thine own self be true. Thanks for sharing.
Congrats. Please tell the family and do a follow-up video on that. ASAP, please. When their reaction becomes positive (immediately or eventually) try to include them in a video so we can see and hear their thoughts about the matter. It would so much help those who follow, and their parents.
As many comments below I feel inspired and happy from your video. Very clear, very easy to follow. I am pretty sure your life is unfolding in a good way. Thank you. Best wishes. Martin
Hey Benja, I enjoyed your story. I could feel the stress you were going through by the way you narrated your story. I'm glad it all finally went well for you. As an old guy who came out decades ago, I finally got the urge to record my story ffrom watching so many others on here. It's a bit longer but has some rather funny moments and if you're interested, give it a watch: kzread.info/dash/bejne/iIiHr9CKgarIcs4.html
That’s so sweet that your brother wrote his college admissions essay on you.
You should definitely consider creating more content.. a guy as handsome and humble as you could easily get lots of followers. 😄 I'm glad it went so well for you, and thx for your honesty! Actually I couldn't sleep last night because of your intense story, because it made me remember details of my own coming out I hadn't thought about in years. 🙈
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Congratulations! I admire your courage to come out at such a young age. No one who hasn’t come out could ever imagine how hard it is. I didn’t go to gay bar or do anything gay until I was 30 I feel like I got cheated out of so many years of potential happiness. I didn’t come out to any family my family until I was 67 out of fear of rejection (my parents had passed years earlier). The last thing I wanted was for my parents to be ashamed. I hop you enjoy many wonderful years ahead. You’re so handsome and personable. Good luck. I wish I was in Ukraine
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This is your story to tell. Nobody else s. Best to you!
Your story is very touching. And real. Brave of you to share this and how you struggled. With understanding and accepting yourself. And coming out. Thank you!
I can totally relate to being very secretive. Very beautiful story, you are an amazing person!
I saw two beautiful things today: you and your video. Good job.
Best wishesX
Oh, the mix of frustration and happiness and fumbling and greatness in this, comedy and tragedy mixed. Different story for me, yet also relatable and, yeah, similar at times. Good for you. So much better when you can be out. I wish I'd come out sooner.
For parents and relatives: When a kid/teen comes out to you, understand that they have been dealing with those feelings, and often afraid of people rejecting them, especially the people they love the most. If they have gotten up the courage to tell you they are gay, it may be one of the hardest things they have ever hd to do. If you truly love your child, accept them. Try to understand them. Work on it. Look into what it means to be gay or not straight. Research. Maybe you are shocked. But chances are, there have been clues all along, from early childhood, that your child is gay. It is just as subtle for gay kids as it is for straight kids, when it first starts being noticeable to them that they like someone. It develops in much the same way straight kids develop their feelings for others. Remember how you were as a kid? "Ooh, girls / boys have cooties!" But then when you got a little older, there were those puppy-love feelings, then growing stronger feelings, until oh my, boy-crazy or girl-crazy in your teens, dating, and onward. But gay kids/teens often are struggling with their feelings, and so they are often delayed in getting to express that, because by around the start of their teens, they have already absorbed that message at home, school, church, everywhere, of homophobia. They know they have those feelings, they're strong sometimes and subtle at others, but increasingly there. Eventually, it reaches the point where they have to come out, be with someone, or burst...or sometimes fall into depression or self-destructive behavior if they are too afraid to express their feelings with others. To people who are too shocked and think it's so wrong, I'd ask you to think about this: Which would you rather have, a good relationship with your child going into adulthood, happy and healthy and loved, loving's them still, sharing their life, knowing they can have love with someone who loves them, a partner? -- Or would you rather that they are not in your life at all, cut off, disowned, kicked out? -- Or would you really rather go to your child's funeral and have to bury that broken body, at some age far too early? I ask, because it does happen. That isn't exaggeration. It is to get you to think. Do you really love your child, or is it conditional on whether they meet your expectations, such as being straight or gay? -- I could never talk to my parents about being gay. Not about myself, and not when friends or classmates were rumored to be gay, or beaten up, or self-harmed because they had come to feel they had nowhere to turn, no one to love them. It is as simple as that. I would hope any parent or relative would love their child enough to accept them, gay and all, and work it out for themselves how it is that gay people do indeed exist, no matter what anyone thinks about it. -- If you love your kid, then love them, gay and all, and rejoice that they want you to be a part of their lives. Or risk losing them. Simple as that. -- Far better to love and accept and understand them, and rethink and research it. The only difference is, gay folks want to love someone of the same sex. It boils down to that. Gay folks just want love the same as straight folks, only with someone of the same sex instead of the opposite sex. -- Don't lose your kid because they felt so rejected and excluded, and please don't lose them because they died for it. No one should have to die for wanting love. -- I believe my parents chose not to see that I was gay, chose not to deal with it, and therefore never once let me know they were OK with me for that, in any way I ever understood. In most other ways they were good parents, except over-controlling. It came to be a thing always between us, as much as I loved them and they loved me. I didn't come out until after they were gone. I missed much of my life, alone without someone to love, because I didn't come out sooner and struggled with it so much. You don't want your child to go through that kind of loneliness and anguish. Accept them for who they are. They've trusted you with this part of themselves at their very core, who they love. Accept them and get to share their lives.
I’m really proud of you for coming out. I hope one day you come back to KZread and update some of your fans. 😁🏳️🌈🤙🏽
It’s so sad that the states that preach love, non judgment, acceptance, compassion, and charity...all the tenets of Jesus Christ, at least what I was taught...are the states that are the MOST hateful, exclusive, judgmental, and callous actions towards gay people. I think Jesus Christ would be ashamed of their actions ‘cause it goes against EVERYTHING that he taught through his actions.
Wow, that's the first time I've ever seen "Benja" as a nickname. How cool! Plenty of others (I've always gone by Ben except for one as a very little kid.) One very old preacher friend of the family used to call me Benny. So I've never been Benji either. (Woof? I wouldn't mind that one.) But Benja, that surprises me! How very cool! Interesting, just that little bit different. -- Good for you for coming out. I hope it all goes great for you. I wish I could've come out way earlier.
I know I'm many years late to the party because I'm just seeing this video for the first time but thumbs up good job. I'm glad your mother came around and very happy that's your brother was so accepting
Great story and you are confident!
I liked your story and I appreciate all you had to say. I'm in the process of coming out also but it's a lot longer story than yours is . Anyway you were great and cute but you talk say to fast. Much love.
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Thanks 4 your video 💖💖
Your brother will be your best friend, always. He got it. He didn't hesitate. None of the bull crap of having to digest it or saying that he loves you in spite of it. Total admiration on his part, if he's writing an important paper about you. With him, the only thing that's changed, is you'll have, a boyfriend, not a girl ! I have the feeling , that he will be super protective of you!
It is nice to hear a positive story. Now we're just waiting for the world to change.
Howd your dad take the news?
Lil. Great video. Happy for you. Went thru the same shit, only havent dated yet. Ive been out for 2 yrs. Hope your family is ok with it. I lost what was left of mine.
I hope you understand how lucky you are to be able to come out at this time period . It wasn't that long ago, that most gay (lgbt) yourh , had to lead double lives.straight at home, with friends and family and gay, somewhere else. Or, living in the closet. There was little or no middle ground. . Coming out, wasn't even a thought in the back of your mind. Lots of confused people got married..sad for them and who they wed. Things, aren't perfect yet, but it's a good and healthy start . Advice to kids,at risk .don't come out, until you get help. Best place for that, is at an LGBT center or from an anomous, call/help lines.. have a safe, backup plan. YOU AREN'T ALONE.
Congratulations for you and your mom and aunt! And your brother seems really nice guy!
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Good for your bravery! Great story and you have a great personality! But you didn’t mention your dad’s reaction. I assume he immediately accepted this? Would love to know more. Thanks.