For more help, I have lots of free and paid resources including my free journal prompts for improving self-care and boundaries in codependency. Click the link to get yours and join my community! counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-worksheets/

@Minionette611

Жыл бұрын

I appreciate you. I have had a lot of emotional trauma the last couple of years and I feel more codependent than ever and it has costed me quite a bit of control over my own life. I have to get better.

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@Minionette611 hey Mimi! I’m so glad you found me! I have lots of resources on codependency on my website too! Just let me know what you are needing help with and I’ll help you anyway I can!

@naturalist369

6 ай бұрын

Thank you kindly . I've always been so independent with so many accomplishments I did all on my own, including moving out at age 16, putting myself through college while working etc. so I didn't see how I could be codependent . I like giving and being kind, also extending the things others in family did not extend to me. Now I found out my mother is a narcissist and I keep getting partners like her, even though she is the one whose behaviour I had to run from. I understand how this happens now & I agree establishing self trust is key as that's been insidiously stripped away along with our identity in so many ways. Recently I've experienced betrayal from the one I thought I could trust and spend my life with who acts like nothing has happened 🤯 Thank you for the self help tools, much appreciated 💜🙏🏼🎶😇🕊️💫

@naturalist369

6 ай бұрын

Good idea for making ourselves accountable to ourselves in our own personal Divine I AM Presence & Personal Safe Space ! I AM finding the I AM Affirmation Discourses by St.Germain most helpful in reclaiming our own personal power & building a loving, strong & lasting relationship with ourselves & Our Creator, all the Divine, which only leads to the deep dive introspection work needed, with built in all-powerful Angelic support always, when you ask for it, listening in stillness of mind, we can reprogram & transform ourselves for reaching our optimum, as the Universe wants, when we ask & stay connected, the Divine always answers, usually immediately when you assume a loving creative activity for yourself ! 💞 Being Kind to oneself becomes a most important priority ! Things get better from there since you can start to feel better & keep building on that, yay ! ❤❤❤🎶💃🏼🙏🏼🎶😇🕊️💫

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

@@naturalist369 you are so welcome! You sound like a courageous, hard working person. It gets better!!

I am currently focusing on “I am not responsible for other’s emotions”

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Yes!! That’s so great and will help you with boundaries!

@amyproudfoot6611

8 ай бұрын

It's a tough one 😞

@Lilith.Lenore

6 ай бұрын

I have a sticky note in my kitchen that says I am not responsible for other people's -Actions -Reactions -Fears -Behaviours -Excuses -Feelings -BULLSHIT I read it when I need to and having a few sticky notes in my kitchen with these honest reminders really helps!! You've got this! Remember it's all a process! 🖤

@Shaina_singh_amrita

Ай бұрын

But this is not entirely true. It you are an abuser you have to be accountable for your actions and tha in that case you ARE responsible for your VICTIM'S emotions. This line is not totally true. A lot of Abusers hide behind this line and hurt everyone emotionally and walk away while leaving someone to die emotionally/physically/financially If you ARE the CAUSE of someone's misery by YOUR deliberate ACTIONS than you ARE definitely accountable for the VICTIM'S Emotions

@miranderkawalala864

11 күн бұрын

Same here. ❤ Dealing with the guilt that keeps on coming up, but I'm getting through it. I know I got this

Wow! “I wanted to work on my relationships more than I wanted to work on myself” so true for me.

@MichelleFarrismft

2 ай бұрын

Yep, that's really the heart of codependency. :)

I’m in the “setting boundaries” & “feel your own feelings” phase of this now. It’s ROUGH. I am/was the “giver.” I’ve done so much work on figuring out why she did certain things. Only recently did I start figuring out why I am in this cycle. It’s because of my mother. She passed away when I was 18 & I always felt the need to protect. Do everything I could for this person who often felt powerless. The situation I found myself in last almost 3 years. The dynamic was great at the beginning! But the scales started to tip. I did EVERYTHING I could to help her - with work, mental health, physical health & family. She stopped growing. Her problems persisted while it took a drastic toll on me. I don’t know if I’ll ever be with her again. I don’t know if I would want to be. But I hope the absolute best for her. She couldn’t grow with me; I hope she grows without me - because I am starting to be a better person without her. Bittersweet.

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Yes, it IS bittersweet and a painful yet important lesson that some people aren't meant to stay in our lives forever. Sounds like you've done some really good work on yourself!

Realising I’m very codependent… especially regarding finances… I expect other people will take care of me because I don’t trust myself to take care of myself financially

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

That’s s great awareness Maree. Great work!

Thank you so much. I am healing from narcissistic abuse, physical, emotional, verbal, mental, and spiritual abuse.

@MichelleFarrismft

6 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching! You might find my journal prompts on healing narcissism helpful, they're in the description of this post.

Setting boundaries is useless. The relations you have now at this moment will not acknowledge these boundaries. They are used to walking all over you. I had to quit my job, leave my narcisissit husband and narcisissit father and i had to leave everyone and everything behind except my daughter. I now live in a small campervan with my early retirement pension. It's not easy, i have very little money but finally i'm no longer a slave or a robot. I am living my life ... finally 😊

@MichelleFarrismft

Ай бұрын

Yes with narcissists boundaries are typically not respected at all. I'm glad you took care of yourself and I'm sorry it's been a struggle.

@miranderkawalala864

11 күн бұрын

Love this for you ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

11 күн бұрын

@@miranderkawalala864 thanks Miranda for watching and showing up for some healing!

I've spent hours and hours wondering what is wrong with me and why I have to help everyone I come across, even if a small part of me doesn't actually want to help. I didn't know what to call it…

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

Well that is a huge step - knowing what the problem is! I'm SO glad you found me. I have lots of resources on my website too :)

This has bought tears to my eyes. The realization I am a codependent. Now I know, I can work on this. Thank you, you're very kind x

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Yeah, this is not easy but you are in the right place :)

@colettesmith5891

9 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft Thank you so much for replying,🙏. It's really not going to be easy, I'm 49 and only just excepted my childhood. I have had 2 relationship's with a narcissist and it's all finally making sense. I will work on this, I'm determined. You have really helped me and I am so grateful 🙏

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Absolutely- you are not alone in this!

@colettesmith5891

9 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft Thank you. You're doing a great service x

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

@@colettesmith5891 yay!! That makes me so happy!

The pattern throughout my adult life tends to be, obviously because I am here, I keep choosing the same type of relationship. But the other pattern is that once I recover and find myself again I immediately lose myself once I get into a relationship. In finding myself after a relationship I spend all this time and effort becoming a well-rounded individual but the second I couple with someone I give all of that away and try and become “everything” for the relationship. I so easily give myself away and when I don’t get that same effort in return, I become empty and resentful.

@MichelleFarrismft

Ай бұрын

Have you considered checking out Al-Anon or Coda? Both of them deal with issues of codependency.

It’s definitely a recovery process and breaking the habit of trying to cater to everyone else’s emotions. They will get ok while I’m over here needing more Botox

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Lol! Yeah I know we go through a lot don’t we? Thankfully recovery helps a whole lot!

Thank you for putting this out to the world. Today I am bawling because my alcoholic husband doesn’t think he needs help. I can feel the pain deep inside of him and it scares me. Building self trust and going to al-anon are my next steps. My brain keeps going to my marriage relationship instead of going to me first and healing there. This video opened my eyes. Thank you, Michelle

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Jennifer, my heart goes out to you. I know it's so hard when others don't seek help but I'm really glad that YOU are going to help yourself in Al-Anon. You are on the right track! One day at a time, it will get better especially with that extra support!

@brendarose8338

Жыл бұрын

Hope you’re doing better x

@jacquelinegrace3

11 ай бұрын

@jenniferrackham8107 Thank you Jennifer for thanking Michelle! ❤ because my alcoholic husband doesn’t think he needs help either! And I too can feel his deep pain and insecurities…💔❤️‍🩹 my heart goes out to you and your husband! And my thanks to Michelle! I just found her!❤ My 6 mos in AlAnon was eye opening! But week after week the folks only looked backward in pain and frustration, focused on the alcoholic. As the program began to help me, I started to wonder when our circle would begin to focus on ourselves? OUR interests. OUR fun plans. But it never did. Always about the sick one. So I stopped going. I’d like a coda group. 😢

@gillianmountford4942

4 ай бұрын

Hope he feels he needs help eventually Good luck and Karma for yourself!

@gillianmountford4942

4 ай бұрын

@@jacquelinegrace3 Good point- Looking at/ to the future…

Love your pup in the background. Very comforting. ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Yeah sometimes she's right there with me! Thanks Cynthia for watching!

I attended a 12 step for codependency, but I don't like how they want you to say your name and then "codependent". I'm much more than just codependent traits that I learned. I'm a loved, cherished, child of God. I'm not going to label myself like that. I trust God to heal me of these behaviors that don't serve me well.

@MichelleFarrismft

6 ай бұрын

Interesting- I’m Al-Anon they don’t do that but every group is different. You can always decide not to do that if it makes you uncomfortable but I agree we are many things - not totally defined by our codependency. ❤️

Codependency hurts so bad . It’s just such an agony

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Yes, it does -have you considered checking out Al-Anon? It's a free support group for codependency related to addiction.

@domingo3632

3 ай бұрын

it is

Cute puppy chilling out in the background ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you, she is pretty old now but loves to be right there when I’m filming. Thanks for watching!

Thank you for this video. Really just finding out I’m co dependent and wondered why my relationships were awful and I felt awful everyday. Connecting the dots finally. This was helpful

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Good for you! I have lots of free resources listed in the description too.

You have hit me perfectly. Boundaries. I am working hard on these! Thank you! ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

I hope it was a gentle nudge! ❤️

yes and ditto! and thank you so much Xxx this has been really helpful, and such an important guide to start healing and moving forwards. Xxx

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Amanda! I'm glad it helped! If you have any topics requests, let me know! I love sharing on codependency!

Thank you for being you. I always love your content. I'm learning how to set boundaries and evaluating what relationships I want to keep and which ones need to end.

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank YOU! That means a lot to me - I hope you consider joining my email community so I can help you even more!

That was freaking awesome!! Thank you so much for sharing this video! xoxo ❣️ 😁

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome! I'm SO glad it helped!

This is very helpful. Thank you for sharing!

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome Dee!

Hi Michelle. I come from this as a person that has mostly healed from codependency and this is a way of me checking up. Very important as I have (largely through the help of online therapists such as yourself) mostly done this all on my own. I know you wouldn't recommend it and I agree in the main, but I am an INFJ so I'm actually quite willing to be self-reflective and introspective once I intentionally choose to focus on my own problems instead of others around me. This has helped a great deal and part of the reason why I was able to instinctively navigate the onslaught of difficult emotions that I'd kept repressed and hidden for decades. While I have managed to overcome a veritable laundry list of issues I still see there are parts of me that are needing encouragement. Fortunately I now do all of those things you have mentioned in this video. I have finally rescued that broken child with the wounds of abandonment, neglect, guilt, shame, people-pleasing and anxious attachment. I still see that I have yet to trust myself fully with this new mindset (which is liberating in any case) and do worry as to how I'll navigate life and relationships at the other end, but I'm more than aware of the boundaries I need to set and that includes this relationship I have with myself. Thanks for the clarity you bring to this subject and know that your approach to it will definitely help people to heal.

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

I admire you for doing so much work on your own - few can do that but I agree that it IS possible. Self-trust is a MAJOR key - so I hear you there. I created a journal on that too if you're interested. Thanks so much for watching and taking the time to comment and share your story.

Great video. Your story resonates with me a lot. ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad Sara. I hope you come back again!

This has been really helpful, and such an important guide to start healing and moving forward.

@MichelleFarrismft

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching and saying so :)

Really good stuff. This had taught me that a relationship only enhances the way I already feel.

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Oh that is SO true and very wise!

Great video which gives solutions but also describes codependency so well!

@MichelleFarrismft

4 ай бұрын

Yes! I was aiming to give both the problem and the solution!

Hello Michelle, thank you for amazing talk, I heard a lot like this in the past however your help re talks have opened my inner eyes , after a long time. Kind regards (Nellie) Natalie

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Nellie, I really strive to provide helpful tips that are easy to follow :)

Thank you so much

@MichelleFarrismft

Ай бұрын

You are very welcome Sharon! Feel free to check out my free resources in the description.

yes. ditto. thank you.

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Ami!!!

Love this!

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you Karen! I’m so glad!

Thank you!

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

You’re very welcome!

I've been doing coda 12 steps for almost 7 months now and I haven't felt like I've been doing step work in order. I've been listening to others at my therapy and becoming more and more self aware of how I have been doing things unknowingly based on fear so I've been looking deeper into myself. I have only just surrendered to the higher power, the universe. Only just releasing controlling aspects of my personality and getting a better relationship within myself. I copied it all from my mums behaviour after the break up with my dad but I think he also had some Co dependant traits and it lead to a toxic break involving kids. I love my parents and still speak to them but it's hard to heal around the people who made me this way. Hopefully soon I will see more of a change and be less frightened of intamcy. X

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Thank you Catherine, yeah it's hard to look at our childhood wounds but that will make a huge difference in the long run. I love hearing that you are building a relationship with yourself! It took my many years to realize I needed that. You are doing great!

Thanks💕

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome 😊

Many of us need to listen to your messages for the healing process

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks BJ - that’s my hope! To help as many as I can!

Thank you

@MichelleFarrismft

4 ай бұрын

You’re welcome!

What a great video, thank you for this. I've just recently discovered what codependency is and I think I'm suffering from it.

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

That was really nice. Thank you

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Oh great! Thank you for saying that!

Jimmy is the man. What a great corner

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

Who is Jimmy?

Ditto! Thanks for your video

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome! Glad you enjoyed it!

Thank you for this ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Absolutely, you’ll probably find this one helpful too! 5 Ways to Start Recovering from Codependency in Relationships kzread.info/dash/bejne/d6p1mauOpKjZc6g.html

I think we have a lot of support on YT! ❤

I can relate!

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Yes! You’re in the right place!

Thanks , watched for a friend.

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

How nice is that! You’re welcome!

Its like codependancy is the polar opposite to the narccissist? I guess this is why narccissists always seem to be in a relationship with a co dependant person? We fuel them? Thank you for the video, I have just realised that the psychologist I was seeing fortnightly was trying to get me to do exactly what you are saying to do to recover from co dependancy. Why didnt he just tell me I am co dependant? I have exited a 17 year marriage nearly 2 years now, the lonelyness is a killer but I have started to take up hobbies I used to have as a kid. But I still feel empty and struggle with self worth, validating my feelings and even listening to them. Its a long road to recovery 😔

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Sounds like you are doing a lot of good work. Actually narcissism isn't the opposite though it may seem like it :) - they both need external approval but seek it in different ways. Thanks for watching!

I've always known there was something wrong with the way I relate to other people, I just never knew what to name it. I even know where it came from, I've already had all the memories and the revelations. Now that I know what it is, I can go about fixing it. I'm just beginning to heal from it, but I think I'll start with trusting myself. I think if I can rely on my own feelings, it'll be easier to unlearn all the horrible anxiety I have surrounding voicing my own will.

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

That's great that you are so eager to start recovery! I love working with codependency. I have lots of resources on it too.

This journey of slowly building myself has not only realized what I have done, but also how my former partner may have read my behaviors. Helping me realize the unspoken boundaries that I had crossed, and how to avoid it in the future

@MichelleFarrismft

6 ай бұрын

Good for you, it sounds like you have been doing some great work!

Ditto!!! 🎉

Yes

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

Yes!! Ditto++

@MichelleFarrismft

4 ай бұрын

Thank you! So glad you found my video, I hope you found it helpful.

Very helpful

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

Thank you!

DITTO. Great video WOW. Thank you

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Thank you SO much! I hope you come back and subscribe :)

This is 100% me right there 😢

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

I’m so glad you could relate!

Very good video.

@MichelleFarrismft

15 күн бұрын

Thank you so much, I have lots more on this topic :)

yes

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks again for watching!

Ditto 💯

@MichelleFarrismft

Ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Thankyou

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

You are very welcome!

Yes😊

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!

Ditto. Wish I had found this video two years ago when I was figuring things out.

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

Better let than never and I do a lot on codependency so hopefully you’ll be back!

I am just now admitting to myself I am very codependent in close friendships… which I think stems from my codependent relationship with my mom (which she admits to) and my separation anxiety stuff 😅 It even comes at the sacrifice to self preservation. I literally had an allergic reaction to eating lobster and said NOTHING for over over an hour as it progressively got worse. Why? Because I didn’t want my friend to freak out or be a burden 🤦‍♀️. I was getting a migraine, my tongue and neck was swelling up, and I felt electric down my limbs as my nervous system was shutting down but chose to say nothing. When I really needed a Benadryl and medical attention. Needless to say this would have been kept a secret from my friend but my mom forced me to tell her. My friend was very angry with me that I basically could have died and yet chose to do nothing 😅. And no longer am I allowed to try new foods in her presence because new allergies have emerged and I am not trust worthy in telling people I need help. So I need help I admit it now, I need to stop this need to be needed because it is driving me crazy! And it’s not okay.

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Oh my...I'm so glad you are okay. I agree that speaking up is CRITICAL for you. You might consider Al-Anon al-anon.org

Your pup is the OPPOSITE of anxious and troubled! Let’s all be like that awesome pup on the couch❤

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Yeah she was the best! She passed away this last May. Cookie was great ❤️❤️

@IamwhatIam2012

9 ай бұрын

Oh NO!!! So sorry… that is super painful to go thru I know❤️‍🩹 I also wanted to say thank you for the wise tips… I need it now more than ever!

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

@@IamwhatIam2012 thank you, I’m grateful I could grief and didn’t get stuck there.

Yes and ditto

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Renee!

yes, ditto

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Sue for watching - you're not alone!

Ditto ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for watching!

I found out that i am a real co dependt ...my last relationship wasn't that bad and i feel guilty to have a desire that I want to save... especially that the person is helpful and supportive..he knows my problems

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

You are in the right place! I have lots of videos and free resources to help you heal codependency 😀

This is amazing! Step 1: build an amazing relationship with and date yourself! Amen ❤

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Yes! Befriending yourself helps to decrease our unhealthy dependency on others.

@BMILBOCKER10

10 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft I love this and it’s so empowering!

@BMILBOCKER10

10 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft I never realized I did not love myself or truly even know myself before. Even though it’s a painful journey at times leaving an abusive relationship I am grateful that it is giving me this gift! I love your videos you are so talented at what you do and I am so grateful for your time and knowledge and understanding as well as hope! ❤️ thank you!

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

@@BMILBOCKER10 thank you! Watch out for my video tomorrow on codependency and anger.

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

@@BMILBOCKER10 you are so courageous! I’m honored to be a part of your journey!

Ditto! 😮

@MichelleFarrismft

6 ай бұрын

Thank you! You're not alone!

Thank you. I’m subconsciously trying to hold on to a part of my mom by living with panic disorder because that’s how she lived. I haven’t had contact with her for years, but I’m struggling with this.

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

Have you considered Al-non or CODA? They re both free 12 step programs that are online.

@phyllisboyle1162

5 ай бұрын

⁠@@MichelleFarrismftno. I don’t even know what CODA? How would Al Anon help my panic disorder?

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

@@phyllisboyle1162 since you were watching a codependency video I thought that might be connected - if not then I’d recommend therapy.

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

@phyllisboyle1162 Coda stands for Codependents Anonymous - a 12 step program for healing one sided relationships and self-neglect. If that is part of what’s causing the panic then it might help but therapy would be what I’d recommend for panic disorder.

Co-dependent Anonymous - who would know that there would be such a thing? Thanks for good summary.

@MichelleFarrismft

28 күн бұрын

I know, I’m very grateful these programs are so accessible!

Super

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

Ditto!

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching!!

Agreed

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Thank you for taking the time to say so!

Being alone is a "one minute at a time" situation. I wish I were healthy.

@MichelleFarrismft

8 ай бұрын

I totally hear you, the withdrawal from relationship can be excruciating- I hope you have plenty of support.

@ckl5801

5 ай бұрын

It gets easier every min of every day. Focus on learning to love you.

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

@@ckl5801 that’s a great focus!

What are some examples of boundaries for a relationship?

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Removing yourself when someone mistreats you, saying no to something you don’t want to do, not putting up with unacceptable behavior by removing yourself. Hope those help!

@ckl5801

5 ай бұрын

Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend are the experts. I found their books at library and it changed my life!

I want to be free of this in my marriage and with my son.❤🙏

@MichelleFarrismft

2 ай бұрын

Hang in there, the good news is that there are LOTS of resources to help :)

How do I do the tip that comes before the bonus one?

@MichelleFarrismft

2 ай бұрын

Remind me which one that is?

ditto

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Thanks Jonathan!

Yes)

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!! You’re not alone!

Ditto

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks Sharon!

Hey I need help. I don’t know why I have a hard time expressing and feeling my emotions. I feel like I’m always overreacting or at times I don’t know if I am or reacting just fine

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Well your feelings are valid no matter what! You might consider therapy to uncover what’s underneath that. You might try journaling - I have a self-trust journal that focuses on building self-trust/self-esteem.

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Or you could try Alanon for support and learning more about yourself. It’s a free program for people struggling with codependency 😀

I've recently discovered I'm codependent. My boyfriend wants space from our relationship whilst I work on it. Your links are US based and I'm in the UK. Do you know any that may work for me? Thanks

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

My links should work outside of the US - have you looked at my codependency workbook? I'm sure its in the description of this post. It includes some very short videos. I'm also releasing an online course on codependency soon. :)

@ckl5801

5 ай бұрын

I hope you are in a good space!

I’m very co dependent

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

You are in the right place! I have lots of videos and free journal prompts to help you!

The links are not working. Is there another way to get the worksheets?

@MichelleFarrismft

4 ай бұрын

Thanks - lead pages is experiencing an outage so go to my website www.counselingrecovery.com - I have theme there too.

I can't get to that part at all ! I need help my addict husband has my stomach hurts an can't sleep can't eat it freaking hurts

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

Try Al-Anon al-anon.org this is a free support group that will give you the tools to cope. You don’t have to go through this alone!

YES....ugh!

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

You’re not alone!! It takes courage to see this stuff!

im currently in a relationship where the guy got married arranged ) in a differrnt country and had her pregnant while his high on drugs yet still im settling i dont know why i am doing this pls can you help me change my thoughts are crazy i dotn know what to do :(

@MichelleFarrismft

11 ай бұрын

I would suggest attending Al-Anon or Coda 12 step meetings. They are free, online and provide very helpful tools.

@abigailparas7576

11 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft oh thank you ! ill chck now !

I recently found out I’m a full blown codependent

@MichelleFarrismft

5 ай бұрын

I know it may seem like a lot but there are SOOOOO many tools to help you recover. I have a whole playlist on this topic plus journals and courses. 😀 welcome to the club! You can do it! Baby steps will make a difference and sometimes it will feel like you’re stuck in mud but it will change your life for the better!!

ditto 😕

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Thanks for participating!! We are not alone right?

@gtohenry6469

Жыл бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft We are not, thank you for all you do! Have been in Coda and now in therapy, thank you again for all you have posted!

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@gtohenry6469 that’s awesome!!!

mam what are hilling codepency

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Sorry I don't understand what you mean.

@ezazkhan4233

Жыл бұрын

my family not understand what are codepency

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@ezazkhan4233 yes we’ll they may not understand it, but you are here willing to learn and that’s great!

@ezazkhan4233

Жыл бұрын

mam you are great work

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@ezazkhan4233 thank you so much!

Do you have a fee for counseling?

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

Yes but right now I'm not able to accept new clients.

@matthewjahnke6956

7 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft OK. When would be the best time? Now. I live in Houston. I would hate to having to fly from Houston to the airport and stay overnight at a motel.

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

@@matthewjahnke6956 sorry I can’t work with anyone who doesn’t live in California

@matthewjahnke6956

7 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft I understand.

what solution mam codepency people plesing person

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Focus more on what you need and figure out when you are starting to sacrifice yourself. That’s a good start. Do less for others ( if that is an issue ) and more for yourself!

@ezazkhan4233

Жыл бұрын

must problem mam low self esteem mam what are increasing self esteem

@ezazkhan4233

Жыл бұрын

poor cumnication skills

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@ezazkhan4233 check out my playlist on self-esteem. That will get you started. How to Use Self Love Affirmations without Doing More kzread.info/dash/bejne/nIN9qrWRg7a5ZMY.html

So if I am with an alcoholic who is also codependent, should I just cut my ties?

@MichelleFarrismft

7 ай бұрын

Not necessarily. The first thing is to consider Al-Anon, a free support group for families of alcoholics. It can provide tremendous support and mentors to help you work through these issues.

I’m going to find ME!

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Yes!!!! That’s exactly what codependency recovery will do! Help you discover you!

@brendarose8338

Жыл бұрын

I hope so, I’m stuck at bottom now I think

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@brendarose8338 I have some free journal prompts on self-care and figuring out boundaries if you’re interested.

@brendarose8338

Жыл бұрын

Yes please where can I find it please?

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

@@brendarose8338 here you go counselingrecovery.lpages.co/codependent-worksheets/

Feeling like the only guy in here lol

@MichelleFarrismft

Жыл бұрын

Well I'm happy that you're here! Thanks for watching!

This sounds like me

@MichelleFarrismft

4 ай бұрын

You’re not alone! Thanks for being here!

Help

@MichelleFarrismft

2 ай бұрын

Please check out my resources in the description - maybe something will speak to you.

Yeah a lot of stems from unmet childhood needs

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Thank you for watching!

Dido

@MichelleFarrismft

3 ай бұрын

Thank you!

Fat too many adverts that the intrusion makes me think to not listen to this even though content is so good

@MichelleFarrismft

9 ай бұрын

Sorry about that, I can’t tell how many KZread decides to do on each video. I hear you though.

Want free 12 steps program

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

Yes! Al-Anon and other 12 step groups are free!

@ANU-pz5bx

10 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft If this is free I want to take that.

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

@@ANU-pz5bx yes it is. al-anon.org

@MichelleFarrismft

10 ай бұрын

@@ANU-pz5bx yes it is.

@ANU-pz5bx

10 ай бұрын

@@MichelleFarrismft mam,in the link they're showing for alcoholic parents but my family members are toxic,chaotic,immature,abusive and neglecting.They're not alcoholic.Can I take that program?