Codependency and Creativity
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types tend to struggle severely with codependency throughout life. This can be extremely detrimental to our creative lives because codependency is a major block to creativity.
When we are in a codependent relationship with someone, we often will hold ourselves back from doing anything that is threatening to the other person. We will accommodate the other person’s preferences and desires over our own needs, and end up betraying ourselves over and over again. Creativity requires us to take risks, and often these risks can be threatening to other people, especially someone who might be the other half of our codependent relationship.
Within codependent relationships, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types also tend to play pre-defined roles. We may be playing out roles with the other person such as narcissist-enabler or rescuer-victim. Whatever roles are present in the relationship, both parties usually expect that those roles will not change, and that they will remain constant over time. In contrast, creativity changes us at a deep level, and the deeper we get into any kind of creative process, the more we will question our current roles in life and the energy of our relationships.
Every time we hit a codependent block to our creativity, we are being given the opportunity to shatter an old, outdated pattern that no longer serves us. However, we must choose to surrender to the process of the pattern being shattered. If we resist it, it’s likely that we will stay entrenched in codependency.
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Codependency is like running a three legged race and the other person won’t move with you.
@yukio_saito
Ай бұрын
Well said.
@stephanielyn22
Ай бұрын
I feel this 😆 thank you for this.
@namez2a
Ай бұрын
And the furthest you can go is in circles.
I feel like a lot of my creative self is trapped in my childhood. I was always trying to draw, write, but the heaviness of my mother wound kept that energy from flowing. I could feel her jealousy and i loved to sing and perform in private. I often hid this from my parents. Once seen by my mother it was shut down. Even when taking courses as an adult, i become so self-conscious and i have a hard time enjoying the process. Everything is about proving i am worthy or deserving of doing what i love.
After I graduated from college, I started working at a service-oriented job that I disliked. The work didn't require the skills I had learned in school, and it mainly involved serving others daily. Although it was a safe and stable job, it was also very boring and some of my coworkers and bosses had narcissistic traits. I found it exhausting to constantly communicate with them and after two years, I finally decided to make a change. I quit my job, planning to pursue writing, but when I tried, I realized I was suffering from severe creativity blockage. It took me almost three years to heal from this, and that was when I began to learn more about the concept of codependency and how to heal it. Some of the points you mentioned in this video were my true experiences; really spot on.
Healing from codependency has the biggest potential for personal development for INFJ’s. Because our energy field is in a state of leakage if we are not aware of the toxic patterns. It is a game changer if you start noticing it! If you become aware of the toxic patterns in relationships characterized by codependency and narcissisism a never ending development cycle will be started. I learned a lot of the different courses and books of Lauren and for me it was a point of no return. This program is indeed spot on.
You're spot on Lauren about being the 'Unofficial Counsellor. Back in the day I would have 'Friends' who would only contact me when they needed access to my skill as unpaid counsellor. I've come to realize that to a' friend' who is a narcissist, this access constitutes a form of narcissistic supply.
@stephanywilkes3598
Ай бұрын
Spot on! I decided to count how many such requests I got for "unofficial counseling" this past week: 12! It would have easily been 12 hours out of my week, and my energy. Love Lauren's work - so helpful.
@yukio_saito
Ай бұрын
I door-slammed "friends" who count on my unpaid counseling. 🚪⛔😅
@sharonfuszard8861
Ай бұрын
@@yukio_saito I wish I'd been that wise at the time!😀
I no longer care about whatever happens to toxic people. I walk away as soon as a chronic talker comes to me. 🚶♂💨💨🚩 Even a "paid" counselor has a time limit, so you don't need to keep on listening to those who disrespect your time.
it's like being an energy dispenser
Love you Lauren!❤❤ You are so spot on with this! I enjoy learning from you. Had a wonderful session with you this week in Sage Adderly's Quest back to Self. Thank you for all you do!
I love you Lauren, thank you for all the work you do for us.
Codependency with God is the ultimate form of simultaneous evolution and end-state. The never-ending cycle of development and perfection; the interplay of pinterlay, the erlay of pint, the terlay of pin. If INFJ, then IN in need of the ultimate feeling, of the ultimate judge: the one who will look through our eyes, breaking us out of the prison of self and into God; the ultimate bliss of seeing through his eyes.
@williamcastilla1963
Ай бұрын
Amen!!!
@whimsylore
Ай бұрын
There's a difference between codependency (as a term used in psychology) and interdependence. We are not trying to caretake God, nor treat God as if He can't do things for Himself....
@OnceTheyNamedMeiWasnt
Ай бұрын
@@whimsylore God needed to create us. And God is within us. He is not some sort of distant, separate "thing". There's only one consciousness and we share it.
@whimsylore
Ай бұрын
Hence interdependence, which is not the same thing as codependency ;)
@OnceTheyNamedMeiWasnt
Ай бұрын
@@whimsylore With respect, the meaning of the word is clear. God needs us because of the infinite terror and loneliness of his solipsistic existence. We need God because of the infinite terror and loneliness of our solipsistic existence. There is only one consciousness, not many, though the illusion suits us all. We are all one thing playing a game with ourselves to avoid the infinite terror and loneliness of our solipsistic existence. That's known as codependency. But it's actually a myth; there's really no such thing as codependency, just insanity trying to cope.