“It’s not you. It’s God.”... what you said about that is so true. I once had a guy that pulled that on me. It was the hardest breakup I’ve ever gone through because it made me feel as if God plays favoritism. Even though, it took me a few months to get over it, by the grace of God, I was able to fully forgive that person. Looking back now, I’m so grateful for that pain I had experienced because it allowed me to fix my eyes only on God. Thank you for what you do. Your videos are a blessing to me.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing this. I'm sure many can relate to this experience. God bless! Thanks again for all your encouragement:)

@ayandankosi8484

5 жыл бұрын

Kale Lover I can totally relate . It’s the most painful feeling and confusing feeling ever. I even struggled to trust in God after he told me that God told him we need to break up . By the grace of God I healed and forgave him too. Thank you for this video.

@jonathanmireles1483

4 жыл бұрын

I’m glad you grew stronger in grace and understood better. I feel like this is what I’ve been going through just a few months ago

@caseyg1516

4 жыл бұрын

I had a girl also say this to me, and I agree with everything you said. I was so glad to see him make this point because it really did make me feel that God had favored that person over me for a long time after. I have been able to work through that, but it was very difficult and made it so much harder.

@abigailsmith153

2 жыл бұрын

Yup a month my ex told me that it was God who told him to break up with me because he needed more of God 2 weeks ago he texted me again we decided to start again and just last night he told me the same thing just differently that he needs more of God and he needs to separate from me … I gave up

Breakups are sooo hard when you really care about the other person. why is that? It’s like if you break up with them you fear they will never be happy which is totally not true.

@mikkey246

2 жыл бұрын

Good intel

@thevegantitian

2 жыл бұрын

Same situation I usually have been the dumper in the past. But gave dumping because there is one particular guy that I could not get over and I felt guilty like letting him go was a bad choice so I took him back. I am waiting on him to dump me. I know it's a dumb choice because I have gotten so attached and I really like him. It will be painful when he dumps me. But I just don't know how to let him go. I really like him. So I asked God to help me and allow him to dump me🤷‍♀️

@DecencyDhar

2 жыл бұрын

Yes i agree with you 🥺

@d_m512

4 ай бұрын

Exactly what I'm going through. I keep wondering whether he's okay😢😢 I ended it to prioritize my relationship with God, he didn't want it to end. I don't know if we'll be okay

@SB-rs8te

4 ай бұрын

@@d_m512 He will be OK. It will take some time but you have to do what’s right according to what God is leading you to do.

I ended a relationship with someone because I thought he was ok waiting until marriage but all of a sudden found out he wasn’t anymore. He somehow thought me waiting until marriage because I’m a Christian was to manipulate him because of his previous relationship experiences. We had never been or even come close to being physically intimate. I wanted to be with him but in order to not pressure myself and make him feel like he was being controlled, I ended it because as a believer I couldn’t compromise my values just to keep someone. So I just simply told him, while I loved him and wanted to be with him very much, what was more important than me trying to force him to agree with my desires, I would rather he be with someone who he felt could align with his current desires and need, since that’s what seemed to be most important to him.

Thank you for the free E-Book.. God Bless you

It was definitely difficult and heartbreaking at that moment but now I think that it was the best choice and I should have done it earlier lol. Praise the Lord ❤️ God is good and he is always right.

Thank you so much for the video. It's helped me a lot.

Mark,these are really inspiring videos. God has really used you to touch areas on uncertainty in my life. More grace to your elbows.

Hi, greetings from Tanzania, thanks so much for your video its really helped me a lot. GOD bless you

Thank you for this video.

Thank you so much for this! God bless you

So helpful. Thank you ❤

I love this video!

Right on time!

Good advice thanks

Thank you so much.. you are definitely God's sent.. this is my problem at the moment..i could relate really into it..

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Bimbimbap, so glad this was helpful, God bless!

Thank you! 😭

I think people should go step by step and be honest with each other as they get closer to one another like that they don't get themselves in these kinds of situations. God bless you🍂🍂🍂

This is even hard when you're trying to correct someone's behavior in general. How much should we tolerate if a person continues to be rude and disrespectful? I find myself continously confronting this negative attitude even when I truly want to help that person by calling them out...

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

If it's continuous you should not tolerate it at all. They need to stop or you need to remove yourself and put boundaries up. Proverbs 4:23

Best video on KZread.

Thank you I needed to watch this video

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Thank You. 💕

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

5 жыл бұрын

My pleasure!

Thank you

My fiance called off the engagement and the relationship because "God told me to." We were perfect together until I opened up about my past and about the addiction I had to porn years in the past. Like a good year before we dated I got out of it then I opened up just to tell her about me then she used this excuse " That's cheating and you're gonna keep doing it" She got so insecure about it and took it personally and used it against me. Then a year later or so she called off my engagement because of my past and God told her I'd keep doing it. I delt with lust but I got past it but she never saw that. I'm still stuck what should I do to move on? She blocked me on everything so I have no choice but to move on.

@mipe8622

4 жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear this. Sounds like she did you a favor. She would have probably judged you for the rest of your life.

@0vercast7

3 жыл бұрын

Dude you need someone that is willing to listen to you and build you up. A God fearing woman. This one sounds like she places herself in God’s throne because of, “God telling me.” No, God didn’t tell her that. Devils have.

@0vercast7

3 жыл бұрын

Her loss, bro. Keep trusting God, you’ll find someone much betterz

@K9amilo90

Жыл бұрын

Although I symphatize with you, I still see her decision as valid. If you had sexual relationships with other people and your ex didn't, then she has every right to call it off. Albeit, the wording that "God told me to" could have been different; she might have wanted to sugar coat it as not to appear judgmental. She also should have broken off the arrangement at the moment when she heard your past. One year of stringing you along is questionable, but I don't know the details of your relationship, so I don't want to point fingers

@Christopher-jp5zo

Жыл бұрын

Wow good thing you didn’t marry her, that’s terrible. You saw her true judgemental colours just in time There are many Christian men who used to struggle with porn addiction, so she’s problematic Sorry that happened to you, hope you’re doing better now

Welp. Where was this video last week when i completely fumbled thru a breakup? lol I used God as the breakup reason (which is the truth, bc I learned he wasn't a believer) when I told him I was looking for someone with a deeper faith walk to go thru life with. And it's the honest truth, bc otherwise he is absolutely amazing. I've cried everyday since, and I hope I didn't make a mistake. I've watched your video on ministry dating and being equally yoked, about 100x. Still praying about it and trying to move on, but if it's in God's will, He will make a way.

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Amen Gina, if it's his will he will become a believer bc we know for certain God doesn't want you to marry an unbeliever since the Bible says that. I actually don't think you did anything wrong. If you told him you wanted to be w a more mature Christian that is a legit explanation. It's only a problem when there is no explanation other than "God told me" and that's it. I really respect your courage to follow God even when it hurts. Hang in there. God has a good plan for you.

@gmariemay

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Mark! I appreciate you so much!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

👍

@_einodmilvado

5 жыл бұрын

So hard!

@_einodmilvado

5 жыл бұрын

Would love to connect on this topic. My name is also Gina!

I had a platonic female friend (I'm also female) who would never own her feelings and used the God told me to step away from you for your own growth card all the time. In the end we respect the other person far more if they own their feelings and don't use God as a cop out

3:52 love this!!!!

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

4 жыл бұрын

God bless!

I was so nice to her,loved and respected her so much that sometimes i make God angry by spending more time with her than i spend with him. The worst is that she receives tons of gifts and money from this other guy(even before she broke up with me).

How to break up ! Please guys don’t do it by text ( if you at least spend 6 months of emotional connection ) the other persons deserves at least a call … a text is not personals (even if it is your confort zone) telling with your own voice helps to heal soon .

@stever507

4 ай бұрын

Agreed

He's a good guy, a God-fearing man but I just don't enjoy being with him that much. I can spend a whole day, without even thinking about him once. Even though I am not busy, I can be bored the whole day, yet not think about him, not even once. That's weird. He is supposed to be in my mind...naturally, but he's almost never in my mind.

@paolarocha5992

2 жыл бұрын

I’m going through something similar right now and I’m so confused if maybe I should just wait and see if something develops later. I told him I liked him not too long ago but it doesn’t feel great now. I have a good time with him sometimes and fun and all that but mostly I feel that I try too hard around him

@HylkjenArt

Ай бұрын

Its exactly what im going through, im gonna break up tonight.. i asked god numerous times and had doubts the moment we started dating. it just felt wear wenever we hugged/cuddled ect. I geuss i justlike him very much platonically.. im so sad cuz he likes me a lot and i dont wanna hurt him... and my family lives him too.. than again ive only known him for 3 months

Some guys were like she lost attraction for me so that was why she lined up a replacement, i do believe that cos if someone truly loves you and wants to be in my life,they will make efforts for such to be accomplished

I’m 58 and just got the word from the woman I became best friends with. She always wanted marriage then when I leaned in she pulled the God cord. Maybe she’s afraid and confused. Whatever the case, I am 58 year old man, warrior spirit and crushed to the core. It has driven deeper on my knees with God. The struggle is I feel more drawn to pursue her, the more I pray! It’s driving me crazy. I didn’t want to hurry because I have failed marriages. Both walked away in adultery. Now she thinks it’s adultery to marry me after she read something from John Piper. I’ll get over it. Just putting mine out there for an example. She told me I’m her best friend too. Well isn’t that the type we want to marry? I have no desire to even look at another. I look down when even walking by. I don’t want eye contact. I pray my heart will not harden. I had major trust issues after giving my heart. I finally let go and pow!

@irislama4695

Жыл бұрын

God will guide you to your wife

What if you used to have a great relationship (at the very beginning) that glorified God and brought you closer to Him, but lately (within the last year) you feel like the relationship is dragging you down? Should you break up or fight for the relationship?

@ching962

4 жыл бұрын

I think if the relationship is no longer God-centered something needs to change. Either you two are idolizing each other and not prioritizing God or he's just not the right person for you. Is he worth fighting for and working things out and giving it a try? If the answer is no then I think it's time to move on.

@danielzwier4386

2 жыл бұрын

Are you both still together now?

I went to church Sunday and i prayed for us Wedneaday morning and as of Wednesday night we were arguing.....as of today the relationship is over...Gods Plan....it sucks I dont want to live anymore

Green door lol it a song as well.

There was sexual sin, we wanted to be married eventually, but he had difficulty becoming stable emotionally, and financially. Those were both deal breakers for me. It hurts a lot, bc he is not a bad person. I just can’t be with him while he is like this.

Pls mark,i now know she wasn't meant for me,so how do i detach myself from her since we go to the same college and we live in the same block.

I got myself in a pretty bad situation by not listening to what the lord would have me to do and instead going off doing my own thing and getting myself into a really bad position. And I tried to break it off with this person and move on but they won't leave they keep harassing me and making my life miserable on top of that this person is super manipulative and vindictive, I really don't know what to do 😞

Oof. This would have been a very useful video to find at the time of my last breakup. Especially the last point. It has honestly haunted me that I wasn't honest with my ex about the damage she was doing, before I called it off, especially considering we were engaged. I wish I was the man I am now, back then. How does someone deal with regrets of this kind?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

This definitely sounds tough Peter. But it sounds like you've grown since then so it's clear God used that past relationship for good. Once you get married one day, God willing, you will see the benefits even more clearly. This vid may help too kzread.info/dash/bejne/dG2WzKikZrTJqJs.html

I have a really disturbing question,i was dating this girl but she betrayed me by lining up a replacement before breaking up with me. We are both students in college but she claims her parents don't approve of our relationship cos they feel i don't have the ability to take care of their daughter.

I was never given the opportunity to see and speak to her parents cos she ssid it might just worsen the situation. Long story short,she is in a new relationship. My question is how do i forgive myself and move on cos i feel so betrayed and used and how do i forgive her cos whenever i remember the things she did,hatred slowly creeps into my heart.

It’s not you . . . it’s God ! LOL I love that

My boyfriend just became a christain we have been dating for nine years and we are in our fifties I believe in God but he said out of the blue we are not eaqual yoked but he's not looking for marriage this doesn't make sense need advice?

How do I really know? Can I count confusion as a word from the Lord to end it?

Often times we have to be careful with soul ties. Even though a person is born again they could have a spiritual spouse due to sexual sins in their past . We still sow what we reap even after being saved.

Can I have ebook for singleness🙂

Rudy, you can talk to them freely but for me it needs miracle.then initiate a break up?

I don't want to pray to find my the one. After all that happens to me when my ex girlfriend left me for no good reason. I prayed for almost 3yrs to find my the one. Im aware to have a girlfriend becoz i want my first girlfriend be my first and last. And she told. Im the one that she pray to God but now she left and she told me. Let God and let God write your. I cried and never stop asking God why and how could this happen to me. Because of her i cant sing and focus on youth the becoz of my situation. I left my ministries and I dont want to come to church singing out of focus becoz of her. Correct me if i am wrong in my grammar. Im filipino

@michellej6178

5 жыл бұрын

Dont give up. It may have been hard to go through that but God knows whats best for you. He keeps His promises. He will give you a wife. Dont give up.

we are equally yoked, but there is a sin cycle. we are too young to get married, and he often times makes me sad by hanging around his ex. i don’t want to marry a man that behaves how he does. but we’ve been together for almost two years, we attend the same church, the same band, have the same friends. How would i be able to move on?

We are always on God's way. But she broke up for I said to her, you have to know how to wearing because she posted wrong photos. Because it's India. Anything will happen. I was try to protect her. I didn't say don't wear. But she is not understanding. What should I do?

I’m in a situation where my boyfriend goes to my very small church with a youth group of less than 10 people I don’t know how to deal with it and have tried several times to break up with him but chicken out every time I’m a senior and high school and feel that having a year left in youth group could be hard with an ex how should I break up with him I’ve almost done it over text to get it over but I feel bad every time and don’t send it

@babyqueen2030

5 жыл бұрын

Your breaking up with him because he's in a small church group?

Hi Mark, I'm kind of struggling with something right now. There's this guy that I fell in love with, and we got into a relationship. But he broke it off because we weren't focused on God and he didn't feel like he was good enough for me. A lot has happened since then. So much that it's made me doubt before that he even loved me a little bit when he claimed to love me more than anyone besides God. I've been hurt a lot, and because of that, my friends and family are VERY much against me and him happening again. However, he apologized a lot of things recently. And he said that.leaving me was one of the worst mistakes he has ever made. He said that he was scared and that's why all of that happened. He says he still loves me and thinks I lead him closer to Christ. But I don't know what to do. I'm scared and confused right now because I've grown a lot since we broke off, and I do not want to lose that. Please give advice if you can, even if it's hard to hear.

@jinxbryant27

5 жыл бұрын

Kate Imm I’m kind of going through something similar. What ended up happening with you??

@mode200

5 жыл бұрын

Hello dear, give it time for him to prove himself not only to you but to your family and friends as well. Nothing physical and do not rush into engagement or marriage. Good luck with everything and God bless 💕

@MarchVargas

Жыл бұрын

I wonder what happened between you guys?

What about messiness? My house is a wreck and I don’t feel her pulling her weight. She’s kind, caring, and very much Christian. But I’ve addressed the issue since the beginning and it hasn’t gotten any better in the entirety of the 3 months we’ve been dating.

Bro, I have a girlfriend who I don't really know if shes a genuin christian but I dont want to let her go all I know is that she's still growing in faith. I'm praying for her that she will grow in faith and then I can marry her. Now i'm trying to understan her, sometimes she dont wanna see me which I dont know why. I'm sad thinking that our relationship might not work. What you think?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

Mhelco Lasmarias, good question, I can see the dilemma....this video may help kzread.info/dash/bejne/ooaOtZJqoLjfiJM.html

Sounds like your advocating recreational dating in a way to figure out find a spouse. Correct me if Im wrong

I told him that I want to be in a Christ centered relationship and we're not obedient. Is it hurtful?

@rachaelrachael7440

3 жыл бұрын

No

What if ur with someone that God confirmed that ur going to marry but the person isnt making u happy? There are more unhappy moments than happy moment with this person? You cant break up with that person bc God already told u that this is the one u will marry so what do u do in that situation?

@Gerealistic

2 жыл бұрын

I am going through the same thing. Even worse, he doesn't forgive the past. He keeps using it as a crutch to make me feel bad and apologize every time he says it. When I try to talk to him about something that he did that I didn't like, he will bring up all my past mistakes as a defense.

I really need help... my life has gotten so dark lately and I feel like I’m losing everything. I’ve lost most of my feelings for my boyfriend and I’m left with this sadness. I was dead convinced he was the one, and he still is convinced...💔

@danielzwier4386

2 жыл бұрын

I know what you mean.. 😪

@crystalbrooks2684

2 жыл бұрын

@@danielzwier4386 Same thing happen to you?

@danielzwier4386

2 жыл бұрын

Yes i'm like in the same situation...2 years full of peace and rest in our relationship we both serving God...and it looks like all is gone now.. feeling restless nervous and short nights.. low energy...please let God restore

@crystalbrooks2684

2 жыл бұрын

@@danielzwier4386 “the enemy seeks to kill, steal, and destroy” I met with a wise Christian friend this week and she helped me see these things don’t come from God, He grants peace. Hope this helped

My guy broke with me, saying he is not ready for marriage, bcos the relationship is not just working, should still be talking to him on phone or text? Even if it hard for me? What do u ask me do?

@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger

6 жыл бұрын

If you want to move on I would stop talking with him. If you hope to get back together I would keep the communication open. It's more of matter if you feel led by God to keep pursuing this or not.

I was a non believers when I got into a relationship and it's true love now I'm a believer should I breakup with my boyfriend.

@stacysummers8882

5 жыл бұрын

If you are a believer and your boyfriend is not, as hard as it may be considering the situation, yes you should break up with them. Especially if you've encouraged them to accept Christ into their life and they are still not a believer nor have any intention soon to change their heart. I know it might be hard! Hope this helped! *hug*

@dianaabraham1462

5 жыл бұрын

@@stacysummers8882 thank u for ur reply sister. 😭I am happy to say that my boyfriend finally excepted Christ last week. All glory be to God almighty father and yeshua Messiah our Lord.

@jessicawestbrook3730

3 жыл бұрын

@@dianaabraham1462 💖💖💖

I'm confused because I care about a man who is a great man, lives a moral life but doesn't pray, or believe in a God. I don't care if he's same denomination as me, or goes to church every Sunday but it bothers me he diesnt have more of a Foundation in God. I don't feel right about it but don't know if I'm being too much. But I think if I'm not certain, it's a sign.

I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 9 years but I just received Jesus in my heart, I have asked my bf to follow God or we need to part ways. He’s stuck in the world ways. He doesn’t love me I’ve been battling with Lyme disease and he has not been here for me. My anger takes over me because I don’t feel loved and protected. I’ve kicked him out so many times but he doesn’t leave because he’s comfortable not paying for bills.

What if I think a guy is not the one that God has for me,because I think I'm hearing God's voice! Suppose though,I'm just hearing my own voice in my head and not God? Anyways,is it ok if me and this guy just be friends now,and just see what the future might hold for us? Thanks in advance! 😊

@mickaylastephens950

3 жыл бұрын

Wow i had the same experience now I am feeling as if the voice in my head was actually right

Is it a sin to break up with your fiancee?

@evachui3213

3 жыл бұрын

I don’t think it is. What is wrong is to continue lying that you want the relationship when you want it to end

I always believed in God but I never had the knowledge like I do now. I was born again last year but at that point my boyfriend and I have had sex and even after I was born again we had sex (I am really strict now about waiting until marriage to have sex) my boyfriend is an atheist, if I ever wanted to leave my boyfriend would it be okay to leave my boyfriend or will that not be okay? I don't want to dishonor God. Be HONEST please! Don't sugar coat it😁 thank you.

@masonbaumbach2378

3 жыл бұрын

The 1 and most important advice is this one tip. If this tip applies u should prolly break up. But if u don’t want to u should pray for god to confirm if u need to break up. 1. If u started the relationship and god didn’t. I’m in the same situation as u Ik that this girl is hindering my god given purpose. But I love her so much and to be quite honost a lot of times we’re scared of being alone. We shouldn’t run away from the truth tho. Talk to me if u need to Ik it’s not easy snd maybe if u got out the relationship u can give me advice

@maddietowns7067

3 жыл бұрын

@@masonbaumbach2378 I'm newly single haha

@maddietowns7067

3 жыл бұрын

@@masonbaumbach2378 I have no advice cuz I have no idea what I'm doing 🤣

@maddietowns7067

3 жыл бұрын

@@masonbaumbach2378 I wonder how you know if God chose your relationship? Also being single is not scary and actually good for my soul BUT it's so boring 🤣 I just talk to people still but just to see if it goes anywhere but I'm definitely trying to be single for a while until I'm confident on my own

@masonbaumbach2378

3 жыл бұрын

@@maddietowns7067 I’m glad for u. Whenever I find a woman that be on fire for god I find it so attractive, like lord help me 😂. But Ik god got someone for u in his timing just pursue him and his purpose for u. Mathew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.