People keep saying "it's not just China". Yes, we know that. Everyone knows that it's a worldwide issue. But right now Chinese activists and survivors are trying to raise awareness about their experiences.

@lindahn877

3 жыл бұрын

What is wrong with ppl saying its not just china. I dont see any problem coz that is acknowledging that its a world wide problem and being acknowledged it helps with combating.

@lemostjoyousrenegade

2 жыл бұрын

Well said. It seems that many Chinese want some special treatment...like they are adopting a victim mentality for pity and special treatment/laws? People WORLDWIDE need protection and should be treated equally, kindly, fairly, justly. We know that many asian people allow their children to be slave laborers and that is heartbreaking to most people, nationality doesn’t matter.

@davidking7222

2 жыл бұрын

Yep raising awareness in ccp china gets you disappeared !

@A.x3

2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Exactly. This is *specifically* about China bc they have their own laws and culture that needs to be addressed in order to better protect domestic violence victims. The way the US (for example) handles DV is obviously going to be different from how they handle it in China. So happy you understand this! I hope Chinese activists are heard loud & clear! Pray all the people in need of help can do so safely.❤

@truthtube1000

2 жыл бұрын

I agree...so I hope Chinese can agree the same, when black people in America complain about being killed, harassed, and mistreated. Black Americans still don't have a specific law to protect us btw....after slavery...and everything...so I know what you're mean.

As a Chinese girl, I never imagined that a husband would beat his wife until one day I went to my aunt's house and saw my uncle start beating my aunt because of some issues, I was terrified. Their son stopped his father and began to fight with him.In the end my uncle beat his son's head to bleed, and our whole family ended up going to the hospital. Only after that did I enter the real world that domestic violence can be all around us.I sincerely hope that women's rights and interests can be guaranteed in any country.

@terintiaflavius3349

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I hope you and your family have peace

@fernlow1786

3 жыл бұрын

My father has a violent temper. I never saw him abusing my mother, if I ever saw any violence his life will not be worth living. My mother is a very gentle lady, unlike myself.

@nurtenkocaman1699

3 жыл бұрын

@@fernlow1786 well done please protect your mum no has a right to hit anyone

@williamlew777

3 жыл бұрын

I can guarantee this not only to you but also all of China. Read my posting yesterday and more to come. Read my books and practice what are written there. let President Xi know what I can do for China free of Charge!

@celticwarrior777

3 жыл бұрын

1 in 3 females suffer abuse

Better be single than marry a man who gives you hell

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

Some women don't even have a choice to stay single.

@gatestimonymiracle1302

3 жыл бұрын

@@n3493 I agree ,in these parts of the world women are pressured to marry

@meimei1919

3 жыл бұрын

Also, sometimes they hide their true personalities so well that you won’t know until the honeymoon is over. No woman in her right mind would marry a violent psychopath knowingly. Although some of these women who do marry knowingly, have been abused children or have been raised to have low self esteem. 😢😥

@preciousbell4573

3 жыл бұрын

Ask the Lord Jesus to choose one for you because He knows each one of us and what we will become.

@preciousbell4573

3 жыл бұрын

@Anni Runaway oh dear how sad. No matter how good a husband is only God’s love can fully satisfy our thirst for love but when a husband which has become one with his wife hurt her the wound will be so deep. Violence from a member of family causes such a trauma that only Jesus can heal. Perhaps she can ask for the pouring of His love and protection. No amount of counselling or anti depressant would heal her soul, they’re like band-aids on a broken leg. The police won’t be able to protect her either unless they follow her every move like a bodyguard and they don’t do that.

The problem is they take marriage as a “must” and something must be wrong with you if you’re unmarried. This stigma pushes many women just to quickly marry.

@dodo-eu6ox

3 жыл бұрын

The problem is the laws are indulging the males abusing their wives

@home4life505

3 жыл бұрын

Dont blame the women for being abused

@zhiweili9614

3 жыл бұрын

@@home4life505 I dont think he/she is blaming the women but point out there is something wrong in the culture, social norm and people's perspective.

@MOlsen-sg3yi

3 жыл бұрын

@@home4life505 No one was blaming the women🤭, you clearly didn't read correctly or are just trying to be a white night🙄. The only thing being blamed is the society in which places extreme pressure on women to get married, therefore putting them into these situations.

@jayjayjay4788

3 жыл бұрын

@mingzybaby Well, I was going to say you're right, except that Western societies (no arrange marriages, nor any social stigma towards 'single' women/men) has a high rate of domestic violence as well boyfriends beating the hell out of their girlfriends!!

My dad never hit me. Even if my mom asked him to hit my palm with a rattan stick he chose to hit himself to produce that hitting sound. Thanks to him I know how a man should treat his wife and children. He taught me if a man ever lay a hand on you once you must run for your life, never ever look back though he might cried and kneel and beg for forgiveness. Compassion for these kind of abusers means you're being cruel to yourself.

@pragatibhushan8697

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly. Tolerance to abuse comess if you are raised that way

@creeplyjoe5296

3 жыл бұрын

kzread.info/dash/bejne/dnZ8rq-pptC2ps4.html Don't Worry everybody already knows China CCP is the Very Extreme Bad Actor. Want to conquered the WORLD.......,,,

@davinlim9212

2 жыл бұрын

@@creeplyjoe5296 I mean, I'm against the ccp and all but like just why did you post it here?

@somethingamazing1

2 жыл бұрын

@@creeplyjoe5296 you're not accomplishing anything by posting this comment...

@eleonorvoncarter6769

2 жыл бұрын

Your dad is a hero, and your mum sounds like a monster...

They say, growing up at a single-parent family might cause psychological problems. Are you serious? You think, being surrounded by violence ever since the day you can remember and seing your father beating your mother day after day has no inpact in the child's mental health?

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

@American Ajumma that is bs. Growing up without the violent parent is always better.

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

@American Ajumma you let it seem like being a single parent is bad for the child. C'mon. There are perfectly healthy children, raised by a single parent, or a grandparent. So please. Your data about anger, teen pregnancy and blabla doesn't add anything to the fact that Single Or Not, the child will always grow Better without enduring violence at home.

@gumicherryblossom8015

3 жыл бұрын

@American Ajumma not all people who grew up in a single parent house hold becomes violent. it sometime better that way since it might be worse if they are expose to constant violence often especially if secretly abusive. it also depends if the kid or children chose the victim parent or not that would shape the person they would be as an adult. it also depends the age of the parent as well, the older the parent is when the child is born than the less likely they would experience violence.

@zk4580

3 жыл бұрын

@American Ajumma I grew up with a single mother, which means I'm not a good child. 😥 😭 I'm a violent person who has committed many crimes. 🤧 I wonder 🤔 how an inexperienced person can make such a nonsense comment.

@cczsus6513

3 жыл бұрын

@@n3493 Uh look at black Americans compare to Asian Americans double parent home rate and ask yourself why do one group turn out to be the model minority. Having a double family home is super important. The amount of Asians with double parents even surpassed whites last time I checked.

So basically the women are punished and sent to prison for defending themselves, but the men are allowed to abuse them with little to no interference from law enforcement.

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

its the same everywhere in the world.. she must serve some time becouse the murder didnt take place while she was being attacked.. i consider it self defence and i wouldt give those women a day in a prison but that is how the law works everywhere.. if you kill him while he attacks you you dont go to jail.. if you wait few hours or a day or two.. you go to jail for a bit..

@ihanakaunotar2741

2 жыл бұрын

Well not everywhere, in USA many states allow women to carry guns and protect themselves.

@AnnaLVajda

2 жыл бұрын

It's because it's so culturally acceptable as is victim blaming.

@StepHanie-fb9nn

2 жыл бұрын

@@ihanakaunotar2741 and when a woman shoots her husband or violent boy-friend it‘s still murder, so what‘s the point? That doesn‘t prevent domestic abuse, rape and trafficking in a world where patriarchy is way more prevalent.

@systemicracism6179

2 жыл бұрын

yep!

Interesting that the man who admitted he was violently abusive to his wife ended up with custody of their son.

@monamariin750

3 жыл бұрын

It is so disgusting

@fernlow1786

3 жыл бұрын

Maybe he has a job and the son's school is nearby. The poor wife may not have the means to support her son. Lots of countries do not have benefits like in the developed countries.

@galechen5956

3 жыл бұрын

the husband almost always gets custody.

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

@@galechen5956 even if he is violent and a threat to their children and the mother of their children? 😞

@fernlow1786

3 жыл бұрын

@@galechen5956 is this a fact? I just read in UK papers 2 days ago, a divorce man sold his son (obviously he had custody of his son) for £17,000.

Daughters seeing their mother’s beat to death is why they refuse to get married when they grow up. They don’t want to be next!!! Duh.

@user-md9mq6do3b

3 жыл бұрын

Understandable tho

@doraymeandyou

3 жыл бұрын

Just seeing mine slapped around a bit was enough for me. I did finally give marriage a go in my thirties but I didn’t enjoy a minute of it and will never try it again. They say better to regret something you’ve done than something you’ve not done...but I think marriage is the exception.

@Whisperwomaneq2

3 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately most women grow up to marry abusive men as well. Parents are the biggest and most important examples a child will ever have. When faced with problems and hardship as an adult, you will unconsciously fall into the same patterns your parents did. For women, their mothers examples of not knowing they're worth, staying to long when it goes badly, blaming themselves, and the insane myth that we can fix these men if we love them enough will repeat through multiple generations. Even in American culture It is echoed in every aspect including the twisted ideals and values of the feminist movements.

@joot9184

3 жыл бұрын

@@Whisperwomaneq2 nah definitely not all women end up like that. like hell id be with anyone like my dad. I see a man even remotely resembling my father (in personality or looks) and i automatically hate them. I've also been in a verbally abusive relationship i was in for a few months a fucked off out of there quick. I LEARNED from my mom not to make the same mistakes.

@Whisperwomaneq2

3 жыл бұрын

@@joot9184 I never said all. Most as in a large majority do. It is a cycle that needs to be broken for sure.

It's just not safe for women anywhere. And most of the time, it's violence in our own homes from Fathers, brothers, husbands, boyfriends...

@jase123111

3 жыл бұрын

Also for children, male and female, and gay men suffer from violence from straight males.

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

Writing you from Italy. I've endured violence all my life cause of my father.

@preciousbell4573

3 жыл бұрын

@@n3493 I’m sorry to hear that I completely understand how you feel. May the Lord heal you from the trauma you’ve suffered.

@annmarie2964

3 жыл бұрын

In many cases this is true.

@Nirobiscloset10

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

Stories like this made me feel thankful for being single.

@miraclemay24

3 жыл бұрын

You still end up with stalkers..

@jaycon3460

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah right

@dxtnguyxn4179

3 жыл бұрын

@@miraclemay24 since I'm ugly I will have no stalker OKURR

@lindatullos9430

3 жыл бұрын

@@dxtnguyxn4179 Looks aren't always the reason for stalkers. Because rapists and violent types like power and control over people(so being smaller or weaker would be the attraction factor). Take martial arts and learn to fight back to avoid these losers (but don't start fights and become part of the problem too). If one is in a relationship that goes bad, get out of it at the first chance. Don't wait or make excuses for the maladapted mind. Don't give them second chances so they can learn the lesson quickly and correct themselves in their new life without you.

@preciousdelantar7433

3 жыл бұрын

💯

I always follow my motto: strive to be an independent woman or man. Never become absolutely dependent on your partner. Make it so you can leave the house with your kids anytime you feel is necessary

@TheMaiah13

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, but when I was in the midst of domestic violence, I was the one who had more means as the scumbag was not even working and was skimming off my earnings. I couldnt leave the relationship without leaving the country because I was stalked night and day and was under threat..and the useless cops did nothing about it. Sometimes the violence is not abt having the means to leave..its a question of courage and safety.

@cosmicreef5858

2 жыл бұрын

Smart thinking.

@TheMaiah13

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, thats also a wonderful piece of advice I got from a more senior colleague. However, sometimes in the third world where the women dont have much opportunities available to them, they sadly dont have a choice but to just bear the abuse or risk losing their kids to the husband . They families (or parents) wont also want to take them back for being a tainted divorced woman.

@solaris5922

2 жыл бұрын

That’s why I side eye women that set their goals on being a stay at home parent while being completely dependent on their husbands. I could never.

@larajones175

2 жыл бұрын

Doesn't matter. The woman in the video is an entrepreneur. Stop with the woman independent. They are . You have a child and go to work the day. SMFH.

You’d think they’d treasure their wives more considering the gender imbalance in China and how difficult it is so get married because of that...

@AnnaLVajda

2 жыл бұрын

They are unbalanced on purpose too because of gender select abortions women are forced to kill female fetuses too which I think is also abusive.

@mochichichi2458

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaLVajda well not anymore

@ladyofhalos

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaLVajda it’s 3 child policy now I think that’s probably outdated

@TT-xz5sy

2 жыл бұрын

@@AnnaLVajda yeah over 40 million baby girls.

@yangzhang5870

2 жыл бұрын

@@ladyofhalos It's not that outdated. Even the two-child policy was only enacted in 2016. It's still a culture that heavily favors males. This hasn't changed. While there is not as much pressure to have a boy as their first and only child, female children are still less favored (especially in more rural areas). Many people don't want to have more than one child due to the high costs of living and raising a child, so selective gender abortions may still be a thing.

Some man are so insecure and jealous of their partner .The only thing they can do was abuse them or killed them. You better off alone than having abusive husband or partner.

@akashmishramgtow2361

2 жыл бұрын

@@Caareenkm6726 feminists deserves it

@princess555o4

8 ай бұрын

​@@akashmishramgtow2361leave feminists alone

Domestic violence should be tried as attempted murder. It breaks my heart to see these women being beaten, raped ,and killed.

@TheMaiah13

2 жыл бұрын

Totally agree!

@cosmicreef5858

2 жыл бұрын

It is quite obviously attempted murder. It is sad that people needs to explain this.

@mydogsteppedona4431

2 жыл бұрын

It's the only form of slow murder that is accepted and faught back by law, they care only after someone is dead. Bruises and broken bones don't mean a thing.

@seabreeze667

2 жыл бұрын

And tortured

@Lafemmefutile

2 жыл бұрын

Seriously- that’s my stance. If we treated it that way, clowns would know they will be 🔪 the second they start acting up.

Abusers don't deserve a place in society 😔💔

@carloslee8396

3 жыл бұрын

Although violence deserves to be condemned, some women must reflect on their bad words and actions.

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

@@carloslee8396 wth does this have to do with domestic violence? Domestic violence is Showing Power, women's voices aren't even heard.

@cczsus6513

3 жыл бұрын

@@n3493 I agree with you but guys can be domestically abused and it happens.

@LG-qq7no

3 жыл бұрын

Not even on Earth!

@studentnguyen2564

3 жыл бұрын

If you use violence instead of words you’re no better than a rabid animal that should be put down.

I know a woman who couldn't get away from her abusive boyfriend, she had two kids with him, when he insisted she marry him, during the reception he started saying derogatory thins as jokes about her, she excused herself to take the kids to the bathroom, and just kept going, straight to the airport, never to be seen by him again

@johardy-bishop5525

2 жыл бұрын

God bless that woman.

I was a student in the capital. I fell in love madly with the boy from the capital. Everything was a fairytale. I am European, he was studying abroad before we met, so cultural differences was not as big. But one day..... The demon came out. I didn't know on what planet I am. No one would help me. I was alone in a foreign (this) country, even the police didn't help. They just film him throwing glass bottles at me and my classmate. Stalking me after I ran away, threatening me in the worst possible ways. I was just a student there, no family... He was and is a monster. He crooked my life. I will never forget the blackness of his eyes when the beating started. The last time when I fell into his trap he even abducted me and his own mother helped him to put me, all beaten up in his apartment (with bars on windows, who was in Beijing knows many of building apartments has bars) and locked me in. I don't know to this day how I escaped him. You cant imagine the details. To this day I feel ashamed. To this day my family doesn't know, cept my brother whom I begged not to tell anyone. I haven't believed in evil before i met him. The irony of it all started from love. My life is crooked since but I am grateful he didn't took my life. I can't imagine what would have happened to my family if he did. To this day im silent, as a foreigner to speak out not in favor of a country that gave me much education and many good moments... You know the game. Nevertheless, domestic violence is maybe the craziest thing ever. The one who loves you, destroys you and brake your bones. I hope things will change one day. One day soon. Violence against women is immense. Broken heart, broken thoughts

@manggong2991

3 жыл бұрын

i am glad you're ok now:)

@redwoods7370

3 жыл бұрын

You were tricked into falling in love with a sociopath/psychopath. It's not your fault! It happens to millions of women around the world. You can heal and you can be whole. These horrible people can break your heart and mind and hurt your life but they cannot touch your soul and spirit. Use your spirit to heal. Seek out good people who have your best interests at heart and only want good for you. If you are a praying person, pray for healing and wholeness every single day and ask other people who pray to pray for healing for you. I hope that you feel better and better each day and become stronger and stronger.

@vasanthidoraisamy2856

3 жыл бұрын

Wow, can’t imagine the agony ,the pain you went through and still the effect of it..but thank god you escaped and now back with your family...pray and hope , you will get better as the time passes..

@ongscott831

3 жыл бұрын

But why didn’t you get back home?

@pechoja

3 жыл бұрын

@@redwoods7370 Good luck as I think there are fewer nice people out there who care deeply for other people and respect their boundaries and feelings. Too many life style choices and harder to find a good match. Men feel they are superior because they are get special privileges' such as bigger pay for jobs, when not necessarily smarter, and machines can replace their strength. God needs to do a make over on men once they have reproduced twice they are no longer desirable of sex.

I'm American my ex was emotionally and verbally abusive, u can't explain how low I was. I had no emotions. One day he hit me,I ripped a solid wood shelf off the wall and beat him til my daughter called my sister and she came over. He tried to say he didn't know why I was losing it. My daughter told exactly what happened. I have two other sisters one has been married to her abuser for over 50 years the other has Bern married to her abuser for 35 years. My ex left one year after I stopped the abuse. Best day ever. I'm very happily remarried have three daughters and grandchildren.

@bluebird4815

3 жыл бұрын

U did great. I witnessed my aunt being abused by her husband. I was only 5yrs old. One day, my aunt and my cousins turned the tables. The beat the hell out of him. He left and never returned.

@joannevernon1103

3 жыл бұрын

You said your ex left a year later after the abuse but if he never left would he still be abusing you so he left and then the abuse stopped right

@Des._

3 жыл бұрын

@@joannevernon1103 Maybe he stopped but couldn't handle the fact that he had no control over her anymore and left for someone more easily manipulated?

@aesyamazeli8804

2 жыл бұрын

That's really great, we can't ever expect the state to help us, we need to stand up for ourself.

@huangemmapao6187

2 жыл бұрын

@@Des._ yes, they are who they are

I was a victim of domestic abuse, and mental abuse. One time he cuffed me and left me in a dark room for two days no food no water. Just the blood dripping from my body, and the cold floor. I will never forget the things he did to me. It felt like living in hell. I would cry out what did I do to deserve this? Why did he marry me if he hates me so much? I just didn't understand..... Eventually I had an opportunity to leave, and took it. I have been with my new husband now almost ten years, and he treats me like a queen! Showers me with love, and attention. Even when I have night terrors he holds me until I stop screaming and crying in my sleep.

@stephanieramos7648

3 жыл бұрын

I am still going threw trama therapy. I don't like going anywhere without my second husband because I am so afraid he will come find me again and hurt me.

@stephanieramos7648

3 жыл бұрын

I remember weighing 90 pounds because he used to pinch my sides and call me fat, stupid, ugly, worthless, whore. You name it I have been called it. I have been slapped, punched, lifted up by my throat, stabbed, one time he even tried to drown me. Michael Wayne Holland trinity NC American. He is now a registered sex offender which I had no idea when I married him the monster he was! I was also a victim of sexual abuse by my x husband, and biological father. So when I found out he was a sex offender my heart burst! The day I found out I left and never looked back. It tore my soul apart!!!!! I essentially married my biological father.

@stephanieramos7648

3 жыл бұрын

If your reading this, and are going threw domestic abuse run. It's not ever going to get better if you stay. Know your stronger than most because most people would have given up a long time ago. Never doubt your own will to live.

@TheMaiah13

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, so happy for you Stephanie that you escaped that horrible relationship. Stay strong! Keep healing. I wish you happiness free of that kind of trauma.

@stephanieramos7648

2 жыл бұрын

@@TheMaiah13 thank you so much for the support! I hope it helps someone out there. I know I wish I had someone to help me when I made the ultimate decision to leave.

I understand and know their horror personally, I myself have been in multiple abusive relationships. In one I was beaten so badly I had a miscarriage, he held me for 2 weeks beating me and raping me because I lost the baby. These scars will stay with me for the rest of my life and I am no longer able to trust. God bless these strong beautiful women

@AnhTran-yp2eh

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my god that’s horrific. I hope you are in a good place now. Sending kindness and love your way.

@Refilwe_Fifi

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry Laloni

@roxanneweichinger9318

3 жыл бұрын

Laloni Chester, 💐🕯💐🕯💐🕯💐,😔Sorry that you had to go through that.

@marleneflourentzou680

3 жыл бұрын

So sorry this happened yo you Wishing you only happiness in life

@VirgoCali89

3 жыл бұрын

These women went through way more. Thankfully and sadly it happens in CA I'm going through counseling, alot of these women don't have that

Japan is the same. I asked the police for help. They said “what goes on behind he door of a home, is not against the law” Doctors can also choose not to treat a victim because she “probably deserved it “

@manfunny917

2 жыл бұрын

Vietnam is actually even worse, even though very few people know this.

@mrsjeon4153

2 жыл бұрын

😥

@veenitamalviya179

2 жыл бұрын

Japan are you saying this happens in Japan too doesn't it has like very small crime rate then..

@Rose-bb4ze

2 жыл бұрын

@@veenitamalviya179 it has a low crime rate because the police are too lazy and dumb to investigate. my aunt's house got trespassed and robbed but the police didnt investigate any further, they just blamed it on the neighbors even tho we had cctv footage

@signil

2 жыл бұрын

Are you serious???

Last year, a husband tried to murder his wife on Rosh Hashan's eve. They fought and she tried to leave. He didn't let her. He stabbed her 20 times and hit her more than 100 times with a rolling pin she used for making bread for the holiday. She screamed for him to take their 1-year-old child away to the room - but he insisted to let the child see and hear everything. He knocked out her teeth and broke her eye sockets, skull and arms. He tried to choke her. He even yelled "Why won't you die?!" at her. Their kid sat in the pool of her blood, screaming. A neighbor heard the whole thing at practically had to break in into the apartment to make him stop. The police took 20 minutes to get there. He took the child and locked himself in the bathroom. After he was arrested, it was ALL OVER the news. The entire country was in shock. He asked the judge to give him a gag order because he thought the whole ordeal would "harm his good reputation as an engineer". THE JUDGE OBLIGED. Everyone was so angry, that some hackers took the matter into their hands and published his name. She was in the hospital for 4 months. HE STILL HAD RIGHTS over the child and HE REFUSED to give permissions for the child's medical care. Our government had to make a new law to take away his rights (a man or a woman that was accused of abuse - has his or her parental rights temporarily removed. If convicted, permanently removed). The Jewish religious court gave her a divorce VERY quickly. Usually, it takes years. His excuse for doing what he did? "She insulted me" It took one horrible case, for some laws to finally change. | Sad.

@michaellovely6601

2 жыл бұрын

Here in the United States; we are still making steps since the 1970's to not only properly handle cases of domestic abuse on the part of law enforcement agencies and the court system but also better care for those who have experienced abuse. A case that brought about this change was the case of Francine Hughes in Michigan. Francine Hughes was abused for thirteen years from 1964 to 1977 and in March of the latter year Francine fought back against her abusive husband (whose name I refuse to say because he doesn't deserve to be remembered) by pouring gasoline around the bed while he slept and set the bed on fire. Francine was acquitted and she became an advocate for tougher laws concerning domestic abuse at both the state and national levels. She passed away in 2017 after setting up a new life in Alabama.

@lennyhardi3760

2 ай бұрын

R u serius??? 😓😓😡😡😡, WTF! What kind of law is that??

russia and india have the same problem. these developing nations have strong patriarchal expectations, the men feel frustrated because they arent as rich and powerful as they want to be so they beat up the women

@HighDesign31

3 жыл бұрын

Dude USA

@Tsedoop

3 жыл бұрын

Actually lhamo is a Tibetan women. And beings Tibetan refuged in india here it’s almost so rare in our Tibetan society that a husband would do this to his wife. When I first saw this vid my heart breaks for this women. Hope life had been easier for you. RIP Lhamo ( the name hold a powerful meaning THE GODDESS/ ANGEL.)

@juliane5632

2 жыл бұрын

Even my country in philippines but younger generations sees this even the younger boys making them act more right but even though many acknowledges there's still a chance of predators. I might end up living in taiwan instead as a lesbian because its the only asian country who has same sex marriage

@michaeloneale1267

2 жыл бұрын

Same as Thailand. Endemic here.

@babishak.b3001

2 жыл бұрын

What about USA it's a developed country ,people should stop these generalisation. it is happening everywhere and each human is different ,the way we think is different and the result will also be different, that's it.

Not only to Chinese women, domestic violence happens in every country around the world, as a Filipino it also very evident here in our country.

@condorX2

3 жыл бұрын

Aye. I think more government should executed more for those who commit heinous crimes. The blind woman scene really get me into a detective mode. 5:48 I'm glad the government executed the terrible husband for blinding the wive. I think the government should go further by going after those whispered evil thoughts into her husband, they're like co-conspirators. They didn't help the woman who got abused while she's pregnant and now she's blind.. They created this toxic environment just for their enjoyment. They reminded me of the historical Chinese drama, where the women plot against who ever they don't like.

@MichelleQuintiaVLOGS

3 жыл бұрын

But the Philippines is still waaaay better when it comes to women and children violence protection. Unlike in China, if a wife files for divorce, she will take all responsibilities in racing her own children! The husband will not be obliged to give financial support! So we are still waaay better here in our country.

@kennethsullivan9371

3 жыл бұрын

@@MichelleQuintiaVLOGS well Michelle you be right that in the Philippines, but in the USA women of domestic violence is protected by law and the abuser will go to prison, and the cases of divorce if the woman has children's, the husband has pay to child support and alimony to the mother and her children's and if he don't pay he will go to jail!! period.

@bestclips2616

3 жыл бұрын

Asianwide issues

@mysticcove3392

3 жыл бұрын

@Kor Iceland and Denmark safest country in the world for women. This include domestic abuse. Are Iceland and Denmark not a western country?.

These men are ruthless and heartless. I've watched this happen in China, Anshan. This man beat his wife and 3 year old daughter in the middle of the busy street. No one did anything to help the lady. As a foreigner we were not allowed to do anything

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

you were not allowed by who? :) fear?

@aesyamazeli8804

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 the police will always blame the foreigner

@jorelletaylor5408

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 foreigners go to jail for interfering over there

@ycaceres3357

2 жыл бұрын

@@aesyamazeli8804 the media can help…not just locally

@emily191

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 lol love how u don’t respond

My father has always slapped kick and beat me for little things like not getting excellent results. He is just picking on kids, instead of someone his own size. I’m not afraid of him, i said it does not hurt at all and I will beat him back when he’s old 🤷🏻‍♀️. That’s also why I will never get married because I don’t ever need to explain myself to anyone.

@MarkWilliams-bs6qr

3 жыл бұрын

haha, You should be able to forgive him , as far as everything that happened is in the past. You are beautiful and you deserve good friend around you.

@MarkWilliams-bs6qr

3 жыл бұрын

it is very disgusting for a man to hit a woman no matter the class or social status, I'm not in support of that either

@hugol648

3 жыл бұрын

I think it’s good to express yourself... but do not let rancour be the dominant force of your life ... my two cents ... 我的两分钱

@vampluve

3 жыл бұрын

@@hugol648 I hope you tell all your male friends the same thing. Because they are the one that truly need the advice.

@hugol648

3 жыл бұрын

@@vampluve Rancourous people come in all shapes and forms ...

Why do need to burn Lamu's pictures for theatrics? That's just disrespectful esp she died from being burned alive/

@deepalall647

3 жыл бұрын

Exactly! Such a disrespectful thing to do

@Ashley-vs8nu

3 жыл бұрын

I thought the same thing. Such a sad fate and the documentary makes it even more of a spectacle

@mjc11a

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way. Such a disgusting and horrible thing to do. Imagine what her family or friends must have felt seeing this. Very poor taste CNA.

@ntumbaeliensampi6305

3 жыл бұрын

chill People. she's dead she won't mind

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

@@ntumbaeliensampi6305 but we're alive, we should respect was she was: a person.

My husband told this to his friend who had just hit his wife - " Men don't hit women. If you hit your wife one more time, I can't consider you as my friend. I felt good hearing that.

@akashmishramgtow2361

2 жыл бұрын

Well... Your hundred is a wimp And his friend needs to get off of him

@larajones175

2 жыл бұрын

Awesome. A Real Man telling a boy to keep his hand to himself.

@dipitickner1927

2 жыл бұрын

@@akashmishramgtow2361 What the hell is wrong with you? Little turd.

@Littlemouse884

3 ай бұрын

Your husband is a strong man as strong man will always call out men's bad behavior towards women whether it's verbal or physical

I have never been in a relationship and my family is telling me to stop being so picky, never considering that I don’t even feel like having a boyfriend at all. It’s sad that people are telling girls and women to stop being so picky but if we are not we may end up with a wolf in sheep’s clothing like these women in this documentary. I’d rather live with my parents nagging and society’s disapproval than going to bed with a blue eye and bruised ribs every night.

@mydogsteppedona4431

2 жыл бұрын

@@tave2034 that's how all girls are brought up, to be fearful and that's the only way we survive alot of strangers danger and many psychopaths.

@Angle86

2 жыл бұрын

Dont listen to anyone.. do what u think is good for you and your future..

@KumariKumari-fw7nc

2 жыл бұрын

@@Angle86 👍

@artsycherry8179

2 жыл бұрын

Same here. I think the same too. I have seen my close family member and relatives being abused and I'm scared for life. I'd rather be very picky or live my whole life taking care of my parents.

I wish we could focus on preventing problems rather than attempting to fix them after the deed is done. I feel like we continue to regress as humans.

@n3493

3 жыл бұрын

Right? I say that everyday. I live in Italy, me and my mother endured domestic violence and police most of the time ignored us and istitutions abandoned us. We're alive cause of luck. Nobody saved us, nobody is saving us. Human race is regressing and I'm here to endure that path going down, day by day.

"I have hurt your mother. In order to protect herself, she had left us." Somehow, I feel something wrong with his statement?

@FM-dv6kn

3 жыл бұрын

Classic victim blaming

@anniemarrie7539

3 жыл бұрын

Can you explain why? Just curious because as a woman I don’t want to encounter any of the manipulative tactics

@mbuwirnina6226

3 жыл бұрын

Everything wrong with this statement.

@FM-dv6kn

3 жыл бұрын

@@anniemarrie7539 my replies all disappeared :( search narcissistic personality disorder victim blaming - the information every human (especially women) should know. Take care xx

@FM-dv6kn

3 жыл бұрын

@@Merenia i understand your view point. This perhaps got partially lost in translation too from Chinese to English. If you read the psychology of narcissist and victim blaming should make more sense. It's covert, and the half truth makes it hard to see the narcissist patterns to some people. Take care x

It’s true. We are extremely furious at those crimes. But the government in many areas in China don’t want to take more actions to prevent that. Because it’s always very complicated and policeman in rural areas are always irresponsible. Domestic violence should never be ignored. People with such crimes should not be allowed to marry.

@condorX2

3 жыл бұрын

☺️🙏

@south5tarr

3 жыл бұрын

As a human race, regardless of colour, I always believe that transparency and accountability should be key in every government.

@soookimbo6571

3 жыл бұрын

@@south5tarr only in the Kingdom of Heaven. In a perfect world. This brutality is very hush hush. But believe me it is known.

@ohsehun6470

3 жыл бұрын

im just gonna say it, its cus our government is made up of men 🙃

@jiachunwu4753

3 жыл бұрын

@@ohsehun6470 Yes, better more women in government.

Honestly this really really hits home. Although I live in the US, my father has always been violent and super abusive to me and my mother. He has a horrible temper and would always loose his mind over very simple things. Whenever he couldn't win a fight verbally with my mom, he would raise his hand and hit her. It would be even worse for me because he has a superiority complex and believes the grown up is always right. Since he sees me as a useless child living off of him, he would be even more violent with me. Even looking at him the wrong way would result in a violent beating, it scares me. After he got into a fight with a coworker at work, he broke his arm and couldn't work for awhile. Since my mom is making the income, he hasn't been violent towards her because he understands that she supports the household. But because of quarantine, living at home with him is like living in hell. I hate it everyday and I often lose myself in my room. This traumatic experience has really affected me and I have developed attachment issues which really keeps me from forming relationships with others around me. Sometimes I just wish my parent had divorced right from the get go, that way I wouldn't be in so much pain everyday. Wow, I didn't even realize I was writing this much, I guess I just got carried away with this video and everything. Writing this comment has helped lift some weight from my shoulders I hope I can be freed from this hellish hole.

@LittleKitty22

2 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh, so sorry to hear all that! I hope you can get to safety soon!

@johardy-bishop5525

2 жыл бұрын

I hope you got out. X

@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587

2 жыл бұрын

don't ever talk to either of them again when you get old enough to move out. create your own support system or support network. the same thing happened to me growing up and I will never ever forgive my one parent for enabling and the other for abusing. I don't hate them to the same intensity, but never again will I spare a thought for people who didn't care about my safety. I don't care that the enabler was "kind", I don't care that they gave me hugs or kisses - how can you do that yet still allow someone to beat on me? and to break me mentally? like- are you mentally ill??? lmao. The enabler parent ostracized all their family and friends and allowed their abuser to isolate them and now they've isolated me away from them too, because they refuse to leave, they refuse to apologize.

@charmander777

2 жыл бұрын

Wow. Terrible

@evafernandez1305

2 жыл бұрын

How I wish I can give you a big hug and help you relieve some of your pain. I didn't know so many women and children are suffering that much in other families. I think domestic violence in China is so much common and violent. Watching this video tears my heart. Domestic violence happens anywhere but not as rampant in China. I guess it is cultural. I'm from the Philippines. We have a strong law called, Anti- Violence Against Women & Children. Men are aware of this, so there is less domestic violence in our country. I remember our Dad never laid hands on our Mom but sometimes when he is annoyed about something he would take it on her verbally. But when our Mom is feed up she would angrily reply. She knew how to make him shut up.

Bless all women who's lived with *domestic violence* I hope the future gives you a better path x. *Love from New Zealand* 🇳🇿

When my dad knew my ex beat me , I told my dad I wanted to divorce, my dad wanted to beat me as I wanted to end that horrible marriage 😅😅😅 Good luck to all the women who are suffering, being strong is the only solution

@igranstedt4196

3 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry. ☹️ hope to all worked out at the end. Say strong

@Jl-pi3wy

3 жыл бұрын

@Water Sniper yes

@wickedtorpedo75

Жыл бұрын

you used the wrong emoji

This is why battered wife syndrome needs to be a legitimate defense in court… When women finally fight back… Perhaps even killing their abuser

@GotoMaki4Micah

2 жыл бұрын

especially if the cops have been called and there is a record. after that doesnt work, then they know the only way the abuse will stop is if they kill their abuser.

Love isnt violent.Marrying the wrong person is. Nevertheless,Im glad to see Chinese women coming together & speaking up on domestic violence.

My husband abused me for 17 years. I was finally able to escape and now own my own home and have a career. I am grateful.

Stories like this make me have so much contempt for men in general. I know that's unfair and I take care not to feel like that. But when I keep hearing all the crime, rape, violence, sexism, catcalls, insults, etc..committed by men (and not to say there aren't horrible women out there); but sometimes, I don't feel so bad when I hear a story of a woman wronging a man, cheating, revenge or whatever--yes, I know my thinking is warped sometimes! Sorry to all the good and normal men out there who mostly outnumber the bad...I don't wish harm on you.

@junebyrne4491

2 жыл бұрын

I swear to you that there are gentle, good men.

@ismt9390

2 жыл бұрын

@@junebyrne4491 Pretty hard to find though, i might just stuble upon a unicorn trying to find one of those gentle good men.

@krish4134

2 жыл бұрын

People like you are the reason why nowadays many men are starting to attacking women for being women.

@KaliKali-hv9bt

2 жыл бұрын

@@krish4134 so it's actually people like you Krish.

@krish4134

2 жыл бұрын

@@KaliKali-hv9bt no it's people like YOU

It's pretty much an occupational hazard for women to get married 😵

I feel so grateful for my gentle and kind husband.

@user-nw8yo3hc1h

2 жыл бұрын

Such a blessing

A lot of men have an ego problem, all over the world. Edit: Only editing because I see mansplaining. I am stating a statement that men with ego problem but I didn't elaborate nor fully encompassing reasons on why ego is reason on why a men is hitting women. OFC there's others problems PLUS ego that results in men hitting women. Thousand of years of indoctrination of women being below men in many different cultures has led to men thinking that they are above women. Examples of why it is an ego problem + other social constructs such as when a women rejected/leaves him; earns more than him; or cheating on him etc..it hurts his ego, for which they cannot stand it. Why would a woman that has already left a man still have him coming back to gouge her eyes out? The woman left him and he couldn't take it as it has hurt his ego. OFC there's other reasons + ego problems that leads to violence against women. OFC there's women that hits men as well, but this video is on men hitting women so obviously. Anw I said 'a lot of men', not ALL men.

@vienogola1421

3 жыл бұрын

An ego problem...wow

@reijiorochi

3 жыл бұрын

cowardice, those men are cowards, filled with insecurity in the form of an ego

@condorX2

3 жыл бұрын

Aye. I remember watching a documentary where African women married to Chinese men. The man say they prefer them over Chinese woman because they don't talk back and they're more submissive. I'm guessing they're doing that to lessen the tension lol. Here is the or video. Zambia: Under Chinese influence Update KZread won't let me link.

@ciaranconvery80

3 жыл бұрын

And a lot of women as well not just men.

@ColeLPeltier

3 жыл бұрын

This is a sexist comment and it lacks insight. The problem is not strongly related to men's' "self-respect" or sense of "self-importance." This is more-so a matter of misguided social reinforcement, a dysfunctional interpretation of cultural traditions, and the continuation of inter-generational trauma.

The issue about marriage is (1) being pressured to get married for the sake of marriage due to the glorified status defined by their culture (2) social media glorifies the happy imagery of marriage which influence people to think everyone should get married in order to be happy! However, there's also a third point, (3) there are videos on the Chinese social media where they even joked about cheating on their partners, and this fuels insecurity in marriages/ relationships, which then results to violence. In summary, it's the culture of glorifying marriage as a definition of success and happiness which forces people to marry quickly for the sake of marriage (blind love) and the lack of maturity about healthy relationship.

@amrita5988

2 жыл бұрын

True. Marriage is overrated .

@ludwigwittgenstein1280

2 жыл бұрын

(4), females can’t defend themselves or they are portrayed as masculine lesbians

I know this may be unChristian for me to say this but I'm glad the SOB that blinded that beautiful courageous young lady was sentenced to death. This should have set an example but it looks like it doesn't stop bad men from continuing to abuse their spouses. We can only continue to pray for good and righteousness to conquer evil.

@mauvehawaii

2 жыл бұрын

death sentence is not enough suffering

@BeautyBySilence

2 жыл бұрын

I think God would want abusers to go to hell. You’re not a bad Christian. Even people who aren’t believers would agree that abusers are bad and they deserve punishment even if they don’t believe in a hell.

@mydogsteppedona4431

2 жыл бұрын

@@mauvehawaii no that's the best suffering

@celianeher7637

2 жыл бұрын

@@mauvehawaii Yes, you're correct . But the chance to do it again isn't possible if he is dead.

@Sarablueunicorn

2 жыл бұрын

Those are often low rank men or perceive themselves as such. For example, a man might feel inferior in comparison to other men because his shorter because of this feeling of inadequacy he exercises control over a weaker object, a female partner. This also happens in "rage transfer". For example, the man gets scolded by his boss at work, because boss has power over him he cannot direct his anger towards the boss so he comes home and kicks the dog and punches his wife, like this he feels back "in control". In countries where DV has been criminalized men became pro psychological and emotional abusive. As for the women, their feelings of inadequacy are often projected onto their children.

honestly? good job on the blind lady who butchered her husband

@therearenoshortcuts9868

2 жыл бұрын

interesting, how did she aim while blind???

@yasmineali9862

2 жыл бұрын

Skillsss

@Stiasteny

Жыл бұрын

echolocation

The one child policy favouring sons over daughters must be a contributing factor too…raising narcissistic males who think their word and way is always the final say in anything.

@ludwigwittgenstein1280

2 жыл бұрын

No the one child policy has nothing to do with people favoring boys over girls.

@moodyspoint7377

2 жыл бұрын

@@ludwigwittgenstein1280 yes it did. Lol again what insolence you males have

I remember we had this one Chinese dude who got mad in class and he flipped and pushed tables around, all of us were shocked and the teacher was shaken. He's for sure going to be one of those guys if he doesn't change

I fought back both my ex partner and current,I had them charged and took full custody of all 6 of my children..my ex and current partner are both shitarse scared of me regardless of my mere 55kg frame compared to their 100kg bodies,they know I'll fight to the death especially when it comes to my right to live with respect,love,appreciation and my children ❤❤❤ Be strong and get out,we all deserve happiness 💕💖

@serpentinewolf7085

3 жыл бұрын

We might be smaller, but we’ll be damned if we don’t take a chunk out of them. Gouge their eyes, rip their throat out.

@paulawetterer8839

3 жыл бұрын

Your current partner!?

@AnotherWittyUsername.

3 жыл бұрын

I told my partner on the day he moved in 27 years ago that he better never dare to raise a hand to me, because he has to sleep sometime and I'll break his legs with my security system (a Louisville Slugger). I think he's just a little bit afraid of me too.

@roxanneweichinger9318

3 жыл бұрын

👍Good for you!

@LG-qq7no

2 жыл бұрын

Bravo ...We can💃👍

I’m a Chinese lawyer, I don’t know if it’s a regional thing cuz I’ve never asked lawyers from other region if their clients are experiencing domestic violence just like mine. 95% of my female clients who are seeking for a divorce have experienced domestic violence, most of them have called the police but nothing has changed.

How do we start campaign 'International Leave An Abusive Relationship Day'?

@ieatgremlins

3 жыл бұрын

It isn’t that easy.

@Tony94188

3 жыл бұрын

@@ieatgremlins to start a campaign or to leave abusive relationship?

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

and how will that help?

@AnnaLVajda

2 жыл бұрын

Well you need money and somewhere to go not sure what their shelters are like either if they have them you can only stay in one a month in Canada some are dirty with staff that treat you like you are in prison too.

@aesyamazeli8804

2 жыл бұрын

You just start it. Send tweets, make posts, etc. It may never be popular but as long as you abide by your conviction it will be fine.

i feel bad for a beautiful laimu tiktok she was supposed to be famous she was supposed to become a big deal in china, to support her children but her ex husband took her life away her fame is gone forever

@bestclips2616

3 жыл бұрын

What's the point of fame if it leaves you no legacy. Living for a audience that will forget you in a blink of a eye. That's the saddest part.

@brettrobinson2901

3 жыл бұрын

@@bestclips2616 No ....the SADDEST part was her abuse and hideous murder.

@kimmie2679

3 жыл бұрын

Her fame? Weird comment. It seems like you are worried about the wrong thing.

@romella_karmey

3 жыл бұрын

Crazy how you value fame over the life that's been lost.

@BEAUTYnIQ

3 жыл бұрын

Listen to you defaming his comment .. laimu was a definite loss .. but had she built a beautiful building you would say " o look what she did " yet her building was her online presence .. it took her Time, Resources, and Energy .. and yes theres value in that .. I dont hav to diminish @Joshua Graham to make my points so why are you .. hes stating a simple truth .. Im glad hes acknowledging her contributions .. we hav her in video, but she will be missed !

Don’t marry because of pressure but for love

@extremepsyche3135

3 жыл бұрын

You probably watched too many Disney movies

@poplimk

3 жыл бұрын

Marry because of love?? Look at america love marriages people still get beaten up. It's human problem!! Nothing to do with what you said!

@soul832006

3 жыл бұрын

@Jose Ramirez no!! Society needs to learn that all forms of violence against each other is completely unacceptable. Doesn't matter if it's man or woman.

@soul832006

3 жыл бұрын

@Jose Ramirez agreed. I advocate against domestic violence in all of its forms (trust me there are so many more than just the physical).

@arthantarpujari6669

3 жыл бұрын

Marry for money that's the only way out

maybe its because im pessimistic, but i feel like the "reformed abuser" is using this as a tactic to guilt his ex to come back to him and their son. because he has "changed", and his son misses his mother and so on. like for sure ppl can improve for the better. However, why would this man agree to do this interview and show his face and name, when public marriage records exist and the woman friends/family or the public could potentially convince her to also come back to him after seeing this. He could have done this with his face blurred, leaving personal details out as she did not consent to have her story plastered all over the internet. I feel somehow this is wrong. Imagine ur past abuser is given a platform and is now "reformed", and ppl everywhere believe him.

We had a violent clash? He talks still like she had a choice. Why does he have his son and can choose when she gets to see her son?

@AnnaLVajda

2 жыл бұрын

That is why lots of women stay and continue to be abused too they risk being separated from and able to protect their kids.

Before getting married it’s best to consult a divorce lawyer and a family court just to be sure of what you’re getting yourself into

@genghiskhansdaughter7891

3 жыл бұрын

Word! My friend! Word!

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

if you are willing to do that than dont even get married :)

@illustryfe5354

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 It's called being safe

@user-kq2wp9zn4m

2 жыл бұрын

It is better not to marry!

I am a survivor 🙏💯 I thank God everyday for my life & my children’s life.

@foikay1118

2 жыл бұрын

Carrie how did you break free?

Guweih doesn’t look all that rehabilitated to me. He clearly only sought help because he saw that other men were getting murdered in self defense and he got scared. But he couldn’t admit that. And the so called happy ending is that he continues torturing his ex by maintaining total control over when she gets to see her son. It’s that way in Brazil too.

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

lol sure :) he got scared

@Sarablueunicorn

2 жыл бұрын

He's not rehabilitated but he's definitely self aware and he's also showing how families and society blamed the woman and gave him a free pass. He felt justified in his actionsn

@der_tod_und_das_madchen4727

2 жыл бұрын

Surely ahah. Those men are the same everywhere, it doesn't matter if they're Chinese, Brazilian, Italian, Swedish or so on.

No person should tolerate physical, emotional and mental abuse. We have only one life so why should we waste it in the hands of someone else.

@lovebll

3 жыл бұрын

even with teacher and boss, some of those "strong" people tends to bully "weak" people, its like food chain in ecosystem. But we are HUMAN.

Saying that these women are “ Dying for love” is a despicable label to put upon a loveless contract . SHAME ON YOU!

Im glad my mother married a man who cared for me, my sister and worked hard to support the family.

@Omar-jk8ny

3 жыл бұрын

Good man

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

i dream of such life.. since im not planing to have children if i ever get married i would like it to be with someone who has children already so i can be a father and give all my love without spreding my s**t genes... sadly i have too much health issues in all my family.. im the only one thats not sick and one of few who lived over 25...

@LG-qq7no

2 жыл бұрын

1 in a Million!!!🙏

@PsychoticAndChaotic

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 Adoption is always a great thing!

@huangemmapao6187

2 жыл бұрын

You are so lucky.

I used to live 2 years in guangzhou china. I live in the 6 floors apartement. One night i heard strong brawl with next slaps sound and women hard cried. And the next was broken glass. I realized, this society have problems with domestic abused. In indonesia have same problems too, some families brawl that resulted in domestic abused, but this last 10 years, we have an organization that protect childerns and women. The lastest case in indonesia was about mothers sold her daughter to get prostitution and involved in human trafficking, currently she sent into jail.

The Chinese Goverment should really greatly increase the punishments for domestic abuse. Include caning, like in Singapore. Good move for executing the monster who blinded his wife.

It's stories like this am thankful for staying single

@lovemusicnatureartsfoods...

2 жыл бұрын

Same here...

Real men do not feel the need to beat and belittle women ! A normal strong man respects his wife and be a good example to their children and the future generations! Beating women is a cowardly act !

@lorainejones41

3 жыл бұрын

Men in China need to go buy a punching bag and do a few rounds after work. Maybe they need fight club and can fight each other. Leave the women and kids alone please 🥺

I suffered domestic violence and left my husband, went far away from his home and his brother started stalking me. His entire family could call me and threaten me. When I realized that my life is in danger, I went to work abroad. Its been three years already but I'm scared of going back home. I don't know how people can be so cruel

My father was abusive so I lived with domestic violence my whole childhood. Not many men can reform like Gu Wei. My father still doesn't think that he did was wrong. This documentary is still hopeful at the end but most abusers do not change.

@razorsharplifestyle101hard9

Жыл бұрын

Did you grew up here in america?If these women live in the united states they will be empowered.But oftentimes american when just like any body else will abuse their power and they usually abused the men in their relationships.These chinese women have no chance in china in a patriarcal society.They must submit without backtalk.

13:00 great response by the police: he beat you because he loves you and wants you stay. Of course, when a man loves a woman he wouldn’t kiss and hug her, no, the proper way to express it is by punching her in the face and head and kick her in the stomach repeatedly. If the people who should uphold and enforce the law can’t differentiate between true love and abusive relationship I dread to think about how they deal with the rest. Do the women have to lie dead and decapitated for them to see that it’s not love?

Stay away from control freaks! Life’s is precious and wonderful. Everyone thinks differently....

I feel like alot of potentially serious abuse is covered up in Asian families because there's this idea that physical punishments are a normal part of traditional parenting and family hierarchal structure must be respected. The parents, especially the father, is never wrong or should be questioned any under circumstance, doing so is disobedience and reason for punishment. There's also a lack of mental health education and it's highly discouraged to talk about your private family affairs with other people. The Chinese way is very much about minding your own business even if it looks like someone is struggling. I was sadly abused throughout my entire youth by my parents especially my father as a Chinese myself and it went beyond general discipline that I knew some other Chinese kids my age had to go through if they were rowdy or something, my father was an extremely twisted narcissist. He constantly made it known how useless, stupid, and hated I was. He enjoyed causing me physical/emotional pain even if I wasn't doing anything and some of the torment was sexualized. My mother was an enabler who was wasn't there for me and sometimes even participated in abusive acts. They constantly fought during my childhood as well. These issues really need to get addressed more because they're absolutely emotionally crippling to the victims long after they're no longer even in the abusive environment. I hope people speak out about their experiences more and are able to get out and live a happier life.

@bird872mitc3

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry that this happened to you!!!

Some men just put a woman down all the time. Telling them what they OUGHT to have done better, or should have done MORE or produced BIGGER etc.Slowly chipping away at their self confidence. Even without being beaten, this is abuse.

@TheMaiah13

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, there are many forms of abuse: verbal, psychological, financial. I dream of a world one day when women can get fully emancipated from all these kinds of abuse.

Chinese Domestic Violence statistics are much higher, though, majority are not reported. Domestic violence is a global issue and occurs in every culture and in both genders. Glad, there’s more awareness. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is not ACCEPTABLE!!!

This is why I choose to be single.

As someone who got married with a Chinese guy I can confirm they can be hella abusive (emotionally and physically)

@sheikhimranhosein3239

2 жыл бұрын

I find it amusing that your name is a Maria lol

There is also psychological domestic abuse (non-physical).

DV in china isn't limited to spousal abuse, but also towards children. My parents are from 2 of the bigger cities mentioned in this video. Both are well educated (PhDs) and have white collar jobs. My mum physically and emotionally abused me throughout my childhood. This I think was an outlet for her. My dad was a meek man who couldn't object to her manner of raising me. Her determination to control me continued well into my adulthood. Needless to say, there are even fewer avenues for children to seek justice or support when the people who are meant to love and protect them perpetrate violence against them. I could speak to no one. She often justified her behaviour as being a widely accepted normality in China. Violent beatings of children in her mind is the only correct way to enforce parental control and in turn garner respect for one's elders. I fear that this issue is even less likely to be addressed within Chinese society compared to spousal abuse.

@maywww

10 ай бұрын

Totally feel for you. I was physically abused by my father and emotionally abused by my mother during my entire childhood. Now I don't want to have anything to do with them :)

why does the guy they interview sound like he's bragging "imagine how much force i used" like this was a game for him he seems to have no remorse for how he treated her and talks about it as if it wasnt a big deal.

@darkodarko9

2 жыл бұрын

i dont know.. it seems to me that he is explaining in details so that people understand how much he lacked empathy and didnt even think about her pain or what she is going thru... but thats me maybe im not right

@roannali5691

2 жыл бұрын

It is just the way Chinese people explain things.. This is exactly how my dad explained to me how and why he punished me. Perhaps in Western context, it might seem unnecessary and sound like bragging but it isn't.

@evilqueen13

2 жыл бұрын

@@darkodarko9 I agree with you. He realized what he did was wrong and realized why he did those terrible things. HE started seeing things from his wife's side and he seems to understand the weight of his actions. He's going around speaking about how violence is wrong hoping to help other men see the light. He told his son the cold hard truth and is trying to break the cycle but everyone just wants to see the crimes not his change.

@moodyspoint7377

2 жыл бұрын

@@roannali5691 it is a game. Abusive because if you ask them well why didn’t you kill them? They would reply~that would be too harsh. There is no excuse for violent abhorrent behavior that is considered homicidal no matter what. I’m sorry your father did that to you. Do not ever let another person treat you this way. Recall that they are conscious of what they’re doing and there’s no ethical reason to hurt someone.

@Nicayaz

2 жыл бұрын

I hope that he has really changed. I understand what you’re saying though. Whenever he described beating the crap out of his wife he would word it as “we had a violent clash” and “we had a rather violent fight”. Why not just say I beat her up? Own what you did.

Is so sad to see these stories , but the things makes me feel more sad is that some comments here trying to find reasons from woman and blame woman for their husbands domestic violence.

Comparing to physical abuse, mental abuse or so-called cold abuse in the marriage is so hard to get an evidence for the court! I saw and heard so many husbands/boyfriends said to their wives “you are useless” “you have no value to the society” etc. I am not sure in this situation, how can the law protect the ones being abused? Sometimes mental abuse causes the equal level of damage or even longer-time damage as the physical abuse!

This is really heartbreaking 💔

@jonshannon6252

3 жыл бұрын

it is it’s because we don’t see it too. but yes sad.

Domestic abuse is a very serious issue. Its crimes are extreme, heinous and very very frightening.

When I was a little child, I remember my grandma and grandpa fight.. After the fight, I see the chairs broken and see droplets of blood everywhere.. Very scary memories.. I'm glad my father didn't inherit my grandpa's bad attitude.. My father never hit my mom ever even if they fight and at the edge of being physical.. My mom is the one hitting my dad and provoke him and worsen the fight instead 😂 but if my father was hit he would just chuckle and laugh

@romella_karmey

3 жыл бұрын

@aviv al yeah sound like. But I'm glad there were no droplets of blood anymore.. It's normal for married people to fight but it's detrimental to their children..

@realmofthesenses

3 жыл бұрын

It is a scale of abuse, the worst being physical abuse by the strongest person to the weakest person in a relation. Even verbally putting eachother down in a mean way or using bad language to eachother are forms of abuse. Then there are things like ´stonewalling´, ´gaslighting´, ´passive-agressive´ behaviour, and all kinds of pyschological manipulations that break people´s heart and soul. Since the average man is physically much stronger than the average woman, men should learn to disciplin themselves. Once they start beating girlfriend or wife in a rage (with or without alcohol, drugs etc.) it is too late. It will happen again, and again, and again. It is `normal´ to have conflicts in relationships, but we should learn how to deal with it in a non-abusive way. In contrast we should learn ways to help heal eachother from wounds we bring with us into the relationship. (I am editing when I see typing or language errors).

@layorhskye7492

3 жыл бұрын

And you think its okay for your mum to hit your dad?

@junebyrne4491

2 жыл бұрын

Women can be abusers. It is not ok.

@ycaceres3357

2 жыл бұрын

Abuse is abuse

It is disgusting to see man hitting women, we shouldn’t tolerate the sentences, and we should speak out ✍🏻🗣🗣🗣

@MarkWilliams-bs6qr

3 жыл бұрын

it is very disgusting for a man hit women.. you are right .... I am not hat kind of man, I really want friendship from you if you don't mind. At least we can get to know each other better. Wechat ID: NNCHEN123xcx please let me know if you can add me. thank you.

Best advice I ever heard about Domestic Violence. "Leopards do not change their spots" . You must leave, it will only get worse, do not believe it will not happen again. Do not accept any apologies. Educate yourself. Find help to be safe.

All I wish is that all these abusers are treated the same way they treated their wives/kids. Prison is not enough- free food, free bed, time to relax or find hobbies. A snake doesn't change..

@NPJGlobal

5 ай бұрын

the guy at the the end seemed to be on the right track though

As a Chinese woman, I think in this country women are not protected from domestic violence at all.

Women be brave! Don't let the abuse start. When the government nor the family can not help, be smart. Leave once there is a hint or a sign of violence or abusive behavior. Don't be afraid to be single. A lot of people are single and happy.

Sadly, domestic violence knows no borders.

Real tragedies that could be prevented. Good you're covering this topic.

My heart breaks for these lovely women who married for love but lived a life of hell at the hands of the man who was to love them and to respect them . These women are so brave and they deserve to be love by a real man . A man who will love them , protect them , respect them and even give his life to them . This is the meaning of a real man . He will love his wife , his family and give all that he has and all of himself for them to have the best life possible . This is love between a man and his wife . It is my hope for these women that one day they will find this kind of man to be there love and husband . It is true that they are out there ladies just do not give up and keep looking and you will find true happiness !!!!

I am wondering. I see a lot of abuse and hurtful behaviour towards women in romantic C-drama, and in the Chinese romantic internetnovels they are based on. I think the same is true for so called romantic novels all over the world. It is not a simple issue.

@BubblegumFunk

3 жыл бұрын

My dad said he could tell straight away asian men have tendencies to be abusive and the BOSS by how they are portrayed on the dramas and dramas too. I'm adopted btw.

@carolesanchez9313

2 жыл бұрын

@@BubblegumFunk also maybe because they are slight in build/under endowed physically compared with western men and have a small man's complex?

@mauvehawaii

2 жыл бұрын

@@carolesanchez9313 no you're just getting into racist territory

yes, i born before 90s and grown up in this kind of family background as well. i remembered very clearly i once knee down to hug/protect my mum (on the floor) from being beaten/kick/slap/hit by my dad. this moment broke my heart and also caused me trauma and possibly caused me no confident to get marry as well. Child who living in this kind of family background most likely growing up with lack of love from the family. back then i hated my dad so much, but my love to my mum always 1000000000% will never deplete til now. i hated myself at my young age why i born in this family, and always feel like i don't belong to the family, pillow always wet with tears, stage of depression. i will remember those memories of getting beaten up by my dad as well til my age of 18. those who gone through the same as me, i totally felt you, i hope you are still going through your life strong, but i want to love myself more now.

Domestic abuse is a vicious circle. It is EVERYWHERE on Earth. It's most often generational. The abuse happens to women, children and men. It's bullying in government, domestic locals, within industries, the laws. It is the nature of the beast, our lower selves. Honor God First. Respect, Kindness, Patience, Education, Fairness used consistently WILL make a difference in healing our tortured Souls. It might start with, "I love you. Let us be friends."

I’m shocked that someone even stopped to help. China has a culture of not stepping in to help someone in need because they are either scared that they will get in trouble too or if it’s domestic abuse they think it’s not their place to step in. I’ve seen/read literally dozens of stories about sometime needing help and people just keep walking by.

i like the part of the ex abuser, it gives me insight that finally there's a man realized what his wrong doing is

@terintiaflavius3349

3 жыл бұрын

My son's father was horrifically abusive. I still have ptsd from it. He however today 10 years after I left him is not abusive nor malicious. It doesn't change that I will never go back or change my ptsd but it does happen

@whiteskull1067

2 жыл бұрын

Good for him but what about the people he hurt? He should not be allowed to remarry. There must he consequences otherwise what stops him from doing it again and others from following in his footsteps? I would put a blinking collar or anklet on any man who commits abuse and domestic violence after he serves a jail sentence (death penalty would be preferred). Shame is the only way to stop this. Or better yet, brand his forehead with 'abuser' ' You don't go so far as to seriously hurt people as a 'mistake.' Weak men. Cowardly men.

A suggestion for those suffering from violence: try to discreetly film them on camera when a fight is about to erupt, and use this as evidence if possible when the police asks for evidence. If they don't believe you, you need to find ways to protect yourself, just like you do when you're harrasses (like mace sprays, self defence moves etc.) But ofcourse, be careful not to let them get back at you for defending yourself in these ways. If things get worse, you need to find a place to stay, like a secret HQ. It will be worth the hassle. Sending prayers to those in sufferring🤲

@NPJGlobal

5 ай бұрын

but also be careful of being framed in a negative light throught video or audio. taken out of context it can prove very damning

I've been in domestic violence for yrs but got up and walked out reared my six children alone with help from family and now my son's walks away from their gf it's hard but getting help earlier is essential so stand up ladies all around the world just remember we are the backbone we are all beautiful Thanks from Australia 👍

These families need to be under scrutiny even if their private lives are interfered with. These women are not guaranteed with safety from their own families. I hope that these women will be able to escape from these unfortunate situations.

Thank you so much for voicing out. I remember my great granny told me when she was young and want to go to school. Her mother told her boys are treasure, the girls are stool, what are you going to school for. And she was chased into kitchen to cook breakfast. She never went to school until at 19 when she met her first husband who supported her. When ever uncle did something bad or have accidents, great granny will get blamed and get beaten by her parents. I think the main reason of male chauvinistic so wide in China is because of favour boys over girls. Chinese culture still follow the ancient teachings woman must listen to father, listen to husband, and when son grow up listen to the son. Woman largely have no right in saying. I’m really glad there are many ladies and activists speaking out and seeking women rights. Especially in rural areas. This domestic violence happens across the whole world. But it’s most importantly the survivors comes out and speak about their experiences.

Incredible documentary! I hope things change!