As someone who has lost her dad age 14, and lived well over 10 years upset with life, facing anger, depression and anxiety, I have to say that what brought me release was freeing my father from my selfish pain and embracing life as it is, in its full flow without him. I think way too often what we grieve is not the person, but our life and who we were before loss, what needs of ours that person fulfilled and what they gave to us. I feel that if we truly honored that person for who they were and what they gave to the world, releasing the entanglements and projections, we'd grieve healthier. I also feel that, from a spiritual point of view, those gone need to be freed of our selfish attachment to them. We need to learn to love those passed without caging them within us and using their absence as an excuse to not live fully. Love them without blaming their absence for what is wrong with our lives. Love them while moving forward and honoring them each time, but without the strain of our misery on their souls. They did their best, now it's our turn.

@Niuniany

4 жыл бұрын

Alexandra Furnea This is so true , thank You for this🙏❤️

@ladyravenlove

4 жыл бұрын

@@Niuniany, I'm happy if it helped at least a little bit 🤗

@wandahunter1407

3 жыл бұрын

This was a beautiful explanation of my grief that people don’t understand. I am grateful my mother is no longer in pain but I grieve the loss of being her daughter and how that was such an integral part of my life.

@veronicavaquer6812

Жыл бұрын

This is the wisest thing I've read so far about grief - thank you for sharing your perspective - really helpful and healing.

@Lerikaa16

Жыл бұрын

This is so beautifully said! You are 100 % right

I planned my nana’s funeral last week to a T. Every detail mattered to me. I think she would’ve smiled. It was my last way to show her how special she was to me.

Thank you Ms Prince . Well done ma'am. Well done.

Thank you Laura , having lost my wife of 42 years to suicide. I understand your message, as I have many thoughts of what you speak of. Most don’t deal with death of a loved one or friend, we must, it’s inevitable. We don’t pass this part. We all experience death. Thank you for your presentation!!

moving speaker, especially the way she frames the experiences of those parents of the 19 day old child, and how what they wanted to hear other people say how fortunate they were to have spent 19days w/their child.

Lost my mother 30 years ago. Every day i think of her. Sometimes i want to scream her name. I cant move on its as bad today as it was when she died. Unfortunately for me there s no ending until i pass on. She was the epitomy of perfection. Never told her.

@susan4yahshua

3 жыл бұрын

When i lost my dad , part of me wanted to grieve hard to show him how much i loved and missed him , then I realized, hes dead...he doesn't know anything, ur only hurting urself.....move forward , think of him often the good times , but ur still here and u cant go thru life miserable. So , like in Old Yeller , u cant spend good times thinking about the bad , that makes it all bad. Look for something good to Replace the bad , and as a general rule u can find it. Plus , the dead person would not want us dwelling . They would want us to go live a happy life. Isn't that right ?

Thank you for the great talk, it is a timely one for me as tomorrow I will be traveling to So CA to attend a funeral for my girlfriends mother. I am 63 years old and it has taken me all this time to realize I need to go to the funerals for people who were an important part of my life and also be supportive to my girlfriends needs, as she has been there for me many times in the past.

I lost my daughters months ago...i found no solace here...i wish i could listen to nice words and that it could somehow ease my pain, help me accept how, she, who once filled my world is now no where to be found, ever to be seen or heard from again...that she simply does not exist..mourning is mourning, however you wanna dress it up,..it sucks, it hurts and you are forever the walking wounded... waking up each morning, hoping through searing tears and heaving chest, that the pain will be a little less today...

@misgapeach45

6 жыл бұрын

I lost my son 26 days ago. He was 26. I am thankful for the time we had together....but I miss him. I haven't went back to work yet, as I am a teacher and on summer break. I go back next week. I don't yet know how I'm going to be when I'm around people in person again.

@eh4235

5 жыл бұрын

Grief is a deep emotion, so powerful it moves you. When the pain gets deeper than the fear we open the abyss to our hearts. I used the death of my father to open up these emotions that brought me to confusion and self harm after the loss of my mother and brother. I am still going through therapy trying to heal these wounds. Thank God I am a rebel and a survivor by nature. I will live well for all of them.

Thank you...very accurate in describing the pain...u ALWAYS do feel like a little child when this is going on. My dad is very ill... totally LOVE my daddy and always will

@annmarieknapp

4 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry. Thinking of you.

Impressive. It's a blessing to know that there are people like this in the world! Great video. The loss of my husband birthed Widows of Opportunity. I never thought in a million years that death would be my passion. Thank you for this video!

THIS IS SO IMPORTANT! I was really moved watching this.

A very much needed conversation as life and death are different sides of the same coin. Thank you for the work you doing expanding the good mourning practices.

What a wonderful TED talk! Laura did a WONDERFUL job.

Thanks Laura for your touching way to explain something so delicate and deep: life and death, the two sides of the same coin. Yes. In fact, a good life is accepting all realities of this life, hard realities some times, and the worse of all, is the death: our death and the death of our dearest people near to us. Accepting painful emotions is learning to accepting life. Accepting death is accepting life. Salutes, Laura.

@Niuniany

4 жыл бұрын

ENLIGHTENMENTING ❤️

It really touched me when she said kiss your husband and play with your kids and don't be so caught up in how great you want them to be just accept and thank them that really touched me that's something I always wanted my parents to be around me hopefully they could watch this video and maybe understand a bit... Thank you

@rhianrhina

8 жыл бұрын

i understand exactly what you mean...i wish parents would learn to love their children and see the positives about who they are rather than what they haven't done. That they be more supportive and caring, rather than dictators who are impossible to please. Well, at least that's how i see it :)

I really like her ideas. I lost my only big brother the day after Christmas in 2019. He was hit by a driver who failed to yield to a pedestrian. I grieve alone. The speaker has some great points 🙏👌🏻🙏

@RestYourHeart703

2 жыл бұрын

I have a podcast for fellow grieving siblings. "Surviving Sibling Loss-The Forgotten Mourner's Podcast"

When I was very young I lost someone who I loved personally.... My parents didn't let me talk about her nor did my friends who also knew her!!! All I heard was "you need to move on!" Those who have lost loved ones know that it's one of the things that SHOULD NOT be said. So I decided that if I couldn't talk about it nor cry I bottled it up, until one day that "bottle" exploded!!!! Very recently I lost my great uncle.... He was such an amazing person. When I went to his funeral tears poured down my face... One of my cousin's gave me a long hug. Long hugs are comforting.... Now I am so lost

We do need to be more prepared for these events. Making the atmosphere comforting might help alot. May you're organization THRIVE PROSPEROUSLY!

Thank you for this talk. I am less than two months out from my Mom's death, and this hit the nail on the head for me. I wish things could have been different with the funeral and memorial and that people were a bit more understanding about things. I also wish my mom, who was terminally ill, had gotten her will done, or at least appointed an executor so it wouldn't have been another painful thing we have had to do to try to get the courts to recognize someone to get the details looked after.

@yonasmohammed6776

9 жыл бұрын

Gggngggghhyttytmm!!.

Much needed message. Something I believe in and advocate. Thank you for what you do 🙏💕

Thank You❤️

wow - cried through this entire talk, in awe of the strength and gifts Laura has in working with grieving families. I hope that our family can get in touch with her for help when it's our time to grieve, because it's inevitable, and yet we are so unprepared. thank you.

Just amazing. I lost my brother in a horrible way and I agree with everything you said 💜

@RestYourHeart703

2 жыл бұрын

I have a podcast for fellow grieving siblings. "Surviving Sibling Loss-The Forgotten Mourner's Podcast"

Already thought all this many times. I am 65. I've tried so many therapists, who just sit and stare blankly at me when I speak out about the losses and processing it. Lost both parents in 14 days, my brother shot himself the same month. My husband found dead in the living room. I'm so used to funerals, carrying the casket, sorting through houses, rooms, boxes, clothes and family photos I'm so sick of it. I am at the end of the doing..... as I listen, I see I need someone with more maturity to listen to on TED with this subject.

@clearskiesthailand

5 жыл бұрын

I feel so sad and sorry for your losses. It is too much for one person to bear. I see that five years have passed since you made the comment and hope that life is treating you more kindly today.

@annmarieknapp

4 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for all your losses. My God reading your post saddened me profoundly. That you are holding it together with so much loss shows the strength of your character. I hope you find some peace and comfort soon. You deserve happiness and compassion.

@susan4yahshua

3 жыл бұрын

Wow . How DID u handle that? I guess....time. Takes time to process , and accept , and learn to live with it . Not move on , but move forward .

Thank you so much!! I've been dealing with the loss of my 28 year old daughter, and now my beloved dog!! I've been so lost and alone looking for a direction!! Thank you..

@radaka

5 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss.

@dondressel4802

4 жыл бұрын

I can definitely feel your pain as I lost my wife to cancer and my dad to heart disease and my little Yorkie to soon as he was only three years old

Thank you for this truthful video. We need more of this conversation

Excellent knowledge x

Powerful and Challenging!

That was so good to hear. Thank you! I'll be kissing my husband and children with unconditional love this day forward.

I understand and support you.Bless you

Hi I have recently lost my gran and people told me that my gran is in the best place and I am 17 now I had my gran for 16 year and a half and my mum has lost her sparkly cause it was her mum and I miss her everyday she was my rock and gran was 82 years old or 81 I can’t remember but she was old and people keep telling me she is in the better place and thanks for this talk I feel like killing myself sometimes and I am currently graving on myself and I know my family is around but I don’t feel supported.

Most underviewed TEDx

My 89 year old husband is close to death and this has helped…

This is amazing! I never thought about it! Taught me a lot!

This was VERY helpful thank you so much

Death is real. Can't have life without Death. I'm hurting and find myself going through it alone.

Thank you, could have used this awhile back, nice to hear now as well.

Amazing speech!

Wonderful.

Great talk. I teach Death Dying and Bereavement and plan to use this in my class. I am having difficulty finding more information on your journey and organization. That said, I did just buy your book. Do you have a web-site?

@nonamegivenatbirth

4 жыл бұрын

Frank LaDore I never found anything else online about this woman. I think the book you refer to is by a different Laura Prince, one who lost her brother. Honestly, this talk did not resonate with me. I feel like she can’t personally relate, she “works” with people who’ve lost loved ones. I lost my husband suddenly 10 months ago.

@RestYourHeart703

2 жыл бұрын

Do you have an email contact? I would love to get in contact with you as I have a podcast for grieving siblings.

Amazing

Great Talk Laura! So hard to find a good talk on grief.. here's another great talk tackling grief from a different angle: The Adventure of Grief: Dr Geoff Warburton at TEDxBrighton

Have shared with everyone I know...so vital a message...

Thankyou

Life and death are to sides of the same coin. Celebrate the life of the pers on you lost, because they are living inside you. Word.

this was great

Matthew 5:4 King James Version (KJV) Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.

@susan4yahshua

3 жыл бұрын

Ive never understood that scripture.....we are not comforted ... how can we be ...its natural to grieve a loss .... who was it that even refused to be comforted ?

I need her in my life

Is there any way to get more information about Good Mourning? Do they have a website? How is it coming along? I'd love to be a part of it, if I could. I lost my mother a year and 9 months ago, and the message in this video really touched me. I've tried googling about Good Mourning but haven't found any results other than those leading back to this video.

my mom passed away...half a year ago..i like this lady speaker

Does anyone know if she will be talking some where in the Bay area soon?

Great talk Laura! It's so important people start understanding and talking about grief and living life to the full after loss... There's another amazing talk about grief by Dr Geoff Warburton, here on You Tube, called The Adventure of Grief.

Love

Love this!! does anyone have her contact info or any books written by her i cant find any..

She stole my name!

This persons experience is beautifully talked about and insightful but her life experiences ,just like a lot of these TED talks ive seen, are very very lucky people who have been born into money and mostly used (can be read squandered) it to travel and do things that the majority of us do not have the ability to do. Most blue collar workers cannot afford to place the livlihoods of their families in the hands of chance by base jumping. Most people cannot afford to fuck off and travel the world.not because of a lack of funds but a lack of time to recover those lost funds (ie: spending 4 years in college to get a communications degree or a degree in literature or history is 4 years without income to get a worthless document). People like this should not be held up to talk about any life experience that doesnt begin with be born rich.

@surfer987dog

8 жыл бұрын

+Justin Hill at least you have internet

@domzbu

8 жыл бұрын

most people cannot afford to xyz ....conment born of a loser mentality. Find a way. where there is a will there is a way

@smcd6101

7 жыл бұрын

I see what you're trying to say Justin, but isn't that basically saying that privileged people don't deserve to feel grief? If that's the case, that means that wealth and privilege can buy a person happiness which most of us know is not true.

@LindaLopez-uo5bt

4 жыл бұрын

Most of us can travel locally if no where else , I’m trying to explore areas of my corner of the state I’ve never seen or been to . From what I’ve seen $ doesn’t help folks grieve,or buy happiness ! Truth is we can all learn from other folks if we try to be teachable, God can use anyone .

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Sorry but this wasn't too helpful still a good talk

glad she is like this. I am not like this. I don't think death is a big deal. we all die. celebrate life while you live, or you will sound like a walking grief machine making everyone else feel like crap. her idea at the end for better funerals is great. all this other grief crap bothers me.

@crissyd3836

5 жыл бұрын

Wow. I hope you still feel this way when you lose the ground beneath your feet. Having no heart, having no empathy. You're truly an amazing human. Congratulate your parents they really taught you well 👏👏👏