I lost my girlfriend, and mother of my 9 month old daughter, a couple weeks ago. She was only 28. It's so hard to deal with the grief. Nobody told me it was going to get harder as the days pass by. I feel bad for anyone that's dealing with the loss of their lover. The world feels so empty now.

@nadulamb4141

Жыл бұрын

So sorry of your loss God be with you

@aimeekreutzer-malkawi

Жыл бұрын

It does. I’m so sorry for your loss especially that baby. Prayers for your grieving journey

@lyndabeam2622

Жыл бұрын

It’s very difficult

@WalkerTexas

Жыл бұрын

God bless you.

@camilliagaines1436

Жыл бұрын

I lost my kids dad unexpected this past December 2022 I definitely understand your pain it’s hard trying to live each day with out we was together 12 I was devastated the pain and hurt was so bearable no one will ever know how it feels

I lost my husband 6 months ago due to covid. He gave his life as a nurse in an Emergency room taking care of people during this pandemic.

@inaacielo6078

3 жыл бұрын

Im sorry for your loss. May he rest in Gods care now. 🥀🙏🏻

@26loumac

3 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband to covid 4 months ago too. Keep strong xxxx

@Jane5720

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so so sorry

@bekarriedaway

3 жыл бұрын

Charlene I’m so so sorry. Mine is also a nurse - and he’s still on a Covid contract - this isn’t over. Your husband is a true hero 💞

@tattedx3

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how you feel I lost my mom a month ago from covid as well she was taken from one day to the next.. we didn't know and now I miss her so so much.

Grief is like love with nowhere to go. This is why it hurts so bad and for so long.

@upstatenewyork

2 жыл бұрын

I like that. Grief is love with no where to go. Thanks for sharing. Peace.

@BarbaraInspires17

2 жыл бұрын

Well said

@meninagreen5704

2 жыл бұрын

Boy, are you ever right. It's chronic, deep and shattering. I'm full of regret and pain..

@zoehannah6278

Жыл бұрын

😥

I lost my wife 8 days ago, I am 32 and she was 36. I never saw it coming, no warning or nothing. A fatal heart attack, like a lightning strike from a clear sky. Right now it feels impossible that anything will ever be okay again. Thank you for this video, I don’t think I ever want to stop talking about her.

@lupitawilson7509

Жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

@BillyBobBeauBenson

Жыл бұрын

Please. Tell me how you 're doing right now. I'm the same age as you and I just lost my wife last night in a similar manner.

@elizael2785

Жыл бұрын

I lost my husband and father of my 9yr old to a sudden heart attack 4 months ago. I feel your pain. Try to journal stories about her. It helps

@stephaniebeehler2726

Жыл бұрын

Yes, keep her alive. Talk and enjoy those memories. It may be hard at first, but as time passes the good memories will comfort you.

@jodirichardson102

2 ай бұрын

I am reading this today 3/7/24 and you have made it over a year. I am at the four year mark . The tears slow but it is always there. keep talking her up.

Thank you. I lost my husband, Larry to an auto accident almost 18 months ago. He was the love of my life, my best friend. I like to talk about him but the kids seem to have trouble with that. I talk to him when I'm alone. I feel him with me. He will never be forgotten.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@carolgalloway9303

2 жыл бұрын

I talk to my husband a lot too. I just lost him at the beginning of January. I'm still trying to figure this all out. I was a stay at home mom and he was working. Not sure what is going to happen to us yet. Do you know of any support groups on line?

@marycarrato6868

2 жыл бұрын

@@carolgalloway9303 i just lost my husband last thursday. I'm going crazy from too much pain. can you tell me what you do to keep going?

@carolgalloway9303

2 жыл бұрын

@@marycarrato6868 I am just keeping busy trying to go through all my husband's phone and figuring out how to take care of everything. Our youngest child is a junior in high school. I just keep in mind that my husband would want me to be strong and that I come from a line of women that also has to be strong. I haven't worked in years so now I have to figure out how we survive. I'm not old enough to collect social security which means I have to return to the workforce after not working for almost 17 years.

@carolgalloway9303

2 жыл бұрын

@@marycarrato6868 I suggest finding a support group. I have not joined one yet, but we met a couple who we were ministers a number of years ago camping and they are constantly checking on me. I know that I can speak to them when I need them. I have found old pictures that I didn't even know my husband had and my kids and I were looking at them and talking about dad. I mourn him, but I also want to celebrate this person who was part of my life for 29 years. I don't know if any of this helps but know you aren't alone.

I lost my mum five years ago ,today I was at the mall and I saw a lady walk pass me and she looked so much like my mum ,I froze still starring at her for more than 5 mins resisting the urge to walk up to her and request for a hug ,rushed to the bathroom and cried my eyes out .I miss my mum so much ,the pain just never seems to go away .

@genettewaldman7526

Жыл бұрын

Had you come up to me at the mall I would have given you a nice long hug and my phone number so we could text and talk. Your Mom will send signs. Be open to receive them. I am one of your signs from your Mom. She says she is so proud of you and is saving a place for you. She also loves you to the moon and back.💕🌈♥️🎈😇 God Bless You!

@lauriemtz8616

Жыл бұрын

Blessings to you. ❤

@etchutabe3795

Жыл бұрын

@@genettewaldman7526 I would have very much loved that ,I just read this and am bawling my eyes out ,it means you much to me ,God bless you tremendously.

@etchutabe3795

Жыл бұрын

@@lauriemtz8616 Thank you 🙏🏾.

@linnyfy

7 ай бұрын

Best prayers and love to u.💕:)

When you realize the person you loved so much isn’t here in the world anymore, you start to think about the past and how much value the time you spent with them had. It’s easy for us to take every second of our lives with them for granted whereas hard to appreciate the time with them.

My Dave died almost 10 years ago. The things you've said here are so very true. "If you need anything" only lasts so long. When "they" quit coming by, quit calling, that when I needed everything.

@soofu

2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this comment, I will remember this about the people I love who have lost someone immediate to them, I promise to support them when they need it

@soteriacharis6338

2 жыл бұрын

That's what I fear. Lost my hubs of 35 years on April 24 after a short illness, just two months from diagnosis to death. So it's just over two weeks now as I type this and already the condolences have stopped. I don't fault them really. I would probably be the same. People don't know what to say or do. Yet now when life goes on, I have to create a new life for myself without him in it. I can't imagine being a young wife and mother of young children being a widow. One day at a time with the Lord at my side and often carrying me, I will get through this valley.

@user-od1fm3hs9c

2 жыл бұрын

@@soteriacharis6338 sending you hug.🤗 Stay close to the lord, he will guide you through this. ❤

@MultiRusty50

Жыл бұрын

So sorry for your loss Beva. My husband also died in April of Covid Pneumonia. He had Parkinsons for 19 yrs. It is very difficult and lonesome. Hugs to you

@spezia8066

Жыл бұрын

Its hard for friends to adjust to the new grief-ridden person that we become when in deep mourning. They certainly keep their distance as they can feel our pain and its too much for them to bear.

Lost my 23 year old daughter 10 years ago, I think of her every second, I'm still struggling with constant aching pain.

@gina2190

3 жыл бұрын

Hi only me, sending hugs, hard ain’t it. My lovely hubby passed, I’ll never stop hurting just like you.

@utopianmind1553

3 жыл бұрын

Im so sorry. My daughter searches daily for reasons to stay alive. I fear that injuries pain & depression will overtake her. She is only 26. She no longer sings, dances, nor acts. I daily ache watching her light fade. I keep the fear at bay by replaying great memories we have made. Play the memories:)

@spezia8066

3 жыл бұрын

@@utopianmind1553 If she had something fun to look forward, a coastal holiday or walk in botanical gardens, whatever it is that she enjoys, might help to lift her spirits. Sending big hugs, hang on tight. She is precious.

@Danny-fs1hk

3 жыл бұрын

So sorry

@gracebouchard7977

2 жыл бұрын

I can't imagine it ever not hurting. We can distract ourselves, but it will always be there.

I was 35 and my husband was 33. My kids were 10 and 12. He died instantly in a motorcycle accident. That was 16 years 5 months ago. I wish I had more stories like this when it happened for me. I’m remarried and happy but a day doesn’t go by that I don’t miss him and think of him.

@annmarieknapp

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss. I've never had loving long term relationship with a person I could trust and who wouldn't hurt me. My horrific divorce was one marriage to many for me. I don't want to remarry. I would love a loving and caring relationship. But, as a 51 year old divorced college professor and female, I'm practically invisible.

@dawnoceanside7300

3 жыл бұрын

@@chrisjohnson2246 please, do not include a child. Big big difference!!!

@josephchiu408

3 жыл бұрын

@@annmarieknapp A gentle heart is always attractive and 51 is young. Pray for the hurt to be healed and a caring and charming gentleman would come to your life.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

@@annmarieknapp I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@ladyluck5248

3 жыл бұрын

All I can say is that your feelings are normal and I understand ....

You were strong. When my Dave died. I fell apart, at age 28 with three small children, before the internet. 30 years have gone by. Those three kids are 40, 32 and 28, and I'm still grieving. We absolutely do need to start talking about death instead of being so afraid of it that we can't comfort each other. After 30 years, no one cares as much as we do, and everyone is still afraid to talk about it.

@gudrunerlingsdottir4590

2 жыл бұрын

You are so true ! God bless you dear Kathleen - I feel your pain - love and hugs to you ❤

@utkarshasathe1733

Жыл бұрын

@kathleen grant There is no one to hear me....what should I do please help me out of this.. I don't know what to do...I have to pretend that I m ok I have to pretend that I m living my life normally...no one knows what going inside me no one cares no one is there to talk what should I do 😭💔 please help me out please tell me....

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…?

What a great talk. Lost my husband, brother and dad in the span of 22 months. Grief hits you when you least expect it. Is ok to cry and honor yourself when you are having a bad day! Thank You!

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@Helibeaver

3 жыл бұрын

Wow. Thanks for sharing. Hope you're life gives you more smiles from now on.

@XianKai

2 жыл бұрын

Hi Carmen. I am so sad to hear that you loss your husband and brother and dad. I lost my dad, aunt, and uncle all last year and my grandmother this year in April. Do you have any advice or can point to information/organizations on how to handle loss back to back like that? My searches are not pulling up much. How does ones process multiple losses like this?

@carmennemura6138

2 жыл бұрын

@@XianKaiAm so sorry for your loss. Everyone has their own way of grieving, I personally didn’t search for a support group because I just simply didn’t want to talk, i literally didn’t have the energy to talk. I just needed to be in silence and absorb all the losses and figure out how to move on and what was next. I didn’t get out of the house (with the exception of work) for two years. Finally I woke up one morning and decided I was going to adopt a dog because it will force me to get out of the house and talk to people. It worked. My dog lost per owner due to cancer so she was in a deep depression when I adopted her and had her good days and bad days. We have pulled each other out of the hole one day at a time, 18 months later the sun is starting to shine on a daily basis and I got to meet many of my neighbors thanks to her friendly personality. This is what helped me, again everyone is different and their grieving process might be completely different.

@jimaldous3307

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry to hear. I lost my wife then my son died 7 months later. My closest sister then passed away from the following November. I agree we must cry and let ourselves do this when it hits. It is part of the grieving process. I wish you well.

I miss my husband so much hes been gone 2 mts I love talking about him and remembering his talent as a musician. He could play the most beautiful music on his guitar, that's part of why I fell in love with him. I hate cancer

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@melodynearlyful

3 жыл бұрын

I hate cancer and covid and hospitals that do'nt know how to care for them/

@juliedepaz6374

2 жыл бұрын

I hate cancer my mom passed and my friend of suicide my mom is buried in Guatemala and I live in USA I can’t go to her grave and put flowers or talk to her and that depresses me and makes me sad but I visit my friend and take her daughter out ❤️

@barbhouse3818

Жыл бұрын

I lost my husband June 14 2022. He was a guitar builder and played as well. He had a massive heart attack and was gone in an instant. Please reach out to me.. maybe we can help each other. Gid bless

Thank you. My husband died 4 years ago. I still have days that I cry. One thing that sticks in my mind is when I went to the Social Security office to provide a copy of the death certificate; to inform them of his death. The first words out of the mouth of the worker was, "you're too young to receive widow's benefits". After the initial shock, I stated that I was only there to inform them of the death. Then I was just angry. Now, still "too young" to receive benefits, I wonder who made that rule? Our youngest was 20 when my husband died. You are so strong. I am just now able to talk about him without crying constantly. It's still hard. He will always be my best friend and confidant. I just miss him.

@DanTheManIOM

3 жыл бұрын

5 years for me. SS wanted an accounting of the support money (son 2 was a minor) after he turned 18 and any funds I did not spend on him, they wanted them back. What a bunch of idiots, as if money would make things right again...I never could nor would...

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@annmarieknapp

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry for your loss. And that law sucks. Hang in there Hon.

@annmarieknapp

3 жыл бұрын

@@DanTheManIOM I'm sp sorry. Soulless monsters!!!

@DanTheManIOM

3 жыл бұрын

@@annmarieknapp don't worry, that was years ago. Need to look forward and do the best we can with what we have....the journey continues until it doesn't.

I just lost my husband two weeks ago, after a long, long illness. The grief is fresh.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

@summerjones316_17

Жыл бұрын

May the Lord Jesus comfort you in the Way that Only HE can. Revelation 22

I am so sorry for your loss. I am a covid widow with 3 children and I can honestly say you hit the nail on the head. People really don't know what to say. I talk about my late husband all the time and so do my kids. I know he is gone but we had 28 years together and I can't just stop talking about him because that would mean I can't talk about anything in my past. You must be a GREAT mom.

I lost my husband a year ago. Two days after I lost him I lost my dog. I can’t get passed losing him. I think about them all of my waking hours. I can’t stop seeing them everywhere. I’m still in love with my husband.

@KayLindsay-vd8mm

8 ай бұрын

Prayers and love

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?

To all who have lost husbands, as I have, and other family members,....they may not be here physically, but they celebrate and mourn with us in spirit. We will join our loved ones when it is our turn, but will then also be spiritually present to celebrate with those still on earth. We were created to have life everlasting.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

I'm so sorry for your loss. And I'm so grateful to watch this. My husband of twenty years, suddenly died from kidney failure and heart failure. He couldn't breath alone. His diabetes had been neglected or maybe in denial with all of us. But he wasn't ready to quit some bad habits, like many sugar sodas per day. He was sneaking cigarettes, and wasn't excersizing. And those things kept adding more and more issues to his failing health. January 9th, 2021, at 9:38 p.m., they took him off life support. As I write my story, I'm a mess. I lost my beloved father to his suicide when I was just 16. I thought that would be the hardest time ever I would face. And for years, it was. But when my soulmate, Jeff, passed just over two months ago, it was unlike any loss I've faced and in an entirely different way. I'd spent everyday, and night with Jeff, and everyday is still heartbreaking. One day, I will barely make it through the day without falling apart, but they're difficult to do. While other days, it's hour by hour, sometimes minute by minute. I miss his presence! His void is unfillable. He is irreplaceable. I have so much that I hear, and immediately wanna share with Jeff. But I have no way to tell him about something we shared interest in, and I just can't share details of what I heard. It hurts so much, I feel as though the pain will never cease. I know time will ease my pain. But I'm sleeping in our huge king-size bed, alone, with our fur-baby. That's my piece of comfort. I hope to get to where you are with your emotions and can keep him alive with our memories. Thank you.

@justinkimball1399

3 жыл бұрын

i lost my wife on February 14th 2021 at 5:20am due to kidney failure I came downstairs for work and found her on the floor and she was gone, I am so sorry for your loss and I Feel your pain she was and is my soulmate.

@JenJean1234

3 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband 12 years ago and have had many of the same emotions. You will get through it. I still grieve and have times of tears. I was not able to have another relationship because he was my soulmate. People think I should move on, but what does that mean. I live my life, work etc...just without my husband. Like this speaker said, have friends that allow you to talk about him. Say his name. Share funny stories, what you loved most about him. This is very healing. It will help you. You are not alone.

@pamlees7407

3 жыл бұрын

I am almost 5 years. Grief will always follow me and you as well. It bends and molds with us as we change from being the partner to being single...I don’t feel single. I have lemon 🍋 pie for his birthday. A friend put a different slant on death. He said it was My Angel’versary and that brought me comfort. It was his new beginning not a final emding until we meet again. I went to a group Friends in Grief and after the 8 wk program we met once a month for dinner. Covid has changed the

@beautyRest1

3 жыл бұрын

So very sorry to hear your story Sarah! I too lost my husband in October 2020. It was the hardest thing ever. I lost my mom and dad , yes, that was very hard, but spouse is a different level. So many things you described I feel too. The loneliness is unbearable sometimes. Every room I go to reminds me of him. I see his guitar, that he will never play. I was able to get rid of some of his belongings, but still hold on to others. I know there will be a light at the end of the tunnel, but it takes time to get there. I wish you strength for the coming month and much happiness in the near future!!

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

@@pamlees7407 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

I'm a young widow....just lost my husband 2 weeks ago. If I hear " well, honey, he's in a better place" or " you're young and will fund somebody else" I believe I gouge their eyes out!!!! When people as me how I'm doing..... UMMMMM. IM DOING TERRIBLE!!!!!!

@susampson278

8 ай бұрын

Are you telling people you're doing terrible? Say so AND that you can't talk about it yet

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…?

@douglaswerts4936

18 күн бұрын

Unbelievable the crass, cruel things people can say.

I lost my husband almost 5 years ago after 52 years of marriage. My daughters and I had to deal with everything by ourselves. Not one friend or relative came to see us or do anything to help us. We did it all alone. They will never be a part of my life again. The hurt was too unbearable.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?.

@morganfalkdesigns

10 ай бұрын

Wow…I am so sorry to hear no one was there…

I can relate to this so much. Exactly 3 weeks ago, I very suddenly and unexpectedly lost my husband to a pulmonary embolism. He had just turned 52 years old only 3 weeks prior and I'm only 40. We had been together for 22 years, ever since I was just 18 years old. I've been with my husband for over half of my life and now he is suddenly gone. He was my soulmate and my best friend, not to mention my entire support system and the one I could confide in about ANYTHING. I just don't know how I'm supposed to go on without him.

@barbhouse3818

Жыл бұрын

I am So sorry for your loss. I lost my 64 yr old husband on June 14 2022. It's ou bee a few days over a month. I would love to talk with you and any others that want to reach out to chat. I have alot of sleepless nights.. anyone else??

@jrwheeler81

Жыл бұрын

@@barbhouse3818 I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I am right there with you and know exactly what you are going through. My husband passed away just two weeks after your husband on June 28, 2022. It was extremely sudden and unexpected. I feel like I've been trapped frozen in time on that day that I lost him. My entire life has been turned upside down. This is the WORST I have ever felt in my entire life. I feel so alone and lost. I've never experienced so much pain and heartbreak. My husband and I were rarely ever apart in 22 years. I miss him so much it physically hurts. :( I would love to connect. I have so many supportive family and friends, but none of them have ever been through this, so they just don't really understand.

@lynny5510

Жыл бұрын

My husband and I were only 54 yrs old when my husband passed away Nov 2021. He died of cardiac arrest and it was so sudden and so unexpected. It is has been one yr and two weeks and I still cry everyday. I ask myself everyday what will I do? How will make it through another day? We were married 34 yrs. Our 34th wedding anniversary was exactly one month to day that he passed away. 22 Dec is our wedding anniversary and I am fast approaching that date again.

@ashleymedeiros4266

Жыл бұрын

13 years with my hubby. I lost him two weeks ago. We have two kids together. I’m completely lost. I relate & feel your pain in your words so much! I’m sorry you’re going through this. I feel like we have to relearn everything. I depended on him for so much! I’m 32 and our kids are only 9 & 7.

@arnellehardy1091

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss I’m right here with you my fiancé passed away the day before our NYE engagement anniversary we were to marry next month my wedding dress is in the closet 😢 he was my entire support system and my everything the only person I could confide in I’m heart broken smh

I lost my boyfriend in February 2021. I'm at that stage where I'm segregating myself from everyone. The only people I see daily are coworkers, mom, sister. I stay away from everyone because I don't know how to continue life without my friend. 😞💜

@danamelton1738

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. I pray that God covers you with love and comfort not just now but from now on. I pray for peace for you. I pray that one day you'll be able to smile, before you cry, when his names brought up or stories are told or something reminds you of him. Take the time you need and have to give yourself to mourn in your way, feel what you need to feel. Wear nothing but sweatpants and old tshirts if you want for awhile 🙂. But please remember this. Your not alone. Yes I am a stranger to you but my heart told me to respond to your comment. You are not alone. You may want to be alone at times and that's ok but please remember, everyone of your friends or family have been through heartbreak and loss. It may be in a different way but others know how you feel and as human beings we can share those feelings with each other. Friends and family may be exactly what you need. Literally a shoulder to cry on or someone to laugh with. Ask them how they got past loss in their lives. None of us are meant to walk through life alone. That's why we are blessed with friends and loved ones. Talking about it will lift some of the weight off of you. Your not alone. You deserve happiness and you will get that again even if it doesnt seem that way right now. Your stronger than you think. God bless you. Xo

@silviaamorim4044

2 жыл бұрын

I feel the same . I had a 40 years marriage . Imagined if I was young , how sad for the rest of my life grieving . I don’t know how to continue life without him neither but, I see I am not the only one . Love uou

@trumpgirl9291

2 жыл бұрын

Your boyfriend would not want you to be alone. Be honest with people. They genuinely want to help. Your life is not meant to be lived like this. You will start to feel better in time, just baby step things little by little to a new norm. I promise it will be ok.🙏🏻❤️

@grandmamoses6977

2 жыл бұрын

I am so sorry for your loss. Last thing on your mind when you go to sleep and first thing on your mind when you wake up. I feel for you, I've been there. One day about a year later I was preparing dinner about 3 pm and it hit me that I hadn't thought about it that day. The pain finally went away and I was left with the fond memories and a visit in my dreams saying "I am fine and I am happy." Good luck to you and bless your heart.

@scorchedgorse2649

2 жыл бұрын

@@grandmamoses6977 I would love to experience a dream like this. I'm glad you did. ❤

I lost my husband in Dec. 2019 and we celebrated our 54th wedding anniversary while he was in hospice. The covid year was peaceful to examine the loss. Thank you for sharing your experience.

I lost my mother nearly six years ago and it still hurts to the core. I have never had a loving spouse. My mother was the love of my life and when she died she took me with her. A different person now.

@christinafisher3561

3 жыл бұрын

I lost my Father in February due to covid complications. My mother and I were also diagnosed with covid the same time. He was my mentor and my best friend. I've been separated from my spouse which brought me to live with my parents where I would have the honor and privilege to care for him 9 months ago. Little did I know these past several months bonding like never before, would be our last. Thank you God for your timing in all of this. Only you have the power to bring something good from a loss so great.

@irisrose4732

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for your painful loss, and I completely empathize. It's as if I could have written your words; my mother is my soul mate, always and forever. I lost her on Valentine's Day of 2013 and I "died" too. I am trying to live to the best of my ability, for her especially, as well as my father whom died a year later.

@schawnettarobinson8584

2 жыл бұрын

I recently lost my mother, and I’m a different person.

@danamelton1738

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for all of yalls loss. I pray that God covers you all with love and comfort not just now but from now on. I pray for peace for you. I pray that one day you'll be able to smile, before you cry, when their names brought up or stories are told or something reminds you of them. Take the time you need and have to give yourself to mourn in your way, feel what you need to feel. But please remember this. Your not alone. Yes I am a stranger but my heart told me to respond to this comment. You are not alone. You may want to be alone at times and that's ok but please remember, everyone of your friends or family have been through heartbreak and loss. It may be in a different way but others know how you feel and as human beings we can share those feelings with each other. None of us are meant to walk through life alone. That's why we are blessed with friends and loved ones or even a stranger with a kind word. Talking about it will lift some of the weight off of you. Your not alone. You deserve happiness and you will get that again even if it doesnt seem that way right now. Your stronger than you think. God bless you all. Xo

@donnak936

2 жыл бұрын

@@danamelton1738 : What a Heartfelt, Beautiful Comment. God Bless You!! 🙏🏻❤️

My husband and I lost our only child when he was 21. Because we talk about our son Logan it has kept us closer and we lean on each other. Never a day goes by we don’t think about our son. We don’t always talk about Logan to each other but when we do we listen. We laugh at things we think Logan would have enjoyed. And we still cry about the hard parts of missing Logan. Knowing he will never be here to enjoy life and have a family of his own. But talking about Logan keeps him alive in us and our hearts. I didn’t think I could ever be closer to my husband. But until Logan died and we leaned on each other I can’t imagine being more closer to anyone like I am with my husband.

@tomtomtom731

2 жыл бұрын

That is beautiful; you are so lucky to still have the comfort of each other.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…?

I lost my husband in May of this year and I am so lost, I feel like I am in a bad dream. I feel alone and I don't know what to do with myself. I wish besides my therapies If I had someone else to talk to or share some time with that had been where I am now. That might sound bad but this is a lonely place to be in.

@nickinurse6433

2 жыл бұрын

Please find a support group

@andrewmyles480

2 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you are going through. I to just lost my wife of over 40+ years, and feel lost, and that l'm in a nightmare that l can't wake up from. I find that talking to someone who can relate to what you are going through helps. If you want to talk, send me a text message. Take care of yourself, you're stronger than you realize.

@paulcastelli8049

2 жыл бұрын

So sorry for both of you

@MySacea

2 жыл бұрын

I get you. I just get you. I feel the same. And that's okay. But it's still though. Sending hugs!

@netslum12

Жыл бұрын

Same im in a very lonely place

I lost my perfect, sweet, loving husband due to cancer. I miss him every single day. Yes he matters and he still matters. RIP Frankie always and always missed until I see you again.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

Thank you, my husband died about a month before your husband passed. and to this day, I still grieve and so thank you for your talk. IT's important.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@lilymaniquis8460

2 жыл бұрын

I was married for 65 yrs to a man whom I met since kindergarten had 8 wonderful children all professional adults right now lwas told l turn a boy into a man a lot of growing up he passed away 2 yes ago lam able to go on he gave the greatest gift our 8 children to me

@lilymaniquis8460

2 жыл бұрын

Years ago he left me greatest gift of all our 8 children whatever tears l shed doesn't matter now.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

I lost my wife 2 months ago and am now just watching this I don't think I've come with the terms of her death yet although this is helping thank you so much she left behind a 2 year old son he misses her so much I don't know how to console him but I am learning

@beautyRest1

3 жыл бұрын

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I lost my husband 4 month ago. He was almost 72. I miss him terribly and it’s hard to move on. I never thought I would grieve like this. I wish you and your son the best !!!

@daviddorne4450

3 жыл бұрын

@@beautyRest1 thank you so very much I tried telling people we all lose people in life and agreement process is different for each and every one of us however your love of a spouse is a different type of love and to be honest it's a pain I've never felt and with that being said oh God I never want to feel it again it is probably the worst pain ever felt but God bless you to get each day and time to say let's face it so we could do when he's going to go next just like you know you got one day it's going to be worse than the next you know it's the littlest things we missed that we don't even know we miss them honey could you open this drawer tomato sauce if you get this bottle of soda it's the littlest things that we miss so much and makes you cry and cry over a simple bottle of soda break down tears just thinking about her asking me to get it because you know the capitals are too tired you know the stinking door don't want to open up really easier you know anything like that you know since the baby is only two I give him money time which means show me pictures of stuff like that and a house for the next hour hour ly and the only thing I can tell him is go ahead and talk to Mommy she can hear you but she can't talk back to you and then just reassuring him everyday that she loves him and she misses him but I'm so terribly sorry about your husband also I will keep you in my prayers amen you know I couldn't imagine videos for so long and I haven't we were married for 4 years sadly she suffered a seizure which caused a heart attack and nobody was home

@JW-hw5hg

3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry mate. I lost my wife almost 2 years ago at 37 years old. I know it seems hopeless right now, but it will get easier over time. I know that is such a cliche though.

@danamelton1738

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for all of yalls loss. I pray that God covers you all with love and comfort not just now but from now on. I pray for peace for you. I pray that one day you'll be able to smile, before you cry, when their names brought up or stories are told or something reminds you of them. Take the time you need and have to give yourself to mourn in your way, feel what you need to feel. But please remember this. Your not alone. Yes I am a stranger but my heart told me to respond to this comment. You are not alone. You may want to be alone at times and that's ok but please remember, everyone of your friends or family have been through heartbreak and loss. It may be in a different way but others know how you feel and as human beings we can share those feelings with each other. None of us are meant to walk through life alone. That's why we are blessed with friends and loved ones or even a stranger with a kind word. Talking about it will lift some of the weight off of you. Your not alone. You deserve happiness and you will get that again even if it doesnt seem that way right now. Your stronger than you think. God bless you all. Xo

@carolinemcdaniel769

2 жыл бұрын

Can really be rough moving on, I lost my husband 6 months ago yet people be like... you need to move on...

It's taken me 3 years to begin talking about my wife without crying every single time, and every time I manage to do it - with or without crying - I can feel myself heal that little bit more. Thanks for this wonderful talk.

@Prettymapleleaf

2 жыл бұрын

Crying is the most healing thing a human being can do. We all grieve differently. Be kind to yourself and flow with your emotions. Your wife is always with you.

I lost my husband Paul just over a year ago, we had been married 38 years and were getting ready to start our retirement. We were going to buy a camper and travel for a while, we were planning lots of walking holidays and many other adventures. Then he got sick - that wasn’t in the plan. I never thought he would die so young, he was so strong and healthy and active. But it happened. It has been devastating, and yes I have cried in the car on the way home from work, I’ve cried in the shower and in the house when alone. I also have this feeling of being half a person. I deal with it by telling myself the sadness is normal and par for the course, and that I have to go through it. But it’s hard.

@debsantana1182

3 жыл бұрын

Debra, i lost my fiance a few months ago . I will never be the same. People constantly tell me to think of the good times and memories. honestly, all I can think about was the future we were suppose to have. What we were suppose to do..all we planned. If iattempt to think about the memories, my heart feels like it lifted out of my physical body, floating in thin air with nothing to ground it. The thought of him makes me scream and cry. I have to literally go in the car and scream so my girls won't see me. The world feels foreign without him. Everytime I look at someone I think, wow I lost someone who could never be duplicated or imitated. Now I pray I'm following the will of God because if you believe God promises us we will see them again. In his word he stated, to be absent from the body is to be present with the lord. He also states how God hates death and its not of him. Remember when Mary brother died..her sister Martha sent for Jesus to come..they were sadden with grief. Jesus wept ..he loved Nazareth n told Mary his death will be used to glorifi the father then he brought him back. I'm struggling with the feeling Satan put in my head. I feel like I'm too good of a person for God not to have intervene to save him. I tell God..you knew what it wld do to me..and you knew the life we planned together. I wanted him to use his power and intervene to save him the same way he has saved others. All I can say is we don't get to know why. Who are we to get to know the master plan. However , I think that he will give us what our heart desires according to his will. Maybe God pulls people out of this world when theyve reached their full blossom so that they make it in the kingdom of heaven. Maybe those who are still living have yet to fulfill our purpose. Some of us are called to soldiers for christ. Some of us like me have experienced a lot tragedy and are innocent in it all.I'm praying that he shows me why I survived and why he didn't.. I witnessed his tragic death. I want to know what is my purpose for staying behind and having to endure what already feels like death. Most of the time I'm just ready to go so I can see him but we knkw according to the bible , only God, Jesus and the angels are in heaven right now. Everyone else is still asleep until God return. The Bible says, the dead shall rise first and all that are living will join him in heaven with the angels. May Jesus be with all of us. James Ch.1 states to consider it all joy. That sounds crazy that the father would even say that. Knowing people are really hurting inside. However if he said it. Let's have faith that he is going to work it all out in the end. Maybe it will be like stressing over a test..then sewing the test was 5 questions and everyone passes. God bless this universe!

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@debsantana1182

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb who are you replying to?

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

@@debsantana1182 you of course

@debsantana1182

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb ok, your reply didn't have the @symbol for me. I'm a big huge mess. I'm barely holding on so trust me you'd be better off chatting with someome else. I'm glad you have found peace with your loss. Time is not working out that way for me. The more time goes by I realize I am not dreaming or in a coma I hoped for. For some reason i have convinced myself I am dreaming and eventually I will awake or come to cautious. I know it's crazy but I can't believe he is really gone. Its like you know life doesn't last forever but you don't actually realize it until it happens. You loss two people close to your heart, that's hard. When you have guilt occupanying loss, the pain is worst. My pain in intensified because of my guilt.

Became a widow in February. Hearing her normalize the way I feel and validate me when I still cry all day some days, it's so refreshing. My parents said to me when they found me crying a month ago, "I thought you were getting better".....yeah, they thought that because I was telling everyone I was as to not bother them, but inside it only got harder and harder as the days went on. I still am no where near comfortable with the circumstance, that's why I'm so happy I did my research and found this video. I feel so much more validated. Thank you.

@biker5662

Жыл бұрын

I give you my sincere condolences in your grief. Attending Grief Share has been tremendously helpful for me in grieving my loss. My father died by suicide a few months ago. The pain was nearly unbearable for a couple months and I didn't know how to cope. Grief Share won't help you move on, but it will do something even better; it will help you move forward.

@jadepaulsen8456

Жыл бұрын

I lost my love as well. I am 60. I asked my widowed friends if it stops hurting. They assured me it did. Now...it is less. It does mean he is forgotten just distant. NOT forgotten. Wow...talk about a frueidian slip.

@jadepaulsen8456

Жыл бұрын

@@biker5662 somehow suicide hurts even more. This involves guilt. " why did i not see it?" " what could i have done?" Absolutely nothing. However . the pain left to the survivors is .......i want to say unforgivable...i want to. So i will leave it at that.

@biker5662

Жыл бұрын

@@jadepaulsen8456 I too feel some guilt over not being able to perceive it. 😢 He had a psychologist who strongly suggested that he be admitted days before his death. He denied the opportunity. It is really heartbreaking to ponder💔, so I try to apply the admonition in Phillippians 4:8. It's helpful to do that.

@jadepaulsen8456

Жыл бұрын

@@biker5662 im not surprised . it sounds like his mind was made up. Sometimes we just miss our home(Lord).

My husband died 7 years ago. It was so hard but I know without a doubt I will see him again. Knowing that gives me comfort.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

@abidahkalapa

Жыл бұрын

I lost my twin sister and the thought of meeting one day is a source of strength.

All the cliches one hears to mourners give little comfort and more heartaches even when given with the best intentions! Grief will not go away by trying to be strong, nor will it subside by moving on or relating to other things in life that will dull the immensity of the pain. Grief is about facing Grief in every sense of the word and eventually and hopefully one can navigate the rest of our lives without forgetting or trying to get past our memories, but just accepting the reality of a world without a loved one.

I love this- I feel like you are speaking my thoughts. My husband died unexpectedly in front of me 3 months ago. His life and his spirit need to be talked about and he was the love of my life. Thank you for posting this

@irenegulliver5577

2 жыл бұрын

That’s what I do ,telling his story Memories don’t leave like people do………live with you

@barbhouse3818

Жыл бұрын

I have the same story Lost my Gary June 14th 2022. Grief is very fresh. Would love to chat with you..

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

@@barbhouse3818 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

Loss my husband 11 months ago. He was 53. Came home from work. We were chatting and kidding with each other. He had a massive heart attacks. I did cpr. They worked on him forever, almost an hour. He never responded. I still am walking around in disbelief he's not here. Love and hugs to all here.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

@barbhouse3818

Жыл бұрын

Can we touch base?? My husband had a massive heart attack in front of my eyes on June 14th 2022. I'm lost. I dont know which way to turn.. he would have been 65 next month. We had plans to grow old together.. GOD BLESS YOU

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

Жыл бұрын

@@barbhouse3818 I'm very sorry about your husband I completely understand your pain 💔 where are you originally from ?

@barbhouse3818

Жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb se mn

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

Жыл бұрын

@@barbhouse3818 what do you mean by that ?

Today is my person 1 month anniversary. My husband was my life, my best friend, my soul mate, secret keeper, chief, coparent, my Monday & Friday, the sunshine and the rain. Grief feels like fear to me, I've become codependent by staying busy. But the pain hurts its unbearable. The showers are definitely soul cleansers...I'm able to clear my emotions to release some pain and clean my body. He will forever be loved and always missed.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

I lost my loving husband a month ago due to covide 19. painful experience. feeling lonely, still crying.

@danamelton1738

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry for all of your loss. I pray that God covers you with love and comfort not just now but from now on. I pray for peace for you. I pray that one day you'll be able to smile, before you cry, when their names brought up or stories are told or something reminds you of them. Take the time you need and have to give yourself to mourn in your way, feel what you need to feel. But please remember this. Your not alone. Yes I am a stranger but my heart told me to respond to this comment. You are not alone. You may want to be alone at times and that's ok but please remember, everyone of your friends or family have been through heartbreak and loss. It may be in a different way but others know how you feel and as human beings we can share those feelings with each other. None of us are meant to walk through life alone. That's why we are blessed with friends and loved ones or even a stranger with a kind word. Talking about it will lift some of the weight off of you. Your not alone. You deserve happiness and you will get that again even if it doesnt seem that way right now. Your stronger than you think. God bless you. Xo

@joecardenas4408

2 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain...my husband passed away from covid on 09/03/2021...I like u, still cry everynight...wonder why? Not sure how its supposed to get better...I miss him so much...😭💔

@AC-tb8el

2 жыл бұрын

@@joecardenas4408 I loss mine too on August 24,2021.They said time can heal all wounds, I don't know if it will be the same for me, all I know now, the pain is the same as the day that God calls him home, nothing change and if forgetting my husband is the only way to ease the pain so let the pain remain forever in my heart. I will pray for all of us Sis, you are not alone🙏 God will never leave us,He will be our strenght in this grieving times...

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you...?

After my husband died, a widow reached out and started a widow’s group. We meet once a month and I’m coming up on year 10 since the love of my life died of a glioblastoma. Widows sharing and caring has been a healing part of my journey. I’m moving to a new community and I’ll be starting a widow’s group to help other women on their road of living with loss. Terri you have shared a storehouse of wisdom and insight. Thank you.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

This talk needs to be a part of grief groups and highly recommended to people concerning death. Mrs Budek is right---we don't talk about death at all in avoidance but we need to so we don't go into depression or despair mode in tring to get back to normal or keeping up appearances in front of others. It is absolutely alright to talk about our love one. We are the bearers of their life and moments.

@LizRainey56

2 жыл бұрын

My husband George, and one of my aunts appreciated that I was able to sit and talk about death with them, or listen to their thoughts without shushing them. We need to treat death and dying more as a normal occurrence ... something to talk about as if it was a fancy dinner, or graduation day... part of life... it helps the dying as well as the living.

My husband died a week before Christmas, in 2013. We'd met in college (he was my first love), but went our separate ways. Reunited 25 years later, never expecting that we would have fewer than 8 years together before he died of a heart attack at 59. Our fairy tale was ripped from me and I was devastated. I wrote an alternate reality story, about 2 1/2 years after his death. The story, 156K words, put us back in college in 1974, knowing who we were to each other. I gave him the successful art career he never had the chance to achieve, and of course the luxury of loving him all over again. It was a fabulous do-over. The story was for me alone, since it was full of enriching detail that made it real to me (but would not interest a stranger). In it I recalled his mannerisms, his quirks, his affection for me, and his brilliance and love for God. It was excellent therapy. I reread it just last week. Even though I'm now with a new husband, being able to remember my dear departed this way is very sweet and healing.

@lyasialeanne

2 жыл бұрын

Much love and prayers to you, Karen. I just lost my boyfriend a week before Christmas too. I will keep you and him in my thoughts.

@ioncewaslost1762

2 жыл бұрын

I’m going to do this!!!! Ty for the idea,,

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

My David passed away March 2022 and this talk is spot on! I'm already struggling with noticing people changing the topic and not wanting to talk about him. Why do people do this??! He was my soul mate, my best friend, the love of my life...he was and always will be important to me.

@lifebysuzanne9405

9 ай бұрын

My Dave passed 1/22/22 I’m going thru the same thing. It feels like I’m expected to move on like he didn’t exist. I can’t do that now. Or ever.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..?

@DH-gk8vh

7 ай бұрын

Keep talking about him. My Chuck passed April 9th, 2023 after 10 years with congestive heart failure. I knew he was going to die eventually from this, but it came closer last October when a palliative care team told him he had years to months to live. I spent that time in and out of hospitals with him from Aug. 2022 to April 2023 6 different time. I went through anticipatory grief. Now grieving, I keep pictures of him around the house, his urn on the fireplace mantel and I talk to him often. Yes, I talk to him, and I talk about him whenever the opportunity arises. My kids and family are use to it by now. New friends are at first a little uncomfortable, so I keep it short, but I don't let it stop me. You have the right to grieve, to remember and keep him alive. It brings me much needed comfort. He was only 65 and after he passed I had my 65th birthday. I might live for years yet, who knows. I will never stop grieving, but it's nature will change. I have to accept that not only is he gone, but my life is irrevocably changed forever. There is no one or no thing that can fill that hole, so I honor him by honoring his memory. I also had a silver necklace and pendant where the funeral home was able to put his finger print on it. Grieving is complicated. It's ok and feeling the pain is normal. Asking people who have never been through something like this to understand is misguided. This is something you cannot understand until it happens to you. Bless you. I will never stop loving or grieving my husband. Hopefully it will get better with time for both of us.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

@@DH-gk8vh I’m very sorry about your loss

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

@@DH-gk8vh I’d like us to have a nice conversation more privately on Gm a l

My Dad once told me, no-one truly dies in this world if we don't stop talking about them. Embrace that person, share the beautiful memories you have with them. You never stop grieving. Understand it's okay to not be okay ❤️

I was 37 and my wife had just turned 38 when she passed. That was 11 years ago and it has taken years to get to a point were I fell "normal" again. To tell stories about her and not get sad. To remember the good and the bad and not just put her on a pedestal. I have great stories of her and I am glad I can tell them now without feeling like I am going to break down. I love to be able to share stories now with her old friends. I guess the biggest thing to to remember is that everyone grieves differently and those stages of grief are not a hard and fast rule, and are fliud

Thank you for sharing. I was with my husband as friends, married and then partners for over 32 years. Meeting him at 23 I have had more years on this planet with him than without him and I feel lost since his passing on March 26,2024. I appreciate your talk and insights on you, Dave and the girls as it gives me hope. Bless you all.

Thank you Terri, my David died 5 months ago. This is helping to listen to you. I’m by myself, we had just moved to a new town as he’d just retired, our children live away in different cities. Listening to you gives me some hope as David was the smartest and loving person I know. There are days when I want to give up and be with him and other days I talk to him and can smile.

@lindadrewl

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in the same situation as you & it helps for me to hear others such as yourself feel the same things I do. We can do this 🙂

@dawnstangle6674

3 жыл бұрын

My husband died right after retiring and we just moved. I don't know or have anyone. My husband was my knight in shining armor. I want to go and be with him, too.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

@@dawnstangle6674 I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@daliaramirez3737

2 жыл бұрын

Love your love for your past love one. PLEASE make a difference with whom surrounds you, shine, to where you are satisfied at the end of the day. May God Jehovah bless you with all his Holy Holy blessings, in Jesus Christ Holy Holy name, amen and amen 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

@@dawnstangle6674 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from,..

I lost my husband a week ago and I am 23. But in the short time I have been grieving this is the most accurate advice I have heard. Talking about him with people who knew him and showing those who didn’t what an amazing person he was.

This is so good and so wise. People love to talk about their dead loved one and hear their name and stories about them. A month out is when everyone is gone from the services. You have to go through your loved one’s personal things and clothing. That’s when a person needs help. The shock is wearing off and the reality setting in. It’s tough when you go to the store and realize you don’t have to pick up their favorite snacks. Having something on hold at a shop you were going to surprise them with. Right now I’m telling stories to anyone who will listen.

Thank you so much; my husband died Jan 28 /21 , and I really appreciate what you said! God blessdyou.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

I lost my 39 year old wife two weeks ago today. Her birthday is Christmas Eve. It has been extremely hard, especially with a 7 year old little girl. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

@lyasialeanne

2 жыл бұрын

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Happy early birthday to her 💛

My dad died age 38 MVA..left my mom 37 with 7 kids 13 mo - 9 yr. She cried everyday until her death at age 89. Never remarried, never even dated. She was a great woman! Latina from Ohio.

@debsantana1182

3 жыл бұрын

My goodness. That must have been hard for you to watch. Were you close to your father?

@jemstone4805

3 жыл бұрын

my dad passed at 39. we were all traumatized.

@melodynearlyful

3 жыл бұрын

I understand her grief. What a heartbreak.

@DC-fw7ie

2 жыл бұрын

My dad was killed in a road accident aged 44. My Mum also never remarried and was an incredible woman. She died 3 years ago aged 67 and was pining for my Dad until the end. They were both wonderful souls

I was 58, when I was widowed, married 3 months to the man I was best friends with 12 years. September 16, 2016. This is awesome, thank you

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.

I lost my future on August 10, 2023. We had her cremated, and we picked up her ashes on my birthday. I moved to Florida to be with her. We considered ourselves married. She was a light in the life of everyone she met, and my world is darkness without her. I put on a front, but even i know i am broken, and may never heal.

Great talk. I like that you use the words died, death and dead. Euphemisms such as lost or passed seem fake to me. I love that you show your daughter it is ok to have tears and talk about her dad.

My Husband died on Thanksgiving, so it was exactly 6 months ago. It seems like people expect me to be normal & self sufficient, but every morning is still difficult.

@annabellswint5718

3 жыл бұрын

💔 I have a wonderful husband of 28 years, I can't imagine your pain. Prayers for you.

@Gracie746

3 жыл бұрын

Special prayers for you Francis.

@tamiburoker1211

3 жыл бұрын

That is a very fresh loss! I hope you have someone you can be authentic with, where it's safe to share your pain. My heart goes out to you.

@francesmartel7948

3 жыл бұрын

@@tamiburoker1211 Thank you 🙏 for your kindness ❤️

@francesmartel7948

3 жыл бұрын

@@Gracie746 Thank you so much ❤️

Thank you for your husband's courage,caring and sacrifice.God bless you.

I totally agree I lost my husband August 1st 2021 today is our 35th wedding anniversary and I am determined to talk about him everyday it does bring great comfort when you talk about them thanks so much for sharing.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from….?

When my husband died suddenly without so much of a goodbye about 1 month ago, a part within me died. Despite having 3 loving children and loving them immensely, I wish it had been me instead of their father. I'm trying to cope, but there are days I wish I could be with him. Frankly, I can't Iive a life without him but need to carry on for the sake of my children.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…

Grieving is such an incredibly personal and excruciating experience. Well it was for me. As an empathic person (Highly Service Person), I feel not only my own emotions, the bleed through of others emotions as if they are mine. It's like a curse.

@lisawines98

3 жыл бұрын

I understand you. I am an empath. My husband currently has stage 4 pancreatic cancer. Not only do I feel my fear and sadness about his inevitable passing, I feel his as well. It’s so difficult trying to keep it together for him. My heart goes out to you.

@colleenmucci8863

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisawines98 ... exactly. I too have spent my life "feeling" the mental or emotional state of others, anyone, everyone. My beautiful husband, also stage 4 pancreatic cancer, was clinically told today to prepare for end of life. It feels impossible to live.

@lisawines98

2 жыл бұрын

@@colleenmucci8863 I’m so sorry. My husband passed away on September 9th, 2021.

@colleenmucci8863

2 жыл бұрын

@@lisawines98 A "thumbs up" is my only option here, but seems quite, well, wrong. Sending you light and comfort...

I lost my husband a month ago. He had been in the hospital since December 5th, 2022. It hurts and the ache is there everyday.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

I just lost my husband and I have to stay strong for our children but damn it this is going to be hard without my bestfriend 💔😢

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…

I lost my partner 10 days ago and the guilt and grief I experience right now is driving me crazy 😢

@vincebevis2277

8 ай бұрын

I know exactly what you are going through friend. I lost my beautiful wife on July 23rd of this year and feel such intense pain and guilt like yourself. We feel like we are the only one that is going through this torture. All I can do is prey for you and all of us that are grieving the loss of a loved one. ❤🙏

@swarna_m3220

8 ай бұрын

@@vincebevis2277 Thanks for your kind words. I lost my husband and it was a over a decade relationship. Losing him made me realise that I lost myself. Grieving is so painful and top of that guilt is slowly killing me. Now I'm scared to live. 😭

@vincebevis2277

8 ай бұрын

@@swarna_m3220 I had six years with Lyndy and she died in my arms. The flashbacks and pain is constant. We all feel guilt and a lot of it is misguided but nevertheless it eats you up. I don't know where you are as I am in the UK, but I have contacted the Hospice that looked after Lyndy for bereavement support which hopefully will start soon. Wherever you are in the world assume there must be similar places to seek help. You are in my prayers and thoughts. ❤️🙏.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

@@swarna_m3220 I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

@swarna_m3220

7 ай бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb I live in India. It's been around 2months of his demise. I still unable to accept his loss. All of a sudden his memories haunts me and I feel guilty that I'm still alive and he is gone.

The best response I had when my soulmate died was ‘I don’t know what to say’, then gave me a warm hug and said nothing more. That’s it. There really is no need for people to worry about not knowing what to say. A hug, a light touch on the arm says more than words. NEVER say easy, glib platitudes.

My husband died in May of 2016. I still have some bad days... or bad hours...I am pressing forward... Our children still can’t bring themselves to talk about their daddy for too long.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

I lost my husband back in September of last year. It really hit me, what you said in the beginning about it being a normal day. How it becomes anything but. He was on life support for 24 hrs. He finally couldn't hold on anymore. I remember waiting and waiting to go and see him back there. How I hoped that he would wake up. He never did. My heart will never recover. I became a widow at 33, with children so I can empathize and relate. It's so hard.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from…?

I lost my fiancé of 8 years on July 8th, 2022. She passed in her liver transplant surgery she just wanted to get married and continue our life together. She loved Lilo n Stitch and anything baking related. Our romance and the humor we had gives me comfort everyday. I love my Brianna pie 🥧

@amyfloren4581

Жыл бұрын

I am sorry you lost your Brianna😢❤️

Thank you for this talk. My husband committed suicide Dec. 29, 2019. Everything you said is so true. I just want to say your girls have an amazing strong mom and because of that they will be amazing strong moms as well. ✌️

@thecomet9999

2 жыл бұрын

@Jenny Eklöv Yes I have experienced this too. Even family members have just disappeared from my life. I know for some it's because they just don't know what to say or do. They don't know how to deal with their own grief, how can they deal with someone else's. Others I realize now where not the friends I thought they were. Forever answering the question, "why?" With, "I don't know". You just have to find your peace and make a new life that brings you some kind of joy. You can't live in the past, it will eat you up. ♥️✌️

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

My husband Jeremy passed away 3 weeks ago. I miss you a lot Jeremy I hope you know I loved you and I will keep on loving you I love you Jeremy ❤💙❤💙❤

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..

I lost the love of my life a month ago, I just don't see a way forward, she was my everything

@MZP3T4

2 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband 10/21/21 he was 32. It seems unbearable some days and you don’t feel strong but you truly are getting stronger day by day. I wish you healing

I miss all the references and in jokes my husband and I shared. Nobody else will understand them.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@karensullivan7060

2 жыл бұрын

I know exactly what you mean. It was a bitter and horrible time after my husband died. I used to say to him, "If we were on the run through the woods with nothing, I would have everything as long as I had you." And when he was gone, the world kept moving. I hated that. And after a few months, people were rather tired of my grief, which lasted for years. I was in a pit so deep I didn't even want to raise my head to see how deep. All I could do was go to work and pay my bills. At last, I turned to God and asked for help, and finally I was ready to fill the void with life again.

Thank you so much for this. My husband died in May 2020. He went into renal failure in 2018, had many complications including pericarditis, two major abdominal surgeries within a forty eight hour period that year. In Feb 2020, he suffered a perforated ulcer and again had emergency surgery. Eight weeks later he slipped into a coma and died alone in the ICU.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

Lost my husband of 30yrs to demons of depression 28/4/18.. living one day at a time as best as I can .. Blessing of healing health happiness harmony kindness safety peace to all .. 🤗💌💝✌🏻

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.? .

The talk was extremely helpful. When you got to the part about reading the manuals for fun, I started to think we were partnered with the same person. Vic always said "never pay someone to do something that you can learn to do yourself!" Your talk was what I needed to hear today. Thank you.

Powerful. Brave. Courageous. I look up to you, Terri. Thank you for this.

Terri, I am so happy that I watched your presentation. You are an inspiration for all. Well done. If you ever want to talk to me, regarding Dave or any other related topic, I am always there for you. Regards, Martin your cousin.

As soon as you mentioned the sunflower seeds I laughed. I myself have a HUGE seed addiction problem. My late husband hated when I would eat seeds the cracking sounds it drove him nuts. 💗

Well said, Terri and I wish you love and strength in the future. The hardest thing I find since becoming a widow is that I know people now who never knew my husband existed and when I talk about him, as kind as they are to listen, I could just as easily be talking about a character in a book for all that he means to them.

@donnak936

2 жыл бұрын

Karen Cramer : I know Exactly what You mean. I was talking about My deceased Husband, in My Office, one day. My Boss asked how long He had been gone. When I mentioned that it had been years, She said, “Oh, the way that You talk about Him, I thought that He had Just Died.” I had to learn to Not Talk about Him to AnyOne. Even My Family stated that, “the way that They Grieved was to NOT Talk About Him, because it Hurt, Too Much.” I Felt SO Alone!! 💔 I Miss Him, Every Day of My Life. And, I Will - Until We Are Together, Again.

My husband was killed on 03/28/2012 by a semi while on his way to work. I have remarried, but I still think of Michael everyday. He was an amazing husband and dad. 💔

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you love, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my son jersey on may 24th 2020 during lockdown on a car accident he just turned 22 on his birthday, got hit by a drunk truck driver, that was the worst and most lamentable day of my life as a single Dad raising two kid's, my 13yr old daughter is my everything and the reason I keep strong, my late wife passed away 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@donnaswain1293

3 жыл бұрын

@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb I think that time doesn’t heal, it makes it different. For the first few years I concentrated on my children. All my thoughts and energy went to them. I was grieving in silence. I still have days where the grief hits me hard. You never get over grief, you go through it. There are peaks and valleys. My kids and I have come to a point where we can remember the silly things Michael use to do, and laugh. I have an amazing new husband who understands about Michael, and actually grew up with Michael and I. He’s been a wonderful step-dad to our son.

Very helpful. I am 38 and my husband of 14 years died the day before my birthday tragically. I have been with this man 22 years and we have a 6 yr old together. This is unbelievable but he will be with us every day.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..

9 years later...my kids were 2 and 5 as well when their father passed of cancer. We still talk about Paco and right now it's difficult for my new partner to hear about Paco in great depth. I've tried to help him understand and show him alternatives to his own thought processes on grief. But I know it's between him and God. So I try to keep conversations of Paco to a minimum when my current partner is around as to not make him feel left out. It's a work in progress for him. I know that my healing is progressing healthily

I've been grieving the loss of our youngest son, to complications from leukemia, for the last four years, and from time to time I'll continue to do so. I've just been viewing a youtube that fits so well around the aversion of death as a topic in our society, that this young woman articulates so well. However, there is a paradoxical twist that is proposed in this youtube: "Encounter Death and Gain Life, Christine Brekenfeld's Near Death Experience," that is underscored, towards the end of the story, aside from the totality of Christine's life transforming experience itself.

I lost my husband on April 17 2023 & it's by far the hardest thing

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

Right on. Most avoided talking about the person who died.

@melissawittman

3 жыл бұрын

My late husbands best friend stopped talking to me. He said it was "too hard".

@russellmiles2861

3 жыл бұрын

Few say your loved ones name anymore

Thank you so much. I have been talking about my late husband often and this has helped me a lot. This comes as a confirmation am on the right path in healing. Also, I feel this reduces a lot of anxieties with us.

I loved this talk. I lost my husband in 2019 to cancer when I was still 34 years old. it's 4 years now and grief still strikes unexpectedly every now and then. I too think that my Alfred was the smartest man I have ever known and often think about what he would have done then and there and try to do the same... What hurts the most is when I see my 10 years old struggling without his dad by his side to encourage and mentor him.. My faith in Christ has been my rock through this time. Though I am walking on a painful road I know He holds my hand.

@aimeekreutzer-malkawi

Жыл бұрын

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so true when u speak of the painful road we walk. I am thankful to God for the days he lifted me up in the darkest days on this grieving journey.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from.?

@truthwatchers

7 ай бұрын

​@@ChrisJohnson-lh9qbI'm from Sydney Australia

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

6 ай бұрын

@@truthwatchers i live in st Agustine Florida, it’s nice hearing from you, I know how hard it is to cope with grief trust the process and you’ll get better with time, I’d love to talk to you more privately, I’ll drop my gm ail address down for you so you can reach out would be nice. do you understand ,,..?

Outstanding. I loved getting to know a little about your Dave, and this wise, wise advice. I remember it being devastating to see the discomfort on peoples' faces when I spoke about my dear, departed Dad, and how it did indeed feel like a second death. We must always feel free to speak about the loved ones we have lost. Thank you.

Dave sounds like he was a very smart and fun person ❤️👍🏽🥲

I lost my husband from lympoma 9 months ago. He was charming, healthy, strong and happy in one moment and canacer diagnoced the other, at the age of 37. I feels to me like he was stolen from life. I struggle the most raising our amazing son alone. Some days I just want to hide myself from the world. Eversince I lost him, I cannot listen to music and I was the type of person I listened radio and music everyday. I’m strong, but I’m tired. I hope I manage to collect myself to the resilient person I have always been. And, yes I do hate we avoid talking for him because it will be a sad topid. This is life, I would have him and loose him again than never meeting him and have our son!

@debbycarathers9305

2 жыл бұрын

Look up k-love radio or way-fm for uplifting, hope giving music….it will help you heal.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?.

I lost my Bridget 4 1/2 years ago. I still use her Google account. I have moved forward in my life and met someone that also lost their spouse. It is refreshing that I can tell Bridget's stories and there is no jealousy or threat. I get to hear about the amazing husband she had. Our people we lost helped shape who we are and should always be celebrated. I would encourage you to join a grief group or consider a grief counselor, it helped me tremendously.

I became a widower in 2015. She died from diabeaties and heart disease. I too tried Google to see if there was some "how to" instructions on being a widower. There are none. I recently remarried to another fine lady just last month. Best of luck to you.

It hurts so much watching this video. Lost my husband in 2016 of cardiac arrest. I was widowed to a kindergarten child in a country with no family support. I learnt everything the hardest way from that day. 5 years later life goes on, pain does not lessen, I just learnt to live without his physical presence.

@joball-porter9481

2 жыл бұрын

Bless you sweetheart

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from..

Speachless! That is what hurts more: close persons, family, friends who reach you and make the moment as if nothing had happened or ignores the life of your dearest, in my case my beloved daughter; and of I mention her or her name: Pamela, they do not continúe the commentary or chat, they just skip it as if they never heard it or as if I had said nothing. Great talk, thanks for showing to the world this side of grief and grieving. God blesses you and your daughters.

Thank you for sharing your story, and your thoughts. I just lost my husband a month and 3 days ago. My heart is broken into million pieces. He’s not coming back anymore and I miss him everyday.

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

2 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry about your husband, my deepest condolence to you, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a horrible heart attack, it was a terrible experience for me but I kept strong for my little daughter hoping for the best future for her, time does heal the broken heart expecially when you're around the right people, life goes on because the future and our happiness is all that really matters because our past doesn't it's just full of both sad and happy memories of our loved one's that passed away, I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind, I'd have drop my cell # here but I'm not sure about that it'd be nice if you send me your email address so I can reach out on you.?

my husband just died two months ago, and now im a widow at a young age (36 y/o)... I will never forget my husband.

@JW-hw5hg

3 жыл бұрын

Hang in there. I know full well how you're feeling right now. I lost my wife almost 2 years ago. I was 35 at the time (she was 1 month passed her 37th birthday). Keep your friends & family close during this tough time & don't be afraid to admit you need help in those moments where you're struggling to cope with it all.

@chrisjohnson2246

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so sorry I know how it feels to be lonely without the person you loved, we've all lost our love ones in death one way or the other, either a spouse, child, family members, or a true friend that meant the world to us, such is life I understand how you feel but life goes on because death is inevitable and we'll all have to face it someday, I lost my wife 3yrs ago to a cardiovascular disease, I felt deeply devastated with grief, but that's the past now, time is indeed the best healer. I'd love to talk to you more if you don't mind! it'd be nice if you just say hi, here is my number +17866678266 or rather you can send me your gmail address so I could reach out on you.

@Steph_andthebulldogs

3 жыл бұрын

I am so so very sorry for your loss

@taraflanagan424

3 жыл бұрын

My fiancée died on March 21st. I’m 36 too. Please know you’re not alone. I miss Nick everyday

@JW-hw5hg

3 жыл бұрын

@@taraflanagan424, I hope you're doing ok. It is a hard thing. Today would've been my wife's 39th birthday (she died about a month after her 37th birthday). I didn't even get to celebrate her 37th birthday with her because we had been fighting around that time, & she took off up to another state to stay with her family because of it. I was so angry at the time that I don't think I even sent her a message to wish her a happy birthday. Then a month after that she was gone. She only came home about 2 weeks before she ended up in hospital.

I widowed at the age of 31 and it was so traumatizing. It was difficult to talk with others that could understand because I didn't know others who had experienced it. It has been 10 years this month and I can say that it has gotten better because I have come to peace with his death but not a day goes by that I do not remember him. I never stopped talking about him when he passed away. I still have pictures up on my walls along with all of my other family pictures. I have his ashes as well - it has helped me cope - and I am starting to feel that I am ready to bury his remains. Grieving is very difficult and weird. It is different for everyone. Glad that I have had the opportunity to hear this Tedtalk.

Beautiful, Unfortunately we’ve all been through horrific loss. God got me through every time. 🙏🏼✝️🙏🏼✝️🙏🏼✝️🙏🏼

I was 18 months old when my dad died from a motorcycle accident. I am 55 now, and yes I do ride. It is only within the last maybe 8 years that I have learned much about him because nobody would talk about him. I completely agree with your approach. Talk about the ones who aren't physically here because they still matter, a lot.

I lost my brother and dad 2 months apart in the same house in 2011 and mom survived 2 strokes behind it. Jan. 6, 2018, my husband had cardiac arrest standing in front of me as soon as my oldest son walked in from grad school. 7 months later, my sister lost her husband who collapsed from his malfunctioning pacemaker. He had just helped me put my husband obituary and memorial video together. I was married for 25 yrs and my sister for 30 yrs. My experience is this. They say it gets better after a year but it got worse for 3 years. About 2 months after 3 years, the grief grip lessened . 1st year was bad for closing out his stuff, people disappearing including his family plus the first holidays, etc. The 2nd year I was still dealing with disbelief, isolation, dealing with unexpected home and car repairs, barely enough energy to keep working, and motivating 2 sons who were 22 and 24 graduating with degrees but with no motivation. The men friends disappeared. But I was able to do a few road trips, go to his favorite stores or restaurants without crying. By the 3rd year I could smile at past memories with my sons and look at old photos, celebrate birthdays a little happier with a different twist on it. Now at the 5th year, Jan 6, 2023, I only occasionally shed a tear about once or twice a week but quickly stop myself. I say to me. You have been blessed to meet a soulmate. So many haven’t. As I have aged a little since he has left. I say to me, you are seeing more years others didn’t get. Life is a gift and so is love. New gifts and old gifts can stay within our heart. Shannon left at age 57 when I was 59. This April 2023, I will be 65. I pray for all widows, widowers and those those who have lost someone you loved. But just know that love doesn’t stop but we must go on living and find a reason or purpose in this life. People are meant to socialize. But if not a pet can help too.❤

I lost my husband best friend love of my life april 7th 2021 i knew him since i was 14 years old ..i love you pat . each day i take moment by moment to get through it ..i.miss his face heart love for us ..

@sagarsonicreation2710

2 жыл бұрын

I lost my husband on7may

@ChrisJohnson-lh9qb

7 ай бұрын

I'm very sorry about your husband, trust me I completely understand how you feel, I felt the same way when my wife past away June 4th 2018 grief is hard to deal with but we learn to live with it, where are you from,?