One huge thing you should not forget: Allow yourself to fail! I know this sounds weird, but you're going to fail eventually. You will have a day that you can't get out of bed, you will have a day that just isn't meant to be. Allow yourself to fail, but be sure to stand up after it. Failing is not the end, it's just a way to learn how not to do what just happened. Allow yourself some time to recuperate after something intense. Telling yourself you're going to do something productive every day is good, but remember that doing nothing every once in a while is really really necessary and even productive! Take mental breaks! You can't 'work' every day, you can live every day to its fullest though! That means having breaks, that means failing at something and not letting that get to you, making you stronger :) Hope you don't set your goals too far ahead, make them achievable, so you actually accomplish what you want! Failing doesn't make you a failure, failing is part of the learning process :)

@moniortizd

6 жыл бұрын

Bart Kuipers I was thinking exactly the same thing. You worded it so well!

@iarah2939

6 жыл бұрын

"Be compassionate to yourself" that helped me A LOT =)

@brandonthemuso8238

6 жыл бұрын

The point is that when people set many goals like this, there will come a day when they fail at something. It's just realistic. So he was just saying that you have to become accustomed to the fact that failure will come at some point and that's okay. It's practically impossible to set this many goals and nail all of them for 365 days in a row. It's actually a relief to realize this because it takes off a lot of pressure on your future self.

@katiekat3047

5 жыл бұрын

I really needed to hear this, I could never thank you enough. ❤️

@spyrspyrv

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this!! Wherever you are, I hope you have a blessed, beautiful coming year ❤️

I know you've got to try your best first to find your limits, but I hope you don't let yourself fall into perfectionism and unreasonable expectations of what you can do. Trying is good, but I hope you keep a support network around you to check when you're doing too much.

I'm arriving in a VERY similar place. "Trying" is such a good way of phrasing this new life-push. Looking forward to coming along for the ride :)

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

I can't wait! We must definitely encourage one another.

@awarenessvillage

6 жыл бұрын

I'm in the same place. I feel I'm in good company. ☺

@jdidiwiem433

6 жыл бұрын

me too on the same road ... Start seing the progress already ...

I've never seen a better explanation of how depression feels. Can't wait to come along with you on this journey.

@cocoowen9344

6 жыл бұрын

TheRainydayvideo 😂😂

@nur12333

6 жыл бұрын

Same

I don't know why I feel like crying after watching this, I'm so happy for you

@petereames3041

6 жыл бұрын

Berta axo she hasn't done anything yet

@awarenessvillage

6 жыл бұрын

Peter Eames Actually, it can take a lot to pull yourself up to make a decision and these declarations. So, in reality, she has done something. She's taken the first step.

@beberoro1

6 жыл бұрын

^^^^^

@flutterby8462

6 жыл бұрын

Berta axo I know what you mean ❤️

@dinchakno

6 жыл бұрын

I’m feeling emotional because I empathize with her...it’s hard to decide to get out of depression and it’s going to get harder when the bad days come back, you might feel numb again and go through the motions, but keep pushing through the new plan, Dottie, no matter how much the darkness wants you back. It can’t have you.

you can do it Dottie.

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your continuous support, Monika

She makes a return and it speaks directly to me almost. I've been feeling dissatisfied with the way I lead my life and I am so happy to see this video and what else will come from it! It's super motivational. Good luck with it!

Came her after your ADHD video and girl ;-; I see so much pressure on yourself in this video. I'm so happy that you found a 'final chapter', and I really hope you feel better and more free!!

Loved this! You are so creative. Just a little tip. Whenever you are doing something, tell yourself you are doing it because you love yourself. Tidy up because you love yourself, make the bed every morning because you love yourself, speak your mind because you love yourself, try your best because you love yourself, don't be hard on yourself because you love yourself. Every time you want to do something but feel empty or even lazy tell yourself that you are doing it because you love yourself and you want to make choices that make you happy. Make the reason you do stuff because you love yourself. A lack of self love is seen in every depression. Just come out of it myself. Also gratitude and forgiveness really help. Every morning I wipe the slate clean by forgiving myself for 3 things that I wasn't pleased with and then 3 things that I am grateful for. Love you

I want you to succeed so much! This video is makes me hopeful, at least I think that's the best way to explain it. I believe in you Dottie.

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you Chai! I'm so glad It's getting through to people

This is how I've been feeling lately. My gym shoes sit unused, my journals sit unwritten in, and my problems sit undealt with. And I'm tired of it. In this together.

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Yes

You'll be marvellous. Please just remember that giving your best doesn't mean working yourself to a mental breakdown :) Rooting for you

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Worth remembering. Thank you

I truly adore you. Thank you (as always) for your vulnerability.

@alorahwelti3438

6 жыл бұрын

Overall Adventures Tina! Lovely seeing you here!

Fail more. Fail more beautifully. Fail totally. Fall. Get messy. Try. Learn to program. When I was younger I was somewhere close to where you are. It was easy to do safe things that others praise you for. It is not challenging and there is no risk. One of the most rewarding and creative things I have done is programming. It is like many creative pursuits, but there is an interesting difference. When you are programming you have to fail. Over and over and over. Working out bugs, knowing what you want to happen and then finding ways to make it happen. It is messy and hard and mystical (others will not praise you for it because to them the result is simple, but the journey was hard). Beware the trap of telling others all of the things you would like to do. They will again praise you and you will be less motivated because you are already gaining the gratification. Instead, do things... quietly. Fail at things, then when you have failed and tried and failed some more share the ways you have failed and tried. These are the stories others will want to hear. We learn from failures. Humans learn from failures. Both our own and others. My resolution for 2017 was to walk new paths and be the brightest light I could be. It was not a goal for just that year, rather for my life. When I find myself in my routine I recognize that and go do something else. I also started taking really good care of myself. Writing, exercising (finding something physical I loved doing. For me it was swimming), spending time outside at parks reading, writing, and hanging in a hammock watching nature. Being more in tune with my needs. Be kind to yourself. This video suggests you will be taking on a lot. Recognize your needs along the way. Surround yourself with people that let you shine. Or that inspire you to shine. Thank you for sharing... your mind, voice, words. May your life be bright.

@priyadharshanniharimoorthy1214

4 жыл бұрын

Ed Beautiful!

I have gone through the exact same thing for years now. I let myself fail my classes in the process, and allowed relationships to dissipate. i wanted my life to stand still unchanging and to bury myself in numbness. Like you i recently mustered up the will power to get my life going in a productive positive direction. a new motto I've adopted is refusing to use the words "if" and "try", I instead use the words "when" and "will." This has helped me realize that I am in control of the things I want to accomplish in life, that I CAN accomplish whatever I put my mind to. Its inspiring to see someone dealing with something similar taking the steps to change for the better.

I made the exact same pledge to myself this year, I started school after being homeschooled my whole life (and despite having crippling social anxiety), I'm doing yoga everyday, eating healthy, waking up early (and actually getting out of bed), limiting my use of the internet, doing something creative everyday, showing the people around me how much they mean to me and just looking after myself. I can't wait to see your journey, we're all here every step of the way you lovely human, and remember, it's ok to fail as long as you learn something from it, try your best but don't put too much pressure on yourself, you've got this.

That stuck a major chord. Thank you Dottie.

she kinda looks like a Kiera knightly

@qiqi408

6 жыл бұрын

bittersweetluv22 omg DON’T THEY IM SHOOK😍.

i’ve realized recently not only how sad i’ve been for long but also how content i was with staying that way. i got so caught up in my web of depression i thought it was who i am but it’s not. you’ve really inspired me to try and take over my own life and try MORE. thank you so much for this video and this ideology and i really hope this helps you and i hope it helps me too. here’s to feeling better.

I made my own "Big", "Weekly", "Daily" and "Right Now" lists while watching this video. As someone who has had profound depression for the better part of 4 years now this is a huge deal for me because goals are not something I've ever had; so thank you for being the inspiration behind that.

Sorry if this has been said before but MY GOSH you look (and sound) so much like Keira Knightly! Good luck with it all!

@silentshrieks

6 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly

@Rosesandpearls_

6 жыл бұрын

Daisy Vorn OMG i was going to mention that in my comment to her but i decided not to in the end. Yes she does so much!!!!!

@meg6431

6 жыл бұрын

She so does!

@bhaktabilly4669

6 жыл бұрын

I was thinking Winona Ryder (circa Girl Interrupted)

@Sood123456

6 жыл бұрын

Oh my god. She does! But I find her like Owen Wilson as well. Her jaw and the way she has her lips with the serious kind of focused eyes is exactly like Owen.

Thank you so much for creating this video! Good looking luck even tho you don’t need it, experiences will change and can’t wait to see you grow

Ironic how I discovered this video exactly one year after its release. But it really speaks to me and I find it still as useful as it would have been a year ago. "In a year, you'll wish you'll have started today." and that's exactly what I'm gonna do. Goodbye hours of daily youtube and Netflix bingewatching

My god. Your intelligence, self-consciousness and depth of thinking really struck a chord in me.

This is a pretty long list, especially for someone who is suffering from depression! Good luck and lots of energy for the upcoming 365 days. I'll keep watching. :-)

i’m so excited to watch you grow, i love you

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Me too, thank you.

"...and scroll the internet until i know it better than i know my own poetry all in an effort to num my dissatisfaction to how i live my life!" strong words that moved me

this is EXACTLY what i need in my life right now. i'm tired of wasting my time on social media feeling numb and just existing when i could be doing what i need to be doing. i realize a lot of this numbness stems from lack of effort and making excuses as to why i'm not doing things. at the end of the day, i'm only hurting myself so it's time to move on from this rut. thank you sooo much for sharing this! i can't wait to implement it into my life from now on.

I love this so much!! I’ve learned that intention is everything. If I’m doing something, it has a distinct purpose. Even if I’m praying or reading for leisure or watching KZread lol. Scheduling how I’m going to spend my time has been the most beneficial thing to me. If you haven’t heard of Passion Planners, that’s helped me a lot! I’m so excited for you and I hope you change your life in the best way possible :)

@Lisa-cl7re

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the tipp with the passion planner, I think this is amazing, going to order one myself :)

You can do it and it's okay to fail I love this so much xx

I have totally been stuck in rock bottom of the well in my past. I never thought I would get out, but one day, somebody will throw that rope into your well, and you just got to keep pulling yourself up. You will bruise your hips and scrap your knees - but Dottie, Never Give Up. One day, you'll swing one leg over the other out of the well and enjoy soaking under the sun. I'm vegan, I've been to therapy, I exercise, I'm a massage therapist - so I love crystals too :) But honestly, talking to strangers in person is what helped me A LOT! I would just write in my journal at the bar of a coffee shop and if I'm feeling a good vibe, I'll try to be brave and ask the person sitting next to me about their day. Be picky and listen to your intuition. You'd be surprised how a small gesture will create a lot of new friendships. And these friendships have led me traveling/sleeping in my car for weeks across the the United States and meeting more people. I saw and did the most amazing things with people who once was a stranger to me. Also, traveling by yourself helps learning more about your identity and grow from that. Because I proved myself the many things that I didn't think I could do. I felt so free. This joy we create when we interact with each other is incredible! When you surround yourself with better people, you want to better yourself as well. I wish we were friends, so I can chat more about this - cause I have so much to say! I'm still a working progress, but if I can do it, so can you! Cause what is darkness without the light, and what is the light without darkness? I hope all the best for you and glad you're climbing that rope.

This video really resonated with me. My life is in a pretty bad state but I started working on it. Your line "havent tried trying" hit home. I was/am depressed and massively socially anxious and I was just letting it destroy me. I just moped around expecting something to magically to come around and fix it. A few weeks ago I told myself to stop being ridiculous and I was going to actually try to be happy. I'm not fixed, I still have a ton to work on, but that minor shift to my perspective has yielded a few genuinely good days... which have been a rare occurrence to say the least. Thanks for this video, the exact thing I needed to strengthen my resolve in attempting to do something similar.

good luck babe. for a good 8 years of my life I have been going to bed saying to myself Tomorrow will be the day Tomorrow you'll be the best you The you you wanna be; been taking birthdays and new years and stupid things like an extra shiny new moon as A Sign that yes NOW is your time, this is the turning point, where one chapter ends and a new one begins, and oo it ties together nicely, I can apply meaning to this, i'm happy with the shit days if it's framed by and ends in this. I've written lists and lists and to do lists and to do to do todo lists and moved items from today to tomorrow today to tomorrow today to tomorroW - i've done it today! even - MY POINT IS. personally, anyway. change is slow. how many times i've tried to change too much at once. discipline and trying your best and breaking your time down into What will I do this hour? What will I do these 10 minutes? is sooo important. it's how you achieve shit without a mad random energy burst. i've been too ambitious, and inevitably disappointed and frustrated by myself, AGAIN, this year. I sectioned up my goals the same as you into the everyday the sparetime the sundays, mornings and evenings, and at the time i thought i'd planned a great timetable. but in the end, i'm not ready for it, so eveything has been shrunk to one, two, main goals, the ones that are the priority for me, now, in my last year of uni, and that is my creative work, and my sleep. your plan sounds marvelous, but do be kind to yourself? don't do what i do and spend more time writing the lists than ticking items off them. just keep moving bit by bit, life is bloody long, you dont have to be ACHIEVING something every minute, enjoy your days with whatever makes you happy. i'll try and be motivated along with you

@norawiedemann

4 жыл бұрын

just stumbled across this comment and i love this perspective, your words ring very true. so lovely xx

My life motto is; always have fun, in whatever you do, every day because if you're not having fun then you're not living, you're just existing.

I'm rooting for you 100%. it's gonna be a hell of a ride but boy it's gonna be great to what you become as you go through the change. thank you x

truly inspirational, thank you for sharing this! I have one note... be creative WITH FAILING! Failing is so necessary and so underrated but in art in life in everything - without failing you can never build something new, without cracks you can never see the sun beyond your walls.

there's is no way this video wasn't here 😭 i was coming to your channel every time hopping you will get it back iam downloading this thing right now ♥️ keep going 👸 i wish you post more content

SO EXCITED FOR WEEKLY VIDEOS \o/

I cant even begin to tell how much she looks like keira knightly with those small smiles and smart look in her eyes and a lil bit her voice. I love it. I totally subbed!

It is so soothing to know that you are not the only one that fills like this thank you. You inspired me to make a change in my life ( actually many changes ).

creating something creative every day is a huge task. I'm an engineer and not really a creative person like you, but setting pressure on creativity often has negative efficinency consequences. Nonetheless, big good luck to you Dottie!

I’m here for this. Here for you.

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you

i’ve felt and dealt with such “stuck” feeling for the longest now(it’s maddening) and i couldn’t have come across your vid and felt less alone and inspired in some way to make change for myself. you beautiful human, thank you 💙

Your videos have always been a source of comfort and of inspiration, and I wish you the very best on this journey, I know you can do it! I’m excited for what’s to come

First- DOTTIE you are so inspiring and I’m going to try some of these things with you for moral support. Good luck Dottie James. I love your idea of trying.

You’ll do great all the love xxx

Glad I bumped into your video and I know it wasn't by accident. I have been going through something similar and it is so brave of you to let us know we are not alone, while you are going through it yourself. Really appreciate it Dottie.

This is my 1st video I’ve watched of yours & I am so here for your transformation!! @ almost 40 many things you mentioned that you’ve done have been my experience over the last 3 years. You have inspired me to create a similar journey. THANK YOU... many blessings and success on this next productive chapter of your evolution 😊

🖤

Always an inspiration, always good content. I missed this very much.

I’ve been feeling this way for a while and I’ve felt so detached, but this helps so much. Thank you Dottie. Thank you so much!

The amount that I relate to this is unreal. The fact that you’re doing this makes me feel like perhaps I can, I really hope you upload the updates to inspire me even more and make me feel less alone!

You have my full support you beautiful human.

"and the day came when the risk to remain in a tight bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."

you honestly inspire me so much, there is just something about you that makes me what to be a better person. Thank you

This is so crazy! I feel like there’s something in the world that’s changed, which is making us human beings want to change with it .. I was also in that low place for the past year and a bit and now I have decided to throw myself into every situation no matter how panicky I feel or how depressed I am I know I have to change everything. I started taking new classes this week, I am working out 5 days a week doing yoga and stretching, forcing myself to socialise more and meet new people and hopefully make new friends or meet people who will accept me for me! I have a lot more but I won’t go on.. this video was fabulous and everything will turn out amazing for you! I will watch your journey whilst I’m living mine to ☺️💜! I’m happy to see people are putting themselves first because that’s what we all should do, it’s an act of self love and we all need that 💖

I really understand how you feel about the “trying” aspect of this video as someone who also ~not necessarily does not try~ but finds it hard to measure whether I have truly tried my best i can relate therefore your concept of having achievable goals to measure against it is something that I also want to adopt and replicate (hopefully this comment makes sense 😊)

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Absolutely! And a big part of this journey will be discovering what it means to try my best and how much that takes as I haven't found out yet.

That chair squeak was so satisfying

You’re speaking to my soul, and for a long time that part of me has been deafened. Thank you for giving me something to listen to, with full attention - I’ve been struggling with the same kind of numbness for a while. You’ve inspired me, personally, so thank you. And best of luck, Miss Dottie, you deserve success. 💛

I absolutely love everything about this! I genuinely can’t stop sharing! It’s totally blowing my mind. I think your honesty and styling is just plain beautiful. Good luck on your journey xxx

It will be hard at first But the longer you stick with it, the easier you will find it to be I hope you stick with it, even when you don't want to You will be so happy if you do Good luck Dottie!

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you for these encouraging words

Your hair looks cute !! You mentioned that you got a lot of crystals, I would love to see a collection video if you feel like making one

@elnoare

6 жыл бұрын

this is myfirst time seeing her ever but she reminds me a lot of Kiera Knightley??

Good luck with your journey! I found your openness and honesty about changing your life and mental health very inspiring. I have suffered with crippling anxiety and panic attacks and understand how it feels so struggle with an isolating mental battle on your own. The only person who has control over you, your mind, your life and everything in it is you. I look forward to seeing your journey and you grow. Equally, you've promised yourself ALOT for every day of the year, if you have a day off i.e. forget to read one night, then don't beat yourself up about it, just promise that the next day you will do so, remind your self why you're doing it and get back on the horse :) ! Best of luck xx

I am in a pretty similar situation right now and have been for the past two years. Thank you so much for this series! I just started it, but already I am so much more motivated than I was by all these other motivational speakers and stuff. It is so good to see not only that one isn't alone with their problems, but that there CAN be a solution in finding resolution and strength in one's self

Please dont give up therapy! Having big energy spikes and high hopes can be a trippy mental space. Please keep small goals and dont try all this alone! Youre a strong person, take care 🌟

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Still in therapy!

Ok, you need to watch + buy Brendon Burchard's courses, they're life changing. He had an offer going on and I was blessed to have used it as I wouldn't have invested the full money as a uni student otherwise. Since implementing like 5% of his advice I've won 3 competitions tech + sustainability + healthcare related, all 1st places and in one of them there were around 650 entries and around 120 judges and I won £1000, was personally coached for an afternoon by an ex-director at HP who sold his business for $1billion with 3 other partners. Like I said 5%. GOOD LUCK! I'm super excited for you

Oh how I love you and your strength and boldness to document this ! Thank you for this ! You’re amazing so excited to see your progress and journey !

I really love your honesty and know exactly how it feels to feel depressed with no where to go but your bed. I also made that decision to change my life though and took a similar path / steps that you mention in your first 3 chapters. Things did change for me and they definitely will for you too. For me it all started with my mind and then went from there :) I think it's incredible that you are sharing your journey, I really look forward to your weekly updates xx

Dottie, You're a dying god. This is the end. Your past is there in the corner. Sweep it away. Rebirth is today. The future is now. And it's yours. XO Good luck!

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

Thank you

this is me. literally every few days. and im still the same, havent changed a bit.. :D i think you could do it though. you seem pretty into it. But please take care of yourself and dont be stressed and if you are stressed you have to give yourself a break otherwise you will get a burnout! :)

I adore the energy and hope that you are channeling through this video; I think it’s really important to tell yourself that you CAN do things and WILL be more productive with your time before actually setting out to do so, and it seems that you’ve done just that. I wish you the best in all of your endeavors and attempts toward total effort! And, thank you for using your gifts to inspire others! I am so excited to be seeing more of your little creations!

I really missed your content and i’m extremaly happy to see you back and doing improvements in your life. I hope nothing but the best for you! good luck!

This is way too much resolutions and goals. Change is slow. You should do it step by step, and stay realistic, otherwise you will fall deeper in depression for not accomplishing those goals.

This is incredible. You are incredible. I just want to say that I’m so behind you in this and excited to be along for the journey.

I cried while watching this. And I have decided to join you in changing my life. I have been working on it since January but I'm going to document it and share it weekly. You've inspired me. Thank you, I can't wait to start this and watch your next 365 days of trying unfold.

This won't work. You have given yourself too many tasks. You are putting yourself under too much pressure. You're changing too many habits. You are giving yourself too much to do. You're changing your lifestyle too drastically. Even the most stable and proactive person can't start to change all of this suddenly, at once. The idea that this is even possible is damaging in itself, especially to young people watching this and believing that it's an appropriate goal to decide to change so much of your lifestyle and daily life over a year. A year isn't long, either. You may think it is, but it really isn't. You're setting yourself up to fail, and when you fail you'll damage yourself. Anyone watching this might try to do the same and they will fail. This sudden drastic choice and all these changes is overreaching and ultimately won't work because as a habitual creature it takes much longer to override your lifestyle habits, and changing so many at once is too much. You should really think about picking one to change over a few months, then changing another on top of that, then changing another thing. Not all at once.

@DottieJames

6 жыл бұрын

I don't believe I've ever felt more encouraged. If I fail then I fail at that thing, be it waking up early or uploading a video, but that doesn't mean I stop trying to do it the next day, or week or month. I'm excited and I understand your standpoint but you seem to think I expected 100% success, I just want to try living for once.

@4EverATVAddict

6 жыл бұрын

I completely understand where you're coming from, and I applaud you for setting yourself these goals. I'm happy that you are excited to make these changes and I hope that your aspirations and goals during this year come to fruition. Many times in my life have I done what you have stated in this video and set about changing multiple facets of my daily life, as well as trying to ultimately change the grander and more abstract things in my life such as my overarching perspectives, my general goals and so on. I have set about on these sudden changes to everything multiple times and in one day decided to meditate every day, be vegan, wake up early, study harder every day, see friends more and so on. I made calendars to live my life by, made lists to keep me on track, made excel tables and filled in my daily activities green when completed. And every time I would make all these changes and vow that this was the new me - in a few months it would all come crashing down. It would start with one thing slipping and then like a house of cards all the structure and changes I put in place would fall. And going from a life of complete structure and health and change to square one again did me no favours. I would slowly work my way back up and then in many months make all the changes again in one swoop. Then the cycle of crashing cards and crashing lifestyle would occur again. And I tried to keep true to it all and be fine just trying to change but trying wasn't enough, because ultimately i could only focus on the failure. What really helped me to change was to implement small changes incredibly slowly. I wouldn't even write down the change or tell anyone so that there wasn't that pressure. I would just decide to wake up before 9am every day. And after a few months that turned into for the firs time in my life since school waking up at 7:30am every day. It took months, but that change stuck. Then I gave myself another task a few months later and kept to that, and then after many months another task. I have slowly changed my life one small task at a time and provided my life with a stable foundation of slowly set concrete changes. Not a quickly assembled house of many many cards. I'm happy that you want to make these changes, but from my personal experience, I have said almost verbatim what you said in this video, and it was always a case of 5 steps forwards and 100 back. From my experience, I really would suggest to take one slow step forward at a time. You won't risk your mental health as much as trying to change everything at once. We are creatures of habit and habits take a while to change. Sometimes people can barely change just one thing in their life. So try. Of course, try. Just be reasonable, and be kind to yourself by taking this process very slowly and very steadily. Your method of changing everything at once I have done multiple times. It was like getting a helicopter ride to the top of a mountain and then being flown back to the start a few months later. My method now was done by slowly walking up that mountain one step at a time, and now I'm here for good. I hope my advice helps. I applaud you for what you're trying to do, but I'd be reticent to ever advise this method to reach better lifestyle and mental health x

@monkandgoose890

6 жыл бұрын

GunsOnBungees Some people find it actually harder to do things one at a time. I know that it makes sense and is good advice for most, but personally, I myself am an all or nothing person. I mean how could I choose which to do first when all of them are so important to me? If I did only one, I would feel as if I were neglecting the others and therefore neglecting myself. I would feel as if I was merely "settling" for less than I felt that I wanted to be in that moment. It would not be good enough and it would lead me to feel incapable of greater change (for if I can't do it now, how can I expect myself to be able to do it later? and if I can do it later then why not now?) It would merely feed my inner insecurity and cause me to lose faith in the whole thing thus guaranteeing my imminent failure. If I want to do something and actually succeed at it then I have to put my full self into it from the start. If I mess up it's okay and i can recover because I know I'm actually trying. The failure to try it right now, is the failure to try it ever. For me at least. It is probably different for you and it might be different for her too, but that has been my experience as messed up as it may seem.

@Pirbhathaddad

6 жыл бұрын

mann i was reading your comment and trust me i can relate to everything that you said somehow you have also made me realize that doing a thing on one time bringing a change slowly is much more effective...i have been failing trying to do things all at once.. even tho i manage to do for couple of days if one thing doesnt work somehow all other things loose their importance one by one....i have realized that if you do one thing or bring one good change to your life you really focus on it and it is done better instead of trying to do all things at one time. i would like to really thank you for telling your experience and making me assure of how to actually pull of things with love and effectiveness

@4EverATVAddict

6 жыл бұрын

PERRIE HADDAD - your English was great! And I'm so glad you connected with my experience. I hope the slow journey to being better and healthier is going well, or at least is very slowly continuing. And if it doesn't seem to be progressing then I'm sure it will at some point :) I was ill this past week and so had to stop doing yoga every day and haven't been eating well. But luckily all the other things I've slowly added to my life over the past five years have still been there. Falling ill is a good example of when something can happen (which is completely out of your control) and will make all changes stop if you've taken on many changes at once (like I used to and like Dottie has). The great thing about slowly changing one thing at a time, is that it takes the pressure off. When I changed things all at once I would wake up and worry every day about completing my 'getting better tasks', which would just add to the stress and make it less likely that I was going to get better. Changing one thing at a time is much less stressful, more realistic, and also that's how you change habits. Because changing habits and daily lifestyles takes effort and it takes time, and its hard enough changing one habit, but once that habit is formed it's hard to break it. But this isn't just my advice, I've also had therapists and psychologists talk me into this approach. I am a perfectionist, and very 'all or nothing', so always wanted to either be completely better, or fail at getting better - do everything i can, or do nothing. But in this case it's mentally more healthy to accept that you can't be better instantly, and that you shouldn't do everything you can to be better instantly. One slow step at a time

Maybe try less narcissism. Dime a dozen privileged white girl. Yukh.

This has resonated with me so deeply. Lately I’ve felt so compelled to take control over my life, to reframe my way of thinking and set intentions and journey down an entirely new path-and yet I haven’t been able to pluck up enough courage to actually bring those wishes to fruition. Watching this video might've just given me the push I needed. Good luck to you in this endeavor and thank you for creating such a lovely & thoughtful video!

This was so beautiful! The struggle to ignore your self doubt and push on with creative pursuits and the real things that make you happy is a constant struggle. I've found that self forgiveness is a crucial part of moving forward as well though. So don't beat yourself up if one moment doesn't go well. The ability to fail and move on faster is definitely a skill that I'm always working on.

♡ I'm so happy you are back. I missed your videos and you. You are such an inspiration and always put me in a better place ♡ please stay safe and take care. You have all my support and I'm so excited for this journey

It takes courage, and strength, to do what you plan on doing. I truly admire you now more than ever. Love you!

This year has been my effort at 'trying' as well. I'm subscribing because it's nice to have a sense of community when changing. Sometimes I feel alone but it's encouraging knowing that there's people everywhere doing the same

You have mirrored my feelings exactly. I will be following your journey and supporting you every step of the way while I work on bettering my own life as well. I've never seen your channel before, but I couldn't have seen this video at a better time. This will be a turning point for the both of us. Heaven help us, but here's looking forward to the rest of this year.

I truly, genuinely appreciate the effort you're putting in for yourself. You deserve it.

Dear Dottie. I'm so proud of you. I am recovering from a burnout, which had pulled me into a depression. I will be joining you on this journey of change. Warriors of life!

It's a great idea to have a lot of people as supporters and witnesses of your process of changing and getting better... You are brave and you're going to make it 💕

This is so exciting! I’m so happy for you! Just remember that if you can’t do everything you want don’t beat yourself up about it, you’re not invincible. On that note: excited to see your journey! Good luck!

This is one of the most inspiring, honest and REAL videos I have seen in a long time. Thank you and keep on going strong! Love it!

i am so glad you decided to do this. i can’t wait to see you grow, and be happier as the weeks go by. i really wish you the best of luck, dottie, and i am glad you are back here. i admire your positivity, at least, how you try to be, and your determination. i am trying as well something like this, not exactly like this but similar, and i can’t wait to march with you along the way. you have such a beautiful soul, and i hope only the best come to meet you. good luck, dottie, you can do it. x

this project is my favorite thing right now and what you're doing is so inspiring and brave. change is HARD! this video actually pushed me to make my first youtube video and start my own 365 days of change and i want to thank you endlessly for that. here's to an exciting and strange year to come.

DOTTIE this has inspired me SO much and I’m so thankful for this video. I am in dire need of doing something similar and I know how to format the changes in my life now. I’ve never been so inspired but holy crap I am loving it and rolling with it. Good luck and best wishes with your life changes! This year will be amazing.

I usually never comment on videos but this spoke to me on so many levels. I’m also a girl in uni but based in NYC. While I don’t post on the Tube I started making daily’s vids from my phone to keep myself accountable on positive change and growth and can totally relate to your ‘better habits.’ Best of luck on your journey, I look forward to your future videos!

This made me tear up. I've had severe depression for about ten years now, and at 24 I finally came to the realisation that it's only me who can save... me. I got my shit together and finished uni with a 1st class, and in 6 months I'm gonna move to another country to start my MSc, and finally create the life I've always wanted and needed. I have a similar plan for the following months to prepare for that huge change, and I am looking forward to my journey with all the passion I have. Cause I finally am passionate to actually live, and not only to stay alive. I wish all the best to you and hope you'll find your success and happiness. You deserve it. All of us do.

you're so inspiring and I respect you greatly for what you're about to do. it takes lots and lots of courage, willpower, strength, patience, and overall you have to mentally prepare your mind. I ask for you to go easy and not push yourself too far, to make yourself happy and know that what you're doing is benefiting you. I'm so excited to watch and see what you're doing, it's so great for you to be doing this and I know it'll inspire so many people, such as myself, to do the same one day. thank you so much for doing this, love you ❤️

This is actually amazing! It spoke to me and I’m excited to join you on this journey. Good luck Dottie!

I am so excited for you and thrilled to be witness to this transformation! YOU ARE WORTHY!! regardless of ALL circumstances, we are worth it because the simple fact THAT WE EXIST! AMAZING! I am inspired by your courage and decisions to DO! I will watch your journey for sure! I am also THRILLED that you blew up and already have 200k subscriptions!!! wow wow!!! keep being yourself DO NOT give in to your darkness and keep going!!! I'm so so happy for you! lets do it together! I am on this same journey and definitely going to be building my own KZread!

I related so much to the aspect of achieving some good things but not actually putting full effort into anything, and I think this video and your determination to make changes has inspired me to try to do similar. I'm in my third year of university, doing my last and biggest project yet and setting myself up for a future career and I really need to start putting my all into it instead of thinking "what HAS to be done" and doing just that minimal guideline. Thank you for this video, and the refreshing look on life

On a less self absorbed level I also want to say you can absolutely do this. I see a resolve in you that means sure, you'll miss things and slip up and fall off schedule once in a while. These goals might change slightly. Some may become less important - but that's all part of change. You've hit "go", and that's awesome. I'm so proud and happy for you, really I am.

"The only thing I haven't tried is trying." These words got right into my heart. Doing the same this year.I feel you Dottie! Thank you for your bloody honesty!