Carl Jung: How To Stop Being A People Pleaser
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Niceness is a trauma response.
It is a way of keeping yourself safe from experiencing conflict.
If you always agree with someone else there will never be disagreement which could lead to conflict.
But this destroys your autonomy as an individual to make decisions for yourself.
Lacking assertiveness, poor boundaries etc…
You end up to pleasing everyone else apart from yourself.
This is all because you repress the energy of anger and have buried it into your shadow.
You don’t know how to relate to the emotion of anger in a healthy way.
But avoiding the emotion of anger through repression is only going to lead you towards demonising it further, which will end in an inevitable explosion of its unhealthy expression.
For what you resist will persist.
Therefore, you must find a way to channel the energy of anger through reassociation so that you can use it to your advantage.
In psychology the re-channelling of energy is called sublimation.
Rather then being a constant victim to a negative traumatic stress response that involved the experience of conflict in the past that caused you to fawn, freeze or repress your anger. Instead, align the emotion of anger towards a positive activity of self-improvement.
By doing this you are rewiring and resetting your sympathetic nervous system and the way in which you experience and perceive emotional states by new experiences of positive association.
This will help you integrate repressed parts of your psyche that need integration.
This the ultimate embodiment of doing shadow work.
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Damn. You always seem to come in with the right stuff. Being overly agreeable is interpreted as weakness by people who's subconscious sees easy gratification for all their psychological Hang-Ups and insecurities. YOU WILL BE ABUSED
@ThoughtsonThinking
4 ай бұрын
Appreciate it 🙏
I am 50 years old and this has been a big problem in my life.
@ThoughtsonThinking
4 ай бұрын
How so? Would love to talk more about it with you on a 1-1 call 🙏
They also bait you with anger as a way to draw you into their own field of emotionalism. Outward expressions of anger is what they are waiting for. Makes them a victim. I seen it so many times. Undeniably
@ThoughtsonThinking
4 ай бұрын
Whatever it is your describing sounds like a variation of narcissistic gaslighting.
Dang that facial hair really threw me off haha Great video as always.
Yes, people must only be concerned for themselves and dedicate their existence to ignoring the needs of others and making others irrelevant and displeased. How is the world looking today?
@ThoughtsonThinking
4 ай бұрын
I think you misunderstood the video man 🙃
@PetraKann
4 ай бұрын
@@ThoughtsonThinking I agree - I just wanted to deploy some basic principles of absurdism to hopefully irritate people
@manwithaporpoiseYTsucksD
4 ай бұрын
No, instead we must bow down to the almighty emotionalism and insincere morality of everyone to be trodden upon and abused by their unrecognized subconscious. It's always the good emotional people creating the most anguish and misery amongst people under the guise of caring and emotion. Snakes. We know