OP and her Aunt Kay are such MVPs here. They recognized someone in trouble, made a plan, followed through, and made the brother feel comfortable opening up. Well done all around!

I like how the brother and sister lookout for each other. Plus with the Aunt and two cousins that keep in touch regularly is still a good support for the siblings.

As a mother.. No thats not acceptable. His daughter got pregnant. She decided to have the babies. HE HAS A WIFE if he wants his eldest to get an education. He easily could spread the childcare helping out. Its NOT his youngest daughters life, to ruin.

@ragon39

3 ай бұрын

Yes wives are for childcare after all 🤓

They insinuated that he wasn’t a man… _because he reads._ I feel like that’s some projected insecurity right there. “I’m not that bright and don’t read much, so I feel the need to put you down so I don’t feel like a failure.”

@vaseline69

Ай бұрын

I remember when as a teen I broke my arm so was sitting out physical education, I was reading a novel and someone asked me "did we get a new book in english" my answer was no, they replied "so why are you reading that "

@trashotaku

Ай бұрын

Fr, I snorted hearing that because of how ridiculous it is

Most the comments on story 2 are way to harsh. Like dude lost his entire future and came out scarred and disfigured. Yea he owes something to his current pregnant girlfriend but this dude feels so guilty for not dying and guilt for everything from that day on. He’s allowed to go ghost, he still intends on being a good father and never doing that again. Honestly think some/most reditors just want the nuclear option every time.

Mike is truly how a “patriarch” should act. He is truly “manly” love is sacrificing for others. Being a man is protecting and guarding your loved ones. Mike is what his “Father” should have been. Loving and allowing his family to chase their dreams. And guarding them against all dangers. This dad sucks

@LunarRose7

2 ай бұрын

While the father was a horrid father, I also disagree with your response as it devalues men into nothing but meat shields and piggy banks. Yes, men are often the stronger more resilient of the two sexes but I feel that both parents should take part in protecting their children. Just a personal opinion as I feel it's quite toxic to only see men/fathers as piggy banks and meat shields and de-humanizes them.

@devondyer9201

Ай бұрын

I think that it was less about the value of men, but more about the value of a father. A father doesn't sacrifice one child's future for another, neither should a mother do the same.

@devondyer9201

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately society also separates most couples into homebodies and breadwinners, with most breadwinners being men, at least that's my family experience in the US

@datorin2653

Ай бұрын

I think you are both correct. I was speaking specifically in this case. I agree that all things in marriage are a partnership. And we should share all our burdens. With our spouse. But to me my dream was a family. By guarding and guiding them. I am fulfilling my choice of dream. I’ve had others that needed to be put aside for the time being. But recognizing that it isn’t permanent and that my dream of a family at least to me supersedes my other dreams.

Bro is out there pulling a Darcy and "practicing" hard social skills. Big claps. That stuff is hard.

Mike is 27, and both his parents are 43. His parents got married after graduation 2 when he was 2 years old. His father clearly resents him for his loss of his youth and probably sees him for the loss of opportunities in life. The thing is, plenty of people make something out of themselves in similar situations. He just chose to "guve in." Being the "Patriarch" was the only thing he had, and he wasn't even good at it. He probably saw the oldest daughter getting pregnant and dropping out of college as a reflection of himself, and he knew he couldn't step in the way his father in law had. He's just a bitter little man who knows he is nowhere near the image he tries to represent himself as.

@toriladybird511

3 ай бұрын

Perfect call

@SaintOtter

3 ай бұрын

Yeah, this has nothing to do with Christianity. It's just really sad and ego stuff.

I agree that OP's father is a real a*hole and have no sympathy for when he ends up alone. As for the OP and her brother, I'm glad that you got out of that toxic environment and that you're getting the help you need. Also, as someone who likes martial arts too, I'm glad that you got back into it; it truly is a good way to meet new people and relieve stress.

So one of the aunts blames your brothers Balls? for him help OP of First story? WTF why and why threaten to cut of his balls?

8:57 - 9:36 I just started sobbing during this because I thought I was alone in thinking this

Last Story: And this is why we get therapy - so that we don't black out and abandon our *pregnant spouse* because our head isn't right.

@m.c.9419

3 ай бұрын

Sure but some traumas are too bad for therapy to help. Secondly, Nate sounds like a busted person. Therapy is only as useful as the person willing to receive and work at it.

@obtuse186

3 ай бұрын

Therapy isn't some magic cure all and I'm annoyed at people, particularly on Reddit, who believe it is. If he's not opening up to his long-term partner it's not like he's going to be comfortable opening up to a stranger. He may have already been in therapy, it's not like people in therapy don't still have breakdowns and I can forgive a guy who lost his entire fledgling family a couple days of no contact to help grieve - he didn't do anything unforgivable or egregious.

@morganleanderblake678

3 ай бұрын

@@m.c.9419 I didn’t suggest it was easy or would fix the problem. I suggested talking about it would make it possible to COMMUNICATE the problem.

@WaitinInAmber

2 ай бұрын

Right. Happens to all of us 😔

@vaseline69

Ай бұрын

@@obtuse186 so what is the answer, do nothing?

Sending virtual hugs to Mike

I’m literally the same as the brother in the first story

Ok threanting to cut a mans pride off is insane also story 3 idk why op wanted to know what happened to him in the past so much thats somthing private no one has to say anything

@NessieNice

3 ай бұрын

When you're in serious relationship, it's a given to wanting to know your partner's past. OP herself said she believe he'd tell her when he was ready and never pressed him but then this happened and of course the first thing anyone would do is backtracking like if they did or said something wrong, contacting all his friends, trying to find out if in a day or even weeks or years before something happened leading up to that. He was missing, of course she gonna be despaired enough to frantically look for him and contacting everyone she could think of even estranged family members which led her to get in touch with people who actually know his past

@WeaponXSigma

Ай бұрын

That's story 2 Ahmad. Pay better attention as there is no story 3.

16:17 that is just sick

16:17 Bruh

@papaquesito

3 ай бұрын

literally, people are so weird wtf

@kaysee2428

3 ай бұрын

Just hit this part... Ew. People are gross.

DUDE i live in the PNW i wonder..... i think i heard about this in the paper

Story 1: oh no, the frog is sad because the snakes don't want to chase it

Conservative or liberal I don't care just tell the damn story and keep politics out

@kaysee2428

3 ай бұрын

I think they added it to give some background on the situation. It is relevant to the story.

@lilywong9672

3 ай бұрын

Maybe if you conservatives weren't such crappy people you wouldn't be so triggered by the story.

@devondyer9201

Ай бұрын

Yeah these days Conservative means more traditional leaning so it makes sense given the patriarchal power that the dad has over the family