I'm not spending a thousand dollars on someone else's wedding that's not my child.

@angelika77st

5 жыл бұрын

✋👏

@adama5929

5 жыл бұрын

Given how marriages are today, I don't even give a present. They'll get a 10th anniversary present, but not a wedding day present.

@martinraucher2147

5 жыл бұрын

Children can pay there own way. They'll figure out how when the money stops rolling in from from anyone else.

@sujeng402

4 жыл бұрын

I remember having to pay for hotel, make up, hair, and clothes for my friend wedding and my income was very little. Now I know better but I would never put someone in that predicament when I get married. It’s not reasonable

@467076

4 жыл бұрын

My friend wanted me to spend between 4-6k for his wedding in a different country. I said I can't I'm overwhelmed with full time work and school. Needless to say, hes not my friend anymore lol oh well, a real friend would have understood the situation.

I hate it when people make plans with my wallet in mind. It's not really about the money but the effrontery really bothers me.

@jowie4156

6 жыл бұрын

Binh Nguyen me too

@Philo-ul2uq

5 жыл бұрын

I knew a pastor and his wife that was like that. They always wanted you to cover the bill or "help" them financially. They used their office as a crutch and tried to guilt people into thinking that God would be mad if they didn't help.

@lizwick

5 жыл бұрын

Binh Nguyen I agree! I wouldn’t go.

@samanthasmiles9112

5 жыл бұрын

Agreed.

@johnsmith-zx5er

5 жыл бұрын

actually its the money that bothers me

Bridezilla planned a wedding that she can't afford and she now wants family and friends to pay for it? How about you plan a wedding that's within your budget. The fact that the caller makes 92k a year does not mean that bridezilla is entitled to her money.

@novelacollection

7 жыл бұрын

L228 YES!!! ITA 100%!

@xyuppthatzmex

7 жыл бұрын

agreed!

@matt4240

5 жыл бұрын

my wedding will cost $500, my honeymoon will cost $5000

@pysduckfanforever

5 жыл бұрын

That's the household income that doesn't mean that's how much she makes on her own

@BuckI2Bdad

5 жыл бұрын

@@sirennoir258 I would as a caveat that NO man should never under any circumstances ever get married. PERIOD!

Me and my wife got married for $600 and it's been 17 years still together

@garyhost1830

5 жыл бұрын

I bought my wife for $600 been together 3 years

@brokenmold516

5 жыл бұрын

800 here, 11 years ago, no regrets here!

@LL-xx4iq

5 жыл бұрын

My husband and I got married at the courthouse, didn’t cost us a thing. We just celebrated our 23rd anniversary.

@lriver5766

5 жыл бұрын

Same here. We’ve been married 16 yrs.

@michaelleeannspringer3247

5 жыл бұрын

Smart couple! My wedding was $1,200. It was nice. Didn't have to buy any church decorations, since it was in December and the place was already decorated. Made lovely background pics.

Etiquette says if a bride wants a specific hair/ makeup look for her bridesmaids she needs to foot the bill.

@margareto1600

3 жыл бұрын

👍👍👍

@littlebritian2822

3 жыл бұрын

When expectation meets reality!

@madisonandthespirits

3 жыл бұрын

Not every brides parents can pay for a wedding, the bride should of saved up

@Ansmousoeesoj

Жыл бұрын

I paid for everyone to have hair and makeup. I didn’t even ask for the wedding party to chip in

@rebeccaoprea9917

5 ай бұрын

At least go half.

When Dave is not sure what to say next ... "What is your household income ?" Saves the day EVERYTIME ! 😹😹😹

@TheKalbo789

7 жыл бұрын

SingingBeeize lol

@SpiritLeash

6 жыл бұрын

LOL

@brengz7663

5 жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly! Lol

@jermainerace4156

5 жыл бұрын

Bro that was my thought exactly.

@MiMiOrt

5 жыл бұрын

For real 😂😂😂

I wanted to elope but my mom asked if she could throw me a little last minute wedding. I said yes and she threw me the prettiest, most inexpensive back yard wedding with my friends and family and my favorite flowers, sunflowers everywhere. Our friend was the person who married us and we played back yard games afterwards and ate. It was amazing and I'm so glad she did it. I can't imagine a more expensive wedding would have made me happier.

@IRgEEK

5 жыл бұрын

yep. Right on! It's supposed to be about love for one another, not a performance. Good for you guys!

@dkBybee

5 жыл бұрын

That sounds fun and y’all have amazing memories. Good job!

@kelleythenurse3283

4 жыл бұрын

My mom helped arrange a similar wedding in a friend’s backyard. They got friend chicken “catered” from a local grocery store, the mothers and grandmothers all made a salad for side dishes. I forget how they did the flowers but it was all planned within like a 2 month time span and everything turned out great.

@danbrown7224

4 жыл бұрын

Alot of time less is more and more is less

@jbdragon3295

4 жыл бұрын

ApplePie521 don’t need a backyard. People gave weddings in public parks. Many you can reserve a section for private events. No need to go into huge debt for a wedding. Keep it low cost and spend a little more for a even better honeymoon if you like.

Seems that some people want a party more than a marriage. My wedding was $79...$25 for a marriage license, $50 to justice of the peace and $4 for parking. Still married 25 years later.

@cindifischer6919

Ай бұрын

Myself also. I don't remember the exact cost but it was 38 years ago, JP and then a very small reception in the backyard 3 days later on a Sunday afternoon. Subway sandwiches and cupcakes. No regrets.

I've heard that the higher the cost of the wedding, the higher the odds of divorce.

@sassysandie2865

4 жыл бұрын

Evolving Ben I read that too! Maybe they put too much planning on the wedding and not the marriage!

@MsBrendalina

4 жыл бұрын

It makes sense. A big wedding means that the couple starts their life together with massive debt. And putting more focus on having a "perfect" wedding than a good marriage is never a good idea.

@euenfheiejrj

4 жыл бұрын

MsBrendalina that’s not necessarily true. We’re having an expensive wedding but also have been saving since we got engaged and have a healthy savings outside of this wedding fund. But I get what you’re saying.

@MsBrendalina

4 жыл бұрын

@@euenfheiejrj There's nothing wrong with having a lavish wedding if you can afford it. But I just think it's a bad omen when couples put themselves into debt just to have a fancy wedding party

@GeneralChangFromDanang

4 жыл бұрын

That tells me they're marrying for the wedding and not the marriage.

"And it's HIS brother, so THAT'S already pissin' you off" Gold. GOOOLLLDDD

@kynh1980

2 ай бұрын

Dave is not just a financial coach…he’s a life coach!

plan a wedding you can afford

@telecasterbear

7 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@invisibleinkling1474

7 жыл бұрын

SupremeVision... Yep! The wedding is one day. The family will be there until death.

@deathrowtodisneyworld5030

7 жыл бұрын

Yes!! Couldn't agree more!

@novelacollection

7 жыл бұрын

SupremeVision Right! You can have a beautiful affordable wedding within your means.

@aririyadh8359

7 жыл бұрын

My wedding cost $2,000us, but I got my wife rings worth $50,000 because they last far longer than 1 day.

Every wedding I've been in, involved a bride who worked hard to keep dress prices low. NEVER expected us to pay for hair, makeup, or mani/pedis.

@emiliaescobar7652

Жыл бұрын

These requests are insane!

Dude. Being a bridesmaid these days can be a huge financial commitment. Expectations get raised all of the time. Showers, parties, gifts, make up, hair, nails, over priced dresses no one really wants, shoes, trips.. the list goes on..

@Seeker0fTruth

4 жыл бұрын

Patricia Newton AGREE

I spent more being a bridesmaid for someone else’s wedding than my own wedding. NEVER again. Bride was ungrateful and I’m no longer friends with her. Also, my dog had an emergency $2500 surgery and her bridal party was upset I didn’t pay 150 to pitch in for a hotel I wasn’t even staying in because I was caring for my dog. The worst people. Lesson learned.

@mayc8674

2 жыл бұрын

WHAT!! Oh Lord!

@y.l.2465

2 жыл бұрын

Same, my total wedding cost was $750 for a beautiful backyard get together. I had to foot the bill for everything as a bridesmaid and spent over $1200. Horrible.

@ScienceFunWithKingston

2 жыл бұрын

I feel your pain

@rebeccautkin7942

2 жыл бұрын

same experience

@georgewagner7787

2 жыл бұрын

Just say, no thanks

Why do people expect others to finance their own wedding is beyond me. YOU chose to have a big or expensive wedding, YOU should make sure you have the funds to pay for it. People's sense of entitlement is quite awful. I'd be scared to marry a woman like this. Trouble down the road almost guaranteed.

@firststar2

5 жыл бұрын

Exactly!

@thetruthyes

5 жыл бұрын

Socialism...

@rushfan9thcmd

4 жыл бұрын

@Brad Smith funny because liberals stop republicans from cutting entitlements.

@jazzbelly3589

4 жыл бұрын

@Brad Smith taxation is theft.

I feel terrible for the poor sap this woman is marrying.

@guyheavengym

7 жыл бұрын

GamerNRetro beta bucks Will feel the wrath of this harpy

@beaconofbutthurt4603

7 жыл бұрын

He needs to sit down with his brother and go, "Dude! Really? You want to marry HER?!?!?" Dave sees the red flags. Don't worry about being the Wicked Witch of the West. I doubt the marriage would last 15 years. Women like this are why MGTOW exists.

@GamerNRetro

7 жыл бұрын

I doubt it will last that long. I'm saying 3-7

@teeada6858

7 жыл бұрын

GamerNRetro Omg, I feel the same way. What man would marry a woman who makes such ridiculous requests? He is going to regret marrying such an entitled brat.

@GamerNRetro

7 жыл бұрын

My guess is she's the one pushing for me marriage and in a few years she will be the one pushing for a divorce.

I cannot believe I'm writing this. If you want to get married get out your own check book. What someone else makes is their business not yours. Why does everyone think they need to pitch in on a bill someone else generates? God, Dave called it right, she is "Bridezilla".

@rosalynnweaver3295

7 жыл бұрын

Tom Watson my husband was making over 6 figures when we got married we spent about 500.00 including on everything private wedding. We rather save and use our money for our dream vacation then on one day where the paper at the end is the same no matter what you paid for your wedding. This kind of stuff makes me glad I didn't have a traditional wedding.

@djd829

7 жыл бұрын

+Rosalynn Weaver that is amazing.. good for you, really.. you two were raised right

@poiewhfopiewhf

5 жыл бұрын

I can’t believe you’re writing it either Tom, but by G-d, you’re right

@eileeneclark9011

3 жыл бұрын

8/22/20....AND the FUNNY thing is these ppl SHACK UP FOR YEARS & MANY EVEN HAVE KIDS---THEN decide to have a HUGE EXPENSIVE WEDDING! I really think THE BIGGER & MORE EXPENSIVE WEDDINGS END IN BIGGEST LEGAL FEES FOR DIVORCE! 😊

@robertwhite6203

3 жыл бұрын

That’s very spot on ! & your 110% right what someone makes is there own business !

My husband and I had a very inexpensive wedding. We honestly just wanted to go to the courthouse. My in-laws insisted we have a wedding. So we got married in a wedding chapel with a very small number of people in attendance. My entire wedding was $1,000 and $350 was my wedding dress. Actually, my in-laws paid for everything. Neither Ben or I wanted to start our lives together in debt or broke. We didn’t have a honeymoon. We have been married 18 years and we have worked hard to build the life that we have. We have zero debt. We just paid off our house.

@Red_1976

2 жыл бұрын

This is what it’s all about - congratulations! 🙌🏼

I had something similar with my best mate when he got married. He'd asked me to be his best man which I would have loved to do. We live in the UK but he decided to have his wedding and honeymoon in Thailand and expected the guests to pay for not only their own flights but also their food and accommodation. At the time I'd just bought a new house with a large mortgage and had two young children. I couldn't afford to take my own family to Thailand and I wasn't prepared to get into debt to do it. I would have loved to go but had to decline to go. Unfortunately he took this badly and it damaged our relationship for many years afterwards. But I just didn't feel right going on my own when I couldn't afford to take my own family on holiday and I wasn't going to take out a loan or put it on a credit card.

@1redrubberball

4 жыл бұрын

That was no loss of friendship, worth mentioning!

@staceystrukel1917

4 жыл бұрын

You should pay for all of that. Its not the grooms responsibility to pay for that. However, they also have to understand when you do a destination wedding some people will not choose to go because of the finances.

@inthesun3884

4 жыл бұрын

I love small destination weddings especially if I’m not invited!

@rosycspencer

4 жыл бұрын

@@staceystrukel1917 That is a terrible thing to make a best man pay for anything. If you can not have a wedding you can afford, then don't. Have a simple wedding in your backyard. What a stupid tradition. If I organize any party, I pay for all of it. I don't make people pay to come to the party I am organizing.

@aeromedical6750

4 жыл бұрын

One of my very good friends did a destination wedding. He and his wife got married in Hawaii because that is where he proposed to her. He was actually thinking of other people. He understood that most of us could not afford to fly out to Hawaii as well as the other expenses we would end up incurring. They invited only their immediate family and actually paid their expenses. I would have loved to hav attended, but completely understand why they did what they did. They put together a second reception in our town when they got back, complete with video wedding footage. We all had a great time and still got to celebrate their union.

My wife and I got married with $300.00 to our name and 56 years later we don’t owe anyone anything and have no debt. Excellent financial management on my spouses part has enabled us to have three different houses and no mortgages. Life is good when you are in this position. Main rule don’t buy anything unless you can afford it! Thanks Dave Ramsey, my wife was using your advise before you started giving it! And it’s good advise

Wedding present for the bride ....Financial Peace University!!!

@Mags765

2 жыл бұрын

👏🏽

@MP-nj1qy

2 жыл бұрын

Great perspective

My daughter is in this phase of her life....being asked to participate in weddings. The behavior of this bride is standard bride behavior by today's norms. Destination bacchelorette parties, Multiple showers to attend or throw, rehearsal dinner and after party.... and the monetary cost doesnt include time off from work for travel or events. It makes it extra hard to decline when the new norm is to ask your bridesmaid via a postal delivered box filled with custom coffee cup, handmade chocolates and toiletries along with a note saying " will you be my bridesmaid?" My daughter ( who is newly married and getting out of debt) spent almost $1000 to participate in a wedding this past weekend. And it wasnt even what would be considered "flashy"! The wedding industry is alive and well and our young people are fueling it.

@johnreed9050

6 жыл бұрын

Janie Werner My wife tried this stuff with me before we got . I was in the military at the time and I wanted to wear my dress blues and since I was an no I could wear the sword. I planned on letting my brother have the free tux rental since he didn't have money at the time.when I told her that I was doing this I got the most demonic look I have ever seen on a person's face.she told me that was not happening. I looked at her and told her to her face in front of her family that if I can't wear my dress blues than the wedding won't happen end of discussion. Everyone looked at me like how dare you tell her no. I said you decide if what I wear is more important than I am to you. If so then marriage off.She was shocked when I stood my ground coupled with publicly putting it back on her influenced her decision. She finally relented I think more so because of bad she made herself look but her family still took her side which I understand. I told her that she better understand that I will not give in to your every whim and you will not get your way all the time. This set the tone from then and she knows that when I dig in on something that I will not give in. I have learned to pick my battles in this area and I have never lost my self respect.

@icereidy6586

6 жыл бұрын

Janie Werner this is the truth

@FrauIndian

6 жыл бұрын

I have not hadf the blessign to find Mr. Compatible. But if I was even ore blessed to marry a military guy, I would LOVE to have him wear the uniform.

@christinaheuer7169

5 жыл бұрын

I have never heard of such spoiled rich entitled wedding behavior. I dunno, even if I was asked to be apart of such an expensive wedding and contribute $1,000 .... I’d walk away.

@seateg12

5 жыл бұрын

Janie, you are absolutely right!!! My friends are all finally married off, lol, but the last few i participated in, cost in the 1000s. Brides do expect expensive showers, destination bachelorette parties and 300 dollar up-dos. Love ya Dave, but you are wrong with this one, times have changed. The last wedding I attended, best friend from college, insisted everyone stay at the same B & B, it was 320 dollars a night! Outrageous what money pits weddings have become for all involved.

Why do people need permission to say "no"?

I wanted a simple church wedding, but thanks to my MIL, it turned into something pricier than I intended. My fiancé and I are working super hard to save up for the party. We created a budget and I researched prices for the things I want to incorporate into the wedding. But my MIL is angry and wants us to charge $150/plate. I said to her no. We will pay for it ourselves, because we can. Sometimes, it’s not the bride who’s doing not so classy stuff. Family can also be a pain.

Traditionally, asking the bridesmaid to pay for her own dress is the only requirement to participate in the wedding party. I wouldn't be in a wedding if I were asked to pay anymore than that.

This lady may be earning $92,000 but she owes $46,000, excluding their house. They are seriously in debt so should only spend an amount they are happy with.

@CountrySingerWannabe

4 жыл бұрын

46,000 NOT including their house.

@BarkusMuhl

4 жыл бұрын

$92,000 is combined household income. So she's probably making less than half that.

@STMARTIN009

4 жыл бұрын

They might not have any retirement savings either so they need to get out of debt. If she said they have 100k or so in retirement it may have been a little less painful. Student loans are the worst.

The thing that kills me is that some of these brides come from very ordinary families in terms of status and income and want everyone to suddenly act as if she is royalty! Ridiculous !!!

The caller could be making $2 million/year. It still does not entitle this bridezilla to make the caller and other bridesmaids pay so much for a wedding. This marriage will end in divorce in a few years anyway.

@emilyanne3910

4 жыл бұрын

23magneta didn’t she say 92? As in $92k?

@Amanda-ze2ut

4 жыл бұрын

emily anne yes she did. 23magneta was making the point that it doesn’t matter how much money the caller makes, meaning she could be even a millionaire, and it still wouldn’t give the bride the right to demand her bridesmaids pay for all these things. Hope that makes sense lol

@morganwildwood6168

2 жыл бұрын

I agree, I was confused as to why he asked what her income was, because it's irrelevant. She is not obligated to pay for all this stuff regardless of how much she makes. Bridezilla needs to get a clue and have a wedding she can afford to pay for herself. I would bow out of the wedding entirely- I do not take well to people telling me that they feel entitled to my money.

@georgewagner7787

2 жыл бұрын

He asked bc if they were only earning 30k , he might have told them to say they can't pay for the dress and the tux either.

I could see Dave struggling to answer this wisely, because it is about boundaries and he is so right that not handling it well could have decades-long repercussions. I loved to see him take his time and think about it, and I found the answer was wise and helpful.

its not just about the money its the principle behind it. you don't ask people to spend that kind of money on your wedding without having a choice. He nailed it with Bridezilla.

@SusiesRepeat

Жыл бұрын

Also this is a big sign off how is she is going to act down the road.

I had a 1500 wedding. And saved up for a down payment on our house

@aparks8244

3 жыл бұрын

i love you.

@silhouettesmile5472

3 жыл бұрын

The way to do it!!!💪🙌

@SusiesRepeat

Жыл бұрын

Now that is sensible. All the huge expense for a couple of hours is crazy.

We spent $60 for our marriage license. We also spend a under $100 for my dress and tux and our family did a small cookout and I loved every second! It was so sweet and wonderful and you could really feel the love from everyone! So blessed to have married a humble, hardworking and honest man. His hard work and sacrifices are staring to make our dreams come true.

I got married in Aug 2018 and I told my bridesmaids (my two sisters and niece) that they can buy whatever dress as long as it was navy blue and I paid for their hair/makeup as a gift. Their dresses were absolutely beautiful and cost less than $40 from Amazon. Really irks me when I hear brides put so many demands on their bridal party.

@rubyslippers1935

3 жыл бұрын

When in August 2018? Ours was August 3rd.

@catherine4908

2 жыл бұрын

love this!

Courthouse. $20. Married 26 years. Took the money we saved for the wedding and had an awesome Honeymoon and a down payment on a house instead. Spending huge on weddings is ridiculous. @uallspending5plusfiguresonweddings

@TrishDigginsDesign

5 жыл бұрын

K Yancy I’ve told my daughter from the start. I’ll help with college as I can, and please elope or just go to the courthouse and spend your money on a down payment on a house.

@sushmak8855

4 жыл бұрын

Smart

@patricianelson8

4 жыл бұрын

Married two years ago the same way. Save your money for other things. Friends were upset, but hey, we see them on the fourth Thursday of every month for dinner.

@jvolstad

4 жыл бұрын

That's the way to do it.

@mariamiranda3208

4 жыл бұрын

We did the same thing. Used $ to pay off house.

I paid $70 to get married in SC. I laugh at people that get $25K weddings. I knew a guy...his bridezilla had a $50K wedding...then filed for divorce 6 months later...HAHA

@nzoutdoor8892

3 жыл бұрын

My Aunt had 50k on rings then 80k on a wedding with a guy she got engaged to after knowing him 6 weeks. They were going to lawyers for a POST marital agreement when they got back from their honeymoon and filing for divorce 5 months after that

@MP-nj1qy

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, maybe the expenses drive them apart.

@mayc8674

2 жыл бұрын

Six months? WTC!

I could never understand expensive weddings. What's the point? I can't believe what some people go through just to have a wedding. My husband and I got married for a few bucks at the courthouse 11 years ago. Other people we know spent thousands of dollars only to get divorced a few years later. I really don't believe that spending a fortune on a wedding means anything about how your marriage is going to turn out. I know that is beside the point of this call but I'm just stating my opinion.

@aeromedical6750

5 жыл бұрын

I hear you on that. My wife and I spent somewhere in the neighborhood of $1500 bucks on ours. We had an intimate wedding with a few family and friends in a little country church. This past November 15th, we hit 27 years. I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

@TrishDigginsDesign

5 жыл бұрын

Nikkole because some people just want to be princess for a day on someone else’s dime. Ick.

@jborrego2406

4 жыл бұрын

To show off how in love they are an that the “have money “

@elenabob4953

4 жыл бұрын

From my experience, expensive weddings outside what the bride and groom can afford are to cover huge insecurities and an unstable relationship.

It doesn't matter if they make $92k a year. They're trying to get out of debt! Plus, requiring several hundred dollars per person to attend a wedding is ridiculous!

@katherinek2709

5 жыл бұрын

Dustin Nelson I think that was his filler question to buy some time to think of the right response

If someone doesn't like my hair the way it naturally falls, they shouldn't invite me to their wedding I guess

This is exactly why my husband and I had an extremely small wedding and only had our parents as guests. I wanted my friends to still be my friends after I got married! Weddings have become such a scam.

😂 “she Does her own hair and make up every day and no one shot at us yet ....so.,,”. 🤣🤣🤣

I asked my bridesmaids to do their own hair and makeup. We paid for their dresses which were under $100. Problem solved.

I had a sister-in-law (my late husband's sister) who, every birthday, anniversary, graduation, Chistmas, every gift-giving occasion, informed everyone in the family what they were expected to give to her children and step-children, right down to the make, model and color. When her eldest son got married (it was a very small wedding 2,000 miles away, and my husband was ill, so we weren't invited), we were informed that we were expected to give them a $3,000+ lawn mower/tractor. We sent a $500 Home Depot gift certificate. By the way, our daughter (my husband's step-daughter) never got anything from them. Ever.

@margietucker1719

5 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't have even sent them a gift card, after a request like that.

@edennis8578

4 жыл бұрын

So why did you EVER start putting up with that? That's a nonstarter for me. I'd just look at like she was crazy.

@sexysilversurfer

3 жыл бұрын

Looks like you’re the foolish one, they got the better deal.

@pipr5070

2 жыл бұрын

😲

I would write up a contract , if the marriage dissolves withing 15 years you get your money back....

@leprechaun8067

3 жыл бұрын

Ha ha I like this idea. Except make it less years.

Just tell him that you will wait for his next wedding.

If it costs me money to go to a wedding, I'm not going. Why go into debt for someone else's big day? If they REALLY wanted you to come no matter what, they would pay for that stuff and incur the debt themselves. With this mind-set I don't get invited to weddings and I'm not missing a thing.

@costco_pizza

7 жыл бұрын

Agreed. I stopped going all together. Most of them end up in divorce later anyway, and it's not like you're going to get a refund.

@bestly802

7 жыл бұрын

its a few hundred bucks lol you make it seem like it's a car they are buying. And if you treat your own brother or sister this way on their big day, I feel sorry for your family..

@MarkZimmerman

7 жыл бұрын

Viet PopLove when you're in debt, you have no money to spend. even if its couple of hundred dollars!

@granitemoss1451

6 жыл бұрын

Some things are reasonably expected costs, the things presented here are not. While everyone must work within their own budget, the fact that you have no interest in sharing people's joy on their big day is rather sad.

@lillyc7861

5 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't want to go either. Why should I pay for every other person's wedding. They should pay for their own wedding within their own means. My whole extended family never makes us pay for their weddings. They pay for it, and you just show up with a gift. It's only friends and family friends that don't care about you're well being and only about themselves to make you pay for their wedding.

This is why you hear stories of grooms and braidmaids suddenly going ghost, and no one hears or speaks to them. Ive seen this happen a couple of times with weddings like this.

On the surface, this may not seem like a big deal, it is. Sure, we are talking about an amount of money that the caller could afford, it doesn't mean she should have to. It's ridiculous and disrespectful that the bride is demanding this. If she wants certain things a certain way, she should not only pay for it, she should compensate the wedding party in some small way for attending.

@xxkissmeketutxx

7 жыл бұрын

Richard Forester exactly!! entitlement mentality is becoming more and more extreme, people seem to want OTHERS to pay for their wedding, it's disgusting honestly

I recently got married and my bridesmaids paid for their dresses, shoes, mani/pedicures, and makeup. However, when I asked them to be a bridesmaid I didn't put a gun to their heads and forced them to. I was also mindful of their incomes. Dresses were $130 (they all agreed that it was doable), shoes were $20, hair was a $20 synthetic lacefront wig, and makeup was $60. I would never expect someone to pay $400 for a dress for my makeup. I purchased dancing shoes for all of them and their gifts. My girls looked lovely but it definitely was not super expensive. Agreeing to be in a bridal party is a financial obligation that people need to be honest about. If you can't afford it then just attend the wedding as a guest.

To the groom.....run far and quickly. This is a marriage disaster in the making. She thinks it’s HER day. It’s all bout her. Run Forrest Run.

@margietucker1719

5 жыл бұрын

She's not an exception by any means. Almost all women who plan expensive weddings think they are "Queen for A Day", so yes, it's all about them. This is quite the norm. But then there are women such as myself...who don't want or need the spotlight. A small intimate ceremony with just a handful of family--in a little country church was fine for me. Less than $100 BTW.

@bensimmons6149

4 жыл бұрын

Who said the groom isn’t bad like this bride lol

@miketheyunggod2534

2 жыл бұрын

It is all about her idiot.

Dave’s experience not only in financial but also familial matters is priceless 👍🏻

Ridiculous weddings that they go in debt paying and then end up divorced.

I got the sense the caller's problem was less about the dollar amount for all the extra stuff, and more about how it was presented as mandatory to participate in the wedding. If the bride had shown some regard for their financial situation in presenting it, the dollar amount would be the same, but there'd be less resentment.

@gabrielle2dream559

7 жыл бұрын

ASimoneau yep!!!

@blade643

6 жыл бұрын

ASimoneau wrong!

@icereidy6586

6 жыл бұрын

ASimoneau bingo

@christinaheuer7169

5 жыл бұрын

I agree 100%. This bride is a greedy control freak

@katherinek2709

5 жыл бұрын

In what world would the money amount be anything less than ridiculous?

If it were me, I would say sorry we cant attend. Hope its beautiful. Send a card and/or crystal like vase (Walmart sells some nice looking ones) and be done with it.

@sassysandie2865

4 жыл бұрын

charles0322mrsdani it’s his brother and I’m sure he wants to be there.

@JiisTube

4 жыл бұрын

Refuse to attend your own brother's wedding and you are never going to live it down, as Dave said

@gulserocak

4 жыл бұрын

And you’re the witch for the next 25 years 🤪

All that freaking money so a couple people can walk down the aisle of some building, then say a couple words that the preacher tells them to say, then kiss each other, and walk back out. Heck, I would do it in the garage if it wouldn't offend people.

Sounds ridiculous to me. More like a status wedding.

@theblacksmithshammer

4 жыл бұрын

A status wedding of choice. LOL!

That guy is receiving so many red flags.

I would hate to see the ring she is demanding. I hope the groom keeps a separate bank account.

Can we say, "HIGH MAINTENANCE?" Run dude...

It's almost always a BURDEN to be in a wedding!!! Get off your high horse and pay for everything Ms. Bridezilla. Otherwise YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT. There's a reason I ran off to Vegas to get married. I didn't want to put anyone through the dreadful wedding experience. They are completely overrated and half these people end up divorced anyway.

@dt4654

5 жыл бұрын

I don't plan to have a wedding party even if I find someone, I am not exactly sociable in general 🤷‍♀️

My husband and I spent $100 - dress, cake, minister, flowers, reception - and we’re still married after 47 years. It’s the person you marry that’s important, not the ceremony. We saved our money for a house.

My parents don't get along at all. So when my husband and I eloped everyone in the family (mine and his) totally understood. I just can't stand family drama.

@elliremi3154

4 жыл бұрын

Maegan Byerley yea I’m not going to be able to have a party because no one on my mom’s side gets along. But hey, we get to save money so their drama is helping us

I remember how shocked i was when i was invited to a wedding but had to pay 100$. Did not go.

@miketheyunggod2534

2 жыл бұрын

LOSER!

“ And it’s his brother so that’s already pissing you off” I love it when Dave just totally calls it!

Would love to see follow up episodes on some of these calls. Normally I'd say skip the wedding but since this is family you might not want to rock the boat. I had so many friends getting married that kept asking me to be in weddings at $200-300 a pop here and there plus airfare and hotel half the time, I finally just had to start saying no. Some understand, some get pissy and never talk to you again, but then you realize they were never your friend to begin with. Hilariously 90% of them are now divorced and their marriage after their fancy expensive wedding only lasted 2-3 years if that. My two best friends who have had the most success with their marriages, one got married at the courthouse with a judge for under $100 and the other had a very small low key wedding with only family and a few friends.

*I know it’s standard in this culture but I have **_never_** understood asking someone to be in your wedding party and expecting them to pay for the dress, tux, shoes, hair and makeup that THEY select. It seems so tacky. Just. Ugh...*

This ones simple, tell her that you are honored that she wants you to be a part of her most special day and that you would absolutely love to be a part of it but you just can’t afford to meet the her requirements so you will have to decline.

id love an update on this one lol

It's going to be an expensive divorce.

Spent less than £250 to get married. I feel like it's a huge win in life. 🌟

I paid for my daughters wedding. But I wouldn’t pay a penny to attend someone else’s wedding.

"She knows how to paint her own barn." ~Dave Ramsey, aka Rich Foghorn Leghorn.

This is why I’m 36 years old and haven’t been to a wedding in more than a decade. I tear up the invites at this point.

@mikethomas5797

Ай бұрын

Me too, I only do funerals-out of respect. Even enemy's funerals, we shared SOMETHING prior to the "falling out". Weddings NO! They are the same thing, but w/ cake & prizes

I am watching this in Oct. of 2019. I’m wondering if this marriage is still working.

@minastirith997

4 жыл бұрын

relsba me too

Ppl lost their dang minds with these selfish weddings no ma'am. I've backed out of a wedding before and I'll do it AGAIN

When I got married I was very conscious about how much my bridal party had to spend. I went the cheaper route for them!!! Plus the jewelry set makes a great bridal gift.

After the brothers have their talk, the bridezilla will call and cuss them out for ruining her day.

I asked my x2 bridesmaids to pick a dress they liked, they both wore black heels they already had. I didn’t care about accessories, nails etc. I paid for half the dress and makeup. One bridesmaid did her own hair the other used a hairdresser. We had the perfect wedding!

My wife and I kept it small, we had a nice gathering with 22 people total. Arranged with a local restaurant for drinks and food even had a professional photographer and flowers we spent less than 4k for everything clothes included and kept the rest for our future together. I've talked to people who've spent 20k plus and that's crazy. That's a fine start for a down payment on a life long home. Not just throwing cash away.

Was just in a wedding this past weekend, as well as in 2017. It’s certainly not cheap and they’re exhausting! I told my husband that I don’t care whose getting married I won’t be participating in any for years. Extended family can get expensive with their events, birthdays, holidays, funerals, barbecues ugh especially mine. Thousands each and every year to hangout with these people.

I had a friend who didn't have much for a wedding, they didn't spend anything out of pocket themselves. But there friends and family managed to put together a nice wedding for them for about $600.00 all total. Here's some of what was done, A friend made the wedding cake, and the grooms cake (which they insisted on). She had a beautiful dress for less than $250.00, The flowers and church decorations was taken care of by another friend (who was getting annoyed with there zero budget) in other words when ever asked what they had for a budget they would laugh about it and say they didn't have a budget. They were going to do sandwiches instead of food, but dropped that idea. Which turned out to be fine, they gave out these little dollar store bubble things from the dollar store as favors (came in packs of 6 for $1.00) which were totally exceptable, I don't even think everyone received one and nobody cared. Another friend took care of doing the photo's, and they came out fine. The bride did her own hair and makeup with a little help from family. They did pay the minister something for his services, but it was a token amount, and I know him he was fine with it. They wanted to have it under an arch outside, that was scrapped because it wasn't built quite right with one of her relatives having built it. To be honest with you, all her friends and family were starting to get a little fed up with the whole thing and wanted it over with at the end. The reason, the whole bridezilla thing was getting old fast. The bride would pout and such if she wasn't getting her way on all the details. The problem with that is changes in the details would end up costing other people money, and the laughing off of the zero budget wedding was getting old fast. She changed how she wanted her cake done, which meant that new decorating supplies had to be purchased. She bought a cake topper that would only look good on a very large cake. Which had to be baked along with the groom cake. They took a photo of a grooms cake at a bakery and wanted there's to look like that one. That meant that more specialty items needed to be purchased for that, on top of all the supplies which had been purchased for the actual wedding cake, which now had to be larger than normal because of the topper they bought. A similar thing happened with the flowers and such. I know one thing I will think twice about getting involved with a wedding again, and if I ever offer to make or bring something whether cake, flowers, or whatever, I will be very specific and limiting in what I would volunteer for or agree to. I now understand why professionals take deposits on all these things before hand because I know the bride would think twice about making changes (sometimes at the last minute) if the cost of those changes was going to come out of her pocket. I think friends and family are very understanding when trying to put together a wedding for a loved one or close friend. But things in the wedding industry have made expectations sky high for that one special day. The whole fairy tale princess thing around a wedding is way too much, and unless you have thousands of dollars to spend its hard for friends and family to match. And the professional wedding industry is going to push for these affairs to be more and more elaborate, because frankly they are going to make a profit every step of the way. So they push the bride and her family to just spend a little more,then a little more. A simple 3 tier wedding cake, oh no, not on your special day it only comes once in a lifetime. Flowers, a few simple arrangements, oh no, each pew in the church must have a decoration, fresh flowers all around, and a wedding ,Boocay for the bride, buttoners for the groom and his whole party. With parasols all decorated with elaborate arraignments. Thank you for allowing me this rant, I never complained about any of this at the time, and my loving husband was very understanding of all this nonsense.

I don’t understand why people spend extravagant amounts of money for ONE DAY of their life.

my daughter had a small wedding, just family. she took the money we gave them for the wedding and bought a good used car with cash.

I've seen it happen more than once. The more extravagant the wedding the shorter the marriage.

Dave from Houston here, big fan love your channel and your ability to help anyone indiscriminately is heart warming! :)

Sounds like either this couple just doesn’t want to part with their money or they’re trying to have a wedding waaayyyy above their pay grade.

In the UK the bridesmaids don't have any costs other than to pay for themselves on the hen do (bachelorette). That's why we typically only have between 1 and 4. I however had what we would consider alot at 6 plus 3 little flower girls so I asked the bridesmaids if they would pay for their hair to be done if they wanted it doing, I felt quite uncomfortable with asking but no one seemed to mind. Total cost to the bridesmaids with the hen do and hair less than $200. Total cost to me and my groom for the bridesmaids = $4,500 (My wedding, my expenses)

@m.eduardo5674

6 жыл бұрын

Laura Stinton same with our wedding (Filipino). I didn't want to burden anyone, we paid for dresses/makeup/suits. 😁

Large weddings are a HUGE waste of money. I've been married twice; the first one I had "the big wedding" in a big church, hired expensive vendors, and bought the fancy dress. The second marriage, we got married at my in-laws home; talented family members took care of the cake, food, video, and photos; and friend who is a DJ provided music as our wedding gift. Guess which wedding was more beautiful AND more enjoyable? Spending tens of thousands of dollars on a party is completely absurd. Put that money in your reserve fund and get married at the house.

I like to have pancakes for breakfast Everyone: Dave Ramsey: What’s your household income?

@gb8518

4 жыл бұрын

GRice & Beans 4 ever

@jaysmith6013

4 жыл бұрын

g b Or beans and rice

@reganwolf4405

4 жыл бұрын

🤪😅

@galaxystar3450

4 жыл бұрын

I'm cooking beans and rice rn

@nme.00104

4 жыл бұрын

😭😭🤣😆😅😂💀💀💀💀 or sell the car,

It’s pretty ironic when a bridezilla will willingly assume responsibility for EVERYTHING BUT the finances involved

The greater spent on a wedding, the greater someones sense of entitlement and self importance! That would be a red flag to me that our financial sense is in huge conflict.

Impressive. Lots of compassion. Good job, man

At my wedding I only required the bridesmaids and maid of honor buy dress and shoes. As a gift I gave them each an evening bag. I left it optional for them to do their hair and makeup. I also did not expect a gift from any of them, and said their gift was being for me on that day.

It’s amazing thinking back at all the money I’ve spent on being a bridesmaid... 🤦🏻‍♀️

This was 6 yrs ago...i would love an update about the wedding. You shouldn't have to jump thru hoops for other people to say "I Do".... ridiculous.

Loved his advise on this!

I was invited to a friend's wedding in Hawaii and I didn't have to pay a dime. They even bought my plane ticket. People who expect others to chip in for their wedding are tacky. I can see buying your own outfit, but beyond that, nope. The gift you bring should be enough.

Weddings just cost too much sometimes and should just be simple and easy. When I look back I am glad mine was not a mega fancy super expensive wedding.

@KatieBellino

5 жыл бұрын

This bride could do so many of these activities for less.

Im planning my wedding and the only thing my bridesmaids will pay for are their dresses, hair and shoes. I’m taking on the cost of the mani/pedis, bouquet, bridal shower, bachelorette and their bridesmaids proposal gift set... and what Bridesmaid dress cost $400 ?!? Why don’t they go to a David’s Bridal

“No one’s shot at us yet...” 😂🤣 I’m dying!

Solid advice from Dave. Kudos.