Married a guy who was 4 years sober - i was his 5th wife - he had been in 4-5 recovery hospitals, filed for bankruptcy & was homeless for a while. I'd only known practicing alcoholics - never a 'recovering' alcoholic. Thirty years of watching this man turn his will & his life over to the care of god as he understood him - He died two years ago - 34 years of sobriety. I am grateful to AA for his recovery & the life lessons I learned from watching his quiet testimony to this program. This share was sent from him to me. Thank you.

@JamesPiette

9 күн бұрын

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I'm at four years sober alcoholism and addiction, facing divorce after 9 years. I am losing my mind and want my life to end. I feel like God put this clip in front of me because I really needed to hear this. Thank you to everyone who shares their story. God has a plan for all of us.

I keep coming back to this.

@lc-zd4fm

2 ай бұрын

Me too

Bob's message was perfect in timing. I'm just over 4 years in, and my head is utter chaos. I'm judgmental, sarcastic, unhappy. I thought I was getting the hang of this program. I sponsor 10 people, attending meetings and book studies. Yet, I'm depressed. The ideations to end things have been loud and constant. Bob's message that I need to go back to Step 3 made sense. And, after a few tears, that's where I'll be.

@dustinmartinez3024

Жыл бұрын

I have a similar experience, God has given me everything I thought I wanted, a new marriage, a newborn son, good job, and a nice place to live. In all of this , at times, I’ve lost serenity and peace. Somehow God still continues to walk with me. I continue to remain honest with my Sponsor, with the men I Sponsor, and my friends in recovery. I pray that everything is okay for you now 🙏

@elisadelaney7355

Жыл бұрын

Beverly: I hope you are doing well - three months after your post!

@briandavitt9640

Жыл бұрын

I hope you are well I understand your situation well. I know a lot of us do

@jasonjaeger7216

Жыл бұрын

We are here waiting for you with open arms. You are not alone.

@almade3053

Жыл бұрын

I hope you are doing well 🙏. I'm almost 2.5 yrs sober, going through something similar too

❤I AM coming up on 8 years sobriety 😊sober since 5-10-2015 😊AND THIS MESSAGE IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEED!

I don't drink. However. I live my life the AA way. Bob D. He explains my own spiritual sickness.

I meet Bob d when I was 19 now I am 56. I want to say thank you to the Vegas old timers that saved my life with ashtrays brooms and chairs the book the steps and service and rule 62

Its so god dam hard to stay sober and i HATE myself so much for slipping in my recovery ! Pray for me to have strength please

@devanggraini111

3 жыл бұрын

hey, how are you? Praying for you.

@SusejFTW

3 жыл бұрын

Love ya stranger. We're all in this together.

@servandopatino4052

Жыл бұрын

Hope all is well. Think about you.

@juliehelms5179

Жыл бұрын

Oh please don't give up trying. God loves you and me. We're being sculpted and it can be painful sometimes especially if we resist it. He wants us to get rid of things that are holding us back and people who are harmful (toxic) to getting better. I've had so many disasters and setbacks because I wouldn't give up the things or people that are holding or harmful. God is so awesome and so powerful and loving forgiving, a lot of people can't be unless they have Him inside of them. Please don't give up trying.

@alexthagreat2052

Жыл бұрын

I pray for you to have peace in your life.

I work at a treatment center. I played this twice for my patients and they loved it. It also helped me in my own journey as well

Scissors - cut inciscion - cut into (a patient as a surgeon) decision - Cut off the alternatives. What a good angle to step 3 I need help to turn my life over to god. I have Aspergers and trauma, sleepless (bad) and can't think well with stress and sensitivity. Need to find my way by talking with someone. Sponsors want me to get it on my own. Have searched for 20 years in the program(s). This speaker is good in this talk. Maybe god releases me when I least think so. When I stop struggling. But I am so tired that I collapse instead, which is not letting go.

This is what I've been looking for, 7 months clean, having trouble with step 3 💚

@nicodiaz9512

Жыл бұрын

God is Good East Van...

Hi got out of treatment in January from doing 7months I was excited and happy to start my new journey with being sober bt just a couple of weeks ago I had a slip bt I saw it coming n tried to tell on my addiction bt know would listen I had no way of getting to my resources so I started walking n talking n praying long story short I received a phone n now I can find resources so I know how it is to have a slip up all you can do pick ure self up n tell on the addiction to anyone n don't beat ure self up n keep praying 🙏

I love to listen to speaker meetings it helps me alot

im in 100k of debt and im not really employed (freelancer, not a lot of work coming in), and i keep doing this back and forth with my will.. i try to run the show in an effort to get more gainfully employed by way of applying to jobs or educating myself but inevitably i find myself treading water..getting no where.. Then i find myself angry at God that he won't empower me to take care of myself, that its his will for me to live an impoverished life. then i realize that god is the only thing that has ever brought me peace and so i turn my will over. But then inevitably the fear of financial insecurity keeps getting me and i keep taking my will back. not a fun place to be.

@michellebradley63

7 ай бұрын

Come to debtors anonymous. Step 1 Admitted we are powerless over debt, lives have become unmanageable 🙏❤️

@ross_ulbright7779

3 ай бұрын

I am struggling with this too. I think it has to do with my concept of God. I have always seen God as a punisher who wants me to suffer because of all of the things that I have done wrong. I need to envision a God who is always going to bless me and take care of my needs: not my wants...

Really good to hear this!! I'm in recovery and I have no desire to drink or do anything that will make me relapse. I'm feeling the feelings but it's okay. Thankful and grateful! Thank you, it works if you work it!

@ross_ulbright7779

3 ай бұрын

You are worth it!😊

Just what I needed to hear at 22 years sober!

@BoEmery

Жыл бұрын

Me too at 30.

@bernardcarpenter6949

Жыл бұрын

Me as well at 21.

@elisalsla7781

Жыл бұрын

Same 20 years

@jonandrew229

Жыл бұрын

Just give up fighting and realize how hopeless you are

@alerdman2002

8 ай бұрын

I'm 33yr sober.. by the grace of God n " JUST got it" God put me in coda after I walked away from an argument with family...Best thing that ever happen. God is still doing for me when I cannot do for myself he showed me exactly what Bob is talkin about here it was so painful to let go but oh how I reap the benefits are family is actually mending because I let go

I love sobriety, and every sponsee I've had heard Bob D.'s 3rd step experience from me. ❤❤ Such a great story.

This guy is beyond good the most powerful, clear, on point guy I ever heard. If I listen to him daily I will become enlightened

Here I thought I was the center of the universe! & what a show it’d be if I ran it! Luckily I haven’t gotten what I deserve! 8/31/14

This is one of the best talks by a recovering alcoholic I’ve heard in years. The fact that we are not in charge, not the center of the world, was put extremely well. He made me sit up and take notice...who’s running my life? Me or God? Carol B

@janetathey8006

2 жыл бұрын

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@somebodyu.used2know

2 жыл бұрын

Recovered! Not recovering

@DonKyl

2 жыл бұрын

@@somebodyu.used2know Amen

@keithrobilotta3808

Жыл бұрын

I agree, I have been sober 30 year’s plus, and even today my life can be extremely unmanageable!

@christinereplogle6790

Жыл бұрын

@@janetathey8006 1

A fine line between nervous breakdown and surrender. No kidding!

I think this is the heart of the matter of recovery from alcoholism getting rid of self and living for our higher power

Since hearing Bob speak at a conference in Long Island I’ve never heard someone who can explain how the program works..so well that I understand it completely. He’s extremely powerful!!

Thank you Bob D❤️ My favorite AA speaker. Love his 100% humble and sincere communication style. Helped me very much early on in sobriety. Now Almost 3 years sober and needing Bob’s message as much as ever. Like the big book, this talk takes on new meaning over time

6.5 months sober My sister and mom were telling me how proud they were for some reason I can't handle that I told them that it's not a big deal they just kept on and on so I got drunk and drank for 3 days I always sabotage anything good in my life. It's Monday April 1 and I just drank my last beer so there's none to pour out oh well, whatever you pray to ask it to help me, thank you

@raemothership5905

5 жыл бұрын

Praying for willingness helped me a lot. Blessings to you!

@johnmcgrath5698

4 жыл бұрын

Do the steps if you are a real alcholic is the only ans for us

@rowanfrancis9011

2 жыл бұрын

How's it going 7 weeks sober

The feeling that I'm going to be okay washed over me like nothing I have ever felt. Thank God!!

@Johnny-hb3vt

3 жыл бұрын

Because you will be as long as you don’t pick up that drink

@jacoblord735

3 жыл бұрын

That's beautiful. My biggest fear is that I won't be OK. I'm so happy for you

Bob D and Chris R is a big part of my recovery🙏🏻❤️

@kartunechic

8 ай бұрын

Me too! Big fan here

Bob D rocks 🤙🤘 I have learned so much from him this man has saved my life..theres so much watered down AA its sad

I love this talk especially about the insanity of 4 years sober and not working the steps though I thought I had . Thank you Bob for saving my life ☺️

Been on an AA speaker binge for a while, this one kicked it off. I've listened to 30+ since then, this one still really hits home. I'm experiencing the 'second surrender' in my recovery. Quitting alcohol was not nearly as hard as it is to quit running my own life...period. Like Bob says. Nothing motivates quite like pain.

@amycoleman2663

3 жыл бұрын

I’m in a state of surrendering my will again and it’s harder than stopping drinking. I’ve been sober a year and a half and it’s hard letting go of some of my old character defects.

@daniellelichtblau5340

2 жыл бұрын

@@amycoleman2663 I'm in the same spot and it's so painful. I pray to let God take control and do his work. I pray the same is going on for you too

After 2 weeks of struggling with my fears and anxiety after just over a year into my active recovery I needed to listen to this. Ten minutes of Bob is all it takes to change my way of thinking and separate myself from my own dangerous thoughts again and put some action back into the required fields of helping others and newcomers. Thanks bob your the man

@balajip7389

Жыл бұрын

. BBC bb..pppbn .poco. Cllk

I'm in Al-anon as my partner is killing himself with booze. Step 3 really saved me but I've learned I need to do it every day to stay close to God ☝️🌈

@willdenham

4 жыл бұрын

Other side of the fence here, 3rd and 7th prayer every morning.

@Medietos

4 жыл бұрын

babba ruff: How are you a year later now? I also belong to Alanon (AA too),. Have you worked the steps with a sponsor and found spiritual awakening? What does it mean in reality to turn one's life over to God? When I "did" it, I got abused instead (by people). How to know when it is really God?

@itspersonal54

4 жыл бұрын

@@Medietos living in God's will. Doing the next right thing. We are all built with a fundamental understanding between right and wrong. Made a decision. You're making a decision it's nothing physical. The first requirement is that we be convinced that life run on self will(how I want to live, my motives, desires, the things I do to obtain what we want, our expectations of people and situations) will hardly be a success. It doesn't work. Although our motives are sometimes good we are usually always in collision with someone or something. "If only people would do as I wished, the show would be great." We try to be the director but the show usually doesn't come off as we plan, we blame others. After realizing we can't run life successfully we make a decision to let our higher power be the director. Whatever happens, happens. By doing gods will(the next right thing) we become less selfish and self centered which is the root of our troubles. We stay in the present and have faith that our higher power will successfully direct us. If done successfully the 3rd step promises say "...We became less interested in ourselves in ourselves, our plans and designs. More and more we become interested in seeing what we could contribute to life...we became conscious of his presence, we began to lose our fear of today, tomorrow or the hereafter." 99% of this is from the big book pg 60-63.

@tinaquesada6555

4 жыл бұрын

I need this bad a decision to turn my will and life over to the care of God in Jesus name take away all my chapter defect all my son's forgive me so I can forgive others and move forward and put grace back in my life Amen

@leeboriack8054

3 жыл бұрын

We can save someone, who doesn't want to ge saved. We are not God.

Listen to bob d a few times a day . Keep listening to him . It’s like the big book. you read one thing one day . Read it another day and learn something new . Amazing man who can break it down . God bless you bob and thank you

@juleskeane5582

4 жыл бұрын

Amen

@corning1

4 жыл бұрын

Seriously. This guy is a very powerful speaker.

@noway5749

2 жыл бұрын

Or just take the action and find out for yourself....JUST a suggetion

@joshuagharis9017

2 жыл бұрын

Bob is my favorite. So good. And he's my great grandsponser. I, luckily, saw him speak in CT before the pandemic.

@karendowcett

2 жыл бұрын

Agreex

When you said it's a process to receive God in your heart !Amen.I love that. Thank you 🇿🇦❤️

93 days probably not working steps I do 1 and 2 alright 🙏

Bob D explains alcoholism like no one I’ve heard before. God bless

Appreciate the comments. I am 8 years and struggle to get the program. Sometimes I think something wrong with me that i cant discipline myself to get it. First time years ago i got to step 3 and them immersed self into church and left AA. Then i gave up on church after a year. Lost my faith eventually and hated idea of God. Then i gave it a try again last year and got to step 4. Now im on step 7 and I still feel like maybe i should be on 1,2,3. Every day im struggling with "me and I". I am always trying to "run the show" cause its "the right way" cause im " thinking of others"lol! Oh my! This video is exactly what i needed to hear. I dont feel alone or so crazy that theres others too that struggle like me despite x amount of sobriety.

I love this talk in particular. I have 5 months sober and have always been atheist or agnostic. I'm trying to have a higher power, and I find this talk to be so motivating and inspiring! It helps me believe that I can do this.

@pauldavidhaynes8243

Жыл бұрын

Keep going, God will give you signs, I guarantee 💯 ❤

@DavidFuchs-dg9ho

5 ай бұрын

I guarantee God has an amazing plan for your life

💕this is such a difficult step for me as one who walked in darkness and death, and didn't believe. My sponsor said I need a higher power or I will die. I am surrendering to the idea, to the hope as a dying person can be. I am willing or I will die.

@Save.807

3 жыл бұрын

Take it easy on your self as long as you do the steps and have that vital Spritual experance then your on ur way to a new way of living once u continue to help others do service and work the program by then u have a power greater than yourself . Ps who do you think has got u this far 💜🙏🏻📘🕯☮️🌹🦋 and ask your sponsor what was her spiritual experience like . Ready pg 567 in the big book

Where ever you are , I've been in the program for over twenty years and I will be Fifteen months on the third of April and I know you can do it, I hope everyone has a good, sober day and stand strong cause you have God and you woke up to have another day

This is an incredibly raw share. Of fighting through self-will letting go and letting God. ❤

The gift from his entire share is actually understanding… 🙏🏼 Godspeed

Everytime l listen to Bob I get such a lift to my day, 👍

Thank You Some twenty years after my meeting with the man who helped me at my bottom . My dear wife,and I were on our honeymoon driving across Canada in 2018. We spent a good time in Halifax and found a motel on the outskirts of the city. In the morning at 6 am I walked out for coffee from a gas station and found Convoy Run .A street that led to the shore. My imagination grasped the name and I walked toward the beach. There was a small park and a memorial to the brave sailors who ammased their ships there . I remembered my sponsor who had been there as a young man on a Canadian Navy corvette escort ship. A fighting ship protecting the cargo ships from u boats. I thought of his year or so with me as he cared for me and listened even though his beloved wife was passing . The cool grey dawn was quiet and as I sipped coffee I saw him also drinking his on the ship . Waiting to run the Atlantic. I will pray that I can pass on his gift and remember his gentle courage.

If I would have had the ability to overcome alcoholism I would have applied it long ago. When I got a sponsor who used the big book of alcoholics… I was able to not only not pick up a drink The craving was gone, and the obsession was gone. Then I just followed directions. It was truly as simple as that. AA works where Other method fail

Love the great collection of AA meetings etc... some good alkie humor there in some.... thanks a heap U-Tube, certainly helps me with the global Conovavirus shutting people & places down..... 🙏🏽😏👍

@Wirelessrouterpin

4 жыл бұрын

Stay sober, posit yourself to avoid the next relapse, and don't relapse!👳‍♀️

One of the best shares I’ve ever heard ❤

Brilliant Truth. Time and Time again God has done for me what I could never never done for myself. God is the Builder. Thank You Father!

@allencollins6031

Жыл бұрын

🙏

life saving message

@johnboy6482

Жыл бұрын

bless you

this may be my favorite speaker tape I've heard so far

@christopherwilson1868

7 жыл бұрын

felipe lopez check out Russel Spatz aka Russell S, also solid gold. Keep it up brother

@michaelpratt5141

3 жыл бұрын

Yes I agree he's my favourite too the man is a AA wordsmith

@ericlarsenhbeleatherworks4992

3 жыл бұрын

Bob D rocks. Look up Sandy B, Danny T and others. Love a lot of them.

If I think I'm not getting an answer, I usually just need to do something positive while I wait for it.

THANK GOD FOR THIS MESSAGE I NEED TO HEAR THIS AND UNDERSTAND THIS I NEED TO LISTEN TO THIS MESSAGE EVERYDAY IT'S BEEN 14 MONTHS HALF AND I GO THREW THIS THANK GOD FOR AA MEETING IN THE SPEAKERS AND GIVING BACK TO THE NA AND AA. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY IN JESUS CHRIST LONNIE P

@deannakelsay9443

Жыл бұрын

I have just over 14 months, also. 😊 Way to go! 🎉

He nails it

@allencollins6031

Жыл бұрын

Yep

Thank u, I once was what you speak , I will become what u speak

Hands down best talk on the real deal of AA. Less me, more surrender.

@danroley7850

4 жыл бұрын

wait a second amigo ... this stuff Works if you Work it. are you busy? Or are you sitting on your butt? Surrender is Not A Lazy Excuse for 'understanding'. Is it?

@sharonh

4 жыл бұрын

@@danroley7850 0pl

@Medietos

4 жыл бұрын

@@danroley7850 I don't know how to surrender, am too sleep-deprived and sick to get it, and put it off in order to not fail at that too. Isolated, without friends, I have to get better and eat and sleep before completing my steps, since it takes energy to work the steps. How do I turn my will and life over to God? I get it that I have to decide to, and practise. But how do I do it? Is that also a matter of grace of God? Please answer, someone who understands. Thank you so much.

@danroley7850

4 жыл бұрын

@@Medietosdid you notice the swift reactions of other alcohilics interested in easing your misery..? as an antidote to our American frame try doing some research into South Africa drug/ social issues.. an excellent 'english' language comparison.. see.. the Daily Maverick..or eNCA youtube.. we are tied to a culture of hunting trouble..hunt! free your Soul.. rwandaprivatesecurity. Africa Operations

@Medietos

4 жыл бұрын

@@danroley7850 : Too advanced for me I'm afraid, what are you on about?Do you find me daft to ask for help, or are you compassionate? Thanks for giving a life-sign, I'm killing myself with sleep deprivation and stress. Can't get out of it, and God didn't help me despite prayers every day: I'm wanting it too much, trying too hard, I DONT KNOW! I can't drink but am not sober, - and some get sober and free on their 1st meeting! And they can just "take" a sponsor! I have been trying to get a good one for 20 years. I am useless even at AA, which doesn't demand that much. Sorry, now I am a bit self-pitying. What 's the limit between sadness/grief and self-pity? all mixed. How are you doing, wit-head? Wish I were a man, better incarnated in their bodies and more relaxed, humour and ability to be egoistic. I am so terribly co-dependent as well, that I can't get well leaving others behind! I feel guilty! But that is what one has to do, The one place where egoism is right: One's own salvation, one's. easy in theory, but hard when the brain isn't working with the soul.

God is our father, we are his children.

I slipped away from my recovery as and God is the only way

Life unma.... 7 weeks 5 days thanks 🙏🙏🙏

Thank you Bob

Thank you Bob 37 years sober and you hit me right between the eyes. You are a gifted man, and I love you man lol

@TheCaithleen

5 жыл бұрын

Jeffrey Cave r

@janejordan5772

4 жыл бұрын

I can’t stop drinking. I have not had alcohol for hours and the detoxing is killing me. I don’t know what to do.

@janejordan5772

4 жыл бұрын

I need help

@ericbunch2932

4 жыл бұрын

Jane Jordan I hope you have found some help already. If not, take just that first step and go to one AA meeting.

@stevetrivago

2 жыл бұрын

Hope you’re at 40 💪🏼🙏🏼

Thanks Bob, great talk, man explains recovery through his own experience very well, thank God for people like Bob I nearly died a dry drunk, can't beat being in the programme. God bless all 👍 ❤ 🙏🇬🇧🆓📖

One of the best shares I have heard, 100% identification.

Love listening to Bob D. He’s my all time favorite. How he breaks the spiritual journey down is incredible.

This speaker is one of my regular go-to's. Also, Sandy B, Katie P, Astrid H, Bob B, Tom B. I believe speaking about how the spiritual malady portion affects the alcoholic is essential for some to hear. I know I need to. My emotions and thinking get unbearable sometimes. Nothing else I've tried helps except focusing on trying to live the message from the book via these talks.

He explains those little thoughts you have that are just so hard to explain so clearly

Stick around long enough for the miracle to happen! Facts

This is awesome keep coming back . AA works if u r gonna work . 🙏🙏

I am not running the show .I am powerless over everything

Tom B. put the first three steps in the simplest terms you can get. I love it. It opened up my eyes more.

Listen to bob and take notes while listening on ideas, thoughts and wisdom that take you into the next steps and evolve your recovery. Talk to Jesus every day and he'll begin to show his work and his direction. You will recognize blessings.

What a great meeting! I needed to hear that and act on behalf of my own behavior (not someone else's like previously thought). I need to surrender- not run the showwww!!!!

I’m grateful I decided to listen to this tonight.. There is a thin line between a nervous breakdown *insanity and surrender.. God’s trying to move me into a collapse that will change my life - Bob D 🙏🏼 Thank you… I understand so I have to be…. I must be! On the right path 10/15/2020 I surrendered to alcohol and it’s isms to the best of my abilities.. Perceptions have changed and continue to change… I’ve accepted the journey that never ends… Through the Best of Times and those Darkest of Times that seem to sneak up on us, as well as the sudden tragedies that alter our lives… *We just don’t drink…Alcohol is no longer the solution… Godspeed

I’m sober for 660 days but my life is a mess. I caused chaos in the year before I stopped drinking without knowing it. Now I’m crushed by the emotions and the pain. I was ok three years ago but now I’m broken.

God bless you Bob D. 7/21/19 a day at a time

There are always so many golden nuggets in recovery and this share was played for us in treatment and changed something in me 10 months ago and was pivotal in one of my turning points. Ever grateful for this way of live and this share.

This guy is telling my story

What a great story teller! This is the second talk of Bob’s I’ve heard and I have gotten so much out of each of them. He’s such a blessing and had a unique look on life.

Easy to stay sober. Hard to get sober 🎉

@marcperrot3339

4 ай бұрын

I'm the other way around. I have found it easy to not drink once I made a decision. Staying sober is a different game

I pray that God continues to bless us and our sobriety ❤

Bob D is great- thank you for your service wherever you happen to be!

I need prayers. I can not sleep. I have not lost the desire to use. Carol

@FishRfun

4 ай бұрын

I hope and pray for you to find the strength not to pick up

May God Bless and Keep you Bob D

great speaker

It'll be alright just hang in there I'm 21years sober I turn will and life over daily if not I'm inside myself with no room for god

I walked away from my higher power long ago I'm ready to take step 3 now and return to the higher power once again

Excellent speech I needed to hear this soooo bad

I’ve just had the same thing Uno Echo 🙏 I’ve been struggling with fear, justifying and self will. Struggling with sponsors suggestions vs my wants. This share has most definitely helped. I’ve heard this share before but this time it was different.

Straight shootin' telling it like it is.

Thank you for posting this.

Thank you, Bob D.

Love the Service. Great experience shared.

@leacalhoun3774

8 жыл бұрын

up GB job by in nnv

Thank you for sharing. Only 5 minutes in and already touched.

Bob, thank you for that. Great talk.

Thank u good brother!! 🙏🏾♥️🙏🏾

Keeping me IN the program! Gratitude thanks

I'm about to pick up some sponsees. This is exactly what i need to hear. ❤

@michaelbell2701

4 жыл бұрын

Michael B. I'm also Michael B. This will not only save others, this may also save ME...

If you're in a room of AA give your self a bit of credit for making an effort to get help. We're not all that bad! You made the effort! You have the power to change! 😆

Люблю Боба,он меня вернул перевернул.На десяти годах трезвости.Не могу только его найти,спасибо сказать.

His talks really have put my alcoholism into perspective

I know bill w..founded the path to recovery..but bob d made it real