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Went on my first date in two years last week. It was just a coffee meet up, but we spent an hour or so talking. I was able to get a little bit of information about him and his life. He did mention the dating site and how one of his dates was an ex stripper. I couldn’t tell if that was bragging or not. We texted back and forth during the week. He has a Mon-Fri job, but mentioned meeting friends for a game in the morning and then was out having drinks in the afternoon and was waiting to have drinks with friends in the evening. It kind of turned me off. I had a day at work yesterday so ended up not making plans to go out with him today. I guess I just don’t want to spend time with someone who’s unsettled in life and just playing the field. That was the impression I getting from him.

High-quality men are everywhere I found my husband and fell in love at a group meet up of a sci fi club because we had similar interests it's just blossomed. I wasn't looking. Just take sometime to find out who he is and don't look at every date as a potential husband but decide if you even like each other. But I made it clear after a few dates I was now looking for longterm and marriage but wanted to wait for right person. If the run then they are a not for you.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Well said!

@nonasmith2405

Ай бұрын

@@lizmcgill look for book clubs volunteer there may be sci-fi clubs near you I actually usually liked men older but he was younger by about 4 years still married over 30 years later but I dated a lot before finding him and checked them out. I lived with some previous as well. A coffee date is just people getting to know someone in my view.

You don't start a conversation with deep subjects. It's gradual for both. Most men don't have a clue what to do when they see a profile with substance. They do feel intimidated because they're looking for a woman who will need them. You don't need 6 or more pics, just a couple clear ones. Most guys want sex so if you offer anything else, it drops rather quickly. They are not willing to put any effort into building trust. Everything is too quick and too easy. No woman wants to babysit an immature guy either.

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

So True… yeah 👍

I'm 65 and I do not feel "old" at all, I take offense to her saying she is "old" and therefore can't move on. She has a negative attitude towards life and that negative energy rill drive men away. Self care such as daily exercise, and socializing out in public can help to lighten a negative, depressed and anxious mood.

@user-js2jb4ec9y

Ай бұрын

I don't feel old either at 63; however, I am not going to stop dating and miss out on many years of my life because I sure as hell am not getting any younger. I actually am very positive and self-confident except when it comes to my FWB guy. I can't explain it, but anyway, after seven years he began making me feel like shit. I purposely ended it and made him go away, but you don't know how much I regret that and want him back. I'm not stupid and do realize letting him go was for the best, but it is making me very sad and depressed which is not the way I want to be. I hate being miserable. I just wanted to clear things up of what I really do believe. I really needed some good advice, and I wanted to ask Jonathan. G

Thank you so much for debunking the “lean back into your feminine energy” concept. It is mentioned and pushed out as factual on so many channels by so many folks. Also thanks for giving us the option to be off camera during the hot seat.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!!

I prefer to see the highlights, a summary of the best qualities and interests of Men in their profile. I tend to lose interest quickly when they write an entire book to tell about themselves. When men tell me everything in their profile there is not much left to talk about in person. Please keep it short and sweet and ask for the date.

@nonasmith2405

Ай бұрын

If you meet them you might find they have more than what they put down on profile. But in my opinion yes too much might be a red flag.

Jonathon, I really appreciated your response about “loving on your children” for them to grow up to be more well adjusted people. That is so true. I agree with you. 🙌

@ForeverTogether219

Ай бұрын

Yes .. totally agree

There are SO few quality profiles on line that there's little incentive to message. When I do message I include everything Jonathon has detailed and I get back a couple of words, or maybe a short sentence if I'm lucky. Also guys have rarely read my profile - all they're interested in is photos to see if they find you sexually attractive. I've been trying dating apps for almost 8 years now and it's so depressing I could cry.

Gi has co-dependency issues. Never invest yourself emotionally into a fwb! They're only in it for fun nothing more. Situationships serve men better than they do women, as women tend to get attached more easily.

Poor G, she needs help. 🙏🏻 Just doesn’t see the reality.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Indeed

G -- spiff the hair, do up the makeup like a model and, in my opinion, you could be a Cher look-a-like. What does little G want? Take care of you first and foremost.

Hi Handsome Jonathan- I hear you- on energy for dating. Sending you positive energy for your Father. I finally realized that I was an ‘option’. I deleted him. Now- I’m taking ownership of my life! Take time to do inner work. You have a such valuable message in this video. As always - thank you 🙏🏻 😊

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Thanks ☺️

Loved Linda's perspective. Go lady 💕🥂

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

Good Job Today n Everyday. Honestly You tell like it is.. Happy Weekend 💯

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Thank you! You too!

N.I.C.E. great suggestion Jonathon

I enjoy every episode, even if im listening and cant comment, lol. Your advice always resonates!! Thank you. You have to be able to put in the effort. Know thyself!! Love that❤❤😊. My thoughts and prayers are with you going through this time with Connor and your father. 💔😔🫂🙏. Sending loves and hugs!!❤❤❤🫂🫂🫂

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

I appreciate that

"G" needs to learn what her BOUNDRIES are, her self awareness and BUILD her Boundaries so that it becomes her self esteem. The more she builds her own self esteem, the happier she will be, and it will become a self-magnet and others will be attracted to her.

Humans are imperfect. Learn from eachother.

Thank you for having me on the hotseat for this show. I was feeling very badly and really needed some advice. I believe I do have self-confidence except when it comes to my former FWB guy. I can't explain it and don't know why I allow myself to be treated like shit by him. I am very independent and always have been. That's why I wanted to end things with him, but now that I did, you don't know how badly I want him back. I realize getting back with him is not an option. I just feel worse losing him forever than it did to be treated like dirt by him sometimes. I know that does not make sense and makes me look weak and like a doormat which I was when I was with him to an extent. I am hoping I meet someone "hot" like him someday and am able to move on with my life. Thank you Jonathon for the advice. I really appreciate all your help and understanding. G

@lizmcgill

Ай бұрын

Hi, I am sorry you received so much judgment and mean comments. It took a lot of courage to put yourself out there like that. It's really hard being alone.

Sorry to hear you lost your father. And now and anniversary of your son’s loss. Praying for you. I love your podcasts. I’m getting better now after listening to you. Not dating. Just focusing on myself and my new job. I’m happy.

Yes, I agree with this video!

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

👍🏼

Jonathon, thank you for another great show. Keep preaching it to us. G did the best thing for herself to let this guy go. He's no good for her soul. Jonathon's advice was 100%. I wish her the best.

@user-js2jb4ec9y

Ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Agreed

I DEFINITELY have to feel someone's ENERGY to build any kind of TRUE Connection with them.l trust my Instincts.💯💯

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Yay!

@leoneedham764

Ай бұрын

❤️‍🔥😇❤️‍🔥

It was emphasized "we should know ourselves" for example our a.fears, b.insecurities, c.doubts, d.judgments, e.negative patterns, f.limiting beliefs, g.triggers. ..... I might add self-awareness is also about coming to understand the origins, causes and roots of all these things, and how they have developed, evolved and sometimes became entrenched over time.

I just met a great guy thanks to some of the guidelines you yell at us about. ❤❤❤

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

That is awesome!

@CrucianAngel

Ай бұрын

❤❤ Ditto 🎉

@renette0506

Ай бұрын

🤣😂🤣 love the "you yell at us about" ... hilarious.

Based on the criteria for “elderly” Apple co-founders Jobs and Wozniak would now be considered elderly!

Hi Jonathon, You have given the second caller really good advice. Most of all like you I think this beautiful soul needs to do some reading on self development. Finding purpose in her life through doing volunteer work will help to build up her self esteem. Once she has worked on this area of her life the good looking bad boy will lose his appeal as she will realise that she is worth so much more.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Wow, thank you

i used to believe that kids with no trauma have less problems until i saw my friend's brother destroy himself with alcohol... his childhood and family life was perfect. there was no reason for it that anyone could see.. so now i can't believe that perfect chilhood creates more adjusted adults. i now think that trauma can happen at any time in life and we are always children at our core...

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Well said

@ Corinne: thank you for clarifying that just because we are in our 60s does not disqualify us at all! and who cares if we’re not considered mid-life anymore (not sure why Rosa kept saying that 🙄). How we feel, love our lives and care about others is what matters. I still feel like I’m in my 40s and people can remind me of my age all they want, but I don’t care. 😉 And maybe if they’re lucky, someday they’ll be in their 60s too, so I guess they’ll just be miserable thinking that they’re old. Their choice but ridiculous!

Very sorry you lost your dad, Jonathon...plus the anniversary of your son's death. That is a whole lot to deal with. I'll pray for you. God bless!

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

🙏

She’s living in a fantasy world.

Jonathon, I totally DISAGREE that someones profile is the primary reason they are not attracting quality people. From my experience, 99% of guys only look at the pictures and NEVER read the profile. I am very specific in my profile of what I'm looking for but instead I constantly receive responses from guys who share absolutely nothing in common with me. I truly think when it comes to online dating, people just toss spaghetti against the wall to see if anything sticks! These guys are trying to date someone totally out of their league - much older men and guys who look like they crawled out of the woods.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

That's not exactly what I said...

@suev926

Ай бұрын

@@JonathonAslay Okay, thanks so much for reading my comment and replying, I really appreciate it. I will take your word on that, that is not exactly what you said. So, any advice on what I can do to avoid receiving all these likes and messages from guys who obviously are nowhere close to being any sort of match to my profile? Currently, I just ignore their likes or messages. However, some days, I feel like that is all I am receiving. And sometimes, they will continue to like or message me multiple times.

That was a good movie

Seems that Gi has PTSD. Probably from childhood. Her conversation just now is symptomatic of neurological dysregulation. Check out the KZread channels of Irene Lyon or Crappy Childhood Fairy. She needs healing for her neurological injuries. Not many therapists know anything about that so ask about “Somatic Experiencing” a la Peter Levine.

I'm apathetic right now...and don't give a rat's ass about AI. Wow, I can't believe a girl felt "safer" to see thru the apps. I am done with the apps, I believe if I am destined to meet somebody, God will send him. Yes, both my exes I met through others I knew...either in college or a support group! I have an 84-year-old roomie and her grandson and I have to help her with the technology. How can the right man see me? is a good question, Jonathon. My bank, PNC, still has an office I can visit and talk to the tellers/workers, thank God. I hate this impersonal new world.

Whether the vlogger is pro women or not they both tells women what they must do. Unreal!

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

I said both genders do this...

Love the video but I have a question for you or anyone that wants to comment. In the last 3 years I have been on several dating sites unfortunately most of the men on their have turned out to be scamers... Yes I have gotten a lot better at reading the signs now, but I would like to know how l can avoid them all together... Other than just not going on sites at all because this is where I am at right now. I don't go out often so yes from what you are saying, dating sites are the way of the world now. Thanks in advance for your replies ❤❤

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Do a FaceTime within one week of communication

Omg…I’m sorry but the Second Lady, wow. Jonathan, July 3rd right?

@Sherryyahoo

Ай бұрын

Jonathan, take care of just you today. 💕💜💗❤️🩵🤍💖🤎💙🧡💛💚❤️‍🩹💓💓

Let’s talk about people as they age in their 70’s and 80’s and older. Some people might die and cause a deep hurt in their partner. What do you think about this! Blessings

@JonathonAslay

29 күн бұрын

Yes, that will happen

You are funny.. 😅

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Thank you 😊

No one is saying women do nothing but “submit” in their feminine energy. There is obviously a lot more to it than that. Stop twisting it.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

There is a whole community called Red Pill that suggests that...

Hi!! Please remind me how to reach out to you for private session.

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

Www.jonathonaslay.com/coaching

❤

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

❤️

Your interaction with G was very sweet. You are a very caring person. 💜

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

😊 thank you

Frustrating 😢

Everyone deserves to be loved. 💖 Except Charlie Manson, Hitler, etc of course

@JonathonAslay

Ай бұрын

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Jonathon, G lives near you. She could date you

@renette0506

Ай бұрын

😮😮😮

@Ruth-vy1qj

25 күн бұрын

She not a match for him anyone will know that. She need to work on her self not think about a man . Her self esteem is to low. I hope she take advice Jonathan and others said. Many men that not good will take advantage of her not just sexually. She need read his book Self Love, she a therapist, pastor, volunteer to others . Hopefully a community organization will give her something she enjoy.