BEST OF 2020: Combating the Lies That Can Destroy Your Marriage - Dr. Greg Smalley & Dr. Bob Paul

Our culture promotes relationship myths and fairy-tale expectations, and these lies are affecting your marriage! On this two-day Focus on the Family broadcast, Dr Greg Smalley and Bob Paul bring hope and healing to married couples by exposing the truth behind these Love Lies. These lies include: living “happily ever after”, losing your individuality after marriage, relying solely on love, sacrificing who you are, meeting each other’s needs, irreconcilable differences, working hard to earn your spouse’s love, trying to “fix” your spouse, and compromise. While each lie contains some kernel of truth, Greg and Bob breakdown the myths to explain God’s design for marriage.
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  • @vernaharris4700
    @vernaharris47003 жыл бұрын

    I like the idea of looking at marriage as a journey instead of a constant quest for happiness. It is nice to hear this coming from men.😊

  • @whatdidujustsay2094

    @whatdidujustsay2094

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes.

  • @christineskead1663
    @christineskead1663 Жыл бұрын

    Please pray for my sister and her husband....they sure need a MIRACLE

  • @emilymclane5965
    @emilymclane59652 жыл бұрын

    Still my favorite video on marriage hands-down. I watch it again and again

  • @arthurmartin4095

    @arthurmartin4095

    Жыл бұрын

    Qqqq

  • @arthurmartin4095

    @arthurmartin4095

    Жыл бұрын

    Q

  • @arthurmartin4095

    @arthurmartin4095

    Жыл бұрын

    Q

  • @nnylasoR

    @nnylasoR

    4 ай бұрын

    Glad to hear that… I just pushed play.

  • @veravandyuk1005
    @veravandyuk10053 жыл бұрын

    Thank you so much for what you do for those who really need help to learn how to become more like Jesus in our marriages

  • @MonicaElaineSolis
    @MonicaElaineSolis3 жыл бұрын

    This is one of the BEST marriage programs I’ve ever seen 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽! No more unity candles 🕯 blown out at weddings!

  • @j.san.7685
    @j.san.76853 жыл бұрын

    Great insights! The points resonates with my personal situation. I am relieved that I am not the only one who gets stressed during our family vacation. My husband‘s idea of vacation is different than mine 😊.

  • @nccrchurchunusual7990
    @nccrchurchunusual79902 жыл бұрын

    The problem of focus on the traditional "becoming one" is that one day, one of us is gonna die, leaving the other behind... each person must have their own identity to live on. Ultimately, The Lord is the real focus and He is at the end of it all.

  • @cbak1819
    @cbak18193 жыл бұрын

    I love this broadcast!! Ty Jesus

  • @lorrainehlatshwayo7749
    @lorrainehlatshwayo7749 Жыл бұрын

    Thank you so very much,focus on the family,my name is Lorraine and I'm listening from South Africa,

  • @kristindowner9897
    @kristindowner98973 жыл бұрын

    Thank you for adding the humor to the “owner places”! It’s like the spoonful of sugar that helps the medicine go down! After laughing my way thru Mr. Paul’s description of he and his wife on vacation- ( because it is SO us!!) 😂 now we’re just gonna have to tackle some “owned” and listen to this podcast... together. Thank you.

  • @Thankful305
    @Thankful3053 жыл бұрын

    Didn't Eve blame the enemy/serpent ("the serpent deceived me, but I ate") ? And ... Adam blamed Eve? Maybe take responsibility, listen to what The Lord tells us to do in His Word and do it? Blaming the enemy gives him too much power! Greater is HE, Our Father which art in heaven ♥. Absolutely ask the Lord ..."To see with His eyes and feel with His heart. AND it will be there in abundance."!!

  • @carolynndawula6294
    @carolynndawula6294 Жыл бұрын

    Very Interesting Practical Insights to pushing beyond 20 years. Thank you Lord for FOCUS ON THE FAMILY Platform and to the Teams for moving in Obedience!

  • @mmp495
    @mmp495 Жыл бұрын

    Great topic, so many key points in this discussion. Keeping this in my library.👍

  • @candacemoore3310
    @candacemoore3310 Жыл бұрын

    This interview was fantastic! So much insight and wisdom. Thank you for sharing!

  • @debbiesibley7266
    @debbiesibley72662 жыл бұрын

    So very true! Thank you for setting us straight!

  • @joelmcmahon8431
    @joelmcmahon84313 жыл бұрын

    Man these guys are the experts

  • @hellamunteanu5
    @hellamunteanu5 Жыл бұрын

    I m so blessed to hear so many life experience about Marriage.

  • @lofi5235
    @lofi52353 жыл бұрын

    Great insights! Thanks for sharing your expertise and knowledge. Blessings.

  • @anavenegas7826
    @anavenegas7826 Жыл бұрын

    Great godly knowledge

  • @Jeremiah-xb2lh
    @Jeremiah-xb2lh2 жыл бұрын

    Become 1, we are individuals and will always be. When we marry we support, respect, protect, honor, forgive AND LOVE each other. We put "our" marriages as a priority as 1 unit therefore we become "one".

  • @annatevesbanzon1359
    @annatevesbanzon13592 жыл бұрын

    I love that 💡 idea! Day on day off

  • @lebrasilhexa
    @lebrasilhexa2 жыл бұрын

    This series focusing on couples are very inspiring and helpful. But I'd suggest to also include singles in the Family! Maybe interviews with singles and how they build up His family!

  • @mmp495

    @mmp495

    Жыл бұрын

    Absolutely! Start discussing this before going into relationship and marriage👍

  • @jennypalayatha2346
    @jennypalayatha23462 жыл бұрын

    Thnku so much this has been really insightful 🙏

  • @chrisbajema8002
    @chrisbajema80022 жыл бұрын

    What do you do when you’ve lost the fight you’ve been fighting for ??? Realize I’ve been all wrong. Admit I can’t and He can and ask Him how I can be a better husband

  • @justtruth8310
    @justtruth83103 жыл бұрын

    Hi I need to be able to translate this video into Portuguese for my wife.

  • @jenniferwhiten1884
    @jenniferwhiten1884 Жыл бұрын

    Is there one in Ga ? Contact info ?

  • @marshallhall2140
    @marshallhall21402 жыл бұрын

    " Witness ".....

  • @billywinningham691
    @billywinningham691 Жыл бұрын

    KJV GENESIS 2;24 Last phrase and they shall be one flesh

  • @tam4givin
    @tam4givin2 жыл бұрын

    They have no idea what narcissists are and blindly convince people to stay in the horrible abuse, causing horrible emotional and Spiritual abuse. 😢🙏🏼😢🙏🏼😢🙏🏼 You are not healthier when you are told there is hope when there is not.

  • @shadiaesen9218
    @shadiaesen9218 Жыл бұрын

    Interesting how the Dr sound a bit like John Piper.

  • @Kiki-fe2le

    @Kiki-fe2le

    Жыл бұрын

    It's eerie

  • @debbyseguin7131
    @debbyseguin71313 жыл бұрын

    Literally NONE of this advice works, and is actually counter productive, when any type of abuse is present. Abuse in “Christian marriage” is RAMPANT and a major reason is because organizations like this will not look at the reality that many women of faith are dealing with. FOF advice puts the responsibility to FIX the marriage on the wife instead of holding the ABUSER accountable. SOMETIMES IT IS ONE OF THE SPOUSES. I took it for 32 years. Been out 3 years and just now feeling whole and at peace.

  • @mchristr

    @mchristr

    3 жыл бұрын

    I listened to the entire broadcast and didn't hear anyone in the discussion suggest that the onus for marital success rests with the wife. In fact, at 23:30, Dr. Paul stated that it's NOT his wife's responsibility to meet all of his needs. Could you be more specific? Blessings.

  • @lauramorra

    @lauramorra

    Жыл бұрын

    Narcissistic spouse is unhealthy, it's ok too still be commited to Christ

  • @goodmorningbeautifulhumans1638

    @goodmorningbeautifulhumans1638

    Жыл бұрын

    Professional victimhood and blame will not serve you my friend. Get back to the Bible and out of your ego

  • @mmp495

    @mmp495

    Жыл бұрын

    You are correct. If abuse is present in the relationship the spouse, wether it be the man or woman must get out for one's safety. The focus is on how to improve an already commited and healthy relationship. Abuse is at a very unsafe and unhealthy level and needs a different approach. Wishing you further strength and peace. 🙏🙏🙏

  • @LadyBug31705

    @LadyBug31705

    Жыл бұрын

    Yes, with abuse present this approach doesn't work. One person cannot make a relationship work by themselves. It requires 2 active participants. I believe this was addressed in the video.

  • @laurieannJake
    @laurieannJake2 жыл бұрын

    Wow this was incredible! I’m impressed We need the retreat, hope restored really badly I love this advice and approach!!

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