The first story made me laugh. My wife and I are pretty conservative and Catholic. We had a traditional Catholic wedding. My little bro was my best man, but my two “groomsmen” were my closest friends at the time. Both are women and one of them is a lesbian, she looked awesome in her lady-tux. My very conservative Mexican parents had zero issue. That boyfriend is a dingus.

@kaelanime7750

6 ай бұрын

Funny thing is, if he watches CNN and MSNBC, he's not exactly conservative.

@thierryntoh24

6 ай бұрын

Then you aren’t actually conservative

@arhael3594

6 ай бұрын

@@thierryntoh24 You are confusing conservative with fundamentalist.

@thierryntoh24

6 ай бұрын

@@arhael3594 I don’t think so. He’s sounds more libertarian than conservative

@arhael3594

6 ай бұрын

@@thierryntoh24 There is no way to know, if he is conservative or libertarian. You are falsely equating conservative with intolerance and bigotry. Someone can be 100% conservative, yet, be tolerant and accepting of others. Likewise someone can be liberal, yet, intolerant and bigoted.

He was obviously trying to isolate her from her support group

@azunkor422

3 ай бұрын

Serious "nice guy" vibes from him

1. Story: Bro run. 2. Story: What is wrong with those people

@amatsumikaboshi5561

6 ай бұрын

Story 1 is basically they were incompatible from the start but the fiancé wasn't completely honest with him. She clearly didn't like him either and he's admittedly a dick

@Maninawig

6 ай бұрын

Story 2: I am still wrapping my head around it. But apperantly the sister is entitled and persuasive.

@michal31131

6 ай бұрын

Story 1: happy that the friend found out that dude was a piece of shit before the wedding and and hope they cancelled it. Story 2: a shame OP found out her husband is a piece of shit after their wedding and getting pregnant. The sibling is a deplorable human being that needs to stop leaching off her family. Hopefully OP gets a better man.

@loneIyboy15

6 ай бұрын

@@michal31131 Story one featured a dude who's been lied to from the start, and decided to try marrying an "independent woman". The fiancé's response it to tell him to kick rocks because she doesn't care about how he feels.

@the_seeker.entity9206

6 ай бұрын

Don't really trust all of story one. Also having a GF with a bestie that they used to make out with is my greatest nightmare

Story 1: ngl this sounds like a rushed relationship. Not even comfortable enough with him to admit your sexuality?

@-letspretendidontexist-8479

6 ай бұрын

as someone whos bisexual i dont really blame her. youd be surprised how many both lesbians and straight dudes and vice versa are willing to dump you for being bisexual because of the fact they think youll cheat on them...for some reason. just cuz you like both females and males.

@Chonkula

6 ай бұрын

Speaking as a bi person, LOTS of (mono-sexual, aka, gay, lesbian, or straight) people are insecure about dating a bisexual. Some dingdongs have the idea that being attracted to more than one gender means we're going to cheat or dump them for someone of a different sex. People of every sexuality are capable of cheating, that doesn't mean they're going to do it. Sheesh.

@minus606

6 ай бұрын

This tbh...its just clearly very rushed. D admits to not feel comfortable to addmit that to him and that they generaly alredy had some issues....why did she even decide to marry him again??

@Zellonous

6 ай бұрын

​@@-letspretendidontexist-8479your competition doubles. Also "girls night" or "boys night" is now suspect. I can see it.

@JustinAdamson270

6 ай бұрын

​@@-letspretendidontexist-8479I mean they will bisexuality is based on having sex with two sexes so therefore two people and this woman is delusional and mad her man is adding his wishes to his wedding women need to stop acting like the wedding is all about them and this dumb woman isn't emotionally mature for a relationship especially if she's picking friends and family over her supposed partner

The OP's mom in story 2 "supporting" her after the affair as a way to try to guilt her into still supporting the sister bothered me the most.

@Thaddius0

5 ай бұрын

its crazy how often shit parents try to manipulate their older kids to bankroll the spoiled child. there is no end of other peoples money they are willing to throw away as long as they dont have to pay for it themselves. what a weird dynamic

@0palOpal0pal

5 ай бұрын

That made me so angry, too. I wish OP would've kicked her right out as well, but I know that family relationships are never so cut and dry and that you can't always do that.

Story 1 bro the bf sounds like a controlling jerk. Thank God he showed his true colors before D got married to him

@nimamoradi2779

6 ай бұрын

Well d never showed her true colors to him

@Nitro89

6 ай бұрын

Dont forget gaslighting everytime he said your being this/that he was trying to gaslight her

@AqcaPi

6 ай бұрын

​@@nimamoradi2779 The fuck you mean? She did, he didn't like and tried to gaslight her into a perfect version for him. Weird ass dude

how hard is it to respect your partner 💀

@KarmaTube5

6 ай бұрын

It’s not hard. People don’t understand when the husband or wife need you on their side, that’s the moment that defines how you treat them and what kind of person you are

@loganryoung2384

6 ай бұрын

For some idiots, extremely. The husband to be quite honest, failed at being a spouse. The sister was honestly the worst thing to happen to both of them and is a homewrecker, but it doesn't change what happened. He failed at being loyal and he got what that gets you: a traitor's end.

@ae1103

Ай бұрын

Apparently it's fucking impossible

@holeymcsockpuppet

Күн бұрын

Women don't respect men anymore because we are their oppressors. Men don't trust women because they lie by ommission, AND if we set ANY boundary, we are controlling and insecure. You cannot and should not trust anyone who emasculates you because you have boundaries.

Story 1 - bruh. What did Dee ever see in this guy? I can't imagine how much work she did undoing the damage her stupid fiancee did to her friends. He's a full bingo card of insufferable and repugnant. I'm glad that Dee finally snapped out of her daydreams and smashed the rose tinted glasses. Story 2 - cheaters always think "it doesn't matter if I'm caught because my spouse wouldn't dare throw away our relationship and our invested time together". Don't bother trying to fight for someone that cheats on you after barely two years into your marriage. Paul is such a creep and a loser for trying to pass all the blame on op's sister. Op's sister isn't sorry. She only feels bad now that all of the consequences are piling down on her and nobody is going to pay for her education. She needs to get a freaking job.

@JustinAdamson270

6 ай бұрын

What damage lol they overstepped friends don't get to do whatever they want without consequences from the friends spouse

@goatrat1154

5 ай бұрын

what the fuck are you talking about, did you not hear a single thing said in the story, or are you simply that dense? @@JustinAdamson270

@Owl_bee

Ай бұрын

@@JustinAdamson270so you think giving your best friend a nickname is overstepping? You’re a walking red flag aren’t you?

That dude from story one is from the 50's, damn

@holeymcsockpuppet

Күн бұрын

No. He's getting married to a woman who wants to have s3x with her FEMALE best friend who is still in their lives. These are two red flags that destroy marriage. Everything after that is his limbic system intentionally destroying the relationship because he cannot just step up and tell her he doesnt want to marry someone who is bi and whose best friend was a former partner. And yes, OP and her best friends are/were partners. You don't make out repeatedly over the years and discuss dating with a "friend". And just to be clear, any two women that do this repeatedly do MORE than kissing on the lips. They kiss both pairs of lips. He found out about their past, realized his fiancé is hiding it (third red flag), and rather than walk away, he's torpedoing the relationship.

Story 2 : I know it could be fake but anyway, if the sister really felt so bad about getting money from op, she'd have tried to find a job, she's just lying and don't want ppl to see her for what she is : a gold digger. Also the parents basically pushed all the financial responsibility onto their first daughter and were fine with continuing to do so and allow the second brat to just leech off and never trying to to support herself. (They even tried to get her to continue to support the sister financially despite that huge betrayal, that's beyond disgusting) Even if op was okay paying for her sister, the parents should have stepped up to tell their youngest to start providing for herself bc she can't just rely on big sis's financial support forever, especially since she was going towards a master degree, she's old enough to understand that. The blame for her conduct is a bit on everyone even if it is on it's great majority on the sister, she's an adult and should take responsibility for betraying her sister, but on the other side, the parents let big sis doing too much of their job and she ended up spoiling her sibling so much that she sees her as nothing more than a piggy bank...

OP in the first story should take the advice of OP in the second.

Story 1 is 7 years old and no new updates. WTF! No closure. Aaaaarrrgh!

How did the guy in story one ever reach the point where he’d be considered marriage material? And further, why would you blow everything up just BEFORE the wedding?

@BaeBunni

6 ай бұрын

If I had to guess in small doses he isn't that bad. And 9/10 the test of a relationship is major stress inducing event like a wedding, or even a home remodel where it's harder to keep facades up.

@f687sNFM

6 ай бұрын

"i can fix him" is usually why

@jwo122

6 ай бұрын

because the op is only focusing on the bf in the worse way possible to portray him as the villain. even with the bit of information the op trickled about the gf we know that the op and the gf had more than a bff friendship in the past with a possibility that something might be still going on and that the gf wasn't truthful about her sexual orientation with her bf/fiance. one things for sure, they shouldn't be in a relationship let alone get married.

@sirjumbly

6 ай бұрын

@@jwo122 Fiance isn't even the bad guy, he's traditional, she knew he was traditional. She is the one who retains a relationship with a "friend" that she was intimate with on multiple occasions. lmaoooooo SHE is the one who isn't marriage material.

@jwo122

6 ай бұрын

@@sirjumbly I'm not sure the fiance has zero fault but I do agree that the bf sounds conservative while the gf and op, and their circle are hardcore liberals. if they had a healthy relationship they should be able communicate and come up with a compromise instead of everyone drawing hard lines. there's a time and a place for everything and a wedding is not a place to express one's individuality, especially as a guest.

“We’re both bisexual and made out in the past.” I think I feel an art room coming on…

@artemisia457

6 ай бұрын

nah... he's just an arrogant dick to everyone he considers below him. and since he considers all his fiancee's family and friends to be lowly peasants, unworthy to be around his friends and family, he blew up his engagement. which is for the best, since he seems to be controlling, dismissive asshole to his fiancee anyway.

@Chuckf66

6 ай бұрын

Meh. Don't think so. They made out, so it's not like they got all sweaty from scissoring.

@HeoBaby24

6 ай бұрын

Doesn't make a difference if was a guy and a girl

@HarryVibes36

6 ай бұрын

Well you’re wrong but I guess you’ve figured that one out

@KenW418

6 ай бұрын

Yeah, couldn't date a girl with a guy best friend that she previously made out with a bunch in the past. This is basically that. Red flag.

They call themselves by nicknames because they know each other for LONG LONG AGO. And are nicknames who isn't harmful at all, heck, me and my friend called each other by 2 diferent nicknames in public and online. Even more coming form a guy who is suppose to be "social awkward and nerdy", unless he got a sudden testosterone overdose to the point he became a control freak (Honestly ... i wouldn't be surprise me because the description and way to be on all of this sounds like my sister's ex).

@JustinAdamson270

6 ай бұрын

No they slept together theyre not just friends

@SenseiRaisen

6 ай бұрын

@@JustinAdamson270 that is up to debate. But still, even if happen to sleep together or not, dissing for a nickname is really petty.

Story starts as my friends bf if being to controlling and then OP doesnt even really get to out him since her friend pretty much drags it out of her. He pretty much tore down the relationship on his own

Dude out here giving nerds a bad name

This first guy seems like one of those gray square pixies from Fairly Odd Parents but with Ben Shapiro conservatism

Omfg, story one, the partner is toxic and manipulative. Her BFF doesn't mind it, so why create a problem?

@FlamesAndShadows

5 ай бұрын

he probably changed after. There is plenty of movements online rn that preach exactly what he has been exibiting

@khaleesireyna731

5 ай бұрын

Ngl, as a bi woman myself, the BFFs boyfriend/fiance is something straight out of my nightmares.

@violetcwest

Ай бұрын

@@khaleesireyna731 Same

First story: Dude is a giant red flag and she but she's kinda shady too. Hanging out with someone regularly you had an intimate past with and not telling your partner is wild.

@shanittathompson2039

6 ай бұрын

💯

@Centiwing

6 ай бұрын

nah, you can stay friends with them if you know you wont do anything also they didnt even date

@ahmadLp585

6 ай бұрын

​@@Centiwing😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 stay friends with them, what a joke, and so are you.

@darkdragonmoderator5504

6 ай бұрын

​@@CentiwingReally? So you'd be fine with your gf being friends with a dude who JUST fondled her and kissed her passionately and talked about dating? The dude is 100% correct in not wanting his wife to hang out with someone like that.

@ESPHMacD

6 ай бұрын

I mean, I would agree with you but that would mean also telling him that she was bisexual and she said she was afraid to do that with him. If secrets are about/for your legit safety (which seeing how he messaged her gay cousin I support) then it's different. And with the fetishization of bi-women by straight men, can't blame her for being cautious about sharing that. I also think it matters if that person and them can have and maintain healthy boundaries after everything, with respect to the other's new relationships which it sounds like she does. I don't think she should have stayed with him anyway if she couldn't tell him something so integral to who she is (being bisexual), but I don't fault her for not telling him. especially since she got proven right about it in the end.

Story 2: that sister is a nasty piece of work

@rogueshark23

4 ай бұрын

She got a degree in being a w***e.

When story 1 said they made out i was like ' what the fric-'

Please try to remember that there is no way to know for sure if ANY of these stories are even real. One would think there'd be a link to the original story even if said "reddit story" was deleted one would at least get to the page and see it deleted. I'd be wanting to read the comments on the original post for OP replies or even a link to see if there's updates post posting of this one. So until that happens remember to take this with a grain of salt and consider it a soap opera for our desires for juicy drama.

@NourAmsterdam

Күн бұрын

Okay your point ?!

Am I the only one who imagines the guy from the first story as the worst version possible Sheldon Copper?

Story 1: "Watches CNN", I think i found the problem.

@Thaddius0

5 ай бұрын

a man with the 'correct' opinions surely could never be wrong. hes too logical

@migueldelacruz8726

4 ай бұрын

Actually thats where i thought this story was fake. To someone who doesnt know shit about politics, they hear tv station names and assumes things that are wrong. Like if they think fox news is pro abortion. For the guy to be anti gay and semi racist... we know what station hed watch...

She sounds like she's jealous her make out friend is getting married

What can’t this guy do? Bake ✅ Sing ✅ Interior design ✅ Be awesome ✅✅✅

4:20 what.. how does this even happen communication needed in a relationship surely

First story should have the break-up notice come with posting all his messages all over the place to ruin him and his family's image by outing them

The bridal party in the first story is *so freaking sweet* I'm gonna start crying

Story 1 [ I want friends like that ]

“From the room I can hear him saying don’t CARE I don’t give a f for what will happen to you I know girls cheating with they sister husband ain’t that RARE but in my case it was unbelievable for me because of the dynamics we SHARED “ ngl just watched a battle rap video before this and OP was going hard the husband definitely fucked up tho

Story 1 run away for sure dude. Not worth ypur time

Story 1. I dont get why two crealy diferent people could fall in love and reach the point of marriage. Good riddance

The mom is there because she have to pay for the little sister now and she doesn’t want that so she tell OP to reconsider 🤣

"Watches CNN" Yeah, that marriage was doomed from the outset. That guy clearly doesn't live in reality with the rest of us.

@ahmadLp585

6 ай бұрын

Projecting much??😂

I am so glad she is tough as hell and got out of there before they actually got married

Story 1. Get out bro before its too late.

@boblee7998

6 ай бұрын

Yeah they're for the streets dude get out

@HarryVibes36

6 ай бұрын

@@boblee7998perpetually single?

@persi_sws

6 ай бұрын

​​@@HarryVibes36 I agree with him and no i am not single

Story one: Dude is the type to seem like a good match and be utterly perfect... Until the first night after the wedding. Very 'Sleeping With The Enemy' vibes. Yall did good in being there for your friend.

I sense a Tatertot in Story 1.

Story 1: bro, just shut up. Its a cute name

@KawaiiBabyTragon

6 ай бұрын

He revealed he doesn't like "D" because he thinks it's """black""" and therefore offputting, revealing his true colors.

@FlamesAndShadows

5 ай бұрын

Never seen the Wire. What was the nickname? Or is it actually just D?

Marathon of parks and rec? They deserve all the happiness possible, not this toxic marriage

See, I was all there for story two, until she refused to let him even hold THEIR daughter for a last time out of spite. Whatever he did to her by cheating on her, doesn't make that shit alright in the least. I knew she was going to be toxic about it the second she started referring to the child as "MY baby" and completely discounted and removed him from being equally as much a parent. From everything what was described, he absolutely wasn't "Never involved or invested" in the baby. She even admitted he'd go from extremely doting during the pregnancy, to inexpressive, and flip flop back and forth between the two for the entire duration. He wouldn't have ever been doting in the first place if he wasn't invested in the baby. He wouldn't have asked to see her before he left if he didn't care. Also her winning full custody isn't proof of anything- the courts have a known bias against fathers(You can look up the statistics on how men have to fight for years for even partial custody, even if the mother is a proven abusive drug addict it happens far FAR too often, not that that is the case here but it enforces my point about how her getting full custody doesn't mean anything).

I put my wife's fingerprint on my phone, so she can open it at any time, without my knowledge. She didn't want it, I insisted. I know her password. We don't have secrets.

i reslly do hope story 2 is fake/creative writing. what a heartbreak that must be if that's really happen in real life. but if it was true, may God bless OP and her daughter, and from now on she only meet good people who help her into a greater life. and for the husband and op's sister, may karma reach out to them faster w/100times fold of wht they done to OP. cant even imagined being pregnant and birth a child and then get betrayed by her 2 most closest person. ugh...

Watching nothing but CNN and MSNBC is a MASSIVE red flag.

@notting2640

6 ай бұрын

Imagine being a traditionalist but watching those 2 channels 😂 bro is either a hypocrite or a psychopath.

Story 1: Dude was an abuser for sure. How did they even get together? They had zero in common and the guy was a nut.

So you were gonna marry this guy, but you never told him you’re bisexual and that you used to hook up with your current best friend? On a rare occasion, both the future husband and wife dodged a bullet

@KawaiiBabyTragon

6 ай бұрын

Imagine being this fragile about a partner's previous experience. You're sad.

@YouArentSlick

6 ай бұрын

@@KawaiiBabyTragon it wasn’t disclosed for a reason, its dishonest no way around it even if she’s a woman. It’s not about her being gay or freaky, it’s the fact you still are besties with your sneaky link. You’d be a fool to marry someone that confused/out of touch with what they want, that’s why girls like her have to pick from leftover douchebags like her ex fiancée, who else would fall for that?

@skeletor2994

6 ай бұрын

​@KawaiiBabyTragon ok imagine if it was the other way around and the bf was best friends with someone he hooked up with without telling his gf.

@amoththatthinks

6 ай бұрын

@@KawaiiBabyTragonand you are a twinkie. I doubt you will have a good partner with that mind. Unless two transvestite made for each other...

@moonshade3730

6 ай бұрын

@@skeletor2994then it would still be the same thing…

I know in the second story she said she didn’t want/get alimony but I hope she doesn’t get child support if she cut him away from the kid. May cheaters burn but unless the parent is abusive they shouldn’t be cut off.

D the ah for even contemplating going back to him, after he treated her friends and family like that, and talking to her like that, and a plethora of other things

S2: Sister didn't want to be dependent and keep getting the money from the sister, but was totally okay with being dependent on the BIL and getting money from him?! Make it make sense.

The one she should’ve gone with is “fuck no 😂😂”

First story is soooooo fake.

Story 1: This is just bizarre. How do people get engaged when they barely know each other and have a dysfunctional relationship? (he was the AH, she was turning a blind eye to the red flags) Story 2: She created her own nemesis by enabling her mooching sister. Sad & funny.

Dude, the people taking story 1 ex-fiance’s side is insane. How insecure do you have to be to threatened by your partner’s ex still being in their life? Especially when OP and the BFF were never even partners. I think she should have brought up being bisexual, but really just because it woulda saved them both a lot of time. I’m still friends with my first partner and my current one doesn’t give a shit. It’s called having self esteem and trust. Some of y’all need to learn that.

Story 2: I understand that op is more harsh to the sister not because she is going to forgive her husband but because I man you can move on and leave him but your sister/“bestfriend” is betraying you that must be one of the hardest things that can happen to you.

Ask your friend... You never know..

INCREDIBLY telling how so many ppl are on the side of the bigoted traditional straight man rather than the “liberal” queer women

What is the guitar rendition playing in the background? I like it.

what song is in the background

Story 1: what did she expected from a dude that watches CNN and MSMBC

“And would Watch CNN or MSNBC” Oh okay that explains it then.

Guy in story sounds pike he has similar behaviors to me (besides the overstepping of boundries and only hanging out with work friends) so he might eb on the autism spectrum but that is still no excuse for his atrocious behavior. People with autism shouldnt use their diagnosis as an excuse, its just an explanation, we still need to work to better ourselves like everyone else.

Seems like a very pervert narcissist ... He wanted to isolate her from her comfort friends group and leave her alone as a trad wife because everything sounds very trad.

7:26 BRO IS A SQUARE

1st s5ory is so funny and ridiculous i cant actually figure out if fake or not

There is more to story 1 I think.. As if you wouldn't mention to your future husband that you have slept with your best friend. I understand both sides in this one and I think she didn't know how conservative he was and he didn't know how wild she was. Glad they found out beforehand but honestly, why wouldn't they both have discussed their views on life before looking at marriage. Sounded a bit childish to me.

I'm so sad there are no more updates to the first story :(

Dude from 1st story is such a bot

I mean he watches CNN, what do you expect

first guy is what i like to call a victim of the "redpill to involentary bachelor pipeline". a dude who becomes suddenly obsessed with manosphere content, tries to suddenly enforce this bullshit "traditionalist" ideology on everybody and eventually drives all people who loved him away because he much prefered the daydream parotted to him by bold men behind paywalls to the actual touch of a woman and the love of a family. seen many people like this. just shows that a lot of men are as impressionable as toddlers and that ken from the barbie movie was not a satirical character.

@jordanwardle11

6 ай бұрын

There's a term for that: involuntarily celibacy

@clamiyep7008

6 ай бұрын

*bald

@ActuallyHoudini

6 ай бұрын

@@clamiyep7008 i meant bold in like. an ironic way. like "brave and bold".

@clamiyep7008

6 ай бұрын

@@ActuallyHoudini and that was supposed to be a joke xD

@seishin2900

6 ай бұрын

@@ActuallyHoudini Honestly think bald would of been several times more funny as a reference to all the gullible dudes falling for the andrew tate mindset xD

OPs friend should have stuck making out with OP, especially when this is the result. "Your being so irrational" So being homophobic is rational? Or being mad at a "black" name(maybe racist) is? Implying his wife is making the wedding all about her (when she isn't) on the same day he excludes half of her friends/family for his own benefit is rational? He found a good partner and lost her because he was cared more about image, and superficial status than the opinions and reasonable wishes of (supposedly) the woman he loved. He's so irrational and emotional, and such a hypocrite.

@ahmadLp585

6 ай бұрын

Fatherless

@indigofeilds9520

6 ай бұрын

@@ahmadLp585then hell do you mean "fatherless"???? theres nothing to call fatherless here.

@Leonard0F41G

6 ай бұрын

Fatherless, obviously

@persi_sws

6 ай бұрын

​@@indigofeilds9520fatherless

@ahmadLp585

6 ай бұрын

@@indigofeilds9520 "hOmOpHoBiC" Vocab of a fatherless bastard.

21:59 I THOUGHT THAT SAID GENITALS

First story: I hope to someday have that kind of best friend/friends. So much unconditional love there.

Story 1 makes me wonder how they even got together in the first place-I feel like he probably manipulated and gaslit her into the relationship, slowly chipping away at her self-esteem until she couldn’t see how bad things were, and gradually letting his true colors out along the way. Could explain why she stayed with him so long and even tried to salvage their relationship after he revealed that he was undeniably bigoted and controlling

Story 1 fiance sounds like he could have autism.

@bobstevenson3130

6 ай бұрын

Same thing I was thinking, but it's impossible to tell without actually meeting him of course.

"I didn't approve of the nickname" who tf are u ??

Story 1: The fiance is definitely a pompous ass. But, i think it's the OP's friend's mistake to have picked him despite their contradicting morals and principles. Actually, this is not even a mistake. She purposefully hid information from him that would've made him to never pursue this relationship to begin with. Makes one question her intention to be in this relationship as it was obviously not for his personality/compatibility. I don't know OP's intention for this post but, her friend came off as the bigger asshole in this story.

@upgradeplans777

6 ай бұрын

That doesn't seem true from the story... Not giving a detailed list of everyone you have ever kissed is not "hiding information". I think you are probably referring to her sexual identity, but that isn't hiding information either. If the fiance assumed she was never attracted to women, that is his own incorrect preconception. If the fiance has exclusionary morals and principles, then it is his error in not checking their compatibility on that front. I agree with you that it can be hard for anti-lgbt bigots to date non-bigots, but the responsibility for avoiding that situation simply never falls on the non-bigot.

@darkdragonmoderator5504

6 ай бұрын

​@@upgradeplans777It most certainly is. Imagine you're dating someone and they hide the fact that they fucked your sister, best friend or mother because "its not important." Hiding ANYTHING from your partner in a relationship is fucked up, and getting angry at them for finding out you were lying this whole time is 101 gaslighting. You KNEW you did something that's a deal breaker for your partner, yet you CONTINUED to lead them on and play them like a fool.

@upgradeplans777

6 ай бұрын

@@darkdragonmoderator5504 I don't think you are talking about the actual story here. I agree that it is not good to hide things from a partner, I just disagreed that there was information being hidden in the first place. Who you hooked up with in college is (for many people) a very minor detail about their life experience. There is no reason to think she wouldn't have been open about it if asked. Clearly she didn't hide her gay cousin, and clearly she didn't think he would have a problem with her wife at the wedding. It is only the fiance who hid things by going behind her back informing the bridal party about all kinds of changes when she explicitly chose her brother and cousin to be part of it.

@darkdragonmoderator5504

6 ай бұрын

@upgradeplans777 "who you hooked up in college is a very minor detail." No the fuck it's not. Knowing your partners sexual partners is a VERY major part of their history and tells you a LOT about them and the kind of person they are. I would never be with someone who hooked up with people in college just for the fun of it. We call those people sluts. Unless your partner explicitly says they don't care about your sexual history, then you're obliged to share that with them, as well as everything else about you if youre in long term commitment. Otherwise you know that your hook ups could be a deal breaker for whoever you're with, and at that point you're just lying and being a fuckhead by leading a poor guy/girl on. I'm transparent about EVERYTHING in my relationships. I don't care if it's not a deal breaker, my partner has the right to know everything about who they're dating, and I have the right to know everything about them too. She openly kept the secret that she used to be in a semi sexual relationship with her best friend and that they openly spoke about dating each other. To most people hiding that fact would annoy them and be enough cause to break up. She clearly hid it because she clearly knew he wouldn't like it. That's her fault then for dating him in the first place when she knew that about him.

@upgradeplans777

6 ай бұрын

@@darkdragonmoderator5504 So, you say that you are bigoted against promiscuous people and are not open to dating them. (You used a slur for promiscuous women, which has shadow blocked your comment, so I won't repeat it.) I don't agree with that bigotry at all, but it is still your personal choice who you want to date. I have a preference to date people who are sexually experienced. This means that you and I both have an obligation to proactively ask our partners about their sexual history, to see if they are a match for us. People who don't care about the sexual history of their partner have the only default position of not being proactive about it. You cannot simply assume your own preferences as the default, and then say everyone else is obliged to inform you whether they fit your kink. Let's do an analogy: I have fainted twice in my life. This means that I am part of the approximately 1/3th minority of people who are prone to fainting. For sure there are people who don't want to date people who may faint. Probably there are also people who actually like that as a kink. Do I have an obligation to tell everyone I date about this? Obviously not, that would be ridiculous! People don't need to explicitly say that they don't care about it, or otherwise I'd be doing something wrong. If YOU don't care to ask, then the most obvious thing to assume is that YOU don't care to know. Having experienced same-sex attraction or same-sex (kissing) experiences is also something that an approximate 1/3th minority of people have. Being promiscuous is actually quite a bit more common..., the average number of intimate kissing partners is more than 20. You say that she clearly knew his position about this. There is no way for us to know, and I doubt it. Clearly you were unaware about the statistics of promiscuity, and maybe you live in a community of people who are also bigoted against promiscuous people, which can lead to a bias in thinking that. If she has lived her life in a community that has average views around promiscuity, then it would be pretty weird for her to assume he'd be opposed if he didn't actively inform her.

if there was ever a story that made me roll my eyes and go, "Men.", it was story 1... yikes

Anyone else sense D and OP in story 1 are gonna date at some point?

Story 1- ESH. The the friend made out with Op and she didn't tell the fiance? HIDING your orientation is also a giant AH move.

in story one dude was like "it not about the bride it about family" then why you went behind the woman your marrying back? hmm?!

If the nickname was the only thing he didn't like, especially since the 2 had relations in the past i understand his point. Its a boundary and she broke it. But the rest removed the slate of him being in the right. He was wrong.

@FullMoonOctober

4 ай бұрын

He didn't know about the relationship, and no one gets to dictate what nickname childhood friends use for each other. Especially if it's something so benign as their first initial. It wasn't his right to make that boundary in the first place.

Story 1: From jump, strong on the spectrum vibes from that dude.

@ritaerror7829

5 ай бұрын

Then it might be better to get some therapy or not expect people to just go along with his vision without making a fuss. Choose one...

@zeekay3205

5 ай бұрын

​@@ritaerror7829some people never break free from (or are frightened to) abandon the illusion of having control and also facing their fears and discomforts. They really think they can control their whole environment 24/7 including other people like dolls, as opposed to doing the hard inner work of learning, growing and adapting. I think many of us.do this to some degree concerning certain matters but his is overt and to the extreme. Spoiled/Entitled people, sheltered people, selfish people, on the spectrum people and narcissistic people can all behave in these manners with more consistency although for different reasons.

@ritaerror7829

5 ай бұрын

@@zeekay3205 I know. But we also love in society, so it's either them doing the work, or being left behind at some point. Most of those things can't be just controlled, like, if parent raise them that way they might not know any other way, which doesn't mean it's ok for them to hurt anyone or do illegal things

@zeekay3205

5 ай бұрын

@@ritaerror7829 I don't disagree whatsoever. The circumstances that led them to develop these behaviours and beliefs (whether it serves them or not) may not be *their fault* but as adults, it is *their responsibility* to address now. Ignorance usually doesn't give people a free pass from consequences. It might not be fair, but at the end of the day no has to put up with their behaviour/company no matter how valid an excuse they might have if anyone dislike it or doesn't want to deal with it. I think we're on the same page about that. What prompted me to respond was that you stated the options simply as if they were obvious or easy. The correct course of action may be simpler and offer more benefits in the long run overall, but that doesn't make it easy, quick or comfortable. Relinquishing control and surrendering himself to the mercy of his environment in the form of respecting and accepting the decisions of others and facing the root of your distress head on in therapy would be downright terrifying for him I think. Instead the path of least resistance would be to control those he can and drop those who choose to walk away to protect his status quo. But yes I do feel you on the grave disservice he is doing to himself others to such an entitled and blatant degree. It's what makes me suspect something severely psychiatric is going on as he is just doing too much.

@ritaerror7829

5 ай бұрын

@@zeekay3205 sorry if this sounded that way, I ... Don't actually know if I thought of it that way or not I got my own share of problems so I tried to go about it logically, but really, it's hard to comprehend someone not seeing anything wrong with them or feeling it, so while the solution 'seems obvious' I got no idea how that kind of people could get... The push to try and get therapy? Thanks for setting record straight

" watch CNN and MSNBC" WELL! you can see where the problems lies off too.

I bet the guy from first story didn't even knew who were his partner's friends, as she didn't even said that she's gay.

Story-1 the Fiance sounds just way too cartoonishly evil. It genuinely calls into question the veracity of the whole story.

✨🙏✨❤️

Ok if the person called a certain nickname doesn't want to be called that anymore, you respect them. But the bf demanding it? Nah run.

Oh dear. That's a whole Mayday Parade in Moscow worth of red flags. Sounds like his inner Jesus freak bubbled to the surface just in time. There's no hate quite as visceral as Christofascist love.

@wnnm2753

6 ай бұрын

Mayday Parade in Moscow worth of red flags, LOL what a brilliant saying

@Leonard0F41G

6 ай бұрын

“Christofascist love” man you sound like a conspiracy theorist 😂

@Chuckf66

6 ай бұрын

@@Leonard0F41G Well? It's a fact.

Fake

title is click bait. the engagement wasn't blown up. they're still engaged an possibly married for all we know with a FAS like this.

Made me wonder why Daquan is even dating the fool, let alone being engaged. I don't see and points at all how a girl could even fall for that kind of guy.

@skeletor2994

6 ай бұрын

Money

ok first story is so fake lmao

@Maninawig

6 ай бұрын

Sadly, I had a cousin go through that pretty exactly

@LMCorvinus

6 ай бұрын

is the internet, so you never know, but this literally happened to an old friend of mine, her fiance got promoted at the bank he worked at 6 months into the wedding planning and the dude turned into the most insufferable douche anyone had ever seen. now that his big boss was supposed to be coming to the wedding, he took over the planning, messaged everyone involved to the point that by the time the brides family caught on the celebration had been "traditionalized" to the point that it was set to look like it was for the Amish. tried to shame his future wife for her choice of dress, even attempting to call her slutty and inappropriate up at the altar (wasn't even remotely a questionable dress, it showed the shoulders and a very small amount of cleavage through some lace and went to the floor with a train, veil and all. very traditional looking, was her mother's dress that had been altered. wedding got called off right in between them walking down the aisle and the ceremony finishing. dude had a meltdown at his fiance right there and then and would not stop. sometimes that 'Zilla energy kicks in and there is no turning back. this posting actually sounds so much like what went on at that wedding that I'm absolutely positive I've seen what would happen if they went through with it

@Komedi_kimg

6 ай бұрын

@@LMCorvinus bruh tf

@Yellowbeing08

6 ай бұрын

What's your reasoning to that?

@JamesiaInc

6 ай бұрын

I wonder how his boss felt seekng that. ​@LMCorvinus

Well, that guy on the first story just dodged a big bullet

@user-ff5zm7ic4v

6 ай бұрын

story one features a dude who was controlling, went behind his wifes back and insulted all her freinds with misogynistic and homophobic reasons, let her have NO say in the wedding, dose not respect anything she says probally bc shes a woman, dosent even respect her egnough to hold a conversation, he was demanding her around the whole video....he didint, amd dosent care how she feels. thisi donnt think hes the one who dodged a bulit...

@anirudh1833

6 ай бұрын

​​@@user-ff5zm7ic4vthey both are bullets to be honest... Having someone u made out with near u as bff and not telling ur partner is wild. I mean imagine if he had his ex as bff and hung out with her all the time...

Well for the first part best friend is a crappy personality just for how she took the message. Like i would understand if the request was for not using nicknames during the speech that's totally understandable and should formal and respectful with a flair of personable. As for how he was throwing people out left and right for not being traditional.....yikes. hes not great but bf was also aweful

That poor guy dodged a bullet.

"Does this need to be asked" If you want something, you need to ask.

Why would you marry someone like that?

In the first story I would dumb him and go out with my friend telling the story.