Thank you. From the aftermath of a dysfunctional family. I wish I was on your ME Beach when it's warmer.

I have Asperger's syndrome, and I've been studying a little bit about polyvagal theory. I've listened to one or two of Dr. Porges' videos, and currently listening to a book that he and his son wrote. I tend to be in the dorsal vagal mode most of the day unfortunately. So as a result I'm not really engaging with people unless I really try. So as you can imagine my relationships tend to be a little flat, and not many people want to engage with me. But I do have moments like you said, of the ventral vagal. And I'll try what you said also about thinking about scenarios with the three modes .. That seems like something that would really help.

@TenPercentHappier

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing!

@susydyson1750

2 ай бұрын

Surely yr on your way! As you’ve clearly identified all three nervous systems. I have to listen to this fascinating podcast again in one sweep with no distractions

New Years Day & came across this podcast, what a find ! In APPRECIATION for this information !! Exactly what I need to move forward in 2024.. THANK YOU, BOTH 🫶

@TenPercentHappier

4 ай бұрын

Thanks for listening! We're grateful for your new support.

Lovely 🎉

@TenPercentHappier

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for listening!

Nice interview. Though I disagree that having a negative nervous system response to another person simply means they remind you of someone in your past. I find it a bit baffling that a person who specializes in trauma would advise a person to not listen to their own nervous system if they're feeling unsafe, etc.

@tambikhai3601

3 ай бұрын

I would recommend listening again. She's not saying that when you feel a "negative" response, it's only because the person reminds you of someone and there's nothing wrong. What she's saying is that it's important to touch in - there are lots of times when we judge someone negatively unfairly because they remind you of something negative in your past. I've had that happen, and when I realize that, I could see that the person was just fine and I could be nonjudgmental about them. On the other hand, when I touch in to how I feel, and realize that my spidey senses are on alert and I feel unsafe, and I can touch base in ventral to take the appropriate actions to keep myself safe. Can you see the difference?

@writingfromthetopofyourhea2408

3 ай бұрын

I understand that. But she should have added that caveat. @@tambikhai3601

@dariosergevna

2 ай бұрын

@@tambikhai3601how do you “touch base” in central? Do you imagine ventral by imagining moving hands?

@tambikhai3601

2 ай бұрын

@@dariosergevna for me, it's putting my hand on my heart and breathing into what I'm feeling. It's like I'm anchoring my heart so I can feel what's going on inside. In my experience of it, it feels like I'm allowing myself to self-regulate in ventral. Then, I can use my discrimination to evaluate the situation in the present, rather than through the lens of my trauma. Sometimes that sense that something is off is correct, and I can take steps to leave the environment or establish clear boundaries. Sometimes, I get that it's my inner child that's scared. If things are safe, I can comfort my inner child and assure her that I'll pay attention and I'll take good care of her