About anxiety and stress i had an intresting insight (not fully original but i have not seen it stated exactly like that). The "mantra" is "you are right here". So when you are stressed about something you have to do or a difficult thing that is to come, pay attention to where you are, what you are doing now and how your body is just resting in space. The thing you are anxious about is not here, it is an illusion of anticipation. If the thing that makes you anxious is here well that means you are dealing with it rn and you would not focus on the negative aspect of stress because you would be in a flow-like state.

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

i literally love this so much

@tzakman8697

Ай бұрын

@@junnipres I am happy that's the case!

@narrator7364

Ай бұрын

I think what you are saying is called staying in the moment. My uncle told me the 5-4-3-2-1 technique to stay in the moment and I think it works very well, maybe it will help you guys too

This video reminds me of the old days of KZread. No flashy editing, no jump cuts, clickbait etc. i love it

Just existing is enough. People always say, "It gets easier." The truth is, it doesn't. You just get better at dealing with it.

@GazB85

Ай бұрын

^^^ I generally agree with this but sometimes stuff can build up.

@realMarkholla

Ай бұрын

@@GazB85 Stuff does build up, sometimes you are able to deal with it, most times you can't. But surviving hours of mental and physical anguish, changes you. For better or for worse, is not for me to say, but returning back to my original statement, 'Just existing is enough.'

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

exactly!! things get easier when you perceive them as being so, which takes experience and learning. peace and love brother 🩵

@nicklund667

Ай бұрын

I think both can be true. I think that certain things can for sure get better such as graduating from school or getting a car when you haven't had one but I also do agree that how we deal with problems is so important. Things don't get easier on our timetable and that's why it is so important to make the most out of life as it is.

Sometimes I get stressed out about stuff like, if I lose my job or get arrested. Then I remember all the nonsense I had to deal with in the army. Then I’m like “worst case scenario, I die” usually makes me feel better.

*it's still you. despite everything, it's still you.* that has been one of my favorite quotes lately. we are all still ourselves and thank God (or science if you're atheist ig????) for that. going forwards, let's all be a little bit kinder to ourselves and stop wasting time thinking about what could've been. additionally, if you're working towards something, let the time pass. it won't happen overnight, and thinking about it constantly creates room for doubt. don't let it sink in. don't let the doubt win.

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

thank you, i needed this rn 🩵

One of my friends loves the phrase "It is what it is" which I think is pretty much the same as "Whatever happens, happens"

I don't know where this quote came from, but I think it might be of a similar mentality: "If you can't be happy now, you never will be", or "Happiness is a choice, not something you attain". I don't remember what the actual quote was, and it can be a bit short-sighted as it can be very difficult to be happy without certain things, but I have definitely found myself in different scenarios in my life (where my basic needs were met) where happiness was a choice and anything I "needed" in order to be happy never actually made my life happier or easier. (If anything, doing things like starting a new job, acquiring more money, buying more things, or making new friends would temporarily solve my problems, but usually came with their own complications).

It’s your perspective that hurts you psychologically the most. Great video..

You seem super chill and have a lot of wisdom and you’re also very pretty your hair is pretty too

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

aw thank you so much 🥹🩵

The youtube algorithm loves daily videos, i think that's what's rocketing you up, remember not to overextert yourself! The topic of today is quite peculiar, a whole lot of people, specially teenagers, have it or have experienced it at some point, so i think it's a good throw. In this case, it makes me remember a quite similar topic, on coping mechanisms and the 3 main ones, wich i'd like to input because i think that you kind of wanted to express one of them without knowing about it(a bit trippy but you'll see). - Emotion focused: "This makes me feel this way, so i try to aliviate my emotions about it, without working out the problem itself". - Action focused(i just made that up, i forgot the fr name of it): "This makes me feel this way, so i try to fix the root cause of my emotions". - Cognitive reframing(fancy name for saying changing perspective on something): "This makes me feel this way, but because a have this perspective on it, so if i change it, my feelings about it will change". These are quite self-explanatory, specially with the tiny descriptions i put aside them, but it's basically that, and obviously, the emotion focused coping is the worst one of them, for example if i had an exam in a week and it makes me anxious, i'm anxious because i'm not sure if i will get the grade i want, so instead of studying to make sure i don't fail, i just game, procrastinate or forget about it all week, because i don't wanna feel anxious. But obviously that's just worse, i didn't fix the problem, i failed the exam, and i will be anxious the next exam. Action-focused, as i just named it, is quite a good one, and you could just force yourself to do stuff, since even when you don't think that it will work out, it may in the end be of use, and if not, doing something about it makes you feel better, like on the exam,if i study and fail anyways, well, i can say "i tried". The last one, wich is a little different it's just for problems that are constant and won't change whatever you do, or that's what i remember, wich is just think about it another way, and this is the one that i think Leilani tried to express a little bit, just "oh well, whatevs" and keep going on stuff that you have too much pressure on yourself, or just can't fix, like accepting or taking it another way without neccesarily accepting it. Sorry for bad english, weird expressions or not being clear while explaining, i woke up not so much ago, and i didn't even read my notes to write about this. In general, just do stuff, and if you tried and there's nothing to do it, and doing "sterile effort" doesn't help, change your mind about it. Great content, Leilani, keep it up!

If you stress about something that could happen you will just suffer twice.

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

I would pin this if I were able to pin multiple comments. thank you

what a nice video 🥲 i've been going through a pretty bad period of anxiety, and this video has really changed my perspective on how i take my life. i've always had this big mental block where i run away from responsibilities, thinking it's gonna be super hard, while it's something i could get done with in like 1 hour, instead of stressing with it for the whole week. i'll try to take on this "easy" mindset more and live my life in a more joyful way :] thank you so so much for this video, you seem like an awesome person

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

omg i could cry i'm so happy this helped you. I think you could benefit from another video i posted recently titled "Let go." as it also goes over a method in helping anxiety. also one thing i learned about procrastinating things bc you're afraid they'll be hard, is that 99% of the time the "hardest" part is just starting. hell, i had the issue making this account but after i started it became effortless and fun. thank you so much!!🩵

@vladmyr1344

Ай бұрын

@@junnipres exactly!!! once you gather the courage to even start, you're basically halfway done lol. so glad you created this channel, the videos feel super genuine and from the heart. wish you all the best

The KZread algorithm gives me another relatable and inspiring channel, love it

bro you're so pretty!

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

thank you so much 🥹

"Whatever happens, happens" gotta be my favourite quote from Cowboy Bebop. Meditation really helps be easy because when you start getting anxious thoughts, you can just go back to the present and feel yout body. Nothing is really happening, you're safe. It really brings that anxiety down. Meditation and sleep are really good examples of how letting go and being easy can be helpful, as the more you think about it, the less likely you are to make it. Sometimes letting go of something like expectations and focusing on enjoying and learning from the process bring more results, but more importantly, brings joy and fulfilment. And it's like they came just naturally without effort!. In the beginning it's not easy being easy, but it sure is worth it.

because we associate the chaotic with the "natural" and structure with the normal, we become anxious when things become natural. the reality is, nature is normal. nothing is deterministic and nothing is assured. structure and organization are chaotic because the nature of things is to fall apart. when you make that flip in your head that the nature of things being fluid is what we consider "chaos" isnt actually, and its actually our structured society and reality that is chaotic then the entire world opens up and becomes easy to exist within always.

life is not easy, for anyone. Get hard.

@pill0_w

Ай бұрын

get hard had me thinking of something else ngl

I mention being able to get over anxiety in repetitive action, but what I forgot to specify was that you also have to be consistent in shifting your mindset on the topic, and on topics of fear, etc. I may make a series on overcoming anxiety in the future if you guys are interested (if i get enough replies or questions on it i might prioritize it :-) because it's such a large topic that varies and I would love to discuss my experience with/overcoming it. I've had several kinds of anxieties I've unlearned at different points in my life and would love to give you guys a more in detailed "answer" on such a heavy topic. Often I don't cover everything I would like to regarding topics in one video bc I try to do them in one take.

Love your msg here fr chill vibes always

david goggins is all you need

"Whatever happens, happens" is incomplete and doesn't really work practically since it leads to some other bad results (e.g. nihilism, complacency etc). A better and more practical approach is this: "Can I solve this problem? Is it possible? If so, then I work to solve it. If not, then I do not stress about it, since I cannot do anything about it anyway". Simple as that, but much better. Good luck. P.s. Listen to the song "Easy" by Faith no More. It fits.

In the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy there's this part where the main character learns to fly. The way to fly is to throw yourself at the ground and miss, but if you try to fly you won't do it, you have to be totally unconcerned with flying. It's a pivotal moment in the book because it's the first time Arthur Dent really starts to feel like he is able to cope with the absurdity of the universe. Narratively he also begins to fly. Once he stops trying to go back to earth he manages to actually do it. Don't panic.

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

yes exactly!! this applies to so many things. one i've been thinking of lately, if you believe in "manfestation", it is said to be the reason some can't create what they want into their life. because when you are "trying", you are not doing. there is the subconscious knowing that this is something that will be 'difficult' because of the way you frame it in your mind and try to take control of it. It puts the topic of interest on a pedestal! let go and let your belief in the thing you want be as easy as breathing.

you are pretty cool. i can relate with you i many facts. ty for this video

Thank you!

thank you

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

happy i could help 🩵

Jealous of Pikachu plushie

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

Heheh. I got it from GameStop. Maybe you’ll find it if you stop by one

love your hair

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

thank you 🩵

The reason I'm scary and difficult is because weird queer and gay are persecuted all throughout my pathway and I am narrowed to an iota of my potential and mocked and abused and trolled but only in this 'stage' or whatever but I am what I am and for me the ease is choosing to civicly disobey because no one is truly in charge not that we lack identities or choice or dreaming but that we have to link as all or nothing boom clap the sound of my heart

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

never let anybody dehumanize you because of your human qualities. you are human despite anything. wishing you the best and more power to you. what a beautiful and poetic take. peace and love brother 🩵

@jessequinton4379

Ай бұрын

@@junnipres Thank you Loreleilani it is a beautiful dream.pop song

Pikachu hell yeah

How did you get such a huge push from the algorithm immediately?

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

i s'pose i'm a lucky girl heheh

@tzakman8697

Ай бұрын

@@junnipres Well, remember me when you are famous 🥺

@shoopdawhoop8730

Ай бұрын

She was being easy obviously... duh

you kinda look like a character from a lost media flash game. in a good way tho:p

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

honestly one of the coolest compliments ive received thank u

Out of the topic but u rrrr sooo pretty>///

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

thank you 🥹

ok

hi

@junnipres

Ай бұрын

hi