Thanks for watching! Do you get brain freeze during difficult conversations too? Please share as I’m sure I’m not the only one :)

This teaching is critical for all of us who grew up in abusive and neglectful families of origin where we were not taught how to communicate properly. I have been fawning, freezing and taking flight for years whenever I sense conflict. But, learning to stand your ground assertively and respectfully is critical to good emotional health and relationships. We need healthy relationships in order to thrive. Thank you for sharing this information, Kara.

I could totally relate 😢 I ended up feeling bad about myself and lowered my self esteem. I wanted to say a lot of things to my previous boss but I wanted to be polite but most of the time I would have a brain freeze and didn’t want to create disagreement so I would suppress my emotions and opinions and would think about it before sleeping, things I wanted to tell straightforwardly.😢

Thank you for the tips on handling the brain freeze when have to respond. Especially being kind to oneself during the being assertive journey

Fight, flight or freeze. Freeze is like being a stick insect that thinks if it doesn’t move the bird of prey will not detect them and fly away. Unfortunately ’freeze’ is my gut instinct. To compensate, at times I have tried convince myself that it was better to say nothing and keep what I know to myself. This is obviously not constructive. Thanks for sharing the thoughtful video above.

I'm very responsive to this type of teaching. ❤🙏👏👏👏🤗😏👍 great teacher.

Vital Message here. Thank you for the Tips and for sharing practical experiences

Very useful video, thx!

This channel is an absolute gem. Thank you.

@kararonin

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Thank you so much!

Thank you for this, listening now.

@kararonin

3 жыл бұрын

Fantastic! I hope you enjoy it Adaeze.

Thank you for this video, grateful for this extremely inspirational and valuable information we can apply on daily basis.

@kararonin

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I'm so glad to hear this video was helpful for you Diana! Thank you!

This is super helpful! Thank you Kara 😊

@kararonin

3 жыл бұрын

I am so glad to hear that! Thank you so much for watching 😀

Thank you x

Kara, with respect for your beautiful work and encouragement. I listened to your podcasts and watched your videos. I find the podcasts easier to listen to, you speak slower, and the information flows. It doesn't feel like I get distracted by thinking that I just heard that or that the same statements are being repeated. I think longer podcasts and shorter videos. On KZread, I noticed that people want the information much quicker on a podcast it gives me more time to enjoy it.

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

You're right, the podcast audience and KZread audience are different. So the information should be given in a different way. I'm glad you like the podcast episodes!

Thank you.

Good job,keep it up

This is what happen to me when discussing with my colleague. When I leave the discussion, there is lots of idea in my thought to speak

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

It's very common.

Dear Kara, I just want to say thank you I have been watching your videos for 3 days now in a raw (on my way to office and before I go to bed) and I can say this you are helping me a lot every word u describe it link me and also I took one of your example on how to be decisive good example to replace could we with Let’s have marguerite and James I would like you take over the first point !!!! Thank you

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your kind message Nasser! I'm delighted to hear that my KZread videos have been really helpful for you and that you've been watching so many of them. It's great one of the examples I shared you could use at work! Wonderful!

People who are in period of disregulated ptsd cant fix all this step. I tried but everything be so fast for me that I dont know where I should start or finish Thank you Kara this is very helpful❤🙏🙏✌👐🙌🌷❤

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

I'm glad this video was helpful for you! Keep up the good work being assertive.

You have to practice every day!!

Thank you so much ma'am 😊

@kararonin

Жыл бұрын

You're welcome!

This is a great refresher from your masterclass. I do have a question: What is the best response when your conversation partner doesn't respond well to your tactics? If you need to remove yourself from the situation, what is the best way to do so, and how do you reopen the conversation later?

@kararonin

3 жыл бұрын

Like you said, sometimes you need to remove yourself from the conversation. If you've tried the persistence & repeat method that I teach in the Assertive Communication Skills Masterclass as well as the workable compromise method, and neither work, then you might need to remove yourself from the conversation. To come back to is later, say something like, "I feel too stressed to think clearly right now. Can we pause for a while and come back to this conversation later on?".

Love your content, love your soft & gentle voice but wish it to be louder in the video. :)

I've been trying to research a strategy to overcome when a person is talking in conflict and you give them the time to talk but the questions in your mind or thoughts get lost and forget what your were going to say because of these type of people that talk and talk and talk and just don't get to the point. How do you overcome a person that talks so much you can't get a word in and others are listening to which you need to catch their attention with your response as well? It's like getting sabotaged in an argument or discussion.

So im currently foing through this with my Mother who has very poor communication skills and is very disrespectful, cant control her emotions. Its nagging me, becausei was napping and she set me a text message informing me about supper, so she same instairs unaware i uadnt seen text becausei wassleeping and came down yelling. I should have been assertive and told her "i dont allow people to talk to me like that" or "dont talk to melike that" butinstead i iust explained i was sleeping..which didnt address my needs or my boundary

A kind thank you.

@kararonin

3 жыл бұрын

You're very welcome Vain3D!

Haha same here Kara, for me it takes 1 hour to find the perfect response 😂

@kararonin

3 жыл бұрын

It's really common Xhoni - unfortunately 😫.

Good

I did want to learn this and I'm sure there was some good information here, but everything was spoken at the same level and very monotone, which I have a tendancy of doing and have been trying to fix that, so im hyper aware of it. You will be more assertive if your speech is more dynamic and draws people in.

Interesting

The music playing in the background is distracting.