Anna you changed my life ❤

I went through this, I was 20, i hadn't dated much. I rarely talked to my parents about anything. My senior year was no contact with my father. He did go to my graduation but didn't speak to me that day. Anyhow I met someone at 20. Long story short. Knew each other 4 mos. Didn't know each other. Stayed married 13 miserable years. This woman also had issues. So much damage. Now at 66 this former life I realize had such an impact😢

The biggest coward of a man is to awaken the love of a woman with no intention of loving her….

Anna, your compassion towards Sandra brings tears to my eyes. Sandra, you are such a dear heart and you deserve all the best.

Being vulnerable here… When I first came across your content, I hated you quite fiercely. I was actually scared of you. I realise now that you frightened me because you understood my pain more than I was able to face. Now that I’m done “re-traumatising myself” as you would say, I genuinely enjoy your content. Not only do I enjoy your content, but I find it very comforting ❤️

I’m so sorry Sandra. This wasn’t on you. He bided his time, knowing he was goading u, so that he could feel like the good guy; he pushed u to the brink only to say “look at what you did”

I've been to "religious" counseling with ex spouse about 1990. What a nightmare! All I was told to was to "submit." Even though I didn't drink, smoke, or do drugs (spouse was on cocaine). I was asked by "counselor" to get blood test for thyroid. Came back totally normal. The "couselor" blamed the lab for not doing test right! I was like WTF? 🤯

The confusion and lack of communication are basically abusive... Even if the other person is just incapable... However, it could be purposeful and intended as a way to keep you down.. and to keep them in the entitled power position... Glad this path disappeared for her.. a blessing in disguise...

I married someone who I knew lied to me repeatedly, but I was 49 and desperate to get married (ie find approval from a man). Definitely the biggest mistake of my life. Massive. Still paying for that mistake. DO NOT MARRY A LIAR.

After my abuser had violated me sexually and I was desperate to understand what had happened / why it had happened, he told me he needed space and time to sit with his feelings and told me that same week that he had to provide support for a "grieving friend" and that he couldn't be there to resolve things.

I can relate to this story in many ways. I wish you had addressed the issue of this woman involving her 11 year old son in her drama. She put her son in the terrible position to be the go-between to relay a message, or convince this man to speak to HER. She used her son, she put him in a place that no one should put another adult in, let alone a child. This is so immature, and the poor boy maybe thinks if he had just been able to speak to this man that his mother wanted to marry, maybe this is my fault, this man didn't want to talk to me, I'm the problem and the reason why my mother isn't happy because this man didn't want me. I hope this woman gets well, stops using her child, and gets family counseling for herself and her son. She is teaching her son to beg.

THANK YOU Sandra for having the courage to share your story for the great opportunity for all of us to learn more about ourselves!!! Abandonment melange!! Oh my goodness! Sooo many of us are wallowing around there, sister!!! Many thanks Anna and Sandra!!!

Thank you Anna! Protecting the son from a potentially bad stepfather is number one. Thank you so much!!!!

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Anna you often say you took a long time to work on yourself and these issues but what does that actually mean? Can you do a video on what you actually did? The steps, activities or whatever it involved. I know about the daily practice but I am assuming there was more to it than that. I would find this really helpful as I'm sure others would too. ❤

This goes for friendships too.

I relate so much with this. The last couple of years I was engaged and anytime I wanted to talk about wedding planning he would be so evasive. I never went through with securing vendors or buying anything for the wedding because I refused to until he was on board with participating. He went through the whole fault-finding, devaluation, and discard recently. He was over-the-top aggressive, like he was trying to kill my soul when all I tried to do was love on him. He treated me as if I was his enemy even though I was so good to him. I had to move back in with my parents in my 40s, both heartbreaking and humiliating.

I'm listening to my story, so sorry, I feel for you Sandra ❤

Yes they lost their mother several times!

Man! I'm even wanting to attach to my personal trainer ! Wanting to automatically make it a PERSONAL relationship!!