I like to tell people that finding the right therapist is a lot like dating. I had to do a LOT of research before I settled on trying a therapist. The research paid off because she was perfect for me. I hate that people get discouraged because it could take a few to find the one. I wish there was a matchmaking app for therapists/patients.

@TheDavveponken

19 күн бұрын

nobody should be dating while in a bad mental state... I've had plenty of therapists and they have all made me worse off. You'd be better off looking for information on the tube or elsewhere and compare it to others. Seeing a therapist lends you to become manipulated much more easily

I learned about overstimulation when my son was diagnosed with autism years ago. I realized WOW I get cranky when I'm on sensory overload! Now that I am aware of it, I can manage it!

Can tell she has had 25 years of therapy and is a neuroscientist. Very informative.

As someone who is a Clinical Mental Health Counselor and whose area of interest is Trauma, someone can find themself messed up by trauma. Bad therapists happen and clients don't do the homework. I use Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, which teaches a lot of coping skills. I find a lot of my clients spinning their wheels because they don't use the skills taught in session. I agree with Mayim. Dr. Vander Kolk's The Body Keeps the Score is a great book to see how trauma impacts the body. Trauma damages the brain. I also use Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and have seen real healing with trauma clients. I'll end here, but I am sorry to hear about the bad experiences. I hope those with negative counseling experiences give it another try, but be ready to put in the work. There is no such thing as a magic wand to make it all go away, as much as you wish.

@davemarsteller8377

8 ай бұрын

Wow... OK... I have your degree... But use it in an educational no clinically in an educational environment. How does Emdr work, and what changes did you see? Thanks! ❤

@stephaniebarrows5428

8 ай бұрын

Credentials aren’t everything. The therapist’s attitude toward culture, ethnicity, gender and neurodivergence can play a role in that relationship, too.

@nathanielroach8722

8 ай бұрын

@stephaniebarrows5428 Multicultural counseling is very important. As a male, I have reached a point where a female client would ask for another female. I have had substance abuse clients reach a point where I can not assist them. It is all about building the relationship and remaining open to the clients' needs. I also need to know my limitations, e.g., I am not a substance abuse counselor. Every counselor should have a healthy network of people they trust to refer clients too. I'm not sure what your comment was referring to, but I hope this answers the topic.

@michellethiesen7972

8 ай бұрын

Coming from personal experience the best therapy for trauma and PTSD is tapping and emdr. Especially as someone with autism and memory loss. I forget a lot of things and I don't remember tools and coping mechanisms very well especially when I'm having a panic attack or in a flashback.

@nathanielroach8722

8 ай бұрын

@@michellethiesen7972 I have heard good things about tapping (EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique). I plan to learn that technique in the future. I am glad to see EMDR and tapping work for you. I am sure your ASD and memory issues make it difficult, but keep it up. You are awesome.

I’m only halfway through this podcast, but I just wanted to tell you I appreciate the thoroughness of all of your answers. You really don’t leave much out. And I have just spent a few weeks with a pain doctor. He told me I needed to really resolve my childhood trauma. I couldn’t believe from an actual pain doctor that my pain was related to psychosocial and not physical. But now hearing you say it, it makes sense, and you gave me the name of someone to research, Dr. Van der Kolk. I’m 55 years old and have spent the last 6 months in bed with no help from several doctors. You have literally just given me hope and saved my life.

@MayimBialik

8 ай бұрын

🫶🫶🫶

@danaw23

8 ай бұрын

@@MayimBialik I called a clinic near me and have an appointment next week. I told them Mayim Bialik gets the credit for my upcoming healing. Really, thank you thank you thank you.

@samhowl1152

8 ай бұрын

@@danaw23 I hope you didn't actually say that cuz if you did that's so embarrassing. I'm sure the person was cringing on the inside just listening to you say that. You mean the ugly girl from the big bang theory? Lol

@danaw23

8 ай бұрын

@@samhowl1152 That’s a really mean thing to say. She’s not ugly, but she is brilliant. Try being nice.

@shawnaleashelly7260

8 ай бұрын

​@@samhowl1152 that office was probably wondering how to send Mayim a thanks for the referral

For me, therapy made my life a LOT worse. I deeply regret all of the therapists/therapy I trusted. #NeverAgain. So now I'm trying to learn how to be my own therapist.

@onion6foot

5 ай бұрын

People would likely never believe my experiences. I gave ppl the benefit of the doubt and deeply regret it.

As a Japanese, it makes me so happy that you have tattoos that inspired by Japan 🌸 my English skill may not be good enough to fully understand but your words encourage me 😊 Domo Arigato very much ❤

Here’s the answer to your Ask Kristin Anything: I think I asked the question about the strangest place you’ve slept on an episode you talked about napping & you might have said something about you can nap just about anywhere. Thanks for answering!

I’ve read the book “the body keeps the score” definitely my fav. I’ve actually had the opposite experience. I would explain the situation to my therapist and they’d be like, “that’s very specific.”

I loved the explanation on your tattoos, especially the wave one. It just made me think about serenity and chaos all at the same time because that's what waves can be - serene but chaotic depending on when you're seeing them. And that's pretty much life isn't it? Serene but chaotic. If that at all makes ANY sense.

@MayimBialik

8 ай бұрын

🌊🫶

@danaw23

8 ай бұрын

Yes! Yin and Yang.

Thank you very much for answering "Can Therapy Make You Worse Off?" This very much confirmed multiple points about Psychology that I understood previously but had not heard someone knowledgable of Psychology confirm.

Thank you for explaining agoraphobia. I was agoraphobic for 10 years. I was completely homebound in those years. I overcame it by myself by reading and learning about agoraphobia. From the outside my life looks simple and basic. However I do not take doing the small things for granted. Like going out to buy food. Or getting a haircut. Being agoraphobic while not ideal has taught me so many things about life and myself. I am stronger from it.

Pelvic floor Mayim. We have pain in our pelvic floor. 😃 Thanks for all the info. Mayim is so informative in such a great way.

Thanks for being honest and open. So helpful. I am diagnosed with schizophrenia

Mayim, you are such a joy to listen to. Practically a banquet of food for thought.

Thank you for sharing on topics people are not talking about, especially about therapy where myself & many others could benefit from your explanation about it. I need therapy & have been afraid to go because of guilt & shame & really being embarassed for things in my past. You have a gift with your words, Thank you!

I love the way you explain PTSD symptoms and break things down, as someone who experiences it I can say it not only helps feel less alone but it helps me talk about it as well. I've shared things you've said with my psychiatrist, the way you break things down help give me language to express myself when I couldn't before. You help connect things that I didn't realize were related. You've helped me understand being a Highly Sensitive Person, who also has PTSD...that when I get startled...it's like startled x100. Thank you for helping me make sense of my world and experiences.

You certainly are good company Ms. Mayim

@jmsl_910

8 ай бұрын

DR.

@cherylmacneil4602

8 ай бұрын

I definitely benefit from smart balanced people talking to me. Thank you Mayim.

Therapy made me worse for about a year, then one day I was doing so good my therapist fired me because I didn't need her. I did EMDR to address my trauma, and I really liked it because it wasn't just talking and talking and talking. Once I did EMDR, I was better equipped to deal with life. Really miraculous for me. I recommend researching it to anyone who might be interested in something that's not pure talk therapy or CBT (which REALLY didn't work for me).

You're such a hero to mental health and your contribution to my life, and the understanding of my mental health, is immeasurable. Thank you, Mayim :)

Thank you for talking about therapy. The appropriate form of therapy with an effective therapist is one of the greatest healing experiences of my life. If not THEE greatest. Love your content and your style Mayim!

This needs to be listened to by millions of people! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

Trauma has been really difficult for me since my dad died. I have been thinking about getting a therapist since I have so many things I have held in for years and can't seem to talk about them without breaking down or feeling worst about them. I think having a therapist and having peace with myself would be a good thing for me. Thank you, Mayim! Your words, and how passionate you feel about things really have helped me with so many things in my life. This is so wonderful ❤

Wow what a lot of content density here, in the very best sense. So easy to understand and digest and so valuable, as well as interesting. Thank you!!

I always love how you explain things. You explained the different attachment styles so well. I don't have a child, so thank you for using relationship as an example. Btw, you look extra beautiful with that bow 😊🤍

@MayimBialik

8 ай бұрын

🎀🫶

All ASK MAYIM ANYTHING episodes are my favorite episodes (along with the so missed Bevisode)! It feel myself (and I think everyone of us) much close to Mayim! Thanks Mayim! Take care, selfprotect you and yours in these rough times! 🫂

I could listen to you all day talk about therapy and trauma…..yours words were so hitting home and I would love to hear more from you no this

My favorite part of the podcast 😍 I truly needed this today. I was able to reconsider whether or not I needed a therapist after watching this. My favorite part in this episode was about revisiting the traumatic experiences. For me, even with your therapist, discussing horrific situations may be really difficult. However, after seeing this, I feel like I can talk about it a little bit since maybe someone else has gone through something similar. To be honest, I suffered for years in silence about my situation. I kept quiet about how the fathers of my 3 friends treated me. The 1st one, he gave me a kiss on the lips before handing me the borrowed PSP when my friend was in the bathroom. The 2nd one, when I went to my friend's house, her father patted my b*tt when my friend went to kitchen. The 3rd one, her father held my hand and i was shocked. I'm unable to escape. My feet went cold. I believe it all happened in the 4th or 5th grade, but I'm positive it was during my elementary school years. Up until today, no one has been aware of this. I wasn't sure what to do at the time since, if I told anyone, I imagine they would stop letting me play with their children. At the time, I was only maybe nine or ten years old. I'm afraid of losing my friends because I only have 7 of them, and not all of them are free to play with me. Please don't judge me how i handled this things before. I really wanted to share my experience because it reminded me when i watched this episode and i think i want to share my experience. Thank you for this episode Miss Mayim. Please do more of this 😊❤ I really loved it. I learned a lot. I can listen to you all day 😹😊 Take care always Miss Mayim 🫶🏻❤

@elizabethsmithakaelizabeth3332

8 ай бұрын

Your comment made me sit and cry a little. I am so angry on your behalf. Too many little girls (and boys) are victims of adults' despicable behavior. I wish you peace and joy and healing, therapy or not. Best of luck to you.

@danaw23

8 ай бұрын

People aren’t judging you. We blame the adult offenders.

@altaresjoyceee

8 ай бұрын

@@elizabethsmithakaelizabeth3332 thank you so much 🥺❤️

@altaresjoyceee

8 ай бұрын

@@danaw23 thank you for understanding 🥺🫶🏻

@Mayim this is so wonderful. I’m 54 and FINALLY getting tested. Adhd add ptsd dislexic autism. This is the most important video. Thank you thank you!!! I have a wait now till January . This is a long procedure. I’m 100% sure I have all of the above lol

I’m a huge fan I loved you in the Big Bang theory keep your videos up they make my day better :)

Minute 20: Your explanation of Psychotherapy is the most concise and accurate I have come across. Thank you for this. 🎉

I’m starting to learn that a lot of my symptoms can be explained with understanding hormone issues associated with perimenopause.

@MotherNuture

8 ай бұрын

I was diagnosed with PMDD, bipolar type 2, and PTSD in my 20s. By discussing those things before, during, and after my cycle helped me when I started to experience Dysmenoria (difficulties during menses) and Perimenopause now in my early 40s. I asked for hormone testing at my last doctor's appointment because I have gone 3 months without a cycle multiple times since 2020.

Just wanted to mention that repeatedly being asked/requested/required to relate verbally what happened to us during traumatic experiences can be very re-triggering and can create a block to healing. Fortunately, not all therapists use this technique with clients. I hope Mayim is able to interview her to talk about this sometime in her podcast with Anna Runkle (Crappy Childhood Fairy), who offers an alternative to that practice.

Thank you so much for this show!!! Bless you, Sista’! 😊❤

In our area there's a horrible shortage of good help. The insurance makes you see a "therapist" three times before you get to a shrink. My daughter has BP and a lot more, so being off all meds while we wait to get a Dr that can prescribe medication is a horrible situation.

i'm SO HAPPY it was you today! you are a gem mayim. please listen to the feedback you got on JPS... we love you stay safe

Thank You, Mayim, so much! I got the answers to the questions I didn’t knew I had!

Another BRILLIANT episode, thank you so much Mayim 💗👏

Hey Mayim. I came back to you after your appearance on Bill Maher. More of you just talking and being your smart, fabulous self, please!

Just recently found you and I'm obsessed with your teachings and videos thank u for doing this!!!

Love the "Breakdown"! Glad I found it. Now a subscriber.

Love Love Love Love Loved it! Thanks for sharing!

Yes a small amount of therapy can be dangerous where as a deep dive, a big commitment to growth can change your life for the better❤

@jmsl_910

8 ай бұрын

i couldn't agree more!

#replay Very interesting podcast Enjoyed learning about you. And the questions you answered. Thank you 😊

Therapy has made all the differences for me…..I’ve done EMDR for past trauma, and use a Alpha Stim also . Between medication and therapy I’m able to cope living in this nutty world.❤

Thank you for this Mayim 💖

I love these episodes and think you should do these every week. Thank you!!!

I really love ask mayim anything videos. I love the variety of topics and I always learn a lot

Enjoyed your program. Learned a lot. I would love to hear more about processing trauma.

Excellent episode! Best episode yet!

Amazed with the description about dislexic brains.

this is my favorite podcast Love love love

Great episode, I learned a lot.

Awesome episode!

This episode was so important for me, the explanation you give to what therapy is opened my mind. Mostly, the psychologist or therapist must have good credentials and they are not our best friend.

I love this episode ❤

Man! Love these episodes!

I never expected to have a tattoo in my life, but in 2022, I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and the appropriate treatment plan in my case was lumpectomy followed by radiation. I cried when they told me I was going to have three tattoos, which would pinpoint where the radiation goes. I pictured three huge bull’s-eye targets on my body that I would have for the rest of my life. Well, it turns out I got three little blue pindot tattoos, which I can’t even see. Anyway, that’s my tattoo story. LOL. Also, I don’t have any body piercings, not even ears. I never plan to do that either unless I have to for some medical reason. LOL. Love your videos!

Heyyy! My frind Kristing asked the one about the places you’ve slept! Said that, how I enjoy these AMA episodes! They leave a bit of the stress of our life in these days!

I know it wasn't your storyline on TBBT and not real life, but as soon as you said tattoo, "is it the Chinese character for soup?" popped into my brain. 😂

I love that you’re covering Alexathymia (spell) because when I was in the psych ward, I spoke about my trauma without attachment and it was written down that I was lying about the traumatic events because I was not reacting in the way that I “should” (I got the transcripts when I was looking for a therapist afterwards and read them because of course you do that) I’m curious what would be said now…

Oh, thank you! I love ya, you are so helpful🙂

I have dyslexia, dysgraphia autism(Asperger’s syndrome) and PTSD. The PTSD and the dysgraphia came in my 20s everything else has born with. I find it hard sometimes to explain to somebody that you were so dyslexic. You didn’t learn how to read until you were in high school but you don’t really remember it because you had this head injury that not only made you forget most of your childhood but also made you forget how to read so you had to relearn how to read. Learn in pictures I think in pictures so college has been a challenge. I am now 52 years old and I started college last year. I have a 3.3 GPA so having learning disabilities doesn’t have to stop you. It’s a challenge learning that there is a way to do things and now that colleges recognize that you just need a little bit of help like I get double. The time for tests are classwork it helps. But they also put me in with a transformation coach. A transformation coach is similar to a life coach except that instead of just helping you set goals they are finding out what your barriers are are the reasons you have self-esteem problems or whatever it is it’s keeping you from meeting those goals and helping you get over or pass them or find a way around them so that you can still meet your goals. if everything goes well, I should graduate the fall of 2025 with an associates degree in psychology and then I will transfer to college to get a masters degree in psychology and a minor and art and I hope to work with people who have traumas using art therapy as my maincounseling tool, although I am up to using all of the tools in the toolbox. Lol.

Thanks Mayim!!!!!!

I know someone who is dyslexic, ADHD, ptsd..when it comes to dyslexia they found ways to handle it and life a normal life. I feel it’s normal for some people to want to transform from the circle to square, but I also feel being the odd ball is what makes you unique. When you mentioned how are brains are kind of like circuits, I agree. It’s almost like comparing it to a computer or machine with all the neurons, etc.

Happy to fall on this episode. I have recently received treatment for hyperacusis, life changing (I now have hearing aids that relax my ears in silence) its new. Pschiatrists & doctors dont know it exists. Its also common for gifted people or ADHD to have Misophonia, Tinnitus etc.. Its al the same treatment. Im so happy to tell you about it. Im mom to 2 loud kids also with misophonia/hyperacusis otherwise known as sound sensitivity. Inused to have the startle response hundredsnof times again, now its only when im really tired.

My mother said " I hate kids" and she meant it. To try to change her in any way would have resulted in her abusing the grandchildren. You are lucky if they at least give them gifts. Be grateful for what is.

Small suggestion for longer episodes if you could put time stamps for each topic, it would be very much appreciated. Ty!

So informative. I love listening to you. I appreciate how you are so intelligent yet still share your vulnerabilities -making us feel it’s ok to have them. Now the sucky part. I suffer with misophonia. And I mean it suvks bad to “feel” certain sounds as pain and to feel them for a long time after they’ve happened. I hate it so bad because I have to give up some of my favorite KZreadrs if they get a new sound system and now their mouth noises are heard. So bummed to say that I struggled through the second half of this video because of the “ums.” I’ve never said this to anyone because I am well aware it is ME not the other person and only saying it to you because I know you will understand. Like I said. It truly sucks having this. 😢

OMG Mayim❤ I also have a Cherry Blossom tattoo for the same reason, plus the words "Mono no aware"

I love this...Ask Mayim Everything 🙃😂❤❤❤❤

Giving a whole new meaning to being a glass half full kind if person.

So interesting, I did not know you could work on decreasing your startle response. I just came to accept that mine is strong....almost feeling like I need to apologize. Good information.

love the hairband! i've had really unhelpful responses to my agoraphobic-ish phases so far, i think being put on an antidepressant that agrees with my body significantly helped but one of those things where conversationally practitioners really need to step up over here i think. i'm talking along the kind of "nobody can help you with this but you" nonsense which is just a tad bit hopelessness inducing when you're struggling with that. think sometimes it's so important to retain intuitive-agency with an in-one-ear-out-the-other approach when people go for these phrases that are of no use and can come accross disheartening if the practitioners seem able to help with one thing but fully do not grasp another!

I am so friggin greatful y'all did the ED interview because this show is badass!!! I never got around to checking out the podcast thing so the Ed Robertson interview was my first. This is now my go to lol. I just accepted awhile ago that I would never really know the science behind what was up with me so ty!!!🙌🤘🥰

I would love to learn more about processing trauma! It’s very mysterious to me.

Excellent video and I really like your views, thoughts and words on therapy. I love your channel, Mayim! ❤

My daughter thought it was normal to get half way through grocery store and leave the cart and store. Sometimes i was so over stimulated, i could not finish the grocery shopping. That was 50 years ago. No one knew any of this then. Luckily both my kids survived their childhood and are incredible adults.

I am both on the Spectrum and with ptsd. I have the startle reflex when I am hyper focused on my special interest as well as when there is an overstimulating sound during high anxiety times

One may need to distinguish between "therapy" as an abstract concept, and specific examples of "bad therapy". Because different people are in fact, different, not all therapists are equal. Some are just plain bad at their job. Just as sometimes infections need to be lanced to heal, so too sometimes are traumas.

If you haven't already in another episode, maybe touch on the different types/ modalities of therapies. Someone not ready to process trauma or unravel defense mechanisms, might be better suited for CBT. Or Someone who is borderline, DBT etc. A little off grid, hypnosis may be best for fears and phobias.... Some may require a med eval to get the most out of the therapy. Great question. Thanks for addressing, so much to explore here if you and your audience are interested. (Not to mention if there is a substance abuse component how that effects it. I work in a dual diagnosis facility)

When i was in therapy things got worse too at first. Because i had to deal with the feelings that came up while adressing my problems. But thats normal i would say because you need to feel this sometime if you want to heal. Thats my experience. I don't know if thats right for someone else. If someone worries: That was 5 years ago. I'm fine now. Also i heard a song last week that reminded me instantly of your podcast somehow. It's called "Bridge of light" by Pink. (If you saw another similar komment by me before, thats because my phone has it's own mind. I need to fix it...)

Yes please do a trauma episode!

After I got bitten by a Big Dog, I developed a Startle Response to my Dad gasping suddenly while I was driving. Straight into flight on, unfortunately more likely, FIGHT. Therapy was Some help. Moving out of the city to the country so my glass could empty has been Super Helpful.

Oh, it's often very difficult to describe to my psychologist what I'm feeling or felt at a given moment, or in a given situation. I take a lot of time, thinking and thinking and trying to know how I felt, or what I thought in that situation. oh it's so hard and tiring

Beyond the processing differences, many kids have oculomotor challenges. If your child is having trouble reading get referrals, among them a developmental optometrist so you know their eye movements are coordinated.

When I was 6 1/2 and my sister was 3 our biological parents (family) gave us up for adoption. The adopting family (the people I call mom and dad, now deceased) were abusive alcoholics. My son's father stole him from me and moved him to Hawaii where I have no means to go and fight. I haven't seen or heard from him for 12 years. I know I would benefit from counseling but am afraid to poke that wasps nest. (Truly afraid of the tears and pain, I've done counseling before with no great revelations) Maybe I could start with reading some helpful books. Can you give me any recommendations? I appreciate all you do for people's mental health. Thank you!

Thanks Mayim this was awesome. Mayim have you heard of TRE? Please interview Dr David Berceli ❤❤❤

Wondering if anyone knows if Mayim has a list of all the books that she references? I often take notes, but there are so many!

You over stimulated me with your intro…😂🤣😂😊

8:15 to _____ same here🙋‍♂️ Often times, I get things reversed. For example, left and right - I confuse the two. I, also, throw and kick (very well), with my left - hand and leg. Moreover: I'm "neuro-divergent" (have Aspergers). I'm, also, HSP (Highly Sensitive Person). Awesome video! 👏

I have 52 tattoos lol I LOVE them all! They are all meaningful and tasteful. Haters are gonna hate tattoos.

@darnitthelma4247

8 ай бұрын

They are probably part of your adhd…obsessively getting tattoos. I know someone similar. Each to their own we all individual and it would be boring if we all looked the same😊

EMDR therapy is also good way to break through alexithymia.

I am a very picky eater. Eating on movie sets is what kinda got me out of that. I can get a small portion and at least try it. In the early 2000s the dish we hated the most was a grilled chicken or something like that. Best meals were 2010s and on smaller sets. We had ribs on one set, steaks ,and one set had theme days. I'm in New Orleans and we had a new orleans themed day. Popeyes ,red beans ,and alligator

Startle reflex. You were trying to explain that it’s like you can fill the pins and needles. I always tell people think of it the way you do when you smell something you can actually taste it some oh, I can taste the garbage cause it smells so bad that your body is actually reacting to, but it’s using a different sensory.

I hope you had a nice Halloween Mayim! Also let me guess. Did you dress up as Bernadette to help Sheldon get revenge on Howard?😂😂😂😂

My question: Why are there no more Bevisodes? I need Bev to break down the episodes with her special flair!

Kati Morton needs to be a guest ! She’s a LMFT and has her own channel and has an “Ask Kati Anything” forum. People ask her anything about mental health. She’s great!

I feel sounds too and hear ringing when others don't

Please do episode on getting trauma out of body.