I know a Chinese lady divorced her husband in China then married a Japanese man. That Japanese man worked couple jobs to support her dream to come to the US to study. After she came here, she started dating US citizens because she wanted to get green card. I feel so bad for her Japanese husband or any US citizen might marry her.

@youraphrodisiac.895

4 жыл бұрын

Wow that's so bad

@danae5578

4 жыл бұрын

Ugh selfish

@matts2959

4 жыл бұрын

Unfortunately, it is happening out there. But to be fair, not every Chinese ladies are like that. Be Awesome.

@nickeldime1691

4 жыл бұрын

Oh I could believe it. I am Chinese American myself, and I can tell you that I sometimes do not trust Chinese woman seems to me there two face poker face liars. I sometimes think to myself that I would rather date an american because they are more straight forward and not seem to be hiding anything.

@herbertlee8529

4 жыл бұрын

我有一个朋友系列

That happened to my brother. He had to sponsor her daughter for college, not in the deal. She spent tons of time traveling back home to be with family. He married her to have someone to grow old with, but he died here in America alone. Then she came back to collect his inheritance. True story.

@DrJohnPollard

11 ай бұрын

Wow, that's a good one. Personally though, I don't think it matters what culture or race it's all the same. Women are the thieves because they can be.

@sinnfulcat

11 ай бұрын

@@DrJohnPollard are u really saying their culture has nothing to do with how they raised

@thedog5k

9 ай бұрын

WTF

@leosunaquamoon

8 ай бұрын

Do you go to work without expecting payment then? Are women supposed to be sex worker and a maid without compensation?

@check7469

7 ай бұрын

Lol, get rid of her then

Thank you. This video literally saved my life. Thank you! Temporary heartbreak. A lifetime saved.

Exactly correct, My girlfriend from Tianjin left me because her mother did not want her dating a foreigner. We remained friends in secret ever since.

@danielzhang6247

2 жыл бұрын

BFF

@Restless_Vibes27

2 жыл бұрын

same with me and my ex except she was Nepali

@rukus9585

2 жыл бұрын

With benefits???

@jeremyb2707

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, after my gf broke up with me she would urn off her phone if she came to visit, because she didn't want her parents to know (she had gps location sharing with them)

@chrisr.6638

2 жыл бұрын

@@rukus9585 damn you stole my comment xD

You don't just marry the Girl, you marry the entire Family...

@mequeimouze

4 жыл бұрын

This is true in many cultures. Except in the US, where families live far apart and only see each other once a year on thanksgiving.

@ggh_-ts6pn

4 жыл бұрын

its true. I'm Asian and once I broke up with a girl because I saw so many red flags with her parents. When your dating an Asian you have to meet their parents several times and getting to know them well first before moving into marriage. Its unfortunate but thats the reality. So many current boomer generation of parents in Asia are so fucking entitled. We didnt ask to be born for fucking sake, why the fuck do you always said "be grateful we gave birth to you and raise you, so you have to always do what your parents" when we have disagreement to them. I have hope with the current generation tho, we are far more individualists and less family centric than the boomer's generation. As an Asian, fuck these entitled parents.

@PicnicInNineHells

3 жыл бұрын

That’s so true, thought I (and maybe I can represent the majority of my generation) hate that. While things might be better for following years for the young people are changing.

@utkarshg.bharti9714

3 жыл бұрын

@@ggh_-ts6pn That seems to be a really extreme case that you encountered. If it is not out of love and affection, then it is just brute ego that must be set aside.

@markboudreau1410

3 жыл бұрын

Yes indeed!

Takes notes, find a divorced Chinese woman with dead parents

@marshwetland3808

4 жыл бұрын

ROFL!! BTW, my parents totally neglected me and had no input into my life, but the Chinese side is also fucked.

@Ushed92388

3 жыл бұрын

Why divorced? Can you link the video please!!!

@Ushed92388

3 жыл бұрын

Just finished the video, now i know why.

@Tuan615

3 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@mitchmclean3898

3 жыл бұрын

After being in a relationship with a Chinese girl for 5/5 years, I remember last year, I went on one date with a Chinese girl,. The date went well, but eventually t didn't work out because she freaked out on me because I dared to ask her if she wanted dessert on a dinner date without realizing she was on her period... Chinese women cannot eat ice-cream on a period even though every other type of woman can... Anyway, I heard that BOTH opf her parents were dead and immediately thought to myself, "THIS IS THE ONE".... But there was the ice-cream incident so I guess I'll never know....

Dated a Chinese-American for three years and can confirm. Parents pressuring her to get married = her pressuring me to get married. Wanted her fam to move in with us. I said hell nah, so she said we could go to her parents' house every evening for dinner. Eventually she broke up with me, as her parents ended up not liking me. She came over a few times after that and would turn off her phone so her parents wouldn't know (she used gps location sharing with them). It's quite pathetic.

Similar things happened in my life. I felt I was compelled to get married before 25/26 years old. My ex was heartless and I suffered throughout the years. My parents said:' You should take your .. home so that I can decide if ... is a good match for you.' It was a complete waste of my life in all those many years. I began living by myself and so was away from the influence of my parents which gave me the space to figure out what exactly went wrong and why I felt compelled in all those years. I will not seek marriage in China.

When my brother left his Chinese girlfriend to return to UK, he overheard her complaining to a friend “now I have to find another one” like her hairdryer had broken.

@duncanyourmate2433

4 жыл бұрын

prone to jealousy and extremes , its cultural , an no doubt she found one ,

@yj7000

4 жыл бұрын

Cringe

@conmanumber1

4 жыл бұрын

@Sunny Bird Filipinas are great people. my ex workmate was married to one 25 yrs his junior. She was a very bright intelligent quiet classy lady whom he was very proud to have and she helped and worked hard on their greenhouse tomato growing operation. When he died he left everything to her. My mate whom didnt know that i known these people actually walked thru the supermarket one evening and saw her and asked her out then ended up marrying her which i believe he is a very poor quality husband.

@rfsalad4118

4 жыл бұрын

Come on dude, almost all my female friends here in the UK have had 8-9 boyfriends by age 28. One night stands, well girls don't share that with their male friends. So I don't know how many one night stands my friends have had.

@primus7776

4 жыл бұрын

Heads up: That's women across the planet. Some just disguise it better !

A lot of this reminds of how it is here in Japan, though it's not always exactly the same. But overly-controlling parents, loveless marriages, etc. are more common than I ever would have thought before I came here. The heartless aspect can also be roughly translated to Japan, but I feel like it's less about the family and more about themselves. The most common way for a Japanese woman to break-up seems to be to just stop contacting their partner because of the awkwardness of doing it in person. These countries are so interesting, but the logic between East and West is completely at odds with each other, and it's very frustrating to live in such a polar opposite atmosphere.

@midgetydeath

Жыл бұрын

It doesn't help that asian cultures in general place pride above all else. Putting the worst sin a human can commit due to all the harm coming from it as the peak virtue is...well...you can just look at any asian country's history. Like, if you do something horrible it's considered better to hide it than to admit it and face the consequences because saving face is more important than accepting shame. As for loveless marriage, that's because of the lack of dutifulness. Or rather, women's lack of dutifulness. Love grows from devotion which cannot exist without a sense of duty to someone or something and acting on that. This is why men, who still fill their traditional roles and therefore have that sense of duty and live by it, fall in love pretty easily with women whereas women casually destroy their relationships and hurt their men and divorce-rape constantly. They're not in love with the guy because they're busy trying to do the same things men do in the belief that what attracts women to men will also attract men to women. As a result of this, they're not dutiful in the slightest and so they feel no devotion and so no love grows. There is no such thing as romantic "love" or love outside of the growth I described. What almost everyone mistakes for love is just a crush. Being an adult doesn't change that.

@leosunaquamoon

8 ай бұрын

Western men aren’t devoted either, do you show up to work without expecting pay? If you want your wife to be dutiful then be devoted to help her family. Saying nice words won’t help.

@givemewatermelon

5 ай бұрын

@@midgetydeath 하..인정

@givemewatermelon

5 ай бұрын

@@SibilaDelphos 이것도 인정

In any relationship, The one that cares the least has the power.

@softpawsasmr

Ай бұрын

So painful..so true. I'm living it...I pray I can heal from this

@szhinkoszhinko5006

21 күн бұрын

@@softpawsasmr you’ll be fine. take one step each day. everyday it gets easier. once you are over it you will feel a great strength in you.

i dated a Nepali (Nepalese) woman and it ended in alot of pain for me, mainly because of her family not accepting me and she mentioned in the beggining wanting to marry me but just on paper so she could stay in the country since she was an international student but i still got emotionally attached anyway because she love bombed me alot and made me feel loved and cared about she started acting very cold and emotionless close to when she left me i cried deeply for months after she left me and the trauma still hasnt completely faded, felt like my whole soul was ripped from my body, i havnt been the same person since, i had to go to therapy

@JohnJohn-xs5ru

2 жыл бұрын

Yep, life can be brutal. Get some confidence, and a build a strong social life. You will be better equipped to see the red flags

@KingKhan-123

2 жыл бұрын

😂

@Restless_Vibes27

2 жыл бұрын

@@KingKhan-123 may i ask whats funny or are you a troll?

@alltruth881

2 жыл бұрын

Stay strong man

@johnlay3040

Жыл бұрын

You must be quite young to be in such a state of emotional sensitivity. No, man, don't be deceived by those people who have been hardened by tough social environment. They know how to separate emotion and practicality of life. Romance doesn't mean anything for them. Survival of the whole family is the first priority. Their love is tied with the obligation to the family, not outsider.

I have been married to a Chinese lady. 14 months later, I have determine that her attitude is what is mine is mine, and what is yours is also hers.

@lavish_1717

4 жыл бұрын

Darrel Nordyke Are you a white guy ?

@TheLinus1997

4 жыл бұрын

That's just women, bro.

@le-blanc1440

4 жыл бұрын

That is just women in general.

@cykablyat7393

4 жыл бұрын

Mortal Silence people used to put women in their place.... now women want to be equal when, biologically, they are not. End of story. Women deserve the best, not everything. Fuck you.

@faqdir

4 жыл бұрын

Inayah Daneen wtf , does matter...u leftist

Asian parents don't want their children to leave, our parents can't wait.

@pachomiussinanicus1728

4 жыл бұрын

because Asian parents consider their children as mutual funds, 401k plan will u let your investment vehicles leave u if u are investor? lol

@jerrypeukert5732

4 жыл бұрын

@@pachomiussinanicus1728 And we don't with social security and the massive deficits we accumulate to keep our lifestyle going at the expense of future generations.

@pachomiussinanicus1728

4 жыл бұрын

Jerry Peukert that is the fundamental issue of human society, let alone human beings have been living far too long. Longer u live, more bills awaits u

@phoenixrich149

4 жыл бұрын

Woody Allen invested into his own Daughter...lol

@vgrof2315

4 жыл бұрын

Asian mothers are still tying their sons' shoes for them when the son is 35. Is it any wonder Asian male business, government and military leaders are such bozos?

Dude. Your videos are absolutely blowing my mind. I knew China had a rather rigid culture, but I had no idea that it was to this degree. Thank you for reporting on all these things. It's very interesting and enlightening.

@manviiam

Жыл бұрын

It's actually very common in Indian and other south asian countries too.

@nasib2262

8 ай бұрын

@@manviiam yep In nepal too

@abhaysulya7753

3 ай бұрын

all Asian country family comes first (from Turkey to Japan) in Asian countries you don't just marry the Girl, it's like becoming part of her entire Family... it's funny that Every culture views the world differently...from the point of view of their own trials and tribulations... westerns are the only ones that seem surprised by that everyone else doesn't see the world the way they see it

Not just Asians. I'm Polish.... Family first and I always wanted a Polish wife. Still Married to one after 22 years. (best years of my life) . Dated other races including Asian...... None of them had family values like my wife. Keep up the good work, love all your videos 👍

I dated a chinese girl for about 4 months, she left me because I didn't have my own property yet, i was still 18. Literally made me think of the whole "YOU DOCTOR YET?" stereotype, except it was "YOU HAVE HOUSE YET?"

@dasun7509

3 жыл бұрын

Lmao what she crazy as hell

@utkarshg.bharti9714

3 жыл бұрын

That's what happens when your society normalizes extreme materialism. Forget Asian, get ready to see any woman ask that question in the coming generations. China went from frugal to extreme materialism without hitting any speed-breakers in the middle.

@nefas3904

3 жыл бұрын

@Relax Relax asian =/= chinese. Also, chinese are not all the same.

@eigelgregossweisse9563

3 жыл бұрын

@@nefas3904 Tends to be what we see in New Zealand, we have mainland, all parts, but mainland thinks mostly like that. They think every guy is like a small Trump, or should be, "my father gave me a small loan of a million dollars"....

@vandagylon2885

3 жыл бұрын

@@nefas3904 lol

thats pretty common in asia. One of my fellows, who lives in Bangkok told me once: The only woman you want to date here, is an orphan. Otherwise you pay for the whole clan.. sad but true..

@txikitule

4 жыл бұрын

I had a Filipino co-worker in the US and his wife's whole family expected all his money to support them across the other side of the world. I actually adore Filipinos and have many friends among them, but man, the Asian mindset...

@jackkruese9929

4 жыл бұрын

Not just Asia, western men are used for that all over the world, happened to 3 of my friends

@nadura55

4 жыл бұрын

So true. The whole family comes out for a free ride and it’s expected.

@Abhishek-sr2pu

4 жыл бұрын

@@jackkruese9929 in india the women live with the husband and his family. The women family may come for some visit once a year. I don't think it's whole asia thing.

@jackkruese9929

4 жыл бұрын

Abhishek Nanda Ok didn’t know that, thanks

Huh, that actually helps me. I was friends with a group of Chinese overseas students-as much as a foreigner could be and never understood why the women never dated despite spending years here in the UK just because their mothers had told them not to. Even when I pointed out they’re half a world away from the parents. How could they know? Now I understand. What’s worse is that one of the males showed interest in me and we did date for quite a long time. I don’t regret it, we had good times and I learnt a fair bit. But after we’d all graduated with high to medium scores and it was time for him to either get a job here, potentially with me and taking things to the next level, or go back to China he proverbially dropped me like a hot potato. I wasn’t surprised that he chose to go home as I’d entered the relationship knowing it would likely end after five years of education and graduation. But I was surprised how quickly and cleanly he cut all contact despite agreeing to keep in touch as long distant friends. Not once did he reply and I never understood why. After this video it makes sense. He probably abandoned his email account and phone he used here in the UK. At least things make sense now. And I get the feeling I dodged a bullet. Imagine if I’d gotten pregnant or we married? Yeesh.

@user-jv2np4vm4x

2 жыл бұрын

the Chinese culture is very conservative. They do not encourage ex-lovers to remain friends, because their future lover will be jealous if they still have contact with their ex. In fact, having single friends of the opposite sex when they are in a relationship is considered sign of bad character and lack of loyalty to lover. For them, it is a norm that ex-lovers cannot be friends. They are just not mature enough to maintain friendships after breaking up.

@nickyhartmann9852

Жыл бұрын

thanks for sharing what you have lived through, your story, with us. Something similar happened to me, although my partner was not from China.

@edwardduarte7393

9 ай бұрын

I had a friend that was traveling all over the world shooting commercials and he was like "Wear a condom". I was with a Chinese girl and she ripped off the condom and like go ahead.

@lamentate07

9 ай бұрын

@@user-jv2np4vm4x And when they get divorced, they usually hate each other.

I love the quote by Rei from Rei’s real talk, she says “when the ccp simplified chinese characters, they removed “heart” (心) from the character “love” (愛).” I think this best describes what has been going on in hearts and minds of people under the ccp. In contrast try listening to the Taiwanese song “the moon represents my heart”, she sounds the polar opposite of a heartless chinese woman.

Being a German, I have a couple of years experience in East Asia myself and I can confirm this guy knows pretty well what he talks about...thumbs up

@Replicant-by1eh

10 ай бұрын

Sounds like you were in Thailand or there abouts. It's a world apart from China.

@felixz2083

10 ай бұрын

@@Replicant-by1eh 1 year China, 3 years Korea, 2 years Vietnam...

I gotta say, I'm really impressed with your ability to keep walking and talking to the camera. Your multitasking skills are very good! You also barely look like you're breaking a sweat.

@dylandesmond

5 жыл бұрын

John Nguyen lol...

@blockraven22

3 жыл бұрын

Reminds me of the p90x guy lol

@andriyshapovalov8886

3 жыл бұрын

I can watch the video, lay in the bed and fart.... All at the same time 🤔

@therickestpicklerick

2 жыл бұрын

@@andriyshapovalov8886 lmfao 😂😂

@maryagyemang9870

2 жыл бұрын

@@andriyshapovalov8886 wtf

Very insightful and thought-provoking vlog! It’s a very no nonsense, but truthful approach in cross cultural relations. The lesson here is if you are in a similar situation with a person of opposite sex from a different cultural background, is to do your homework on that person’s cultural background as I’m learning from my marriage to a Filipina being an American myself. The lesson I’m learning from my experience and as you know already Winston is that “family solidarity “ is huge in East Asian cultures in places such as China, Philippines, Vietnam, Korea, Japan, etc. To avoid the pitfalls that many Western people fall into approaching such relationships with rose colored glasses, one must take into account cultural nuances despite that society having a modern face to it. Thanks Winston for this great vlog!

Most of them are. Many Chinese have a tough childhood and very strict parents that makes their little souls numb to the world, and develop their own self-world to stay away from their harsh reality to sooth their pain in what develops narcissistic traits. Narcissism is either inherited or aqurired from trauma, and most likely their parents have it. Sons and daughters are usually extensions of their parents where fits the idea of extreme Filial piety which is a Narcissistic trait. I lived in China for 5 years, where I met an Indonesian Chinese exgf who was heartless and ruthless. Love moves very fast. Manipulation and mind games are common. Love bombing and ruthless discard is super common. Cheating and gaslighting. Their love is not stable, is either super hot or extremely cold.

@softpawsasmr

Ай бұрын

I'm trying to heal from the ruthless narcissistic abuse ...I need help. I hope I can recover from this.

I divorced a Chinese woman. She was EXACTLY how Winston described

@threexfromwsg

6 жыл бұрын

Ryan Brown. Lucky you got out bro.

@WeAreSMC96

6 жыл бұрын

God bless you. It isnt worth it, not worth the rest of your unlimited potential life that is.

@exposingliars9824

6 жыл бұрын

I had a friend who was married to a Chinese woman. They were married for 10 years and he bought her two properties. She divorced him, kept the properties, and gave him nothing. It was a disgusting display.

@franktaylor7978

4 жыл бұрын

Me too

@bryanx5829

4 жыл бұрын

@@Ray89135 there's no sex in the world worth 2 properties.

I'm a British young man and my ex was Chinese. I thought her family was quite modern and seemed quite happy with their daughter dating and potentially marrying me. However, they did always chat about my family business and money, and they did expect me to move to China (although my ex wanted to stay in the UK) for other private reasons. We eventually broke off largely due to COVID and long distance, but she was incredibly cold and ruthless in the breakup period. She broke my heart not once, but twice. I'm still recovering to this day almost 16 months later and now focusing on completing my PhD before dating again. Be careful guys, because I have never met a woman as rationale and ruthless in my life. But I don't blame her and this video explained why. I hope she can be happy and have a comfortable life because I think not many average families can achieve this, but anyway, great video and God bless.

@yourdailyjelina

3 жыл бұрын

Iam in China but Iam African but just within the short period I have been I can tell you it’s not an easy ride,got my chinese friends telling me and complaining all the time ..hope you find peace

@anunknowndude

3 жыл бұрын

@@yourdailyjelina God damn, what are you doing there? China and Japan are a no for me... Too much of a not improvement haha

@felixz2083

3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone bro, being a German in Vietnam my ex is a Vietnamese, I was shocked about the way she dealt with our potential break up; I lost the job due to Covid and had to consider move back to Germany.. She totally ripped my heart to pieces, I still shed tears from time to time and I think I will need much more time to deal with this.

@marcusparcussaeculo21

3 жыл бұрын

The root of the problem is one of the two: either that your parents did not tell you different people have different priorities in life or that they told you about this but you just forgot. Don't be depressed. Your breakup is an occasion for celebration! You were under an illusion, and by a sequence of fortunate events, you saw the truth and you were saved from a snare. Can you imagine what your life would have been if you had married that woman? A marriage with a woman for whom her old family is a higher priority than her new family is guaranteed to be a disaster. Having been freed from that woman, you can now marry a normal girl and have a happy life! Just don't forget to ask your next girl what her priorities in life are before getting married. What is obvious to you is not so for others, and vice versa.

@genevamin7946

2 жыл бұрын

Move on, man. You can release yourself from miserable now.

I told my chinese girlfriend that only women get to be loved unconditionally. Men are loved based on what they can provide She said that wasn't true and she liked me holistically Weeks later, I told her we should split the bills She wanted to break up

@buckadillafilms

Жыл бұрын

Crazy how the truth always comes out when the rubber hits teh road

@Eris_Norregard

11 ай бұрын

Dude, I'm pretty sure women aren't loved unconditionally either. Would you still love her if she became completely ugly? Would you love her if she was lazy and never wanted to help you with anything? Would you still love her if she was constantly critical of you and never stopped emotionally abusing you? Probably not.

@maalikserebryakov

11 ай бұрын

@@Eris_NorregardThats true tbh when i see a pudgy uggg girl im not gonna lie i recoil and make a cringe face without even realising it

@thedog5k

9 ай бұрын

@@Eris_Norregard well.. nothing is loved unconditionally But for every unattractive woman there is a ton of desperate dudes that are willing to do the most. Love is conditional, but whatever condition she is in.... she'll be loved. 4/10? Girl is fine, dudes a loser cripple below the waist? Guys a lame horse, girl is a fleshligh and gets a butler. Fat woman? Body positivity Fat man? Ew.

@6Haunted-Days

8 ай бұрын

LMFAO ummmm yes sorry hun but women aren't loved unconditionally either Christ you a child?!? Soooo a woman If you get fat? Yep no more love ....get older? Nope love taken away.... And ON AND ON.....so really STFU and grow up and LOOK AROUND you and stop acting like it's only you who's some victim 🙄🤮🤡

I have had two Chinese women in the states I briefly dated. They were both obsessed with money. They were great lovers but only cared for money. A friend of mine was a passport bro. He went to Philippines and bought this girl back too the states. They get married and have a kid. He puts her thru college and when she got outta college she takes the kid and goes back to the Philippines. Foreign women only care about your money.

I guess Winston's mom isn't going swimming with Him and his wife anytime soon.

@jeffnelson752

5 жыл бұрын

LMAO

@freshsoulbeats6084

5 жыл бұрын

I don't think his mom loves him, with sideburns like that...

@dorianphilotheates3769

5 жыл бұрын

Ukraine James 😂

@carvercapitalequitypartner122

4 жыл бұрын

@UK-J - and there is no harm when everyone knows where they stand

I learn more unbiased stuff about Chinese culture from you in twenty minutes than I have in 15 years

@1mol831

3 жыл бұрын

Indian marriage is China on steroids lol

@selohcin

2 жыл бұрын

Probably because you didn't spend much of those 15 years trying to learn about China! Instead, you spent them doing other things.

@th3bigbomb

8 ай бұрын

​@@selohcinour manzz had other priorities. Can you blame him? 😂

Your wife could one day leave you and you become a stranger to her, but mother always remains mother.

“Get fixed or replaced”, you are way too funny with your words. You made my day.

Wow, This was an amazingly frank video. “She wouldn’t have married me if she hadnt been a divorced woman.”

@tylersmith9868

6 жыл бұрын

LostinChina that's Winston for ya, straight up genuine guy.

@samthepoet107

6 жыл бұрын

I think that is a stupid mentality that there are so many excess men in China who will never find a wife yet they worry about marrying a woman who is divorced. They are not serious.

@timk.1395

6 жыл бұрын

I thought Winston was saying that his wife had already experienced the Chinese type arranged wedding, and it was not what she wanted so she was open to marriage with a foreign man.

@samthepoet107

6 жыл бұрын

She's open to marriage to a foreign man because a Chinese man considers her used. But if she were not married before she would have not considered him that is the message. It's not so much "arranged wedding" but marriage to a Chinese man the parents can approve. The parents would not have approved. But once she is divorced from the former husband then this expectation no longer holds.

@symbolicmeta1942

6 жыл бұрын

Wayne Samuel I don’t think it’s so much Chinese men don’t want to marry divorced woman as it is ‘never been married’ men don’t want a divorced woman.... can’t imagine many men who aren’t also divorcees of any country want to marry a woman who has been divorced.

My first wife was Chinese I met when I lived in Taiwan. Biggest mistake of my life. 30 years later and I still have nightmares.

@NNA1984

4 жыл бұрын

Haha. Sorry.

@jackcro8825

4 жыл бұрын

I got to agree with you I am married to a Chinese women for 20 years and my life is hell most of the time.

@StefanVerstappen

4 жыл бұрын

@@jackcro8825 Has she stabbed you yet? All my old buddies that married Chinese women were stabbed by them. I used to hide the kitchen knives before going to bed.

@user-nf3hh8kn5r

4 жыл бұрын

@@StefanVerstappen dumbass

@aoeu256

4 жыл бұрын

@@jackcro8825 What happened?

As you said, it is a common characteristic of Asian women. I lived six months with a Filipino woman whom I loved deeply. Her conversations always came back to the expenses of supporting her daughter soon to move to the United States and her obligations to her mother. She was always talking about another man richer than I am that she was seeing time to time during our dating period, who nevertheless did not show the same attention as I did. She came into my house and I always took care of all the expenses. Although she worked earning more than $4,000 a month twice she came home carrying food for the poor collected at a church. I was embarrassed but tried to understand her vision. One night she didn't come back and after a few days she showed up with a moving crew to move in that richer man's house. For her it was perfectly acceptable to have dated me for a time, received sweetness, sensuality, a place to live for free, and afterwards to return quietly to where he could receive more. No judgement involved. They have a VERY different morality and cultural values. Your video is worth much more than a series of psychotherapy sessions

@madhuridas4745

Жыл бұрын

I am a British Indian lady living born in England, please do not think that all Asian women behave like this. Its because of social media we see such stories. But, there are loads of really decent, intelligent, hard working and honest ladies out there as well. People are people. Plz don't stereotype

@IaintTheHerb

Жыл бұрын

You get more of what you tolerate, and less of what you don't. You tolerated WAY too much!

@IaintTheHerb

Жыл бұрын

​@@madhuridas4745you're not who we think of when we think of "Asian" women. 🤷‍♂️

@menglin4544

10 ай бұрын

@@IaintTheHerb when they say Asian, It only mean southeast and asian woman or oriental here in america. Indian people are not really considered "asian" here

@user-wr9lh4ly1n

10 ай бұрын

you mean not Asian women but Filipino women. Sorry to say but from my experience and what I hear from my friends, Filipinos seem to be that way with money. They try to find guys with money and have them send money to their family, I hear this like all the time, and it's Filipinos particularly

I just married a Chinese woman she doesn’t listen to me about my ptsd symptoms she says I’m faking my diagnosis

@annl.5512

12 күн бұрын

why did you marry her?

Very insightful video Winston. Telling it like it is without sugar coating stuff, good or bad. Thank you and congrats on nearly hitting 400K subs!

@JH-dg9um

3 жыл бұрын

"Very insightful video," looks like you have successfully brainwashed someone!

@GBValode

3 жыл бұрын

@@JH-dg9um thx for your irrelevant contribution. Waiting for the rebuttal video. Until then, have a nice day, nobody

You are so correct. I went through this had to marry a woman I really had no interest in. Ended up divorcing after only three years of marriage. This is absolutely true so be very aware before you get hitched.

@adamirfan6986

2 жыл бұрын

for married in china?

@americanpatriot3710

Жыл бұрын

Never marry from a different culture. It can backfire.

I have been to China on business many times and met many single women who will remain single because of their parents, I stopped dating Chinese women because of that

As European it’s the same here. Family is more important than partners.

@sabrina1380m

2 жыл бұрын

Yes it's the case for southern and Eastern Europe Western and northern Europeans don't have the same family dynamics

@balloe3466

2 жыл бұрын

Not the same in the whole of Europe. I would put my spouse above the rest of my family.

@user-br9ne3gm9x

2 ай бұрын

Not at all.

@kicunya12

17 күн бұрын

Not the same in the slightest. In Europe, it's generally: 1. Kids 2. Spouse 3. Parents It's also nowhere near that strict as in China

@bendover4668

16 күн бұрын

@@kicunya12 you’re talking about Western Europe. In Eastern Europe family is above spouse.

Chinese Wife: "Sponsor my parents, or we're getting a divorce." Me: "Bye."

@LesHistoiresMagiques7

4 жыл бұрын

MrHousecup you're definitely right, that man has a kid though, it is very different then. The wife could leave with the kid easily and even leave the country...

@knuke9596

4 жыл бұрын

@@LesHistoiresMagiques7 But will she really want to be a single mother? He should've called her bluff.

@DarkBalisto

4 жыл бұрын

But isn't divorce a really expensive thing in the usa? if you don't have a contract she can press half your stuff outta you and if she's willing to blackmail you over her parents guess she makes also sure a divorce would cost you dearly

@nhunka44

4 жыл бұрын

The poor sod had yellow fever and fell for a calculating woman who was looking for a dumbo to seduce and get herself a green card.

@knuke9596

4 жыл бұрын

@@DarkBalisto It's a risk but I'd be gambling on the fact that the wife in question would be miserable raising the child on her own. Even if she got half it will be much more stressful and difficult situation than if she had a husband. Him calling her bluff may shock some sense into her.

I have to agree with you, 100%. I was so (un)fortunate to meet a Chinese lady at the university, we've been dating for months and she left and went back to China without a single word or a goodbye. I was trying to contact her again for many many times, without any success. And I'm not that type of easy-going guy, I wanted a serious relationship.

@Robin-jl2jw

11 ай бұрын

😢

@hensonlaura

10 ай бұрын

Damn. That is cold.

@carolinaramirez3686

10 ай бұрын

Good for you Asian women are just destructive.

@johnle231

6 ай бұрын

Wow I’m sorry but that’s is funny…. Not even a word

@irenetan1934

23 күн бұрын

U lucky she did not drain u dry Mean spent all your money n left

What you described is true for almost 90% of all Asian families. Regarding to choosing the parents or the spouse; in most cases it will be the parents because the reason is that you cannot replaced your parents but you can easily replaced your spouse. To married a foreigner; one will either have to be madly in-love or to the reasons that you described in your video.

Chinese girl was born in USA had given up their citizenship to represent China then failed!!

_"Either you get fixed, or you get replaced."_ Well, damn.

@jonerrijuseppi6127

4 жыл бұрын

U Can look for a religious woman !!!👍🏼🤔🤗🙏🏼

@gtm5650

4 жыл бұрын

@@jonerrijuseppi6127 Are there any in China?😅✌

@sneakycheeky531

4 жыл бұрын

@@gtm5650 yeh loads. all these propaganda channels just say their isnt

@sneakycheeky531

4 жыл бұрын

@Razer Mantis that wasnt directed at the guy in the channel specifically. Just talking about the people who say theres no religion in china but he has said stuff that are missinformation in a lot of his videos. Duno if he is just mooching of the views which = money or just believing half the crap spread about china

I married a Chinese woman and lived in Beijing before divorcing and returning to Australia with my kids, I would say the reason she married me is because she was rebelling against her parents as you say can happen. If only I understood all this before. Your vlog is an important one.

@SRoy-jx8my

2 жыл бұрын

Seems that the heartlessness, in this case, is even more profound because the Chinese woman forsake her OWN kids!! Even animal mothers do not abandon their offspring!!

@ericvincentverheijen9390

Жыл бұрын

Same here.

@americanpatriot3710

Жыл бұрын

Looks like they are controlled by their parents, who still treat them like kids.

Lawyers in China? What do you need lawyers for in a country with no rule of law?

In the US the Chinese parents steal their kids childhood. It’s very creepy.

Whoa, was that his wife?! She's awfully pretty. I have a friend that was dating a Chinese woman. They were engaged and when she told her family, they demanded she return home and be with a Chinese man. She literally ends up moving back to China; he followed, married the man her family had arranged, and never spoke to him again. He's currently living in China, and teaching English. Its really a tragic story and he's genuinely an awesome guy.

@kev792

2 жыл бұрын

Jesus dude, that’s brutal. Hope he’s ok and found a new special person at least. Wish him the best.

@tomjjackson21

8 ай бұрын

Yeah man idk I am now married to a Chinese woman, and I guess have come back for advice, and noticed this comment, lol.

Thanks for sharing this with us Winston. From my personal experience, I confirm this is 100% true. The cultural differences regarding family are huge.

@bobbruce4135

6 жыл бұрын

I've found this to be true in Philippines too. A little less in your face, but same reasons.

This is an Asian thing. My wife is Thai and I have been in situations where she has defended other Thais that aren't even family.

I am Chinese living in the west for over 30 years. I believe most of what you said are true. You are very neutral and factual. Thanks.

@yangxilu6229

4 жыл бұрын

Chelvan Mei which province?

@rahusphere

4 жыл бұрын

Yangxi Lu Wuhan

@WanderingLoner1

4 жыл бұрын

@@rahusphere LOL 😂

@zavtradnem

4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the virus

@zavtradnem

4 жыл бұрын

@Lewis C. you fucking serious? They got us sick with bat meat

So basically if a chinese woman is willing to marry you, that's a warning sign that you probably shouldn't. 👌

@AquaBabe_

5 жыл бұрын

Why? Explain

@keegobricks9734

5 жыл бұрын

@@AquaBabe_ If she's willing to break from her tradition and become a pariah for marrying a foreign man, that's a red flag that there's something wrong with her.

@AquaBabe_

5 жыл бұрын

@@keegobricks9734 Or Maybe she's in love. Many people will sacrifice alot if they love you. Chinese women are so caring and loving so it's something they're willing to do.

@keegobricks9734

5 жыл бұрын

@@AquaBabe_ Very unlikely. If you won millions of dollars in a lottery, then suddenly a supermodel wanted to date you, don't you think you'd be suspicious? Similarly, when everything in her culture tells her not to shame her family and she goes and does it anyways, don't you think it's worth wondering why she is willing to break her tradition? It sounds to me like you have a bias because you are involved with a chinese woman, so by that very fact your opinion is going to be skewed.

@AquaBabe_

5 жыл бұрын

@@keegobricks9734 i don't think this applies as much to the younger generations of Chinese women.

"I'm fairly confident I can save both of them" 😆 I just discovered your channel, you talk about so many different topics but always make it interesting. Keep up the great work!

You shocked me when you said that I would always choose my mother in that situation every time. There’s nothing stronger then a mothers love your wife can leave anytime your mother won’t

@Russophile30

Жыл бұрын

Hard disagree. Parents can walk out on their child anytime.

The family stuff is legit. I dated a Chinese girl whose family told her to drop me and she did it without hesitation. It was bizarre

@Alias1983

6 жыл бұрын

I remember knowing one girl. She was nice. We went walking around the city. A bus honked it's horn at me and because of an ear infection I already had the noise pierced too sharply through my ear. I gave the middle finger. The family found out and she was forbidden to see me ever again. I tried explaining I had an ear infection and reacting the way I did isn't something I normally would have done. I was told later by another chinese that if I was a chinese person kyself, explaining this would normally get me the benefit of the doubt. But because I am a local immigrant I cannot be forgiven. (I never use the word foreigner or laowai to describe us who live in china).

@ThePiscovodka

6 жыл бұрын

That sucks man ,that didnt happend for me,my wife is chinese and the mother didnt like foreigner She told her to break up with me but she didnt . And now when the parent inlaw visit us in belguim they call me more then my wife phone I find it wierd first they dont like me and now they do(maybe) Not all chinese women are like that

@hendrikdependrik1891

5 жыл бұрын

Local immigrant, first generation immigrant, locally settled foreigner, all the same thing.

@deepblue3682

5 жыл бұрын

ThePiscovodka ,they found you are wealthy and want your money now..))..

@doug2279

5 жыл бұрын

so what i am uk with neopolitan mum and i did the same thing. When my mother calls me shouting every day and moaning and crying for a year eventually i dropped this great girl to please my mother and she is now doing this to my brother for her reasons such as that you annoty marry a girl with divorced parents or something. You can say its wierd but listening to northern europeans about what a family should or shouldn't do is like listening to a footballer talk about physics. They have very weak family bonds and often the mums will throw their kids out at 16. they hardly even know their extended family whom they usually hate or care less about. They hardly ever help their family and rarely even bother with them.

This is how Indian culture is too. But the moment you show them the 💵 💵💵 all the so called culture and age old traditions disappear into thin air.

@d947

5 жыл бұрын

😂😂😂

@d947

5 жыл бұрын

Money is the language everyone understands 😂

@orencio1969

5 жыл бұрын

money the big equalizer in all cultures around the world, money talk bullshit walk.my ex left me for a rich lawyer then she left him for being a cheap bastard, life is funny in how it reward the gold digger.

@jcmontecarlo6123

5 жыл бұрын

fernando mock wow....evil bitch

@666huntufireman2

5 жыл бұрын

Exfuknactly.in most 3 world and poverty strikin countries,and I have spent 20+years living in Asia, the most favoured bumper sticker is......you guessed right first time, He who has the most gold wins. This was proven by my Father in business 99:9% of the time.So that worldly person that said tradition goes out the door,ie they would sell their relatives for $$🤑🤑🤑🤑$$$,goes to the top of the class.🤓

In my country, we support our parents with love and gratitude.

My wife wasn't allowed to go to Switzerland with me because I didn't bring a Rolex for her brother-in-law, who was looking for the family. I couldn't and can't afford a Rolex. She had to turn around and drive back before we even reached Beijing, after just one phone call.

I can’t stand the culture of being used all the time even though I was born and lived there. They were the first to mock and ignore me when I was down and miserable, and needed support the most. Then They benefited from me without any appreciation when I was in good position. Completely heartless and shameless! My mother even humiliated and mocked my 3 year old nephew for using diaper! So I made wish to move out, and thank god, I moved to Canada by myself. I refused their request to come here living with me. I don’t care what the culture says because the culture is heartless and Wrong!

@TheMikeygas

4 жыл бұрын

you just desribed my family and im from scotland

@rockanderson1823

4 жыл бұрын

@@Ray89135 Ray: Sounds like she wasn't a good Mom.

@2davivadiva

4 жыл бұрын

Dang good for you dude. You got major balls. One in a million - like literally

@wade6619

4 жыл бұрын

guihe Chen where is your mom from?where are you from?where is the culture from?

@fallen4055

4 жыл бұрын

Parents love thier children... My parents sacrifice everything for me... I do love them

I guess you can't have the cookie and eat it, too... We complain about the loss of family traditions in the West, but we don't like the commitment that comes with it.

@zararatcliff5113

5 жыл бұрын

very good point

@tomleadbitter7165

5 жыл бұрын

That's a very interesting point and something i hadn't considered.

@Tonixxy

5 жыл бұрын

@Albert Lima Lima ou shit treat Asians as a minority group in west with all rights but you can't say or do shit in Asia. Equal treatment pls

@briangbur8743

5 жыл бұрын

I DO

@t.d.phillips7283

5 жыл бұрын

@Albert Lima Lima Excuse me but are you suggesting that Otto Warmbier wasn't just beaten into submission, but was more than likely just married to a North Korean Woman and thus the obvious results.

I really appreciate your bluntness.All to eye-opening :)

You have to save yourself first because if you can't help yourself you can't help nobody

This guy is really telling the truth about China and Chinese people. He is brave and honest. good job! need more people in China like him.

OMG, what a headache! As if relationships don't have enough challenges on their own 🙂 Glad for you and Sasha being able to work through this!

Everyme I and my wife see a chinese girl with a western man on the street, we call him Mr visa

Your mother was with you from day one literally the moment you were born you literally couldn't survive without her. A wife/girlfriend is not the same you spent your whole life without her and you can go on without them. You don't owe them anything

@aphroditesdairy9949

2 жыл бұрын

I am half Brazilian and if you ask most Brazilian women who they save, they say their mother. If my son has to chose between me and the mother of his children, then yeah, I would want the mother of my grand children to live. But just remember, you can have an ex girlfriend, ex wife but you can't have an ex mother (I am not saying that all mother are perfect, and should be put on a pedestral, there are very bad mother that even deserve to be called mother). I would do just about anything for my kids, guaranteed. Now, can most people say this about their spouses? I would do a lot for my husband and I am committed to what we have built, it's not easy but I am extremely commit to our family, but my love for him is not unconditional, most people do not have unconditional love to their spouses.

I'm just gonna stay single... less hassle.

@amazingdany

5 жыл бұрын

It costs less than a divorce. _Much_ less.

@Mickr4

5 жыл бұрын

Amen to that.

This guy doesn't just scratch the surface. He sees the phenomenon, he digs out the causes and articulates it really well. As a Chinese I like him.

@alanzhan5958

5 жыл бұрын

But still stereotyped

@user-ix7gx9kr1g

5 жыл бұрын

就你个S B看懂中文不？还中国人？

@Marty3750

5 жыл бұрын

You are not Chinese!

@psilocybemusashi

5 жыл бұрын

He is absolutely my favorite newfound youtuber. As an american. I do have a thing for that South African accent. I could listen to it all day.

@JohnTaylor-pe5gf

4 жыл бұрын

@@psilocybemusashi I don't think he has much of a South African accent at all.

So basically your wife settled for you because she couldn't get anybody in her own culture due to her stigma. It's not necessarily that she was being progressive in dating outside of her race for the sake of it, it was kind of as if she had no choice

Went to Uni with Chinese students and was paired with 3 of them in my tutor group, no way I’d have a relationship with one let alone marry one after experiencing them close up as they were an absolute nightmare to work with.

You're an honest smart guy and watching your stuff on KZread is a pleasure.

@aqwandrew6330

6 жыл бұрын

literally , every country in asia thinks family first than any relationship (wife , etc) , we have a strong culture to respect our parent the most ! hi from indonesia :)

@leviathandiabolo6296

5 жыл бұрын

@Will Pack Couldn't agree more!

I will choose my mom anydayday, shes the only one who will love me no matter which condition i am in.

@Pippie5555

5 жыл бұрын

True. Agree.

@christophertsung4795

5 жыл бұрын

But do you have a spouse though

@saekurosawa8596

5 жыл бұрын

How I grow up.. is when you marry .. you marry into your husband's family. So you are apart your spouse's family.

@RedGunBullets

5 жыл бұрын

lucky you

@irtzashahanpk

5 жыл бұрын

Asians are heartless because they care for their parents and children. I'm a Pakistani, And I put my parents first not because I'm heartless but because I'm not as heartless as a westerner to throw my parents in an old age home. My parents didn't throw me out of there home when i was 18 they supported me paid for my college not because they are heartless and investing in retirement plan but because they loved me unlike heartless westerners. My parents and most parents don't need any retirement money from government because they save and invest in real estate and other things to easily retire and live on that income if anything they leave huge fortunes for children to inherit they don't pay for children's education for financial assistance after retirement they do it because they love them and don't want to send them away they love and care for there children so that in old age children can love and care for them when they are old and not leave them up in the hands of nurses of hospitals and old age homes just like they didn't send me to day care when i was little they raised me by themselves there is love and bonding unlike heartless westerners who spend 100% of their time making money and their children are being taken care of by day care and their parents are taken care of by old age homes we have families here cause we are not heartless like you.

I have experienced the same issue with the mother of my wife. She expects from her daughter to care for her and she is bringing herself often in a victim's role to get the confirmation that the daughter will be there to help out. That's one of several signs of psychopathy, it has a strong context with egoism. While the parents are (or at least should be) mature grownups and support their children to grow their own family, they act in an egoistic way and ask for unnecessary carrying and sabotaging their lives.

@seriouscat2231

Жыл бұрын

A psychopath is a person who does not feel anything about hurting others or being blamed for something, except a sense of inconvenience. A sociopath is emotionless except when blamed for something or made to look bad, which will cause fury. And a narcissist is all about emotions and appearances and pressuring others to pretend and play along. Sociopath lacks an innate sense of guilt whereas a narcissist will fight to avoid experiencing any.

@pkpk5307

Жыл бұрын

narcissism I'd say

@leosunaquamoon

8 ай бұрын

White men are selfish too. Want a women to be a sex worker and domestic worker without paying her. Her mom probably sacrifice everything for her children so they get taken care of when they get old while white people raised entitled children then kicked them out when they’re 18 not caring if their children go homeless.

@leosunaquamoon

8 ай бұрын

Asian mother in law would help you take care of your children and give money to your children college fund, all they ask for is healthcare and family time and y’all act like she’s narcissist. It’s not like your mother in law ask for a luxury vacay. White people act nice on the surface when real responsibilities and hardships come y’all run real quick.

@kathymcmc

3 ай бұрын

Many people have children, just so someone will take care of them in their old age.

Thank you for this valuable and awesome share.

If your romantic partner asks you that question, regardless of ethnicity, it's time to leave. It shows an insecure or narcissistic personality.

@Ozonencb

3 жыл бұрын

what question

@thebibleisinfallible2336

3 жыл бұрын

@@Ozonencb would you save your wife or mother if the fell at the same time in the river ?

@doma1686

2 жыл бұрын

@@thebibleisinfallible2336 I'll leave them both lol

@prashantpatel170

2 жыл бұрын

@@doma1686 same i can't swim .

I think this behaviour is also true for the rest of East Asia, not just the Chinese. Families ALWAYS come first. They know you and took care of you since you were young.

@inismei9077

5 жыл бұрын

izwana ismail It's the same amongst South Asians, most especially Muslims.

@WG-xi1ux

5 жыл бұрын

Tony Chalmers You are great and your approach is right except that "insult" is weird in the Asian's eye, why not take it as a compliment to your great job done to the family ? BTW, this kind of "culture" is derived from the governments' unwillingness to give a better social benefits as those given by the western governments to their nationals. The burden naturally falls on the individual.

@wangyihong5029

5 жыл бұрын

Yes ,I agree with you

@Rafaelrgm

5 жыл бұрын

Families should come first. But there is a difference between that dishonesty and the rare extreme cases of pratically slavery that were mentioned in this video. You should take care of your parents, but not at the cost of your own life. After you are an adult, people should make their own decisions. Edit: but yeah, I think the right answer is to save your mom.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for the warning! You made my week! :)

Thanks for the stark warning, Winston. I recently met a beautiful young Chinese woman and was quite taken with her. I appreciate you letting me know what I might be in for.

Dude you are awesome. This video is 100% accurate. I have worked in China 8 years and had a Chinese gf for 7 years. Meeting hundreds of her friends and family. AND I work for an Asian company with many American men married to Chinese. Over and Over again I see the... "sad situation" they are in. Because of the items you bring up in your video. Thanks for sharing. Hope men watch this before they make a Chinese girl their girlfriend.

I fully agreed with you on this one even I am a Chinese and married a Chinese wife. Bottom line is we men are supposed to be the bread winner, bring in the income, raise the kids and family, and once we are not capable of doing that for whatever reasons, we are lesser of man, and may even be kicked out of the family because we are simply useless and little value to them. This is the reality many Chinese men will face once they hit over their 50's. Forget about love, these days its the money that counts and manhood is being judged by how much you can bring in. Sad but the truth.

@serpentza

6 жыл бұрын

加油 I understand you fully

@rronaldreagan

6 жыл бұрын

David Lim so what perks or advantages do you get before 50 to comoensste that emasculation you will suffer after 50? . Or do you guys have such a low selfesteem and selfworth you are content with being slavehorses all your life?

@davidlim4602

6 жыл бұрын

In the past, Chinese men are respected, even when they are married, to have as many wife they can afford, until some stupid laws dictates only one. These days, men rich enough just goes on banging overseas trips or keep limited time period mistress. This is the only fucking consolidation, nothing to do with low esteem or whatever rubbish you implying. Or they just stay single and bang as many women.

@wsmcke

6 жыл бұрын

So are you saying people like Trump (known liar; cheater, a thief, boorish, unfaithful, etc...) would be considered more of a man than a normal (rest of the world, other than India and China) man/woman (who doesn't lie, doesn't cheat, who is honorable, doesn't steal, etc)and, Chinese men or women would prefer to marry a Trump over a Jimmy Carter?

@wsmcke

6 жыл бұрын

Not worth my time.

Is there a similar YT channel in English about India? Because my last ex, his grandmother didn't know anything about me except that she didn't help choose me, so she made my ex's life a living hell, emotionally. It made me feel horrible. After we broke up once I told him to tell his family we weren't together because she was on death's door and I wanted accord between them. He didn't. It made me feel like a scapegoat because he never made time for me and I was his lats priority and the source of all this drama, yet he never respected my boundaries. Maybe I was like this totem more than a person, a way to defy arranged marriage and maintain his freedom, without ever actually committing to a relationship. It REALLY messed me up.

Excellent video! Great content!

U really have balls to say that, nice vid!

@11:48 "Chinese people seem very heartless because they are" There's some brutal honesty for ya.

@denisesimone552

4 жыл бұрын

I'm not. I swear to god.

@nuccababy1814

4 жыл бұрын

Denise Simone 😂

@bmw803

4 жыл бұрын

This is what happens when COmmunists stick their nose in shit that dont concern them, such as peoples lives.

@MishaFlower

4 жыл бұрын

@@bmw803 In georgia, Smiling is tabo because of years of communist propganda telling them that smilng means capitalist spy.

@bmw803

4 жыл бұрын

@@MishaFlower Some people really have brains. To be able to manipulate the masses, you have to be smart.

Critical and some what educational content my bro thank you for your dedication

I only met one woman who was selfless, hard working, geniune, honest, giving........my mother

@freddiejackson6958

4 жыл бұрын

You’re most likely wrong about her

@goforgold7082

4 жыл бұрын

@@freddiejackson6958 I have a list of at least 30 people who would say the same of her

@alexharrington6459

4 жыл бұрын

The mistake most men make is in assuming their partner will be as loving and selfless as his mother. Many men often look for the same qualities but are ultimately sadly disappointed.

@goforgold7082

4 жыл бұрын

@@freddiejackson6958 who stole your sugar? Because you sound a little bitter

@freddiejackson6958

4 жыл бұрын

Go for Gold If anyone sounds bitter it’s you, all women reject you, only woman to ever love you was your mother. LOL

I can say what winston said is true. My wife's family hates that she married a foreigner. But once they found out I own a company and that we will visit every two years they tolerate me. Still not welcome in their homes but I am welcome to pay for the meals at the restaurants

@briantezo9232

6 жыл бұрын

Don't visit don't pay. Easy

@santisanti8386

6 жыл бұрын

Trogbok So you don't have to visit them, good for you.

@danniro8888

6 жыл бұрын

Don't pay for their meals, don't even visit them

@Trogbok

6 жыл бұрын

Have to visit them, and have to treat them to meals or face divorce.

@cloudbuster77

6 жыл бұрын

money grubbers

In india we save old mom ❤

@BillionairesArentYourFriends

Ай бұрын

Your Mom wouldn't actually want that if she was a good, sane person. She would want you to save the person you can start a family with.

When I married my wife I told her that if she wants we could help her parents and her sister to move to Canada if they wanted. It seems like a normal thing to offer since we are a family.... Also I grew up in USSR so I have a different mentality...

I'm Chinese and I find what you say to be correct

@user-ve7pj7gz9r

5 жыл бұрын

来来来，证明一下，我不信

@AmigaA-or2hj

4 жыл бұрын

True true!

@lovelyainechan6708

4 жыл бұрын

MEGUMINNNNNN

@Dongzzzzzz

4 жыл бұрын

Man of culture with that pic

@q_q123

4 жыл бұрын

@@Dongzzzzzz I see we have common affinities

First, I'd like to say: I stumbled across your channel after watching some of your earlier videos - chinese scams, building maintenance, different cultural issues, etc... and I really appreciate the eye-opening peek into chinese culture. I worked with a bunch of chinese people who'd come over to America in the late 90's, early 2000's, and I had one (guy) friend who I'd eat lunch with every day and he'd ask me all kinds of questions about stuff like this. Questions I'd often just be like : Uh. wtf? Why would you even ask that? Nice guy too.. but the cultural differences are (literally) worlds apart. And your videos go a long way to explaining them. Excellently done Winston.

It's not just the Chinese but Russians too. Sadly, I went through with similar situations with our relationship. For a few years, she was loving and caring lady but the worst part for me was that she canceled our wedding days before the ceremony because her parents decided not to proceed due to me rejected to sponsor her family. 'YES' it was a relief in many ways but the emotional pains that I had to go through was unbearable. Unspeakable, she was very cold, heartless towards me. Playing innocent victim and made me feeling guilty AF. The hard part, I have experience is that most women I have known contracted this very same evil sickness. It took me a year to heal myself and to stay strong. Of course, I would sponsor her family, only, if she discuss this with me, but not, just put hard demand onto me without proper explanation. Do I trust women now, so far, no one can prove me their worthy? But, I am sure there are good women out there, somewhere?

@ostrich67

14 күн бұрын

Russian culture is Asiatic, by way of Genghis Khan.

Blood is thicker than water, learn it the hard way if you must but you will learn it.

Haven't watched one of your videos for ages! This was really interesting to watch, I love how straight to the point you are. Keep up the great work 😁

@serpentza

6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the watch

"Sponsor my parents, or we're getting divorced." BYE BYE BIATCH!

@samthepoet107

6 жыл бұрын

Most likely she will take the kids to China so good riddance. She is a scammer.

@Cafeston

6 жыл бұрын

You don't have kids obviously.

@samthepoet107

6 жыл бұрын

Family court is 15 minutes walk from where I live. Lots of men are summoned into court to pay child support. Not every father lives with their kids. And not every mother wants the father living with her. Some women just want kids but not have to deal with a man around the house.

@augustomarchi2222

6 жыл бұрын

hi, I really don't understand... is it so a BIG problem to sponsor them? if you accept family maybe you should to try to find a point of contact. She requested green card in secret..and so? perhaps she feared, and rightly, a closure on his part...

@samthepoet107

6 жыл бұрын

That is not how the sponsor system works. The relative has to sponsor their own relatives. The husband can provide a financial statement saying he is responsible for them. But American citizens have first preference. She obviously is not an American citizen or else she could sponsor them herself without needing him. Also there is a backlog. China already has many people immigrating to the US. So it could take more than 10 years for her parents to get green cards.

You’re too cute, don’t even waste your time on any mainland Chinese women, they’ll manipulate you

I have a friend who called off an engagement to his fiancee. He agreed with her about the 50/50 culture (American and Chinese). But suddenly, she wants 71, and he gets 39, but he was cheated on and scammed. Because his fiancee's parents are too demanding.

@Russophile30

Жыл бұрын

You mean 71% and 29%.

One of the most candid videos I've seen. My Chinese wife of 19 years told me she would divorce me over breakfast, in front of my son, while eating her porridge. She divorced me once before in 2010, but thought better of it two months later. We remarried... Now she's at it again. Only this time we have a child. And she wants a divorce because my business hasn't launched yet. Its shocking... Her family defo comes first even though they treat her badly....She's constantly seeking their approval. It's a terrible trait in Chinese women and I know a few other English men who have experienced the exact same treatment.

@kaykaty719

4 жыл бұрын

If can they make you bold.

@CutieMillion

4 жыл бұрын

boganus699 i imagine things were much more complicated than just this comment

@ashylarry4867

4 жыл бұрын

She divorced you once, and you had a child with her afterwards?! Sorry to say, but big mistake, pal. Never ever take back someone who wants a break, breaks up, or divorces.

@serdarkocak1277

4 жыл бұрын

Just devorice not worth the headache.Just transfer all you money away beforehand.Just say you bankrupt then she jumps ships real fast.

@ErikPT

3 жыл бұрын

My current girlfriend is also mistreated by her family thankfully, however, she is able to ignore them as she is her own business owner and manages her livelihood without them even if she wants their approval. She’s over 30+ at this age they are near the brink of giving up on her, a sad fact

After having saved your wife, she meets a nice man and divorces you. The idea is that you only have one mother but easily many wives.

@olivewoodfactorybethlehem6131

4 жыл бұрын

the correct answer well done

@alexandergordon1102

4 жыл бұрын

Better short romance than years of abuse.

@slopedarmor

4 жыл бұрын

How about this; you don't owe your mother or family anything just for being family. Family can be assholes as well. And I wouldn't want to live with assholes. So if I thought my parents were assholes, I would say: goodbye parents, until never! You must spend your life with the people you like. Family or not doesnt matter.

@abhisheknanda9956

4 жыл бұрын

@@slopedarmor well that the different between western values and eastern values( far east, south east,south and middle east)

@Scientists_dont_lie

4 жыл бұрын

@Please Refer To Other Acount A wife IS YOUR FAMILY!! What are you talking about? Remember till death do you part? All Bible believers understand you leave mother and father to cleave to your wife. CHINA scares the shit out of me man. Horrible driving and deceptive women who are culturally trained to wipe you out for there family despite the fact you vowed to be with you till death parts you.