"I thought this was normal" - If I had a penny for every time I received this comment I'd be rich 😂 NO IT'S NOT!

@lindaedvardsson4218

3 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed...✅.. They has to deal with me.. whatever😬☺️. People either like you.. or like you NOT..thats what I/We has to deal with..🥴.. Thank you for nice vid❣️👏🏼

@Odysseiafik

3 жыл бұрын

agree.i am keep taking the pills which will make me have a heart attack and i am typing my sad live at 4 am. kill me

@lindaedvardsson4218

3 жыл бұрын

fish kwok ooh🥺...maybe downsize your dose?😬..or take it early in morning.. hope you find your way👋🏼😊🤝👌🏼

@jbkawaiiholic

3 жыл бұрын

fish kwok my doctor said that if it makes you too anxious and like your heart is gonna get out your chest, you probably need to treat anxiety first and it’s not for you..that was my case. Adhd and anxiety

@atlas5384

3 жыл бұрын

You describe it so perfectly! I always have a hard time finding the words to share what the experience is like. I always have to find videos then save those videos just so I can explain it to my friends and family. It's so stressful having ADHD and it doesn't help that I'm a girl because no one expects it from a girl.

The worst thing is that you are SO painfully aware of the fact that you could do more, could do better. You KNOW that you’re capable but you can’t seem to get there

@KyaHuwa1

2 жыл бұрын

you spoke my heart out it hurts me alot knowing i could do so much more

@bakugokatsuki6019

2 жыл бұрын

Exactly

@natalydaniela8641

2 жыл бұрын

Just lacking that motivation

@CraftingPablo

2 жыл бұрын

@@natalydaniela8641 it’s something else, I am very motivated but feel like some things are just bareeely out of reach and that reaching out just that little distance to get what you want is excruciating and depleting. In my case anyways.

@stellapereira720

2 жыл бұрын

Wow, that's it, I've been diagnosed a week ago, after procrastinating the visit to the psychiatric clinic for 2 months. And I just feel like I could be doing more if I just got up and started it. But I simply cannot start it, and this is eating me alive. I had this hope that confirming would somehow make things better and maybe easier, but they are not, and telling my psychologist that I haven't accomplished anything every week makes me feel awful, and explaining why some of those things weren't accomplished makes me feel so ashamed and I'm not sure if it's a problem of compatibility with the psychologist or the rejection sensibility

I spent almost 24 years genuinely believing this is how everyone lived and I was somehow less capable of handling it than everyone else. It's been such a relief to get a diagnosis and learn that I'm not alone.

@Ameliacandycanegirl

3 жыл бұрын

Yes!!!

@beamarie8041

3 жыл бұрын

Same here

@ericbenitez253

3 жыл бұрын

I am currently going through my journey trying to self diagnose. I opened up with my family but they tell me im talking nonsense. I lose myself trying to explain certain things but i can never get it out. It really is like an internal itch u cant scratch.

@Ameliacandycanegirl

3 жыл бұрын

@@ericbenitez253 keep working towards it. My doctor didn't even want to test me because my grades were ok so she thought it wasn't a big deal when really it was wrecking havoc on my life. I ended up going to another hospital an hour and a half away where they did a full evaluation and I've been on meds for 2 years. Best decision of my life! Keep pushing!

@dontmindme5290

3 жыл бұрын

@Leah Warrington ikr?! It's weird to think that people think differently to this, i thought everyone was like this

This is so accurate. One of the worst things about adhd for me is spending a stupid amount of time working up the motivation to do a task that takes less than 10 mins

@Liminal-Mystic

5 ай бұрын

"I just need to wait a few more minutes, to catch some energy"...

@linksadude1

4 ай бұрын

I feel this on a personal level. Like, it takes too long for me to work up the courage or strength to complete a task that, like you said takes 10 minutes if even that. I overthink everything.

@AreUmygrandson

4 ай бұрын

@@linksadude1 today for example. I had to install a new valve stem on a rim. Took almost a week to get around to it. It took about 4 minutes start to finish and very little effort. Willing to drive with a tire that might explode cause “I don’t feel like it”

@godloves9163

3 ай бұрын

@@AreUmygrandsonwow this… so true 😢

@MrBurn360

3 ай бұрын

i've been folding a single load of laundry for a week

As a 23 year old with ADHD, the amount of times I have asked myself: “when am I going to learn” is far too many to count

@mclainmurphy4488

2 жыл бұрын

@@nigelkelly2286 this comment made laugh 😂😂😂. I understand exactly what you're saying! ADHD is a paradox... no real way to solve it. All we can do is try our best to implement strategies in order to combat it 😅

@davidherron3136

2 жыл бұрын

When it takes till 43 to find out, you are just a very tactical expert in evading all effort and potential change or disruption, once you have had about 40 jobs no sense in looking for another one. Not until getting diagnosis and treatment anyway

@levityoflonging22

Жыл бұрын

Also popular,"Why am I like this??"

@alkiviadisiv

Жыл бұрын

@@levityoflonging22 mine is "you are a fucking idiot" to myself

@tylerislowe

Жыл бұрын

as a 32 year old, you will slowly start to learn the first layer of activity and enthusiasm that is commonly felt when you are about to mess things up. in learning this hard lesson over and over again you will start to doubt everything and especially yourself and your abilities. I'm in that stage now of not enjoying anything that i used to because "it must be these damned games, subject, activity that prevents me from finally..." yet it's all pointless. you will mess things up continually and it will never end. if your like me you will become addicted to anything that gives you even the slightest hit of joy (in my case drugs) and realise every few years that you need to quit for good this time as it's ruining everything again. If you're like me you will try to find a low end job where they will just barely accept your flaws because you will do what is asked of you to the point of detriment just so you don't have to try and find a "real job". You may have luck with love and you may not, but if you're partner is normal they will always be aggravated with something you've done or more often than that something you haven't. ADHD looks like a slight impairment when your 20, an insidious one when your 30, and by your 40's or 50's? I'm terrified to find out. we operate in the dark, our buffers only a third of a normal persons if we are lucky, desperately scrying for a piece of guidance that if we just do these 17 simple steps we can finally accomplish... but alas we just couldn't remember to not forget.

"Makes to do list to help with forgetting to do chores" "also- forgets I made a to do list"

@hannajmendoza8080

3 жыл бұрын

accurate

@leo727597

3 жыл бұрын

Understatement of the year 🙌

@stupidassgoblin4395

3 жыл бұрын

also *sees to do list but completely ignores it*

@imoutbye

3 жыл бұрын

Forget to check the calendar too

@AdairGalloJunior

3 жыл бұрын

I literally have a stack of post it notes. One of them includes going to the doctor, which I have been procrastinating on making the appointment for at least 2 months.

The hardest part about ADHD is looking normal and sounding intelligent. The expectations on us seem cruelly high sometimes. You wouldn't expect a paraplegic to jump up and dance, yet equally ludicrous expectations are heaped on us because - Nobody sees the invisible, internal battles we all endure, against our own minds

@aliezahjuarez1212

4 жыл бұрын

Humans are fuckin whores and robots.

@joelokoye23

4 жыл бұрын

Maaaaannnnn! I relate with this SO MUCH! I'm 22 and in my final year of University. I have 2 months to go before my final exams and 6 weeks before my dissertation deadline (and I haven't started my write up 😩) I've just realised that I'm very likely to have ADD and I don't know how to tell my parents. For the past YEAR consistency in my routine, being able to organise and balance different aspects of my life, lack of focus both in lectures and in just about any task (except what interests me enough) and just being productive have been my biggest struggles. I've tried just about everything to solve these problems. Routine problem? I changed it and made it the best I could to ensure productivity while not taxing myself too much (and even the task of creating a weekly plan I postponed for weeks just because I felt it was too much effort). Mindset issue and maybe I'm just making a mountain out of a molehill? I started breaking my work down into smaller chunks and keep saying to myself that it's easy and it'll change. To be honest the first part genuinely helped but not nearly enough to get me the level of consistency and productivity I want. The second just didn't help as much. I've been wondering for SO long what the hell is wrong with me. Why I'm so lazy, unfocused, unserious and complacent, even though I gave myself so, so many harsh pep talks to try and hammer the point home. I always felt I've been missing the last piece of the puzzle to get me out out of first gear. And now I think I know. Like you said, the hardest part of this is that it's invisible to most. We look very normal on the outside and so they set their expectations accordingly. My parents especially, know nothing about ADHD symptoms and have a very grit-like mentality. The have zero tolerance for complacency, laziness and slacking off and they will go BALLISTIC on me if they find out I'm so behind on my dissertation. To make it more complicated, they are super-religious and have even less tolerance for stuff like dishonesty, as they believe it's a 'sin against God and a means through which the devil will wreck my life'. I've grown out of that mindset long ago but that's what makes it so hard to be completely honest with them. That fear of being harshly judged. I don't know what to do at this point... Sorry if this seems like a ramble about my life story. I'm just in a very difficult spot at this moment in time. If anyone has any helpful tips and advice, you're welcome to share them.

@SS24ist

4 жыл бұрын

@@joelokoye23 have things gotten any better for you? I'm sorry that you feel you can't go to your parents about it because of their beliefs etc.. Its just not right... I was diagnosed this year at 37, and when I told my parents they were just like "oh, ok...so what did you have for dinner tonight?" In my mind, I was like "ummm I just had the biggest personal revelation (ADD) and I had to find it entirely on my own meanwhile my self esteem has been in the garbage since I was a kid, and my adult life has been a waste of oxygen. Thanks for the concern!" They love me, just clueless and oblivious :( 🤦‍♀️

@joelokoye23

3 жыл бұрын

@@SS24ist Hey, thanks for the concern and yeah, luckily things have gone better than expected. I did tell them that I'm very likely to have ADD, instead of telling them I had it with certainty in order to avoid looking stupid if the diagnosis results happened to prove me wrong. Unsurprisingly they objected to it, telling me to have faith in "the power of God" and any problems I had would be solved. That didn't do shit to cure my depression 2 years ago. So I no longer buy into any of that. Anyway, yeah, I've decided that if I get the diagnosis after lockdown and I'm indeed ADD positive, then what they think or believe about it won't change anything. About my dissertation, I've agreed with my module leader on my course to do it next year part time. I had a big argument with my parents on this issue and I was trying to explain to them the sheer unlikeness of doing both the lab work & dissertation a month before the deadline, when I have barely gotten started. But all they kept saying is, "why don't you believe God can perform a miracle? Do you have faith in God?" It was seriously frustrating to continually have my at least reasonable points drowned with accusations of lack of faith. But due to the lockdown, they eventually couldn't deny the fact that returning next year is the more realistic outcome. I'm really sorry about your parents' reaction, or lack thereof, to your diagnosis. It must have been terrible for you going through school to struggle to do what others were able to do so easily, and the worst part is that most likely others around you concluded that maybe you were either just being lazy, complacent or were incompetent. How was your relationship with your parents affected? I'm curious to know. Honestly I feel for anyone that has to go through stuff like that in their formative years. It's damaging and it can take time to heal from that. It's something that should be treated with more gravity and not just brushed aside by religion or any other pre existing notions about mental health. We deserve to be taken seriously when it comes to things like this. Hope you find someone that can really listen to you and provide the emotional support you need. All the best and have a great day!

@jordanrichards320

3 жыл бұрын

My favorite thing was teachers asking me why I wasn't keeping up academically with the other kids. Lol

I got diagnosed with ADHD 23 years ago as a teenage. Spent my whole life fighting ADHD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

@DassHibionada

16 күн бұрын

Congrats on your recovery. Most persons never realizes psilocybin can be used as a miracle medication to save lives. Years back i wrote an entire essay about psychedelics. they saved you from death bud, lets be honest here.

@JanetRichardson-mq5es

16 күн бұрын

Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Australia. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them

@SusanaGomez-mp8sk

16 күн бұрын

YES very sure of Dr.benfungi. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

@Mcdogmom288

16 күн бұрын

100% agree I used to have Psychosis and paranoid thoughts like "people thinking about me talking about me etc. Very odd behavior after getting off Adderall from 7-16. Antidepressants at 18-29. 31 now. I took way to much, but took about 20g of Gold caps (Psilocybin containing mushroom) I analyzed my entire life. The emotions that came out helped me understand behavior etc more. Wont ever need to do it again because I'm happy and contempt forever, but I wish more people did this to alter their perception of reality. Would help with healing much trauma

@Wimruther-hk4zn

16 күн бұрын

How do I reach out to him? Is he on insta

The fact that so many people with ADHD thought that this was like how everyone was but they were secretly better at handling it, is probably why people with ADHD are so used to having to adapt and thus becoming really good at it. Since everyone seemed to handle it so well, we just had to seem like we did too, so we put on a pretty good front. No wonder we can sometimes be hard to read.

@olib.

Жыл бұрын

It's called "Masking". Our whole life feels like a job interview. That's why we've learned to get good at it. Fit in, adapt, blend in, mask, imitate and mirror. Problem is: It's energy-intensive. We burn out fast and early. That's when most of us get diagnosed.

@IsakAidee

Жыл бұрын

@@olib. I also notice an association with the concept of "people pleasing", in relation to the adaptiveness part.

@olib.

Жыл бұрын

@@IsakAidee Agreed on that one. We hyperfocus on the problems of the other side, forgetting our own needs. It's like a challenge of "how can I fix this persons issue?" rather than "cool story bro" and moving on.

@IsakAidee

Жыл бұрын

@@olib. Yeah, I've been criticized for it. And when you get older, you realize the difference in wanting to have our problems solved, and just wanting to be heard and understood. Now I'm the best listener ever, and if someone is wanting for advice, I unleash a hell of encyclopaedias of stoic philosophy and Jordan Peterson quotes on their poor little helpless nuggets lmao, no but really, it's generally easier taking care of others' shit than one's own, which is also why we kind of forget because if we can fix the world, everything will be fine, right? Instead of learning to deal because that shit takes effort lol.

@TheAxeter

Жыл бұрын

@@IsakAidee for me it's different from time to time but the most regular reasoning i make for the need to help someone else is because no matter what i get or fix for myself i "know" I'll still feel like shit. So i try to help others in hope that it makes their life better

Oh my god, that feeling that I would resent the hell out of a husband or kids who made any demands on my time. I love my me-time, and I sem to need it more than most. People don't usually get that. Personally, I don't understand how people can go about life doing a whole bunch of things all day and then going to sleep, with no time to be alone, to think, to drift, to do a whole lot of nothing for the pleasure of it.

@ADHDMastery

3 жыл бұрын

This 👆

@ArseAllowance

3 жыл бұрын

I feel you so much, i feel 90% of my time needs To be me-time or i'll drive crazy

@Lowdermoomoo

3 жыл бұрын

I have a great husband but my 2 year old is making me fall apart, i love her so much but my ADHD makes me constantly overwhelmed. I tend to stay up until 2-3 am just to have quiet me time. The only time i feel slightly normal is when i take my medicine and I can actually choose what to think about. I can actually chose to focus on my daughter, and what she seems to need. But I get bullied constantly for taking medication, people say “you don’t really need that, you seem fine to me” or “wow so you do legal meth?” It’s so hard honestly.

@Mastermint

3 жыл бұрын

​@@Lowdermoomoo yeah, that's me, kinda. I'm a night owl, but I think it's because I've never lived alone. Now I live with my sister and her husband, helping her with her baby daughter as much as I can, but things never settle down before 11pm. That means sleeping at 2 am, because I want to read a book, watch videos, watch a movie or game, anything fun by myself really, so I don't feel my day was meaningless or horrible.

@Mastermint

3 жыл бұрын

@@Lowdermoomoo and my mother was not too keen on my use of medication either. She's now comming around, but only after we got into an argument and I told her point blank that my diagnosis was a huge thing that made me revaluate my whole life, all my failures and "quirks", and that ritalin gives me a few hours of good function and not feeling like an idiot. now she's feeling bad and kinda like she failed me, which is not at all what I wanted, because I'm pretty sure she has it too and just didn't know better. As long as you KNOW it helps you, that's all it matters. You don't have to justify your pills to anyone. It can be an oportunity to teach people about the condition, if you have the patience and inclination.

"i wish i could just switch off" i swear

@madisonlawson1916

3 жыл бұрын

That hit SO hard honestly

@Mr-Solev

3 жыл бұрын

Agreed

@julianweijers7079

3 жыл бұрын

Hit like a truck

@vcrazy_diamond

3 жыл бұрын

I remember being 5 years old, asking my grandma if it was possible to stop thinking. She told me just to simply close my eyes and clear your thoughts. Wished that worked though :/

@normanwei529

3 жыл бұрын

@@vcrazy_diamond try meditating its a game changer in combination with sport if i dont do either id go insane

This is literally me down to a science, it's hard for me to accept it. But everything you've described is how I feel on a day to day basis. Which has led to chronic depression. I'm now I'm my late 20s with no kids or wife. I just feel lost. Somedays I still wonder if it'd be better if I wasn't here because society doesn't accept or understand that I function differently. I hope one day I find happiness in things asides from the dopamines of video games or other hobbies I'm passionate about. Scared ill never make it as functioning normal human being in society. I doubt anyone will read this. But thank you for making this video gives me comfort to know I'm not the only person who deals with this everyday.

@Bdogggggg

Жыл бұрын

Randomly stumbled upon this video today. I can relate. I recently read in a book that not only does thinking shape behavior, but behavior shapes thinking. Changing habits has helped me a lot - less video games, less social media, less isolation; exercise, reading (without my phone or desktop nearby), and more relationships. Of course, I do relapse sometimes. But typically when I follow those basic new habits, I can see a drastic change in my mood and mind! Hope this helps

@upgrade1015

Жыл бұрын

I feel you

@miriamwilson9542

Жыл бұрын

i do read you you are not alone. a lot of us are in this mindset. it can be hell. much love to you.

@SharlenesJourney

Жыл бұрын

Same I also love video games lol I think it’s just best we honestly just do the best that we can and follow our hearts . Society probably will never understand what we deal with or experience day to day

@moehead8257

Жыл бұрын

brother, who cares if people accept you or not, youre alive, youre probably smart as fuck, dig your own way, you dont have to follow their road, there are unlimited roads in this life thatll take you where you want to be, so chose the one that fits, and there isnt one yet, MAKE A ROAD. dont expect anything, dont wait for people to read you or accept you, do it urself, accept urself, and if people cant read you, then speak out loud so they can listen to you

I loved that the video got blurry while he was at work. It's like when your eyes glaze over and you're not really focusing on anything. It's just not stimulating enough. Instead, your mind is on a million other things but your autopilot (which is so heavily trained because it's almost always engaged) is just running through your life. You only sort of see it. Just like it's as if the lens was blurred. But then some background noises disrupt your daydreaming, like the car horns, and you snap back to reality to focus on the first thing in front of you. He focused on his female coworker and seamlessly transitioned to a new train of thought. It made him think about having a family and if he'd be good at it. The camera then snaps back to a close up on him and goes slightly blurry as he considers it... No longer looking at the coworker. It was perfect. An accurate depiction of life in my head. Seamlessly, the thoughts flow like a river one into the other. Occasionally, I notice reality around me and engage with it, but often that immediately starts a new river of thoughts. My autopilot all the while leading around my everyday life. It drives me to work, holds conversations, performs tasks. Occasionally, it calls on me to be creative or deal with something unfamiliar, but mostly I'm just away in my mind thinking about more interesting things. Not by choice; I'm a prisoner. I'd love to turn off autopilot and do what I know how to do myself, but I don't really get that choice, do I?

@vindembmw6421

Жыл бұрын

This comment feels like something written by my alter ego, lol.

@holliisixx

Жыл бұрын

Maybe daily life is just too boring to pay attention to most of the time? Or does the mind do this wherever u go and no matter what u do w/ur life?

@danreyn

Жыл бұрын

@@holliisixx Am I doing something for the first time? If yes, this doesn't usually happen (depends on recent sleep levels, etc). If no, then it's usually this. It can be very difficult living with this every day; it seriously impairs my ability to function the way I know I can. The one respite from this state is video games. I tell people I play them to de-stress after a long day. However, the truth (which can be hard for them to understand, and thus the fib) is kind of more the opposite. I play them so that I can use my head properly. I can think and make decisions more clearly with them. It's like a fun break from some of the more impairing symptoms of my disability. Plus you can learn a lot from them. (but I'm going to stop here or I'll end up ranting about how weird it is that something that is essentially television with more interactivity is more stigmatized by society than television)

@holliisixx

Жыл бұрын

@@danreyn so novelty and high-intensity high-speed decision making (i.e. action-y video games; sorry i don't know examples im not really a gamer) force you to live in the moment enough to focus? From your experience what are the worst activities for a person with ADD or ADHD?

@JohnyMo88

Жыл бұрын

@@danreyn I feel this. I need the games to free my mind. To use my mind fully, to feel something in the present moment or to stay present in the moment. Im 38 and am still gaming. I just read your comment and just wanted to say I get it.

right now i'm avoiding all the stuff that I must get done by researching everything about ADHD.

@teahan5855

2 жыл бұрын

Its called hyperfucus

@skylark4736

2 жыл бұрын

Same 🤣

@Madina_CR

2 жыл бұрын

@@skylark4736 samee

@ruiyochanan5951

2 жыл бұрын

Sameeee 😅😭

@MoTM249

2 жыл бұрын

Right cause thats actually interesting

Having ADHD is like being in a room filled with all sorts of T.V's, and you have only one remote

@hectorandem2944

3 жыл бұрын

But wait! *Where are the batteries?!*

@maheenmirza5575

3 жыл бұрын

and u eventually lose the remote as well

@saggguy7

3 жыл бұрын

@@maheenmirza5575 what is this remote doing in the refrigerator

@maheenmirza5575

3 жыл бұрын

@@saggguy7 whats a refri- OH YEAH

@dianecordero9769

2 жыл бұрын

being in a room full of TV's is my nightmare :( hate sports bars and waiting rooms

The exercise part is so accurate as well, if I don’t train for more than 2 days I feel like I can’t function mentally. ADHD, at least with me, I feel helps with my athletic performance because it is one of the only things that I can truly focus 100% on for hours on end.

@shayp3558

Жыл бұрын

True. I go 42 hours without exercising and my executive functioning skills are shot

@RonaiHenrik

Жыл бұрын

I also have learned that excercise helps me focus. I climb, and when I do I can actually concentrate and block out the other stuff. It's so nice, I wonder how good it would be if I could do it in everyday life too :)

@dotsemma

Жыл бұрын

Can't agree more! exercise helped giving me that mental focus for 3-5 hours but afterwards my body requires me to take a nap. Then, 15 minutes nap became 2 hours. Back to the spiral of procrastination.😮‍💨

@nathanroman6566

Жыл бұрын

Ohhh yeah I’m right there with you. If I didn’t work as a contractor in a super physical job with stupid amounts of exercise, my mind just goes a mile a minute 24/7

@user-jp7tj1hk3z

11 ай бұрын

I am the same , i dont know how many times people have told me IF ONLY YOU COULD BE FOCUS IN WORK AND AT HOME LIKE YOU ARE IN THE GYM AND WITH YOU FOOD 😅😢 well i ENJOY IT so its super easy

Dude that spoke to my heart when you said you would lie there for hours coming up with scenarios and parsing through them. That's always been a coping mechanism for me. A way of unspooling my thoughts and digesting them in a way that doesn't feel overwhelming. More and more I've realized just how bad of ADHD I've had my whole life. And frankly I'm glad I fell through the cracks and self medicated with weed for a long time. Because it got me to a state of zen calmness the majority of the time when I'm in taxing situations. Honestly I've found that it's the moments where things go into overdrive at work that I'm in the zone, the less busy times I find I'm so in my head that I will forget I'm even cooking something and either burn it or make some other mistake. But when things are on a razors edge I preform flawlessly. To put it in perspective, to this day I usually play 2 games at once. I went through a spell where I understood the value of focusing wholly on one game, but have returned to grinding afk skills in mmos on one screen and playing a more skill intensive game on the other. So rhythmically tabbing out, getting the cycle of whatever skill I'm doing going again, then tabbing back into the game that requires my focus. And sleep bro. It's always a case that my train of thought slowly drifts into sleep, or slowly but surely I hear less and less snippets of a video as I'm dosing off. Sleep for me nearly never carries a dream, it's usually I'm focused on something, I fall asleep, I wake up and after retracing what happened the day prior I resume that train of thought, sometimes unbroken. I do the same with conversations. Will continue a conversation from the night before or the day before as if no time passed.

@alainfranken7081

Жыл бұрын

I feel the same. When life is in overdrive I can focus like a hell, but when things slow down my focus slows down, my mind awakens and the wondering continues. I believe our minds can be insanely focused if the matter is urgent enough, but when urgency lacks our minds want to mine for New ideas that are perhaps interesting.

@veryfakename2644

Жыл бұрын

I work at a top 10 store in the nation... A few words of advice. You'll get burt out if you keep going into overdrive. Weed won't help when you've been doing it for so many years. And eventually you'll be dealing with ADHD when drunk, high, ect and it'll be horrible. I haven't found my answer to this question yet but maybe it'll help u find it faster

@zoidsfan12

Жыл бұрын

@@veryfakename2644 i appreciate the advice. I stopped smoking weed about a month ago because it wasn't even effecting me any more and I realized I was just doing it out of habit not because I wanted to. I've tried to just cope with the ADHD in other ways, drinking pu-urh tea has been one thing that has helped weirdly enough, has a calming euphoric effect and the process of breaking up tea cakes, steeping the tea, and pouring it through a strainer into the tea cup gives me something tactile to do as well. It's funny too because while on weed 24/7 I would sometimes feel as though I was the creature from "I have no mouth and I must scream" because so much would just be internal. Now I literally have been bout to lose my voice from how much I've been talking, singing, and voice acting every line of dialogue I read in games. Hell even just self dialog while playing games, things like reacting to attacks in souls games and literally timing it by saying out loud "roll through that, attack, back off, etc". It's like uncapping the genie bottle.

@veryfakename2644

Жыл бұрын

If I am truly stressed I have noticed one hit still works for relief

@Didgeridoovibes

Жыл бұрын

@@zoidsfan12 how's the not dreaming coming along without weed? I found when i haven't smoked for a few days (or in very seldom cases weeks) they come back. I usually can't remember any of it otherwise (smoking for the bigger part of 22 years now)

This is so relatable. When I was younger I just thought everyone was like this and that somehow they were just secretly better at dealing with it.

@RidgewayInMedia

2 жыл бұрын

Absolutely me

@erich9177

2 жыл бұрын

Same, I genuinly thought that working 9-5 in an office was pure suffering and I must be weak to not be able to tolerate it.

@SlickSkuddy

2 жыл бұрын

The people I complain to think it’s just normal but to me I’m going crazy because I can’t put an end to it

@desaio63

2 жыл бұрын

Same i felt that i was mentally weak that i needed to be strong mentally n all my problems would be solved only if i knew back then what adhd was n how it affects behaviour n emotions

@Thelittleclipstore

2 жыл бұрын

There’s a huge chunk of society this way, if ur into Myers briggs . Soo many perceivers think they need meds or something is wrong with them , or it’s their fault . and being intuitive makes it worse .. but really we just need to live a diffent lifestyle and some peoples hardships are more on outside world and some people have more issue inside and hidden. Often those that cope well in outer world and organized have difficulty with their mental state or feeling deeply or some hidden stuff . And for some reason they think their the perfect humans . But nobody is! And if we pick everyone apart we can all be on meds or feel broken and put labels. Every single person can get a label. Even ppl that look successful and like their coping.

"I'd like to keep to myself to preserve my mental energy" I felt that

@Bakokid

Жыл бұрын

No fr

I'm 65 now and this is the story of my life. I was never tested or diagnosed with ADHD/ADD inattentive not hyperactive but a quiet Introvert.and still single , and am quit sure it is what has been plaguing me from day one. I stumbled across your channel and only realized it after watching a few of your videos. I am subscribed now.

I'm 40 this year, my life has always been like this, it was never picked up by my parents or teachers, everyone just thought I was a lazy daydreamer. I can rarely focus for more than a few minutes. When my bosses ask me to do something, I agree, but have no clue what they just asked of me. I never thought I had ADHD until recently because I always though of people with ADHD as people with boundless energy, which I certainly do not have, at least physically. My mind constantly races without any focus, just seemingly random thoughts. I need to see a doctor but I know I'll probably never get around to it, my own worst enemy. I'm not looking for sympathy either, I get by in life better than some people, I just don't think I'll ever reach my full potential

@MotocrossEditor

Жыл бұрын

Bro, I discovered I had ADHD at 40. Go get tested. Discover your capabilities. 😎👍🏼

@justeezy8569

Жыл бұрын

@@MotocrossEditor what if I don’t want to take meds

@MotocrossEditor

Жыл бұрын

@@justeezy8569 you got to know you have it first. you and your doctor will figure out options

@craigchenery1182

Жыл бұрын

I feel you man no insurance so im stuck with

@rainwoman5943

Жыл бұрын

You write so coherently. I'm looking into this for a friend but I wonder if journaling would help you.

When you said " I need to stop clenching my jaw" I immediately relaxed mine. I feel called out

@litchtheshinigami8936

3 жыл бұрын

Diane yep if i stress to much i will do it in an extreme way so much so that i’ll do it the entire night during my sleep and wake up with my jaw muscles crying for help

@danidopolous

3 жыл бұрын

Me too 😅

@dabi5967

3 жыл бұрын

Lol I feel that 😭😅😂

@Sxziio

3 жыл бұрын

HOLY SHIT BRO I DIDNT EVEN GET TO THAT PART AND SAW THIS N THE SAME THING HAPPENED FUCK.. adhd man

@kendaldnce4005

3 жыл бұрын

NOT ME CLENCHING MY JAWWWODIEJDU AHHHHH

The having conversations with yourself is SO accurate, at least in my case. Especially when it comes to situations im anxious about i discuss every problem and solution with myself incessantly until im confident i have a way to deal with it when confronted (even if i never am).

@nadiaperez9683

3 жыл бұрын

DUDE MEE it’s so irritating like just shut up 😂 I wish I could turn off my thoughts

@mandarinablue8438

3 жыл бұрын

Yep. Wehn I had anxiety for a long period of time I did this. Even though the fear is constant anxiety has mellowed out but I still have conversations with myself daily. It helped me until it actually didn't that much.

@dilhat1223

3 жыл бұрын

Broo saamme i do that so much, but i havent been diagnosed yet so i cant say i have ADHD.

@noname99234

3 жыл бұрын

I used to talk to myself a lot and people thought I was weird. So I got a plant.

@hamza6227

3 жыл бұрын

Holy shittttttt that’s so me

as someone who performed well and is now at the "gifted kid burnout" stage of life, and suspects undiagnosed (at least till January) ADHD to be the culprit, this meant a lot to me, thanks ♥️ edit: I'm diagnosed now, got a high score in all categories

@apathysatragedy3114

Жыл бұрын

I'm in the same boat, but just got diagnosed. Planning on finally getting some medication and support before college so I don't have such horrid burnout this time around, senior year was hell for me

@ItzElisaxx

5 ай бұрын

Same, I have exams next week and I haven't got anything done I want to, believe me, I just can't So here I am, procastinating at 4:30 am....when my mom is probably thinking I am getting things done I know I shouldn't be on phone, I know I should study, but I just can't seem to get of the phone And even when I do..I will just start scribbling in my notes again As someone who was once a "gifted student" I feel like I am letting everyone down...I just can't reach their expectations, they are too high I know I will be able to if I just try..but I am not

@jfalk6500

5 ай бұрын

@@ItzElisaxx hey, something that helps me a bunch is being around people who are also doing something productive, then you get to be together and you also both encourage each other

@lilablossom5327

5 ай бұрын

I’m in 10th grade now and my grades have been dropping since 7th. And they’re so inconsistent as well. Like I’ll have good grades at the beginning of the year when I’m interested or in classes that only have tests with no longer term assignments. I’ve recently gotten diagnosed for depression/anxiety but have yet to test for adhd.

I'm 25 and was diagnosed with ADHD not even a month ago. I always thought this was normal and had no idea I've been struggling with ADHD all this time. I have to take constant breaks and my working memory is awful. I thought it was just because I wasn't trying hard enough to focus or just because school and work is usually boring. Even in things I enjoy I can't focus on for more than an hour and I pick up hobbies and drop them a couple weeks later. Thanks for making this, it made my thoughts about being just plain dumb a little quieter :)

@samuraispike4615

Жыл бұрын

I am dealing with what you’ve said on a daily basis, but I do have an assessment at the end of July hopefully to finally figure out why it’s sooo damn hard anything done. It’s pure insanity.

@RonaiHenrik

Жыл бұрын

I feel you, although I have more issues with my prospective memory.

@chrislee1774

Жыл бұрын

Are you medicated now? And if you are, has your perception changed or have you come to any realizations?

@fierceserge8061

Жыл бұрын

@@chrislee1774 I am now, I have been for about 2.5 months. Definitely changed my perspective on how I should be functioning. I don't take them on weekends since I don't need to focus on work and it feels fine. I wished I had been medicated sooner.

@Kaiyats

Жыл бұрын

To think everyone else at school was paying attention and I wasn't like it should of been obvious to me then.

"I really wish I could experience the same level of gratification that I get from playing video games in other areas of my life. Maybe then I would be successful instead of just neglecting things." Whoooo boiii that resonates!

@samanthalauver-marion3432

2 жыл бұрын

Yes omg

@SamuelAlder

Жыл бұрын

yep

Same. I wish I could tell my story like this too. I'm so organized with lists, calendars, color coded closet, and full of energy but bejeezus I just wish I could execute.

@mariecarie1

4 жыл бұрын

The lady from How To ADHD said that ADHD is largely a motivation disorder. She’s totally right. We can be as organized as we like, but using it to help motivate us is insanely hard. It takes soooo much mental energy to get things started that we poop out half way through and let everything fall into disarray.

@knmonlinemedia

3 жыл бұрын

😭

@austingoyne3039

3 жыл бұрын

Marie Carie Watch her videos on ‘the wall of awful’. Hopefully that’ll help to get going on things

@mariecarie1

3 жыл бұрын

Austin Goyne Yeah, that video was SO helpful. I’d watched it a couple months ago. It helped explain a lot of my avoidant behavior on even little things that *shouldn’t* bother most people. Great recommendation!

@chinadoll7

3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I get sidetracked so easily and oh so quickly.

I knew ADHD made the people living with it (like me) different, but honestly I never realised in all my 23 years just how different it is and how many daily struggles I had that was related to it. I do want to have just a week or even a day where I can be without it just to know what it’s like and how different it would feel

I suspect I might have ADHD, but the hardest part of finding out is getting a doctors appointment so I can actually get the ball rolling to being assessed. I tried to get an appointment a week ago, they told me they wouldn't have anything for a month, and I just felt so dejected and exhausted that I said I would try again on the weekend to see if there were any cancellations, but ever since I've just been unable to get out of bed early enough to call them and feel confident they'll have a spot open sooner. Annoyingly I do set an alarm, but I seem to turn the damn thing off while half asleep. Half asleep me is adamant about not participating with life.

@pennym1056

Жыл бұрын

Try putting the alarm across the room, so you have to get up and walk over to turn it off

@LaniiPanda

Жыл бұрын

I got an ADHD assessment on the Circle Medical app and have been working with an amazing Nurse Practitioner since. Highly recommend!

I have add for sure. I am supposed to be doing many other things right now. When I have things that I need to get done, and I remember them, they give me anxiety and depression....and severe guilt!

@susiesalter5290

3 жыл бұрын

Andrea you my inspiration.......best family channel.....can't believe we watch same vids....I feel same......always suffered answers. And how to live with it is my goal.....xx🙏🙏💜💜

@Ineedmorelives

3 жыл бұрын

@@susiesalter5290 Susie, thank you for always leaving me sweet comments and reaching out! I havent found a way to live with it yet, but I'm sure medication would help!

@thea9153

3 жыл бұрын

Its not called add anymore, there are 3 (or more) different types of adhd. Its interactive, combined and hyperactive.

@lisarrieta9957

3 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way sometimes, when I don’t seat down and Study. All the three things start kicking again. It’s so bad . 😓

@Poloskii

3 жыл бұрын

Whenever I realize I'm doing something I'm not supposed to i just kinda sit there processing whats happening to me and then cry because my life is so "hard"

0:35 Inaccurate. We forget to look at the to-do-list entirely.

@erikfoster824

3 жыл бұрын

Absolutely true! Thank you for mentioning this!

@ADHDMastery

3 жыл бұрын

Not if you put it in big letters right in front of your path so you can't avoid seeing it. Also just want to add that this is not a miracle cure, it just increases your chances of staying on track and creating a sense of urgency, especially if you back it up on your phone/other devices.

@erikfoster824

3 жыл бұрын

ADHD Management That’s true also. Though, some of us will see it then handle other tasks we need to do then still forget about it after...unless you’re taking about it literally in like a “dotted format like after we finish doing something then seeing the reminding right after then going about doing it. I just wanted to make that point. In my opinion we relate to a lot of the same things but everyone of us is a slight bit different in how our brains reaction is to getting or remembering a certain task depending on the circumstance or what’s going on around us.

@erikfoster824

3 жыл бұрын

Also I just wanted to mention a lot of what you showed in your short film was very much on point and I’ve absolutely gone through it myself being diagnosed with non hyperactive/inattentive adhd and having dyslexia.

@ChechireCat4721

3 жыл бұрын

@@ADHDMastery Not if you're adhd, depressed and schizophrenic, if the to do list is even a to do list anymore, you don't care about what you were going to do. Fuck there's no winning lmao.

34 now, have always felt this way. Wake up with thoughts running, can’t switch off. Finally getting help. Thanks for the video

Absolutly incredible! Finally a good portrait of ADHD. Also: Sometimes i wonder if my diagnosis is correct or that i am just lazy. But i always ask my self "You really think it is normal to struggle this much in everyday life?!"

@bozydarbozy

Жыл бұрын

yes, exactly. i remind myself that not everyone wants to k1ll themselves just because so little and so many things at once are interesting to them…i physically feel pain while doing things i find boring and things i find interesting are not seen as important. im going insane. i hope ill get diagnosed and get meds bc i literally cannot anymore:/

Constant maladaptive daydreaming: check Feeling completely stuck yet overwhelmed by the things you gotta do: check Can't dream of being a wife or mother: check Jaw always clenched: check I cannot explain why I have felt for so long that literally everyone around me is capable of moving ahead but I am not. I just feel like I would never be able to. Maybe this is why.

@litchtheshinigami8936

3 жыл бұрын

thefatcat87 can’t dream of being a wife or mother.. i just don’t want either of it 😂

@thefatcat87

3 жыл бұрын

@@litchtheshinigami8936 Just thinking about it makes me feel like I'm drowning in overwhelm-ness (if that's even a word)

@litchtheshinigami8936

3 жыл бұрын

@@thefatcat87 same.. that's why i don't want either.. if i want something to take care of i'll get a dog

@ADRENERGlC

3 жыл бұрын

Is your jaw clenched because of adhd medication? Otherwise I think you have another problem

@DJ5780

3 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you are realizing you may have ADHD?

Having less really helped me. I got rid of a significant amount of clothes, products, knick knacks etc. It makes it easier to clean and keep organized and cuts down on decision making fatigue. I have to force myself not to buy what I don't really need and it's hard but that helped a lot.

@butasimpleidiotwizard

3 жыл бұрын

God yes I threw out basically everything I didn't wear/use/like and I've kept things consistently at an acceptable level of mess for months, I still can't keep everything tidy all the time but nothing ever gets out of hand anymore and tidying is so much easier when I get to it

@butasimpleidiotwizard

3 жыл бұрын

Personally I pulled out all the knick knacks and stuff I did like and used them to cover any surfaces that didn't have a set purpose because it stopped me from putting anything extra on them and I could arrange them so they looked nice instead of just ending up with huge stressful piles of genuine clutter all over everything, plus it means I have to put certain stuff away instead of leaving it to collect dust in a pile

@SunshinePip

3 жыл бұрын

@@butasimpleidiotwizard I use books in place of knick knacks. It gives me something to pick up and read if I'm in that area and get distracted or need something to focus on. Sometimes I'll bring them to other parts of the house and they get left somewhere else when I get distracted or bored with them.

@SunshinePip

3 жыл бұрын

@@butasimpleidiotwizard My clutter item is with papers. Sticky notes don't work for me as they seem to blend into the background after awhile, I end up with them all over my desk or forgotten near my wall calendar. It took me a month to realize that a coworker had hung up these passive aggressive notes directed at me and that was after someone else pointed them out to me. 🙃 I can't hold onto coupons for a later date, leave mail unopened or use lists and reminders. Only my obnoxiously large wall calendar and an excessive amount of alarms set on my phone seem to work. Do you have a particular item that you're always losing or misplacing?

@SunshinePip

3 жыл бұрын

@@butasimpleidiotwizard That sense of relief when you've gotten rid of excess clutter. 💙

Holy sh*t this is 100% Accurate.

This made me cry, but I'm glad you created it. I finally have something to show to the people who care about me, and I can explain "this is exactly how I've felt my whole life, I just didn't understand what was happening because I've been bouncing from one catastrophe to another". I'm 30 going on 31, finally getting shit together somewhat. I'm hoping I can have a doctor check me out soon and hopefully get some guidance, maybe meds... anything other than just never reaching goals that I've craved for years...

The calendar going from September/October to January is such an underrated moment. Excellent voicing too, especially that first line. Hopefully about to be diagnosed. This is my life. Love to all the community - we’re in this together and we’ve all got a superpower💚

@popojelly1895

2 жыл бұрын

That detail was so unexpected it's really hilarious

@verfassungspatriot

Жыл бұрын

It's so true 😭

@nashmono7086

Жыл бұрын

I honestly didn’t even notice that the first time. But you’re absolutely right right now it’s June 2022 and the last month that I can remember is February. It’s insane how fast everything moves. I feel like I can’t keep up. But when I’m doing things people tell me I’m too fast. Idk anymore

My fiance has ADHD, he's amazing, we've been together 5 years and get married in 3 months. This video hit home hard, I don't doubt his (nor anyone with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) ability to parent or commit to a life partner. If they are right for you, they will appreciate, value and preserve your happiness and mental health. You'll become a team, together you'll ease the load that is life, work related stress and everything that comes in between. Although this diagnosis massively impacts your life, you are so much more than you'll ever know. You are loved.

@brettneuberger6466

3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Thank you for this! You and your fiancé will make an incredible team. I was diagnosed later in life.....in the mean time, my wife and I raised and supported two amazing boys. It can be done when you realize adhd is a gift in some respects....AND both partners show patience, communicate, and capitalize on each other’s strengths. Congratulations! Enjoy your wedding!!

@klauspeter5353

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making me more optimistic about pbeing a parent with add in the future. I'm 23 and just diagnosed. You said it can be a gift, how so?

@saggguy7

3 жыл бұрын

@@klauspeter5353 from a person with ADHD, some of our strengths are: 1.) “creativity is just impulsivity gone right”. Because our brains are constantly throwing so much shit at the wall, we are often the quickest to find the shit that sticks. Because of this, we can be highly creative and can see problems in unusual ways. 2.) Hyperfocus. For most of us, when something captures our attention, it *really* captures our attention. That means that we often get really, really good at the things that actually interest us. 3.) Humor. Once my ADHD stopped being such a huge hurdle for me, both my partner and I ended up figuring out that a lot of the stuff it makes me do is really, really funny. And now, I can laugh at my own expense more than most can. 4.) finding surprises everywhere. Nothing beats finding money in a coat pocket, of a coat I just found out I owned, because at some undetermined point in time I put it in the back of the pantry for some reason. 5.) compassion. It really takes a lot for me to judge a person after all the cringeworthy and ridiculous things I’ve said and done in my life. 6.) Work ethic and perseverance. I’m already so used to having to work way harder than everyone else to be successful. When situations come up where that level of work isn’t necessary, it still just feels natural and easy to put my all into it, meaning I sometimes end up overachieving in some areas of my life while barely feeling like I’m trying. 7.) Multi-tasking. I work in a daycare, and with my brain already being in 10 million places at once, it’s natural to me to keep up with that kind of chaos. Don’t get me wrong, ADHD can definitely be so frustrating and hard to handle. But we have to give ourselves credit and be grateful for the positives :) the more you learn to manage your symptoms, the more your adhd will start feeling like a gift rather than a curse. Hang in there.

@klauspeter5353

3 жыл бұрын

@@saggguy7 Thank you for the examples. Understanding that my brain functions differently than my peers' has been conforting, but a feel that I'm still in a huge disadvantage in med school. The rate and order in which I'm expected to learn stuff is completely incompatible with my add brain. It seems that our strengths are more on the creative fields when it comes to work. Since learning about my condition I've been trying to "trigger" that hyperfocus state by first becoming interested on a particular topic, and only after that starting to engage and do the proper studying. It's not perfect and it definitely takes longer, so I'm still behind on the program, but at least I am managing to study everyday even if just for a little while. In these times we're going through, that's a big win for me hahah. Thanks for the positivity and for taking the time to reply, kind friend. It's nice to know I'm not alone. Greetings from Brasil o/ Wish you the best! ;)

@hadleybayley3870

3 жыл бұрын

This is encouraging. I wish I could find someone to partner with, who can understand. There should be a good free dating site for ADHD people, where supposedly normal and ADHD people can find an ADHD person to date if they find it would work for them. Then you would state whether or not you are ADHD. It would also prevent two "normal" people from dating on the site, to keep it for what it's intended for. Haha

That part where the calendar went from September to January.. omg It's Feb 24th on mine, and I'm writing this on Aug 3rd. I live in a small town in Poland, currently battling for even the possibility to get assessed.

Learned about the reality of my autism and adhd last year (36f) and I relate so much. I bought a handful of stuffed animals so when I am home alone and talking non stop to myself I don’t feel so alone.

@Macabresque

Жыл бұрын

Related to stuffed animals - I especially love Squishmallows, they are so soft and squishy. Really helps me with anxiety to just cuddle one for a while. The sensory texture is quite nice.

@FantosmeEntertainment

Жыл бұрын

Suddenly, my(26m) collection habit of beanie babies, character plushies, and other stuffed animals makes A Lot of sense. Thank you for sharing that! I never realized I was doing that because of feeling/being lonely (though I've never lived alone, tbch) and it feels nice now having an answer to a question I never knew I had and validating at the same time.

@accidentalwarrior1017

Жыл бұрын

How did you get a diagnosis? Doctors "forget" me no matter how many times i fill out forms 1 or 2 years ago for autism and adhd...i'm now 31. I already was diagnosed with both at age 6...but this was in france. I moved back to the uk.. Then the n h s gave me zero help and i am on high dose anti-dep pressants. I too have plushies; google series 2 rainbow corns

@misterrees-vn9ti

3 ай бұрын

I also found out recently, and also have that self-talk. When I get lonely at night I wish I was someone else's stuffed animal, or a cat. That last bit includes meowing...

Bloody brilliant mate, you captured ADHD so well. I'd love to see more of these!

@a.s.h.5774

3 жыл бұрын

He really freaking nailed it!

@lucia-mariapetcu9182

3 жыл бұрын

Hi I want to do one also as being diagnosed and in psychology major also.

@HouseofJello

3 жыл бұрын

Watching the part about him leaving and having to go back inside because he’d forgotten something I was like “oh my god that’s me every single fucking time”

@laurajitton4051

3 жыл бұрын

Wow he really did

@2Ducks.

3 жыл бұрын

He did an amazing job👏👏 All of it was so spot on that it hurt!😂

The hardest part for me is getting easily overwhelmed when there are too many conversations happening or if the room has too many distractions which is usually every room I’m in...I also get overwhelmed with simple tasks, so my anxiety is constantly through the roof. I use weed to calm down after work and to stop my thoughts when trying to sleep, but I can’t use weed throughout the day because it’s not acceptable to society.

@Icemanr85

3 жыл бұрын

Hi Jerry I'm currently using weed too. Since covid I have been using through day more it helps me loads. I dont like feeling chesty but life got too much

@dinadjadavis706

3 жыл бұрын

Have you tried CBD?

@Icemanr85

3 жыл бұрын

@@dinadjadavis706 hi. Yes I have tried. I'm now getting good support from community mental health so should help. Its given me a boost but all these diagnosis I have been given have left me confused as hell. My wife just asked me to go for croissants at the shop. It felt like worlds biggest task so I'm now in bed on our holiday hating myself for being froze

@guppykid3535

3 жыл бұрын

Jerry for me I can’t have ANY sound when I’m trying to focus on something or I’ll just hear it and won’t be able to read

@binho2010ish

3 жыл бұрын

I need to go to the grocery store but i keep forgetting.My brother asked me 3 times because he works the entire day.When i remember it's midnight and the local store is already closed.

I can relate to these issues. They tested me for ADD when I was 15, before that I had never thought about me having ADD. I just thought I was stupid. I had cognitive therapy for a year combined with medication. Now, 3 years later, I'm working for a startup and I've finished my first year on a university. I'm learning to deal with the side-effects of medication and ADD in general better every day, it's a struggle but it's the only thing I can do. On the flip side, having ADD has some great advantages for some, like creativity, insight, and analytical thinking.

@__g.l.u___7756

Жыл бұрын

How did you get diagnose ? and what’s the side effects of it

@samydens5164

Жыл бұрын

​@@__g.l.u___7756 I went to the family doctor who sent me to a psychologist. There they took tests and I had some conversations with psychologists. Sometimes it's hard to determine the side effects of medication. Depends on dosage and consistency and a lot of other factors. In my experience the rebound is bad, because you just feel sad and tired. Another side effect is overworking yourself because although your mind and body are tired, you often don't feel it. But for me the pros weigh out the cons.

"Come on, me. PLEASE just study for your classes, especially statistics, throughout the entire semester this time. Otherwise you'll get way too overwhelmed at the end. We just barely passed stats last semester due to a lack of time, I KNOW I can do it, JUST DO IT THIS TIME FFS!!" - me at the start of every semester, I usually last a week before work starts piling up.

2:15 ''why do i keep doing this to myself?'' I feel this one so much. It feels like being possessed. I've even try and hit myself like a psycho(more like a face slap)to stop myself from doing something i know i shouldn't be doing. To no avail.

@frankieannerino9206

3 жыл бұрын

I really relate to what you've just said. I have completely felt the same way.

@abyansetia

2 жыл бұрын

I did that too, until I somehow learned that slapping/punching my own face doesn't do anything other than releasing (?) my frustrations.

@Meme-go9ts

2 жыл бұрын

I've done the same many times, have been doing the same, and I'm a girl (the face slap to myself). No improvement, logically :(

I have two options: Forget everything and ruin my life OR Remember everything and ruin my life from insomnia

@annaturquoise7114

3 жыл бұрын

Anonymous Mobster what the fuck that’s so accurate

@neonWHALE002

3 жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh, that’s what happens to me!

@gizemaslan4431

3 жыл бұрын

we also have very long extremely vivid detailed daydreams which really helps to us to do what we have to do in daily life lol

@clampchowder9569

3 жыл бұрын

somewhere in the middle will do

@Jamieforeals

2 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh 😭😂

That last sentence... "I wish I could just turn it off." Too real.

"I wish I could just switch off" That statement is the most true thing I've ever read. I wish I could just have control of my brain and could flip switches on and off at will...

I hate being lonely but I hate when coworkers try to talk to me when I’m simply trying to remember wtf I’m doing in the first place

I have genuinely sat down and tried to remember my age and where I put my screwdriver that I just used Update: I have now completely lost my screwdriver

@litchtheshinigami8936

3 жыл бұрын

CantB Bothered a while back i was looking for my tv remote for like 10 minutes just frantically looking around on my desk where i always put it only to find out it was literally within arms reach right next to me all this time.. (the right side of my desk is like a longer part and the left side is a bit shorter i was looking all across and mostly on the right when it was literally right under my tv on the left 🤦🏻‍♀️😂) or how i once was talking on the phone with my dad then i wanted to check something and i just went : huh where is it? To wich my dad replied: where is what? Me: my phone. I instantly heard my dad chuckle and he just went well i dunno what are you talking to me with.. and i just looked over at the phone in my hand and went a very sheepish Oh.... 😓

@samantha956

3 жыл бұрын

I've sat down and lost so many things that were literally in my hand moments before. I hadn't connected that was due to my ADHD 😂

@wholesomekeanureeves9466

3 жыл бұрын

That’s not adhd ur just dumb if you forget your own name

@BlackJezuz69

3 жыл бұрын

@@wholesomekeanureeves9466 nigha u aint wholesome. You just creating a hole in my heart bish

@wholesomekeanureeves9466

3 жыл бұрын

Black Jezuz I’m sorry but anyone who forgets their name is just an idiot

"I wish I could just switch off." Oh my god that last line? I never realised until today that I've said this to myself for years already. Thanks for this fantastic video, man.

Running back and forth to the car is too real

This is actually quite accurate xD

@arrekesu6384

3 жыл бұрын

Indeed xd like very detailed

@nikherold290

3 жыл бұрын

When xd makes more sense then xD

@arrekesu6384

3 жыл бұрын

@@nikherold290 lmfao bro

@ilkka4716

3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I could relate 100%

Sorry to hear! Ive been diagnosed with ADD at 12years and my mother never let me take my pills. Now im 24years and my life has been a mess. I can never seem to get things done smh. My mind literally be everywhere except in the moment most of the time. Around my friends i am so impulsive and sometimes its too much for them.

@ebbietee98

3 жыл бұрын

That makes me sad to hear, I hope you’re okay.

@DrivenByLuckGaming

3 жыл бұрын

You sound like my homie who has adhd

@ricardotrillo887

3 жыл бұрын

I feel that bro, i've lost most of my friends, i try to be diferente, but i always finish acting the same, it's like something you cannot change no matter how much effort you put in or if you are mature enough it seems and feels worthless

@se_ashay

3 жыл бұрын

Same. Diagnosed with ADD at 12. I took meds for maybe 3 months but I didn’t react well to them. I’m now 25 and never really figured out how to properly manage it. I’m actually realizing I grew up being criticized for my symptoms without anyone taking the time to realize they were things I couldn’t control. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Spending a little of time now learning myself and boy has it been INTERESTING.

@connor8881

3 жыл бұрын

Look into microdosing magic mushrooms

I have ADHD and OCD. Everyday is a struggle especially if I don’t take my meds.

I’m just starting to find these videos regarding adhd and this one checked every single box of my life, even freakier when the guy started coding as I’m a software engineer myself, then it really felt like a day in my life, thanks for this type of content, thanks to people like you i am on my way to get help

@Johnjohnthejohn

Жыл бұрын

Same

I've slept in so many classes in high school and could never understand why, didn't matter how much I slept the night before, if the class wasn't stimulating enough I could NOT keep my eyes opened, people thought I was lazy but I actually cared, I also moved to much during tests and could never finish them in time, now I know it was the ADHD and I wish I had the pills back then even though they make me very anxious sometimes

@butasimpleidiotwizard

3 жыл бұрын

I've got adhd and autism and I didn't get diagnosed until I was 18, sometimes in class I'd get so bored I'd just lose it and physically have to do something so I'd throw chairs and other smaller stuff and push over desks or just run out of the room and then go sit outside the psychologist's office and mess around on my phone, I have no idea how no one thought there might be something wrong with me lol

@teahan5855

2 жыл бұрын

Do you have pills now? Do they help you to live?

@annanabil73

2 жыл бұрын

Sounds like you have SCT (Sluggish Cognitive Tempo) which is a subset of ADHD, otherwise known as Inattentive ADD or ADHD-PI (predominantly inattentive). Dr. Barkley has extensive talks on this condition on youtube and prefers to call it CDD (Concentration Deficit Disorder), since the term "sluggish cognition" sounds degrading. Personally, I don't have a problem with it, it sounds perfectly accurate to me. I've been sluggish and even near narcoleptic since I was a kid. Make sure you take the right pills, bc what works for ADHD, does not work as well for SCT (aka ADD/CDD).

This made me cry growing up with adhd is hard but it gets worse when you’re an adult and I don’t wanna be men vs women but it is hard as a woman when perfection is expected out of and I know when have a lot on there shoulders but harder for both of us in different areas but the struggle is the same let be allies for each other

@rooost9856

2 жыл бұрын

I understand what you mean, you're expected to perfectly do everything for your partner or children when they forget things

“Ah, meds start to kick in” Most relatable thing I’ve read this week

I recently got diagnosed with ADHD at 27. It's been so hard, this has pretty much been my reality. My main thing is struggling to maintain jobs as I always have productivity issues and end up being let go. I'm super good at what I do and I'm creative and strategic, but my symptoms just get the better of me. I think I'm going to be fired again because i missed a bunch of crucial deadlines last week. I feel like I'm just dumb because I'm not managing, and my manager and coworkers just don't understand. I'm not on medication but I will be in a couple of weeks, so I'm *really* hoping for a change. I can't keep living like this.

also: the jazz music made me start to think that any time a woman in a red dress would come into your office and desperately ask you for help :D

@ADHDMastery

4 жыл бұрын

I wish 🤣

@virgilpillay

3 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣 I was thinking the same thing

@lisasommerlad1337

3 жыл бұрын

Ah, we do that all the time... But blokes just call us needy. Can't win.

@omsnaga

3 жыл бұрын

@@lisasommerlad1337 Sure you can, if you wear the red dress! ;) (fiy I'm a woman too)

@stuckinthepastproductions4329

3 жыл бұрын

Guy Noir, Private Eye

As someone diagnosed when I was 8. I've had the reputation with my parents for being smart BUT lazy, unmotivated, selfish, loud, annoying, obnoxious, juvenile, and many more. Sometimes I feel like me being around is a burden on others. And the biggest thing I've learned is that NOBODY hates a person with ADHD as much as we hate ourselves... and that makes me really sad sometimes.

That conversation before able to sleep is so real.

that little car horn segment that causes the break in focus, I felt that. I immediately lose train of thought anytime I have the tiniest break of focus and have to re-establish myself like i'm starting all over again.

i didn’t realize how very “different” i was until watching this....wow. i have never taken medication and i HAVE to drink coffee to make life exciting. i wish i could also switch OFF..

I was diagnosed with ADHD a couple months ago at 21. This is my life to a t. I’m wondering how normal people think. Doesn’t everyone get these spirals of laziness? & why do we have to have a label anyway, what if we just have another way to operate than others.

@valletas

3 жыл бұрын

But operating different then others is what makes it a mental disorder It sucks but we just have to deal with it and hopefully someones that knows about adhd will not expect us to work the same way as them

@BeautyB14

3 жыл бұрын

Victor Valletas who created the standard for how you’re supposed to operate. Technically there isn’t one. What if people with “ADHD” are the normal

@valletas

3 жыл бұрын

@@BeautyB14 well you see we difine what is normal and what isnt by the majority If everyone can read emotions exept a minority then we degine that they have autism because they are a minority and this can bring problems to their life Same with adhd And fisical differences of course people with adhd like you and me have smaller brains compared to the standard and we also can see how adhd affects someone life when compared to someone who doesnd have it Nobody says what is of isnt normal its just a large number of people from different cultures trough the years decide what is and isnt

@itstime8006

3 жыл бұрын

I'm fully convinced that ADHD is a "disease" that doesn't need to be thought of as a disease, other than the fact that it's a pain in the ass to try to please everyone else and fit in. Come on, we claim to love diversity but when it comes to not operating the same as others in the work place, now it's a problem. HMM...

@pandoughbear2592

3 жыл бұрын

The plus side is when you find something you love it’s almost effortless which is the HD part of ADHD but for me even the effortless and fun stuff seems to get boring after a while.

This is exactly how I feel. All of the time. Thank you so much for putting it into words

Been subscribed for a while and only just watched this video. This is the truest representation of living with ADHD I've seen! Related to all of it. Makes me feel less alone to kind of 'see' inside someone's brain with ADHD. Thank you very much. This will be a comfort video from now on ☺

Huh, don’t have an adhd diagnosis but a lot of that just sounds like normal day to day life...

@bakerfritz4681

3 жыл бұрын

You should probably go get your diagnosis and some Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, then.

@krishanamurti2297

3 жыл бұрын

If you have similar thoughts like this.. see procrastination and self doubt exist in normal people too. But this thought process is very close to adhd mindset and if u have these then get urself checked..

@SlicedSlappy

3 жыл бұрын

Try to get it ruled out. Self diagnosing is not a good plan. Its a lot harder to stay on task in 2020 then it was even in 2010

@non-suspiciousgrandmother6616

3 жыл бұрын

same :/ but i heard it’s less common in girls so maybe i’m acting?

@outahereoriginal4883

3 жыл бұрын

The thing about adhd is they seem like usual issues that everyone has but its on an extreme level it occur significantly more often in people with adhd. And can be different from person to person for me it disorganization in my thoughts and speech, switching topics, forgeting and never remember even the simplest of words, and also never even saying what i even meant to say. Oh and of course the usual super procrastination

10 out of 10, can totally relate. I didn't get diagnosed until I was 31. Life's a mess alright! =)

This is exactly how I feel, the thoughts and emotions are perfectly articulated right here. I have never seen a video as perfect as this one. Wow, wow this video is amazing. I am going to show it to my wife.

Oh my goodness! I've never heard my life experience described so eloquently by another person! Beautiful film, and I really feel that how you describe it is spot on 💯

....you’re telling me that this isn’t what everyone is going through? 🙂 welp i’m off to get my diagnosis

@EXOTICSHOCKEzz

Жыл бұрын

😂🔥

The accuracy is real! Going back to house because I forgot something. The jaw clenching...motivation for bigger tasks is my biggest battle. I beat myself up everyday over it.

This is hitting me extra hard because school starts soon and I don’t know how I’m gonna manage. I stopped trying years ago because it was stimulating enough. Got kicked out of the harder classes and put into easy ones because they just thought I was dumb. They’re even less stimulating. My parents are the complete opposite of supportive. It’s so hard to get better when no one wants to help.

This just convinced me to finally get tested for adhd. I’ve been suffering too long and didn’t know this wasn’t normal

Anyone start clenching their jaw when he clenched his? 🙃

@mauricefemenias9752

3 жыл бұрын

fцику мцику aderall ir /instant release

@Jakesterveron

3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@juleshorz7760

3 жыл бұрын

I slowly unclenched mine as he said it

@non-suspiciousgrandmother6616

3 жыл бұрын

i clenched mine reading this lol

@crawlinginfilm9683

3 жыл бұрын

Consciously relaxing jaw, “giving up”, resonating with “letting go”, helps me fall asleep. I hope that’s a useful tip for others - I only discovered it in recent years.

Adhd does my head in. I got organised life but if i encounter sudden change of direction, everything goes to high way. The feeling of not enough. Never enough or good enough or progressing. Giving up after dicrouragment approaches me. It does my head in.

Seeing this makes me realize my symptoms are far more severe. At almost 30 years old I'm going in for a diagnosis and treatment. I was told from a young age that I process things differently because I have a higher IQ. While there may be truth in this, it does not explain behavioral problems that I suffer with. Procrastination (often times with simple tasks that require very little), inability to sleep, higher emotional response to scenarios on average, doom piles, and the list goes on. Not only do these things get in the way of finding success in my pursuits but they also make relationships difficult. To some I seem flaky and unreliable. To others I seem inattentive. I also find myself hyper fixated on tasks that have minimal benefit. I hope that I can find a treatment that restores balance to the fold.

That’s crazy! I just watched my life play out in front of me. Feeling shocked, then sad, and now relief that I’m not the only one. Thank you for making this video.

“What’s wrong?” “I’m in this picture and I don’t like it.”

Who else feels like he just doesn’t have the right job? I feel way better and feel my adhd way less when i do a manual/creative task!

@GodKing804

3 жыл бұрын

I have my dream job but still, overtime, i end up doing nothing, avoiding tasks, etc. even though its enjoyable. Its a problem..

@jbkawaiiholic

3 жыл бұрын

GodKing804 my dream job was being a writer/journalist. I’m good at it. I went to school and got the communication diploma, but i was avoiding tasks too. Everyday was painful even if i like writing and love communications jobs. I tried marketing too. Every job where i had to sit and do the task all day without being able to move around was painful, no matter how good i was at it. All the jobs i had where i could talk, walk, do something with my hands, have been way easier on me. I just realized maybe i loved it but it wasn’t meant for me full time. I decided to write part-time and do something more manual for the rest of the week and feel way better. It’s a bit like someone who love dancing but is in a wheelchair. That’s what my husband says. Sometimes you love the thing but it doesn’t love or help you back and you gotta admit it, and find a way to be easier on yourself on everyday life. I also have another exemple; i’m strongly asthmatic, but i LOVE flowers. I can tolerate having a tiny bouquet at a time at home but if there’s tons of them, i get huge asthma attacks and allergies. It makes sense i wouldn’t be a florist, as it would mean i would become sicker, and take so much medication. So why do we push it so much with adhd, to the point where we feel bad/sick? To us theses kind of job, that may be our passion, are fun to do when you’re “in the mood” or in the “mental state” to do it. Focussed enough. The rest of the time it get so difficult that it affect us too much. That’s why maybe it’s better to do it when we feel able to and something more appropriate for our deficiency the rest of the time. I just chose i was tired to struggle everyday, even if it was my dream.

@KK001

3 жыл бұрын

@@GodKing804 if something is enjoyable then theres no reason to not do it then right?

@GodKing804

3 жыл бұрын

@@KK001 its enjoyable, but so is going on my phone and not being responsible with my time., ADHD is a problem for a reason.

@Rin-qj7zt

3 жыл бұрын

i wish my adhd was like that. honestly, it's more dependant on how easy the tasks associated with the job are to start rather than how enjoyable they are. i love to draw. i love it to death. but i can't.. i just can't get started. and not because i don't know how. i know how.

40+ here, diagnosed in the 90's when ADD and ADHD were separate. Exercise is the key. But it has to be a habit before it works. It has to get to the point where you simply just go without thinking. And red bulls, those work as well.

@juliebrown4087

Жыл бұрын

What does exercise do?

@chandrikarajagopal1457

6 ай бұрын

Exercise? What type of exercise?....pls reply

This is crazy. Literally everything he said was like he was talking about my life.. maybe I have ADHD

@yveslaurentlumaque3502

3 жыл бұрын

Same

You explained my life in 5 mintues!

This is absolutely fantastic. You managed to put into words EVERY single feeling and experience i used to have when I was at my worst. Things I've not been able to describe myself properly no matter how much I tried to. Although medicine helps, all this never really goes away. It just gets a bit more manageable. You have given me a tool to help me describe what life can be like when someone asks. Thank you for making this ❤️

so heartfelt. thanks so much for this work! I'm glad you found the motivation to film this. *chuckles* It was really good.

Wow man! This video is excellent! The quality, camera work, editing, music, and acting are on a whole other level! You really captured some of the finer aspects of ADHD and especially when you talked about the meds kicking in... the cold hands and jaw clenching was so spot on. Congrats on making such a wonderful film, it must have been a lot of hard work, but it paid off.

@fairlyliterary4771

4 жыл бұрын

The cold hands are a thing? I often wondered about that

@austingoyne3039

3 жыл бұрын

Is that from adderall? I take concerta and it doesn’t do that to me

@Fe26man

3 жыл бұрын

Austin Goyne I’m on Concerta now, too but was on Adderall for 3 years and never experienced either of those symptoms. Which med causes those experiences (if anyone knows). I recently switched psychs and was put on Ambien CR 12.5mg+ sonata 10mg + Clonidine 0.1mg + Klonopin 0.5 mg per night and it’s still working after two weeks, which for me is unheard of so if anyone is struggling with the sleep part of ADHD- talk to a psych about this med combination. (I had been on Klonopin same dose + buspirone 1.5mg + doxepine 30mg + prazosin 2mg + (regular instant release) Ambien 10mg) I think I’ve been on most sleep medications at some point in my life and they all stop working. Remeron 30mg worked great but only for less then a week, Remeron gave me great sleep constantly but I ate like a starving pig on it, lunesta was good for about a week as well. I’ve asked to get 4 different sleep meds to rotate but that’s never been prescribed so in my mind that would work, but the doctors and psychs seem to think it’s a stupid request. I’m excited about this new combination though and hope it helps if anyone is struggling with insomnia to talk about this combination with whichever doctor or psychiatrist (licensed) you normally see. (Sometimes switching is a good thing, too, though. The last one I was seeing basically just disappeared so I had to switch which seems so good so far. My psych said she has a few patients on it so it’s not a bizarre, random combo like the last set of meds I was on! ❤️

Man you had me in tears with the “starting a family.” Feel that, I really do.

Speechless. Absolutely brilliantly done.

You are so articulate and this is an excellent description so kudos for actually being able to make this video so well. I have ADHD and to even complete this so very well is amazingly proficient of you. " I wish I could just switch off" is something I think often. Just well done and thanks for validating us.

I was diagnosed as ADHD at 7 years of age, and this has been the same symptoms I've dealt with all my life. I'm 30 now. Thank you for this video, it helps a lot, not only for my own acceptance of myself, but to try and get others to better understand. This is such a common condition, you'd think there's be more support around it, but there isn't. And because we don't look like someone's typical idea of someone who looks slow or autistic, it's even harder to convince others that life is extremely difficult for me, because my body builds muscle well, or I can speak fairly intelligently. It's like a giant cosmic joke. There's quite a bit of genius that can be found in ADHD and Asperger's people, but it is completely untapped because of the way the world system is set up. If only there was a way for them to completely realise our massive potential and offer ways to mitigate our shortcomings, for they do not know what kind of creative ability we have. I have solved many of the world's problems in my journals, but it's a pity that the way things are set up, I worry they will never come to fruition. Such wasted potential. Thanks again.

@YasheshTrivedi

2 жыл бұрын

This is me. I would like to know how you deal with this problem. I'm 23 and I don't know what to do. Maybe it would be easier if I was dumb, atleast people would understand.

@ivanloizou519

Жыл бұрын

@@YasheshTrivedi am 25 and am literally in the same exact boat...

@johnsmith-ik8il

Жыл бұрын

Just got diagnosed with this as a forty year old and it sucks but nobody cares. I feel like I have the potential to do something in life but just don't have the motivation.

@engincallahan2943

Жыл бұрын

I studied Industrial design, In my mind envisioned a whole new technological system and a lifestyle, with all it’s capabilities to new materials within the coming years. I can predict what will become trendy in my areas of interest almost 2 years ahead, instead of taking action I just sit by overthink and eventually watch it getting popular as my self-doubt increases from missing out yet another thing all while weirdly feeling smug about being right. If I would have invested in half of them, or even one of them maybe I would feel accomplished by now, or at least wouldn’t feel like a total failure. I have many projects that would help replenish the nature and preserve it’s variety , but none bring any profit to anyone. The ones holding the control are mostly greedy manipulators who wouldn’t or even couldn’t envision, let alone want to run such a system. I feel like an idiot and a genius at the same time. People think nicely of me, but I have no real friends. What a gifted curse

@Submersed24

Жыл бұрын

Look into neurofeedback. It 100% will help you with this and resolves adhd

The music distracted me so much that I couldn’t really watch the clip. Also I’m writing this comment while watching this.

@nichellejones4983

3 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy that it wasnt just me. I couldnt finish the video, I want to, but the saxophone is unbearable.

@sadbros9366

3 жыл бұрын

Same lol

@reneekollerova1750

3 жыл бұрын

Same. I can't even focus on the video

That's a masterpiece. Thank you ! 😌🙏🏻

This is the video that convinced me to seek out a diagnosis in my late twenties. I still can’t watch it without almost choking up at the part about whispering in bed at night. That’s the point when it hit me like a ton of bricks: this is me. I felt like someone had read my mind. It was immensely comforting, as if someone was giving me a hug and saying, it’s okay. You’re not alone, and you’re not a failure.

As a person who lives with ADHD and Bipolar 2 Disorder, this is 100% accurate

I'd been the perpetual "f*ck up" for my entire life. I finally got my diagnoses when I was 33 and everything made sense. This video is my entire life.

Spot on....Nice to know I’m not the only one...Thanks for being brave enough to share with the world

I feel you Man, thanks for this video ❤️