Remaining bit: he never pays attention to my jewellery because he finds me beautiful with or without it - and guys just generally don’t care about jewellery. I’m pretty torn now because I think I may have overreacted and seemed ungrateful. On the other hand, we’ve been dating for over 3 years and he doesn’t even know what jewellery I like. Am I wrong here?

@derkaizer1234

8 күн бұрын

Not seemed ungrateful You were ungrateful

@andriesgrobler7617

8 күн бұрын

Yes you are... sorry... and then after going on with a party while you knew it was bugging him and not trying yo fix it... but that bit i understand... you don't want to be alone and birthday and all that... but yeah... sorry

Most guys dont know much about jewellery but he still got you something expensive even through you both are in college, you should have appreciated it

YTA,he wanted to get you something expensive and if you mever specifically told him that you dont wear gold h d mever know even if he continues as wirt you for years, he was expecting for you to ve excited and you ruined the mood by being ungrateful.

@tyra6433

8 күн бұрын

Now not saying you are wrong but would you take your partner out to an expensive sushi restaurant place even though you've never seen them eat fish only to find out they don't like it? If you plan on buying someone something expensive atleast make sure they like these sort of things 😭😭

@MrSophire

6 күн бұрын

Tyra, first dietary is different than jewelry. My boyfriend would know don’t like fish because it’s something that will come up when picking places to eat, jewelry is not a popular topic.Second men really don’t care about jewelry or what women wear. They care about our shoes or any of that nonsense. All the they know is we look good and put together.

As a person who likes silver YTAAAA! If someone was nice enough to get me a gift so expensive best believe im wearing those earrings. It’s the thought that counts. Especially sicnr you guys are college students he sacrificed to get those

@tyra6433

8 күн бұрын

She never said she wouldn't wear it she was planning on keeping it but I guess she was a bit annoyed that he did not know that about her

Don’t even have to listen to this to know YTA

YTA

@randomstuffwithcharlie4876

8 күн бұрын

SURFACE

YT-GIANT-AH 👎

I understand how you can feel like someone you’ve been dating doesn’t really know you, but that doesn’t give you the right to be so rude to a gift they gave with all their hard earned money!! At least say thank you and tell your BF that in the future you’d like silver instead of gold, and not act so ungrateful

YTMegaA

Seems ungrateful.

Girl... YTA!!! You guy's are in college and as you said, don't do expensive things. But he was thoughtful enough to give you GOLD earrings from a brand you "didn't even dared to look at" so I'm guessing there designer or from a high-end brand? You should've been grateful, not get annoyed about it being gold and not silver. And as he said, guy's don't pay attention to jewelry 🙄 You are YTA.

This has to be fake. This is something that would put a strain on a relationship

Shes not the ahole but shes also not not the ahole. You wouldnt buy your gf a snack if you didnt think she would like it. Maybe guys do not notice small details but girls do. They both love each other clearly but it isnt much for you to say i appreciate the gift but i would so appreciate it if you would pay more attention to yhe things i like. I dont wear silver but i own several silver things my friends and family have gifted me and i told them about what I liked

@MrSophire

6 күн бұрын

I used to work in a department store, men didn’t see small details like that, I don’t know why but they just don’t. I personally think women are worse, I had to convince women valentine day was for couples that included boyfriends and husbands not just the women. I had to convince women to buy the fugly watch because they know their man would love it but they didn’t like. They wanted to buy a watch they know their hunny bunny hated but they thought it was better looking. You can see the cogs in their head turning when you explain that a gift should be something the recipient would like. Man on the other hand would spend hours trying to get the gift their loved one would love with very little information but at least they tried.

I think u where to much and mabey could have been more compassionate and thankful

You could've handled it better. Your initial reaction was understandable but he apologized and looks like he was trying his best.. Communicating later would've been better.

Hard NTA. Only an idiot would buy you jewellery without first discreetly checking if that would be something you'd like. My guess is that he had somehow gotten those earrings cheaply and wanted it to appear like he spent a lot of money on you without even checking if that would be something you'd like.

@davidnash8208

8 күн бұрын

I guess that he's a poor student who wanted to do something nice for his gf and had never noticed her jewelry was all silver. But that's just a guess.

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