Teacher sitting there with a smoke. Times have changed.

@susanivy3619

2 жыл бұрын

omg...it's almost a culture shock to see. lol

@spindleswift8667

2 жыл бұрын

Yes, it really brought me back to when I'd visit the HS where my mom taught History and Government. I'd sit like a nice, grownup little lady pretending not to mind the teachers' smoke.

@davidsiracuse6672

2 жыл бұрын

I caught that immediately

@dotdotdot1985

2 жыл бұрын

She looks like she's had a fkin hard life

@unapologeticella4540

2 жыл бұрын

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

The way the child looked at the doctor and said "you love me?!" damn near broke my heart.

@l.k.1111

Жыл бұрын

Right. The mom was a little distant looking. Never know what happens in private...image doesn't equate to reality all of the time.

@daleenamdowning1555

Жыл бұрын

That's because he's not getting the love at home just an opinion course I'm in the middle of this will see what they say

@__enarkive

11 ай бұрын

what's the timestamp?

@sunwayne

11 ай бұрын

@@__enarkive3:17

@user-vw6bk4pb4l

9 ай бұрын

After 3:10

Notice the doctor didn’t prescribe him with medication. He simply had loving, human interaction with him.

@StinkyWetRat505

2 ай бұрын

I wasn’t born in the 60’s or anything, but I have a feeling they likely couldn’t since he was a little boy and the medication wasn’t as.. advanced? Unsure, really

@crystalyn2855

2 ай бұрын

​@@StinkyWetRat505either way love is a more effective form of medication.

@LazarusMorale

2 ай бұрын

This one’s rocky, sure the whole throwing opioids at mental instabilities only works on some occassions, the power of love can only go but so far for suffering individuals

@hatefulcrab8515

2 ай бұрын

Yeah the kid definitely needed support from his parents.

@Im_a_Chill_Panda

2 ай бұрын

@@crystalyn2855Nah, I’ll keep my drugs thanks. 😂

this doctor is amazing. he understood right away the real problem is his parents.

@hSquaredSunshine

Ай бұрын

That's because 99.9% of the time, when a little kids behaves poorly, it's due to inconsistent parenting & poor boundary setting.

@silverfoxchain

Ай бұрын

He is/was an angel on earth.

@qua7771

Ай бұрын

Maybe he discovered how messed up the world is early in life.

@postoronniy007

Ай бұрын

Unfortunately, he would be imprisoned our days. He has touched the child!!111!!! Oh, God11!!

@howard1beale

27 күн бұрын

It's ALWAYS the parents. That's not rocket science

Beautiful but emotionally repressed woman, with an emotionally distant husband. The child wasn't loved because the parents had not been loved themselves. All of them needed help.

@belle3055

2 жыл бұрын

You just described African parents

@Gay-Icon

2 жыл бұрын

@@belle3055 lol yes! 💯

@AntonioPerez-xo4hm

2 жыл бұрын

Some Hispanic aswell

@hiitsme6639

2 жыл бұрын

Well said.

@yin_xing

2 жыл бұрын

Why do you have to say the women was beautiful or not?

This poor baby was starving for love and affection.

@ThecouncilOf8

2 ай бұрын

So if I broke your nose punching you in the face you would think I'm just looking for love and affection? Sometimes I know it's hard for most people to grasp but people give into the monster that is human nature rather than fight it... Even in loving environments this can happen and has

@nathantorres8352

2 ай бұрын

Did u watch the video? Obviously every case is different and what u said is a possibility, but we just watched a 30 minute case study on this child. How can u compare that to ur dumbass walking up and punching someone and argue that anyone would call them similar situations??

@artvandalay6386

2 ай бұрын

​​@@ThecouncilOf8yes but only if you were in your development years .

@masqueabsurdo

2 ай бұрын

​@@ThecouncilOf8you told the truth but this is only revealed in adolescence, when puberty arrives that shows that love and affection were in vain

@oleeshanorris5343

2 ай бұрын

She doesn't realize she is the issue.

boy must be near 70 now, wish we could hear an interview of how his life turned out, memories,if he noticed mom/dad trying. I ask God to help me as a parent, He always comes through for me.

@mindysmith3683

Ай бұрын

Why hasn't anyone made a profit off that yet ? Someone could make alot of money doing that !

@L.OVE.heart.

26 күн бұрын

Yes very interested in how he is doing now

@effiahalhumbhra3755

21 күн бұрын

Precious Little One had bio-energetic 2.5dimensional field dark attachment picked up. Since mother had similar behaviour if innerstanding correctly family dynamics most likely picked up in utero. Bio-energetic field (auric field) protection is a must. With this said mother most likely has same field attachment picked up lonnng ago. These type attachments have been common in various ways, some more serious than others, for most now being discovered more so in these Times of Transparency, Awakening & Juvenation. Time to Heal. A-Gain KEY POINT is to have ones energy fields protected preventing situations similar to this from happening. Kicker is if field attachment healed not then field attachment can come to be an Entity of its own overtaking body and original conscious. Bliss Us All as we are in times of change realigning with truth.

@GisleVanem00

20 күн бұрын

@@effiahalhumbhra3755 Spam!

@PaulGurney-un5hi

17 күн бұрын

@@effiahalhumbhra3755 stop being weird.

It is so clearly to see where that child’s anger comes from, the mother is so angry herself.

3:19, when he asks “ you love me?” to the doc…..that’s a very telling moment

@XanderHage

2 жыл бұрын

Damn, if the child would be an adult asking that, the adult would scream it out. What a heartbreaking silent scream for affection and (parent) love.

@GrantTarredus

2 жыл бұрын

I came here to make that exact comment.

@jacquihurt4843

2 жыл бұрын

Yes. Absolutely, that’s the core /cause of his bad behavior.

@handcrafted30

2 жыл бұрын

A child that fails to feel the warmth of his village, will burn it down just to feel it’s warmth.

@thetrintarianmessianicyahw589

2 жыл бұрын

I'm probably stepping on a landmine by asking this, but what is Telling about the lad?

The boy was so preoccupied with his toys, while the doctor spoke to him. But when the boy heard the words... "love you", he stopped what he was doing, looked the doctor in the eyes and asked "you love me?".... this poor kid probably never heard anyone say that to him, his whole life. Now we see the root cause of his aggressive behavior.

@msch7620

7 ай бұрын

It’s called fidgeting. Some of us need to have busy hands to focus when someone talks. He was actually paying attention the whole time.

@sowhatdude111

6 ай бұрын

The way his face lit up with the affirmation of love 😭😭😭

@Aquarius444K

6 ай бұрын

He was listening the whole time

@linds17

6 ай бұрын

His mother referred to him as 'the child'. Very impersonal. I was a child in the 50's/60's and had a very kind & caring mother. We were working class so didn't have much in the way of possessions. Love is free. Myself & most of my close friends were not disciplined in a physical way so had a good childhood. School however showed us a different side to life. Corporal punishment was prevalent. Watching 'rude' children being struck with a leather belt did not help them or those of us that had to watch. The usual recipients ended up getting in trouble with the police or dying young due to taking drugs. A long time ago now but never forgotten. Violence can begat violence. At least it did in our school 😢

@Pulsonar

5 ай бұрын

@@msch7620Correct, he paid attention the whole time, but it seemed as though he wasn’t, especially when juxtaposed against his reaction to those magical words.

The mother needs therapy even more than the boy. Seriously. So does the dad, most likely.

@9000ck

21 күн бұрын

That's more often the case than not. That's mostly what child psychiatrists do - educate and change the parents.

@JoshxIZ

15 күн бұрын

Everyone basically needs therapy

@Aimercesttous

11 күн бұрын

Did, a long time ago.

Ngl, Doctor seems pretty awesome. I tend to look back on mental health and behavioral practices from that time period with a bit of horror. But I was pleasantly surprised by this interaction.

@briancolwill3071

Ай бұрын

Seen The Madman and the Professor? (Just for the odd kind doctor in a 19th century asylum that are usually portrayed as inhumane...). Decency is decency, throughout time

@sarahg2653

Ай бұрын

@@briancolwill3071 Sounds interesting. Thanks for the recommendation, sounds right up my alley

@briancolwill3071

Ай бұрын

@@sarahg2653 oops. I'm back to front. It's the Professor and the Madman. Dunno where you're at with Mel Gibson but I think he's a good actor despite personal difficulties... Creative arts are full of people with problems, sometimes it's tricky. Like, I loathe Polanski personally but I can't boycott his films! Rotten Tomatoes slayed Professor and the Madman but I found lots to like in it, plenty indeed....

@Zoi18

Ай бұрын

Me too

@briancolwill3071

Ай бұрын

@@sarahg2653 I set you wrong, it's the Professor and the Madman, but I bet ya got it

“The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” “The CHILD.” You gave THE CHILD a name, MOMMY.

@karaamundson3964

2 жыл бұрын

Evidence of emotional distance

@brolly414

2 жыл бұрын

She's highly stressed and in an unfamiliar situation - and this is also a much different time to the one we live in.

@nim7117

2 жыл бұрын

The child is better

@ranstxx

2 жыл бұрын

Thats what they called them in those days

@Mr.Feckless

2 жыл бұрын

I was the child until i was 4 and they knew i was gonna be around a while

Aww, how the child's face lit up when the doctor said he loved him. ❤

@nonenone4219

Жыл бұрын

I caught that to..That is a telling sign that he doesn't hear that said to him very much I thnk.

@mumof3625

Жыл бұрын

The problem right there .. doesn’t feel loved by either parent, acts out negatively to get attention .. poor love ❤

@dianatheiss7055

Жыл бұрын

And suddenly there was extended eye contact too...he searched the Dr's face to see if he really meant it!

@katherinefielder3415

Жыл бұрын

❤

@katherinefielder3415

Жыл бұрын

Another thing is he is receiving punishments. And physical punishments at that but then the poor boy is being rough to others

"They punish me for feeling sad for them" 😢 wow such a deep emotional understanding

@jennidzikowski772

Ай бұрын

Heartbreaking 😢💔😢

Doctor is teaching the mother that her son needs more physical touch and closeness that all children need.

Man… I just love how people spoke back then.

@12484uespicysvideo

2 жыл бұрын

Wonder if it will ever come back

@moyo6606

2 жыл бұрын

The Trans Atlantic accent

@JDarrylSSS

2 жыл бұрын

@@12484uespicysvideo you've read my mind.

@LuisAngel-mu4zv

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah me too and i still dont know what it is, maybe its because it sounds natural

@lostcitybird

2 жыл бұрын

@@12484uespicysvideo I hope man

Everyone is placing blame on Mom, but Dad didn’t agree to seek help!

@DR-nh6oo

2 жыл бұрын

So sad and typical, when it takes a village…

@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre

2 жыл бұрын

He didn't want to be in the film, you can't know he didn't go privately after

@sakuranovaryan9261

2 жыл бұрын

@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre they are mentioning this cause this happens a lot in real life as well..a lot of the blame of emotional education is placed on the mother..not always just I see it happen a lot

@audas

2 жыл бұрын

Yeah - she was consistently beating the child. "lEtS sOmeHow blAMe tHe mAle !" Wow Anita, just wow.

@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre

2 жыл бұрын

@@audas she doesn't suggest blaming the father for anything. Your personal bias came up with that. All she said is there is only one part of the story visible and that everyone tends to be blaming the extremely attractive mom, and for all we know the father could be far worse of an influence. All we know is that the kid is annoying, the mom is hot, and you are easily triggered. Anita applied thought, you applied prejudice.

That doctor was so ahead of his time.

I've been a psychotherapist for over 30 years and I absolutely love seeing families and children heal from the pains of the past and move forward. ❤️

@margochanning6868

6 күн бұрын

Yeah, and I'm a rocket scientist.

His mother seems very cold and detached. When the boy's face lit up and he said "You love me?" You can tell he doesn't hear that word very often.

@karaamundson3964

2 жыл бұрын

111%

@ginavv2092

2 жыл бұрын

She probably is tired of dealing with him . Remember depression is real

@phantompizza

2 жыл бұрын

@@ginavv2092 its more likely that he is like that because she is like that and not the other way around

@farangisehsani592

2 жыл бұрын

You cant blame her. The child is psychopath!

@robinluich6626

Жыл бұрын

My thoughts exactly. He wants to be loved. Gentleness goes a long way. He needs patience, and hugs.

Wow, can you imagine a therapist being able to cuddle these days... I trained to be a counsellor for a couple years and that was one of the things I found regretful, that we couldn't even give an adult, some of whom sorely needed human touch, a (brief) hug of sorts. I understand why it's not possible but firmly believe that in some situations it would do a world of good.

@DrFeelGoood

2 жыл бұрын

do you mean "these days" as in because of Covid? :0 cause if not I surely hope there isnt a rule against hugs for therapists

@meelodeshmeeelo2034

2 жыл бұрын

@@DrFeelGoood no, I mean therapists/ counsellors are not allowed to touch the client in any way covid or not (UK)

@astridparanormalscotland7434

2 жыл бұрын

@@meelodeshmeeelo2034 this is so sad to hear, that brief hug embrace can change someones week

@dreamdiction

2 жыл бұрын

@@astridparanormalscotland7434 A therapist is trying to get the patient/client to THINK.

@honeybunch5765

2 жыл бұрын

True it is sad but nowadays you can be charged with molestation etc.

It's always the parents. Not everyone is meant to be parents.

@nica900

13 күн бұрын

It's not always the parents. ADHD and ASD are genetic.

@Saffronelle

12 күн бұрын

no it is NOT always the parents ffs. Horrible comment.

@SarahBelal-ro1jm

9 күн бұрын

​@@nica900 genetics are not what you think. Kids who have adhd also have a parent with adhd... they just picked up on the behaviors. Read gabor matè

@cdzi-xj5du

Күн бұрын

@@Saffronelle 84 people disagree, i think that says a lot. Yes genetics can play a role but as THE PARENT you should then seek help from professionals for your child. It is the parents responsibility.

When a child gets labeled as “trouble” how he is treated by adults changes. He’s “trouble” and it follows him everywhere. Sad because children need LOVE. Love cures a lot! ❤❤

@jamiec6417

Ай бұрын

It’s the labeling!!!!

I'm a step dad to a boy that has aggressive tendencies at school. This video has opened my eyes to many things I didn't know. His dad wasn't there. He craves male companionship so much. But he also needs male kindness and love.

@Tina-Trinity

8 ай бұрын

Being a parent is hard, being a step parent is harder. Blessings to you and upon your journey as you try to heal that which you did not hurt and in breaking those cycles.

@GuitarSolosInc.

8 ай бұрын

@@Tina-Trinity thank you so much!!! We've definitely made a lot of progress. I've definitely noticed that being tender with him and very soft spoken has helped. Him seeing a big man be sweet and kind is not something he is used to. It's opening his eyes to how he can be too if he tries.

@janetsides901

8 ай бұрын

I was a step mother to a boy like this. Nothing I said or did made a change. My ex expected me to change the boy. I had a 3 year old,this kid was 6. Never had any consistency in his life. He was aggressive with my child. Yet the boys father never spent time with him or showed genuine affection. It was a living hell.

@GuitarSolosInc.

8 ай бұрын

@@janetsides901 spending time with them and showing genuine affection is the key. I'm sorry that you had to live through this. The task of raising a young boy should have been more on him (the dad) than anything. I'm sorry if this sounds wrong, but it's a man's job to teach his son (or step son) how to be a man.

@enry898

8 ай бұрын

Have you considered introducing him to martial arts?

She never refers to him by his first name. It's always this child or the child. Speaks volumes.

@geminiwriter8875

2 жыл бұрын

My mother is an early childhood teacher. In behavioural reports that go to parents I’ve seen that they use Initials or ‘the other child’ or ‘Other’ for safety reasons - protecting that child from identification by strangers - an example was a choking incident like the video, the mother of the choked child was extremely protective and threatened to sue (can’t sue in New Zealand) the parents of the child when they found out who they were. To avoid the whole mess and others like it, my mother used fake initials, ZT, to which the mother was looking on the birthday wall for the initials. Her plan apparently was to find the child, wait with them, and threaten the parents. Nut jobs are why nut rules are in nut place.

@kathyhayevsky4703

2 жыл бұрын

@@geminiwriter8875 this child's name is all over the video. But it's the mother who never uses it.

@geminiwriter8875

2 жыл бұрын

@@kathyhayevsky4703 this is the 1960s, I was giving you a modern option and showing parents went from undercaring to overbearing.

@natalie9884

2 жыл бұрын

@@geminiwriter8875 Yup Licensed k-12/special ed teacher k- 8 over here. Written a fair share of IEP's. Parenting/environment is huge on the development of a child....fu**ing obviously...but, neurology/brain structure is a large part of "dysfunction"/(abnormalities as well), too. Pardon poor grammar, as I am talking to text on the go..., obviously. I will say that in homacidal cases especially, when the *past tense* is used/not the names etc, that is a red flag for sure, as mentioned.

@KIWI-un8fs

2 жыл бұрын

@@natalie9884 well, the kid its aggro because his mother beat the sht up of him everytime he behaves like a child, he is just mimicking his own experience

This was me. I was very similar to Phillip. My parents didn't change, however. I found the love I needed from other caretakers. Babysitters, tutors, teachers, psychiatrists. I knew that I couldn't be all bad if at least some people who knew me well loved me.

@SKYCHICK__

26 күн бұрын

It wasn't that they didn't love you, they didn't understand you and felt like failures. People who feel like failures but lack coping skills often behave aggressively and/or distant from the child because they feel helpless. And helpless people develop apathy.

@mstina7346

24 күн бұрын

Sounds familiar. I was the black sheep and my mother seemed to not like me. As you say, if other people liked me I figured it must be my mom who had the problem. Still painful though.

@mstina7346

24 күн бұрын

@@SKYCHICK__good insight. Thanks!

@AMadd3RHatt3R

23 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing that. I am the warmth and love for my grandson. My daughter, his mother, is cold like this. He has no father around at all. I often wonder if all of the affection and care I give him will be enough. Your comment gives me hope.

@xerlon8111

15 күн бұрын

Good for you, I was taken from my destructive mother at the age of 8 and instantly put on medication the minute she left the hospital, been passed around my whole life since then, never attached to anyone. I'm turning 28 this year never worked & have no friends I did try for the past years and clawed my way threw my trauma with the help of social workers. Became more stable and able to live on my own for about a year now. Sadly I see no way of ever being a productive part in this society. At least I'm not bothering anyone and manage somehow. can't say the same about my siblings. People shouldn't be allowed to have children without a license IMO.

I love their soft low measured way of speaking in this era -much easier to listen too

I had a little boy at my school, who was overly aggressive and I told him since he was so much bigger he was like one of the teachers, and told him instead of hitting someone, to come to me, and tell me what was going on, and we could come up with ideas on how things could be better. It worked. Also he never wanted to clean up the class, so I would ask him where things went and he helped me put things away.

@meganwalker27

Жыл бұрын

Nicely done, nicely done.

@dodgyyoutuber9560

Жыл бұрын

Great tip!

@suzymaxwell8028

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant, thank goodness for natural and intelligent teachers like you 😢

@dawnoftherock

Жыл бұрын

Brilliant!

@JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate

Жыл бұрын

Using brainwashing methods is evil.

It broke my heart how quickly the boy calmed down when the therapist hugged him…. All he needed was empathy, kindness and patience but his parents and even teachers failed him :(

@robinluich6626

Жыл бұрын

When he looked at the doctor with excitement and " You love me!?"

@ssQ2U

Жыл бұрын

Yes

@I_Kan

Жыл бұрын

Which annoys me because the mother towards the beginning said "" He has everything he wants and needs "" its a Shame some parents fail to see the very thing the child needs is love, attention, kindness, empathy etc. She sometimes refers to the child as "" IT"" 🥺 hurt adults going on to have hurt children

@stephaniepiazzese2602

Жыл бұрын

Yes. They did.

@katrinakarena

Жыл бұрын

@@robinluich6626 glad you saw that too. How fast he looked at the doctor and asked “you love me?” So hungry for love.

A fine, patient Doctor, sure to have helped a lot of people in his career.

Philip said daddy hits mommy and mommy hits baby at the end. I think that was the real problem at home

@sandydee8003

3 сағат бұрын

@anastarbird2160 I heard that as well. that comment definitely got my attention.

My mum was very emotionally cold and everything was about her......I remember as a child a babysitter hugged me and showed me the first bit of affection I had ever experienced. I remember my sadness and how I clung to her when she had to leave. It made me realise what affection was. I remember the pain of her leaving was all consuming!

@derinok9833

2 жыл бұрын

Your mom might have had the same experience from her parents. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive and forget

@manifest4everything222

2 жыл бұрын

@@derinok9833 I'm not like that with my children though....you can change the pattern so if I can change why can't she?

@Bella-gj6wc

Жыл бұрын

I was married to a man like that. He worked two jobs to avoid the difficult job of raising our kids, and was highly critical, of the limits I set. He often let the kids out of punishments and the limits I set. I tried many years and once the kids were grown (which definitely felt like a prison term), I divorced him. My second husband was the exact opposite of my first husband! I was a full time step mum to two of his four kids. This experience was so enjoyable, I almost hated to see them grow up. So, I learned then, it wasn’t totally “me”, it was the lack of “us” that was the problem. Sadly, the people we love, sometimes ARE NOT the people we should have kids with. 😞

@georgiahernandez2423

Жыл бұрын

Yes . We’ll put . Mine was very course towards me . And I’d beg her to not go to work but I know she had to . I lived with her but I didn’t see her much . I stay with my grandparents a lot . And I love them all to this day but I strive to be more like my Nana . She was a sweet soul and made sure we had grocerys . She was my fathers mom . He was in prison his whole life so she and my granddaddy tried to make up for his absence . My father was adopted . And I’m so thankful he was ♥️

@vickilawrence7207

Жыл бұрын

Me too. I didn't know how to act on rare occasions when anyone showed any affection..i was NEVER hugged or told i love u! Never heard my mother say it & when i told my dad once that i loved him his response was.."i know" ! 😂😅😂! Unbelievable! No hugging, or ur amazing, talented, pretty (&i was very pretty once i hit about 17) nothing at all to validate me as a worthy human being..needless to say i had a lot of problems growing up..

I recognize the chilly aloof mom...just like mine, and so hard to heal from. I'm 62 and still scarred

@juliz2500

2 ай бұрын

She looks hurt and desperate to me.

@ 3:18 "You love me?" That innocent little face...my heart absolutely sank 🥺💔 It's obvious that what he's lacking is affection, and protection. Wrap your arms lovingly around your children, they are the most precious jewels you will ever have.

That was very telling when he was worried about getting paint on his hands and said “uh oh, I’m afraid, cause mommy’s gonna give me a hit”. then right after he says “the mother is going after the baby, she’s gonna spank the baby” then says “the father is going to spank the mother, then the mother is going to spank the baby”. A cold household where everyone tries to impose their dominance over the weaker members. No wonder the boy is aggressive. He has to be when the whole family dynamic is based on a power struggle. The weak get spanked. Then submits to the aggressor. That’s how you get what you want. The poor boy didn’t invent that. He learned it from his empathetically bankrupt parents.

@seeker8097

2 жыл бұрын

No doubt the parents were raised by emotionally bankrupt parents themselves, just as their parents before them. It’s an abusive cycle.

@I_Kan

Жыл бұрын

No wonder why the little boy had so much aggression because he was shown that by his mother. Alongside no love and healthy attention

@WindTurbineSyndrome

Жыл бұрын

Families often used corporal punishment it was much more common than today. Getting that child help for his behavior probably saved that kid.

@moniqueengleman873

Жыл бұрын

@@seeker8097 Yes.... Oh as we live, we learn. Or supposed to anyway. My parents were never parented. But they did a decent job considering. I have found so much compassion for people now.

@donnajarvis9542

Жыл бұрын

What a compassionate therapist.

The psychologist was using collaborative problem solving! That's an excellent technique for oppositional and violent children. He was ahead of the time.

@honeybunch5765

2 жыл бұрын

I dont think he was ahead of the times, these types of treatments have been coming on way longer than we realise.

@Beckysinlondon

2 жыл бұрын

I thought he was brilliant - a natural at it.

@Optim40

2 жыл бұрын

@@Beckysinlondon Yea I think so too.

@DR-nh6oo

2 жыл бұрын

That is an excellent technique for about anything one can think of.

@meowlodiculous

2 жыл бұрын

What does collaborative problem solving mean?

He had more calm and love from the doctor in that hour, than from his trauma inducing family. Poor little guy. 😢

This sweet boy. He is so obviously neurodiverse, there’s nothing wrong with him other than a lack of love and acceptance. And this doctor, my God, what an extraordinary physician. A doctor with this wisdom and innate understanding during this time period was so rare, what a fantastic person living his Hippocratic oath. I am so grateful that in our modern age we have a better understanding of this. This doctor’s approach is the common and accepted approach.

@azimuth5620

Ай бұрын

how does lack of love and acceptance cause neurodivergence? Or are you speculating?

@atablevendetta1429

28 күн бұрын

@@azimuth5620 I believe they are saying that he needs love, as well as acceptance of his potential neurodivergence, to solve his behavioral issues

@Wretched90

26 күн бұрын

Neurodiversity comes after the trauma

@nica900

13 күн бұрын

Yes I agree, as a parent of a neurodiverse child and also 2 partners in my life, it's so obvious to me. But alot of people don't understand it so they will put their uneducated 2 cents worth in. People also need to understand this mother had 6 years of being expected to conform to a stereotype of a parent which was impossible for her to achieve. Fortunately now if you understand neurodiversity you know that punishment is futile, and love and understanding can do amazing things.

@lorenzasammut9377

11 күн бұрын

​@@azimuth5620Hai ragione, neurodiversi si nasce e non si diventa! E le cause sono ad oggi sconosciute...gli scienziati di tutto il mondo stanno tuttora studiando le possibili cause della neurodiversita'. Saluti dalla mamma di un bambino con sindrome di Asperger (autismo di livello 1).

"Daddy hits the mummy, and then mummy hits the baby"... Ouch, my heart! 💔

@marilyncantrell4954

8 ай бұрын

😥 yes

@angelafeldman5903

8 ай бұрын

​@marilyncantrell4954, and then the baby grows up, and the cycle repeats itself.😮

@lizardking5210

8 ай бұрын

PAIN

It dawned on me that the mom says the dad is European. This is 1960. Which means this precious little boy had one parent coping with the trauma of growing up during WWII. My husband's grandmother lived through the Battle of Berlin. My mother in law was raised in a very abusive, emotionally cold, distant, household. A traumatic household in its own way because of what her mother lived through and never got help for. I just imagine that must have played at least some significant role. Never underestimate generational trauma.

@pommiebears

8 ай бұрын

Well, that would be all of my great grandparents and grandparents. My grandmother was evacuated from London during the Blitz. My grandad was in the Royal Navy. They weren’t cold and horrible!

@philima

8 ай бұрын

​@@pommiebearsit depends on the people but generally speaking, times were insane and abuse pretty normalized, sadly. It's a whole generational trauma thing.

@theodorcosminvoicu9240

8 ай бұрын

Philima, I tend to consider it depended on the family. Different families , different stories.

@KatAdVictoriam

8 ай бұрын

@@pommiebears I didn't speak for all of the survivors of WWII. My grandparents were in the USA, were well off in adulthood and my maternal grandmother had 6 kids that raised themselves essentially because her career and social life came first. She was just selfish, no trauma. Some people who go through actual warfare trauma might become emotionally stunted at the age they were damaged, thus having Children of their own... They're unable to connect to them in a mature, nurturing manner you'd expect from a stable adult.

@KatAdVictoriam

8 ай бұрын

@@philima Right! You didn't have the widespread understanding of trauma and abuse we have today. Your average person didn't get therapy. So trauma and abuse got passed on, sadly.

Phillip completely changed when the doctor started holding him. He just wanted to be loved like the sweet baby he is

He has everything a child would want. Oh 😮 does he have love, affection, and compassion? Where ?

One of the best templates for raising kids: If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn. If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight. If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy. If a child lives with shame, he learns to feel guilty. If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient. If a child lives with encouragement, he learns confidence. If a child lives with praise, he learns to appreciate. If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice. If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith. If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself. If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world.

@humajilani888

7 ай бұрын

Agree.

@garyakirsch

7 ай бұрын

If I had to bet on who has that brat figured, I would bet on you! How did this 1960's story end? Serial killer?

@jackripper5270

6 ай бұрын

Needs to lose a fight... that's all. This is normal boy behavior to an extent.

@ElwynnForest

6 ай бұрын

What’s the difference between ridicule and shame?

@modzpdx559

6 ай бұрын

This is all common knowledge but everyone is different. This isnt accurate all the time.

You can tell the Mother was raised in a very strict family, poor woman is lost. I’m happy to hear her admit that what she’s doing doesn’t work.

@victorhugo3952

5 ай бұрын

The type of woman that shouldn't have reproduced, but at least her offspring was used as a lab rat so that we could acquire knowledge

@faustopacheco120

5 ай бұрын

You can tell she's a single mother.

@gamesahsv862

5 ай бұрын

​@@faustopacheco120 she isn't single mother, it's common situation where parent don't know how to raise a child becauce they are busy

@VITAS874

5 ай бұрын

​@@gamesahsv862true. Even they lie to itself...

@beaglemanzzz

4 ай бұрын

She seems like a stereotypical WASP

Hurt people, hurt people. He knows his mum & dad love him and they beat him (the mum's words) so he shows affection to other children in the same way.

“You love me?” The way he responded with the word “love”, he responded like he doesn’t hear it often…

His face when he said, "you love me?" OMG 😮😥😥😥🙏🙏

@karaamundson3964

2 жыл бұрын

The lightning moment

@Sara-dp5dg

2 жыл бұрын

If I was that therapist I would have taken him home immediately 🥺

@iknowwhatimtalkingabout

2 жыл бұрын

I just want to give him a big hug.

@simplecommentify

2 жыл бұрын

I struck seeing his action. He wanted to be loved.

@biskjsk2513

2 жыл бұрын

Where is this part

I feel like his mother deep down cares. I mean she agreed to seek help. That’s a start. I see her smiling as she was watching her son play. Parenting is not easy. I hope she got the help she and her son need. And hopefully her marriage as well.

@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre

2 жыл бұрын

I'd argue the evidence you give supports the idea of the mother caring about her appearance. When she was smiling, it looked like relief that the kid saw the parents as loving and showed people that. Did she care? I think so. Was she more selfish than caring? I can definitely see it being possible. Was she more focused on herself when she was under stress? After the kids description of the birds he painted, I'd say likely. Is there a second appearance of the blobfish? Yep 25:54

@helenacorreia7613

2 жыл бұрын

@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre Selfish or not selfish, self focused or self conscious, what matters is that the channel she has with the child works such as providing love, assertive communication, limits, etc.

@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre

2 жыл бұрын

@@helenacorreia7613 agreed

@rubydazzler

2 жыл бұрын

She was probably treated the same way by her parents. Very sad.

@robinluich6626

Жыл бұрын

Every child is an individual. It was an era when children were corrected.

This dr and all involved with helping are outstanding spot on . Such love , patience and smarts

What a child WANTS and what a child NEEDS are two very different entities

Sitting in her Kindergarten class with a smoke in hand......Classic😂

@iselaRodriguez-xf5vr

3 ай бұрын

It was so normal back in the day 😂. She wasn’t tryna hide it either it’s so funny and weird how Normal it was back in the day . Knowing she could smoke at work is crazy

@kateashby3066

3 ай бұрын

I used to work at Trader Joe’s and my boss told me about how the checkout all used to have burn marks on them from employees placing their cigarettes down to bag the groceries (back in the day) 😂. Times have sure changed!

@stephenpmurphy591

3 ай бұрын

Oh yes, vaping is so much more healthy & lovely.

@Teufer2

3 ай бұрын

@@stephenpmurphy591 Vaping wouldn't be allowed in Kindergarten either.

@user-yw2pr5xw7d

3 ай бұрын

​@@stephenpmurphy591не курите всякую дрянь.

That therapist was absolutely amazing. I hope Phillip grew up to have a good life ❤

@shawnaclarkson9401

8 ай бұрын

That's what I'm wondering, how he is now , I mean I respect their privacy but I'd love good news

@mochiraka6579

8 ай бұрын

@@shawnaclarkson9401 same! he is probably out there living his life, and even the mother could be still.

@SDU2023

8 ай бұрын

He sat waaay too close.

@bobbyd6680

8 ай бұрын

@@shawnaclarkson9401 Me murdered his mother in 1975.

@amandahendrix8533

8 ай бұрын

@@bobbyd6680 what?! No way! How did you find this out? Or are you joking?

This is the kind of psychiatrist we need today. Not one, to quickly push meds, to be understood.

@MP-mo4ys

23 күн бұрын

Yeah, or trying to change your gender.

I would love to see Phillip now…. Interesting what kind of adult he had grown into

@user-ye2ge4zo5lhennypenny

Ай бұрын

Hi that's what I was thinking

@TheSaltyEgo

24 күн бұрын

After such an edgy mother, Phillip Went on to have the most successful razor company., Phillips Razor's.😏

@user-ye2ge4zo5lhennypenny

24 күн бұрын

@@TheSaltyEgo Wow 👌 thankyou so much for this information!

@kerllyperez4566

13 күн бұрын

​@@TheSaltyEgoReally?

@elizstinebarcelos1651

6 күн бұрын

Me too

Referring to your own child as “This child” “the child” “a child” is heartbreaking. She has disassociated herself with him, most likely long before his misbehavior.

@cecileroy557

8 ай бұрын

I had twin boys. One of them sometimes drove me crazy but we always had fun and he always felt loved. I don't think the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fits in this instance. That being said, at that time children often got spanked and sent to bed without dinner. I was brought up that way but broke the cycle with my sons.

@shamteal8614

8 ай бұрын

Yes I noticed the 'this child' 'the child etc. Putting a distance between her and her son who therefore became an object to be controlled rather than a son to be loved.

@matthews852

8 ай бұрын

It was the 60s. Things were different. Parents were stricter and more detached. Good parenting back then was considered making sure your children were fed, clothed, and educated. A whole generation grew up like this.

@shamteal8614

8 ай бұрын

@@matthews852 And you think parenting is better nowadays. It's easy to make generalisations, my parents weren't overly strict and I'm pretty sure none of my friends parents were either. The woman in this film came across as cold and it seemed from what she said her husband was much the same.

@matthews852

8 ай бұрын

@@shamteal8614 It’s not a generalization. It’s based on a study conducted by California-Irvine, and the evolution of accepted discipline between the 1960s and today. Also the amount of time parents spend with their children has increased on average from 54 minutes a day in 1965, to 102 mins by 2012. I’m giving you facts. You gave us an anecdote about your friends.

What a surprisingly sweet doctor for the time period, very well educated and gentle but mature approach with the child. Would've loved a doctor to talk to me the way he did, when I was the childs age.

@SerpentinePleasure

8 ай бұрын

That's some solid training and understanding of psychoanalysis and relational therapy ❤

@EphemeralProductions

8 ай бұрын

There's always been sweet doctors that cared and knew what they were doin. (In all medical fields) Problem is they're the exception to the rule. And there has to be the luck of the people needing their particular style of caring and relating actually finding them.

@SilentAttackTV

8 ай бұрын

He almost seems like a time-traveler, he's so wise and empathetic.

@bobbyd6680

8 ай бұрын

When I was 11 years old, I was seeing a psychiatrist, had toys, there were other kids there also. I went through all kinds of hearing testing. I recall the doctor and staff all very nice and caring. This would have been about 1963. Of course, I only realized what was going on later in my teens after asking my mother about it. I wasn't an aggressive student as here, but I was acting out in class and under performing in spite having high scores on intelligence test for the time. Turns out it was due to my relationship with my father. He got involved and apparently all worked out for the better.

@KarmasBite

8 ай бұрын

@@bobbyd6680 That is a super interesting story! Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad it worked out well for you!

He calmed and looked happy when hugged from the physiologist. If love cannot fix something, nothing else will.

I am going TO CRY .....AFTER THE DOCTOR SAID HE LOVED HIM ......THE EYE CONTACT .....

@rachelpayne8497

12 күн бұрын

That’s very sad and also disgusting at the same time

@KainsFleshlight

12 күн бұрын

@@rachelpayne8497 it is very sad .....and I think I know what you mean ..like disgusting as in..imagine if the doctor was being a perv and how simply this kid could prob be groomed ?

This Dr. way ahead of his time. He understood more than most of his time. He was compassionate and wasn't harsh with the little boy here.

@duhsunnyday8590

2 ай бұрын

He understands more than those now

@coppersulphate002

2 ай бұрын

That's the normal way to be

@cassandrakemara8755

Ай бұрын

​@@coppersulphate002 not then it wasnt

When the doctor held him, and was rocking him. Philip was so happy and content. He was feeling love and compassion. Honestly so touching.

@orafranc

3 ай бұрын

he really did calm down after that.

@phillippereira6468

3 ай бұрын

Yup.. The parent was the problem

@taraalan1131

3 ай бұрын

@@phillippereira6468He felt that the father got the show of warmth and affection , that he craved, She could show it to her husband, but not to her child.

@alh1863

3 ай бұрын

I think this boy wil be a good man, he has to much energy doest know what to do with it. I see these children are sometimes agressieve but that comes that people and other children become always angry at such childeren till now you see they are most atta. by other children or adults who cant handle the way those children act. Then you see someone intelligent and nice comes and take time to talk in a smart way with them or love to play with them you see them become like a totally different child a happy and quit child . You see it when the dr hold him he is just happy and play like most childeren.

@flipptom

2 ай бұрын

Thank you for spelling Philip correctly!

That mother is so cold, its no wonder her kid was like that

When we adopted our son at 3 1/2, he was full of aggressiveness and hyperactivity. He would hit our other children just to get what he wanted. We did a lot of holding and praying. It took time, but he truly transformed. When he was older we changed his diet to a gluten free one. We never did meds with him. I was told by one psychologist that he was one of the most well adjusted adopted children she had seen. Glory to God! It’s not easy, but love and attention are so essential for every child.

The therapist is very good. I don’t think the mother really enjoys being a mother which is at the root of his misbehavior. His misbehavior functions as a way to keep his mother involved with him.

@shelleyoxenhorn833

2 жыл бұрын

Mother is focused on herself: "there's something that makes you feel like a failure." Bad behavior may be an attempt to get mother to focus on the child.

@melgrl8858

2 жыл бұрын

And what about the father ?

@LeventeCzelnai

2 жыл бұрын

@@shelleyoxenhorn833 well, if it were the only "project" in your life and it failed, you would feel similar as her. and if on top of that she had inferiority complex, than it makes even more sense.

@nadjak3410

2 жыл бұрын

@@shelleyoxenhorn833 I know it's easy to look down upon her but has anything changed today? Mothers are still under enormous pressure and I know a lot of them who routinely ask themselves those self-centered questions of "Do people think I'm a bad mother and a failure?" despite having their kids best interest at heart. It's hard to shun other people's opinions when it comes to emotionally loaded topics of family and raising children.

@Kshipss

2 жыл бұрын

Well it shouldn't be her burden. Where is the father?

I have always said “ many parents are the worst bullies to their own kids” it leaves so many emotional scars that many times take a life of healing 😟

@kingy002

7 ай бұрын

Not everyone gets healed!

@humajilani888

7 ай бұрын

And sometimes it doesn't go healed

@peach7210

5 ай бұрын

And, for many, it's a healing that never comes.

@TCTALKSTCFITNESS

5 ай бұрын

🤒💯🤕

@IfoundTheAvocados11

4 ай бұрын

So true! I've spent a boatload of money on therapy to try to undo my childhood. It's been money well spent. My parents were the worst bullies. I wouldn't treat an enemy the way they treated me and my sisters. Horrific things went on behind closed doors. It is stopping with me, though. The generational trauma ends here. Too bad I'm too scarred to want children 😂 🙃.

This child lives in an abusive home and is admitting all the physical and emotional abuse happening

This therapist was probably the best dad ever. When he rocked the boy in his arms my heart melted. 🥹

@RikkiTheFool

9 ай бұрын

The Doctor turnt out to be a child 💀 PREDATOR

@americasmomloveeveryonenoe7517

9 ай бұрын

Proof?

@loonylinda

9 ай бұрын

@@RikkiTheFool did he?..how do you know that?

@pablobrad100

9 ай бұрын

@@loonylinda Ignore that clown

@kcrot2566

8 ай бұрын

I have worked in early childhood education for 40 years and the look on a child’s face at 4 years old when you say you are a clever kind ,good boy is priceless. It like they have never heard these words before heartbreaking

1964 -one aggressive child in one class. 2024 - at least one aggressive child in every class.

@fabiennejauncey9746

24 күн бұрын

There’s more than that now 2024 , with all the autistic children , the ADHD children and the Trans children and the children who identify as animals in the same class !! So it’s much much worse now . Teachers aren’t allowed to discipline anyone, if one child throws a tantrum or has a violent episode, the teachers have to vacate the class with all the other kids , leaving the problem child alone in class until he comes down . Hence disrupting the whole class curriculum , for all the other children. The Minority seems to control the majority !! This isn’t normal snd it shows , as our children are awfully behind in academia , no writing skill , no reading skills , their knowledge has been dictated by the disruptive few !!! Doesn’t happen in private schools . But not EVERYONE can afford private school . Time to stop mixing the disruptive children with children who want to learn . Separate classes , and different teachers ! The Majority of regular kids are suffering bc the minority call the shots . Not acceptable!

Look how that little boys aggression melted once he got a hug and told he was loved .. the mother also recognised where she was going wrong and got the help she needed 👏🏾

@deenad3562

8 ай бұрын

Its not just a hug but a hug from a Man. He wants Real attention from his Father, not just the dismissive attention he gets by quickly getting his way.

@delishme2

8 ай бұрын

​@@deenad3562 Take your blinders off. This wasn't all about the boys father, in fact as a primary caregiver his relationship with his mother was likely more important at that moment.

@theresawolford9000

8 ай бұрын

​@@delishme2Nobody said it was ALL ABOUT THE FATHER. SMH

@delishme2

8 ай бұрын

@@theresawolford9000 Are you mentally challenged ? Read the comment above mine. 🙄

@mrgringo7289

7 ай бұрын

And sedation lol...

The "you love me?" Broke my heart. 😭

@serendavies7375

2 жыл бұрын

😭 Me too, honey :(

@marinavasquez8813

2 жыл бұрын

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@karilynn8825

2 жыл бұрын

Poor thing. Hope he found the love he needed. He stopped what he was doing and questioned the doctor. Sad moment

@mariacazares80

2 жыл бұрын

HEARTBREAKING 💔 I HOPE HE GOT ALL THE LOVE HE DESERVES 🌻

The boy had never been told “I love you”….EVERY psychopath or murderer has had a tumultuous relationship with their mom….NOT ENOUGH LOVE…..I will never forget psychology class & everything it taught me…..you can really mess a child up when they are small by not showing love, abandonment, shaming….its deeply rooted in all of us…IF we experienced any of those negative emotions & feelings at such a young age…..has life long effects…..you can literally make or break someone just based off childhood trauma or lack there of…..😢 kids who didn’t have trauma flourish in life…..visa versa 😢

There are dozens of these kids in all schools these days. With far more violent tendencies and anxiety. This kid was an angel compared to some kids I've worked with.

The moment the therapist said he loved him, something magical happened: He started getting through to the child. The child began to listen and to learn. Amazing.

Let's give the mother credit for her humility and willingness to take responsibility and her commitment to do anything for the boy's future.

@Ingi-Natura-Renovatur-Integra

3 ай бұрын

She's projecting her past on the boys present. It'll impact his future. You're clueless. Please don't have kids yet.

@rakrega

3 ай бұрын

⁠I don’t think the mother asked for help voluntarily. I think she was ‘forced’ to accept any help, because otherwise Philipe would’ve been expelled from school. For sure she ‘s not the type who would be cheerful about that outcome. Home schooling Philipe or sending him to a special school would only made her feel more like a loser. My guess, she just had to take the advice of his teachers.

@scottblack7182

3 ай бұрын

I have a feeling what she should have done for his future was leave her husband .

@HonestlyHolistic

2 ай бұрын

To me it seemed like it was very painful for her to even admit

@ms.gordon3802

2 ай бұрын

Let’s also wonder why the father isn’t there to take any responsibility. It’s sad how the parent that shows up is the one that’s solely blamed.

The change was tremendous and beautiful. The boy became a different person. In touch with his emotions, more calm.. it's just so moving. That's the power of love! 🙏

@foo_tube

18 күн бұрын

The teacher with the cigarette did mention that they used sedation on them

To the father, his wife is his own mother, and he's vicariously punishing her for lack of attention and love. Deeply disturbing on multiple levels

People are saying the mom is closed and cold. Buts she’s open and honest and she’s willing to participate in all of this. Such a good episode. I think she just didn’t know better.

@Bowie_E

8 ай бұрын

That's a really good way of seeing things and I'm glad you pointed this out.

@sharontinsen334

8 ай бұрын

I agree, she was trying and trying to learn to correct behaviors. Not one sign of the dad trying here.

@MD-gw4rk

8 ай бұрын

Well, here's what's going on and it happens today, It's domestic violence, the father is beating the wife. The child is showing that the alligator is his father, he's showing how dad loves on mom but turns into a beast. The child wants love from the father ...the doctor is what the child wants because he affectionate, the mother is angry at the father and taking it out on the child because she sees the father in the boy.

@SpicyGramCracker

8 ай бұрын

She’s very vulnerable. And clearly never felt safe herself as a child.

@MD-gw4rk

8 ай бұрын

@@SpicyGramCracker That child is going to grow up beating on his own wife. The father is not present in this scenario, where's the father?? He's absent. This is a good example of why children need a loving FATHER in the home. If we can recognize domestic violence, we can stop the cycle of it. BUT the cycle continues til this day.

His mother is emotionally distant from her child, so he fights other kids and disobeys authority to get attention since he's getting little from his parents. Hence, the curious interest on his face when he asks the doctor, "do you love me?"

@jillianlea9690

Жыл бұрын

That is what they want you to believe . ..that was the faulty idea of psychology at that time ...but I'm sure she feels on gaurd with all these men . Her child is special needs .

@VioletJoy

Жыл бұрын

​@@jillianlea9690I can't make sense of your comment.

@VioletJoy

Жыл бұрын

His little face when he asked if the therapist loved him. 💔😥💔 He clearly was not getting his emotional needs met at home. His mother is cold as ice.

@HollyMurphy3

8 ай бұрын

@@VioletJoybecause her husband was unsupportive and boys are more difficult. Stop blaming women.

@VioletJoy

8 ай бұрын

@@HollyMurphy3 It's simply not true that boys are more difficult. He wasn't getting his needs met from either parent. Your bias toward women is showing. This is about the child, not the mother being a victim.

That kid comes off as highly intelligent. It's as if he's just missing a different kind of mentor to guide him.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” (Proverbs 15:1, TNIV)

This therapist is so amazing, especially for the 60s. He's so sweet with "the child". The mother was just like my mother. No love, no affection, only screaming and abuse. I thought every family was like this 😢

@wingnut71

8 ай бұрын

Sorry to hear that you felt unloved. My folks were a bit like that too, no hugs ever. They were good parents in other ways but lacking in affection. Even now at 82 years old if try to hug them they tense up and get embarrassed. Grandparents were the same. I mean I knew they loved us kids, but they just never said it or showed it. I remember one day my Aunt (not a blood relative) hugged me for some reason. I kinda just froze and thought "this is weird" but maybe that was because I never really liked her that much. Anyway, I try to do better with my daughters because I realise now how important it is for kids to know they are loved.

@BlackJack-sx1jw

8 ай бұрын

I don’t know. I have to say the therapist kind of creeped me out. He kept invading the boy’s personal space and getting way too close. I think the boy probably suffered from ADHD.

@theodorcosminvoicu9240

8 ай бұрын

Similar , in a way, but we can't blame them as they didn't have when they were babies!

@ZosiaSamosiaOo

8 ай бұрын

I thought that's the way they spoke at the time. I actually thought the mother was a good mother for seeking help and taking advice so well. The therapist is brilliant, I wonder who he was.

@BlackJack-sx1jw

8 ай бұрын

@@ZosiaSamosiaOo Actors, I’m thinking.

All that little boy needs is someone to hug him and tell him they love him.The way he reacted when the the therapist said he loved him.smh he acted surprised that anyone could love him.The problem Was the parents not the child

@sakuranovaryan9261

2 жыл бұрын

I imagine no one ever said that to him...I feel so sorry

@onthesecondhand3551

2 жыл бұрын

Finally someone says "parents" not mother only!

@WhisperedDelightsASMR

2 жыл бұрын

And the way he calmed down after being held… I have no idea how this was recommended to me but I’m glad it was. Very interesting.

That couple should never have had a child. That child is starved of affection - when the doctor said ‘I love you’ his little face lights up. Broke my heart.

Parents and child are very natural actors.

This 60s psychologist is 100 years ahead of these so called modern psychologists.

@faithskoczylas6492

2 жыл бұрын

I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with this. I’m very curious as to why you think that?

@farangisehsani592

2 жыл бұрын

Many people become psychologists with out any love, or understanding of it. but this doctor is so keen and obviously loving what he does.

@Slazerable

2 жыл бұрын

Also I believe there is too much pressure for easy solutions. Might not be the modern psychiatrist's issue.

@faithskoczylas6492

2 жыл бұрын

@@farangisehsani592 Yes I definitely agree with this, as an aspiring child psychiatrist myself :)

@gracelessnesss

Жыл бұрын

Just for clarification, he is not a psychologist. He is a psychiatrist. Psychologists get doctorates in the science of psychology to become therapists. Psychiatrists are physicians who go to medical school and then concentrate in the treatment of mental disorders through medication alongside therapy. This difference could also be why you're impressed with him, he has had much more extensive training than a psychologist.

I just love that little boy's therapist. He is so sensitive, and so helpful for this child. I do hope that these sessions help him so as he grows, he is able to leave this behind.

@mariagonzalez4136

2 жыл бұрын

That little boy is about 61 years old if he is still alive.

@CrystalM1917

Жыл бұрын

Lol

@dawndoliber2663

Жыл бұрын

He is in prison now.

@orientacionvocacionalyestudios

Жыл бұрын

@@dawndoliber2663 que eres malo jajaja

@ntal5859

Жыл бұрын

@@dawndoliber2663 Running cell block D and has all his bitches in a row so he can punch them for getting ink on their hands, mind you his cell block is the cleanest in the whole prison system.

What a perceptive doctor. Phillip, I hope things got better for you.

Such a great study of this family…..brilliant.

The way one speaks to a child, becomes their inner voice.

@juliwang3751

2 ай бұрын

Very profound observation. I never thought of that.

@andreya9776

2 ай бұрын

Wow!

@janiceannecle8965

2 ай бұрын

That's so very true ....It took me decades to realise that it was my mother's voice in my head, always disapproving of me.

Man that psychiatrist immediately identified the mother as the problem and started working on her

@MargaritaMagdalena

6 ай бұрын

I wish someone had identified my paranoid schizophrenic mom as the problem when I was growing up. But they just focused on me.

@Byp-hh9vc

6 ай бұрын

The mother is the “problem”. How typical. Always blame women. WHERE is the father? HE is the problem the shrink can’t access, so blame the mother is the go to solution.

@MargaritaMagdalena

6 ай бұрын

@@Byp-hh9vc Good point.

@MathGPT

6 ай бұрын

@@Byp-hh9vc well back then fathers basically weren’t involved in their sons lives you need to understand the era

@FearfulMutt

6 ай бұрын

@@MathGPTWhich I think proves that person’s comment even further. Having a parent at home who is very little involved in their life as a child, can make children act out and do “bad” things for the attention of the parent neglecting them. Kids know doing something bad will always get a reaction and attention. It’s sad that some kids feel disconnected from a parent to turn to being violent and/or a bully.

Lots and lots of hugs are needed. An obvious cry for love and attention.

This doctor is so kind and affectionate; so gentle with this angry little boy. This was so touching. It’s clear Phillip is missing out on basic affection and gentle loving and tender care. So sad!

@michaelfornell4467

7 ай бұрын

That wa very disturbing. That guy was way to close ti that little boy. He's definitely a perv.

@user-dw2xu2pf7w

7 ай бұрын

@@michaelfornell4467 Did you miss the entire point of the video?? The child was missing affection so he addressed that issue perfectly and helped him. I hope you don't have any children because they will turn out just like Philippe. A man showing affection to a child is perverted??? You're an imbecile.

@highmay3590

7 ай бұрын

@@michaelfornell4467why is hugging and holding a young child inherently sexual? He didn’t have a healthy experience of parental love, so it seems like the psych was trying to show by example what love feels like. children NEED to be held and loved for neurological development.

@springsummerwinterorfall

7 ай бұрын

He gets paid to be gentle and affectionate it’s part of the manipulative. Actions with the doctor is taking.

@angelemeana2754

7 ай бұрын

Please don’t make sexual jokes or advances or swear God wouldn’t like that and there are children here May God bless you and your family and help you Give your life to Jesus Christ and repent. I pray that God will lead on the path to Jesus Christ and send the Holy Spirit to be your helper. I pray this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ I pray Amen! Jesus Christ loves you. Give your life to Jesus Christ and ask for forgiveness for ALL OF YOUR SINS. Even the ones committed in the past and repent. He’s coming soon. Please pray and repent. GOD IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!!! THE BEGINNING AND THE END!!! GOD SENT HIS SON DOWN TO DIE ON THE CROSS FOR OUR SINS. PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM!!! PRAY AND REPENT AND GOD IS COMING!!!!!! THERE IS NO TIME. FELLOW CHRISTIANS GOD WILL BE COMING DON’T LOSE FAITH!!! PLEASE!! PRAY FOR STRENGTH AND DON’T DOUBT HIM!!! Romans 10:9 “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.” Romans 10:10 “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” 2 Peter 3:1-18 “1 This second epistle, beloved, I now write unto you; in both which I stir up your pure minds by way of remembrance: 2 That ye may be mindful of the words which were spoken before by the holy prophets, and of the commandment of us the apostles of the Lord and Saviour: 3 Knowing this first, that there shall come in the last days scoffers, walking after their own lusts, 4 And saying, Where is the promise of his coming? for since the fathers fell asleep, all things continue as they were from the beginning of the creation. 5 For this they willingly are ignorant of, that by the word of God the heavens were of old, and the earth standing out of the water and in the water: 6 Whereby the world that then was, being overflowed with water, perished: 7 But the heavens and the earth, which are now, by the same word are kept in store, reserved unto fire against the day of judgment and perdition of ungodly men. 8 But, beloved, be not ignorant of this one thing, that one day is with the Lord as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. 9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 10 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 11 Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, 12 Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? 13 Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness. 14 Wherefore, beloved, seeing that ye look for such things, be diligent that ye may be found of him in peace, without spot, and blameless. 15 And account that the longsuffering of our Lord is salvation; even as our beloved brother Paul also according to the wisdom given unto him hath written unto you; 16 As also in all his epistles, speaking in them of these things; in which are some things hard to be understood, which they that are unlearned and unstable wrest, as they do also the other scriptures, unto their own destruction. 17 Ye therefore, beloved, seeing ye know these things before, beware lest ye also, being led away with the error of the wicked, fall from your own stedfastness. GOD JESUS CHRIST AND THE HY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA!! 18 But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen.” GOD, JESUS CHRIST, AND THE HOLY SPIRIT IS ALPHA AND OMEGA.l

Heartbreaking to hear the parents would punish him for feeling sad, when he is only feeling sad because the parents are fighting

The genuine and humane care this doctor has for the boy and to finding the real deeper issue through human interaction, love, affection, soft talking, understanding, is probably the my most genuine compassionate thing I have ever witnessed, he didnt need aderall or any other mind altering medication, but just basic human /mommy, daddy's love and affection and understanding beautifully done bravo ti the doctor i hooe the mother understood what needed to be done. Love cures all ❤

Wow! This doctor is awesome. I too grew up in the 1950s and 1960s. We lived in a rather well off neighborhood with lots of competition between families. My sister and I were expected to be "practically perfect in every way." We both suffered parental judgement and corporal punishment as did many children in the 1950s. Luckily after I grew up and moved away, I found friends and eventually a husband who accepted and loved me for me. But the mother really is beautiful for the 1960s.

We owned our own preschool for 45 years. Each child was given a warm hug when entering their classroom each morning. Hugs were always welcome throughout the day.

@katrinaglanville3612

8 ай бұрын

that sounds so lovely! You aren't even allowed to comfort a hurt child today - it is heartbreaking.

@nanipanini

8 ай бұрын

why on earth wouldnt you be allowed to comfort a hurt child today?@@katrinaglanville3612

@DSDaly

8 ай бұрын

​@@katrinaglanville3612at my kids' school they are absolutely allowed to comfort them. it's a small private school though. My oldest just started public school so I'm not sure of the difference yet. I'm sure they are allowed to offer some comfort. Maybe not physical (I'm not sure) but definitely with words.

@user-oo8ei4lj6s

8 ай бұрын

Today the child enters, the teachers not even greeting.

@katrinaglanville3612

8 ай бұрын

are you in the UK? A friend of mine who ran a nursery for 40 years, told me recently how things used to be.They could kiss children's knees better, if they had a fall but not anymore! If a child needs a plaster put on, they have to phone a parent for permission!@@DSDaly

This doctor is brilliant for today as much as 1960.

@kronos4eva

5 ай бұрын

That's a sad at stupid reply as the father was clearly molesting the child , Duh.

@brookelynnpaige7828

3 ай бұрын

​@kronos4eva what makes you think He was molested?

Some people are not suited to be parents and some children are just very difficult.

I love these old black & white training videos. Just saw this pop up in my YT

The mother seems cold and detached. Calling her own son "the child" is a major red flag.

@Alfred5555

Жыл бұрын

She sounded British to me, if this is the case, her phrase "the child" could just be a typical sarcastic tone. It is entirely normal and comical in Britain when speaking to children, say when they're being cheeky but playful, to start referring to them as "child", replying to their taunts with phrases such as "listen here child". It's a sarcastic way of joking about how in the situation they may of gotten the psychological upper hand, with a witty comment or joke, but that by reverting to a luddite style of speaking in nouns rather than proper verbiage, I am as an adult congratulating them admitting they have gotten the upper hand and made me look a fool, but that if we strip away our civilised façade I am the older, bigger, stronger participant and can with authority overrule them, that their quick wit wont save them from the natural order, and that while they've done well to master their sarcasm, they should respect their elders when employing it. The same thought process is on display but in a more matured stage, when the younger would use the phrase "old man" when speaking to someone who is old age and past it, but has similarly taunted them with a sarcastic remark.

@alexxxO_O

Жыл бұрын

@@Alfred5555 foolish comment

@norahfitzcharles1957

Жыл бұрын

She is the parent who sought help- she owned up to her failures. Blaming the mother is a very simplistic approach to complicated family dynamics.

@Don.tKillTheMessanger

Жыл бұрын

@Norah Fitzcharles I'm not "blaming" her for anything. Like all things in life, the back story is complex. I was merely making an observation. After all, she is the only person there. If I could observe the father, no doubt I'd be critical of him also.

@THEHORSELOVER235

Жыл бұрын

Disassociation, probably suffer from some sort of trauma and abuse.